Kingdom Honor - Part 2

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Now enjoyed this message. Now, I want to continue in those

laws tonight. Romans chapter 13 verse 7.

Romans 13:7

It says a lot, but we want to key in on the last part of this.

All right, says render to all What is due them and there are

things here but I want to do the last one, honor to whom honor.

Okay, honor to whom honor is due.

All right, so we want to render to all who honor to whom honor

is due. And last week, we talked about

God, he deserves the honor in first Timothy chapter 1, verse

1 Timothy 1:17

17. It says, now to the king

Eternal. Is he a king?

Most people know him as Savior Jesus, but Jesus is the king

only because Adam fell from demean or ate the fruit.

Jesus had to show up as a savior prior to that.

He's always been King. Lord, he's always been royalty.

And so that to the king, Eternal Immortal invisible, the only God

be good honor and Glory forever and ever.

Amen. And so we saw last week, you

know, that God deserves all of our Glory can an honor with all

that. He's done for us for Humanity,

right? And man, when you just think

about what God's done and we shared a head, few people share

some testimonies last week because, you know, there was

some honor towards God because what he has done in their lives.

Amen. And we did that, because to

honor God, one way to honor, God is found in Psalms 50, verse 23.

Psalms 50:23

It says he who offers a sacrifice of Thanksgiving honors

me, And to him who orders his way.

A right. I will show the salvation of

God, so we should honor God with our words with our lips.

Right? Obviously with our lifestyle and

God deserves all of our. He is the first and foremost

that we should honor first. Pride, Numero Uno.

Correct? He is the one that we should

honor the most. Now, in our kingdom is to class,

we said last week and our class life of Honor, we teach this

honor is the key to submission, which is Hard to walk in

authority. Honor is the key to submission,

which is required to walk in authority.

If you're going to walk in any Authority, you're going to be

under something first. All right, on or simply means

something. So valuable that it is held as

precious prize cherished, treasured valuable and very

dear. In essence, if honor is given to

something or someone it or they will be seen as valuable or Or

Irreplaceable. And so we posed the question,

well, how, how valuable is God to you?

How valuable right. And, you know, the Bible lets us

know and ones instance. Jesus said the Kingdom of

Heaven, is like a man who found a field with a great treasure.

In it, sold everything he had to buy the field, right?

So, in essence, when we honor, God, we've got a sellout in

essence. We've got to give our all And,

you know, that takes some time to look at ourselves because,

you know, sometimes we come into this relationship with the Lord.

Not now, not an honor basis, but on a, get out of hell basis, you

know, I don't want to go to hell, for everything I've done

wrong, and if Jesus Paid the price great, I'm glad he did it

because I don't want to go now. It's not because we honor that

Right. I mean you have paid meals for

people and they didn't honor you for it.

I mean, I'll be honest with you, your kids sometimes don't

appreciate the gifts you give them.

You know, you buy it, you give it to him, and they're like, oh

great and then 10 minutes later, you know that I'm playing with

it. Right?

Are they don't say this. Thank you.

What you got? Give me Dad.

Wow, to the next one. You're like, where's honor in

this? Amen.

So his honors something, you know, that's really lost in one

sense, because again, we love our individuality amen.

We love our opinions and I heard one Minister just recently, say

that one of the biggest challenges with the, the

generation coming up, is they hold too much value on their own

opinion? In essence, they honor what they

say more than what he says. Amen.

And so we want to be able to honor the Lord, right?

So Jesus said in John chapter 5 verse 23, he says so that all

John 5:23

will honor the son even as they honor the father, he who does

not honor. The son, does not honor, the

father who sent him. I say that because again, Jesus

obviously is dealing with people who are religious, people who

say they're honoring the father but they are not honoring Jesus.

At all. Which means they don't

understand the father. Okay?

And last week, you know, a lot of times last week, we said you

can think you're honoring God and not be.

And we want to make sure that there are things within the

Bible that talks about honoring that we are doing those things,

because a lot of times we just, you know, individualize so much

this relationship with God, that we really kind.

Despise are brothers. I mean fact if I just be honest

because you know, it's like I don't really care about you.

I'm going to just be with me and God, that's all that matters.

Well that's not all the what that matters it matters but it's

not all that matters. It's not all that matters, but

we want to kind of, you know. Well, I'm right with god.

Well, I'm going to heaven. Well, God understands me.

God knows my heart. Yeah, he does.

And he knows every place that you can improve.

Right? Because if your heart was like,

he is then it would he, you would do what he does in

everything. Okay.

So, Jesus, obviously, honor, the father by keeping his word.

He said I don't do anything on my own initiative.

