Sermon
Psalm 131
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It's good to see you guys this. Is one of my favorite Psalms.
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It is not one of my favorite songs because it naturally fits
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my tone and temperament. Or my pre-existing.
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Passions or biases? It's my favorite.
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Psalm because it cuts exactly. In the opposite direction of the
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natural. Grain in my heart.
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One of my favorite Psalms. It's a measly 3 verses.
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It's short. But sweet and despite its
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brevity, it is. A masterpiece of.
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Quiet trust and spiritual maturity.
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Charles Spurgeon said Psalm 131 is 1.
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Of the shortest psalms to read, but one of the longest psalms to
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learn, You know. Come on.
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One of the. Shortest psalms to read, but one
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of the longest. Psalms to learn Ultimately,
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Psalm 131 is the Psalm of a man, King David, who has learned.
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Over the course of a. Lifetime of walking with the
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Lord. To put to death his narcissism,
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his inflated sense of self, his need to do great and marvelous.
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Things to earn the attention. Of people who are watching.
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Him. It's the Psalm of a man.
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Who's? Learned to wean his.
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Soul off of the world if you're able.
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That stand for the reading of God's Word this morning.
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If I had to vote, I will vote that King David is the least.
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Likely person and the entire Canon of scripture to write this
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Psalm and yet. It was written by King David.
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Oh Lord, my heart is not. Lifted up, my eyes are not.
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Raised too high. I do not occupy myself with
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things too great and too marvelous for me.
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But I have calmed and quieted my soul like a.
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Winged child with its mother. Like a winged child is my soul.
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Within me O Israel. Hope.
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I don't know what are you guys looking at the piece that says
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text, is that bothering? You too.
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There we go. Got it.
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O Israel hope IN the. Lord, from this time forth and
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forevermore. What would it look like for you
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to calm and quiet your soul? What would it look like for you
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to wean? Your soul off of the.
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Attention and. Approval of the world.
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And to simply. Hope and trust in the Lord.
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From this time forth and forevermore that's the subject
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of our sermon this morning, you're welcome to sit.
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Here's the poem with Psalm 131. My flesh.
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Doesn't like it I. You know what I love?
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I I love thinking too highly of myself.
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I love having an inflated sense of self.
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I love feeding my ego. I love doing things that are far
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too great and far too marvelous for me.
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When I was really little, I remember how after a wrestling
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match, some random stranger. Walked up to my dad.
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And said, boy, your son sure knows how to wrestle.
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And I remember seeing my dad get lit up by that.
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I remember seeing a big smile stretch across his face.
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And he said, well, at least the kid knows how to shake hands.
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I was really little. When that happened.
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But I still remember that exchange because I remember
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thinking in the deepest part of my heart, I will.
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Do whatever it takes to hear that again.
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I like that feeling. Right, I Of course I don't have
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the language to articulate it this way as a young child, but
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when my dad. Smiled like that.
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And I impressed some stranger. There was some sub articulate
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part of myself in my heart that said.
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I want to feel that. Feeling.
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All the time. I like being admired.
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I like. That attention and I'm not using
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this as an out, I need to take responsibility for my own
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propensity towards narcissism, but.
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The cultural. Air that we breathe certainly
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isn't helping me or you. Out at all either right like.
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Dream big and you're special. Is the water that we.
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Swim in in the 21st century the the philosopher John Twinge.
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Calls it quote the narcissism epidemic we.
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Live in an epidemic of this inflated self of self
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importance, this need for constant validation and approval
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and admiration. It's the water that we swim in.
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It's it's what we think there was a a famous narcissism study.
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This is not on substantial. There was a famous narcissism
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study conducted over the span of 30 or 40 years that discovered
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that the amount of people statistically, not numerically,
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the number of people statistically who responded yes
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to the question, am I special or?
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Important tripled by percentage. Between the 80s and the 20 tens,
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and unsurprisingly, or maybe very surprisingly if you're
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unfamiliar with psychology. As.
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As our sense of self. Has increased.
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Our experience of joy has decreased.
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As our sense of ego has increased, our experience of
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happiness has decreased. And so.
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It's like, it's like a bomb, just a.
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Beautiful little detonated bomb. That Psalm. 131.
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Rolls into our lives if it doesn't.
