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Becoming a Faithful Community
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Today's scripture lesson is from the Gospel according to Matthew, chapter 19, verses 1-12, as printed in the liturgy.
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A reading from the Gospel according to Matthew.
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When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan.
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Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
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Some Pharisees came to him to test him.
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They asked,
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Haven't you read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female,
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and said,
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Why then, they asked,
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Did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?
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Jesus replied,
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Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard, but it was not this way from the beginning.
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I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman, commits adultery.
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The disciples said to him,
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If this is a situation between a husband and wife, is it better not to marry?
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It is better not to marry.
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Jesus replied,
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Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.
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For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others.
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And there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.
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The one who can accept this should accept it.
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This is the Gospel of the Lord.
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We praise you, Lord Christ.
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Good morning, Christ Church.
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Today is one of those Sundays where it's just easy to be a preacher.
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You know, you just kind of mail in the sermon.
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Not a lot of thought, not a lot of work, not a lot of prayer.
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Because in our Gospel text today, Jesus weighs in on some light topics.
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Like marriage, divorce, remarriage, singleness, sexuality, gender, sexual immorality, adultery.
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Right?
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So, should be fun.
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Should be fun.
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I know these issues for us are personal.
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They're sensitive.
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They're serious.
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They're even controversial.
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And of course, this is not, you know, only about issues.
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It's about real people.
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It's about things that affect everybody in this room and people who are not in this room,
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who we love and who we care about.
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Our parents, our siblings, our kids, our friends, our neighbors, our coworkers.
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I feel inadequate to address this topic.
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And I feel a little bit nervous because the last few times we've preached on this topic,
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it's caused some tension and conflict.
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And texts, emails, conversations that I kind of file away in the not fun category of pastoral ministry.
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But perhaps you're more nervous than me because these issues cause you to feel immense pain and sadness
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or intense shame and guilt, either for things that we've done or for things that have been done to us,
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ways that we've been wronged.
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Some of us are here today, we're lonely because we are longing for marriage.
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Some of us are lonely because we feel stuck in hard marriages.
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Some of us are here with stories of failed marriage.
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Some of us are here today with addictions and secrets.
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Some of us are here today, we identify as same-sex attracted or gay.
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And the church has not been a safe place for you to talk about these things or even to be in church.
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And if you're nervous, I just want to say I get it.
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And I want to encourage you, fear not.
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Open yourself up to God because God is here to meet you in His compassion, His kindness, His healing, and His transforming power.
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If you're here today and you're exploring the Christian faith, I want to say that, you know, what's most important for you,
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the first things that you should keep first is, is Jesus the Son of God?
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Did He die for your sins?
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Did He rise from the dead?
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And have you experienced His grace?
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And when you've dealt with those things, then you can get to the ethics of Jesus.
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But I am going to be talking today to Christians about ethics, and I hope it's helpful for you to overhear that conversation.
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And I want you to know that everybody here is broken on these issues, including me.
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I don't have it all together.
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The common ground I share with all of you is our need for wisdom about these issues.
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And under no illusion that we all agree on these things.
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We're going to walk out of here today agreeing on these things, and that's okay.
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I hope it opens the door for you to, and for us together, to seek the mind of God on these things.
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So that's my preamble.
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And here's my introduction, is that Jesus endorses God's vision of marriage in the Old Testament.
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We see in Luke chapter 2 that He obeyed His married parents.
Luke 2 chapter mention
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We see in John chapter 2 that He performed His first miracle at a wedding.
John 2 chapter mention
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We see in Mark chapter 1 that Jesus called a married guy named Peter to be the leader of His 12 disciples.
Mark 1 chapter mention
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So Jesus shares in this high and holy vision of marriage and the strict standard of sexuality that God revealed
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through the law, the prophets, and the writings, these three parts of the Old Testament.
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So that when these Bible scholars come and they ask Jesus a question on marriage, how does Jesus respond?
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He says in verse 4,
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Haven't you read?
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Haven't you read?