All I do is do what the father says, but the father didn't just

have, Jesus come up to the mountain and sing to me.

Okay, Jesus did not go up and pray and stay and then come down

to the rest of the people. Man, I just had a great meeting

with the father. It's amazing, this personal

relationship. I have with him, if you only

could have been on the mountain with me.

I mean I was laid out in the spirit for hours.

I mean, I got so excited one time.

I just ran around the mountain. Y'all weren't there but it was

awesome, right? I mean there's one night, man.

It's the power of God came on me and I just shout to the top of

my lungs, but y'all were asleep. This relationship.

I have with him is awesome. But notice, every time he went

back the father had assignments. So I need you to do this for

this person and for this person. So obviously this personal

relationship is not just about you.

At all. Because if it was, Jesus would

have stayed on the mountain until it was time for the cross,

okay? Think about it.

Why would he have to heal anybody?

Feed anybody? Deliver anybody?

I'll just stay up here, just me and my father got a great

relationship going and then there's going to come a day, I'm

gonna just come down, they're gonna throw me on the cross.

I must shed my blood for you so that you can individually have a

relationship with my father. And then y'all figure it out on

your own. You and him, right?

If you need your mom renewed, he'll do it.

If you need to be healed, he'll do it.

If you need to be. Right.

So obviously, he honor the father by doing things for

others. So, there are some

relationships, then that have honor associated with them.

Right. So again Jesus said again, look

at this John 5:23 so that all will honor the son even as they

John 5:23

honor the father, he who does not honor.

The son does not honor, the father who sent him, well, who's

the son just to remind us John 1:1 in.

John 1:1

The beginning was the word and the Word was with God and the

Word was God verse 14 to the same.

And the word became flesh and dwelt among us.

And we saw his glory glory, as the only begotten of the father,

full of grace and truth. So who is the word that became

flesh? What's his name?

Come on. What's his name?

His name is Jesus. Jesus is the son of God.

So if we're going to honor the sun then we have to honor his

word. And the word of God which is

Genesis 1:1 to Revelations, 22:21 was inspired by the Holy

Genesis 1:1

Spirit who does not speak on his own initiative, but only what

Jesus tells him. So when he spoke or moved upon

men to pin things accurate historical accounts, Right.

I mean, there's all kinds of stuff contained within the

scripture. There's geography, archaeology,

there's poetry. I mean, when he had him pinned,

these particular things and then we get into just things Jesus

said, prophecies, then we get the account of his own personal

life. Then he talks about how the

church all that was inspired by the Holy Spirit.

They came from Jesus, which means than his word is to be

followed. And so anything contained within

scripture, then if we do that, it gives us the ability to begin

to honor the son. Cuz we're doing the word, right?

Okay. So John chapter 12 verse 26,

John 12:26

says it this way, if anyone serves me, Jesus says, he must

follow me. Well, we can't physically follow

him, can we? I mean, physically, Jesus is not

physically present in the room where Jesus starts going this

way. And I like, seeing and start

walking with him. And I do, you know what?

Jesus will you see the holes in his hand and his feet?

I mean, I know it's Jesus, right?

No. I mean, we're not physically

following him, so, how, what does he mean?

He says, if anyone follows, he says, if anyone that's not

limited to, who was in the space of time, when he was walking on

the planet, it's obviously following him at his word.

If anyone serves me, he must follow me.

Where I am there. My servant will be also

Hallelujah. Because Jesus with the kingdom,

if anyone serves me the father, what will he do?

Well, honor him. So if we want to receive honor

Then we are to serve Jesus. if we want the father to see us as

Valuable and irreplaceable which means you got to change your

mindset and quit. Seeing yourself as were unworthy

and worthless. Now, again, if you're not

serving Jesus that's probably why you feel that way.

But when you serve him, then all of a sudden, the father honors,

you and begins to talk about your value.

Especially in Christ. And you realize how valuable you

are to God. Now, you're not God, but God

values you and there's nothing like being a relationship.

When there's a shared value. Mean, who wants to be in the

relationship? Where the one person knows?

They don't give a rip about me but they're my world.

That's a lopsided relationship Ron.

Amen. So again if we're like man we

love the father. But what's why would he love

anyone? Like me, he honors you you're

valuable to him and he highly esteems you especially when

you're serving the sun. Are you hearing me?

So then there are other things within the Bible that they the,

the scripture tells us that we are to demonstrate, honor mean

we are to place value on. We should see it as precious.

Yes. The problem is a lot of the

institutions that I'm going to talk about in the realm of

relationship has had such an attack on it that most people

don't know how to function with honor in it.