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Blow you up today. It's detonated.
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It'll. Get you set a timer.
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Psalm 131 is coming for you. David begins with a.
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Confession that he. Is not going to think too highly
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of himself. Look at verse one.
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Oh Lord. My heart is not lifted up, my
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eyes are not raised too high. I do not occupy myself with
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things too great and too marvelous for me.
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Notice, notice the language really quickly here in verse
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one. I need you to see this.
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OK, lock into this. I've got it underlined up there.
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You know what this? Psalm is not about this.
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Psalm is actually not about not doing bad things or not sinning.
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Did you notice that? What's it about?
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Look at verse one. What's it about?
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It's it's not about not sinning or doing bad things or wrong
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thing. It's about not occupying
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yourself with great and marvelous things, or things that
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we might even say are fine or even.
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Good. And so if they're not.
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Sinful. What's the problem with them?
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Well, notice the modifying word. That's.
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Hugging both the word great. And marvelous.
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What's the word that's hugging them both?
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Too great, too marvelous. So the problem isn't that these
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things are bad things to think. About or even.
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To aim at it's that they've become too.
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Great or too marvelous for David when he is occupied or.
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Consumed or obsessing over them. So what in the world is going on
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here? What it what?
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What does this mean to not be occupied with?
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What things are too great and. Too marvelous for David?
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Well. Like most of the Bible, the
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meaning. For that verse is either.
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Waiting for you in the verse before it, or hiding from you in
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the. Verse after.
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It So what are the things that are too great and too marvelous
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for him? Look at the beginning of verse
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one. Here's your here's your context
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clue. My heart is not.
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Lifted up, my eyes are not raised too.
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High. This is our context clue in in
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the Old Testament. The metaphor of the lifted.
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Heart. Or the eyes raised too.
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High. Is always used to describe.
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Haughtiness. Or pride and so that.
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Helps us see what things are too.
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Great. Or too marvelous for us,
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ultimately. What this is about is David.
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Learning to say no to narcissism.
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Saying no to. Pride saying no to the need, the
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need to do. Things that are too great.
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Or too marvelous for him. It's it's, he's learned to say.
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No to demanding worldly achievements.
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And so when David says he doesn't need to occupy himself
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with things too great and too marvelous for him, he he doesn't
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mean that you can't have goals in life, or aspirations, or even
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dream big. What David means is that he no
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longer needs. To be the best, he no longer
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needs to be the most. Important guy in the room.
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He no longer. Needs.
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To be the most influential, he no longer needs to be special
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and. We don't know when, David.
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Wrote this. There's a lot of guesses.
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Out there for when, David? Came to this.
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Spear given realization. Some people say maybe it was
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during the long wait between when he was anointed to one day
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be king as a teenager and the many years.
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He had to watch absolute losers occupy the throne.
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Before him before finally being installed as a king.
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At 30 years old, maybe it was. During that time period, he was
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like, all right, I'm just not. Going to obsess.
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About things that are too great and too marvelous for me, right
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It could have been some people suggest that maybe it was after
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he. Lost his child or maybe?
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It was after the death of his friend.
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Or maybe and I. Find this one really compelling.
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Some a lot of theologians argue that this is not a young man's
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Psalm. Right, this is not the.
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Psalm, a young man writes and SO1 compelling guest for me is
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maybe it was written by David after getting everything.
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After he killed Goliath and became a.
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Wartime hero after he became king or.
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Leading Israel's army and he got all of that.
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And now he's prophetically writing Psalm 131, almost like
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Jim Carrey. Who literally said in an
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interview. Maybe Psalm 131 is God's way of
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saying what? Kerry said, which was quote.
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I believe I was given. Everything I could have ever.
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Wanted so I could turn around and tell the.
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World that it. Won't make you happy.
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But this is a heck of realization.
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To arrive at a place where you just no longer need to be
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obsessed with things that are too great and too marvelous for
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you and. Look, I'm I'm a dream big guy.
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I can prove that too if you want to see my full focus planner.
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I like goals. I consider myself pretty driven.
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I don't think any of those are bad things, so I I want to.
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Articulate exactly when ambitions.
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Or worldly goals become. In the language of Psalm 131.
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Too great and too marvelous for us.
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So how does that? How does that happen?