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They ask Him a question about marriage to trap Him in this hotly debated topic and declare which side He's on.
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And of course, Jesus does not answer their question, but He gets down to the root issue by saying,
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Haven't you read?
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Or what He often says is,
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It is written.
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Or sometimes He'll say,
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Scripture cannot be broken.
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And when He says these things, He's appealing to a higher authority.
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He's appealing to the authority of God, the authority of God's Word, the authority of God's self-revelation and His character, His covenants and His counsels.
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And that's why He takes us to pages 1 and 2 of the Bible.
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Now what about you?
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When you think about the issues of marriage, singleness, sexuality, and gender in our time, where do you go as your supreme authority?
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Do you go to cultural authorities and then come and read the Bible through the lenses of our culture?
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Or do you go to God and to the Bible and you read our culture through the lenses of Scripture?
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And that's what Jesus is doing here.
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He takes us to Genesis 1 and 2,
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the simple, beautiful vision of the meaning of human existence,
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the meaning of marriage that gets woven through all the Scriptures,
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till you get to the very end of the Bible,
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where you have this beautiful marriage,
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this joining together of heaven and earth,
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this joining together of Christ and His church in Revelation 21 and 22.
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And so it's from these inspired, infallible, authoritative Scriptures,
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the Word of God that Jesus speaks.
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And the Word that He speaks for us is that He builds His church on covenant marriage,
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on kingdom singleness, and on the grace gospel.
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That Jesus builds His church on covenant marriage, kingdom singleness, and the grace gospel.
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We heard Jesus say a few weeks ago in Matthew 16,
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I will build my church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it.
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So we've been asking, well, what does He build His church on?
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And this is what He builds His church on.
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First of all, He builds His church on covenant marriage.
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If you look at verse 4, He says,
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Haven't you read that at the beginning, the Creator made them male and female?
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And that's a quote from Genesis 1, 27.
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And Jesus is teaching that our Creator made one humanity
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that consists of two binary or dimorphic gendered opposites of male and female.
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And in that next verse in Genesis 1, 28, He gives them their first command.
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And what is that?
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It's be fruitful and multiply.
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And that tells us that marriage is typically for the generation of new life
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and the procreation of children and their upbringing in the love and order of a family.
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And if you keep reading on, you get to Genesis 2,
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and it's kind of another angle on the creation story.
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And God says there, He says,
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It's not good for man to be alone.
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I'm going to make a helper or an ally suitable for him.
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And that tells us that marriage is designed to be a friendship,
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a friendship between these allies that give each other mutual support and comfort.
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And then we get to this next verse that Jesus quotes in verse 5 where He says,
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For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,
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and the two will become one flesh.
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Now that's a quote from Genesis 2, 24.
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And Jesus is teaching here that marriage exists in the eyes of God
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when that union is, first of all, an exclusive one-man, one-woman relationship,
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which is why it says man and wife.
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Number two, that union is publicly acknowledged at a social event
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where the child-parent relationship is replaced by the husband-wife relationship,
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and that's what it means by leaves his parents.
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Number three, that union is sealed by a permanent, lifelong covenant commitment of self-giving love,
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and that's what's meant by the words, cleaves to his wife.
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You swear, you make a promise that you're going to cleave,
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which means to adhere firmly or closely and loyally and unswervingly.
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And then what's the final ingredient for marriage in terms of how God defines it?
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That the fourth thing is that it's consummated by sexual intercourse
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as a sign and a seal of that covenant,
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and that's what the language of one flesh means.
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This physical union is to be a whole life union
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that's emotional and spiritual and social and legal and a financial union.
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So that's the definition of marriage.
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It's the nearest the Bible gets to a full definition of marriage,
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and Jesus affirms that definition.
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He's teaching us that marriage is not a human invention,
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but it's a divine institution,
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and that the Creator God's given us this gracious, loving provision
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for his very good creation before we fell away from God
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and before sin entered in and twisted the world.
