Sermon
E13 - The Pastoral Epistles: Biblical Ministers & Biblical Ministry - Properly caring for the family of God: Part 1
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You're listening to Key Life Fellowship's pulpit ministry
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Amen. May that be our prayers as we
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live our life. Glorify Your name and me and
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every thought and in every deed. May we take that principle as we
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learn the Word of God today and as we apply it.
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May it not just be something that we do for the sake of doing
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it. May we actually study the Word
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of God and then leave here and apply it that God would receive
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glory and honor and praise through our lives.
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Give your Bibles if you would turn to First Timothy chapter 5,
1 Timothy 5 chapter mention
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First Timothy chapter 5 as we continue walking through this
1 Timothy 5 chapter mention
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pastoral epistle known as First Timothy, as we continue to look
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at biblical ministers and biblical ministry and how is
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this supposed to look according to the word of God?
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We come to a little. Mini series portion of this
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text, and I want to begin this morning with this section
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entitled Properly Caring for the Family of Gods is the first part
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of this, as you will see in the next few weeks.
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But Paul has just instructed Timothy to stand up and to lead
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the church and and to serve as an example to all the people
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there in Ephesus. And he commands him to not let
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anyone look down on you because you're young, or to despise you
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for that. Fact.
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And he's now. Going to instruct him how this
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is to be done. How can you keep those people
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from looking down on you? And he's already told him to be
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an example in life and love and speech and in purity.
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Paul's going to get a little. More specific here this morning.
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And that's what I want to do. I want us to get to the
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specifics of this. And Paul is going to use an
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analogy that's used throughout Scripture to compare the church,
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and that is the analogy of the church and the family.
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And he's going to compare the two.
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And he's going to teach us from that viewpoint.
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And when we learn to view the church, the body of Christ, as a
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family, we we're then really viewing the body of Christ as
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the Scriptures would have us to do at a church, that family
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being made-up of fathers and mothers and brothers and
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sisters. If we see the.
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Reality of that and if we apply that property properly, it's
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going to cut down on a lot of sin and a lot of dysfunction and
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disharmony in the church because this principle is not being
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taught nor accepted very often anymore, right?
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We, we live in the mega church age where people come in, they
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don't want to be seen. They don't want to have any
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relationship with anybody. They come, they sit on the back
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row, they leave before the service is over, never having
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any familial interaction with the family of God.
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They shouldn't be that way. And so Paul is going to instruct
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Timothy on the proper care for God's family first, seeing it as
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a true family and seeing the actual sections of the family
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properly and how a leader ought to approach these things, how a
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leader ought to approach caring for those older men and
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correcting those older men and caring and counselling and.
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Caring for those. Older women and, and the younger
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men as well as the younger women, he's going to include all
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of this. And so let's just jump right in
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today and let's read this First Timothy chapter 5 as we begin
1 Timothy 5 chapter mention
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our journey on learning to properly care for the family of
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God. He says this.
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He says do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as
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if he were your father. See the parallel that he's
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making there? He says, treat younger men as
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brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as
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sisters with absolute purity. Let's pray together.
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Father, in the name of Jesus, we come to you.
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We thank you for your word. We thank you that your word is
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clear, that your word is concise.
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Lord, I pray today as we see this lesson, that the clarity of
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this lesson would cause us to be obedient to the things that we
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see both as leaders and as lay people.
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As this lesson is laid out for us in these two verses.
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God, I pray through it you would be glorified and your church
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would be what you desire for her to be that family operating
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properly for your glory. And when I pray for that person
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who's here, who's lost, who's not in Christ, who's not yet
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surrendered to him as Lord and Savior, being forgiven of their
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sin and reconciled to God the Father, I pray that they
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understand that they are not a part of this family.
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In fact, they are alienated and isolated from this family
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because of their sin. And I pray that you make known
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to them in the depths of their being just how sinful they truly
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are and how in need of Christ they are now today, by your
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spirit, you would draw them out of darkness and into your
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marvellous light, bringing to them salvation, forgiveness of
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sin, and promised eternal life. To those who believe God, we
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thank you for this time. We thank you for your word and
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how you're going to instruct us and how you're going to teach us
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and how you're going to change us and set us apart for your
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glory. We give you all the praise for
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it now in Jesus name, Amen. So Paul instructing in these two
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verses the proper care for God's family and how that will
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actually be displayed. You all know this.
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It's it's not enough just to say.
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That you care. You have to show that you care.
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And he begins like this. He says that we are to show
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gentle encouragement for the older men.
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Watch verse 1. He says do not rebuke an older
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man harshly. Now what he doesn't say, he
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doesn't say do not rebuke an older man, do not correct an
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older man. He doesn't say do not lead an
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older man. He says when you do rebuke an
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older man, there is a proper way in doing this.
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He says do not do it harshly, but exhort him as if he were
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your father. It's about the approach that
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Paul wants Timothy to take. He wants him to approach the
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older men in the church as if they were his own father.
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Again, Paul is going to use in these two verses 4 familial
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terms. Here he chooses the term father.
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He is relating the church now, relationships within the church
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with the relationships inside of the family.
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That's why we can confidently say that as a church, we are the
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family of God. And in the family of God there
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are those older men, and those older men are to be viewed as
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our fathers. In the faith, respect them, show
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them the respect that they are due.
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This is not a new idea, is it in fact, Paul?
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Knows that this is not a new idea, and he knows how effective
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this analogy will be. When Timothy hears it, he's
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going to say, OK, I know exactly how I am to respond and to react
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to the fathers, the older men in the church.
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And Timothy knew this because he knew the word of God, and he
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knew that the word of God commands that we are to honor
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our fathers and our mothers. And so Paul quickly grabs a hold
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of this, and he wants Timothy to understand how important it is
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that even when we have to rebuke, because that is the
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direct context of this rebuking and correcting and counseling.
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And don't we know that Scripture is useful for all that, for
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correcting, rebuking, rebuking for teaching and for training
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and righteousness? And he's telling Timothy to use
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this idea of your father to keep your mind right when you have
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to, and sometimes your mouth when you have to rebuke those
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who are older than you. And the church.
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Remember, he's just spoken to him about don't let people look
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down on you because you're young.
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Now, if you don't want people to look down on you because you're
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young, you can't go around harshly rebuking the elderly.
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It's not going to work out for you.
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And so gentle encouragement in this context would be this,
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avoid disrespect and avoid disrespect completely.
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If you're going to gently encourage older men, you have to
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go into it with that mindset. I am not going to disrespect
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this man because that would be equivalent to me disrespecting
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my earthly father. Now, I know we live in a time
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and in a culture where when we disrespect earthly fathers, it's
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no longer a big deal. But can I just tell you this?
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In the Hall House where I grew up, when you disrespected your
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earthly father, it was a big deal.
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There were consequences. And you know what?
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I wish, I wish families would bring back the consequences of
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disrespecting their earthly father, that they would view his
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position properly. Why?