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Well, here's here's my thesis. There are two separate.
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But well substantiated studies. That you hear about.
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In the modern world, all the time they these studies pop up
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on our news. They people write books about
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them. They're both.
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Well substantiated and studied the.
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First, very well. Substantiated study that's
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popular in the modern. World is the increase.
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Of narcissism. This is well documented.
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Well documented, right? I mentioned this in in in
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passing at the beginning, but there's a famous. 30 year study
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out there. About narcissism and when they
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began at like 30 or 40 years ago, only 20% of people
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responded to the question. I'm a very important person with
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the answer yes. And now in the 20 tens it's like
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75%. So there's been a well
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documented increase of narcissism in our culture.
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What's the second? Well substantiated study that's
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popular right now. The second one, and again this
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is well studied. Is the.
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Decrease of relational intimacy. Again, everybody's writing about
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this stuff. The decrease of relational
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intimacy is well documented in In our world, the amount of
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people who say that they have at least two or three close friends
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today is less than half. Of the people who said that 50
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years ago. Another way of articulating that
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is we're twice as lonely as a culture as we.
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Were 50 years ago. The amount of people who answer
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simply yes to the question Are you lonely?
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Is not just astronomically higher than 50 years ago.
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It is at the highest. Point in human history and so
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here's my thesis for you. What I want you to consider this
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morning or just think about is that those are not 2 separate
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studies. They're the same study.
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And no, I've never. Read a study.
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Linking those two things together.
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And I know correlation is not causation.
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You're not causation either bro. But.
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I think they're related. Two sides of the same coin.
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The increase of our narcissism is actually.
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Why? We can't experience relational
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intimacy. Your teacher meant well when he
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told you how. Special you are.
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He didn't mean to wound you. Right he was.
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Following the self esteem movement.
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That everybody, the Kool-aid everybody was.
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Drinking in the 90s but without knowing this constant refrain
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about how important our self esteem is and how unique and
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special we are. We didn't know it but it was
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discipling us towards a lifetime of loneliness.
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The more narcissistic. You are the.
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Less able you are to experience relational intimacy for two
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reasons. First, because people prone to
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narcissism are only capable of presenting the parts of
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themselves before people that are impressive.
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Which is like 2. Percent of who you are, which
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means if you're only capable of presenting the parts of yourself
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that are impressive to people and that gain you praise and
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admiration, that means that you're probably hiding about 98%
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of yourself from. The relationship.
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And you can't have relational intimacy with somebody in a deep
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relationship with somebody by giving them 2% of you.
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And so you just can't. You just can't.
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You just can't be narcissistic and also have deep
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relationships. The second reason why is because
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the more prone to narcissism you are, the more expectations you
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bring into relationships, and the more expectations you bring
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into relationships, the least. Likely it is that your
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relationship. Will succeed expectations
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clutter relationships? They drown relationships.
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They bleed. Relationships out, the more
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expectations you bring into the relationship.
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The more likely it is to fail. The expectation for instance.
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If if we. Constantly think of ourselves as
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unique and special we will bring.
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Expectations that suffocate other people.
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Expectation. Expecting your spouse or your
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friend? Expecting them to constantly.
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Praise you and tell you how great you are and tell you how
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wonderful you are and tell you that you're the best.
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That's actually a weight that nobody can carry, right?
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If you're spending time with me and you're like, man, I don't
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think Cole's going to be friends with me unless I tell him he's
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the best pastor ever. It's going to suffocate you.
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It's too heavy for the relationship.
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It suffocates people and flushes them out of relationship.
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Or. People fail to meet your
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expectations and you end up huffing and puffing that nobody
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knows how special I am and nobody in the world gets me.
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And you leave a bunch of burn bridges behind you because of
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expectation. And the reason why I'm I'm
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piercing right now is because. That that.
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Moment. Is exactly the moment where it
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becomes holy to let go of big. Dreams and aspirations in life.
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The exact. Moment where a thing has become.
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Too good or? Too wonderful or too marvelous
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for you is exactly the moment that it becomes an expectation
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in your relationship with. God, have you ever noticed?
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That starts out as a goal and then somehow.
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It becomes this expectation that you hold out to the Lord.
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And demand that he meets it. You.
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You develop an unspoken contract with God that says OK, you meet
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my wildest dreams and I'll continue to worship you.
