Family Business - Defining Roles

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Now, enjoy this message. So that being said, let's look

at Luke Chapter 19 Verse 13. As you as it is our custom.

Luke 19:13

And when I say custom because the Lord spoke to me last year,

that I do a lot of leadership, training for the staff, we have

76 employees and growing as an organization between all the

elements that are connected to Anchor of a church.

And so with that being said, you know, we have to learn to

develop as a leader to navigate the different businesses that we

are. Rin.

And you know in the world there's all kinds of leadership

seminars. I mean my gosh man.

If I could charge what the world charges for leadership seminars,

you know, we probably pay them all off right now and the things

that we're saying are actually better than most of the stuff.

They, these people are spending thousands upon tens of thousands

of dollars for because in the first place.

But with that being said, you know, we do leadership and the

Lord spoke to me. And he says, you need to begin

to do some Leadership Lessons on Wednesday nights to the

congregation because they were They're in the workforce, they

are out and about in society and they will rise to the top as

they grow in their leadership at work because it's not just for

the church, okay? And so we began to do these

things. Well, we started to want to do

it on the last Wednesday of the month and we have five

Wednesday. So I ended up picking this one,

because it just got impressed in my spirit.

We should do one tonight and so we're going to do that.

Amen. So when Luke Chapter 19 Verse

Luke 19:13

13. Again, this for everybody in the

house, it says this. And then he called his ten

servants and delivered them ten pounds and said unto them

occupy. Till I come The New American

Standard says that this way and he gave and he called 10 of his

slaves and gave them ten again coins and said to them do

business with this until I come back.

Do business, are you hearing me? So the the Father, when he

deposited in us his Spirit he expects us to do some business.

Unfortunately, you know many times we hear the gospel in the

lens of I've received eternal life so when I'm going to go

somewhere when I die. But the Lord's actually saying

you know, I'm depositing something in you and I want you

to do something with it while you're there.

Cause then once you're absent from the body and be present

with me, you're going to give an account for it.

Now that's not that that that deposit is not what makes you go

to heaven because in the context that you know here, Lord I'm

going to have to give a report for what I did while I was on

the earth, serving you and does that, let me in know, you're in

the point, is that what did you do?

Once you became a child of God, and there is that great ther, is

that excuse me, judgment seat of Christ.

Moment that we're going to have with him one-on-one where he's

going to say, okay? Let's talk about what you did

with what I gave you while you were in the Earth.

How did you function with it? How did you do business with it?

How did you interact in society? Okay, Jesus, understood that

when he came to Earth, he was in business.

Okay, in business, it was Jesus ran a business.

He ran a business, okay? He was in a business and it says

that this way in Luke, 2:49 the Amplified, classic says that

this way, and he said that them, how is it that you had to look

for me? Did you not see and know how it

was necessary as a duty for me to be in my father's house and

occupied about my father's business.

Now obviously Jesus I was about 12 13 years old.

When he makes this statement, he already knows the business that

he is to conduct while in the planet at that young of an age

and when his family thought, they were his mom mother and

father thought they were with them had left with them, they

get three days in only to find out.

He's not among us, and we need to go back and backtrack and

find him, and it took him a few days when they got back to town,

even find him. And there he is.

In the synagogue teaching. The scripture.

To the scribes and they are blown away at his wisdom.

But he looks to his parents and says, did you not see and know

that it is necessary as a what as a duty for me to be in my

father's house and occupied about my father's business?

Are we about our father's business?

I said, are we about our father's business?

Well, we'll find out Matthew. 16:21 the 23, the reason why

Matthew 16:21

we're going Here is because you've got to understand

something. We are in a family business but

you got to admit, there's a difference between family.

And family business. There's a natural family and

then there's family business. And we've got to Define these

roles. Because in your workplace, you

may work with natural family members or you may be around

those who have natural family members that work in the same

environment. Are you hearing me?

And then you need to know how to conduct yourself so that you can

always be about business and not be not be hindered because you

allow a natural family. Lie to hinder you.

Now, maybe your natural family doesn't work with you, but your

natural family can pull on you from work.

Now, I'm not telling you to be a workaholic nor my telling you to

ignore your natural family. I'm telling you to learn to

define the difference between it.

Because if you do not learn how to define the difference between

it and keep your emotional state where Should be then it will

affect you in your leadership ability at work.

Now, just for us to set the ground rules, okay?

What do you do for a living? Okay, if you just thought in

your mind, the title of your job, then you don't know who you

are. That is not what you do for a

living. The Bible tells us that we are

to live by faith. So what do you do for a living?

I live by faith. What do you do for a living?

I live by faith. What do I mean?

What's your job? Oh, what's my job?

