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Mother's Day 2025: A roundtable discussion.

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  1. Music.

  2. Table discussion with four incredible women, moms, and grandmoms who shared

  3. honest, heartfelt insights about the journey of motherhood.

  4. From the everyday challenges to the unexpected joys, this conversation is full

  5. of wisdom, laughter, and encouragement.

  6. Our prayer is that every mom listening, especially those in the thick of parenting

  7. struggles, will be reminded that you're not alone.

  8. We see you, we honor you, and we hope today's episode brings you strength and

  9. hope right where you are. Let's jump into the conversation.

  10. I want to read something from Proverbs before we jump into these questions as

  11. just a reminder of what we're celebrating today with Mother's Day.

  12. Everyone, if you grew up in the church, you know, you were taught by your grandma

  13. and by your mother, you know, you need to be a Proverbs 31 woman.

  14. What does that mean? And like, I always grew up thinking like you're tending

  15. sheep and you're sowing and you're, and that's part of it.

  16. But it's amazing what we're honoring today.

  17. It says strength and honor. This is verse 25. Strength and honor are her clothing.

  18. She clothes herself with strength and honor and she can laugh at the time to come.

  19. Her mouth speaks wisdom and loving instruction is on her tongue.

  20. See, that's one thing that moms are better at than dads.

  21. We like to speak instruction, but it's not always done from love.

  22. Sometimes it's just do it.

  23. But it says here, her mouth speaks wisdom and loving instruction is on her tongue.

  24. She watches over the activities of her household. Isn't that the truth?

  25. And is never idle.

  26. Women, how many of you say you got too much free time on your hands?

  27. Like, are you kidding me?

  28. Never idle. Her children rise up and call her blessed.

  29. Her husband also praises her. Many women have done noble deeds.

  30. Solomon says, but you moms, you surpass them all. You surpass them all.

  31. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.

  32. So give her the reward of her labor and let her works praise her at the city gates.

  33. Today, this morning, that's what our aim is.

  34. We want to give you the reward, moms, of all your labor.

  35. We know you tirelessly labor for your kids and your grandkids and your household

  36. and just keeping your house.

  37. So we want to say thank you, thank you, thank you to all of our dear and precious moms out here.

  38. All right. So, Jen, I see you have a microphone, so maybe you can pass it around to these.

  39. And because I know Susan, I'm not giving her a mic.

  40. Your family understands that statement.

  41. So I just want to have for the next, you know, 25, 30, 60, 80, three hours, whatever,

  42. just have a conversation with you ladies as mothers,

  43. as grandmothers, as women who love the Lord and who are trying to raise their

  44. families or who have raised families for the Lord. And so, first of all, no, thank you.

  45. So, first of all, I want to say thank you to them.

  46. I had to talk each and every one of them into this because this is not something

  47. that they wanted to do or are even comfortable doing.

  48. And so, I don't think if the pastor was her son that she would be up here at all.

  49. And I would say that as you too. But ladies, thank you for each being up here.

  50. I know it's nerve-wracking for you. But I want to start off with a question.

  51. What has been one of the greatest joys of being a mother or a grandmother?

  52. We'll start over there with Pauline.

  53. Can I call you that and not get in trouble?

  54. Well, it's hard to pick just one thing. There's so many joys in being a mom and a grandma.

  55. Just taking care of a new baby, loving it, walking with it when the baby's not

  56. feeling well or crying or wake half the night.

  57. But I guess the greatest joy of all is when they get older.

  58. And of course, we always had our kids in church, every service there was.

  59. But when they come to know the Lord, no doubt that is the greatest joy.

  60. Mason, if you're still in here, can you go get a box of tissues?

  61. I think we're going to need it this morning.

  62. Jen, what about you? What would you say is what's been one of the greatest joys

  63. of being a mother so far? You're not a grandmother yet. No, I'm just a mom.

  64. Just seeing my children go into each of their unique personalities.

  65. And probably the greatest joy is when I get to catch glimpses of their heart for Jesus.

  66. Shani. Hi, everybody. This is like for you, Jeff.

  67. Love you. Thank you. For Jesus. Yes, it's for Jesus.

  68. For Jesus. But the joy of my heart is just that God gave me the opportunity to be a mom.

  69. And the joy is my heart every day to just see them become who they are.

  70. And when they go through struggles, but they choose Jesus.

  71. And they may fall and have things they go through,

  72. but that's the purest joy that I have,

  73. is just seeing them not because I'm making them,

  74. but on their own free will, which is exactly what God desires for us,

  75. to choose Him that way in our own free will, that they go after Him in their

  76. own will. So that's my greatest joy.

