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Growing Forward

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  1. Alright, are you ready for God's Word today? Why don't you grab your Bible and turn with me to Ephesians chapter 4?

    Ephesians 4 chapter mention

  2. Ephesians chapter 4

    Ephesians 4 chapter mention

  3. Now I believe in now Paul writes Ephesians 4 most scholarship is pretty

  4. Conclusive on that and the fact that well, I should say I should say conclusive we have consensus

  5. So the consensus is a better word

  6. There are some arguments that perhaps because of some of the language and whatnot

  7. That that is used in Ephesians. Maybe it wasn't Paul

  8. but the writer identifies himself as Paul and I think Paul wrote it and

  9. In in Paul's writings like Romans to me is almost like his

  10. What would you call it like his magnum opus I mean it's like it's like the most amazing thing I think Paul wrote in my opinion

  11. but Ephesians is awesome too because have you ever been to like

  12. I you know any I don't know a city or theme park where they have like a town like maybe you went to New York

  13. If you go to New York

  14. You can go to top of the rock or you can go to the Freedom Tower or you can go to the Empire State building

  15. And if you like go top of the rock it's kind of cool

  16. Because you know you can see all the way to almost the other side of Central Park

  17. You see all the way and so you can see like it gives you this view of the whole landscape

  18. You understand Ephesians is kind of like that

  19. It's a concise summary of the whole landscape because Paul talks the first three chapters are about how we believe

  20. the next three chapters are kind of how we behave in a sense and Paul covers like Christ and salvation and marriage and I mean

  21. Community and relationship. I mean a spiritual warfare like he covers all of it in Ephesians

  22. And so to me it's an awesome book. He wrote in his first imprisonment

  23. Most scholars believe he was imprisoned in Rome's the early 60s not 1960s

  24. He wasn't at Woodstock, but he was like the 60s AD so

  25. and so he writes it

  26. probably to

  27. we know this because so like one of the earliest kind of

  28. full complete Bibles if you will that we have is called the Codex codex and Atticus and

  29. And from like the mid was that mid force so about

  30. 350 to 370 somewhere in there it was and codex just means is how it's bound so instead of being papyrus

  31. You know in a scroll it was actually bound more like a book

  32. And it was actually discovered at Mount Sinai, and that's how I got the name sonaticus, but but anyways

  33. Those earlier documents don't have in Ephesus, so it doesn't so when Ephesians talks about Ephesus

  34. They don't have that actual word in there, so probably this was more of a circular letter than to a specific

  35. Church like the Ephesian Church

  36. It was probably a lot of churches in Asia Minor

  37. But that would have been one and so it stayed in there because it still makes sense anyways

  38. I know you were just sitting there, and you were wondering this morning, and you're like man

  39. I hope he explains this stuff. You know and and so you're you're welcome anyways

  40. Um and so why don't you stay with me? We're just going to read a few verses together

  41. So we're in chapter 4, so this is kind of the kind of how we live the Christian life if you will and

  42. Verse 11 is where we're going to pick up reading very familiar passage

  43. But it says it was he who gave some everybody say some

  44. He gave some

  45. Right it was he who gave some to be apostles some prophets some evangelists some pastors and some teachers now the reason

  46. We said some is because you don't need a lot of those people right you know

  47. They don't need a lot of those people amen praise the Lord right

  48. And then verse 12 to prepare God's people for works of service alright, so let me just make this point really quickly

  49. According to Paul now. I you know this is the the NIV. I'm using it today

  50. I changed versions depend on what I'm emphasizing because different translations emphasize to me different things or they word things differently I

  51. Was raised on old King James so a lot of times I can quote you that these and the dows and the four witch calls

  52. and therefore and but um

  53. Anyways and hither unto I mean there's a lot of words in King James

  54. that I like King James because it feels like they just made words up and

  55. I mean, but and now do that a lot anyways

  56. The point is this it says that that he gave these apostles prophets pastor teachers evangelists to to equip the saints to do ministry