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So that when we get to the context of the Church, we now
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view those older Christians as our fathers properly.
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So we approached them even in correcting them, avoiding any
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disrespect at all. Remember Paul didn't say don't
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rebuke them, don't correct them. He said don't do it in a harsh
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manner, don't do it harshly. It should be done with the
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utmost respect, as if you are approaching your elderly father,
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and you should respect him and show that respect even in your
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correction, even in your rebuke. Let us avoid any disrespect.
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In order to do that, what do we have to do?
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We. We have to show and to have an
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attitude of humble respect for the elderly men in the church.
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I know this is a foreign concept to so many, right, because so
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many churches have fallen into the trap of making themselves
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attractive for the younger generation.
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And then you have a church full of young people who know
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nothing, who have no wisdom, who haven't lived life long enough
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to that you could glean any insight from them.
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You say, well, Kirk, what do you know about that?
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I know about that. I pastored a church full of
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young people before it was difficult.
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Why? Because there was a an absence
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of wisdom that comes from someone just simply being a
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little bit older, but also being a little bit older and mature in
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the Lord. And so we have to approach these
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men in the church with respect for their position, who they
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are. Leviticus 19 speaks about having
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respect for the elderly in verse 30.
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Two, it says. Stand up in the presence of the
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aged, show respect for the elderly, and Revere your God.
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And he says, I am the Lord. Now let me show you what God
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just did right there. He put respecting the elderly in
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the same sentence as revering your God.
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Why is that so important for us to understand?
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It's important because when you disrespect the elderly, you
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disrespect God in a sense. Why?
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Because He has told you to give them full respect.
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So we need to see the seriousness of that and to avoid
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any disrespect toward them at all, right?
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They may not be able to walk like they once walked.
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They may be slower in mobility, they may be slower in speech,
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but they are far more worthy, because of their age, of our
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respect in the Word of God. God himself demands that we
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respect them, so avoid any disrespect toward them at all
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First, Peter, 55, says. In the same way, you who are
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younger submit yourself to your elders.
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Now, he doesn't say the elders. He's not talking about the
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elders of the church, the presbyters.
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He's talking about older men and he's talking about gaining
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wisdom from older men. I can tell you this, most of my
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close friends in this world are older than me and that is on
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purpose. I learned a long time ago by
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reading through the Proverbs that if I walk with the wise I
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will grow wise, but if I walk with fools I will become a fool.
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I'm thankful for the men and the men of God that God has put in
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my life to teach me that I may glean wisdom from them.
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However, if I would have approached them with some
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haughty know it all attitude, I would have never learned
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anything from them. And so I have to show humble
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respect for the elderly men in this church.
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As the leader of this church, I pray that you would hold me to
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that. Why?
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Because anything else is of my own pride.
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And, and we know first Peter continues in in verse 5 of
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chapter 5. God opposes the proud, but he
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shows favor to the humble. May we, as younger men, humble
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ourselves before those older men.
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Giving them the utmost respect, avoiding any disrespect toward
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them, even if we are correcting and rebuking and training them,
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May we show them the same honor that we would show to our
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earthly fathers. And we show them the same
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obedience that God requires in Exodus 20, verse 12 when He says
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to honor our earthly fathers, may we honor the older men in
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this church as our fathers. Now I can tell you this, I
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didn't always fully practice what I'm preaching right here.
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In fact, I was unaware of the magnitude of this teaching when
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I was a young minister. I was 21 years old.
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I knew everything as all 21 year olds do.
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I was God's gift to ministry. And all those older people
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should just shut up and listen to me because they they've
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already expired. They've got nothing to offer.
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I remember in a deacon's meeting in a Baptist Church, our pastor
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was casting his vision for the next thing that God would have
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us to do as a church, or so we thought.
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We had a meeting with the leadership of the church and one
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of the elderly leaders in the church stood up and basically
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said, pastor, we don't think this is a good angry.
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And I still to this day don't think that those men were right.
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But it wasn't my place to correct them or to rebuke them
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harshly. I just simply took that upon
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myself and I stood up in that meeting and I, as the know it,
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all 21 year old that I was, got up and I harshly corrected that
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old man, that outdated carton of milk who was no longer useless,
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useful. I corrected helmet in an
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inappropriate, unbiblical manner.
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I said, who do you think you are?
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Trying to decide for this church what they're supposed to do.
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You need to listen to your pastor.
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And that's disrespectful to him. And I sat down and
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unfortunately, that man probably never ever respected me again.
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If if he had ever respected me, which he probably shouldn't
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have. Little did I know I ruined I
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ruined her or hindered that relationship that I could have
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had with this man. I remember that next Monday
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morning I came to church and I got there and soon as I got to
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the office the secretary buzzes me and says the pastor, Brother
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Brown, would like to see you in his office.
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I thought, yeah, he's about to give me a high 5 because I stood
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up for him in that deacons meeting when they were running
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all over him. And I walked in that office and
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he said just like this, sit down young man.
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I sat down and he actually pointed me to this passage of
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scripture to which I'm very thankful that he did because I
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was young and stupid and didn't know a thing.
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And he said, do you see? We're not to rebuke an older man
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harshly. You did more harm than you did
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good. He said I don't need you to
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defend me. God and his word will defend me.
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I don't need you to fight my fights.
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And I learned that day or I began to learn the importance of
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not rebuking an older man harshly.
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Then I had to avoid any disrespect for those who are
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fathers to us in the Lord. I have to show them honor and I
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can't have a haughty attitude towards them in my pride because
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God detests that. In fact, Proverbs 30 verse 17
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says the eye that mocks a father that scorns an aged mother will
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be pecked out by the Ravens of the valley, will be eaten by the
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vultures. What is God saying there?
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There's consequence when you disrespect those.
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Who are fathers in the Lord? Just as there are consequences
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when you disrespect your earthly fathers.
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Instead, what we ought to do, we ought to value their wisdom.
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We ought to see it for what it's worth.
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We had to look at every older man in this church and we ought
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to ask ourselves, what can I gain?
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And what can I glean from someone who has had more years
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on this earth, more years walking with Christ, than I ever
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could begin to think about having?
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What can I gather from them? Job says this in Job 12/12.
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He says it's not wisdom found among the aged.
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Does not long life bring understanding?
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He's asking rhetorical questions.
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We know that it does. Those of you who have lived 40
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years longer than I have, you have 40 years more of wisdom.
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And for me to take the attitude of you're just old and dumb and
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I'm young and smart is for me to air and me to disrespect God and
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his word and me to disrespect those who God has given to us as
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a church to be fathers. And guides and leaders for us in
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the area of. Wisdom and so we have to avoid.
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Disrespect. When we do confront or rebuke or
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counsel, we should admonish gently.
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Again, Paul's not saying that an older man shouldn't receive
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correction. He's not deserving of
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correction. He's simply saying there is a
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proper way of doing this. There's a proper way that you
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can give a sound counsel and a gentle, non threatening manner.