  77. And to watch each of them accept Christ has been my greatest joy.

  78. That's a really great insight, too, where instead of us forcing it on our kids,

  79. it's that point when they take over the reins and they say,

  80. I don't just want this because mom and dad wanted this for me,

  81. but I want this for my life and I want this for my family.

  82. And it's that personal ownership of their faith. That's a great answer.

  83. Susan, my friend, one of the greatest joys of being mother or grandmother.

  84. I'm right there with these guys. You know, you remember all those hours that

  85. you walked the floors and they cried. And I didn't call them problems that we

  86. went through. We had adventures.

  87. We didn't have anything normal in my family.

  88. It was Utah. Yeah, it was. It

  89. really was to begin with. And so land of opportunity, this is the place.

  90. But you go through all those things as your kids get older and as you get older. you learn, you grow.

  91. And I'm right there with you where

  92. one of my proudest moments is when they choose to do the right thing.

  93. And then my theory from reading the Bible and things is, as mothers,

  94. we're supposed to give them roots and wings.

  95. And so that they can grow and they can make their own choices,

  96. and they can do good things that we have put into their minds.

  97. And I think that's one of the best moments.

  98. And that is a biblical principle, and that is found in Scripture,

  99. to give them roots and wings. Did you know that?

  100. Roots that will go down deep into their faith, but wings that will carry them

  101. independence on God. That's awesome.

  102. Okay, now we're going to go the opposite way with this. No, no,

  103. not in people. You can hand the mic.

  104. Opposite in question. You know, that one was one of the joys.

  105. What's been one of the most challenging parts or hardest parts of being a mom or grandmother?

  106. And, you know, mom, what's for you? And don't say my name. Okay.

  107. What has been one of the hardest— It's hard to answer some of these questions without specifying.

  108. We all know you're talking about one of the girls because they were really—

  109. I have two girls and one boy.

  110. The girls were really hard, and I was the easy one.

  111. But tell us something. What's something that was really challenging and hard

  112. in being a mom or grandma?

  113. And it's okay. Well, when they were little, it wasn't terribly challenging.

  114. They were always pretty good kids when they're teens sometimes they have challenges,

  115. girls am i right drive for the first time

  116. first time alone in a car and that makes you kind of nervous wondering if they're

  117. going to do okay if they're going to come back home or if they're going to have

  118. problems but they never did have problems driving a car or first time on a date.

  119. Second and third and fourth you're always

  120. concerned you know you want them to do the right thing make the right choices

  121. as a grandma unfortunately most of my grandchildren have lived at least 10 hours

  122. away from us so we didn't get to spend enough time with them,

  123. but we do make it to all the big events and every one of them is precious.

  124. And when Jeff and Jen moved here about almost nine years ago,

  125. we were very happy because we didn't have any of our grandkids near us.

  126. And now you want to get rid of them. What? Now you want to get rid of them.

  127. No, no, no, no. I love them. I love them to death.

  128. So I'm so glad that we can have part in their lives.

  129. Okay, so what has been the most challenging parts of motherhood?

  130. I put that they're not like me.

  131. They each have their own unique personalities and just trying to figure out

  132. how to train them and their unique personalities back to the Lord.

  133. I think that's been the most challenging part of motherhood.

  134. Isn't that true? Because each child has a different personality,

  135. responds to discipline differently, responds to encouragement differently, responds to humor.

  136. Some like it. Some are like, you're stupid. You're, you know,

  137. of course, my kids would never say that about me, but or some get angry.

  138. Yeah. And so they're so unique that it is a real challenge, I'm sure,

  139. you know, for all of us as parents.

  140. But especially moms who spend the majority of your time, you know,

  141. with the family, with the kids,

  142. trying to train up them all and being a specialist for each one because they're

  143. all different. That'd be a challenge. What about you, Shani?

  144. Have you had any challenging.

  145. Challenging times as a mother, grandmother? Wow.

  146. I could definitely run off on a sermonette with that,

  147. but challenging is one of those things where you realize that when your child is challenging you,

  148. that's just the opportunity to really push into God that much harder and see

  149. how much He wants to be faithful to you.