  57. And I don't have time to preach it, but I just want you to understand according to the Bible

  58. You're not actually supposed to watch the pastors do ministry

  59. You're supposed to do the ministry and let the pastors help you

  60. Okay according to the Bible, so if you're like oh, I came to watch you do ministry

  61. Then you don't understand the Bible yet, and that's okay

  62. That's why he gave some of us so we could help you understand

  63. So that you understand you have a great purpose and you have great significance in the body of Christ

  64. And you don't have to be a pastor to have a purpose and you don't have to be a pastor to have a ministry

  65. And you don't have to be a pastor to be called by God and you don't have to be passed a pastor to be spiritually

  66. Significant in the body of Christ or some of the most significant people I know have never stepped on a platform or preach them

  67. Are preached a message in public, but they are so powerful and significant in the body of Christ

  68. Are you with me just so we're clear amen praise the Lord

  69. And he did this so that the body of Christ may be a built-up

  70. Did you notice the body of Christ gets built up when the when the believers do ministry not when the pastors do ministry

  71. I'm just we're just reading the Bible. This is not in my sermon, but I like to like read the Bible with y'all

  72. You are the some of the funnest people in the world read the Bible with verse 13 until the end of the verse

  73. 13 until we reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature

  74. Obtaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ

  75. Then we will no longer be infants tossed back and forth by the waves and blown here and there by every wind of teaching

  76. And by every post on Instagram and by everything on the news. Oh

  77. No, I don't think he said that I'm sorry you're like that's not in my translation pastor, but it's the same thing

  78. I'm just helping you out

  79. By every wind and teaching by every cunning craftiest men and by every tick-tock doctrine. Oh

  80. No, it's deceitful scheming. I'm so well same thing anyways

  81. Instead speaking the truth and love we will in all things grow up into him who is the head that is Christ

  82. From the whole body is joined and held together by every supporting ligament

  83. Grows and builds by the way that word ligament is such a cool word

  84. It actually could be translated in a way pathogen

  85. Like a communicable disease almost but in a very positive sense

  86. It's it's the word is hafei. I think in the Greek

  87. H-a-p-h-e

  88. Interesting, but anyways, so he's just saying that we can be contagious when we're together and and that actually think about this our health is

  89. Contagious our life is contagious. We'll come back to that. It's a really cool word

  90. But grows and builds itself up in love as each part does its own work

  91. Man, that's a lot that we need to talk about and I only have like ten minutes. So we're gonna talk fast everybody

  92. Let's pray together. I want to talk today. I'm kind of concluding this series unstuck

  93. And I want to talk today

  94. and

  95. And I really struggle with the message, but I finally landed on this growing forward

  96. Yeah growing forward. So let's pray together father. Thank you so much for the word of God and Lord today

  97. Help us to be thorough, but really quick

  98. Lord we want to see a miracle almost like the Red Sea parting when pastor Marty has a short message and amen God

  99. You're good. So help us here well and fast in Jesus name and everybody said

  100. Amen. All right, you can be seated. Thank you so much

  101. Growing growing forward growing forward

  102. I almost want to call it but I didn't like this because it was kind of a had a negative connotation to it

  103. But I almost want to call it grow out of it

  104. You know what I'm saying and the reason is here's here's kind of the big idea

  105. All right, then we'll kind of break it down and then we'll be done

  106. To me

  107. I want to talk just a little bit because what Paul is doing in Ephesians is he is really talking about

  108. Unifying the body of Christ because you have to remember Jesus came and his ministry was to the Jews

  109. Right. So even Paul says, you know preach the gospel the God preaching the gospel is the power of God unto salvation

  110. To the Jew first and then the Gentile and so you have to understand these are two

  111. Very different races of people, right?

  112. So the Gentiles like the Jews and then all these other a lot of Greek culture and a lot of Roman stuff

  113. And I mean there's a lot going on here, right and and now when the gospel goes to the Gentiles

  114. Now we got a problem because we had Jew people that were saved and and Judaism, you know

  115. It's not necessarily bad in a sense. It's just not what saves you

  116. So the practice of the law is not what saves you its faith in Christ

  117. And so they're they're they're they're still eating the Jewish diet and they're still doing you know

  118. The Jewish culture still exists and now these Gentiles get saved and theirs is all over the place man. There's like wild

  119. And so there's a lot of problems because to the Jews Gentiles were unclean to the Gentiles Jews bunch of religious snobby people

