Sermon
Knowing the Healer and helping kids
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Transcript
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Hi, this is Dave Olson. I'm the senior leader of
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Heartland Church located in Ankeny, IA.
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I hope the following message challenges, encourages and
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ultimately changes you. Thanks for joining us.
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All right. This morning we have a real
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treat. We are going to have Dave and
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Ashley Van de Zander sculpt, is that right?
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Got it. Affectionately known as Dave and
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Ashley V because it's hard to pronounce that name, but they
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are elders here and we just love them and they are involved in
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foster care. And so I wanted them to talk.
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We, you know, usually we do a missions emphasis around this
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time of year and we do missions work all over the world.
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We send out teams, we support missionaries, support projects
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around the world. But one of the most needy
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projects in the United States and in this generation is Foster
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and adoptive care. You know, my wife and I were
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talking the other day, you know, we worked for Teen Challenge for
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many years. And she was just, she said it
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this way. She said, you know, it's so
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often these guys that were coming into Teen Challenge,
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they, it was like they were born without one of their legs.
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And everybody expected them to keep up with everyone else.
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They they were, they started off behind the herd because they
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were born into a family that was already struggling.
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And there is such a thing as generational sin, iniquity,
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generational righteousness, that when kids are born into a home
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where there's not that Christian witness, where they're, you
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know, a mom or a dad is traumatized and wounded.
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And you see that play out generationally.
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And it just, it's snowballs. And the kids that are born into
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that often they, they, they're lagging behind, they're
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struggling. And we need to have tremendous
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compassion and realize that we are the answer.
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But here's the awesome thing. You know, some of you saw the
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podcast I did with my dad recently and my dad, we were,
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our family was the poster child of dysfunction and woundedness,
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just devastation. But my mom and my dad met Jesus.
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My dad as a 15 year old kid got saved, radically saved.
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His wild stepmother got on religious kick for a couple of
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weeks and said, you're going to Bible school. 15 years old,
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dropped him off and it changed the trajectory of our lives.
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So it just takes one generation. And my, well, I was interviewing
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my dad, My dad, he's 83 years old.
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And all of a sudden he cracked up.
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He, he, he started to cry because he remembered when he
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was about 6 years old, there was a family that was near him out
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in the country, up in northern Minnesota that would drive out
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of their way in the winter weather to pick up my dad and
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his siblings and take him to church.
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That family never knew the impact it had on the generations
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of my family. I'm the recipient of their
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intervention. And the fact is that Psalm,
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Psalm 68, it says this God sets the lonely in families.
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That's how the NIV says it. The ESV says God settles the
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isolated into households that beautiful.
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When God does that, he needs a family to volunteer.
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And there is such a need in our nation right now for these kids,
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these displaced children, even if it's just for a few nights, a
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few weeks, a few months to experience what a godly
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functional family is like and to be placed in there.
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You know, as the pastor, I'll know different times where
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there's foster families in the congregation that perhaps they,
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you know, there's confidentiality.
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Other people don't know. But I'll know that little child
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in those arms is a foster child. And I tell you, every time I see
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a mom up here or a dad up here worshiping with one of those
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little ones, it breaks me. I start boohoo.
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And because I know the impact it can make on that child's life,
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that they'll never be the same because they encountered
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godliness, they encountered love, they encountered healthy
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emotional environment. And that's the opportunity that
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we have. So I'm going to quit talking and
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I'm going to ask Dave and Ashley V to come on up here.
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Let's give them a hand. I love these guys.
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They are elders in this house and we just love them.
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Good morning. All right, the next 40 minutes
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we're all going to learn how to say Van de Zandt sculpt
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together. We we need more than 40 minutes
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for that. Hey, thanks for having us this
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morning. Ashley and I are really excited
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to be here and just share what God has done in our lives.
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You know, First Corinthians talks about order in the church
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and there are songs, hymns and songs.
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There's times of sharing and this is one of those mornings
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where we're going to share. It's going to feel a little bit
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unconventional. And so we're excited to share
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with you what God has done in our lives.
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But before we do that, I joke there's the right pre Trib, post
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Trib. There's the pre COVID church and
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the post COVID church. We've been coming to Heartland
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for a long time. So we started coming here in
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20/10/2011 and Ashley and I got married in 2010.
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So we've been married 15 years. And so if you, oh, thank you,
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thank you. I showed this picture to start
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us off because if you're thinking that these guys look so
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young up here, this is the definition of babies behind us.
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So Ash has got a few more. We didn't get married in high
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school. We did get married.
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We were 21. So quick story.