  150. When the kids have challenges

  151. just it's really deepened my

  152. faith and trusting him there's been

  153. many many times that I've had to just bury myself

  154. in my closet because my kids are going through things and I would get a certain

  155. phone call you know that this person you know just yelling at their person in

  156. the back you're telling them that you heard this you're that no nothing,

  157. I swear, nothing, you know, I swear.

  158. And it's the power of God is real and prayer changes things.

  159. It's definitely, God just loves

  160. us so much to just give us the ability to connect with Him in prayer.

  161. So that's what challenges have taught me is just take it to.

  162. It's hard to get through them because you just fear the damage that will happen

  163. to your kids when they're going through the challenge.

  164. You just don't want, you know, you're just praying mercy, mercy, just God have mercy.

  165. And I just am so thankful for the ways he's shown up and helped me just be able

  166. to write down, you know, just you answered again and you answered again.

  167. And so the challenges are opportunities for us to see as well that if God brought

  168. you to it, He's going to bring you through it.

  169. And that the challenge is meant

  170. to be looked at like an opportunity that your child is going to grow.

  171. Because without those challenges, they really don't grow.

  172. So just keep them bathed in prayer and keep praying for those opportunities for them,

  173. even though some of them may be challenges and

  174. you don't you just everybody wants to

  175. keep a challenge away but they're some of

  176. our best teaching times with our kids so

  177. that's good i know you've walked through some struggles as a mom as a grandma

  178. not everyone knows what those are but i've had a few you've had a couple yeah

  179. and but you are an amazing example of a godly mom and godly grandmother.

  180. And I want you to know as my friend, I am so proud of you for the way that you,

  181. if you don't know Susan, Susan is basically raising her grandboys and they are incredible kids.

  182. I've got to baptize one of them, Gabriel, and they come to youth group and they're

  183. here on Sunday and on Wednesday.

  184. And she drives like an hour. She drives from green to make sure that they're

  185. at youth group and to make sure that they're at church because she knows the importance of it.

  186. And I just want you to know, I couldn't be prouder of someone for the way that

  187. you're walking and parenting and grandparenting.

  188. Yes, I'm serious. So tell us a little bit.

  189. And when I say a little bit, people have lunch plans today and tonight. So yeah. Yeah.

  190. Well, first of all, let me say thank you for letting me be up here and talk,

  191. because I feel in me, I'm not the best example of a great mother or grandmother.

  192. You can ask the kids. There's times I do not spoil the child,

  193. and I pull that rod out, and I get yelling.

  194. And, you know, I think the thing about raising children when you're a grandparent

  195. is that you've been through it once.

  196. And you know where you really screwed up because we're not perfect, you know?

  197. We make some real crazy choices in our lives and then we're like,

  198. well, that didn't work. What do I do now, you know?

  199. And for me, the Bible is not always, okay, this didn't work,

  200. now let's do this, you know?

  201. You have to really get in there and dig and understand. And I just,

  202. I don't even know where to begin with challenges.

  203. I've learned, I've grown.

  204. As you get older, there is not a day that doesn't go by that I don't learn something new.

  205. And so now I'm at the point I watch the language because my name is Steve and

  206. la la la the chicken and all this and that.

  207. And 67 and all these things. You've got to understand what they're talking about.

  208. And when I asked the kids, what did that mean? They're like,

  209. I don't know, Grandma, we live with you.

  210. That's not a bad thing. That's probably a good thing. So I'm trying to get caught

  211. up on the lingo and stuff.

  212. But it's way different raising kids in this.

  213. The grandkids, very different than our kids. or, you know, it's a different generation.

  214. What is one thing you wish you had known when you first became a mother?

  215. One thing you wish you would have known or that you weren't prepared for?

  216. That's a hard question. I look at all the things out there today,

  217. all the helps out there for new parents, And I often wish I'd had them when

  218. I was a parent for the first time, because some of them are so good,

  219. and they're based on Scripture. Wow.

  220. I see my kids that have used these helps with their children and think,

  221. oh man, I wish I'd known that when I was raising my kids.

  222. I did not have bad children. I'm not saying that at all. But there's certainly

  223. always room for improvement.

  224. And there's a lot I didn't know that I could have done differently and would

  225. if I had a chance to do it again. But I'm not going to have that chance.

  226. But God is faithful, and He's always been with us, and He has worked in their

  227. hearts as they've grown.

