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True Identity is Received (Ephesians 2:10, 1 John 3:1)

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  1. Amen. So being a guest guest speaker,

  2. there's always like a question of of like how, how you know

  3. how, how, what can I bring up to you guys so that I can make a

  4. point something that you know, brings you some kind of

  5. nourishment or inspiration or can I do I say something that's

  6. controversial, that's pointed and I chose for the kinder,

  7. gentler message today. OK, so I think and because

  8. here's the thing, like I even though I'm a pastor, that

  9. doesn't make me necessarily a professional at these things.

  10. Amen. It doesn't necessarily mean that

  11. I don't struggle like you do. Being a pastor doesn't

  12. necessarily mean I'm an expert at these things or that I

  13. practice them so much better than everybody else.

  14. It's some simply not true. There are certain parts of the

  15. Bible that I've known my entire life and yet I continue to

  16. transform to struggle. And one of the things that for

  17. me is difficult is this idea of your identity, yourself worth

  18. right at the core of who you are.

  19. The question is, who are you? Who are you?

  20. OK, so when you get pulled over, you know, the police asks you

  21. for your driver's license because they want to know

  22. quickly, who are you, where you live, where you coming from?

  23. And my driver's license, you look at it says I'm 6 feet, 175

  24. lbs. I used to be like 2/10 of praise

  25. God, I lost some weight. Potter just described me what I

  26. do. You know, I, I am a hospital

  27. chaplain at a major hospital and then I am also a Hospice

  28. chaplain on the site. But these are not my core

  29. identity, OK? Our core identity has to do also

  30. with our self worth, right? So one of the questions is what

  31. do we do? A lot of us here who have jobs

  32. or careers, what do you do? I don't know, when you guys meet

  33. someone new, often that question comes up, right?

  34. Like, what do you do? And when I ask somebody what

  35. they do, I, I find two different reactions usually coming from

  36. them. Either one is 1 of like pride.

  37. Oh, like, well, you know, I'm a lawyer, I'm a doctor, right?

  38. And, and then it's kind of like thinly veiled humility, but you

  39. know, they're very proud of what they do for sure, right.

  40. And then there are those who are like, not so proud of what they

  41. do, right? Oh, So what do you do?

  42. Oh, you know, I'm, I'm doing Uber right now or like Uber eats

  43. or, you know, they look crestfallen a little bit.

  44. They're kind of like their demeanor guys kind of goes.

  45. Some of them don't have jobs at all, Like, oh, I'm currently

  46. unemployed and I say, no, you're in between things.

  47. I'm sure you'll find something. I try to make them feel better.

  48. A lot of us have this tremendous pride about what you do with

  49. your life and good for you. No doubt.

  50. That's awesome. Some of us have a lot of pride

  51. or identity comes from being a parent, right.

  52. I realized that once I had my my daughter, my first born at

  53. Reagan, my life was not my own. I realized, holy smoke, right?

  54. There was just so much. And now that she's getting older

  55. and she's she recently just got into a really prestigious

  56. program. Do you see what I just did

  57. there? I slipped in my pride as a

  58. Korean parent, right? But I got to tell you, I'm the

  59. least Korean parent. As a Korean parent, I received

  60. so much trauma. So did my wife for my parents

  61. that we promised that we would not withhold our love because my

  62. kid got a, a minus. OK, we, we are so like trying so

  63. hard for Reagan to grow up without that kind of pressure.

  64. But the weird thing is she's putting that pressure on

  65. herself. OK, so she's getting into these

  66. programs and we're like, I can feel a little bit of my pride

  67. going at first. This is the funniest part.

  68. When she got into the program, my wife and I were like, are we

  69. sure that's not a mistake because she needed to pass a

  70. test and then lottery in. OK, so you got to pass that test

  71. 1st and then you got a lottery. And then in that she got picked

  72. from the lottery. We're like, I don't know if she

  73. really got in. And then then she got placed

  74. into like the highest math class.

  75. And my daughter takes after me. We don't like math, so I don't

  76. know how that happens. So she's doing algebra at 6th

  77. grade, which is too mind blowing to me.