But if we're going to really allow honor to be a part of our

lives and the sphere of influence we have and then have

the father honor us, then we must honor these relationships

and the first one is outlined in Exodus.

Right, Exodus 20:12 which tells us that honoring God is our

Exodus 20:12

number one, but when you honor, God, you'll honor the other

relationships. That's what I'm saying.

And then I'll explain a little bit more because I've had a few

people. Come up to me in years in the

years that I've ministered here and they perplexed about this

particular one, but we're going to set some things straight

tonight. Okay, honor your father and your

mother. That your days may be prolonged

in the land which the Lord your God gives you.

So we are to honor our mother and our father.

We are deceived mom and dad as valuable precious to be

cherished. Now, the minute I say that, I

understand not everybody's father or mother for that

matter. Functioned as Godly So again,

when God begins to speak, he doesn't always communicate

individuals. What do I mean by that?

He says the nation of Israel is mine.

Well, you know how many citizens have been in the nation of

Israel and you know, there are some citizens that will be

thrown into the Lake of Fire. Not because God wants them there

but it's because they did not do, but as far as Israel's

concern it is still exist. Well you understand fathers and

mothers exist so we should honor that there's fathers and

mothers. Now, your own personal ones,

there is a way to honor them, even if they're unrighteous We

are not to honor just because of righteousness sake but even

more. So when the righteousness is in

play, don't get me wrong. But there is even a way to honor

even when those in those roles are not living as God designed

them to live. Okay, we'll see a little bit

more here in Ephesians chapter 6.

Ephesians 6 · chapter mention

Verse 1, through 3, it says that this way children obey, your

parents in the Lord For this is what this is, right?

Honor your father and your mother, which is the first

commandment with a promise, so that it may be well with you and

that you may live long on the earth.

Now, I want to leave this up here for a minute because this

help explain a few things. Okay?

So if your mom and dad are unrighteous, you can still honor

them through and simple Act of obedience but the obedience is

qualified. Obey your parents.

How how, in the Lord? Now what does that mean?

That means God who was the one, you honor.

First you do not honor your natural father or natural

mother. If they're asking you to obey

something unrighteous, that's not honoring them.

Because it's violating your first honor which is God at the

end of the day, I cannot do what you're asking me.

Because you're violating me. Honoring God, So God's never

asking a child to honor his mother and father at the expense

of sinning. Is that clear?

Okay, this is very important. I just recently talked with

someone who was like, you know, my parents, you know, don't

really want me to engage in church, you know, because they

don't really believe in it, you know.

But so I'm struggling with honor.

My mother and father, I said this is not a struggle.

You go to church because you honor God first and you're

honoring them by being righteous and holy and there's other

things you can do for your parents.

Are you hearing me? Jesus, kind of gives us a little

insight of things we shouldn't do, because when you did this,

there was a result now, look at how Jesus kind of sum this up in

Matthew 15 for, he said it this way for God, said, honor your

father, your mother, and, and he, who speaks evil of father,

or mother is to be put to death. So, one way that you honor, your

parents is never to talk bad about it.

Even if they're bad. Hallelujah.

One way to demonstrate honor is just a still serve them.

Right, what can I get? Can I get you something?

Do you need me to do this for you?

Can I help you? Pick something up today.

Whatever the case may be, whatever that situation could

happen where you are trying to serve them, you're trying to

help them out. But at the end of the day, if

they're pressuring you and you know, doing you shouldn't be

talking about them behind your back is spat behind their back,

especially among your siblings. Now simple across the board.

If they are asking you to do stuff that's not a sin issue,

like take the trash out. Right.

Then, that's just a pretty simple fact, easy thing for a

child to be to say, yes, sir or if you're raised from a

different geographical location, and yes, is fine.

Yes, Father. I will take out the trash, then

that's honoring. Why?

Cause you're just doing the simple request.

Amen. When we don't and we rebelled,

That's not honor. Now taking out the trash and I'm

just being a little example. Okay, doesn't take away your

individuality. It's amazing how many young

people when I say young, I'm talking Elementary teenage and

then young adults, that still live at the house with the

parents. Okay.

That all of a sudden want to take size over there on

individual expression, and not be told anything.

Come on. That's yeah.

Remember when my oldest son was a little bit older and you know,

he was had graduated and you know, he worked, you know, but

he really didn't have to pay anything at the house.

You know. I wouldn't ask him to pay me

anything but you know it kind of came and gone and did you know

really what he wanted to do is like free room and board and

then doing what you want and I realize this isn't going to work

so I was navigating my Transition relationship, where I

realize I want you to make choices but you're still under

my roof. And I'm not your slave that pays

for all your stuff and clean your room.