Oh, that's totally different. At my job, my title is, but I

don't identify with my title. The title identify with is in

Christ, right? And I live by faith because if

that's the case, if that's the case, then I will a job will

never stress me to the point. that I will compromise my

principles in order to keep it nor will the current income I

receive from it caused me so much stress that if my king told

me to depart and go somewhere else without telling me where

I'm going to land first, I can still put in my two weeks notice

by faith. Are you hearing me?

Because when you know, the family business, Right then you

won't allow natural family to stop things.

I have seen many natural families fall apart because the

natural family decided to take a promotion somewhere in another

Community because they naturally came together.

Like this is better for our family.

This is more money for us. This allows us to go here and do

that and never take into consideration.

Does the father want it? And where is he planting you

when you get there. Well, we'll find a church when

we get there because we treat church as if it's optional to

job yet church is the most important thing in our lives

because we are the body of Christ of which he is the head

of the body and he's the head of the church.

So we should be more concerned about where we going to church

than where we getting a job. Because many promotions have

left people bankrupt their marriages destroyed with loss.

I look just say men. Anyway, so again, our Contour

are, you know, Foundation to minister this message is that

first? You have to remember that I live

by faith. That I'm in Christ, I have a

place of employment that God allows me to demonstrate the

kingdom. Do we have that?

Okay, with that being said, Jesus did not allow natural

relationships to hinder his business because even at work,

you can develop natural relationships with people that

if you do not maintain your role of Duty, you will compromise.

Just say, Amen. Anyway, come on, I'm not even

hardly and I need y'all to help support a little bit easier.

Don't make me feel like I'm plowing, right?

You know, they're obviously I've been in outside of the church

before and, you know, there's a system specially from where, you

know, in the South and it's just call it the South, but I think

it's probably everywhere, we just happened to call it.

The good old boy system and that is, basically you scratch my

back, I'll scratch yours. We're kind of looking after each

other, but most of the time that means if you don't do something,

right? I'm not going to say anything

about will do some, right? I'm not gonna say anything or we

gonna let each other slide? So in essence, we let the

natural relationship stop us from Duty.

We allow the emotions of wanting to be accepted in are employed

group. Instead of honor the vision, Of

the place that we have been entrusted.

I think the next leadership, when I'll talk about that a

little bit more, okay? Because then we'll find out if

you're just hired. Because when you realize I've

been placed by God for a season. They could be a very long

season, could be till you retire season so to speak, right?

It could be, but the point is you're in a season and you are

to make influence for the king and you can't do it.

If the principles of the Kingdom, the father's business

is being compromised because you want the natural relationships

with your co-workers or family members for that matter, to

dictate, how you respond to them.

And if you're going to rise if you want God to bring promotion

to your life, then you're going to have to do it the father's

business. Way, you got to understand,

there's Duty. So we see here, Matthew 16:21 to

Matthew 16:21–23

23. Jesus said, look, I'm about my

father's business, he never came off of that, but he developed

some very tight relationships in his pursuit of doing God's will.

In fact, one of those is Heap and picked 12 people to travel

with him hand-picked. Mmm.

And these 12 plus others travel with him, there were women, who

traveled with him as well. There were people that went

along in each place, he did, he develop some very close

relationship and of the 12. There were three in particularly

that he did more with than the rest, right?

And those three were Peter, James and John, right?

They were very tight. Well, here we are.

Jesus is talking to all of his disciples in the 16th chapter

and he's beginning to let them in on a little more of his

purpose, the business that he's about and he says, who do people

say that I am, you know, and they give them the world's

response and the religious response and he said, but who do

you say that I am Peter jumps up and says what you're the Christ,

the son of the Living God what he do.

That's right. God, had flesh and Blood, you

would have not gotten it like that.

It is revealed to you, by the spirit, my father's rebuild it.

Well, well, done, Peter, right. Then he said now call upon the

Revelation that I am the Christ, I'm going to build my church.

He says, and then he goes on and says, and I'm gonna give you the

keys to the kingdom. Whatever you bind on Earth,

shall be bound in heaven and whatever you loose on earth.

Going up, be loosed in heaven and then he goes on and said now

listen, I'm gonna die. Right.

But on the third day going to be raised up.

But when Peter heard he was going to die.

What did Peter do? Peter got into the natural

relationship and he began to say, not going to happen.

So he Braves takes Jesus pulls him over to the side because we

type and he needs to know how much he loves him and how much

he defends him and how much he is there to support him and he

says listen may it never be. Right.

He says, right here, in verse 20.

And from that time, Jesus began to show his disciples that he

must go to Jerusalem and suffer many things from the elders and

chief priests be killed and be raised up on the third day.

Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him saying, God

forbid. It Lord, this shall never happen

to you, you're not gonna die. What's not gonna happen, but

what does Jesus say? But Jesus said to Peter, get

behind me. Satan, you are a stumbling block

to me. for you are not setting your mind on God's interests but

man's you're setting your mind. You're setting your mind not on

God's interest but man's the minute you let your mind set on

a man's interest and when I say man, I'm not talking, just

another man, your I'm not just saying you, I'm saying it could

be another person husband's, it could be your wives wives, it

could be your husband's. One of the most challenging

things for a spouse is when another spouse is having

conflict, and they basically won't resolve it before they go

to work. Or while they're at work, they

call with conflict. Not recognizing they have a

duty. And why do I want to put my

spouse and emotional stress? About how I'm feeling or how

that what we talked about. Because you failed to realize

that there's a duty they have to represent the kingdom.

Okay. The minute we allow our natural

relationship to be able to bleed over when someone is on

assignment. Again, it's not the title, you

are, it's the assignment you have.

Right. Sydney.

Stand up Sydney. You're the only Sydney I know.

Sydney, is the assistant coach for the Flagler women's

basketball. Amen.

Now she has an assignment in this school, do they pay you?

They do pay her. Now she could say this is my

career, right? The her title is assistant

coach, you know, maybe there's a bigger title with that, I'm not

sure, but let's just keep it at that.

Okay, we're I'm good assistant coach, right?

So here she has title, she has access to place but her

assignment Is to show these women that come from all over

the country, the kingdom. And you're doing a really good

job of that. Amen.

Right. Amen.

So she then, although she has to improve her natural skills and

work with a coach specifically her.

Number one assignment is to reflect the king to reflect the

king to the point. That if the university catches

wind, Of her godliness. And all of a sudden they begin

to say you can't live Godly like this on the campus.

Then she's going to be in a place.

Now, I know where she's going to go.

She going to go. This is just who I am.

I can't deny me, right. Amen.

But God's opening doors of Flagler right now.

I'm telling his open doors wide. Open is coming more and more.

Amen. So here we want to pray for her.

Pray for what she's doing. My point is is that she's not an

assistant coach. She's a Believer who lives by

faith represents the kingdom. That is in a title position

called assistant coach where she influences for the kingdom of

God. Women, God brings women from

around the world, you can be seated.

Thank you, amen. Which means then if coach Mo,

who's the head coach tries to get her to, which he would not,

because he's a Believer to. But if he tried to Get her to

compromise her standard of living for something natural.

Like we're going to get this recruit, but we're going to do

this. But that violates the rules.

Right. Well, I can't do that because I

can't let my natural relationship with you.

Interrupt my duty to please my father.

Are you hearing me, okay? Jesus would not let natural

relationship. Stop him from his purpose.

Period. Let's go on Matthew 12 verses 46

Matthew 12:46–50

to 50. It says this while he was still

speaking to the crowds his mother and his brothers were

standing outside seeking to speak to him.

Someone said to him, behold your mother and your brothers are

standing outside seeking to speak with you but Jesus

answered the one who was telling him and said, who is my mother?

And who are my brothers? What did Jesus develop Amnesia?

Right was Jesus crazy. His mama probably thought he was

crazy when he made the statement may be right, you know, because

I could hear a lot of Mama's right now.

If your child says who my mama boy, right?

You've heard me say before, when we read these Pastor scriptures,

The Mamas are thinking I brought you into this world.

See, finish it for me. I get it right.

That's how much I love them. I get it a mother's love, but

Jesus goes on and stretching out his hand towards his disciples.

His what? And he said, behold, My mother

and my brothers then he defines who his family is.

For whoever does the will of my father, who is in heaven.

He is my brother and sister and mother in the first account.

Matthew 16, we see Jesus will not let natural relationships.

He has would someone who's not of a bloodline that he is of

hinder him from a accomplishing, the role or assignment, God has

for his life here now, is his mama This is family name.

This is the one who gave birth to him, the one who fed him as a

child who nursed him on her own breast.

The one who changed his diapers, The one who cared for him and

yet when this conversation comes about your your natural family

wants your attention, he did not come off the platform for them.

You know, in our society we say, family is everything. in fact, a

lot of places even in pulpits, a Families First, Now, I'm not

telling you to not honor your husband wife relationship

children. I'm not saying, I'm just saying

according to scripture. You cannot allow that natural

Dynamic to hinder you from your Godly call.

Nor should we on the other side of in natural family?

Tried to hinder. Someone, who is going after the

call of God, for their life, I'm going to pick on Randy clay and

Joshua clay for a moment. John Randy clay raised his boys.

Both of them. Okay, to follow God, he did that

and then he spoke to them. And said if you ever think that

your call dammit Ministry or do something with the Lord he goes,

I'll under right, I'll do it because he always at the time

saw himself as a businessman only.