  78. My wife and I were like, I don't, I think they may have

  79. made a mistake. That's how we're thinking of it,

  80. right? But some of us for sure, we get,

  81. you know, we get this pride going about what our kids

  82. accomplishments are. We name Job kind of like how I

  83. did in front of you guys right now, right?

  84. Some of us are really prideful. We get our identity out of the

  85. gifts and talents that God has given to us.

  86. Some of us are very musically inclined, like our brother

  87. Potter. You know, some people are really

  88. good at speaking in front of people.

  89. You know, some people are are really good at making money or

  90. your accounts are really big. So there's like, it got all

  91. these talents and gifts and you derive a lot of pleasure out of

  92. that. You know, at my age, I just

  93. turned 50 not too long ago, and I haven't played basketball in

  94. something like 20 years. And my friend, some of my

  95. friends who had, you know, they were really good at basketball,

  96. man. I mean, they're just so good at

  97. it. And now they're blowing knees

  98. and Achilles, they're pulling and stuff.

  99. And that's like that. That part of their life is

  100. slowly slipping away. The pride of being such a great

  101. athlete. Or how about this, Maybe some of

  102. us have have your identity in Christian morality.

  103. You have this blessed gift of having a great moral compass.

  104. You seem to be always doing and saying the right things, right?

  105. And so that kind of leads some of us into Christian ministry

  106. where we get a lot of identity and self worth in serving God.

  107. You're known as somebody who serves the church or does things

  108. for church or you once did. And so that can even be your

  109. core identity. But these are all beautiful

  110. things for sure, all beautiful things, but not your core

  111. identity. I'm here to tell you two things.

  112. One, you are God's masterpiece and #2 you are God's beloved

  113. child. That's the point of my 2

  114. messages today, right? And so Tim Keller, my second

  115. favorite Pastor Tim, you got that, OK, You're awake.

  116. Your identity is received, not achieved.

  117. Pastor Tim Keller said your identity is received, not

  118. achieved. You guys hear that and I wish

  119. I'd made that up. It sounds so amazing.

  120. That's such a great line. If you remember nothing else

  121. from this message, I hope that you remember this.

  122. Your identity is received, not achieved.

  123. So much of our lives is conditional upon achieving,

  124. especially for a lot of us who are for Asian American families,

  125. who, you know, it's, it's constantly striving to achieve,

  126. to make something of yourself, to bootstrap and and perform at

  127. a high level. Some of our jobs, you guys are

  128. some of us are coming into a performance review, right, where

  129. the manager gets to tell you some things that you can work

  130. on, right. And you, how do you feel about

  131. that? You know, in front of the

  132. manager, like, oh, yeah, thank you.

  133. Yeah, I'm so grateful. But when you leave, you're like,

  134. Oh man, right. And like your, your raises, your

  135. promotions, your place in the company is all, you know,

  136. predicated on this achieving. And so we're right.

  137. When you wake up in the morning, your first thing that you think

  138. about is getting things done, especially for some of the young

  139. parents. I that's a lot of kids in this

  140. family in this church. And I love that sound of the

  141. kids running around with aunties and uncles saying hello.

  142. And I just love that vibe. So God bless you on that.

  143. But some of us were parents like it's like hit the ground and

  144. running. You got to do, you got to feed

  145. yourself, you got to feed the kids, you got to protect the

  146. kids, you got to dress the kid. Everything, everything is

  147. performance based. And then on top of all that,

  148. there's this constant feeling like nagging feeling like you're

  149. not doing enough. You're not such a great parent.

  150. You wish you could be a better parent, but in Jesus, your

  151. identity is received, not achieved.

  152. Amen. So number one, the first thing I

  153. want to say is you are God's masterpiece.

  154. Ephesians 210 says this. For we are God's workmanship

  155. created in Christ Jesus for good works, for we are God's

  156. workmanship. That word workmanship is also

  157. translated masterpiece or craftsmanship.

  158. And so each and of us in this room is basically we are God's

  159. masterpiece. Did you know that when you are

  160. gone from this earth, there will never be another one like you?