And takes out your trash. Right.

So, if, if we need to go there where you can make your own

choice, then it's time to move. I mean, there are certain areas

that you're still going to be subject to.

I'm not picking your clothes out every day.

Right? There was a time that was done.

I mean you're not losing your individuality in that but just

common courtesy Man, I'm not the professional dishwasher.

That when you put your stuff in the sink that I have to come

behind now. Do I do it?

Can I do it? Yes, but that's not the point.

And you know what? With children as they get older,

they've been served by their parents for so long.

They'd sometimes don't know how to flip the switch and say, man,

I should be serving them. because it's, honorable, I said,

it's honorable, is it convenient all the time?

No. Now when you get out of the

house and the parents start calling, that's not convenient,

it's not convenient. All I know my mom when she

lifts, you know, here in town, sometimes she would call me.

And I'm like, it was not a convenient time, but I would

like navigate through it. Okay?

What is it that we need? I remember one time.

My mom call me for this. Can you get me a Coke?

I mean I'm just trying to save the world right now, my mom.

I'm like okay yeah well here's my schedule.

Can I do it here? Yeah, that'd be fine.

So now I get another thing but it's a small thing but in my

mind I'm like well I'll I mean I'll do it for Mom.

You know, she don't drink any more coats at my house, though.

Cokes are gone, right? Amen.

Maybe they weren't good for health.

So, we're done with coax. So do not buy my mom, a Coke,

you're not honoring your pastor, and we'll talk about that next

week. All right, so we need to always

speak. Well, now, that doesn't mean you

can't have factual conversations about things going on with your

parents. But if you're speaking with

intent, your heart to cut them down to make them seem like

something's wrong with them. They're beneath your speaking

evil up, in fact, in the old Covenant, those people were put

to death So the one reason why we lose an institution of honor

is because we're not keeping it in the house.

And let me just say it this way, you can't tell me.

You're honoring a father. You can't see if you can't honor

a father, you can period. You're a liar.

You're a liar. You have to be able to honor.

Naturally. Because they're in your face.

And there's ways to do it now again, you are never to obey

your parents into sin. Shouldn't do it.

But you definitely can show other signs of honoring them in

other ways, right? Taking them out to launch, doing

stuff for them, cutting their grass, whatever.

You know, and I've told my mom before, she's like, well, you

know, she calls me, Earl Wayne. When my mental neck of my dad's

name was actually Enoch. He didn't care for it.

So he went by ew. And if anyone ever asks him

what? Ew stood for.

He said, Earl Wayne. So when I was born he didn't

want me to have Enoch which would it be cool if he did on?

I was a pastor. Right, cuz I could be another

Enoch that was caught up. And never died on the earth.

That would be like, super cool. But okay, Dad, I forgive you.

So he said, I'll give you my initial so he gave me Earl

Wayne. So obviously I was smaller than

my dead as a child, so, you know, there would be Earl and

Little Earl, but the problem with little Earl and I am little

in one sense, right? But I actually have some family

members on my dad's side that are little So they were called

the little people when they grew up, actually the tallest male on

my dad's mother side is 5 foot two.

The tallest one. My grandmother was four foot

eleven. Yeah.

So my mom was like, well what if he takes after your mom's

family? And I got some cousins that are

smaller than I am. Right?

And I'm not even big God, but I feel like a giant among my

family anyway, so, you know, they just called me Earl Wayne

instead so I am Earl Wayne to my mom, you're not my mom.

So don't call me that. Okay.

Anyway, So I don't know why I said all that, I had a great

story. She said, Earl Wayne.

She needs me to do something for I know and I'll figure out what

that story is here in a bit. You know.

Erlang. Can you?

Yes, Mom, I'll do it. That's the moral of the story.

So whatever it was, it was great.

All right, so we need to honor our parents.

Amen. She asked me to take her to the

cemetery, the other day, my dad, my brother passed away already,

you know? So we took a trip, you know, I

mean I give you 100,000 reasons why I should not go there

100,000 other reasons, you know. But sometimes you just have to

say you know, just got to do it and it's honorable amen.

And you know, the Lord knows that and if I'll honor whom God

tells me to honor, then he's going to on Me, Hallelujah, I'll

be honest with you. I'm Not sewing.

So my kids have talked bad about me.

What say that again? I'm Not sewing.

So my kids at talk bad about me. I'm not doing it.

I just want you to understand the law of sowing and reaping is

always in play, whatever, man, soweth that he will surely reap.

So I recognize that. So I want a soul of compassion,

Mercy, right? I want to show show show so

honor to my parents, as they get older because at the end of the

day, you know, I don't want to be left somewhere.

