Sermon
Real Blessings and Family Dysfunction
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Good morning. I am Abigail Todd and I am part of CC Kids.
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Today's scripture reading is from the book of Genesis, chapter 25, verses 21 to 23, and chapter 27, verses 1 to 4, and 15 to 34, as printed in the liturgy.
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A reading from the book of Genesis.
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Isaac prayed to the Lord on behalf of his wife because she was childless.
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The Lord answered his prayer and his wife Rebecca became pregnant.
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The babies jostled each other within her and she said, why is this happening to me?
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So she went to inquire of the Lord.
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The Lord said to her, two nations are in your womb and two peoples from within you will be separated.
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One people will be stronger than the other and the older will serve the younger.
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When Isaac was old and his eyes were so weak he could no longer see, he called for Esau, his older son, and said to him, my son.
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Here I am, he answered.
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Isaac said, I am now an old man and don't know the day of my death.
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Now then, get your equipment, your quiver and bow, and go out to the open country to hunt some wild game for me.
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Prepare me the kind of tasty food I like and bring it to me to eat so that I may give you my blessing before I die.
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Then Rebecca took the best clothes of Esau, her older son, which she had in the house, and put them on her younger son Jacob.
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She also covered his hands in the smooth part of his neck with goat skins.
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Then she handed to her son Jacob the tasty food and bread she had made.
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He went to his father and said, my father.
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Yes, my son, he answered.
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Who is it?
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Jacob said to his father, I am Esau, your firstborn.
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I have done as you told me.
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Please sit up and eat some of my game so that you may give me your blessing.
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Isaac asked his son, how did you find it so quickly, my son?
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The Lord your God gave me success, he replied.
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Then Isaac said to Jacob, come near so I can touch you, my son, to know whether you are really my son Esau or not.
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Jacob went close to his father Isaac, who touched him and said, the voice is the voice of Jacob, but the hands are the hands of Esau.
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He did not recognize him, for his hands were hairy like those of his brother Esau.
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So he proceeded to bless him.
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Are you really my son Esau, he asked.
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I am, he replied.
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Then he said, my son, bring me some of your game to eat so that I may give you my blessing.
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Jacob brought it to him and he ate, and he brought some wine and he drank.
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Then his father Isaac said to him, come here, my son, and kiss me.
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So he went to him and kissed him.
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When Isaac caught the smell of his clothes, he blessed him and said, ah, the smell of my son is the smell of a field that the Lord has blessed.
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May God give you heaven's dew and earth's richness, an abundance of grain and new wine.
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May nations serve you and peoples bow down to you.
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Be lord of your brothers and may the sons of your mother bow down to you.
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May those who curse you be cursed and those who bless you be blessed.
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After Isaac finished blessing him and Jacob had scarcely left his father's presence, his brother Esau came in from hunting.
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He too prepared some tasty food and brought it to his father.
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Then he said to him, my father, please sit up and eat some of my game so that you may give me your blessing.
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His father Isaac said to him, who are you?
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I'm your son, he answered, your firstborn Esau.
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Isaac trembled violently and said, who was it then that hunted game and brought it to me?
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I ate it just before you came and I blessed him and indeed he will be blessed.
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When Esau heard his father's words, he burst out with a loud and bitter cry and said to his father, bless me, me too, my father.
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The grass withers and the flowers fade, but the word of our God stands forever.
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All right.
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What a wonderful recitation from Psalm 23.
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And what a wonderful reading from Genesis 27.
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I don't know if you have read many Russian novels, but Leo Tolstoy was a Russian novelist and he wrote a novel called Anna Karenina.
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And the opening of that novel, the very first sentence, he says,
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Happy families are all alike.
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Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
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If you came here today and you're feeling a little discouraged about your family,
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the message of Genesis 27 is cheer up because things could be a whole lot worse.
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Okay.
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The holy family we meet here is actually quite unholy and therefore quite unhappy.
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And that's crazy because if you're familiar with Genesis, you go to Genesis 24,
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what you find there is one of the first and best love stories in all of world literature.
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It's a story about how Isaac and Rebecca became husband and wife.
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And then we heard a little bit in Genesis 25 there where Rebecca, his wife, is barren.
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She's struggling with infertility for 20 years.
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And Isaac prays for her for 20 years.
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And it says that Isaac prayed to the Lord on behalf of his wife and the Lord answered his prayer.
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So it's an amazing love story.
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But by the time you get to Genesis 27, they're not speaking to one another.
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They are at cross purposes with each other.