  161. There's another weird word of saying that that's that means

  162. you're one-of-a-kind. Amen.

  163. And when I think of that word masterpiece.

  164. And by the way, this word workmanship in Greek is poema,

  165. which is where we get the word poem, which is an artistic or

  166. skillful written work, right? That's what a poem.

  167. I'm not a huge poem guy, but I do that does sound very amazing

  168. and beautiful. But this is the idea of

  169. something artistically made, skillfully made, beautifully

  170. made. When I think of masterpieces, I

  171. start thinking of paintings. Do you guys do that?

  172. And the painting that I think of most is Van Gogh's Starry Night.

  173. And I brought it from my house actually today.

  174. Yeah. You guys know this one, right?

  175. This is probably one of the most famous.

  176. I'm going to prop it against this mic stand.

  177. This particular painting has deeper personal meaning for me

  178. because on one of my my first real dates with my wife, who

  179. were my girlfriend at the time, we went to the MO Ma, which was

  180. in New York, and it was a target free Friday.

  181. So we got in for free, which makes the date even better.

  182. And so this starry night, Vincent van Gogh is kind of

  183. close to my heart as being, you know, just a a very novice

  184. newbie at art. I'm not going to pretend like

  185. I'm sophisticated. But Van Gogh, I don't know if,

  186. you know, this was a was it was a Christian.

  187. And he came from actually a family of pastors.

  188. He himself actually thought about going to seminary,

  189. realized that's not his thing. Aren't we so blessed that he

  190. didn't? Right.

  191. Right. And I don't know if you guys

  192. know this, but he considered this painting a failure.

  193. Yeah, I want to ask, how many of us in this room right now to 1°

  194. or another sometimes wrestle with that feeling of being a

  195. failure? Yeah, but Ephesians 210 says we

  196. are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works.

  197. We all masterpieces, never to be duplicated again.

  198. You are one-of-a-kind. That's what makes this painting

  199. so priceless. You cannot put a price to this.

  200. Why? Because it's one-of-a-kind, it

  201. will never be made again. And I don't want to downplay

  202. this, but it is nothing compared to who you are in Jesus, Amen.

  203. You are a masterpiece. Turn to your neighbor and say,

  204. hey, you're a masterpiece. It sounds funny, it sounds

  205. incredible, it is unbelievable, Amen.

  206. Which is why we all struggle with the idea.

  207. We struggle because it's so true and it feels so cheaply had not

  208. so not cheaply had. Ask your mom, was it easy to

  209. have you OK? Or the way that God created each

  210. and everyone. Psalm 13914.

  211. This is awesome. It says I praise you because I

  212. am fearfully and wonderfully made.

  213. Your works are wonderful. I know that full well.

  214. David had a real deep appreciation for the human body

  215. and what it could do, what it does, how it restores itself,

  216. how it repairs itself, how each morning it is able to be

  217. refreshed. You know, there is so much we

  218. don't understand about the human body.

  219. I'm a hospital chaplain, so I get to see all the floors of the

  220. hospital. You know, the nurses and doctors

  221. who are in different departments and units, they don't actually

  222. cross over to other units unless you're a floater.

  223. But as a chaplain, I go to all these.

  224. I go to the EDI, go to the ICU. I go to the NICU.

  225. I go to all these places. And one of the things that's

  226. really astounding to me is how little medical science can do.

  227. Don't get me wrong, The technology is amazing, OK?

  228. Like, now I've seen, you know, X-ray machines.

  229. You know, back in the day, you had to go to the X-ray room.

  230. Nowadays, the X-ray come to you. Is there anyone in the

  231. healthcare industry here? You guys will know what I'm

  232. talking about, right? Nowadays they push this, the

  233. X-ray machines, these things are like 20-30, forty, $1000, and

  234. they come to the room. So technology is amazing, but in

  235. terms of trying to make sick people, well, sometimes it's

  236. just like you just got to wait it out.

  237. They give you some medicines and this and that.

  238. And especially where I'm working in the ICU, there's just such a

  239. sense of hopelessness there. There's so little the middle

  240. size understands and can do. My point is, is that you have

  241. been fearfully and wonderfully made by our Creator.