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Colossians 46 says let your conversation be always full of
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grace, seasoned with salt so that you may know how to answer
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everyone. It is about gently conversing,
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giving sound direction and sound counsel in a way that is non
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threatening, non obtrusive, not disrespectful, but God honoring
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Second Timothy 2. Verse 24 says, And the Lord's
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servant must not be quarrelsome, but must be kind to everyone,
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kind to everyone. You know what that means as a
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pastor and as the pastors of this church, the elders of this
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church. We are responsible to be kind to
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everyone, to the smallest child in the nursery and to the eldest
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person that we may have to help out to their car every Sunday.
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We are to show kindness and respect and when we have.
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To correct, we are to do that with the same kindness and
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gentleness, never treating them as if they're stupid or
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insignificant as members of Christ's body.
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Don't we see that far too often in the church, right when the
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elderly get to a certain point where seemingly they have
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nothing to offer the Lord? And it's not that they don't
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have anything to offer the Lord. They just can't offer the same
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things that they once offered in their youth.
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They can offer so much more in the area of wisdom and guidance.
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So many times in the church. When they get to that point,
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they become to us insignificant and useless.
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And you know what? They're already struggling with
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that to some degree anyways, aren't they?
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Right. The older man who could at one
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time do many things that he can no longer do, someone has to
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help him get dressed, someone has to help him get to the car.
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Someone has to help him get out. Or a quick to say that that
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person doesn't have a place in the Kingdom of God if we're not
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careful. However, what Paul is saying is
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they have a very important place in the Kingdom of God and you
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need to gently encourage these older men.
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You need to modest them and encourage them even if you have
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to. Correct them.
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Let me just tell you, there's nothing more difficult to deal
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with than a cantankerous old man.
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It's true, and there's an easy fix from both sides.
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Don't be cantankerous. And if someone is cantankerous,
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don't give them that in return. Give them gentle rebuke.
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Admonish them gently because there's too much of this going
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on in the church. When you handle it correctly,
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you know what you do, you evade any further controversy, any
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further anger, any more division that could happen.
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You approach it the way that you should.
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You actually strive for unity and you promote unity.
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And is that not what we're supposed to do as leaders in the
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church? We are to to promote unity.
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That that is part of our job. That is a very important part of
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our job. And what you don't want to do is
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you don't want to cause dissension because you speak to
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an older man harshly. Even if you are correcting them
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and rebuking them. There's a way to do it.
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How? Proverbs 15, one very simple.
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A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up
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anger. If I learned anything in law
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enforcement, I learned how true that scripture right there is.
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We apply it in our lives, right? I would get on scene, someone's
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upset, they want to fight everybody.
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They're mad, they don't, they don't want to go back to jail.
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This is about to be a bad situation.
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And you know what I learned? Instead of running up there and
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telling them that I'm the police and they better do what I say,
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when I would see they were out of control, when they were in
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their emotions, I would walk up and say, hey, man, are you
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having a bad day today? Why don't you tell me what's
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going on, man? We're, we're going to get this
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all sorted out. Everything's going to be fine in
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the end. Just calm down, dude.
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There's no sense in any of us getting upset.
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You know what I learned very quickly?
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A gentle answer turns away Wrath.
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So. When you have to confront even
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the elderly in the church, that old man, that cantankerous old
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man, confront him gently so that there's not any further
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escalation. Because right, many times we
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approach a situation and the situation is escalated and then
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we jump in there and we escalate it more with our attitude or our
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words. The best thing to do is, hey,
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man, let's just calm down. We're all on the same team here.
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And for the sake of Christ, we're going to handle this like
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Christians. We're going to handle this like
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men of God. Let's talk about this.
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Let's work this out. And there's no sense in any one
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of us getting upset. And when we're done, we're going
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to pray and we're going to unite in Christ and we're going to let
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this be the end of this. May we see the older men of the
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body of Christ as fathers, and we're to honor and we're to
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respect even while we're rebuking and correcting them.
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He moves on secondly, using the second term to describe the
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family he's talking about, the young men here and concern for
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young men he says treat younger men as brothers.
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So, he says gently encourage the older men as our.
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Fathers, but then treat younger men as brothers.
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When I think about brothers I I think of how many times in life
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I desire to have a brother. I always thought it would be
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cool. I was sandwiched in between two
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sisters and I always thought it would be cool to.
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Have a little brother so that I could teach him the ropes right
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so that I could pick on him and then I could beat other people
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up who tried to pick on him and say I can pick up my brother but
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you can't. But I never had the privilege of
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saying that or doing that. But I, I have been able to
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observe families that are brother rich and, and, and I
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what I mean by that, they're full of young boys and I'm very
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thankful. For the Macmillan family and I'm
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going to. Embarrass them right now.
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Brad is even here and I'm I'm thankful for him because he's a
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good Big Brother. Now watch him he he will line
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his pesky little brothers out very quickly, but he will also
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defend them just as quickly when someone else comes after them.
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Of course, I'm only talking about playground stuff.
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They're not gangster, but I love to see that.
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I love to see that brotherly love.
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It gives me insight into how I am to love the young men of this
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church as a pastor and how we as pastors and leaders in the
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church are to do the same, to relate to them with real
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compassion. I think that's important,
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especially, again, this is in the context of possibly
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correcting or rebuking or giving wise counsel to these younger
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men. And we have to see them as
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brothers. And and in.
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Order to be a good brother, you have to relate to your younger
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brothers with compassion. Remember what it was like when
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you were in their? Shoes so, so often we forget
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that, don't we? We get a little older and a
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little wiser and we forget what it was like to be that young man
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way back when. We have to, we have to
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recollect, recollect the the difficult struggles of being a
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young man, right? The lusts of our youth, so
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quickly we forget about that right We just look at the
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younger generation and we say man, what is wrong with this
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younger generation? Let me help all of you older
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wiser people, same thing that was wrong with you.
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Their propensity to sin it may come out in different.
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Flavors, it may have different takes in our culture now, but
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it's still the same. And So what do we have to do?
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And those of us who are leading in the church and having the
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proper concern and compassion. For the young men in our church,
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we have to view them as brothers in need of someone to to nudge
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them along and to help them through the same struggles that
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just a few years ago you were. Going through the same
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temptations, the same battles were to help them, Colossians 3
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verse 12 says. This, therefore, is God's chosen
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people, wholly and dearly loved. Clothe yourself with compassion,
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kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 says.
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Bear with each other and forgive one another.
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If any of you has a grievance against someone, forgive as the
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Lord forgave you. And over all these.
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Virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect
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unity. Now, if that's instructions that
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Paul's giving to the church at Colossae, in general, those are
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instructions that fall upon us in viewing our younger brothers
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in Christ, the younger brothers in the church.
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We are too. Clothe ourselves with compassion
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and kindness and humility and gentleness and patience.
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I told you before that I pastored a church full of young
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people. It required great patience.
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Why? Because they are learning how to
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live. They are learning how to live
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life, and they are learning how to live the Christian life.