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The first time we came to Heartland was around this time
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frame. And on entering in the door,
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someone invited me to youth group because they thought I
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look like I should be in the high school crowd.
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So I said, can Ashley come to you?
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And then they never asked me that again.
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But anyways, we're excited to share with you all so you may
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see us around. We helping Kingdom kids and
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usher and lots of different things.
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If we don't know you, come say hi to us.
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We'd love to meet you. So come talk to us afterwards.
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But we've got three things that we would love for you to walk
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away with this morning. I've got a clicker, so I'm going
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to be clicking along here. As Pastor Dave said, October was
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missions month when you're a believer, every month's missions
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month. So we're going to carry that
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forward into November here and talk about unconventional
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missions, living missionally through foster care and
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adoption. And so the three things that I
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would love all of you to walk away with, there we go.
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We like to do acronyms and have things organized here.
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So the three ES, we'd love for you to be encouraged, educated
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and empowered. Thank you, Kara.
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I promise I've done this before. Oh, too fast.
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We'll just pretend that it's on the right side here.
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So there we go. Encourage and educate and
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empower. We want you to be encouraged.
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So we're going to start with sharing a little bit of our
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testimony. We would love for you to be
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educated. So part of today is we are going
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to share some statistics. What are the needs within the
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state of Iowa and across the United States?
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And most importantly, we want you to feel empowered.
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What is your role and how can the Holy Spirit help you walk
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within that? And so to start us off, I
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believe some of the most powerful truths in Scripture
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start with simplicity of the Kingdom of God.
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And so this whole setup for today, I just want to start with
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two. And Ashley and I are going to
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talk really fast the next 35 minutes, so bear with us, but we
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want to dive in, in two passages.
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God's mission, Formula 1 + 1. Here God speaks.
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We know here in John 1027 that His sheep know His voice.
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OK? He knowing his voice implies
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that God speaks. Anybody believe that God speaks?
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All right, you guys are in the right church this morning, so
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we're glad that you're here. But there's another part to play
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in that. When God speaks, it's for a
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purpose. He wants to bring his Kingdom of
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heaven into earth. And so we have John 1415, which
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talks about love and obedience. If you love me, you'll obey my
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commands. And the Lord doesn't just speak
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for things to feel nice, even though his voice is nice, but
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it's ultimately to call us into action, into love and obedience.
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And so we'll revisit this a little bit throughout the next
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several minutes here. But hold on to those truths for
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just a second. And Ashley's going to talk about
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what God has done in our lives this last six years.
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Good morning, heartland. You weren't expecting this duo,
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but this is what you get. So blessings.
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So I get to share a little bit about our journey of foster care
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and adoption. Very strangely, I knew as young
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as 10-12 years old that I wanted to adopt.
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We didn't have a lot of foster families or stories of adoption
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around us, but I just had a knowing.
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I kind of had to know when I was going to be a teacher and that
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panned out. And so Fast forward, I go to
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Iowa State, find me a good Christian boyfriend here.
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And I flat out told the boyfriend that I was going to
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adopt. And because he was a nice
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Christian boy, he said that's nice.
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And this is, this is not dating advice.
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Don't tell your boyfriend's this.
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But you know what, I married him anyway because you need the
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mortgage paid for. And so we got married, which you
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saw before, I think we met on a mission trip too.
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Also, don't date on a mission trip.
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This is not advice. So you see us there as babies.
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And so we graduated college, worked for three years, and then
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we had our first son, River. And then we two years later we
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had Raya. And two years later we had
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Raleigh. And our Christmas card was
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really cute. You know, our whole family.
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But I still had in the back of my mind adoption.
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And so a couple years go by and Dave comes home from work and he
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walks in the door and he said, the Lord told me we were
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supposed to adopt. And my jaw dropped and I looked
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to Jesus and I'm like, what? You know, like I didn't have to
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nag. I didn't have to beg or anything
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like that. And we were on the same page.
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And so in 2020, keep that in mind, we signed up to take
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foster care classes. We had had foster families
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around us. We knew that the goal of foster
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care is not adoption, but we were OK with loving little ones
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for a small season if they were supposed to move back to their
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family or somewhere else. And so January through March, we
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took classes. It's for 8 weeks, 3 hours, one
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night a week. And by March 2020, we had our
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foster care license in the mail. Well, what happened in 2020?
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COVID, COVID happened. And so my husband's company
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furloughed half of their employees, including Dave.
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And all of a sudden, we were not financial financially stable
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enough to do foster care. And so there was some confusion
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with that. Lord, why is this happening?