  228. And I'm very proud of my children because now I'm going to cry.

  229. They're all serving the Lord today, and I'm very thankful. You're going to make me cry, Mom.

  230. The one thing I wish I knew when I first became a mother

  231. is how challenging it would be like I

  232. feel like my mom had it easy and my parents had

  233. it easy but it was just my sister and I we grew up in a different time like

  234. technology has just made it so much harder to raise our kids in a godly manner

  235. and I just wish I had known that because I could have been I don't know better

  236. prepared for the challenges,

  237. but I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

  238. Well, one of the things I wish I would have known is that as you walk along

  239. as a mom, little eyes are always watching you, and your example is so important.

  240. Just to teach them if something

  241. is a struggle for that even in that moment or that day just take him in a room

  242. and pray with him just get on your knees right there in the moment and just

  243. i don't care many times in the car like take a drive with them let's stop and pray like.

  244. Know, the biggest thing that is something I wish I, you know.

  245. Could have came into it, just always realizing that God is love.

  246. And when He says He wants an abundant life for us, He wants us to stay in His

  247. positive love that, you know, He'll walk us through trials, but we have to find

  248. joy in Him and keep pushing through Him and believing good that He has for us.

  249. And the biggest challenge was just seeing my choices when I battled my sin myself,

  250. what it did to my kids, and just making,

  251. I would make the choice again if I could go back,

  252. that my choices and my attitudes, that when I was seeing myself struggling,

  253. I wouldn't have really let myself stay in that stuck place at times.

  254. I would definitely have went to the Lord quicker and allowed Him to work those things in me,

  255. out of me, to create that clean heart in me so that the kids didn't have to

  256. endure my struggles, which in turn, your attitudes and your choices will definitely affect them.

  257. And that's a very painful thing to look at when that happens.

  258. So, I encourage mommies to realize that just the example, the choices,

  259. your attitudes, your prayer life, everything is going to affect them.

  260. So, choose the Lord every time.

  261. That's really good. Our house, we do a lot of humor.

  262. And so if I ever did something, bad choices, then I would turn and look and

  263. go, now did you see why I shouldn't have done that? Did you learn something?

  264. So I do believe in prayer. I'm a very strong proponent of prayer.

  265. And I do believe that God listens. It isn't always on our time frame.

  266. Want things done quicker. And that's not always his idea. And there's always a reason for it.

  267. So as you go through struggles that you're raising your kids,

  268. you're trying to figure out, why am I going through this?

  269. Or why is this happening in my family?

  270. Well, as long as you keep looking up and you pray and you believe that God's

  271. in charge, you'll get through it.

  272. And you might not get the answer you really thought you wanted,

  273. but down the road when you get older, you can look back and you'll know why the whys will come.

  274. I'll let you hold that mic for a second. We'll work our way back there because

  275. it's hard being the last one whenever you like everyone has given their answer.

  276. But we're going to switch over to something fun and lighthearted for just a

  277. minute. What is something super funny that you like or an unforgettable moment

  278. that you had raising your kids?

  279. I had five children before I was 24 years old.

  280. And I can they're all different people.

  281. Every one of them. I have everything from cowboys to granola girls that are

  282. just totally different.

  283. But I can remember when my oldest and my middle son tied their baby brother,

  284. Cassidy, to a goat. And I was doing dishes.

  285. And I looked out the window. And we were in Utah.

  286. And I'm looking. And they were bull riders.

  287. And so they decided they were going to teach their baby brother,

  288. who was two years old, to ride a goat.

  289. And they tied him on the goat. And I'm, like, running out through the back door.

  290. So I have lots of stories like that.

  291. You're standing at the kitchen window seeing your two-year-old go flying by.

  292. Getting tied to a goat, yeah, by his two-year-old.

  293. Being in Utah, what did the other mothers do? Oh, that's normal.

  294. I'm just kidding. I'm saying your wife, like the other wives,

  295. the other moms. It was a bad joke. I'm sorry, Susan.

  296. But no, they really did do stuff like that. That's so, yeah,

  297. I didn't, but. That's funny. Yeah. Yeah.

  298. Shani, did any of your kids get tied to goats?

  299. I can't match, I can't beat that one at all, no.

  300. But just funny and unforgettable. Each day just brought just so much humor to my life.

  301. I mean, from their little jokes they try to tell and just the things they do

  302. to each other, the way they dressed each other,

  303. like to try to help me or like, I mean, the meals they would try to bless their

  304. hearts. Like, it is just adorable.