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And we have to be very careful when someone is learning this.
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Just as that Big Brother does with his little brother.
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Just a few years ago, Big Brother was struggling with the
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same thing. He can't just slap little
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brother in the back of the head and tell him how stupid he is.
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Big Brother can now take the role of leadership in his life
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and he can show them this is the way to do this better.
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Let me help you out. Let me have some compassion on
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you and where you are. Let me encourage you without
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condemning you. 1st Thessalonians 511 and Ephesians
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429. They both speak of building our
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brothers up through encouragement.
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Where's this in the church? It is.
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It is almost non existent in many churches.
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I'm thankful it's not here. I get to see it all the time.
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I get to see the older men in this church encouraging the
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younger men as brothers, and it is encouraging to me as a
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pastor. But so many times we see the
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opposite of that right? The older men in the church, the
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leaders in the church, often looking down upon those young
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men in their struggles instead of encouraging them to be what
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Christ died for them to be and desires for them to be.
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So in order to do this, we have to resist the urge of being
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overbearing or self-righteous, especially those of us who are
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leaders. I can tell you this.
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When we go through the pastoral epistles, as as you have seen,
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I'm preaching to myself a lot, and that's OK.
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I preach. I preach to you guys all the
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time. Thank you for letting me preach
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to myself for a moment, but I have to be.
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Very careful so that I don't become overbearing or over
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righteous, my approach to these young men.
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But I can still maintain what Ephesians 42 says to be
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completely humble and gentle. Be patient again, bearing with
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one another in love, just as we saw him say there in Colossians,
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humble and gentle. If we're going to truly show
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concern for the young men, we have to relate to them with
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compassion. And we can't have compassion
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until we walk in humility. So I would encourage all who are
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in any place of leadership to see these young men as their
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brothers and to do what Scripture has pointed us to do,
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resisting theirs to be too overbearing, too self-righteous,
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but approach them in truth coupled with love.
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Does that know what scripture tells us to do?
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Ephesians 4-5 to tell the truth in love.
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Now I know the trendy thing to do now in the church is to be
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bold. And there is a.
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Lack of boldness. I'll be the first one to tell
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you that. But I want to also make very
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clear to all of us this morning, boldness does not have to be
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brutality. I can be bold and I can tell my
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younger brother in the faith, the truth, and love, and I don't
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have to beat him up in doing it. I can simply come alongside of
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him and say this right? I'd have to get honest and
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transparent, and I'm OK with that, though many people aren't.
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Hey brother, not too terribly long ago I struggled with this
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same thing. If you don't mind, can I share
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with you how the Lord showed me and how He empowered me to
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overcome this struggle? You know what?
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That's non threatening, isn't it?
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That's not brutality, that's actually using some wisdom to
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help. Care to show compassion for your
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younger brother in Christ? Approach them.
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Truth and love. Here's the truth.
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I'm going to do it in a manner that's loving and compassionate
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to you. Again, boldness does not have to
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be brutality and I wish people would understand that.
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You can be bold without being brutal, but you must learn to
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tell the truth in love. We must do this with our younger
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brothers, those young men, if we're truly concerned for them.
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Treating younger men, as Paul says, as brothers, relate to
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them with compassion. Secondly, we see this about the
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younger brother. Redirect them with care.
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They need redirection. But use wisdom and how you do
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this. Use wisdom and how you correct
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them and how you rebuke them. It's crucial that you do.
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Why? Because if you don't use wisdom,
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you will actually drive them away from the church.
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You will actually drive them away from the family of God.
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You will offend them and you will in fact, at times embitter
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them. Proverbs 2512 says like an.
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Earring of gold, or an ornament of fine gold, is the rebuke of a
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wise judge to a listening. Ear a wise judge.
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We're to be those wise judges to those younger men, those
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brothers in Christ. We're to give them wisdom that
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they value, wisdom that they value.
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That can help them and carry them through whatever situation
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they're in. Now, you may say I don't have a
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whole lot of wisdom. Well, the good news for you is
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James says if you lack wisdom, ask and God will give you the
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wisdom that you need. When that younger brother is in
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need of wisdom and perhaps you don't feel that you possess that
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wisdom, go to God in prayer. God, I know that you've promised
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to give wisdom where wisdom is lacking.
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Lord, I admit I lack wisdom. Give me wisdom from your word
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that I may instruct and encourage my younger brother in
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the faith, redirecting them with the proper care, being careful.
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Please listen to me, being careful never to belittle them
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or act as if you've never been in their shoes or if you are
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above stumbling in the same manner.
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Never, ever act like that. That is nothing but pride.
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Never talk to them as if they are stupid.
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Never make them feel small. Let them know that we are all
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tempted with sin and there are occasions when we fall to sin
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and redirect them with the same care that you would want to
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receive if you were being redirected from your temptation
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or from your sin. Galatians 6 verse one says
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brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live
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by the Spirit should restore that person gently.
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Gently, but watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted.
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Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the
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law of Christ. What is the law of Christ?
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Love the Lord you got all your heart, soul, mind and strength.
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Love your neighbor as yourself. He's saying to us, when we see
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that brother who is caught in sin, we ought not to glory in
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the fact that they're caught in sin.
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And perhaps it's a sin that you've never been caught in and
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you need to stop. And you need to humbly thank God
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that you weren't caught in the same sin, because you know full
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well that you were tempted with it.
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And then to come back and to. Gently, as Scripture says,
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gently restore that person. Lead that person out of sin by
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the power of the Holy Spirit living in you, carrying his
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burden, just like that big brother's going to carry the
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burden of that little brother. Carry his burden, he says.
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In this way you'll fulfill the law of Christ.
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You'll show that you love the Lord your God with all your
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heart, soul, mind, and strength. And you love your neighbor as
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yourself because you're willing to bear with them when they're
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burdened, always taking the greatest care and the greatest
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concern for their soul, leading them out of their sin, leading
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them out of their struggles, pointing them to Jesus over and
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over and over again. How many times should we point
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to this? Struggling brother to Christ.
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I don't know how many times if your younger brother was about
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to walk off a Cliff, would you point him the other direction?
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This. The answer is simple, isn't it?
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Until he gets it. Until he turns around and if he
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refuses to turn around, you grab him and you drag him back until
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he understands. That's how we're to treat the
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younger brothers in the church, always taking the greatest care
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and the concern for their soul because we don't at the end of
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the day know exactly where they are spiritually.
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James 5 speaks on this verse 19. My brothers and sisters, if one
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of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring
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that person back, remember this. Whoever turns a Sinner from the
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error of their way will save them from death and cover over a
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multitude of sin. Remember in dealing with these.
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Professing believers that we see as brothers, we could
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potentially by being that Big Brother to them, we could
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potentially rescue them eternally.
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Now we know this, that ultimately Jesus is the one who
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rescues us, but it is our duty to continually point them to
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Christ, to continually remind them that yes, maybe you have
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felt 1000 time. But God's grace is sufficient,
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Brother, I'm going to help you back up.