All right. Amen.

So we need to honor if we break down the into stitute sessions

in the home, then it will affect how we honor, father God and has

it not been attacked, right? I mean, there was a time mother

mother and father was easy thing to say.

But you know, in this in this room alone, many of you are May

raise without one of your parents.

Or step parents, you know, a dynamic that's different.

Okay. The majority of people are in a

blended family, Right. So again when you say, honor

your mother and father, and some of you can honor a father that

didn't give birth to you more. So because of how they rate and

there's nothing wrong with that. Because again, Jesus said this,

who was my mother and my brothers and sisters, those who

do the will of my father. So, he qualified some things,

you know, it's amazing. How many people get bent out?

I'm talking like, in Rebellion, because they're trying to find a

donor A reproductive donor. That was never around to try to

find their identity. Now, I don't have a problem with

you if your heart is because you need to show them.

God. But finding the person who

helped create you naturally is not going to set you free.

It will Echo rejection. It definitely will do that.

Now again, if you need to go and Lord telling you to go up to

tell him, I forgive you to help set something free, some things

and get motion something great, but if it's like, you can't be

complete till, you know, whoever helped make you or who's never

around and you know who it is, but they don't ever call you.

Well, I'm just trying to honor him.

You honor them by not talking about and if you've reached out

and they don't want anything to do with you, then you can go on.

And you're not dishonorable by trying to do birthdays and show

them your grandkids and your kids.

Now, you don't have to do that. It's amazing.

How many people will rebel against a loving family unit to

try to find someone that's never been around.

And that, like gods in that, I give you a case where God got

into play to pull one of Marcy's, family members back

towards her, and all she did was like, Lord, I'm praying for my

family to get, right? And we didn't realize we had a

particular family member, but God brought him around.

Didn't even have to hunt him down.

Didn't even know that there was a hunt.

And that context. Okay, not the Hunts here.

You understand him, Sam. All right.

Amen. So let's honor our parents.

Next one is marriage. Okay, come on.

Stay With Me. Please stay with me, Hebrews

Hebrews 13:4

13:4. I really want to just kind of

press through these families and get to next week, okay, but I

don't have to, we can shut it down.

If we need to Hebrews 13:4, says, marriage is to be held in

Hebrews 13:4

among all. And the mayor's bet is to be

undefiled for fornicators and adulterers, God will judge.

That's going to happen, Okay? So if you've ever fallen under

the fornicator, adultery or category repent, so that the

blood can get under it over it and we're past it and then keep

yourself pure. Are you hearing me, okay?

So the mayor's bed is to be are the marriages to be held in

honor, among all. Now, the reason I go here, It is

because you understand mother and father are married.

So this why marriage has to be above, but most of us we Engage

The Honor aspect nationally through our parent relationship.

None of us come out of the womb married Okay, so there's that

aspect, that we get to have an opportunity to honor something.

But then and let me just say it this way.

I don't care and neither does God.

That you had crappy parents that did not demonstrate God kind of

stuff because that doesn't Define you although it can put

things in you that you're acting out.

You're responding because it's kind of like subconsciously a

part of your makeup because you've washed it be modeled for

years. And you seek in your childhood

that's normal but it's not when you find the word and the word

is a tool enough alone to show you the right way to do it.

Are you hearing me? There's a particular book that

we had our staff go through and then I had some extended layers

of leadership go through. It's very clinical book but it

kind of takes you back to your childhood.

And man it was rough for some people.

Why? Because it uncovered some

actions and attitudes. Now I had a lot of deniers

initially when they go through the book, they like denying that

ain't me but they can't point out their spouse or somebody

else. Easy.

So, I had a ghost, do not look for your spouse in the book.

This is a inspection of yourself, okay?

So, maybe how we can clearly identify everybody.

I mean, we are clearly able to identify everybody else's

problems and again, I don't have a problem with you identifying a

problem. Even the Bible doesn't says,

look if you before you go and take the speck out of your

brother's eye, which he's not rebuking and saying you can't

see the speck but there is a log that you need to deal with

first. So let's deal with your lock,

right? Because there's more to that

spec then you might know. So let's get your log out of the

way, all right? And so we took some Time to go

through that. But I'd, it doesn't matter what

your past is in Christ. You're a whole new species of

being and the word will transform the way you respond in

any situation. So you can't cop out and say,

well, my mom and dad or my, you know, absentee father or my I

was raised by my grandma or this, you can't do that.

Well my dad treated my mom that way.

Well, your heavenly father. Sure doesn't treat people like

that and that's the one you supposed to go after.