  305. It was so fun. And the unforgettable thing for me is just that watching them,

  306. how they tenderly cared for each other, you know, just like caring about each

  307. other when something happened.

  308. I remember the one year that our kids cared about each other. It was a great year.

  309. That one time. That one time. It was cute when they were little.

  310. They really did. Like, you know, they didn't want the littler one to cry or

  311. they're hugging. Oh, keep it up, kids.

  312. It was just all precious. Okay, I'm going to share a funny moment that wasn't

  313. funny at the time, but it's funny now looking back.

  314. I once broke one of my toes on a door jam chasing Mason down the hall when he

  315. did something bad, when he was like three or four.

  316. I didn't know that. Well, my kids have been gone for so long.

  317. I'm right here. Yeah, you are now. But I don't see him very much that I had trouble remembering.

  318. I see him on Sunday. And a lot of Sundays, I don't even get to talk to him. I just see him up front.

  319. I can remember a couple things when my kids were little.

  320. One of my girls, and she must have been maybe three, two or three.

  321. And I went into her room where she was at. and she had gotten the baby powder

  322. out of the changing table and dumped it on her head.

  323. And she was covered from head to toe with powder. So I took her picture and then I dissembled her.

  324. And then there was another child. I don't know how old they were who tried to

  325. chop down all my rose bushes one day.

  326. Why are you looking over here? You said there was another child.

  327. I don't have any memory of that. Don't try it at all. I still hate them.

  328. It. I actually remember that picture. It was Julie that dumped the baby powder

  329. all over because it was in, when we were growing up, we could go to the bookshelf

  330. in our house and there were picture albums.

  331. And so there was a picture album of Julie and that was in one of the pictures of it.

  332. So good. I'm so glad that you disciplined her. She was a very bad girl. That's good.

  333. Okay. One more kind of funny one or just lighthearted.

  334. What's one tradition that you started or that you've tried to,

  335. you know, you hoped maybe your kids would pass on?

  336. Well, again, I have trouble remembering back so far.

  337. One thing we used to do is go out, and this was at Christmas time,

  338. and Jeff actually reminded me of this.

  339. We always like to drive around and look at Christmas lights and go down to Vinton

  340. and see the big Christmas display.

  341. I know Jeff remembers that one. He and Joe always enjoyed that.

  342. And another thing we did at Christmas for many, many years was I baked a birthday

  343. cake and put Happy Birthday Jesus on it.

  344. And we always sang Happy Birthday to Jesus on Christmas Day.

  345. There was something that they could remember.

  346. I loved I don't remember the I

  347. don't know you would think I would remember the cake but

  348. I don't remember the cake I love cake but I

  349. do remember the lights and and when we I don't know if you're gonna don't take

  350. it okay so Jennifer go ahead what well the one I wrote down was actually turkey

  351. gravy with pancakes on Thanksgiving morning,

  352. It's a tradition that my mom started, and I hope my kids will pass down.

  353. We have one that doesn't like it just yet, but he'll grow into it, I think.

  354. But yes, we go every Christmas and we call it the Minivan Express.

  355. We pop popcorn and have hot cocoa and we go look at lights.

  356. And the first year, yeah. And the first year we moved here, I was so excited

  357. because I am like super nostalgic.

  358. I'm the one that watches like the Hallmark Channel in our house while she's

  359. watching, you know, First Blood and Rambo.

  360. And so I was like, you guys, there's the greatest light display in all the Midwest

  361. and it's in Vinton and we're going to go down there.

  362. And so we drove down there and we get there and it was still running.

  363. This is eight, nine years ago. It's still running.

  364. I think it was the last year they did it. And our kids are like, this is so lame.

  365. It's got lights of Charlie Brown and the Flintstones and Snoopy from like 1973.

  366. And I'm like, I know it's, look at that. That's awesome.

  367. It's the same light display when we were kids. And they're just like,

  368. we drove this whole way for this.

  369. This is lame. Do we have to do this? So the next year we're like,

  370. we're going to Vinton. And they're like, oh.

  371. Yeah, that was a different light display. But anyway, so that's something that

  372. we've passed on. What about you, Shani?

  373. Just Christmas Eve service was always hard.

  374. You know, Christmas Eve we'd spend with my husbands, my in-laws,

  375. but I'd always pack my kids up.