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We're going to get back up, and we're going to keep marching
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forward. We're going to keep our eyes
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fixed on Jesus, the author and the perfector of our faith
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together. You never want to push them
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away. You never want to push them away
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by embittering them, looking down on them, making them feel
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as if they can never get it right for you to continually
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urge them toward Christ with the greatest encouragement and care
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that you can give them. I pray that we care about our
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brothers and nothing. Again, I know that much of this
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sermon I am preaching to the choir.
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Much of these things we already do, and we already do them well.
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And here's the thing, we can never settle for that.
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We can never say, OK, we're just going to become complacent.
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We have to keep thinking on these thing nurturing that
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younger brother. So Paul covers here concern for
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young men, gentle encouragement for the older men.
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And now as we continue in verse 2, Paul's going to transition to
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the females in the church. And he says this in verse two,
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older women as mothers. Here's how you ought to care.
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For and to view the older women in the church and he says
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mothers, this is our relationship to the older women
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in the church. He begins with older women,
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again using that analogy of a mother and a mother who deserves
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honor and respect. That is what we are to give them
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in the church, honor and respect toward the older women.
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This is our Third Point and that third familial relationship that
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we're talking about that Paul is discussing here.
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Proverbs 2322 says listen to your father who gave you life,
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and do not despise your mother when she is old.
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Do not despise your mother when she is old.
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Now we know that it's talking about our earthly mother, but in
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what Paul is teaching here to Timothy, who will then teach
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this to the Ephesians, he is talking about mothers within the
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church, those older women. Now we are to.
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View them with that kind of honor and respect, the same
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honor and respect that we have for our earthly mothers now.
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I know. Again, just as the fathers and
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our day and culture, it's hard for us to understand because we
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don't see that as a position of respect, right?
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But it is many people. Have forgotten the position of
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mother as a position of honor. You would not be here without
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her. Be thankful for that.
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If for no other reason, she deserves that honor.
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And here's how we're to approach the older women in the church
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with honor and respect, seeing them as our mothers.
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And I can tell you this, I didn't have a great relationship
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with my earthly mother. My earthly mother was not a
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follower of Christ, My knowledge.
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Other than maybe a mere profession, I didn't have a
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great relationship with her. But I am.
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Thankful for the mothers that God has raised up in my life, in
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the churches that I have been a part of, those ladies who I have
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been able to honor and to respect as my own mothers.
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Those ladies who have. Cared for me and cared for my
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family and poured in to us far more than they should.
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What I mean by that is there was a time in Arkansas where I
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started a lemon icebox pie competition and it cost me about
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£25, right? Because those mothers in the
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church and one of them made me a lemon icebox pie and I am either
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a lemon icebox or a Key Lime guy.
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I don't like a whole lot of sweet.
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Stuff I like a tart pie, so that's just for free.
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But this lady made me a lemon icebox pie and I told her I made
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a mistake and I said that was the best lemon icebox pie that I
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had ever had. Now, the mistake was not a lie
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because I didn't lie to her. It really was.
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But she went back, obviously, and told the other ladies in the
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church that Pastor Kirk likes lemon icebox pie.
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And he told me that I made the best one that he had ever had.
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So you know what happened to all the moms in that church?
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They were going to prove otherwise.
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So I received. An abundance of lemon icebox
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pies and felt that often at times forced to lie, though I
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never did. But there was a lot of pressure
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to tell all of them that theirs was better than the last.
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However, in that I saw the love and the kindness and the care.
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Those mothers in the church who would just bake a pie or cook a
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pie or whatever you do with a pie, I guess you bake it.
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I would bake a pie and give that to me and to my family.
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Sometimes I would share. And I began to value them and to
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see them as mothers because there were times where I would
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pray for my own mom when she was still alive and I could have a
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godly mom and a mom who loved Christ.
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I never got to see that, and I'm OK with that.
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Lord has healed me. I have come to grips with that.
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But you know what? One day I came to this, that
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where my earthly mother was deficient, God was sufficient
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and he gave me many mothers. And I'm thankful for that.
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I'm thankful for those of you who are here who are older than
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me in life and in faith that you do serve that role in my life.
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And I pray that I would honor you and I would respond to you
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even when I have to correct you. Then I would respond to you
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properly in tenderness because that's what the scriptures
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require of us. If I'm going to honor you and
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respect you as my mother in the church, I have to respond in
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tenderness. Do the respect that you deserve
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that. And that is how I ought to come
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to you even when I am having to correct you, right?
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Maybe there's a theological difference or there is a an
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issue of sin in your life. And from time to time, we as
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pastors just have to do this undertaking.
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We have to correct others. May we do it wisely.
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May we do it as we respond in tenderness, due to the honor
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that the older women in this church deserve and that older
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women in general deserve. He says see them.
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As mothers and honor them just as you would honor your earthly
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mother. God thinks this is important.
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In fact, it is the command that he gives.
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Honor your father and your mother that your days may be
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long upon the earth. It's the command that is
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attached to a promise. So that command applies in our
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familial relationships in the church if we're to show proper
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respect to everyone as Peter commands us to do in First Peter
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chapter 2, verse 17, this surely applies to the older women in
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our congregation, those mothers who pour into us and who love
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us. We should show them that love
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and that honor and that respect in return.
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Paul exemplifies this, doesn't he?
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If you think back with me to Philippians, when we went
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through Philippians verse by verse not too terribly long ago,
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and we saw in chapter 4 a little discrepancy that was going on
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between two women, Yoda and Senta Key.
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And there in Philippians chapter 4, Paul actually shows us how we
Philippians 4 chapter mention
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can respond in tenderness even when there's conflict and
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there's a need for correction. He says, Therefore, my brothers
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and sisters, you whom I love and the Lord and love and long for
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my joy and crown, stand firm in the Lord.
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In this way, dear friends, I plead with Yodia and I plead
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with Sentaki to be of the same mind in the Lord.
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Yes, and I ask you, my true companion, help these women,
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since they have contended at my side in the cause of the gospel,
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along with Clement and the rest of my Co workers whose names are
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in the book of life. You see what Paul does there?
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He responds in complete tenderness to the fact that
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these two ladies. Are causing dysfunction and
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disharmony in the church. And you know what he reminds
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them of? We're all on the same team here.
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He reminds them that you're a Co laborers in Christ with me.
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You're Co laborers in Christ with me and with Clement, with
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those there at the church, at Philippi.
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There's no need for this division.
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So he shows honor and he shows respect while correcting them.
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What wisdom we can glean from that.
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He corrects them while at the same time being tender and kind
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and gracious to them. We are to respond in tenderness,
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and we are to reflect God's grace as we honor and respect.
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The older women in the church as our mothers, what does it mean
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when we show them grace to to graciously honor them above
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ourselves again, So often we think that then they're old,
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they don't matter. They're not not contributing
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much. They're insignificant.
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We forget what God tells us to do.
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He tells us in Romans chapter 12, verse 10 to be devoted.