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Meanwhile, we have been praying and the words North Carolina
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kept coming up for the last two years.
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And so as a Dave is applying all over the country, Colorado,
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Texas, some in North Carolina, we kept praying into it and
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strange things would happen. Strange as in the Holy Spirit,
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I'd be praying about it. And then a country song with
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Carolinas would come on. Or I was driving one day and
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praying, and right in front of me in Ankeny, IA is a motorcycle
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with North Carolina plates. Like, that's weird.
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And then I was talking to a stranger about foster care.
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And on the phone, she's like, Oh, yeah, we moved here from
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North Carolina. And this was happening to Dave
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in different ways. I mean, commercials were coming
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on that would talk about North Carolina.
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So we were sure that God was moving us to North Carolina.
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And the only job offer Dave got was from a company in Raleigh,
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NC. And so we have this faith, this
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surety that we're supposed to move there.
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And we thought in our heads, because we're a little fleshly
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and want to figure out the why that maybe it was for adoption.
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And so we moved in faith and you have to live there six months
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because before you start applying to be foster parents or
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adoptive parents. We decided to only do adopt
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because our support system was all back in Iowa.
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We didn't have friends or families.
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We, we didn't have a single babysitter for our kid, for our
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biological kids in North Carolina.
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So we applied to these agencies for adopt only, but the doors
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kept shutting. Nope, we only need foster
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parents. Nope, Nope, Nope.
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So we're like, why are we here? What are we doing?
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And so couple months later, Dave got a new job and he could work
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anywhere in the US. And so we thought, hey, we're
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missing our family, let's move back.
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So it felt like the Lord moving back as much as it felt like the
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Lord told us to go there, but I have no why for you.
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And so things would happen. Like we called the private
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school my kids went to in Des Moines and we called in July.
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And if you know anything about private schools, they're full by
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March. And I said, could you get my
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kids in? And they're like, Yep.
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And then they called me a week later and said, can you teach?
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And I said, ha, my teaching license is expired, can't teach.
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But at that time there was a teacher shortage.
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And so I called the Iowa Department of Education and they
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said, sure, if you show us a contract, you can teach and
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we'll give you an extension. So we got 2 new jobs, We got a
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school. And then on EU Haul drive back,
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the buyer of our North Carolina house backed out.
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I was like, God, what are you doing?
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Then two weeks later, a week later, I don't know how long it
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was, the Lord sold the house for infinitely more than the first
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buyer. And I did a lot of repenting at
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that moment. And so at the time we lived in
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North Carolina, my sister and brother-in-law were taking
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foster care classes and had begun their foster care journey.
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So it was not uncommon for us to go to holiday parties or
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birthday parties. And there's a new little one
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there with them. And we just knew to love on them
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for as long as they were with us.
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So about a year after we moved back to Iowa, my sister walks in
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the kitchen with a little little 5 month old.
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And I said, how's her case going, What's going to happen?
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And she says I don't know. And without any preconceived
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thinking out came my mouth. We'll take her.
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She looked at me strange and I panicked and I'm like I should
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talk to Dave. And so I went to talk to my
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husband and my husband very coldly says, give me a week to
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pray about it. I don't want you talking to me
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about it. And my spirit sank and I'm like,
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how do you not know there's a little girl?
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She needs a home. We have a home.
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Like how can you not know this is over?
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In my head, I just lost, lost it all.
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A week later, my husband comes back and says, I can't ever
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imagine not loving this little girl no matter what happens.
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And we move on with becoming foster parents again.
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And so the Lord put me in my place.
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So because we had previously taken the foster care class, we
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just had to do a home study at that time.
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So we zoomed through paperwork, had people in our house
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interviewed us, and we were licensed foster parents.
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Now there are different rules and regulations to become a
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foster parent. And so for a couple weeks, they
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told us we would not be able to take this little girl due to our
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medical status. And I, Pastor David, didn't say
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this, but I did hang up on someone in that fight to get
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this little girl. I'm not proud of it, but
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probably do it again. And so they kept telling us no,
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no, no, no. And I kept saying yes, yes, yes.
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And I got the opportunity to talk to the head of Health and
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Human services, Kelly Garcia. She's doing great things right
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now and really supporting churches and Christians
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involved. And I got to talk to her about
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the struggles that are going on for people becoming licensed as
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foster parents. And so anyway, the Lord worked
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it all out. And so in November 2023, this
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little girl came and lived with us.
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And so my daughter, she's back back there.