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And if you look at the larger context of creation in Genesis 1,
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you can see God taking these,
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causing all these diverse and unlike things
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to come together and create united dynamic wholes
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that generate more life and more beauty through their relationships.
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So that by the time you get to the man and the woman,
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you can see that God's union of this male-female marriage
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is the climax of his creativity.
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And this marriage is the ultimate unity and diversity.
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It's the ultimate diversity and unity
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because men and women have unique, non-interchangeable strengths and glories.
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Each of us can see and do things that the other cannot.
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And so God created this sexual union within this intergendered covenant of marriage
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as a way, not the only way,
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but as a major way for human beings
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to intermingle and mix together
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these special strengths and glories that we have.
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And if you read the book of Song of Songs,
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you'll find that it's an entire book of the Bible
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that's devoted to this extended poetic meditation
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on this reality that I'm trying to describe.
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And it's really a commentary on Genesis 2, verses 23 to 25.
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If you read through the law, the prophets, the writings of the Old Testament,
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God reveals that he desires to protect the liberty
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and the integrity of male-female marriages
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and their extended families,
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which is the basic social unit upon which God's covenant with his people depends.
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Is this making sense?
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This is why Jesus says in verse 20,
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They shall no longer be two but one.
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Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.
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It's a command from Jesus to protect these marriages that God has yoked,
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that God has fastened together.
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And if God has done that, then we should come around them
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and guard that union and strengthen the bonds of that unity.
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Now, what does that mean for us, and how does it apply to our lives?
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Well, I think it means that the community of Jesus' disciples
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is called to uphold Jesus' doctrine of marriage
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and is called to live out Jesus' ethics of marriage.
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And if you're here today and you've taken the great risk of becoming a husband
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or becoming a wife,
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you made covenant promises that you would, in the future,
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love and cherish that other person when things are either better or worse.
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Whether you're experiencing being richer or poorer,
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or if things are in a season of sickness or in health.
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And the question for us today is,
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how's that going?
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Are we honoring those vows that we made even when and if it hurts us?
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Are we cherishing that friendship that marriage is supposed to be?
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And are we investing the time that that friendship requires?
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Jesus tells us to cleave to your spouse.
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Are we adhering closely to one another as allies?
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Or are we just kind of coasting along and maybe even drifting apart?
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Are we serving our spouse, encouraging our spouse,
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praying for our spouse in self-giving, sacrificial love
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and allowing our relationship to be a symbol and a signpost
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to God's cleaving and covenantal love for us?
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Jesus says to us that we're to be one flesh.
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And the question is, are we giving not just our bodies,
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but are we giving our whole selves to one another in a whole life union?
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Or are we holding parts of our life and parts of ourself back from each other?
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Are we giving each other a taste of Eden where we can be fully known?
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And in being fully known, we can be fully accepted.
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Jesus says that, you know, what God has joined together,
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let no one separate.
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And the question for us is, are we protecting our relationships
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by keeping them utterly exclusive and absolutely unadulterated?
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Are we allowing other people and other things to drive a wedge in between us
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and pull us apart?
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Are we putting our kids rather than our friendship at the center of our marriage?
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You know, are we continuing to say,
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till death do us part, 10 years in, 20 years in, 50 years in,
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the only thing that's going to pull us apart is death.
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Now, I know there may be people here today and you're like,
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man, I'm struggling to find a spouse.
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I'm struggling in my marriage.
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I'm divorced.
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I'm widowed.
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Maybe you're remarried.
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Maybe you're dealing with infertility or miscarriage or the loss of a child.
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And I want you to know you're not alone.
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And I want to encourage you not to allow yourself to struggle alone,
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to rather give this church community the opportunity to come around you
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with some love and some biblical wisdom about dating and engagement
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and what it means to be newlyweds
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and how to engage conflict and reconciliation,
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how to grieve the loss of a marriage or the loss of a beloved spouse
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or the loss of a desired child.
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If you're married today and you think,
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or maybe even dating or engaged,
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and you think you'd benefit from having a marriage mentor
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or some marriage counseling,
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we'd love to give you some guidance and referrals about that.