So at the end of the day, we can find ourselves in these pages so

that we can function. The way God wanted us to

function. But in that we have to come to

grips with ourselves. Now it's amazing that I had a

unequally yoked household growing up.

I had a father that was not born again.

All right. And I had a mom that was she

took us to church. He did not, he worked and he

drank and he smoked and he was in Rebellion.

Okay, really to his own parents. Not to us now.

He loved me like he thought he should love me.

And I never feel like he did anything really bad growing up.

Now when I put him to the word I'm like man, my dad was a mess.

Right. But I don't have any horror

stories about my dad. My dad with me, maybe 5 times.

Didn't we ever want to get wet buying because they hurt more

than my mom, right? And that was enough to know,

don't want that? And when Mom said, I'm telling

your dad, when he comes home, man, that was bad day, that's a

bad day and you're like, asking for Mercy, right?

They've em. I mean, in, he only had to do

like one or two. That was it, you know, and when

my dad get Too far over in his alcohol, he go to sleep.

So I didn't have an abusive father and that context and the

best drunk ever. I mean, I did, you know, my dad

who, you know, drank took me to the bar.

Okay, and I learned to play pool there.

When I was only tall enough to get on one of those wood and

Coca-Cola crates and stand on it to see over the pool table, to

play pool, he drank beer, I drank you whose Amen.

And there came later. Awesome times.

That I drove home. On the side roads.

Right. I knew my Dad loved me, how he

knew to love me. but when I look at what he could have been, but

that doesn't Define me and I don't resent him at the end of

the day because he should have never defined me anyway.

Now, my mom raised me in church but at the end of the day, she

doesn't Define me either. Now, your story may be way worse

than mine. That shouldn't Define you.

Scripture should, so then you need to make sure your marriage

is not a product of what you seen from your parents or lack

thereof. Marriage is to be honored among

all. And since God is the one who

instituted it in the first place you'll find it in Genesis

Genesis 2 · chapter mention

chapter 2. God brought the woman to the

man. And he said that's a woman,

right? He said they would become, he

would leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife.

Cling to his wife and they become one flesh, right?

And it's to Hell among honor but we don't honor marriage.

I mean, in our society, today not even among the church.

Right. I mean people take the benefits

of marriage before they ever say I do.

But you're not getting the benefits of marriage.

You're getting a thing called sin and it's a cheap substitute.

I mean, when I do marriage counseling, I always have to ask

question, have you been with anybody?

I asked the question have you. It's kind of personal, I don't

care. You know why?

Because all the sex you had before you say I do the

environment. There is different than the

environment after I do. Because the environment of sex

before marriage is called sin. That's an environment.

There's something about it. That pool is it feels good, but

there's an environment there. See, when you say I do now

you're under a holy thing and the environments different.

You know, what the devil to do, when the environment of holy

comes in, when you don't recognize, you don't grow as a

Believer, he'll start courting you back.

Remember how it used to be and how it used to feel and how it

used to? Well, you can only get a pre

marriage six and barment after you're married in a Thing Called

adultery, Now, all of a sudden we don't love our spouse.

This next person, all of a sudden is giving me that

environment I used to have when I was a fornicator.

Okay, I'm preaching better and you are saying, but that's fun.

See, this is why some people won't sleep with her husband's

now. Or vice versa is because they

are stuck in an environment that was ungodly.

But now you're in an I do Under the Lord and he wants to bless

that thing. I just tell you right now, I

refuse to have a lost person. Be able to have sex more than a

believer. Yep, it's crazy.

I mean I am ordained by God. And the holdout that's happening

in the marriage. Covenant is crazy.

Okay, well, I don't feel like it.

I don't feel like living by faith but I do.

Cuz I don't go by the way. I feel Okay.

Y'all don't want to hear? No, I want to talk about

marriage. Y'all just want me to talk about

something else. You don't me to come to your

bedroom. That's what it is.

See when a wife is doing something.

When they don't feel like it there at like it's a problem.

No, it's called honor. Just read First Corinthians 7.

I mean, the minute you said I do it was an open exchange that no

longer your body is yours and my body is mine.

Now, I understand, it's crazy. I get it.

Because, again, you listen to society instead of read the

Bible, And because so many people have done it outside the

marriage covenant, they think that feeling of wanting is like

something's wrong on the inside. Okay.

Hallelujah. I mean if you're a wife and

you're like, look man, my husband's like all that you need

to get it together and vice versa, he said, oh that's easy

for a man to say they always what guys don't always want it.

So that's a lie in and of itself. and again, if you track

natural biology guys, Peak at a certain time when they're a

certain age, and then women Peak later, Some of the men right

now. We're going to please pick,

honey. Please pick.