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She was 7 at the time. She had been praying for her
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sister for about 5 years. The Lord gave her two brothers,
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which she was not pleased about. And so she was praying for
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praying for her sister. And so the day we got to tell
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our three biological children that we were headed on the route
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for adoption, I watched my 7 year old girl weep with joy and
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deep, heartfelt love that God was answering her prayers.
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And it was one of the most beautiful things.
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There was some, you know, trial along the road.
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I remember that season, we were the sickest we've ever been.
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I was sick. I had to have a CAT scan during
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that time and just headaches and migraines were coming.
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And I, I look back now and think Satan doesn't like adoption.
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He doesn't like foster care and he's going to try to throw
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everything at you. So Dave and I are deciding on
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what to name her. And instantly I'm like, we're
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going to name her Rosie. It was just a knowing.
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And he's like, I don't know. And so I had remembered this
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dream that I had five years before this.
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And in the dream I got this word that said biracial.
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And you know, at Heartland here, we have pretty words when we get
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dreams, you know, like doves and cherubim and and gold.
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You know, this was a weird word, like biracial.
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So for three days, I couldn't forget this word.
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And so finally, because the Holy Spirit was nagging me, I just
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wrote it down, wrote down everything I saw in the stream.
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So I had remembered this. And so I went downstairs to my
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journals to find where I'd written this down.
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And when I found it, I screamed Dave thought there was a fire
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because in this journal entry it said biracial, one years old.
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And Rosie and I hadn't remembered.
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She is one. She was one.
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We decided to name her Rosie without remembering the stream.
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And yes, she is biracial. And it was.
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It was a surety in my spirit that come what may, I was going
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to fight because this little girl was supposed to be in our
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family. And so in June June 1st 2024, we
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adopted little Rosie and it has been such a joy.
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Let's see if we can find her. Maybe not Clicker.
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Clicker's not working today, but that's our little girl.
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And Dave's gonna share what the word of God has to say about
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foster care and adoption because it's so clear.
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So take it away. Yeah.
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Praise the Lord, this picture right here when you go go to the
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judge for adoption, they basically let you give testimony
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and I had written out 2 pages worth of what I wanted to share.
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I got the first word out and I bawled for the next 10 minutes
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and the judge is just listening to me.
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You know, nobody could hear me. But then all my kids were in a
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row crying with me and it was like, all right, this is
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perfect. So, but we overcome by the blood
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of the Lamb and the power of the testimony, right?
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And so let this be an encouragement to you as well.
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But I do want to shift gears and talk a lot about the heart of
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God in this right? There could be needs in the
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world, and it's not that every need isn't part of God's heart,
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but when we capture his heart, it changes the way we interact
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and intercede on behalf of those needs.
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And so I want to spend a few minutes, you know, there's a lot
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of us that have been in church a long time and you may have
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subliminally, you know, heard different Bible verses or things
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about children that are just back there, nice truths.
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But this morning we want to talk about the power of God in those
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truths. And so I want to share a few of
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them to set us up. And then I'm we're going to lean
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into one of these here for just a few minutes.
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I heard the buzz, so I think it's coming.
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There it is, all right, catching God's heart as intercessors.
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So just read these for a minute. The Bible is so powerful, we
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don't have to interpret it right away.
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Sometimes we just have to lean into what does it actually say.
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So let's read these. Matthew 1914.
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Let the little children come to me, for the Kingdom of heaven
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belongs to such as these. Mark 936, whoever welcomes one
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of these little children in my name welcomes me.
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Matthew 1042 Whoever gives one of these little ones even a cup
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of cold water, he is a disciple. And then we have Psalm 68.
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Pastor Dave was talking about earlier this morning, right?
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Talks about the concept of being a father to the fatherless.
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So we know these passages, right?
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God loves children. But when you read the
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second-half of these verses, there's some power packed into
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these. When you love little children,
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the Kingdom of heaven belongs to them.
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When you love them, you are my disciples, right?
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That's a powerful statement. When you welcome them, you
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welcome me, King Jesus. And so I don't want to rush past
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that. Well, we just take a universal
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truth that God loves children. Let's park on this a little bit
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more. And I want to take us to James
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one verse 27 here, James 127 religion that God our Father
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accepts as pure and undefiled as this to look after orphans and
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widows in their distress. I've read this verse so many
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times over the years. And if I'm being honest, that
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first word threw me off for so many years, right.
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Especially in in a spirit filled church.
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We understand this concept of a religious spirit and when we
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hear that word religion, sometimes it means something to
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us or maybe it means a negative thing.
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Religious spirit being traditions and actions and
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things that you're doing just for the sake of doing them.
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But there's no real connection to a living, breathing God,
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right? Just tradition.