  120. You don't want to hang out with and now we're all trying to become one church

  121. And so you got to remember a lot of your New Testament

  122. especially the writings of Paul trying to help Jews and Gentiles figure a lot of things out and

  123. Ephesians is kind of one of those books and that's why he Paul kind of starts with you know in Christ that this wall that has

  124. Separated it's been torn down and now we're all God's people everybody

  125. You know what I'm saying? And and so Paul is talking a lot about

  126. Relationships in Ephesians and and he's talking about Jews and Gentiles

  127. He's talking about race talking about marriage talking about the body of Christ

  128. And so Paul's Paul's trying to take on a lot of topics here

  129. When we get to a vision chapter four though specifically Paul is really talking about our growth and

  130. Our maturity in Christ and you could say that theme runs throughout really the whole book of Ephesians

  131. But he really gets into kind of the nuts and bolts four or five and six is about how we live this life, right?

  132. And that's why we get into our marriage relationships and spiritual warfare and chapter six and all those things

  133. But the point Paul is trying to make is hey you guys we got to be careful

  134. You guys we got to get together and we have to grow

  135. Here's what I want you to understand because we're in this series called unstuck. This is what I know and maybe you know this too

  136. your relationships can keep you stuck and

  137. Relationships can get you unstuck

  138. This is the truth this I mean I think it's truth the Bible, but I think it's just truth in life

  139. Because some people are stuck because you're in some relationships that that maybe you just those people are always gonna be

  140. Where they are?

  141. Okay, and I you know, I'm I want to do a sermon time called those people but

  142. But there are people that aren't going anywhere and there are people that pull us down and there are people that are just permeated with

  143. negativity and there are people that are critical of everything and

  144. There are also people with differing desires or you could say values and a lot of times if we don't understand

  145. That God is wanting to move us forward and we don't assess the relationships that we have

  146. Sometimes the relationships we have keep us stuck

  147. See what you need to understand remember Ephesians 4 says he equips the saints for the work of the ministry

  148. You are significant you have purpose you have a calling from God

  149. You are significant in the body of Christ your life is

  150. Supposed to have great meaning God has ascribed to it

  151. He you were created on purpose for a purpose right those things are true about you

  152. I hope you believe that if not

  153. We'll talk more about it the rest of our lives together, but but because one of my favorite things to talk about

  154. So you've got to believe in you and

  155. Then there comes a time you got to kind of look around and say okay if God's called me here

  156. I never forget my um I went to college and

  157. And as started out I was going to be

  158. In the medical field and so I was not at a Christian University. It wasn't a seminary or anything like that

  159. And so I was taking classes well in that time

  160. That's when God really called me and I knew okay. I need to transfer and I need to go to seminary

  161. You know I'm gonna really follow God in this

  162. This calling, but in that time. I'm in a not Christian. You know you know college and

  163. And so I was being invited by people that I like to go do things that I'm like

  164. I don't think in good to come out of that you know and what I realized is I like the people

  165. But I can't go with them because see they're not going where I'm going

  166. So it's not anything personal. I like them

  167. They were wonderful people and we you know we had class together and hung out together

  168. And you know at school and those type of things, but you know on the weekends and at night

  169. I didn't need to go with them because anything I wasn't gonna work for where I needed to go

  170. Are you with me and sometimes?

  171. It's okay to look at people and say I love them. They're good people, but they're not going where I'm going I

  172. Love them. They're good people, but they've been stuck for 20 years, and I don't want to be stuck for 20 years

  173. I love them

  174. They're good people, but you know what they've been bitter for the last 15 years

  175. And I don't want to really taste their bitterness anymore, and it's okay to look and say where are some people who are going?