I get it. But all of a sudden, here's the

problem. The first part of your marriage.

You weren't in Peak mode, in the husband was like, come on.

What are you doing? Let's go.

We're married, man. Come on.

I love you. You're like all you listen.

I mean unless you love me. Then why we have to do it's a

natural progression. Right?

It is a natural progression. You shouldn't feel ashamed

because I tell you, I love you. I touch you.

I clean. We do whatever your love

language is if you believe in the love languages.

Okay. Then at the end of the day,

there can be a natural progression to that form of

intimacy, which the Bible had as a type and Shadow of Christ.

And the church I mean, I got husbands and wives wanting to

get into the presence of God layout in the spirit, but won't

lay out in front of their spouse.

And you got to get over yourself too.

Oh yes, we better go. You better go.

We're gonna turn this into a marriage.

Say, well, I'm single Pastor would then don't get married

until you're ready because if you can't stand out and show

yourself to your husband, say, come on.

And you got a problem with that because all the lights of God be

off. If you don't want, you got us a

problem. Eve had to walk around in the

day. I do not believe God brought her

there at night. He's like, man.

In fact, he only wanted her covered up after sin, but now we

let in the world at like, you know they hanging everything out

all the way down at the beach and then we got Sanctified, Holy

Ghost, filled, people who like turn off all the what is wrong.

the only things wrong is that you're insecure with how you

look but your spouse isn't because again if we're that

shallow that I'm only married for your skin suit.

Well then I'm like the rest of the world.

Anyway. I'm not saying don't take care

of yourself. I'm just saying at the end of

the day, boy, I'm telling you right now.

I tell my wife, you know, because as we get older and then

you hear of, you know, older guys failing with younger

people, you know, she'll say, she'll say and I'll say, listen,

there is no way on God's green earth that I would ever be with

anybody. But you because number one, you

have tested faith. I mean to waste Just the

ministry on some tights. Can something that ain't pass

one step of faith, that all hang on, through one trial, one

trivia. I mean, that's like a waste of

my time. I mean, it's a sin against God,

first and foremost anyway, but at the end of the day, why would

I risk everything on something like that?

When the reality is, that's not even them.

They're inside. That's who I'm looking at.

My wife told me, I'll never marry after you.

I know why. And I've said this a forget it

I'm not not doing it. I think my my kids don't my

wife. Does she like you couldn't do it

alone? Okay.

I just honor you that much. Because a lot of times, you

know, when you love to be with someone love to be connected.

I meant now when I was younger, it was very difficult to just

hold her urine arms, do not want to go all the way through as I

get older. That's easier. because, again,

you've gone through stuffing realize, you know what, it's

okay to not have to our go there, but if we did, we could

because nobody's just sitting here holding back.

Because that barrage is to be a honored above everything.

And that's all that the mayor's offers Hallelujah.

First Peter 3:7. Well, stop here with this one.

1 Peter 3:7

Praise the Lord. Now my my wife's not here

tonight. Okay.

She's with my mom. So don't be talking to her on

Sunday. Given half-truths and you know

she can listen online and get full context.

So don't be like, I know why you won't don't don't do stuff like

that. How to be more mature than that?

Amen. I'm just telling you as

Believers, we should have the most thriving and I'm not

talking about physical. I'm talking spiritual emotional

everything, my best friend is my wife.

Right, man, I can talk to her about anything.

But just like to take long drives, that's fine.

Whatever. Maybe she sent me on assignment,

she's The Decorator. I get it.

And so I'm like, I'm gonna get some trim for the fireplace and

I said you going to go well no, I'll stay here and I said, well

then you understand. I'm going to pick it out.

Now, we had talked about a particular trim but there was no

definite. I want this trim conversation.

Was like yeah I see that that's nice and that's it.

That doesn't mean by this tram only.

So you know the gaps a little bit bigger and I was thinking

you know, after the tile job so I'm like okay so I'm like you

know, I like this it matches what I did up top and it had

coverage is great. So I bought it came back, cut

it, I mean I'm like I ain't playing around.

I mean, if we don't finish this project Right?

I cut it. Thirty six and seven.

Eighths inch bam both of them. Stuck them up there and she's

like what is that? Well, I guess the trim.

Why did you get that one? I told you that if you send me,

I'll get what I get. I mean, we didn't have a

conversation. Well, it's covering too much of

the tall. I said, what did you pick that?

I said, look, it matches, what? We did up top.

It even has the rounded corner right here the edge.

I mean, I had pretty beautiful design guys, right?

In my logic. I don't like it then it doesn't

matter because we're getting whatever you want at this point.