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That's not what this this word is saying.
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This word religion carries special meaning.
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And so in in my pursuit of God, what is this?
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I had to look this up, pretend with me that I have a Greek
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accent. I think this is going to sound
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Russian, but the word religion here, it's pronounced Threscia
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and it's literal meaning is to worship, to give glory to God.
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And so when we replace that language with what's written up
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here, to worship our God and Father is to accept as pure and
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undefiled as to look after orphans and widows.
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One of the highest forms of stewardship, worship, glorifying
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him is taking care of his little ones.
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But even in that I'm asking God, why children, why doesn't this
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say, you know, to to look after my church, to look after, you
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know, to look after my disciples?
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He could have said anything here, but he said children and
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orphans and so as I'm seeking the Lord on this.
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He brought me to Hebrews chapter 4.
Hebrews 4 chapter mention
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So I want to read this one for you as well.
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For we do not have a high priest we we worshiped on that this
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morning who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses,
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but one in who every respect has been tempted as we are yet
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without sin. How are these related?
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As I was asking God and asking the Holy Spirit God, what is
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this? What is this about?
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Why orphans, why widows? He reminded me it was King Herod
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that sent out a decree to kill all of the male babies in the
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Bethlehem area and the surrounding regions.
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Jesus experienced what we're talking about here.
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We need to love the least of these because Jesus literally
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was the least of these. He was in a vulnerable time in
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human history is when he entered in and the government was
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seeking his life. The truth here is there is no
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one that understands what these little babies and children's and
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teenagers are going through. There's no one that understands
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it better than Jesus. And so he sympathizes with our
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weaknesses because he's gone through it and church, he
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overcame. And so as we look ahead and
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continue to dive into Scripture, right, it's not just that Jesus
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has the sympathy, but he also has a victory.
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And so we want to talk a little bit more about what are some
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practical ways, What does this look like in the state of Iowa?
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And so Ashley's going to share some information for what this
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looks like on our front doorsteps.
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So I share some stats up here about what's happening in our
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society. You have alcoholism, drug abuse.
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You have 11% of Iowa below the poverty line, about 8000 people
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in our prison systems. You have a high divorce rate,
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single parents rate. And this causes some brokenness
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in our society that makes makes it so kids have to be removed
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from the home at times. So when you think about foster
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care, most of you assume the number one reason that kids come
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into foster care is because of abuse.
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And that would be untrue. The number one reason kids come
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out of foster care or come into foster care is because of
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neglect. You do have some smaller reasons
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there. You have drug abuse, physical
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abuse, maybe the parent is in jail or they've lost a parent
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and don't have family or friends to go to.
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But the number one reason is neglect.
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And so in many of these cases, I have my notes up here, I'm not
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texting well, well-being up here, but so let's go, let's go
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to Iowa next. So in Iowa, there's 4000 kids in
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foster care and 1000 of those kids are here in Polk County.
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Now, if you're really good at math, there is only 200 licensed
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foster families in Polk County to these 1000 and thousand kids
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in need. So you realize that the gap is
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much bigger than what is being fulfilled right now.
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The largest need for kids are teens needing placement, large
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family, so 3 kids or more. You can imagine that the day
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that you're taken from your family is the most traumatic day
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of your life. And then to be separated from
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your siblings is a secondary trauma.
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And then kids with special needs, it's hard to find
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placement for them. And I've also shared the largest
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demographic of foster kids or foster parents up there who are
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stepping up to this call. And then after the journey with
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foster care, about 70% of these kids go back to their biological
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families. This is really hard for
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Christians who are wanting to support this because it's
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heartbreaking, it's hard, it's filled with grief.
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But I would argue that God's design for this family was that
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kids are with their biological parents.
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If they are healthy, you know, some of these parents go through
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treatment, they go through some parenting classes, get some
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help, and children can be reunited.
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And it's, it's part of God's restoration of that family.
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And then 30% of foster kids are adopted by another family
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member, by family friend, or by a foster family.
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So the church is kind of answering that call in some
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ways. They're three times more likely
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to be foster parents and they're two times more likely to adopt.
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So there is some positive trending here for how the church
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is showing up. But like I said, 200 families
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for 1000 kids, There's still a great need here in Iowa
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specifically. Thank you, Ashley.
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So Ashley shared some of those needs, right?
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Right here in the state of Iowa. We're talking about God's heart.
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We're talking about the need, putting those things together,
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right? All of a sudden we have a call
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of action. How can we be involved?
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God, what is my role? What do you want me to do in
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these situations? And so we're going to have some
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word or pictures up here for you, right?