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To one another in love. Honor one another above
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yourselves, even if that one another is an elderly woman in
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the church. Love her and show honor and
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respect to her, just like you would your earthly mother.
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You can bet Timothy, who received this, who had a
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grandmother and a mother who loved him.
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Paul's already testified to that in his writings.
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You can bet this meant something to him.
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That I am to love these women at Ephesus, to honor and to respect
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them like I honor my mother who raised me and raised me to know
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Christ and to know the word of God, showing them grace,
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constantly treating them as Jesus said what the golden rule,
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the way you want to be treated in Matthew Chapter 7, verse 12.
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Do everything. Do it to others in everything.
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What you would have them do to you.
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This sums up the law and the profits.
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Everything you do. Treat people the way you want to
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be treated. Now I know this when I'm old, I
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don't want treat people treating me as if I'm insignificant and
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can no longer contribute. You already feel like that on
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your own to some degree anyways, the older that you get.
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I know instead what we ought to do as they age.
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We ought to grow in our honor and our respect toward them,
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offering them grace upon grace upon grace, exemplifying God's
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goodness to the body of Christ. Relations 610.
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He says, Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to
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all people, even the elderly, even the elderly women, seeing
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them as our mothers. He says especially to those who
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belong to the family of believers, especially in the
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church, especially here, Paul says to honor and respect and to
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show that honor and respect toward older women.
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We are to view the older women in the church as mothers.
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Our perspective is right that will allow us to give to them
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the proper honor and respect that they deserve.
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Why do they deserve it? Because God says it is a
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position of respect and go back all the way to to, to Exodus
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chapter 20 verse 12. He doesn't say honor your mother
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and father. If they do honorable thing he
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says honor them. And the same goes in the church.
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We're to honor the older women in this church as our own
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mother. Lastly, Paul will here complete
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the family order in the church. He says verse 2, the second part
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and younger women as sisters. He says view the older women as
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mothers and the younger women as sisters with absolute purity.
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So he has said. Be gentle as you encourage the
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older men. Show concern for the younger men
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as if they were your younger brothers.
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Give honor and respect to the older women.
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And now he's saying have moral purity toward younger women.
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Paul now turns to this category of the younger woman, and he
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uses this term absolute purity. You know what Paul's saying?
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He's saying see them as women with all of their femininity and
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all of their emotional weaknesses, acknowledge them as
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women, as sisters, and have 0 inclination or thought as
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pertaining to them sexually. Now, I know that there are many
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churches who they're not even going to entertain even
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discussing this portion of the scripture here.
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They're going to somehow figure out a way to jump over it.
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We're not going to do that. That's why I love about
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expository teaching. You get to it.
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You have to preach it. Here it is.
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What is he saying? That you have to view the
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younger women in the church from a morally pure mindset?
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He gives instruction on how to do that.
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Rightfully viewing them as sisters.
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Rightfully viewing them as sisters.
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Why is this important? It's important because the
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disgusting nature of incest ought to be a deterrent for
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anyone of sound mind in their relations to other and
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especially here younger women. Scripture condemns incest in all
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forms. Leviticus 18-9 it specifically
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says do not have sexual relations with your sister.
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Don't have sexual relations with your sister.
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This is the forbidding of incest.
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It ought to be. Disgusting because it is
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despicable. He's reminding us that no one of
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noble character would ever entertain sexual flirtations or
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make sexual advances on their little sister.
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We would all know that to be disgusting behavior.
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You say, Well, pastor, do you really think that a pastor or
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leader in the church would have a sexual desire toward a younger
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woman? Absolutely.
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Not too long ago, a man that I respected in the Lord, who I
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gleaned from his teaching in his 70s, he had an inappropriate
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relationship with a 27 year old girl simply because he refused
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to see her as a sister. Now I can tell you this, every
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man in this room, every man, I am not an exception.
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Every man in this room could have a sexual temptation.
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Is that not true? He could lust sexually after
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someone else. We all could and we all have.
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And I can tell you this, even in my younger years when I had all
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of these new hormones that I didn't know what to do with and
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and didn't know how to control them, I lusted sexually after
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females. And all of you who were honest
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here today would say, me too. Now, I'm not going to ask you to
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do that because some of you are sitting next to your wives and
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she's going to ask a whole bunch of questions over lunch and you
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don't want to answer. But I have never one single time
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looked at my sister and lusted after her sexually.
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Why? That's not normal.
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So Paul is wanting to make this point, and he's wanting to make
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this point very clear, that if we'll view younger women in the
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church as our little sisters, we will have a whole different take
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on it. If that sexual thought pops into
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our mind, we must rightfully view them as those sisters,
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avoiding that incest within the body of Christ.
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And isn't proper perspective the key to purity in all the?
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Areas of our life, right? If I view sin as sin and I view
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sin as offensive to God, and if I love God, I am going to resist
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that sin because I love God. Why?
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I had the right perspective. So Paul's giving Timothy
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perspective here. He's saying, you know what, yes,
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that younger woman is far more attractive than the older woman
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in the last part of this lesson, and so you're going to be more
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prone to be sexually tempted with her.
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But in absolute purity, see her as your little sister.
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And when you see her as your little sister, things are going
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to change. In your mind you were going to
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see her as a potential for incest, not a potential for self
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satisfaction. Rightfully view them as sisters,
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refusing to entertain any appropriate desires toward them
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at all, he said. Absolute purity.
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That is in thought and in deed. Absolute purity.
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I remember hearing a preacher, I don't remember exactly who the
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preacher is, but I remember hearing a message that was very
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impactful on me as a young minister.
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This preacher shared of an instance where he had a young
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lady, a young married lady in his office and he was actually
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counseling her, giving her marriage counseling.
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And he was just going about his normal business of going through
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the Bible and instructing her on how she used to be the wife that
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she needs to be and helping her through her problems that arise.
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And yes, they do arise, don't they?
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Married couples have problems, and sometimes we have to seek
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the advice of pastors. Now, pastors and leaders in the
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church, please pay attention to this.
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For people who may be a pastor down the road, you know, not yet
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that you're even going to be, that God's going to call you
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into that. And this is a helpful tidbit for
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you that I learned from this man.
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And he said as he was there, he was talking to this girl all of
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a sudden in his sinful mind, because his sinful mind is still
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existing just as mine is, just as yours is.
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He began to notice how beautiful she was and then it went from
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the fact that she was beautiful to sexual faults.
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And as he's telling the story, he said that I couldn't get her
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out of my office quick enough. And he said she left my office.
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I scheduled appointment with her and her husband.
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And he said he cancelled the rest of his appointments that
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day. And he locked himself in his
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office with a sign on his door, do not disturb.
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And he devoted himself the rest of that afternoon to praying
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that God would help him with this lust that he had in his
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flesh. What wisdom we can gain from
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that type of attitude. One who refuses to entertain
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inappropriate desires. That because that's really what
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got King David, isn't it? He looked out on the roof.