  176. Where I'm going who are embracing the values that I have that understand

  177. They're significant and their purpose and they're called and they're chosen and I want to get with those people

  178. Because here's what I can tell you in

  179. Five years your life will look like your relationships today

  180. in

  181. Five years your life will look like your friend circle today

  182. Who you hang out with determines where your life goes in fact let me give you a fun verse

  183. Proverbs 13 20 says he who walks with wise men will be wise

  184. But the companion of fools will be destroyed come on say it plainer Solomon

  185. And so our relationships determine a lot about our life three things

  186. We're gonna go through them kind of quick, but I want you to write these three things down number one is this

  187. You won't get there unless you grow there

  188. You won't get there unless you grow there

  189. When you talk about the vision for your life right like a lot of people you know what and we just say this

  190. It's a good example because everybody understands money most people want to have money, right?

  191. Most people want to have money

  192. But the problem is that having getting money is is not actually what gives you security

  193. Because have you ever watched those documentaries on lottery winners, and now they're bankrupt

  194. Do you know the problem? Do you know the problem they didn't grow into it?

  195. Have you ever watched you know documentaries about even even kids who never their parents never made them work hard because their parents

  196. Had so much money

  197. They just kind of gave them everything through money after and in their life turned out to be a trainwreck

  198. You ever seen those documentaries what happened they didn't grow into the wealth see the parents grew the wealth grew into the wealth, right?

  199. But unfortunately they didn't they passed the wealth on but not the growth on

  200. You see what I'm saying and so a lot of times we say well I want to be financially secure

  201. I want to be this I want to be that I want to be healthy want to have good relationships

  202. Let me explain something you don't get there unless you grow there

  203. You grow there you don't go there you grow

  204. There that's really what Paul is telling the Ephesians. He uses word verse 13 until we reach

  205. Here's what he's saying growth is a process and you're not there yet

  206. He says until we reach this unity in the faith and knowledge of the Son of God becoming mature and

  207. Growing into the fullness of Christ, so here's what I've learned in my life say it with me. It will free you. I'm not there yet

  208. Like it's okay. I'm okay with saying. I don't know

  209. I'm okay with saying I don't know I'm okay with saying I'm not there yet

  210. But I'm okay with saying but I'm gonna grow there

  211. I'm gonna grow there like I can't get there unless I grow there and and here's what I have to understand that growth is

  212. A process and growth is really important

  213. I could talk about all the things that happen when we grow you just think about maturity and all the things that happen Paul

  214. Kind of gives us cool metaphor. He basically gives us a picture of a baby in a boat with no rudder

  215. That's what we read a minute ago like toss to and fro on the waves, you know, like a kid in a boat with no rudder

  216. Does that sound like a fun life to be in?

  217. You know, does that sound like fun?

  218. You know like let's go out on you know

  219. There's a storm on the sea and let's throw a baby in a boat with no rudder and just see how things go. I

  220. Think one of the greatest things about growing is but and this is really one of the greatest points

  221. He's making is you think about a baby in a boat with no rudder

  222. So here and he's talking really about growing and in

  223. Maturing in our faith and in growing up to be who God has called us to be but think about this

  224. Baby in a boat with no rudder

  225. So here's what he's saying when I grow first of all first of all I get I get a rudder I can steer

  226. See it takes growth and maturity to make right decisions

  227. Immature people make bad decisions all the time. Hello. Did y'all go to college?

  228. Aren't you glad they didn't have snapchat and Instagram when I'm thankful at what didn't exist when I was in college dear Lord

  229. Okay, some of you you're just not gonna be honest

  230. That's okay, it's all right you'll grow into it

  231. But then he's talking about being in a storm talking about being a baby well, baby doesn't know how to navigate a storm

  232. Wouldn't it be great if I knew how to navigate the storms of life and my life had a rudder?

  233. Where I could steer myself through storms of life

  234. See we get mad all the time because we get mad at God all the time because we're in a storm and we get mad

  235. At God all the time because we're being tossed around and God's saying listen you're gonna you can either go through it or grow through it

  236. But if you grow through it, you're gonna learn how to use your rudder

  237. And you're gonna learn how to navigate storms because everyone's gonna have storms

  238. Are you with me? And so when we're talking about growth listen, I don't I don't just I don't just go there

  239. I have to I have to grow there. Um, listen the life that you're dreaming of is on the other side of your growth. I

  240. Think success in life

  241. I think when we're talking about growing into I think success in life and I'll give you this and we go to the next point

  242. But success in life is this like if you really want to be successful in life grow bigger on the inside than you are on the outside

  243. If you can get bigger on the inside than you are on the outside you say was that me well

  244. the outside wants a big car big house lots of money or whatever the inside wants to have character and

  245. Integrity and wisdom, right? Those are things you grow on the inside and if you really want to enjoy life get bigger on the inside

  246. Right grow there get bigger on the inside. Here's the second thing growth is not automatic. It's intentional

  247. The only thing you can accidentally grow is your waistline

  248. Come on somebody where my people at I

  249. Found man. Did y'all go through the holidays?

  250. I thought I was doing good and I weighed in January and I was like did somebody put lead my body somewhere like what happened?