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We've got a gap. What does it mean to stand in
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the gap on behalf of foster care children and parents or children
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in need of adoption? I want to make sure I'm in the
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right church again. Has anyone read Reese Howell's
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book Intercessor? All right, I thought I was in
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the right place. So he has 2 verses that he hangs
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his banner on related to intercession.
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And I just, again, I want us to just let the word speak for
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itself. We're going to meditate on these
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for just a second here, standing in the gap, we have Isaiah 5916.
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The Lord saw it, and it displeased him that there was no
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justice in the land. He saw that there was no man and
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wondered that there would be someone to intercede.
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You have the exact same concept in Ezekiel 2230.
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And I sought for a man among them who should build up the
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wall and stand in the breach before me before the land, that
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I shouldn't destroy it. But I found none.
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This is sobering verses, but I think we can gather from this
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God is sovereign in heaven. Romans 828, He's going to find a
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way to accomplish his purposes, right?
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But his design here is for man. He's seeking men, He's seeking
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women. He wants us to fill that gap, us
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to intercede and to intervene. That's his original design is to
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hand it to us. And we as followers of him are
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ultimately the ones who are standing in this gap.
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I also want to argue this morning we'll go back to this
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first image. There are different size gaps in
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society and culture. Now, if this gap was real,
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right, maybe a Van de Zandt sculpt skinny child could fit
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into that and stand in the gap, right?
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But as the gap gets bigger, sometimes it takes more than one
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person. And so I want to present this
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second image that I believe to be pretty historically accurate.
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And so you can kind of see the concept of this castle wall in
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the background and when enemies would fight each other, there
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was only one entry point in and out.
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You can kind of see to scale here these little humans in that
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bottom rut there. It would take more than one
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person to defend this castle. And I would argue that in this
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age in human history, God is looking for a man.
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But this particular battle, it's not just one man standing in the
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gap. There are church sized gaps
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waiting for churches to step into.
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You're not meant to do it alone. OK.
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And that principle, we could sit on that all day.
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That's true for foster care and adoption.
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It's true of so many things in the Christian realm.
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You're not meant to do it alone. We're meant to be unified and
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support each other. Every one out of two families
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that enters foster care leaves within their first year because
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they don't feel supported. It's so sobering, but Church,
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God is awakening us. He is awakening us to answer the
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call and to stand in the gap. And so I want us to to get this
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verse right. Sometimes this verse is preached
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related to to marriage, but it's Ecclesiastes 412.
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And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, 2 will
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withstand him. But a three fold cord is not
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quickly broken. We are stronger when we are
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together, right? Amen, Church.
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We are in the middle of a cultural war and God is putting
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his fingerprints all over this topic of taking care of
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children, right? We saw the overturn of Roe
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versus Wade. The White House just this week
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decreed a new initiative to take care of foster care children in
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the teenage years. There's no funding going towards
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this. His heart is putting it into
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into law. He's putting it into the White
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House. And so for us to answer this
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call and to stand in the gap as a church, there's some real lies
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and challenges that we need to overcome.
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And so I want to park on that for just a few minutes here.
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We just talked about the first one, fighting alone, right?
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You don't have to do it and we shouldn't do it.
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As we stand in together, we're going to overcome these things.
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Ashley talked about some of the, you know, some of the neglect
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and the, the prison system and things that these these parents
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are struggling with. The concept of reconciliation,
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reunification, restoration, those don't come from the
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Department of Human Services or Health and Human Services.
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Those are heaven concepts. And us as his children, his sons
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and daughters, we are the most equipped to carry those things.
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And so if we want to see change in this system, he is calling us
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as sons and daughters, the church as a whole, not to fight
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alone and to be Jesus in this situation.
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We're not meant to do it alone. The second challenge I want to
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call out here, fear of attachment and disappointment.
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There's a very realness to people that enter into this
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battle. I know stories you guys have
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maybe experienced or know someone.
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There's real hurt involved. There can be, but when we lean
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that, that is the expectation. It's counter intuitive to the
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the Kingdom, right? God's design is that we carry
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that restoration, the reconciliation with us.
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We're going into these situations expecting the Kingdom
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to come, but he's a God. Even if, even if it doesn't,
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even if there's hurt, I'm telling you, God is able to walk
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through the grief with you. And one way or another, his
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Kingdom will come and we will overcome challenge #3 government
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regulations conflicting with personal belief systems.
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Is there anybody who has ever had beef with the law that was
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established here in the United States or anyone else?