  376. And usually Cedar Heights had a really nice Christmas Eve service.

  377. It was just really important. and just always trying to hit the Christmas lights,

  378. going Waverly had really cool, where they all went with the music and I don't

  379. know, just something that we've always liked to do too, so.

  380. Thinking because our house hasn't really been doing traditions for a few years.

  381. It used to be every Christmas Eve,

  382. all the family would get together and we would go to Christmas Eve service and

  383. then we would come back home and we would have roast and a nice dinner and a

  384. bottle of wine and then we'd each open one present,

  385. but I have not really done that.

  386. I think the last time Lyle's laughing because he remembered,

  387. I lost it and I was like, there was nobody there. I'd cooked all this stuff.

  388. It might've been Thanksgiving and I ended up saying, okay, forget it.

  389. And I fed it all to his dog.

  390. And it was the best food he'd ever eaten. So the dog celebrated a Thanksgiving

  391. and And we just kind of need to be working on things a little better.

  392. You know, we're really struggling with a lot of family issues right now.

  393. And it's hard. It's really hard nowadays. It's different.

  394. Yeah, sure.

  395. All right. I have so many questions. And my mom was like, there's pages of questions.

  396. How are we going to do this? It's going to take forever.

  397. I'm like, I'm not going to ask you all of them. But there are a couple that

  398. I want to hit before we wrap up.

  399. And we do need to wrap up. But if you could say something to a struggling mom

  400. right now who is in the throes, I mean,

  401. you guys are kind of past the young children's phase. Our youngest is 10.

  402. But what is one thing that you would say to a mom that's struggling with their

  403. kids, struggling with just being in the middle of being overwhelmed with motherhood?

  404. What's something that you would say to encourage them?

  405. There's so many things. Be patient. Whatever you're going through will pass.

  406. Get in the Word and see what God has to say to you about it. Pray a lot.

  407. That's the most important thing is to pray a lot.

  408. And to seek counsel, whether it be from a pastor or a good friend,

  409. someone else that has probably gone through similar things as to what you're going through.

  410. There's a lot of good Christian books out there on raising children,

  411. and I read a lot of them when my kids were home, but there's even better ones today.

  412. So there is help if you need help and you need advice and you think you can't

  413. get through whatever you're going through you will get through it God will bring you through it,

  414. a hard one for me because I feel like some days I'm still in the thick of it

  415. and overwhelmed and frustrated a lot of times.

  416. But I would say to try to enjoy your children as much as you can and not get

  417. frustrated when they don't always listen to you or they do what they want to do.

  418. And just to pray, like mom said, pray for your kids.

  419. Yes, I think of John 15, he tells us in verse 12, this is my commandment that

  420. you love one another as I have loved you.

  421. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.

  422. And it's just a good example to me, and I suppose to us when we struggle as

  423. moms, that God's greatest commandment is, you know, that we love one another.

  424. And first, you know, in order for us to be able to love someone,

  425. love our children the way God wants us to, We have to learn to love ourselves,

  426. and we have to learn to live in that love that God has for us as moms and realize that, you know,

  427. we're God's child just like they're our child.

  428. And so it's tapping into that love that God has for us and living in that love

  429. that God has for us as moms.

  430. So just just

  431. love on yourself be be gentle to yourself as

  432. moms you know fill fill your well what fills your well you know coffee with

  433. a friend painting your nails you know just whatever it is just love yourself

  434. and let God just really pour into God everything that your heart possibly can

  435. and let him love you back.

  436. And because if you push him away, you know, he'll gladly go away and let you have your way.

  437. He doesn't push against our will, but just that constant surrender will help

  438. you to have what you need in him to gain the strength you need to keep going.

  439. So I just pray all of you keep going in love, always in love.

  440. And perfect love casts out fear. So His love is perfect.

  441. That's a great word, Shani. Thank you.

  442. Well, not only are adults going through a struggle and moms and dads.

  443. In fact, while I'm thinking about this, there's so many dads that are raising

  444. the kids that it's Mother's Day, but dads need to be included in that too.

  445. But you know what you feel like when you're really struggling and you don't

  446. know how to do something or you just want to walk away?

  447. Well, remember that your kids are going through that too.

  448. They have times. They're not automatic robots. that you say jump,

  449. and they jump and ask how high on the way up,

  450. they have to have a time to reflect and figure out, you know,

  451. what's going on with them.