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If you're looking for resources,
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I brought a whole stack of books.
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I'll put them on the communion table afterwards.
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Please don't take my books.
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But take a picture of my books.
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There's a great one on there called
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How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk.
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I recommend that to you.
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There's another one called The Defining Decade,
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How to Make the Most of Your 20s Now,
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as written by a woman who got her PhD here at Berkeley.
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Another one called Hold Me Tight that I didn't bring.
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Catherine and I have been trying to read that for about 10 years.
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And we took it to England last summer and still haven't read it.
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So we hit our 20th anniversary this summer.
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Please ask us if we've read Hold Me Tight.
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And are you holding one another tight?
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So I say this at every wedding that marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly,
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but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God.
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And the purposes of marriage, they're not a mystery.
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Jesus teaches us about those purposes,
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and we as his people, we need to learn what those are and hold them up and live them out.
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Amen?
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So Jesus builds his church on covenant marriage,
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but he doesn't just build his church on covenant marriage.
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He builds his church on kingdom singleness.
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There might be half of the room in here today that's single.
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And these disciples, they're listening to Jesus,
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and they say in verse 10,
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they say,
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You know what?
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It's better not to marry.
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It's just better not to marry.
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Because, Jesus, your vision for marriage is so high,
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and if we have to do marriage on your terms and not on our terms,
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man, it's better to be single and celibate.
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And so Jesus responds to them in verse 11.
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He says,
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Not everyone can accept this word,
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but only those to whom it's been given.
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For some are eunuchs because they were born that way.
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Others have been made eunuchs,
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and others have renounced marriage or made themselves eunuchs
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because of the kingdom of heaven.
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And the one who can accept this should accept it.
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What in the world is Jesus talking about?
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I know it sounds strange,
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but I think it has deep cultural relevance for this moment that we're in.
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What is a eunuch?
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In the ancient world,
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a eunuch would guard the women's living areas of royal courts
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because they were castrated.
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So a eunuch is somebody who's not going to get married,
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not going to have sex,
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not going to make babies.
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And Jesus is using this term to talk about himself
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and to talk about his single disciples.
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And he says,
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I want you to see God's gift of the single life in three distinct modes.
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First of all,
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there are people that are born that way,
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which suggests nature and biology,
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heredity,
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you know,
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how we arrive genetically at birth from our mother's womb.
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And Jesus says,
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some of my disciples are going to be single and celibate
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because they lack the capacity to sexually relate,
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either physically or mentally.
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And then what's the second category of single disciples Jesus mentions?
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He says,
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there are those who are made that way by others,
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which suggests not nature,
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but nurture or our environment,
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the ways we've been damaged by our history,
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our relationships,
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our social forces,
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our experiences.
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He says,
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some are going to be single and celibate disciples
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because of abuse or abandonment
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or because they've been refused by desired partners
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or because they're divorced or because they're widowed.
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And some other disciples,
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because they're not attracted to the opposite sex.
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If 5% of the general population is same-sex attracted,
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we should not be surprised that that percentage shows up in the church.
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And it's been my honor and my privilege to journey with so many Christians
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over the past 20 years
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who on the one hand have experienced rejection from the church
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because they're same-sex attracted.
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And on the other hand,
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they've experienced rejection from the LGBT community
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because of their decision to follow and obey Christ.
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And if that's you,
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I want to say that that double rejection is extremely painful
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from what you've told me
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and that you are most welcome in this church.
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What then is Jesus' third category for single disciples?
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He says,
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there are those who choose to live like eunuchs
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for the sake of the kingdom of God.
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Literally, they've made themselves eunuchs
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and that suggests choice or decision or volition
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or will based on your calling.
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This is a disciple who's moved by the call of God
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and the call of the kingdom of heaven
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to put sexual relations aside
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to give themselves fully to serve the Lord
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in a singular, undivided, undistracted, and devoted way.