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An unspoken agreement. And if your.
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Relationship with God is filled with a bunch of expectations.
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It's heading for disaster. Set the clock.
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Here's another way you know your ambitions have become too.
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Marvelous. Again, I keep on rounding this
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out, but there's nothing wrong with dreams when they're want to
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and. I think that's great, right?
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I want. To have a great marriage, that's
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a good, that's good, right I. Want to get healed.
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I want to get the. Promotion.
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Look at David. He had a lot of wants.
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He wanted to become the king of Israel.
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He wanted to kill Goliath. He.
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Wanted to lead Israel's. Armies.
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Those are massive dreams. Nothing wrong with big.
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Dreams. When is it destructive?
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It becomes. Destructive at the exact.
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Moment. That it goes from a want to to a
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need to I I need to have the perfect marriage.
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I'm done with God. I need to have the best kids I
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need. To be the next CEO.
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Or else God. In that position, when something
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transitions from a want to to a need to.
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What you've discovered is that you like.
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What God can give you more than who God actually is?
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Do I sound crazy this? This position where we love God
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for his gifts and not for his presence.
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If you. Like God.
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For what he gives you. More than who He is, your faith
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will. Either implode or you will.
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Need to in the language. Of Scripture be humbled.
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And that's what. Verse 2 is all about look at
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verse 2. Instead of being occupied with
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thanks to great and to marvelous.
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For David, he says. But I have calmed and.
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Quieted my soul. The key.
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Is the second-half here like a weaned child?
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With its mother like a. Weaned.
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Child. Is my soul within me?
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How do you achieve that? All right, I'll wean.
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Myself off of the. World and be humble.
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Great. How do I do?
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Do I clench my fist? Grip my teeth?
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And say, all right, stop. Being narcissistical.
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How do you achieve that? And.
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Probably the answer to that question is you probably just
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need to be. Broken.
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Probably. Here's how I know this.
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My 2 year old son Jack, he just turned 2.
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He is exactly like me. He's crazy.
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OK, he's two years old. And he's crazy.
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He doesn't. Stop moving I.
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Swear to you he won't stop moving, he just runs around.
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Everywhere the world is too. Satisfying for him.
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And as a result of that, Jack is our first kid.
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We've got two others. Jack is my first kid.
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Who refuses to just. Slow down and cuddle with me.
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He won't cuddle with me and I'm bitter about it.
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He'll give me like a one second hug and then he's gone.
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Because the world's too. Shiny.
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There's too much fun. Stuff he can't slow down and
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just lay on my chest and cuddle with me.
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Because he needs to. Be running hot laps around the
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house or he needs to be breaking out of our house and running
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down the block, which is not hypothetical.
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And so if you saw me riding my bike around the neighborhood
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this week yelling Jack that's why.
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Or head butting his brother. Or sister.
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Or jumping off of the couch, or breaking things.
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The world is just. It's too.
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Fun for Jack. There's too much fun stuff for
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him to do so he won't cuddle with me.
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Unless. Unless he's sick.
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Now. It was good.
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Now I'm not a monster. I don't sit around.
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Hoping that Jack will get sick so that I can get some good.
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Father, son, time with them, That's monstrous.
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I'm not saying that I want him to be sick.
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All I'm saying is when you're an adult, you see when your child
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does. Become sick.
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The complexity of the situation, to the kid, it's all bad.
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It feels bad. They slowed down life, right?
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But when you're an adult, you're like, OK, I don't want you to be
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sick, but it also feels pretty. Dang, nice.
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When you finally slow down enough.
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To just lay on my. Chest and collapse into my.
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Arms and cuddle with me. But he needs.
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To get sick, This is probably the way you are too.
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You just don't slow down. You just don't draw near.
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To the presence of God. For the sake.
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Of the presence of God. And so more time, 9 out of 10
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times what needs to happen is. We need to be broken.
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And God's not a monster. He doesn't ordain suffering and
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pain in our lives because. He's some sort of killjoy.
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But he does. Ordain suffering and pain in our
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lives to pass, because if we don't experience loss or
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sickness or suffering, we will. Never, ever, ever slow down.
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To embrace his love and lay on his chest and simply receive the
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glories of His presence. I.