  242. Amen. Yeah.

  243. There's so how intricate and complex our bodies are.

  244. And in Hebrew, this word fearfully is yaray.

  245. Yaray. This word has this essence of

  246. awe, reverence and deep respect. But how many times, brothers and

  247. sisters, do you look in the mirror and go, man, amazing,

  248. right? None of us, right?

  249. Every time you guys are looking in the mirror, something is

  250. wrong, right? A freckle, A pimple, a hair out

  251. of place, right? We're always condemning and

  252. shaming ourselves when we're looking in the mirror.

  253. We don't have this deep sense of reverence and respect.

  254. But think about how little your input was asked for when you

  255. were made, right? When God created you.

  256. You didn't ask for your height, your weight.

  257. You didn't ask for how many fingers or toes.

  258. And all of this is so wonderfully made, marvelous and

  259. extraordinary with. And then not just that, that's

  260. just the human body, right? But think about the things that

  261. that that make up who you are character wise, personality

  262. wise, your talents, your passions, your intellect.

  263. OK, I got it. My daughter Reagan, she's like

  264. really into crafts right now. She's into little ducks, so

  265. she's hot gluing ducks on everything.

  266. Went to Disneyland and she put ducks on her ear, mouse ears.

  267. And it turned out to be a good thing because she lost her ears

  268. on the ride. And then when she came back,

  269. they're like, which one is yours?

  270. The one with the ducks. And she was immediately able to

  271. get her ears back. And then my little one, she's

  272. not so much into her crafts, but she loves to dance, right?

  273. She's watching all this BTS, you know, black, pink, and then you

  274. know, Huntrex, you know the whole that golden song, right?

  275. EJ and them. And she's she, she can memorize

  276. all the lyrics. She's only 6.

  277. And I'm looking at her and like my wife and I are like, I don't

  278. know if that comes for you or from me, but just amazing how we

  279. have these different talents and gifts and passions into a

  280. physical body that builds, restores and repairs itself.

  281. We are God's craftsmanship, one-of-a-kind and original.

  282. But you may say, oh, John, Pastor John, I don't feel like

  283. an amazing masterpiece. I'm not doing well in school.

  284. I'm not Maybe I'm you're not doing well in your job or, or

  285. marriage, or maybe a lack of a marriage.

  286. You're looking to get married. I've made so many mistakes, you

  287. may say, or you may say. I've been hurt so much by

  288. others. But none of your failures and

  289. mistakes and hurts changes how God sees you.

  290. You are his masterpiece. Allow me to share this one

  291. illustration. It's a special form of Japanese

  292. art. It is the art of imperfection.

  293. I'd be impressed if anyone knows what this is.

  294. Anyone know what it is? Very good.

  295. Who said that? Very good.

  296. Very good. That's right.

  297. It's called Kinsugi, OK. It's basically art of

  298. imperfection. Is beauty out of the broken.

  299. OK, So basically it's a way of restoring broken pottery.

  300. And the way they restore it is with this rare SAP of a tree.

  301. And SAP is another word of saying blood, OK?

  302. It's like the rare blood of trees.

  303. And then what you do is you dust it with gold.

  304. Now here's the crazy part. Once the broken pottery is

  305. restored, it becomes more valuable and more beautiful than

  306. before. Amen.

  307. Yeah. And who is that?

  308. That's you and me, brothers and sisters.

  309. Our sin in our hurts, in our wounds and our mistakes are

  310. restored not with tree sapping gold, but with the precious

  311. blood of Christ Jesus our Lord. Amen.

  312. A new creation is what Paul calls it, right?

  313. We are new creation in Christ and He is so close to those that

  314. are broken hearted, the imperfect, the misfits, that's

  315. you and me. But God sees us as a

  316. masterpiece. Isn't that good?

  317. OK #2 who are you? What is your core identity?

  318. Number one, we said you are God's masterpiece in Christ

  319. Jesus #2 who are you? You are God's dearly beloved

  320. child. Have you ever thought about this

  321. question? Like what is the point of all of

  322. us? Like why are we here?