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And Jesus is calling us to honor that costly discipleship,
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to honor that kind of heroic obedience,
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to honor people who've committed themselves
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to this countercultural way of living.
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Now, some of you, you sense this calling
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and you know it's a lifelong calling.
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And like Pastor John Stott,
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who was a lifelong single in London, England,
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he said of marriage,
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you know, I would rather want what I do not have
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than have what I do not want.
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And that's your perspective on it as well.
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Some of you are hoping, you know,
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this is a temporary calling for you.
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You'd really like to get married.
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You're praying that God would provide a spouse for you
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who is a Christian,
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who Paul describes in 1 Corinthians 7
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as somebody who belongs to the Lord.
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But whether you're a lifelong single
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or a temporary single,
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you are bearing witness to something.
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You're bearing witness in our midst
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to the fact that there's something greater than the self
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and there's something greater than marriage to live for,
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and that is the kingdom of heaven
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and the king of that kingdom,
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King Jesus.
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Well, what does it mean to be a single person
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and live for the kingdom of heaven above all else?
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Well, look at Jesus.
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Jesus made himself a eunuch for the kingdom of God.
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He never married,
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never had a romantic relationship,
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never experienced sex,
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and yet here is the greatest, wisest,
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most fully human and complete person
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who's ever lived.
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And Jesus is setting aside
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all of his desires for those things
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in order to give himself fully
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to working and praying
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that the kingdom of God
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would come on the earth as it is in heaven.
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And so Jesus is calling you
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as a single disciple
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to be complete and to be fulfilled in him
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and in his work.
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He's calling you as a single disciple
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to be a vital and essential member of the church,
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and he's calling you as a single disciple
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to use your capacity and your gifts
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to serve the king and his kingdom.
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And you know,
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if this single man named Jesus
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launched and nurtured a disciple community
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and he started and sustained a ministry,
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God can enable you as a single person
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to do that as well.
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And you might say,
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well, I'm not the son of God.
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Well, okay, what about Paul,
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Barnabas, Timothy?
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What about Tabitha and Lydia and Phoebe
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and all of these single men and women
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we meet in the New Testament
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who turn the Roman Empire upside down?
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God is calling you to be that kind of person.
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Now, how did they turn the Roman Empire upside down?
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First of all, they lived with moral integrity.
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They knew that saying yes to Jesus
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as a single person means saying no to sexual autonomy.
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And this is why Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6,
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he says,
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flee from sexual immorality.
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That means run as hard as you can
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in the opposite direction of sexual immorality.
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And he says,
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do you not know that your bodies
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are temples of the Holy Spirit
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who is in you,
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whom you receive from God?
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You are not your own.
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You were bought at a price.
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Therefore, honor God with your bodies.
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Now, that sounds ridiculous,
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absolutely ridiculous to a culture
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that's bowing down to worship,
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romance, and sex.
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To a culture that says,
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you know,
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do whatever you want with your body.
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Put no limits on your desires.
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You cannot be a full human being without sex.
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But here's a single disciple
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named Paul
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who says,
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you know what?
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I don't belong to myself anymore.
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I'm not my own.
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I've been bought with the price
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of the blood of the Son of God
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and I'm filled with the Spirit of God,
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the Spirit of holiness.
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See, if you say,
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you know,
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I choose to be single and celibate
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for the sake of the kingdom of God
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because the sovereign rule
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of my crucified king
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is better than romance
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and the supreme reign
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of my risen Lord
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is better than sex,
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you're going to sound crazy.
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But Jesus sounded crazy
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and Paul sounded crazy.
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All of these New Testament Christians
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sounded crazy.
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Friends,
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God created sex
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to be enjoyed
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within male-female marriage
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where we can say
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to the other person,
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I belong to you
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completely and exclusively
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in a whole life
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permanent commitment.
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And if you're single
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and you're having sex
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with other people,
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you just can't say that.
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You can't say that.
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What you can say is,
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I give you my body
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but not my money.
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I give you my body
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but not my future.