Now in the back of Mind. It was obvious that Randy had a

desire that they would follow him in the family business,

okay. He's a graphic artist he had a

sign company still does today and in Oklahoma and so as a

result of that, you know, his boys work with him, trained him,

his oldest son. Again, following a little bit of

scripture, you notice in my first board, going to get a

double portion, kind of stuff. I mean, it's the one that's

gonna take the family business, taught him, all the stuff

Joshua. Died when I first met him.

How are you 12? 13, 13.

He was 13. He's the one who introduced me

to graphic design the first place on a platform called

coreldraw. And so we would function in this

and we would develop our own logos.

In the youth ministry. I had a great time in that

particular environment, we had a great time together, right?

And so we work these things. Well, you understand, the only

reason he knows ass because his father works in the environment

for the family business. Well, Joshua and I had developed

Relationship. God, ultimately calls me here to

Anchor, Faith Church to start this church and he had yet to

graduate well upon him coming into his senior year, you know,

where he was the top of his class.

It's true. There's also the bottom of its

class. He was the best student more

student at the same time because when you're homeschooled, so

what that looks like, but he's going to graduate. and he tells

his father, I want to move to Florida and help Pastor Earle

with the church. This was not Randy, Clays plan.

This was not the father's business that he had perceived.

And so I remember having a conversation with him on the

phone, you know? He thinks he wants to come down

there. He doesn't even have a plan.

I'll never forget that. He didn't have a plan, you know,

he needs to put. So basically, he negotiated

because he's a businessman. He says this, what you're going

to do, you're going to have to give me a plan.

I want you to submit me plan. And in a year, we'll talk about

it. Right, well Joshua for the year.

Did the work work with him? All kinds of stuff happened.

Honestly, the Assumption was with Randall at the time was

that, he'll it's a passing thing with pasta, or he'll get it.

I'm Pastor a won't matter, right?

He's just was close to him, he misses him.

He was just a little boy and his youth pastor, but, you know, I

he's in the real world now. I get him a little bit more

money. We'll do a little more thing.

Thing, you know, give me some more Prestige family business.

he turned how old were you then 19 is that when this happened

tonight 18 when did it first conversation have more you 17

17. So, did you move here?

And when you're 18? Okay, so 17, he had his year and

then 18 comes and he says, I want to move.

Randy is shocked. So he calls me said he goes.

I can't believe it man down here and still wants to come.

You know? I said, listen, what's the worst

can happen? I said you're sending him to me

number one, number two, if he fails, I will pack him up and

send him on. This is no problem, we'll do it.

So The father's bit and I told him, I said, have you not

trained your son to hear God? And if he's saying, he's heard

the Lord, why all the sudden now, you're the only one who can

hear for him? I caution you parents, you're

raising your children are going to get 16. 17, 18 years old.

They may not have the plan. You think they should have.

It's amazing. How many parents push their

children into Direction all along bringing them the church

and tell them to follow God. Only when they decide I've heard

God and want to do something that you're like, that can't be

God. Because how are you going to be

successful? Well, how can you not be

successful if you're following God?

I've known I've known way too many teenagers that have talked

to me about certain things in their heart only to graduate and

be pushed to college and their ship wrecked lives.

Now, their degreed Shipwrecked people was it worth it.

Was it worth it? So Paris, again, you're going to

have, you're raising your children in church and then you

want to wonder when they turn 18, if they act like they've

heard something from God, that all of a sudden, you you're

going to question that Open the door for it again.

If they fail, you're already there to pick them up.

Anyway, I would much rather them.

Fail trying to hear God's voice. Then fell following your voice

because if they fell following your voice, they may never hear

God's voice again. Because you basically said all

that I've trained you up to this point was a lie because I won't

trust you to hear God for yourself.

Same anyway, well but Randall did he said, let's do it.

Come to find out. Josh was right?

I said he was right. He heard God.

Betty heard God first because later on Randy and Melanie heard

God and they're in a state, they never thought they would be in

ever in their wildest imagination.

Did they think they would relocate?

But the father had a Better Business for him.

He didn't have to leave the business that he had or or sell

it or anything though. He talks to the Lord about that.

At the end of the day, he can still maintaining natural

business, but the Lord had already given him an answer long

before. And he said, if you'll take care

of my business, I'll take care of yours.

Hallelujah. Now, let me say this, this

happens on both sides, both in churches and in natural

business. The failure that most people

make is they assume their children have to succeed them.

And he won't even look at another option.

So as a result you build the whole business around a family

name and not around the will of the father.

Because he may actually want the business, your building be given

to someone else's name. All right.

Praise the lord. We have to be able to listen

some things may not go naturally through generation.