  323. Why did God create us? Why did God create us, right?

  324. It's so that we can go to church and read the Bible and and pray.

  325. Some of our holy rollers can go to like, you know, morning

  326. service, you know, like if you're really holy.

  327. And so God created us so that we could do all these things for

  328. him. That is not why God created us.

  329. God created us for the same reason why families want to have

  330. children is to share their love, right?

  331. Is to create a family. God created us to build a

  332. family. Amen.

  333. First John 31 says this. See what great love the Father

  334. has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God

  335. and that is what we are. That is your core identity.

  336. Says read it again. See what great love the Father

  337. has lavished on us that we should be called children of God

  338. and that is what we are, our core identity.

  339. It's not wrapped up in what you do with your life.

  340. It's not how much money you have.

  341. It's not how handsome or beautiful you are.

  342. Your core identity is in Jesus because of his great love for

  343. us. We are his children.

  344. And I love this word lavish. Do we use, We don't use this

  345. word that often, but I love it. I love this word lavish.

  346. It means basically spending or giving more than is necessary to

  347. give in excess or extravagantly. OK, when I think of lavish, I, I

  348. think of my brother-in-law. He works for Disney.

  349. So we get the, we get a chance to go to, to Disneyland and

  350. pretty often I, I would say more often than we should actually

  351. get real tired. But so we went this past Friday

  352. and every time we go, my, my brother-in-law, he, you know, he

  353. lets us in, you know, which is a great gift upon itself.

  354. But then, you know, he, he buys us food and with my daughters

  355. that we go into a store and he buys them whatever they want in

  356. the store, not whatever they want, but within reason.

  357. And to me, that feels like so much like, like lavish love,

  358. right? I feel like a parent's job is to

  359. unspoil their children and uncles and aunties are there to

  360. spoil children. You see what I'm saying?

  361. And and they just, he just lavishes on them with all these

  362. extravagant gifts. Here's the thing.

  363. How did the Father lavish us with great love?

  364. John 316 We all know it. For God so loved the world that

  365. he gave his one and only Son. Amen.

  366. He lavished his love in this. Because here's the thing, love

  367. causes us to give, OK? Love causes us to give.

  368. The greater the love, the greater the give.

  369. I remember when my grandparents were still with us.

  370. Oh, yeah, we go visit them and then when we say, oh, we have to

  371. go, and then my grandmother starts opening up a bag and

  372. starts throwing in whatever she sees around her, a bag of

  373. peanuts and like Bengay or like whatever's around, right?

  374. She just loves us so much. She just, or she'll still take

  375. out a bunch of like Korean food and start stuffing into bags

  376. because the greater the love, the greater the give, right?

  377. And in our father, he gives us his most precious thing.

  378. It doesn't say that God had ten sons.

  379. It says that he had one son, and our Father in his great love

  380. gives us the most precious one and only son.

  381. That's what we celebrate Christmas for.

  382. We can say happy holidays blue in the face, but we're all

  383. trying to say Merry Christmas, Amen.

  384. When we all celebrate God's greatest gift, which is why

  385. we're giving gifts to each other, because we're remembering

  386. how God gave us his most precious gift.

  387. Amen. Yeah.

  388. The greatest gift of all. That's why we're giving gifts to

  389. each other. You ever thought about that?

  390. Why are we giving gifts to each other?

  391. Yeah, it's because we are remembering God's gift to us.

  392. If you guys know who Tony Dungy is, he's now a commentator, but

  393. he used to be a Super Bowl winning coach of the

  394. Indianapolis Colts and once. I don't know if you guys know

  395. this, but he's a big Christian. He's a believer.

  396. He said this. If God were to ask for my son in

  397. exchange to save the world, I would have to say, I'm sorry,

  398. Lord, I cannot give up my son to save the world.

  399. But that is what God did. He gave up his son so that we

  400. might be saved. Think about that folks for a

  401. second, especially those of us who are parents in this room,

  402. right? What parent would willingly give

  403. up their child to die for someone else?