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I give you my body
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but I don't give you my promise
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that when I get to know
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who you really are,
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I'm going to accept you
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and I'm not going to go anywhere
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and when all this chemistry wears off,
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I'm still going to be with you
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and even when this relationship
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isn't meeting my needs,
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I'm going to be your person.
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You can't say that.
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You see,
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it's very difficult
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to be a genuine,
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authentic follower
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of Jesus Christ
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and to hold on
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to your moral integrity
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and to maintain
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a credible Christian witness
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if you're practicing
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serial monogamy
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with the potential spouses
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of other people.
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That's the teaching
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of the New Testament.
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It's just very difficult
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to do that
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but here are these
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single disciples
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that I mentioned to you
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in the New Testament
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who committed themselves
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to the biblical sex ethic
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and they know
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that moral integrity
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means monogamous fidelity
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if you're a married disciple
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and celibate chastity
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if you're a single disciple
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whether you're opposite sex
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or same sex attracted.
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Now I know that not everyone
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believes that today.
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I know what I'm saying
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not everybody here believes.
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If you don't believe this
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we are so glad
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that you're here
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and I want to invite you
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to prayerfully study
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the scriptures with us
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and consider Jesus'
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better way of sexual sobriety.
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The Apostle Paul
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in the same text
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in 1 Corinthians 5
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he says,
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what business of mine
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is it to judge those
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outside the church?
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That's not what we're doing today.
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He says,
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but are we not to judge
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those inside?
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Are we not to call
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Jesus' disciples
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to walk in his way
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and trust in his truth
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and live his life?
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And that's why
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they turned the Roman Empire
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upside down.
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They lived with moral integrity
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and the second thing they did
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was they lived as a family.
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The primary metaphor
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of the church
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in the New Testament
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is of a spiritual family
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where God is our Father
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and Jesus
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is our elder brother
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and we are the siblings,
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the sisters and brothers
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of Christ
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who share in life together
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through the Holy Spirit.
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And when you read Paul's letters
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you hear this familial love
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and mutuality
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and dependence
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that he has
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for his brothers and sisters
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and what they have for them.
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And as I read those
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it's a challenge to me
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and it should be a challenge
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to married people here
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who define family
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as only your spouse and kids.
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because the New Testament
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calls us to look beyond
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our biological families
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to the larger spiritual family
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that's full of single disciples
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whether they're teenagers
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or whether they're in their 80s.
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And the question for us is
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are we opening our homes
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and having single people
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at our tables
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as part of our families?
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I know one married couple
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they come to church gatherings
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looking for those
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who have no one to sit with
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and they go and sit beside them.
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Are we willing to
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do this kind of thing
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to be family for those
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who like Jesus
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have chosen
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to be single and celibate
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for the sake
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of the kingdom of heaven?
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So Jesus builds his church
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on covenant marriage
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and on kingdom singleness.
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And I know I'm going
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a little longer today
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but I have one last thing
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I just have to say.
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And that's that Jesus
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builds his church
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on the grace gospel.
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He builds his church
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on the grace gospel.
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What do I hear?
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What do I do
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when I'm hearing
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Jesus' high and holy vision
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for what it means
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to be a single disciple?
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And I realize
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that in all my single years
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I fell short of that vision.
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When I read Paul's words
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to a single man named Timothy
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and he says,
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you man of God
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flee the concerns of this world
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and pursue righteousness,
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godliness, faith, love,
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endurance, and gentleness
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and I look back
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on my singleness
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and I say,
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man, I wasted time.
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I squandered my energy.
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I failed to discipline
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my desires.
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What do I do?
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Or what do I do
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when I hear Jesus'
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high and holy vision
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of married disciples
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and I realize
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how far short I fall?
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He says in Ephesians 5,
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Paul says,
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husbands love your wives
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just as Christ loved the church
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and gave himself up for her,
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that's not me.
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So often I find
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what Moses
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and what Jesus describes
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in this text
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is hardness of heart
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toward my spouse.