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This marriage is in trouble.
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And so if you're reading the story, you're thinking to yourself,
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well, what happened to this marriage made in heaven?
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What happened to the spiritual union?
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What happened to their covenantal intimacy?
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Why are they now prayerless?
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They're not even talking to God.
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Why are they so dysfunctional?
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Why are they so uncommunicative?
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And by the way, aren't these supposed to be God's chosen people?
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Aren't they supposed to be carrying within themselves the very promises of God
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and the blessings of God on Abraham to all the nations of the world?
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Why are they being such poor spouses and partners to each other in this story?
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And what's more, how did they become such terrible parents to their kids?
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Now, when we planned our parenting class for today,
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we did not look ahead at the scripture lesson.
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But God knows.
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God has a sense of humor.
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And the story is, of course, much deeper than this.
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But parents, don't show favoritism to your kids.
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Don't compare them with each other.
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Don't say, hey, this is actually my kid and that's your kid.
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Don't have divided loyalties.
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And of course, if you get nothing else from today,
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it's fine to dress your kid up on Halloween.
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But please, do not go to the level of Genesis 27
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and dress up your favorite kid
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in order to deceive your spouse
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that they're actually blessing their favorite kid.
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I say this because the Bible is actually quite shocking.
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We come to it with certain expectations.
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We come to the Bible thinking it's going to give us some sort of spiritual uplift,
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thinking that the Bible is going to give us some moral inspiration,
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maybe a little chicken soup for the soul.
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And we very quickly begin to realize
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that the Bible is this soap opera of epic proportions.
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Right?
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It's a bizarre reality TV drama.
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And in one episode after another,
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we witness this just tragic downward spiral of human failure.
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And today's story is actually quite bleak.
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There's jealousy.
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There's power struggles.
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There's deception.
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There's betrayal.
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It's like a Russian novel.
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And it basically ends with everyone falling apart,
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trembling violently, crying bitterly.
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Everybody feeling spiritually uplifted so far?
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All right.
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Awesome.
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So what we're going to talk about is
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we're going to talk about the power of God's blessing
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and the dysfunction of God's family
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and the triumph of God's grace.
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The power of God's blessing,
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the dysfunction of God's family,
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and the triumph of God's grace.
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First of all,
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the power of God's blessing.
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The word bless or blessing in Genesis 22 or 2027
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occurs many times.
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It occurs 22 times.
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It's a key word in this text.
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And you hear it there in verse 4 of Genesis 27
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where Isaac says to Esau,
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he says,
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prepare me the kind of tasty food I like
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and bring it to me to eat
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so that I may give you my blessing before I die.
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And then down in verse 19,
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it says,
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What does that word blessing mean?
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It's a religious-sounding word.
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We say a blessing at a meal.
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We say bless you when you sneeze.
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We say I'm feeling so blessed when life is going well.
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We say, you know,
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bless you or bless in the south.
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We say bless your heart.
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But we post pictures on Instagram
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of our recent vacation,
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and we say hashtag blessed.
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But what does the word even mean?
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It's that the English word is just so vague, actually.
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It's so weak and so shallow
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that we need to go back to Genesis 1
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where the story of the Bible begins
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with this God who brings life out of the darkness,
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and he's ordering this beautiful world,
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and he gives the first blessing in the Bible.
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And he blesses the animals that he's made.
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And what does he say to them?
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He says,
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Be fruitful and multiply.
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Fill the earth.
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Fill the sea.
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Fill the sky.
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So blessing is about flourishing.
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It's about the multiplication of life.
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Blessing is about God sharing
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his life-producing ability with others.
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And we read in Genesis 1-2
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that God then blesses humans,
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and he says,
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I'm making you in my image.
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You're gonna be fruitful
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and multiply with life,
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and you're to rule and steward over
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the blessing that I've given
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to this flourishing world.
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And of course,
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as we've been tracking the story,
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Genesis 3,
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pretty immediately,
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humanity says,
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Well, no,
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we don't want the blessing that way.
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We want the blessing this way.
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We want the blessing on our terms.
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And then the world begins to fall apart.
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Fast forward to Genesis 12.
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I think we have a slide on this
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where God chooses one couple.
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He blesses Abraham and Sarah.
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He says,
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You're gonna have a huge family.
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You're gonna be fruitful.
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You're gonna multiply with life.
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And through you,
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my blessing of spiritual life
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is gonna go out to all the nations.
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And this is God's plan.
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This is God's way
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that he's going to reverse the curse
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on humanity
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through this one family.