  404. I'm a pastor and all, but I'm sorry, that's not something I'm

  405. going to do. I will not give up my child for

  406. someone else. But that's exactly what God does

  407. for us. Romans 5 says very rarely will

  408. anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good

  409. person, someone might possibly dare to die, right?

  410. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this while we

  411. were sinners, Christ died for us.

  412. Amen. That means what does that mean?

  413. That's that means that God did not send Jesus to die for us

  414. when we were doing really good, morally upright and virtuous

  415. things. He died when we were at our

  416. worst. The amazing thing about this is

  417. this, and we don't actually run across this anywhere in the

  418. world. Only in God do we find this word

  419. unconditional love, unconditional love.

  420. This gets thrown around a lot, but basically what it means is a

  421. fancy way of saying God loves you no matter what.

  422. Amen. No matter what, no matter what,

  423. He cannot love you anymore or any less than he does right now.

  424. Amen. Isn't that good?

  425. You can read your Bible backwards and forwards 100 times

  426. and come to, you know, every. There's no religious or virtuous

  427. thing can you ever do that makes God love you more?

  428. Amen. Gosh, on the other side, there's

  429. no sin that you can do as much as you do that making God love

  430. you any less. Hey man, imagine trying that at

  431. your work. I'm going to go to work when I

  432. feel like it. See how that works out, right?

  433. I think you just do whatever you want at work.

  434. Never. It's always conditional.

  435. Every single thing is conditional.

  436. Even in schools, everything is conditional, right?

  437. Don't go to class. See how that works?

  438. Stuff is exactly what I did in my life in high school.

  439. I got kicked out of high school because I ditched so much.

  440. I didn't end up graduating high school.

  441. You're looking at probably one of the few Koreans.

  442. I'm a Unicorn, guys. OK, You've not met a Korean guy

  443. that did not graduate high school?

  444. I have a GED. It's not the same thing.

  445. It's a good enough diploma, OK? I should have just taken my

  446. freshman year and just get it out of the way.

  447. And I went to junior college. I went to UCLA.

  448. OK, So my children, friends here.

  449. Little misled crowd. OK, Yes.

  450. You're good at football. Good for you.

  451. All right, Good for you. OK.

  452. All right. But what it means is that no

  453. matter what, God cannot love you anymore or less than he already

  454. does right now. In fact.

  455. In fact, it is a love so great and amazing it takes 66 books to

  456. tell us of his love. Essentially, the Bible is a

  457. giant love letter. Amen.

  458. It's a giant love letter, isn't it?

  459. Isn't that nice kind of like frame it that way instead of a

  460. religious book on got to read my Bible, right like blue in the

  461. face right all the past telling you to read your Bible.

  462. But when I tell you that truth be told, the Bible is a giant

  463. love letter, kind of changes things, doesn't it?

  464. Kind of reframe it. It's not religious anymore.

  465. It's relationship. Imagine if your mom or dad died

  466. and wrote you a letter before they died.

  467. Would you read that letter? How would you treat that letter?

  468. Is that, you know, when I have time, you know, I'll read it.

  469. You know, let me let you know. Let me just let me put this away

  470. while I'm doing other stuff. No way you would cherish that

  471. thing, right? You start memorizing and quoting

  472. it, right, wouldn't you? You understand my illustration

  473. right now, right? Why we're always saying we need

  474. to understand the word of God and read the word of God.

  475. Why? Because you won't know God's

  476. love unless you read the love letter, Amen?

  477. Isn't it a way better frame that way?

  478. Because now you don't have to feel condemned or guilty, You

  479. know, if you only read a little or read a lot, it's OK.

  480. Just read what you can, Amen? But you got to get the love

  481. letter in you, otherwise the world is going to crush your

  482. spirit. You guys hear what I'm saying?

  483. You go to work, you go to schools, you go to all these

  484. things, and you're constantly being measured, right about how

  485. well you do. And that's not who you are,

  486. Amen. You are a child, precious child

  487. of God. That's the truth.