I just wish you'd had a me. Absolute, I'm going back.

I'm gonna go back right now. That's right.

That's what how I felt motivated.

I'll go back right now. I didn't go back right then

because doing the saint was more important.

But at the end of the day, we got the trim.

She wanted. And you know, she was right.

I meant I was the one who suggested it first anyway, I

didn't follow through with that design.

Right. Amen.

So you do it. I mean we could get over

differences like that. Yes, hard to replace.

It took years of growing in the word.

Geez. Anyway, First Peter chapter 37.

I mean close. I got to get you all out of

here. Your husband in the same way,

live with your wives in an understanding way as with

someone weaker since she is a woman.

Now, please don't get offended ladies, when I say that because

some of y'all are stronger than most men in here.

I get it but not every person and again biologically, they're

different. Okay.

So obviously that's what the Lord means in that context and

he created a woman for a purpose, he didn't create you to

be a man. So for you, trying to do things

better than a man is misplaced priority.

You should just want to thrive as a woman.

That doesn't mean you can't be strong, you know physically

right. At the end of the day I'm just

saying your goal is not to see how many men you can dominate.

Okay, since she is a woman and show her what honor, as a fellow

heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be

hindered. Now, reason I brought this

scripture up about honors because the first one is says

marriage is to be held and honor which implies both husband and

wife should develop honor towards one another.

But then Peter specifically says now husband is honor your wife.

Which means husbands have been told to honor his wife twice.

Now, why is that? Because Jesus says when it comes

to a mayor, is that a man is to love his wife like Christ.

Loved the church. He gives that as an example then

he gives another example. A man should love his wife like

he loves himself. Because what happens is a man

because of the fall of humanity. And the fact that Eve did was to

deceive and ate the fruit. And because sin entered in the

planet, instead of them being specifically code Dominion, all

of a sudden Adam now is over as wife, although he was still

over. In the sense that he was given

the command, not to eat the fruit.

Okay? And when I say that, I'm just

saying he's the head of the house.

All right? But that being ahead of the

house doesn't mean, you shouldn't listen to your wife

because God will speak to your wife.

So many times and make your head spin as you see because you're

not listening. Anyway, But what happens is men

began to take this role of being over to their heads.

They begin to dominate their wives.

Not like they're not smarter than them.

They're not better than them. They can't do it better than

them. So is like, you need to honor

and here's the thing. If you're not doing it right

then, I don't care how much you pray.

Because that's the problem. Now, God is answering your

prayers. In proportion to your, honoring

your spouse. So if my wife ever talks to me

about, I might need to change my attitude.

I have to listen. I got to know is that perception

or reality? Because of this reality, my

prayer lost fixing to be hindered.

And that's a problem because I can't have my prayer life.

Endured, can't have my relationship with God.

Have something clogged up in it. When again, if I'm not honoring,

my wife that I see every day, then how can I say?

I'm honoring God, So Jesus said, if you want the father, honor,

you number one, you're going to need to honor your mom and your

dad wherever they're at and the Spectrum, right?

Number two, you need to honor the marriage if you're married,

and if you're single right now, They remain single.

Meaning. I mean enjoy singleness at this

juncture. Okay, don't try to be in a

marriage relationship while you're single.

You may be in a relationship or desire to have a relationship,

but a lot if you want it to be the best them move towards

godliness. Because at the end of the day,

the minute, you marry, you have trouble.

You cannot avoid it because you are, will they are a will and

you've got to work this thing together now.

And those Wills don't always come together every day.

So compromise, has to take place.

If you find yourself, I won't compromise for nothing.

Well, then you're not ready for marriage.

All right. I want to get married so they'll

serve me. You're not ready for marriage.

If you want to get married, just have sex all the time.

You're really not marry ready for married marriage.

But the Bible does say is better to marry than to burn in your

lust. It does say that.

All right, so we want to honor so husband's.

I'm gonna give you a assignment. I want you to find five ways.

You can honor your spouse this week.

Five ways. Wives, I'ma give you an

assignment. You need to find 4 ways.

Now, why is that? Cause when he honors you, you

would return it when he honors. You you to return it when he

honors. You return it, right?

But he should get the last honor.

He should never let you get the last.

Because Christ is always doing for us beyond what we could ever

do. So, no matter how much I want to

honor him, he's like, does exceedingly abundantly far

beyond what I could think of. Imagine I'm like cheese.

Wow. Lord, you're awesome.

For all of you in the room, find a way to honor your parents this

week, whether it's just call them, maybe go and have

breakfast with him if you can do that.

I mean, whatever the Lord lays on your heart.

But just exercise it and watch what it does in your life.

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