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Raise your hand real quick. All right, nobody riot this
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morning. Just want to make sure I'm in
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the right place. No, there's lots of truths like
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this that we like. We don't perfectly agree.
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The Kingdom of the US is not perfectly in line with the
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Kingdom of heaven yet. But it doesn't stop missionaries
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from going to the Middle East, right?
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You show up in the Middle East, they don't stop the call to
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prayer because you go, if you go to communist countries, they're
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not all of a sudden going to change their laws because you're
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there. So we can't use this as an
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excuse to not engage. In fact, it's the opposite,
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right? We carry the Kingdom, and this
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should be the exact reason that we engage even more because you
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are God's chosen people to carry that Kingdom into this problem,
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this gap in human history. This 4th 1 is our last one here.
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Comfort. I got a call, a phone call in
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March of 2025, this year and it rocked Ashley and I's world a
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little bit. We had adopted Rosie two years
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ago and for all intents and purposes, we kind of felt like
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that chapter of our journey was closed.
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And we got a phone call that morning that there was someone
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that we knew who now had a newborn that was in need of
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foster care, wasn't thinking about it, wasn't ready for it.
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Let me just let a few fleshly thoughts out for a second.
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Older, mid 30s, right? I was thinking, I thought I was
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going to be an empty nester in, I don't know, eight years, 10
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years, whatever that number is. This is going to cost me.
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I'm going to have to count the cost.
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What's going to go into this? And I had these perspectives of
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what comfort looked like. And over the next couple of
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months, the Holy Spirit just continued to pull back those
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things. And I remember Ashley sent me a
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YouTube video one night. I was home alone, sitting in
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bed. I pushed play, and it was about
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foster care and adoption. I was one second in and I'm
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bawling my eyes out. I'm crying.
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And I know that instant. I'm like, Lord, you're asking me
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to do this. I need to stand in the gap.
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I need to lay down my life. I know this call is for me.
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And so in June of 2025 here, we invited another little girl into
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our home and she's been with us the last five or six months and
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it has been absolute joy. Remember those opening verses,
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right? Holy Spirit speaks, God speaks,
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that's his mission formula. All I needed to do was obey.
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And in return that provides worship and love to Him.
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Sometimes it's hard to come to the realization of what is it
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going to cost me to obey. I'm telling you so far that
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every minute of it has been worth it.
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And we are so grateful that we said yes to God again.
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And so we want to talk a little bit more about what is it
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practically look like to get involved here.
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You understand God's heart. You understand the need.
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True intercession starts in prayer and ends in action.
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And So what are those tangible things we can be doing as a
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church to fill the gap? All right, so there's a lot of
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great things happening, new organizations coming to the Des
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Moines metro that are answering this call.
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And one of them is the Isaiah 117 House.
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If you go to YouTube and search micro and Isaiah 117, there's a
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video of him visiting the starting place, which was in
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Tennessee. And this is a transitional home.
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When kids are taken out of foster care, it might take a lot
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of phone calls to find a placement for them, a safe place
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for them to go. And so in the past, kids have
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come and waited at the Health and Human service office, but
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they don't have all the needs for those kids depending on how
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long they wait. And so this is a house they're
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currently fundraising for Polk County where kids come and stay
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while they're waiting for their foster placement.
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So they have showers and beds and clothes, and maybe you need
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to distract them with a slime kit or whatever it takes, but a
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safe, kid friendly place on that worst day of their life.
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And so they're currently fundraising to come to Polk
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County. And it's just a great
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organization that is working with Health and Human Services
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to provide this care for kids as they move out of their home and
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into foster placement. A couple other organization, you
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have Foster Squad, they provide support groups.
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You can imagine inviting trauma in your house is going to rattle
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a marriage at point or your biological children.
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And you might need a support group to talk through how to
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handle the different things that you're facing at home.
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They also do a lot of legal advocacy down at the court
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downtown to make sure the laws are good for foster families and
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good for foster kids. We have Beauty Amidst the Ashes
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that shares about adoption. They also have adoption grants.
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And then we have Wildwood Collective.
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They are a newer agency that will come in and do training for
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churches so that they create these things called care care
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groups for foster families. So you have a team of church
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people around you as you journey through foster care.
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If you're a foster parent that help you with meals and
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babysitting and just teach, teach them how to love on foster
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parents and foster kids. Practically here for Heartland,
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there are many ways you can give a meal is I'm grateful for a
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meal any day, you know, And so whether it's their first
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placement, meaning they picked up the kid an hour ago and they
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need dinner that night or two months later, you know, there's
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a lot of appointments for foster kids.