Now, I'm not saying that it can't, because it can, there is

an anointing on a family name. I have no problem with that, we

are Kings and, you know, King succeed to Natural Kings.

I don't have a problem with that.

But again, it's about the father's will.

This is why I've never put pressure on my children about

Ministry. Nor do I ever put pressure that

they'll take anchor Faith Church should the Lord tarry and I go

on It doesn't guarantee that the person that runs this location

has to have my last name. Or be related to me.

They'll be related to me through doing the will of the father.

Because who is my brother and sister and mother and son, and

daughter is the one who does the will of my father.

And when you understand that, then no longer will you get in

competition with one another? There's no competition.

Now, in the church nor will it be at work?

Cause at the end of the day, you don't want to be in any position

outside of the will of God for your life anyway and if you're

doing the will of God for your life, he's going to promote you

into the places of influence that he desires for you anyway.

So you get to be free and Excel and we get to rejoice in anyone

in any position. They're in, amen.

Praise the Lord. So, for me every time when God

allows me to travel and I allow this Pulpit to have someone else

minister in, I get excited about the the plethora of individuals

that I can call on to preach Sunday.

Pastor Marcus is going to be minister in here in the house

and I'm excited about that. Because once again, here's a

gift, you know, the Lord spoke to me says you need to have

Pastor Marcus Minister done prior to that.

I said who's going to be on worship who can lead?

So that I have you Minister. I don't want you doing both. at

all, just focus on the message, praise the Lord, I'm thankful

that when we can call people up, I thankful when we can put

people in our anchor Faith Life placa, when we can put people,

you know, in our kingdom Institute, why it allows us

releasing gifts because again, we're about the father's

business, you don't have to have our last name, but now if you do

have our last name and doing something, we shouldn't devalue

that cuz I can tell you there where they're at not based upon

their name but upon their obedience Hallelujah.

And let me just say this, I would be you.

We would have some conversations if you treated someone who was

in the will of the father wrong, whether they have my last name

in it or not. So, it's definitely going to

happen if they do. And it's not more.

But I can tell you this from a church perspective. the people

with my last name, get treated unfairly It happens now, not so

much. Here I can tell you that

although it has happened here, that is a true statement.

And again, people are just growing.

I get it. People have their own issues, we

get it. That's why I train anyone.

My last that just know it's coming.

I've told Brittany who married into the family.

I said, listen, just go get my last name.

They're going to come and talk to you about the ministry.

And they've done it. They try to what's going on.

I'm like, you're not Pastor. Don't let don't let them put you

in that corner. You just tell him.

Point-blank. I don't have anything to do with

that. You need to call Pastor Earle.

Don't do it. Don't let them put you in a

corner. Don't think that they can get

closer to me through. You don't do that.

It's not, right? But again, was people doing they

forgot the roles they're trying to use natural.

In order to manipulate and get their own natural desires, same

in any way. We know this happens in natural

business, family-owned businesses can have this

Challenge and employees feel like, you know, well the, you

know, the children can't do anything wrong.

Well if you don't openly if you don't correct them like you

would anybody else then you can hinder the business and you're

not leading properly. Because the principal is, I am

always in right relationship with the will of the father.

And then, all the other relationships come out of that.

Can you y'all get what I'm saying?

All right, we going to see this, I'll give it to you, I'm gonna

break it down bullet points now. Hallelujah, Genesis 37 1 3 2.

Okay, I wrote a whole book about this guy says now Jacob lived in

the land where his father had sojourned in the land of Canaan.

And these are the records of the generations of Jacob.

Joseph would 17 generations of Jacob Joseph, when 17 years of

age was pasturing. The flock with his brothers

while he was still a youth along with the Sun.

The sun's of this woman and the sons of this woman, his father's

wives. You know again he had four wives

Joseph brought back a what bad report about them to their

father. Now the points I'm about, Makar

not in this in the book, Kyle's crows and constellation at all.

Once again, here is context of scripture that I never pulled

out. And release within the book.

A dreamers reward. All right, so you won't find it

in that book because again, this is what I love about scripture

is that there's still more to mind.

I'm glad every time I read Genesis 37, I don't go, I wrote

a book on, I know all there is to know about it.

I'm always looking always listening, always hearing.

And as Pastor Vanessa, when she ministered the last time I've

remained teachable Alright, so here's some things, we can learn

because when we're defining role, when we're about our

father's business, not natural, but God, the Father, then it

will allow us to Define roles and keep a separation between

natural family. And natural relationships with

Duty. The business of God.

Number one, Joseph did not let the duties of his assignment.

Be confused with the relationship he had with his

brothers. Are you hearing me Jeff?

I'm just going to from this passage of scripture.

We're going to be able to make quite a few points here.

Joseph, did not let the duties of his assignment.