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Don't. Like usually, I need to be
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humbled. I need to be broken.
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When my life is all. Ease.
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I float superficially through my.
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Days like a living triviality. But do you know what being
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broken does? Being broken drives me so.
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The only thing that actually satisfies the presence of God
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so. How do you wean?
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Yourself off of the world and calm and quiet your soul.
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You probably need to be broken. I hope not.
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You don't need to, it's just probably.
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Likely you don't. Have to get sick or be.
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Broken in order to wean. Your soul the most compelling.
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Theologian I've read on the subject.
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Of how to get ahead. Of that, and to humble yourself
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before being humbled is the Catholic theologian from the
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1900s, Hans ers von Balthazar, which is a great.
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Name somebody out there. You should name.
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Your next child, Balthazar, it would be great.
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Balthazar, he had this. Process of humbling the self and
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calming it and quieting it before being broken.
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And Balthazar unpacks this process with two really simple
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steps. All right.
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The first step is. Be seen.
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Did you hear that? Be seen.
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You must first let yourself be seen and be held through the
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loving. Eyes of God.
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And so the first step. For Balthazar towards.
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Calming and quieting your soul. It's really not a first.
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Step at all it's. Just a step of not.
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Doing what Balthazar says is quote.
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Contemplation begins not with what we see, but with allowing
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ourselves to be seen, namely, seen through by the eyes of
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love, and so before doing or saying anything, or even before
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repenting of your sin, before saying or acting in any.
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Way the key is to bring your soul before God and then.
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Look at him looking at us and then simply resting in the
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loving. Gaze that's already there and
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then. When you have experienced being
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seen by the Lord, you can move to step #2 which is to repent of
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our. Need to be seen.
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Once you're seen by the Lord, you can see how important it is
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to repent of our need to be seen.
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By the world. Balthazar has a really
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interesting observation where he diagnoses modern religion as
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being. Captivated by quote, a zeal.
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For everything that's measurable and calculable and draws praise
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to us. So in other words, Balthazar
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says, we tend to. Use religion to fulfill our
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worldly. Ambitions and to draw attention.
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To ourselves rather than to God. He he even argues that listen to
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this the majority of what we do and say on a daily basis.
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At the root of that behavior is a desire to be seen by the
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world. You know what?
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You work yourself to death for that goal because you need.
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To be seen. You know why you.
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Behave that way because you need to be seen.
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All of our. Godly or ungodly ambition, our
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frenzied. Toil.
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Our obsession with narcissism, it's.
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It's all because we have daddy issues.
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Heavenly Daddy issues. That's it.
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Pretty much all of them. We've never slowed down to
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experience the loving gaze of the Father that's already on us.
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And to be in it and to soak in it and to rest in it.
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And so we've developed heavenly daddy issues since we're not
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confident that God sees us. You know who?
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We need to see us, everybody else, the world we desperately,
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desperately, pathetically obsessed over ourselves.
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With a vanity that says look at me, look.
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Please. Look at me or I'll.
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Die or I'll disappear. Have you ever?
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Oh. Have you ever posted something
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on social media? And nobody likes it.
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What an amazing experience if you've experienced that, what a
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blessing. You know what I'm talking about,
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Jay, if you. No, Jay is very popular.
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That was for yourself esteem. You're welcome.
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If you want something really practical this morning though, I
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will. Give you a doozy.
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It's not for the faint of heart. What I would encourage you to do
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is for the next week. At the end of every day.
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Whenever you put the kids down for sleep or whenever you get
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done with work. Whenever you've got 15.
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Minutes I would. Encourage you.
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At the end of every day, sit down.
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With a piece of paper journal, I don't care.
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Ask one question. What did I do today?
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Because I needed to be. Seen.
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And what you'll discover is it the answer to that question is
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most of it. You know why you talked over
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your spouse. You needed to be seen.
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You know why you slandered your Co worker?
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You needed to be seen. You know why you gossiped about
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a friend? Because you had something that
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would make the world. See you.
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If you ask that question at the end of.
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Every day for a week. What did I do today?
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Because I needed to be seen. You will always, always, always
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have something to repent of at the end.
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Of the day. But it will also by the grace of
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God, if you can. Receive the.
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Grace of Jesus Christ, which is free for you.