  251. Something has happened all those good treats just they love me. They just stick to me and never let go

  252. But the truth the matter is that's about the only way you can you can accidentally grow is your waistline

  253. Every other way we grow is not by accident. It's by intention. I

  254. Think sometimes we miss this and I just want to say it very clearly and I'm gonna put it in the first person

  255. Actually, I'm gonna say it in the third. Yeah. Anyways, I'm gonna say it directly

  256. It's just saying we and being you know, including everybody like, you know kind of a third, you know

  257. Yeah, I'm gonna say you okay, but I don't mean anything bad. I just need to make a point

  258. I want to say this very clearly

  259. you are

  260. responsible for your

  261. growth

  262. I

  263. Just want to say it like I'm not responsible for your growth, right?

  264. I'm responsible to you not for you

  265. See, I'm responsible to do what I did this week. I prepared I've studied I have a message. I'm ready

  266. I'm ready to teach you ready explain I prayed for you, you know, I've talked with people this week

  267. I've done all the pastor things this week, right?

  268. I'm responsible to be who God's called me to be but I'm not responsible for whether or not you grow

  269. right

  270. Like like you have to show up and eat the food

  271. I mean I can cook it but you got to show up and eat it. Are you with me?

  272. Right. I mean you you have to make the decision to go and be a disciple to take class

  273. You know to take those classes and those opportunities to go to first step

  274. you have to take their the opportunity to find a group of people and you you are in charge of your growth and and

  275. Oh, I don't want to say this in a mean way. But since we're just talking, can I be your friend and be honest?

  276. You're responsible for your growth and if life isn't working then start growing

  277. And so many times in our culture is a

  278. Culture is permeated with this victim mentality of it's everybody else's fault. Well, nobody ever gave me a puppy

  279. Well grow up and get a job and buy five puppies if that's what you want

  280. dear Lord

  281. right

  282. right

  283. And and I know I'm being a little facetious

  284. But y'all live in this world too and everybody's a victim and nobody's responsible. Listen to me

  285. You're you're responsible and it doesn't matter what situation you're in and what you've gone through in life the situation my life

  286. Maybe you know they have not been perfect because I share all the craziness of my life

  287. That's the great thing about that's why you don't want to be a pastor because God will make you share

  288. things about your life that you just wish you never talked about and and so

  289. but

  290. Nobody's life has been perfect

  291. Hear me on this. No one's life has been perfect

  292. The problem is you're watching Instagram highlight reels and you don't know how life works. No one's life is perfect

  293. No one escaped the fall

  294. Everybody has a story. It's just some people decided to grow through it and other people just kind of went through it and

  295. I'm just telling you if you want to grow you have to be intentional. I can give you kind of categorically two ways

  296. I always work on growth. I break it down this way being and doing

  297. Okay, these are my two categories of growth. Let me explain what I mean. So in the being category

  298. Sometimes I I need to work on my attitude

  299. Right. Sometimes I need to work on my patience

  300. Sometimes I need to work on the fact that I don't like for me as a pastor one of things I really have and I still

  301. Work on this really had to do is I had to learn to celebrate people well and also to learn and to celebrate

  302. Accomplishments because I'm a visionary and I'm on to the next thing like yeah, that was good. Let's go work on this

  303. Right, but your team they need you to say that was awesome and to be specific what you did right there

  304. like one of the jokes with one of our staff people I won't say which one but

  305. I would say they would present something I'd say well, I don't hate it, you know, well, that's not very helpful is it?