Be confused with his relationship with his brothers

in essence. He did not go to the father as a

tattletale. Cause this was not about a

little brother tattling on his brothers.

That's natural relationship. No, he came and spoke business.

Now when it comes to the flock, In essence these workers.

They just happen to be my brothers are not doing it right.

Nothing personal. But when it comes to business

and our family business is that we Shepherds sheep, we're in the

livestock and at the end of the day is to not about promotion

for me this is not about me trying to look better.

This is about business. So, Joseph did not let my older

brothers, who own a natural would have loved for them.

To like him. We already know there's conflict

because he'll have a dream and talk about it and they will hate

him. And yet he does not allow their

hatred for him to compromise his principles.

Nor we he compromised to try to win their favor, nor does he do

it to cover up their wrongdoing? Because Duty To his King to his

God. Is the number one thing he has

to address his character before his God, which means, then this

natural relationship. I'm not going to compromise.

And if we don't watch out when we get in our places of

business, we're going to allow the natural relationships to cut

be compromised in our character towards God because we want them

to like us more than we want God's approval. now, if you get

God's approval, everybody at work, and hate you, And you'll

still go to work with a smile. A skip in your step in essence,

they will talk about you so bad and they'll say this person is

so dumb they don't even know. We hate them so much but you'll

be so wise that you know they hate you but you just don't let

them in your mind and affect your decision-making in your

emotions because you've ride, you have risen above that

because you're seated somewhere in Heavenly places.

See, you're already promoted without a title when you do

that. Joseph understood the assignment

of his father was more important that being liked by his

brothers. The brothers brought their

complaints home to Joseph because they failed to identify

the roles of Shepherds and brothers.

So in that sense, they were mad at him.

Not because he was personally attacking them as a brother but

because he was evaluating their performance as a shepherd.

Are you hearing me? I'm Pastor Earle Hill here, but

when I go to my home address, I'm my wife's husband.

Those are two different roles. There are two different roles

and and Pastor. Marcy has to watch that line.

Because when we're here in the church, she cannot talk to me

like her husband. I mean, she has access to me

like nobody else. And at home, she can say it

whatever. But in front of the staff, she

can't cross over to the wife. Now, Pastor Marcy doesn't do

something right here at the ministry and I corrected that

shouldn't come home in the bed. Say him in any way.

I can't believe you said we're talking about your role.

I want talking about you being a wife, I was talking about the

roll Vienna and vice versa. If she, if there's something I

said I was going to do as a pastor in a particular

assignment, and I've not accomplish it and she calls it

out. I can't go home and say, I can't

believe you said that. Because you're not calling me

out as a husband, she's calling me out based upon the role.

So when you have a family business, you got to understand

this Because business can't show up at the house.

And until you understand the different roles as better for

you, if you're struggling to call it, I'll say, hold on a

second. I'm going to put on my, you

know, owner hat. Now, I'm going to put on my

clothes. I'm not your husband right now.

Are you hearing me? Joseph, never tried to restore

but not let me hold, but let me go, let me, let me say this.

Did I put it on here? Yeah, let me say this point

first. It is necessary at times to

remind your natural family of the hats you are wearing.

Just as much it is for you to remind sometimes your co-workers

of hats you're wearing. Because I'm not your buddy at

work. I'm a co-worker.

Now we go out play ball together.

You know we may do certain things but when we're here on

the job, that's a different. It's different.

Because again if you want to actually be a leader of

influence and show the Kingdom at the workplace, then you got

to understand the roles you're in.

But yeah, we're just trying to add like we can be friends

everywhere. Our family everywhere yet.

Jesus knew this doesn't function if you're going to do the

assignment of your heavenly father you can't you know mess

that up and Joseph even knew that there's like this, there's

a difference between brother and Busby and Shepherds.

At the end of the day. Now, we can go, we can go play

ball at the family reunions and have no issue here because we're

not talking about our role at work.

But that doesn't mean when we get back to work, the assignment

I have for you this dual Tuesday, I'm gonna give you a

pass because you're my relative. Or you're my buddy calls we did.

This is why people struggle. When you go from peer employment

to now you become a manager and now you're having to tell them

what to do. Come on, man.

We used to hang out. You forgot your role.

I said you forgot your role, honey.

Can you take off? I'm working The reason why we

have vacation to these particular things.

And you got our sound influencing people.

Now if you want to be with me more than let's get an agreement

that we do a family business so that we can work together.

But you understand then we still have to remember our hats.

I remember one time my wife and I went on vacation I was

pastoring here that's been years ago.

So when I say that what I'm about to say, the individual

does not attend church here at all. but there was a particular

female that used to be at the church and, you know, honestly

they just wanted position they want to title, they wanted to be

known They've had training. They definitely.

Should have known because they've been trained to know.