  452. And the one thing, I was very blessed.

  453. I had a good mother, and I never realized how good my mother was until I got older.

  454. And so the one thing I encourage,

  455. and I feel like the younger mothers don't really have this like we did,

  456. like we did, where there's many mothers, but find somebody that you appreciate

  457. the way that they are with their children.

  458. And you feel like they've done a fairly decent job of raising them and that

  459. they believe in the Bible and ask them questions or model after them, if you're lucky enough.

  460. When I first started having children, I didn't even know how to name a baby.

  461. How do you change a diaper?

  462. I had no clue. And I'd never been around babies.

  463. And so it was a huge, huge learning opportunity for me. Man, I didn't know.

  464. But pray and learn when you're frustrated, walk away.

  465. It's okay to let that baby cry or scream for a couple minutes and walk away.

  466. Say your prayer. Take a deep breath and then go back and tackle it again with

  467. fresh eyes and a deep breath.

  468. Lot of wisdom in everything that you guys have said this morning.

  469. Just a couple takeaways that I want to remind any parents who are struggling

  470. or grandparents that are struggling or just individuals.

  471. Shani, when you were talking about, you know, everything that you were saying

  472. reminded me that it's okay.

  473. You're going to get frustrated. You're going to get angry.

  474. Give yourself grace.

  475. Moms, give yourself the grace that you need.

  476. Don't have the expectation that you're going to be perfect.

  477. You're going to get angry. You're going to say things that you regret.

  478. You're going to do things because you're human.

  479. So give grace to yourself.

  480. Just like we need grace from our Heavenly Father.

  481. Allow yourself to have grace. And then I would say one of the things,

  482. the common thread is prayer.

  483. Finding your strength in the Lord. That's something that I see in each one of

  484. you that you don't have it.

  485. You're not perfect, but you want to learn and you want to grow in grace.

  486. You want to grow in Christ. You want to find your strength in Him.

  487. And you want to help your kids discover their purpose in Christ so that they

  488. are rooted, like Paul says, rooted in Christ, being built up in him so that

  489. they can take wings and fly.

  490. And so that they will make it their own.

  491. I mean, that's what we're called to do as parents, to raise up and to shepherd

  492. the hearts of our kids so that they'll go out and that they'll be God chasers. And that's what we want.

  493. Can we just say thank you to these four ladies for coming up here and doing this? Thank you.

  494. Invite the worship team to come on up, and we're going to close out.

  495. Come on up, and we're going to close out with a song. What's it called?

  496. I Speak Jesus. I Speak Jesus. I couldn't remember.

  497. But this is just a prayer, really, over you guys. We speak the name of Jesus

  498. over you, and we pray a blessing upon your heart and upon your life,

  499. and I'll walk you down here in a second.

  500. I offered to give her a piggyback ride and she said, no, thank you.

  501. I thought I was being kind. I thought you would want to spend some quality time

  502. with me making memories. I mean, that's a memory, right?

  503. Thank you for doing this with me this morning. I love you and happy Mother's Day.

  504. Happy Mother's Day. And let me pray and then we'll sing this blessing over you

  505. guys and then you can be dismissed.

  506. Have a great Mother's Day. Call your moms.

  507. I know Mother's Day can be a hard day for some of us.

  508. I pray that it will be a blessing to you regardless of your situation.

  509. I know a lot of you have lost your moms or they've passed on and they're gone.

  510. I would just say celebrate who they were in your life today, too.

  511. Heavenly Father, we love you. Thank you for being here this morning.

  512. Thank you for all the moms.

  513. We love our moms and we're so grateful for the impact that they've had in our lives.

  514. I would not be standing here if it were not for my mom and her belief that God

  515. can take a rebellious kid and change him and make him into your image.

  516. And so thank you for gifting me with the perfect mom that you knew before time

  517. that I would need to help raise me up to be the man that you wanted me to be.

  518. So thank you for her. Thank you for each mom that's here. I pray that you would

  519. bless them, give them a great day.

  520. Lord, we speak the name of Jesus over every family that's here today.

  521. We find ourselves in all different situations, all different walks of lives.

  522. Some of our kids are close by. Some of our kids have fallen away from Christ,

  523. some of our kids are far away, distance.

  524. We just pray that you would be with them and that your presence would be with

  525. them today and that they would receive and know the love of the Father today. In Jesus' name, amen.

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