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And that was not the first time that he had seen a woman bathing
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out on the roof, but he began to entertain it in his mind.
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Over and over and over again. Then lust took over.
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Then the next thing you know, a man after God's own heart is
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summoning another woman to have sexual relationships with him
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that he is not married to. He commits adultery and we know
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ultimately murder and why? Because he refused to see her as
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the sister that she was. When we see them as.
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Sisters, our whole perspective ought to change.
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It ought to help us to refuse entertaining any appropriate,
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inappropriate, or sexual desires that we may have.
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It ought to cause us to watch our conduct and our conversation
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with younger women closely. Isn't that important?
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Why? So that they don't get the wrong
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idea. Did you notice there are younger
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women in the church who could come to any of our pastors for
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sound advice? I pray that they would find
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sound advice. And we invite you to comment, to
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talk to us about things. But sometimes they get the wrong
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idea. And here's how they get the
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wrong idea. This woman's struggling in her
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home because her husband is not the godly man that she knows
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that he ought to be or that she desires.
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Him to be as I've said it before and I'll say it again, the thing
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that a woman who loves Christ wants more than anything is a
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man who loves Christ she. Didn't care about your muscles.
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She didn't care about your money.
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She wants you to live for Christ.
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And so this woman comes and she doesn't have a man who lives for
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Christ. And then she sees as you're
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counseling her and you're giving her this good advice from the
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Scripture, she sees you as attractive because the one thing
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that's missing from her life is a godly man.
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And then she sees this as an opportunity to have for herself
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a godly man. You think that it doesn't
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happen. It happens all of the time in
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churches. Pastors fall because people have
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the wrong idea. A woman comes with the wrong
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idea. She comes for counseling and he
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goes beyond that and goes to her own.
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Desires for this man of God, and so we have to be very careful of
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that. We have to be very wise in that,
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making sure that we don't relay the wrong message.
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Pastors, in our counseling, what do we need to constantly do?
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When he's the need to constantly point her to Christ and her to
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her husband and her to her husband in Christ, treating her
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as that little sister who no way in the world would we ever
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entertain any kind of impure relationship with her at all.
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Now, I know for some of you this is uncomfortable stuff to talk
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about in the church. And I think because the church
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is so afraid to talk about it, it's an epidemic in the church.
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So we're going to talk about it. We have to refuse to entertain
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any appropriate desires so that no one gets the wrong idea, so
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that the wrong message is not relayed.
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We have to maintain a healthy distance in our interactions
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with the opposite sex, both in conversation and in conduct,
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right? For instance.
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When we think of them as little sisters.
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Is there anything wrong with hugging my sister?
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No, I'm not going to kiss my sister in the mouth, right?
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It's just not going to happen. Now, you might do that.
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That's just weird. I'm not doing that.
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And so it's all about that. Perspective and seeing that so
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that we can watch our conduct, so we we can maintain healthy
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distance, we can maintain a godly relationship.
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So we have to refuse to entertain any appropriate
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desires that we may have. Guys, the worst thing that you
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can do is pretend like you don't have desires.
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When you do have desires, that's the worst thing you can do
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because you know what? You don't address the desire.
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You just pretend like it's not there.
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And things that we pretend like they're not there, those are
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usually the things that sneak up and bite us.
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Acknowledge it and go to the Lord Lord, as that pastor I
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share with you a moment ago, Lord, I have a problem.
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My problem is this. I didn't intend on lusting.
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My sinful flesh began to lust after this woman.
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And instead of being afraid to admit that to a God who already
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knew, he got on his face and said, God, you know, and I need
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your help with this because I cannot resist this on my own.
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And he waited until God supplied him the help that he needed,
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until the Word became alive in his life, until he began to see
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her as a sister again, not as something that would fulfill his
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sexual longing. We have to safeguard ourselves
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from any and all impure temptations and attacks because
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they're real and they do come Job 31, one Job took this
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attitude. He said, I've made a covenant
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with my eyes not to look lustfully after a woman.
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Job knew this by by the time it comes into my eyes, I'm in big
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trouble because it's going to go into my eyes.
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It's going to go into my mind. And if I'm not careful, this is
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going to root in my heart. So jokes and I've made a
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covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully after a woman.
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I don't even want to give it a second glance when I see
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something that I know could lead to this.
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I have to safeguard myself against it.
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I have to resist it. Matthew 26 verse 41.
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The Lord taught, taught it like this.
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He said, watch and praise so that you will not fall into
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temptation. The Spirit is willing, but the
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flesh is weak. Don't think for a second that
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any of you in here, in your flesh are strong enough to
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resist the temptation of sin. And especially for men with
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young women and the temptation to sin sexually, don't think for
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a second that you're above that. None of you are.
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None of us are. Must watch and pray so that we
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will not fall into this temptation.
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Ephesians 611 says for us to put on the full armor of God so that
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you can take your stand against the devil's schemes.
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You think the devil's not scheming against the church
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leadership, trying to get church leaders to think of young women
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as something other than little sisters in the Lord?
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Of course he's scheming. Of course he's plotting.
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He seeks to destroy all that God is doing through His church.
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Therefore, we must see the importance of guarding our own
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hearts. Proverbs 423 It says, above all
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else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
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Protect your heart, because once this temptation seeds in your
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heart, you're in trouble. Psalm 11911 You know what?
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I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin
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against you. It didn't say I've hidden your
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word in my heart that I might not be tempted sexually by a
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younger woman. He said, no, I've hidden your
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word in my heart so that when I am tempted with sin, I won't sin
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against you. And what does this word say
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pertaining to this? See the younger women as
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sisters. So when your mind goes to
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anything sexual, all of a sudden default is now.
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Oh no, gross. That's incest and that's
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despicable behavior and it's unacceptable.
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According to God's Word, set yourself boundaries and rules.
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1st Thessalonians 522 says reject every kind of evil, even
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the appearance of it. Reject every kind of evil.
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Set yourselves boundaries so that you don't do anything that
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could potentially lead to evil or do anything that could
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potentially look like evil. The pastors here, they've all
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been taught when you're meeting with a female by yourself, you
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should close the door and black out the window so that no one
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suspects anything going on. No, should never meet with a
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female behind closed doors. In fact, I'll say this, I won't
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ride with a female who is not my family in a car alone with her.
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I'm sure not going to go to lunch with you.
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It's funny that there are people who actually do that, right?
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We have some salespeople who calling us females.
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Would you like to go to lunch with me?
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Absolutely not. I don't want to go to lunch with
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a female. Why?
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Because I'm not above temptation.
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But besides that, it appears to others as something that could
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be potentially. Evil.
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We have to avoid that, and leadership has to take that
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seriously and to safeguard themselves, setting biblical and
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realistic and wise boundaries. And then as we refuse to
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entertain appropriate, inappropriate desires, we have
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to constantly be mortifying any impure thought or lustful desire
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that should come about. If lustful thoughts happen,
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don't be surprised if they do. Let me say that again.