But selfish ambition mess you up.

And so this like recurring theme started taking place when I left

To go either on vacation or on another Simon administering that

they would come in the church and begin to degrade the

Pastoral the pastors wives. My just treat them bad would

yell at them. I mean, just crazy stuff

basically trying to assert their Authority.

Like, I'm your equal. This is a crazy thing.

So I remember being on vacation and all of a sudden the

individual did it again to Pastor, Angie And so she text my

wife about it and my wife said, you know, yadda and I said are

you serious? So I said you're going to call.

I'm what you call Pastor Angie right now and you tell her to

call this lady and let them know that I want a meeting with them.

The minute, I get back. And my wife is like, no, we're

on vacation. I said Marcy, I have my pastors

hat on. I will not take this hat off

until you do this right now because I know I'm on vacation,

she knows I'm on vacation and I want her to know that.

While I was on vacation, I found about it found out about it and

I'm going to deal with it when I get back.

I want her to know it. And I won't take it off to you

do it. So she did.

And then she says it's done. That hat was gone and I don't

think about that. Have another 20 days.

I showed back up and I said, where is it?

So this person was so self-centered.

The only available day that they can meet with me is on Wednesday

night before I preach I took it because I'm anointed, I don't

care. I took it, I took, I took the

meeting, I brought him both 11. Wazzup acting as a pastoral

pastor's wife at the time. They're not in that role today.

Pastor Angie was there, you know, they came with her husband

sat down, we had the conversation and the person

literally led the conversation this way.

I'm sorry. You took it this way.

I looked at him, I said, let me tell you something.

There's only one person that teaches at anchor.

Faith Church and doesn't serve anywhere.

Else is called a traveling minister. because if you're

going to teach at this ministry, you're serving somewhere, You

need to understand they were gone didn't come back.

Because Jezebel can't live in this house.

Jezebel can't live in this house.

Because I'm no King Ahab. I'll kick you to the curb.

Just don't tell you right now. You're annoying guy Jack.

Right, the dogs are ready to lick you up.

Don't come into this house, she's not going to happen.

Okay, because God doesn't like that Spirit, he hates that

Spirit, he hates that spirit in his church, he talked about that

spirit in his church in the Book of Revelation.

So don't think you coming up in here.

It's just not going to work, right?

But most the time, Pastor Angie and Pastor Marcy intimidate them

half the time anyway. You know.

So because you know why? They're intimidating because I

hear women say, you know, they intimidate me.

Listen, you know what's intimidating about them is

because they're strong with Of God who are equally as strong

submitted to their husbands. And that's what it is that you

see that they can be that strong confident, but yet be entirely

fully submitted to their spouse. That's what a woman of God looks

like. But unfortunately, Jezebel's

thinks I have to be the one and I'm really not submitted to my

husband. I want all responsibility I want

all authority with no responsibility.

All right, it's a little extra lesson there.

My point is, is that, you know, we define the role and I'm like

that hats on. It's nothing personal.

But I'm doing that role. Jesus never took off his crown.

You need to understand that. Jesus said, I call you friends,

but that doesn't mean he ever took off his crown.

Now, I've had that actually happened to me.

One time. I was in the guard, is it really

this late? We worshipped a long time.

I can't tell you this story. Forget it.

Okay. Jesus, Joseph, never tried to

restore natural family relationships at the expense of

his assignment. What do I mean by that?

He sold as a slave. He goes as a slave, then he's

accused of rape. He's thrown into prison, but

then he's released from prison, he's made as a prime minister to

take care of Egypt, once he is on, in government position, and

he is rocking as a government official, he never, once went to

pharaoh and said, hey, I got some brothers and a father that

they don't know where I'm at. And I sure would love to restore

our relationship. He never left Egypt to go get

right with the natural family. Because he knew in the dream,

the only way our natural family can be restored, is if they come

to my assignment until you in the natural, acknowledge the

assignment associated. With the individual, you're

never really going to have a relationship.

It's only going to be surface. And I know this from experience

from my own natural family, I have surface relationship with

my bloodline. Cuz until they acknowledge and

recognize the assignment on my life.

We can't have a real relationship. so there are more

people in here than I am way closer to then natural family

name and I don't feel bad about that.

Because the scripture tells me that my mama, my brothers, and

my sister are those who do the will of the father and many of

you get all upset because you want to be closer to your

natural family yet. They don't want to be close to

God. And you're, you're you're

bending over backwards and compromising well, you know,

come over Sunday. Well, I go to church Sunday.

Won't you come to church? Well no, it's not.

You come here, I'll be waiting. When you go and take care of

your family. Oh I am take care of my family.

I go to church when you go and see get into family.

We go actually. Start acting like family.

Amen. Okay, you're rolling.