  306. No, and so I would say yes, I love it or no

  307. Let's work on this right here and then I'll love it, you know

  308. And so it gets very specific but but the point is I work on the being part of me

  309. So I'm always working on the being part of me and then I'm working on the doing part of me

  310. Which is more external in other words their skills or things that I need to learn or things I need to develop

  311. You know like for me because I'm a communicator. Sometimes I'm reading a book on communication

  312. You know one of the things that I want to do a long time is I want to go back and do

  313. back and do master's work and maybe eventually doctors doctoral studies and so I'm doing that right now

  314. Because something I always want to do and that's the doing part of me

  315. But I still have to work on the being part of me

  316. And so but you have to be intentional with those things because you have to kind of embrace some discomfort

  317. Sometimes those things are not always fun learning something, you know doing something or especially

  318. The being part is usually the hardest part, you know for a lot of us, right when we look and say hey

  319. I need to adjust some attitudes or some thought patterns or whatever the case may be

  320. But this is what you need to understand you will not grow if you're not intentional about it

  321. You will not grow so you have to say I'm gonna work on this in my being and this in my doing and then you

  322. Have to make a plan

  323. To do those things and then you have to work that plan

  324. That's what I do every year

  325. I've been doing it for years and years and years

  326. It's what our staff does mostly because they all want to but I also require it

  327. right

  328. Because I want us to grow right because I want us to be able to reach more people love more people serve more people well

  329. Which means we have to grow to do that. Are you are you hearing what I'm saying?

  330. And so growth is not automatic, you know, here's the thing you need to understand most of the time and I've said this before

  331. Let me say it really quickly

  332. Most of the time we have downhill desires, but we really need some uphill habits

  333. Are you with me because if you leave me to myself, I've got downhill desires. I can eat

  334. untold amounts copious amounts of

  335. M&M peanut M&Ms and never get tired of them, you know

  336. If you eat the same thing over and over sometimes you get tired of it. This is not me and M&Ms

  337. This does not describe our relationship at all

  338. I can eat four pounds of those things and think you know a big better for four more pounds and

  339. And it's like bacon, you know what go with M&Ms more M&Ms, you know, what goes well with bacon more bacon

  340. You know, it's just that kind of thing

  341. And and so I have some downhill habits everybody you see what I'm saying are downhill desires

  342. But I also have some uphill habits. So my uphill habits are well, I have to eat this much protein a day

  343. I can't go over this many carbs a day and I'm kind of loose in my translation of those things

  344. But still I kind of have some guidelines that keep me from looking like something you can stamp

  345. Good year on and fly over a baseball game. You know what I'm saying? And so um, and so I go to the gym

  346. You know, but those are my uphill habits, you know

  347. I the other day pastor mark and I go to the same gym and we're usually in there at similar times and

  348. I went over the other morning said hi and he said how's it going?

  349. I said, I got a really bad attitude about this whole gym thing today and he said yeah, but you made I said

  350. Yeah, I'm here but I'm real mad about it

  351. And so I don't always have the joy of the Lord at the gym

  352. But I'm there because that's my uphill habit. Are you with me everybody? You understand what I'm saying?

  353. And so we have to grow intentionally. Here's the third thing and write this down

  354. Relationships aren't optional for growth. They're essential for growth. And this is really this whole idea of Ephesians 4

  355. Because he says from whom the whole body joined and held together by what every

  356. supporting ligament that that word ligament like I said in the Greek is almost like a like a

  357. You know like a contagion. It may even be a better word

  358. Because it's just talking about basically. Here's the point. He's making there's this symbiotic

  359. Benefit of being in relationships in the body of Christ in that I receive from you and you receive from me

  360. And the point he's trying to make is you have to be you have to be connected in that symbiotic kind of relationship

  361. for everyone to grow because sometimes you're needing

  362. Something like sometimes I need encouragement. I need support right?

  363. I need a good word

  364. I need prayer and the other times someone else needs and then I'm giving support or encouragement or prayer or

  365. Any number of things love I mean you could go on and on and on with all the things and in the point of it being

  366. Is that when we're working like that and that give and take relationship, right?

  367. Right. This is where you know to be honest assessing our relationships

  368. Sometimes you have to assess relationships to say do I have give and take relationships or do I just have take relationships?