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So often I find
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self-love
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rather than self-giving.
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I don't want to
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sacrifice myself
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or suffer
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in order that my wife
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might flourish.
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What do I do then?
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Is anybody like me?
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You're like,
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man,
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I fall so far short
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of Jesus' vision
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for his disciples.
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Anybody feeling that today?
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I want to take you
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to a story
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in the Gospel of John
John 8 chapter mention
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chapter 8
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because it shows us
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how Jesus relates
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to broken
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and condemned people.
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And the story is this,
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that there's a man
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and a woman
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and they sin against God
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through a sexual relationship
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with one another
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that they're not married
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to each other.
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and that relationship
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wrecks their families.
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It brings shame
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on themselves,
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shame on their communities
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and these pious men,
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they come along
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and they want to take
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the shame of this woman
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in particular
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out into the public.
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They say,
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well,
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she's broken
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the law of God
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and they've done
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this shameful act
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and they've engaged
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in this condemnable conduct.
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And you know,
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these guys,
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they're not wrong.
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They're actually quite right
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about the word of God.
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But the problem is
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that they're full of truth
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but they're not full of grace.
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They're full of truth
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but they're lacking in grace.
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And Jesus comes along
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and gets involved
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and he says,
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well,
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how about this?
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Let's let the one
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who is without sin
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be the first in line
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to condemn this person.
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And one by one,
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these men start to walk away
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and Jesus is left alone
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with her
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and he simply says to her
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two things.
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He says,
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I do not condemn you.
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Now leave your life of sin.
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He says,
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I do not condemn you.
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Now leave your life of sin.
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And the order of those two sentences
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is absolutely crucial.
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If you reverse the order
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of those sentences,
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you lose the grace gospel
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and you lose Jesus himself.
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Jesus does not say,
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leave your life of sin
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so that I won't need
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to condemn you.
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With Jesus,
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it's always grace first,
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love first,
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which establishes
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an environment
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in which we can have
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a conversation
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about morality
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and ethics.
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I do not condemn you.
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Now leave your life of sin.
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It's not our repentance
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that leads to God's kindness.
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No.
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The apostle Paul tells us
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in Romans 2,
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he says it's God's kindness
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that leads to our repentance.
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How can Jesus get away
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with not condemning
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this woman
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and this man
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and this couple?
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How can he get away
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with not condemning
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any of us today?
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Does he just play
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fast and loose
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with the scriptures?
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Does he just disregard
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God's moral law?
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Does he just shrug
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his shoulders
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at our sin
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and say it's no big deal?
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No.
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Jesus knows
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that someone
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must be condemned
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and that's why
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he came from heaven
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to earth.
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On his way
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to the cross,
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Jesus is piling up
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on his shoulders
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all the selfishness
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in my marriage,
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all of the self-centeredness
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in your singleness.
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He's piling up
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on himself
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all of our wrecked marriages,
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all of our infidelities,
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all of our addictions,
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all of our serial monogamy,
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all of our sexual immorality.
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It's all getting
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piled up
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upon Jesus
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and there
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in our place
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and as our substitute,
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he stood condemned
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on his cross,
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bearing in his body
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our condemnation.
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And friends,
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to be a Christian
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is to hear
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the crucified
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yet resurrected
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Jesus
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say to you,
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I do not condemn you.
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Now leave your life
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of sin.
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I do not condemn you.
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Now leave your life
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of sin.
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Jesus is full of grace
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and he's full of truth
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and he wants us
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to create
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an environment
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like that
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in his church.
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We do not condemn you.
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We do not condemn you.
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Now let's have
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a conversation
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about God's law
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and ethics
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and obedience
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as his disciples.
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let's talk about
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leaving our lives
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full of sin.
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Jesus is full of
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grace and truth
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and he wants a church
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that's full of grace
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and full of truth.
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May God enable us
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to walk this very
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fine line
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following behind
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our Lord Jesus
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in the name of the Father,
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Son, and Holy Spirit.
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Amen.
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Amen.