  488. And if that gets inside of you, the love of God, and to the

  489. degree that you let it get in you by personal worship, by

  490. prayer, by singing praise right and letting it get in you, two

  491. things begin to happen. OK, Number one, right, You

  492. stopped searching for praise and affirmation from the world,

  493. Amen. That's powerful.

  494. OK? Number two thing it does is you

  495. don't get offended as easily, OK, You take criticism, OK, all

  496. right, that's something to work on.

  497. I got you right. But when you forget the love of

  498. God inside of you, the core identity, and you let that bloom

  499. inside of your heart, real deep, real deep and the criticisms and

  500. the weaknesses, the things you got to work on, it doesn't mean

  501. so much. You see what I'm saying?

  502. It's like one of the things I remember when I was watching K

  503. dramas and by the way, I'm old enough to remember like the

  504. original Cage. I'm like bullish again, like

  505. Tutu. Anyone know what those you guys

  506. don't even know what those are, right?

  507. I don't think you were even born then.

  508. OK, OK. But those are like the original

  509. Cage dramas. I remember watching this and

  510. like, after a while, I start to feel like this.

  511. Like, I start to feel like I can't measure up to these

  512. people. These are like, the most, like,

  513. spotless human beings ever, right?

  514. Like they're carrying their grandma 50, you know, 50 miles,

  515. You know, like, they're going to do any of this stuff, right?

  516. Like, you constantly measure yourself to other people, do you

  517. not? You know what happens when you

  518. compare yourself to other people?

  519. We talked about this years ago, right?

  520. When I was at your retreat. When you compare your life to

  521. other people, two things happen. Either 1.

  522. You get proud you're doing better than them, right?

  523. Or you feel bad because you're not doing as well, right?

  524. It's awful. It's an awful game.

  525. You cannot win, OK? But when you get filled with the

  526. love of God, you know where yourself worth comes from.

  527. It's not how much I make or what kind of car I drive or how big

  528. my house is if I have a house, right?

  529. It's about God's love for me showing through Jesus Christ.

  530. Amen. When that happens, then you feel

  531. so much lighter and happier and joyful.

  532. That's called the fruit of the Spirit.

  533. Amen. Isn't the more we understand

  534. God's love, the more we appreciate God's love, the more

  535. we let it get inside of our hearts, the more bulletproof you

  536. become. Isn't that great?

  537. The side of the, what happens in all of this is we become, we

  538. become bulletproof and the world does not, is not able to touch

  539. us and harm us the way it used to.

  540. All right. My, my, my wife has friends, you

  541. know, who are doing very well in life, OK.

  542. And, and I don't know if you have this phenomenon happening

  543. to you where maybe you're not doing it as well.

  544. And you can't go with them when they're going on vacation, some

  545. of these extravagant vacations, you know, they're going to a

  546. five star resorts and they're inviting us.

  547. But we all know back of their minds and back of our minds, we

  548. ain't going. We simply can't afford it, you

  549. know? And if, if I were, if, if, if

  550. my, my, if myself worth my entity identity was all wrapped

  551. up into how much I make as a provider, I would feel so bad,

  552. right? I would feel awful.

  553. I wouldn't want to kill myself, right?

  554. But I don't. I'm like, yeah, have fun, you

  555. know? That's great.

  556. You know, I'll see you back around here.

  557. Some parts. We'll go to San Diego or

  558. something, or something I can afford, you know what I mean?

  559. But so easily you, we are all made to feel lesser than because

  560. we can't keep up with the Joneses.

  561. All right? And if you ask them how they're

  562. doing, they're probably thinking on another level.

  563. You see what I'm saying? Oh, we're only going to this

  564. five star resort here. But my other friend, they're

  565. going to tell you that, you know what I'm saying?

  566. It's like the goal post keeps moving.

  567. You see what I'm saying? You achieve one and then it

  568. keeps moving forward. You're never able to be content

  569. with what you have. And Paul actually says

  570. contentment is great gain. Think on that for a second.

  571. Contentment is great gain. You know, we just celebrated

  572. Thanksgiving. I wonder how many of us are

  573. really, truly appreciative for the things that we have.