  369. And then you'd be honest and say in my relationships do I give or do I just take?

  370. Right. This is a good evaluation, but Paul is making the point

  371. Hey, if there's not going this what he's saying there's not going to be growth without those connections. That's what he just said

  372. Not gonna be growth without those connections

  373. And so we really want to grow then we have to we have to get in community listen to me

  374. You may be one community away from changing your life forever

  375. You could be one community away from changing your life forever

  376. and so I want you to understand that Paul is putting an

  377. Extreme amount of importance on relationships now now. So what do we do?

  378. Well, let me just give you three things really quickly to do

  379. That I think in life that I have to do so you need to remember pastor Marty is actually an introvert

  380. Most people don't understand this because I'm very uncomfortable stand up here and talk and you put me that matter how?

  381. How big the crowd is I can just stand up talk be myself. It's a weird thing

  382. It's the way God made me but I'm an introvert which just means that I recharge by myself

  383. Right like I can give and give and give but then you know

  384. I'm gonna go home and I just kind of need some quiet just a little bit right now

  385. Jana is an extroverted extrovert extrovert and

  386. So, you know, she just stay forever and talk to people and me

  387. I'm like after everybody kind of gets gone like I need to go home sit down for a minute

  388. Like I've spent all my energy, you know

  389. and so

  390. so to me

  391. Unfortunately, because I'm an introvert one of the things I've had to look at my life is I don't always seek out new relationships. I

  392. Can be very happy just with Jana

  393. I can be very happy just with Jana like I'm happy. I've Jana

  394. We're happy and we have the dogs. They're weird and

  395. Y'all pray for my dog too. He's got high anxiety. We think he got struck by lightning. Anyways, not really, but he freaks out. But anyways, um

  396. That's Milo Coco doesn't care Coco. You could drive a bus through the house. She'd probably just feel like that's weird

  397. Milo'd have four heart attacks and three seizures. Anyway, so

  398. But anyways, the point is that I can sometimes not pursue relationships

  399. So I'm giving you some things that have helped me number one

  400. I have to be courageous in other words, I have to understand like sometimes trying to make new friends or

  401. or

  402. Enter into new relationships. It's a little bit of courage, you know, because like what if it doesn't go well, you know

  403. What if they're weird? What if they think I'm weird? You know, I mean, there's all the things that we deal with

  404. And here can I help you usually we're thinking what do they think about me and they're not thinking about you

  405. They're thinking the same thing as you

  406. What do they think about me?

  407. And so if we can all get out of our head a little bit we can be courageous and engage some new people

  408. So number one be be courageous take a risk make a phone call send a text

  409. You know go talk to some people in the chapel, you know, take a risk and number two be friendly. I

  410. Had to realize one time I met with a pastor friend of mine who's now a good friend of mine

  411. But he said for the longest time I thought you didn't like me

  412. And I said why I said just the way you looked at me and I said well

  413. Bless it. I got this from my mama. It's it's the rest in frowny face. That's what we're gonna call it

  414. Yeah, the rest in frowny face. We're just gonna call it that and and so I realized that you know, I'm happy

  415. I'm like I'm happy on the inside like I'm you know, but I look like I'm happy on the inside

  416. Like I'm you know, but I look like someone just stole my dog. And so I had to learn to smile a little bit

  417. And say hi

  418. It's so good to see you

  419. I'm so glad you're here

  420. I'm very happy right now

  421. As I had to learn to do that. So so this is what Proverbs 18 24 by the way says Proverbs 18 24

  422. A man who has friends

  423. must himself

  424. be friendly

  425. I'm just want to say something lovingly as we're taking responsibility for our lives if you've made the complaint

  426. I don't have any friends. It could be because you're not friendly

  427. So take a risk be courageous be friendly and number three be open to new people

  428. Be open to new people your best friend. You may not have even met yet

  429. So be the person may impact your life the most even in your faith

  430. Maybe you haven't even met yet and you could even go to the same church, but you just haven't met yet

  431. And so I want you I want to encourage you like be courageous take some risk, right? Be friendly smile everybody

  432. We're so happy

  433. Right and then just be open to some new people be open to some new groups and here's why here's why because according to Paul

  434. You can't get there. You got to grow there and

  435. relationships are

  436. Essential to our growth. Amen

  437. All right. Can you give Jesus praise today?

  438. Hey pastor Marty here from pathway church

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