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You'll also experience an extraordinary forgiveness from
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Him in the process of regularly identifying the things that you
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do because you need to be seen and then repenting of them.
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It will actually wean your. Soul off of the world.
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They don't need it, right? Look at verse 2 again.
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I've calmed and quieted my soul. I want.
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That God, What is that? Like like a wean child.
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With its mother. Like a weaned child.
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Is my soul with enemy? What?
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What a strange analogy. It's odd his his soul.
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Is no. Longer like a baby.
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Who takes milk from her? Mother, isn't that weird?
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His soul is no longer like a baby that cries out and calls
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out and panics when she needs milk.
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She's a His soul is like a. Weaned child.
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Why? What?
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What's? Huh.
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What? Why the metaphor?
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Here's why the metaphor? This is profound.
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Here's what it is. What does an infant?
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Go to her mother for milk, what she gives.
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To the child now follow me here what does a weaned.
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Child go to her mother for not for the milk, but for her
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presence. Not for what the mother can give
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her, but for. Who the mother is.
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This is where David is in his walk with God.
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It's. Only what the Wean child knows,
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he knows. That the.
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Presence of His Heavenly Father. Is better than the.
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Gifts of his heavenly. Father, the gifts are great.
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They're just not. Better.
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Than the presence of God that's why we have verse 3 right
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that's. What verse 3 is all about?
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Look at verse 3 this. Couplet at the end O.
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Israel hope in the Lord. From this time forth and forever
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more, when you see a couple like that at the end of the Psalm and
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they're at the end of a lot of Psalms, you, you tend to read it
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as like an afterthought. It's not an afterthought, right?
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It's not like David wrote the Psalm and was like, oh man, that
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that didn't sound very. Religious better throw an old.
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Hope in the Lord in there at the end.
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That's not what's going on. Couplets at the end of psalms
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like this they are. Summaries of the whole Psalm
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they tell you. What the whole Psalm was about,
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the whole process of weaning your soul off of things too
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great and too marvelous. For you it's.
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All about learning to trust the Lord to be the one who's
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satisfied. Do you see this, David?
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Trust the Lord knows the Lord. The lights of the Lord enjoys
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the Lord so much that He just no longer.
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Needs the milk or the gifts that God could give.
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He'd like them. Healing would be great like
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that. Promotion would be great.
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More money would be great. A spouse would be great, right?
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David would like that goal. He just doesn't need it.
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Does that make sense? He has something better.
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Than the milk. He has the.
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Parrot the presents when I was in college I'm going to get out
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of your way in a second here. When I was in college, I worked
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assisted living for young men with mental disabilities.
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They were my boys, I. Love that was a really fun
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couple years those guys I. Developed a great relationship
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with those dudes and they actually, I think it's where I
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learned. How to preach?
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Because my relationship with those guys often made me think,
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Huh? Is this the like this?
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The way this relationship is is this kind.
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Of the way that God. Feels about me so that there
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were a very precious couple years of my life and one of my
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guys that I helped out, he had a consumer problem.
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He just liked things too much. Like he had a rare genetic
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mutation that made him fixate and obsess on things too much.
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Like, I mean, I don't mean like a little too much.
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I mean like a lot too much. Like we had to lock his
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cupboards otherwise he would fixate on the food and he would
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literally he would eat himself to death.
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That's not a metaphor. When we went to like Walmart or
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Target at the mall and there were free pamphlets, you know
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what I'm talking about. He would try to take all of
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them, right? He just liked.
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Things too much. He had a consumer problem and so
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when I started taking him to Target.
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He. Target was his favorite place to
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go and walk around and when the relationship started he would
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want things that he could not. Afford and.
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When I said no, you don't have the money for that.
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He would have these meltdowns. And when I say meltdowns, I
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mean. Meltdowns in the middle of.
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Target. I'm not talking like he
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disagreed with me and his personality soured.
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I'm talking like an all on meltdown, cussing at me, cursing
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at me, throwing himself on the floor in the middle.
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Of the aisle and. Kicking and screaming at the
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floor and. Nobody.
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Warned me about that. So when it happened I was like
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what the heck is going on? And I I was so.
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Embarrassed by it because people were worried about it and.
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And the the staff members at Target were in a frenzy too, and
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they got anxious about it and. Everything kind of threw.