  574. There are people in the world who wish they could be you.

  575. They dream about it. I wish I could be in America.

  576. I wish I could be in California. I wish I could be in Torrance.

  577. Here that just constantly keeps going.

  578. But but for us, it's so easy when we don't have the love of

  579. God within us, then we begin to derive our identity from all

  580. these different places that the world tells us we need to have.

  581. We need to look like this. We got to drive that car.

  582. We got to have, you know, all these, these accomplishments,

  583. you know, So yeah, I didn't, I didn't graduate high school, but

  584. I got into UCLA, right, Right. And I was like so happy.

  585. And then once you get a certain time, like nobody cares what

  586. school you went to. Really.

  587. Nobody cares. Like my entire life, I thought

  588. my whole I did it, I thought my destiny.

  589. I thought when I got into UCLA, my whole life would be like, oh,

  590. yes, I finally made it. My life is going to be like easy

  591. from now on. Nobody cares.

  592. Nobody cares. And in this day and age, it

  593. seems to me like the colleges mean less and less, you know, as

  594. time seems to go by. My point is, of course, is that

  595. if we do not receive our core identity from God, we will begin

  596. to have core identities that are faults that are around us.

  597. There is only one place that is God's love, which is

  598. unconditional, which you'll always have.

  599. God's love is totally opposite from the world where love is

  600. totally conditional. People love you only if you're

  601. beautiful, rich, accomplished. We chase the love and approvable

  602. of people rather than soak in the amazing love of God that is

  603. always available to us. Amen, always available to US.

  604. One of the trippy parts of of Mark in the very beginning,

  605. there's a story where Jesus comes up out of the water and

  606. this it says the heavens tore open and the spirit came upon

  607. Jesus like a dev note. And then there was a voice.

  608. I said, you are my son whom I love, and in you I'm well

  609. pleased Jesus hadn't done anything.

  610. This is the first chapter you see that how Jesus's heart was

  611. so full of God's love and affirmation that it made it

  612. possible for him to walk through life and eventually go to the

  613. cross for us and then come back for three days later to show us

  614. that it's not the end. I'm going to wrap this up with a

  615. final story from one of my favorite Christian authors, name

  616. is Philip Yancey. He's not theologically deep, but

  617. he tells really great stories. And so here's one of the stories

  618. and we'll finish today. I quote, I remember few of the

  619. many sermons I have ever heard in my life.

  620. An exception being the only sermon I heard preached by an

  621. Ian Pitt Watson, a professor at Fuller Seminary.

  622. His sermon had one point, not 3, which may explain why I still

  623. remember it. Some things are loved because

  624. they are worthy. Some things are worthy because

  625. they are loved. Pitt Watson began with examples

  626. of things we love because of their inherent worth.

  627. Gorgeous supermodels, gifted athletes, brilliant scientists,

  628. priceless works of art. Then he mentioned an object of

  629. no intrinsic worth that was greatly loved regardless.

  630. He told of his daughter Rosemary's rag doll.

  631. Dirty, threadbare, but the most precious of all her possessions.

  632. Like Linus with his blanket, Rosemary could not bear to face

  633. life without her rag doll. When the Pitt Watsons relocated

  634. from Scotland across the ocean to America, each member of the

  635. family carefully selected what possessions to bring along.

  636. Rosemary chose just one article, her rag doll.

  637. When she replaced misplaced the rag doll in the airport,

  638. Rosemary became so distraught that the family considered

  639. postponing their flight. Found at last, the doll had

  640. magical powers to calm the little girl.

  641. It had little worth in itself, but much worth in her eyes.

  642. Pitt Watson proceeded to make the biblical application.

  643. God's love, thankfully, is not based on our intrinsic worth.

  644. It comes by grace, a priceless yet free gift that bestows worth

  645. on the most unlovable object. Some things are loved because

  646. they are worthy, and some are worthy because they are loved.

  647. Theologically, we fit the latter category.

  648. In the words of Saint Augustine, by loving the unlovable, you

  649. made me lovable. Let us pray.

  650. And I want to give you guys just a few minutes to connect with

  651. the the love that you have been waiting for your whole life.

  652. It is love of God in Christ Jesus.

  653. You are God's masterpiece. You are God's dearly beloved

  654. child.