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Don't be surprised if they do. That's it causes to long for
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glorification all the more. I'll be thankful when these
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thoughts are no more, but when they do and if they go unchecked
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as they did in the life. Of David, you can rest assured
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that more often than not, they're going to lead to sin,
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and so safeguard yourself by mortifying your impure desires
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the moment that you have them. 2nd Corinthians 10 verse 5.
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What does it say to do? Take every thought.
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Captive. Take every thought captive to
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make it obedient to Christ. And what does that look like in
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looking at First Timothy 5 verse 2 when you have that lustful
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thought? Take that thought captive.
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Process it. This is not from my new nature,
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this is from my flesh. And I must die to my flesh.
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I must crucify my flesh. This person that I had this
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thought about is my sister in Christ.
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Take that thought captive. Make it obedient to Christ.
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Christ, I'm going to obey you. I need strength from your
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spirit. You said that sounds like you're
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admitting weakness. You are.
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Stop thinking that you're strong.
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He who thinks he stand, take heed lest he fall.
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When that thought enters your mind, remember this.
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You're capable of fulfilling that thought.
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Run to God and say God, I cannot do this on my own.
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Let me see this woman as a little sister.
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Let me avoid incest and impurity in any way.
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Why? Because that's what Your Word
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says that I am to do. Guard your hearts and your minds
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in Christ Jesus, taking every thought captive, making it
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submit an obedience to. Christ Galatians 516 says this.
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It says so. I say walk by the Spirit.
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And you will not have any desires of the flesh.
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It doesn't say that. It says walk by the Spirit and
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you will not gratify or fulfill the desires of your flesh as
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long as you are in this earthly tent, this fleshly vessel it is
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going to have. Desires.
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What should you do? Walk in the Spirit and if you
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walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lust of your flesh,
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but you will fulfill the will of God as you take every thought
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captive, making it obedient to Christ, mortifying the impurity
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and the impure thoughts and lust of your flesh, taking them
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captive, crucifying your sinful desires.
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Galatians 516 says it, Walk in the Spirit, you won't fulfill
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the lust of your flesh. Colossians 35 gives us
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instruction. To put to death, therefore
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whatever belongs to your earthly nature.
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What's the things that belong to your earthly nature?
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In case you think you're above this sexual immorality,
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impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.
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All of the things that we would think of as despicable, our
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flesh is capable of leading us into.
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So we can't give any room to the flesh.
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We must put it to death and then we must do as Paul says in
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Romans 13, verse 14. He says rather, instead of
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entertaining your flesh, he says, rather clothe yourselves
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with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not.
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Think about how to. Gratify the desires of the
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flesh. Don't think about how you can
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gratify the desires of the flesh.
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Remember when you were lost and all you had was your flesh, and
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you would think of new ways to gratify your flesh.
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How can I gratify my earthly cravings?
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How can I make this happen? Paul Giving.
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Instruction to the church instead of that because you've
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been freed from that life, he says.
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Clothe yourself with the Lord Jesus Christ and don't think
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about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.
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What are you to do? You're to focus on Christ, to
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fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and the perfecter of your
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faith. Walk and moral purity in your
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life, especially in regard to what he's saying here, moral
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purity toward younger women in the church.
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And so may we have that proper view, and may that proper view
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of younger women in the congregation direct our
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relationships with them as our sisters in Christ.
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I receive them for what God says that they are.
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And may that deter us from any temptation to go outside of
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God's will and to enter into a wrongful sexual relationship
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with them, whether that's just sexually in the nature of
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flirtation, or if that is further deviation into sexual
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immorality and adultery. Let us be aware of that.
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Let us be safeguarding ourselves and wise and handling these
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things. So Paul has outlined for us the
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family of God. And how do we care for the
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family of God? Even in our correction and our
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reducing and our counseling, What are we to do?
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But we're to gently encourage the older men, to not rebuke
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them harshly or have concern for younger men, as we have for
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younger brothers. We're to honor and respect older
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women as our mothers. We're to have moral purity
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toward the younger women in the church.
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That's our responsibility as leaders.
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I told you as we open this morning, hold us to this.
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This is our responsibility as leaders.
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But it's also your responsibility in your life to
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view each element of the church the way that you ought to view
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it so that you don't fall into any sin or any temptation.
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So to the leader here today, any of our pastors that are present,
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any of our elders, any of our reach group leaders, I pray that
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you pay attention to this. I pray that you obey the truths
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that we have seen today. May that even in leading a
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reach. Group, you would gently
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encourage the older men, even when they get it wrong and you
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have to correct them. Do it gently and you would see
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that younger man who's struggling, not as a young kid
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who just can't get it right. Just seem as that younger
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brother where you once were. You'll give him that direction.
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To that older woman in your group who is hard sometimes to
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deal with, I pray that you see her as your own mother.
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You remember the words of Christ when he spoke to John and he
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pointed to his own mother as Christ was leaving this earth.
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And he said, here is your mother, here's your son, take
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care of her like your own mother.
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And then to the younger women, don't think for a second that
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you're above temptation. Make sure that that relationship
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is morally pure as the word of God has demanded to the believer
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here. Accept nothing less your life
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and from the lives of your leaders to the unbeliever.
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Perhaps you realized today talking about all these family
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terms that you're just not part of the family.
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You're not, You're not part of the family of God.
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And I want to make that very clear in a day, in an age where
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people say that we're all just children of God, you're not.
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You must be adopted into this family and you're adopted into
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this family only through the sacrifice of the Lord Jesus
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Christ. Now I pray today that you who
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are an illegitimate child wandering through the world, a
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son of Satan and the Son of sin, see your great need because you
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are a Sinner and you need to be forgiven and washed clean clean
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of your sin, to be cleansed from head to toe, inside and out
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through the precious blood of Jesus Christ.
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I pray that you see your need for that today, that God in His
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mercy and His grace would do only what God can do, and that
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is to turn your sinful, unbelieving heart unto Him.
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That He would give you faith to believe, and that belief would
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be marked by true repentance. As you turn away from sin and
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unbelief and you turn to Christ. I can promise you this, Everyone
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who turns to Christ, whosoever shall call upon the name of the
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Lord, shall be saved. I preach today.
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And if God would grant you that grace, that God would grant you
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that mercy, that you would obediently follow Christ as your
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Lord and Savior and be saved, saved forevermore.
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Let's pray together. Father, in the name of Jesus, we
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thank you so much for your word. We thank you, Lord, that it
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doesn't have to be entertaining, It doesn't have to be exciting.
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It's true. What I pray that today truth
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would hit us or it needs to hit us, that Your word would do
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exactly what You have designed Your Word to do for this
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specific service at this specific church, at this
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specific time, for Your glory and for Your honor.
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But I pray if there'd be someone here who does not know Christ,
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that you would graciously draw them to yourself to receive
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mercy and forgiveness today. We'll be careful, careful to
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give you all the praise for it. We pray these things in Christ's
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name. Amen.
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