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Itself into a frenzy, and so I made a.
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Huge mistake the first couple. Times.
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Can you guys guess what I did? Yeah, I bought him the stuff.
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I was like, I just, I, I just want this moment to stop.
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So I'll get you the thing. Huge mistake because that
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increased. The the cycle.
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And so he would he would want it again and again.
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It enabled his behavior. It happened again and again and
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again. And it was, it was really hard.
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But I learned something. Along the way I.
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Learned that when he was having one of his tantrums and
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meltdowns. I learned that.
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You couldn't talk him out of a meltdown.
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You couldn't. Convince him out of a meltdown.
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Maybe you could pacify it by getting in the thing.
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It doesn't deal with. It it just creates another one
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in the future so you can't talk them.
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Out of it, you can't. Reason them out of a meltdown.
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You couldn't lecture them out of the meltdown.
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All those things made everything, everything worse.
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So. Do you want to know what worked?
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I just be so embarrassed and I found out what worked.
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Not lecturing, not caving. What I would do?
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When the tantrum happened is I learned there was only one thing
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to end it. I would kneel down on one knee
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on the ground next to him. I take a deep breath.
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Calm myself, I take my right hand and I would gently just.
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Place it on his foot. And as calmly as I could with as
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little anxiety as possible. All I would do is be.
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Present with him and it worked. It was like magic, the staff
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members. It calmed them.
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They would see a. Calm person who was present with
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them and like oh OK, he's got it handled.
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Other people felt the same way. And almost magically.
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Almost magically. Simply guide by giving my non
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anxious presence to him. It would snap him out of it,
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transform him and put an end to the tantrums and you can you can
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dangle your toes. Over the edge of this.
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Metaphor, right? You see where I'm going with
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this? This is how God transforms us
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too. He needs to say no.
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To some of our dreams, even our good ones.
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I want the perfect house. I want the perfect marriage.
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I want the perfect church with perfect spouse.
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And sometimes by the grace of God.
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He has. To say no to those ambitions and
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dreams and desires. And more times than not, the
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human nature responds by throwing a tantrum.
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But rather than giving us the things or caving in, you know
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what God tends to do if. We're aware or awake he gets.
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Down on one knee, puts his hand on us and.
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Gives us his presence and. Through this process, we learn.
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That even though the gifts of God are good.
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They don't satisfy. The only thing that satisfies
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you know what it is. It's God, His presence, His
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attention, His love, His admiration that Jesus purchased
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for you. It's on you right now.
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If you're. A Christian Christ has so.
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Sufficiently died for your sins and covered you in his very own.
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Righteousness that you don't. You don't have to throw a
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tantrum to get God's. Right you.
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Don't need to clench your. Fists, you don't.
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Need to yell and scream to get his loving gaze.
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It's already on you before you do.
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Anything, it's yours and when you learn that.
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And feel that. You you really begin to.
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Believe that who God is is greater than what He can give.
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And that's why I think David is actually the perfect person to
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write this. Because the dude ends up doing
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some cool stuff, right? Like David ends up doing some
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great stuff. He slays Goliath.
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He becomes a military hero. He leads.
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The army of Israel. He becomes the king of Israel.
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He does a lot of cool stuff. He just didn't need to.
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Do you or is God and his presence enough?
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Heavenly Father, this is a doozy for me to think about.
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It's so obvious to me why I was drawn to this.
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During my sabbatical. That first week, it was almost
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like I. Went through withdrawal.
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I just wanted to teach something in front of somebody who would
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listen. It was like.
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It was like I was. It was like I was being.
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Weaned off of something that's good, but something I'd become
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addicted to, and so thank you. For that gift, and I just pray
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that you would that you would that you would calm and quiet
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our souls there are. A lot of souls in here that are
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bouncing around, running around the house all the time, trying
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to escape and run down the block, and those souls just need
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to be still so that they can rest in the breast.
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Of God and just like I, just I. Want to collapse into you, Lord?
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Like the type. Of rest that you feel.
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From head to toe. When the limbs go loose and
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ambition is. Evacuated out of me and.
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All I need. To do is rest in the love of God
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that is already. Been there and will always be
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there because of the gospel that we would experience that this
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morning in the precious name of Jesus, all God's people said,