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They might have counseling, some therapies, visits with their
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biological parents or court dates.
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And it can be a hectic schedule. And so providing a meal even
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throughout their foster care journey is really helpful.
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You can give diapers in formula. There are stipends that are
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given to foster parents, but sometimes it doesn't cover the
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whole month. In our experience, formula was
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covered for about 3 weeks and then we would pay for for the
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last, which is totally fine. God, God provides.
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But it is a way you could give to families specifically with
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little ones because those are who need it for that.
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But clothes talk about teens, you know, who are removed from
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their home. They might not have a lot.
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And it's doubly embarrassing to go to school the next day with
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Walmart sweatpants and oversized T-shirt from a free box.
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You know what I mean? So providing a, a decent
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wardrobe for these kids is a way that you can love, love on these
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foster families and love on these foster kids.
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And then gas cards, like I said, there's tons of appointments and
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it becomes a hectic schedule. And so that's just a practical
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way that you can give to foster families.
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You can babysit for foster families.
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It used to be that you had to be a foster parent to babysit, but
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now you can babysit for them and their biological kids to give
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those parents a break. You know, there's a lot of
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things coming into a marriage if you're a foster parents and to
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give them a 2 hour dinner break might be really healing for
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them. Friday, Friday we were in court
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with our little one and we expected it to be a very clean
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cut court hearing and someone came in with no knowledge of the
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case and kind of disrupted everything we thought was going
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to happen. And if it wasn't for a good
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judge on Friday, it could have ended very differently.
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We need good judges to take care of these little ones and there
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are really good judges and we need to keep voting good ones
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in. And so this is the most
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practical way that you can support foster families is
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because we need good judges and good laws.
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So getting to kind of the big kicker, if I was a missionary
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peer inviting you all to the Middle East, that would be
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unreasonable. We know the Holy Spirit's not
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asking all of you to go, but some of you.
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He is asking you to invite this mission field into your home.
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And so to be a foster parent, you have to take 8 weeks
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classes, CPR, first aid, have a home study where they come in
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and interview you on different safety checks.
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And one of the things you can do if you know someone going
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through foster care classes, babysit them while they have
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those classes, babysit for their biological kids or their other
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kids in their home. And then if you, if you don't
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want to be a full time foster parent, you can also take the
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classes to do respite. Respite is when you might have a
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kid overnight. You know, a family needs a break
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and they say, can you take him Friday into Saturday and and you
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take him to a movie or do some fun things and then they go back
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to their foster family. You can also do respite when
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they go on vacation. A lot of times these foster kids
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can't leave the state. And so when families go on
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vacation, they need safe people to watch them.
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And so these are the practical ways that you can help.
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Because if we don't step into trauma knowing the healer, who
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else is going to do it? We have to be the answer.
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We can't be afraid. If we're going to be pro-life,
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we're going to be pro kids and pro reunification for these
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families. You know one more that relates
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to judges. We talk about the Seven Mountain
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Mandate. It's not just judges, but your
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occupation can impact the Kingdom here.
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Maybe you work for one of these organizations.
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Maybe you're a social worker and you work for the government, but
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that same concept of you carrying the Kingdom, the only
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way that this is going to be transformed and his Kingdom will
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come is through the church standing in the gap.
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So as we close today, you know, Ashley said, we don't expect
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everybody to jump up and, and be, you know, foster parents.
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But I want to revisit what we talked about at the beginning,
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God's plan for missions, His plan of action.
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We trust the Holy Spirit this morning to guide you.
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That's really the only thing that we want coming away from
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this is we should do this every Sunday, right?
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You go home and it's Lord, What is my role in this?
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What do you want me to do? And you're, you're visiting him
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and allowing him to speak. We know that it's going to look
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different for all of us. So let me just say, you can't do
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everything, OK? We don't have to because we've
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got God. But he does offer us a role and
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a way to participate. I also think, right, we had Mike
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Hutchins in last week. God speaks in waves and the
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current wave that we're talking about this morning, right?
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Dealing with trauma, but overcoming it through King
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Jesus. It's through you and it's
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through us as a church where these children are truly going
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to feel the love of God. And so I ask that you would
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listen to his spirit this morning.
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And the only thing that you're required to do it is to love him
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to return by obeying whatever he asks you to do.
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And so I think we can, we can go home on that.
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But we just want to say thank you guys for allowing us to give
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this unconventional missions talk this morning.
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And if you are interested in helping in any way, come talk to
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Ashley and I and we'll help connect you with the church and
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how we together as one unit can stand in the gap on behalf of
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these children. Amen.
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