The kingdom. Family should not be confused

with your role in your natural family.

Your kingdom family takes precedence over your natural

family. I said your kingdom family takes

precedence. Now this is not popular

preaching but it's truth nonetheless.

Now, that doesn't mean that you get rid of your name.

If you're doing Kingdom family work.

You will be the best to your natural family.

There's no doubt about that. But it but your natural family

you won't abuse on both sides. You'll recognize.

And then the anointing associated with your call or

assignment will filter over into your children's so that when you

are together naturally it maximizes the relationship.

Honor the assignment of your natural family and do not abuse

it we look we are not to look with more favor nor more Mercy

to Natural family when it comes to the vision.

Your purpose it's amazing a lot of times when you get in

business you end up giving more Mercy to your namesake.

Are you allow your overlooked and because of that then people

get disgruntled in your organization.

And you can do this naturally, you can have someone co-worker

you work with y'all really close, you do things on the

weekend together, all this stuff and then you give more Mercy to

that person than someone else. that's not a just judge.

You're not judging justly. This is leadership stuff.

Do not allow your assignment. To the vision become compromised

with your personal relationships.

Can't do it. Can't do it to cover up the

mistake or failure of your natural family at the expense of

Kingdom, Business will hinder the vision.

To treat your natural family with contempt at home because

you do not hold them accountable to the kingdom assignment.

While at work is an abusive roles Are you hearing me?

There are conversations. You should never have with your

natural family. Concerning the Kingdom Business.

Because their assignment role cannot handle the your

information. You should not be worth talking

to your co-workers about church stuff conflict.

You know, having a church man. You know, it was somebody

searching. I found out that they were

cheating on their wives. Why would you tell a co-worker

that How stupid is that? Why would you talk about any?

If you do business with someone at the church and it doesn't

necessarily pan out. Why would you talk to other

people about that? Why would all of a sudden you

take a business matter and then begin to just talk to Common

People. Saints concerning someone else

in the church that didn't do something.

You know, I find people who don't keep the kingdom first and

that assignment first always want to demand respect out of

people. But yet them said they

themselves don't respect. Alleluia everybody, all right.

On the church side, there are many pastors children that have

left the ministry because of having conversations about the

church at home that their children overheard and should

have never heard. But you know what?

I'll go further. Even congregational people's

children have left the church because the congregation member

went home and talked about things at the church, with their

kids around. My wife and I did not talk about

anything concerning the church in front of our children.

Our children thought the church was most amazing thing on the

face of Planet. Fact.

My kids became shocked when they found out.

That was not the case. That there were problems that

existed. I mean, my daughter for the

longest time. I thought that every believer

never did anything wrong. She did think that but

unfortunately, that's not true. I like to say this, your spouse

is not your boss so they cannot Define your work hours.

I must say that again, your spouse is not your boss so they

cannot Define your work hours. I don't work for pastor Marcy.

So she can't tell me when I go to work.

I'm saying this generation coming up, man.

They want so much of their own personal Tom, then they see, you

know, they'll actually leave jobs just for this plug.

Go work together, then no problem.

I have no problem that go work together.

But again when your spouse says they work you too much, they're

not your boss. And again, if you have an

assignment somewhere to work and be an influencer then you

communicate that, you get an agreement about that.

My wife and I, when I started this church, actually, I worked.

Well, prior to this, I worked at third shift.

I worked at swing shift job that you know, of seven days on two

days off, seven days on one day off, seven days on straight and

then four days off. And it was third shift, so seven

straight days than second shift for a second straight days than

first shift for second set of straight days for off.

And then you come back and do the thing again, it was brutal,

but it was the season. And there were times, she didn't

want me to go to work. But at the end of the day,

you're not my boss. And I have an assignment.

Now, that doesn't mean sometimes I didn't say, I recognize

there's a need I'm going to take this day but you understand

them, to me, you take the day that that day is gone.

So again, later on, if we're not doing something else because I

burned it, On a day, you were emotionally missing.

Because at the end of the day, you're not my boss and I just

can't take off anytime you want. But you understand what happens

in work because we have phones, most people are carrying on

conversation with their natural family all day long.

And I'm trying to figure out, are you even working?

You want to get ahead in your business, put your phone down,

tell your spouse, I'll call you here on break.

And don't be known as the one, who's constantly carrying on

conversation with natural relationships.

Because how are you going to have influence?

Just say, Amen. Anyway, these are very simple

things that will cause people who are part of the vision and

Corporation. Look at you and say, these

people have the vision, And you'll get promoted above

everybody. Just by simply understanding the

roles. And functioning in those roles.

Amen, let's pray. Father, we love you.

We honor you. We thank you.

Lord, that you're the King of Kings and the Lord of lords.

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