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That the blessing of spiritual life
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on Abraham and Sarah
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is the thing
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that's driving the drama
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of the book of Genesis.
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And really,
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it's the thing that's driving
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the drama of the whole Bible.
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You just can't get the Bible
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unless you get that.
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And so our story today says,
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you know,
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okay,
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without God's blessing of life,
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there's no hope for this world
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that's stuck in sin and death.
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And right now,
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this blessing
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moving from one generation
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to the next generation,
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it really hangs in the balance.
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Here you have Isaac,
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the son of Abraham.
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Isaac,
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the son of promise,
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the son of the covenant,
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the son of blessing.
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And he has a wonderful,
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believing wife,
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but they have no kids.
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And in Genesis 25, 21,
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his wife Rebecca
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has been barren for 20 years.
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That's a problem.
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How's the blessing
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going to go on
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to the next generation?
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So Isaac prays
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to the Lord
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on her behalf.
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He intercedes for her.
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And the Lord uses
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the means of his prayer
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to bless her with life.
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And he blesses her
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not just with one kid,
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but with two kids
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in her womb.
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And the question is,
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which of those sons
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is going to inherit
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the blessing?
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And that's the question
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that's driving
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the entire plot line.
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You with me so far?
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Now, I want to argue,
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and I think the text,
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the narrator argues,
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that even though Isaac,
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Rebecca, Esau, and Jacob
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are wrong
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in the way that they give
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and receive
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this blessing of life,
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this divine blessing of life,
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and we'll get to that
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in a moment,
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they are absolutely right
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in their desire to have it.
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They're absolutely right
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because there's no greater
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treasure in the world
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than this divine blessing
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of life on Abraham
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because through him
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and through his descendants,
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God has said salvation
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is going to come
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to the whole world.
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And what's surprising
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in this text
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is that Isaac intends
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to pass this blessing
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on to Esau,
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but he actually gives it
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to Jacob instead.
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And you may be wondering
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to yourself,
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like I was wondering
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when I read it,
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why didn't Isaac
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just take it back?
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Anybody wondering that?
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Why didn't he just say,
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Jacob, you scoundrel,
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you're not even
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my favorite child.
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Jacob, you're a cheater
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and you're a deceiver
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and you're canceled, right?
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I take it back.
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Well, I don't know about you,
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but my older brother
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taught me when I was a kid,
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there are no takebacks, right?
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There are no do-overs.
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That got pounded
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into the old brain here.
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And we all know that
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since childhood,
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but also,
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it's just not how blessings work.
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You know it from your own story.
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You know it if you've gone
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to counseling
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or talked to your therapist
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that the words people say to us,
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whether they're words of blessing
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or they're words of cursing,
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they have power, don't they?
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They stick in our heads,
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they get lodged in our hearts,
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they work their way
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into the innermost parts
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of our being,
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and those words of blessing
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or those words of cursing,
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they shape our lives.
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They form our narratives
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and our beliefs
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about ourselves in this world.
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They form our thoughts
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and our feelings.
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They shape our sense of identity
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and belonging
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and meaning and purpose
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in the world.
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And so you can't just take them back.
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Many people,
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I've seen many people
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spend a good portion
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of their lives
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seeking a blessing
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that they wanted
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from a parent
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but they never got.
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And I've also seen
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many, many people
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trying to get over words
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of cursing
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that lodged inside of them
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like shrapnel
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that's sort of creeping
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up to their heart.
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And what we should have learned
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as kids
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and what we should have said
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to each other as kids
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is sticks and stones
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may break my bones
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but words can make
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or break my very soul.
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Right?
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Words have deep power.
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It's not just as simple
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as take it back.
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And if that's the way it is
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with our everyday words
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and our offhanded comments,
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our simple words
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of affirmation
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or condemnation,
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our simple encouragement
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or criticism,
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then how much more so
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with this divine
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supernatural blessing
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and this end of life
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last will and testament
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moment with the son
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of Abraham
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speaking formal words,
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speaking legal
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and binding words,
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passing on not just
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his parental
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and personal blessing
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but passing on
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the life-giving blessing
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of Almighty God.
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Can't just take it back.
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So how does this apply
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to our lives?
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Well, I just want to say
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that every single one
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of you
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and every person
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you meet
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is made for God's blessing
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and you're never
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going to be content
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without it.
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The book of Ecclesiastes
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has a wonderful
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verse.
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In Ecclesiastes 3.11
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it says,
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God has set eternity
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in the human heart.
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St. Augustine
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famously said,
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O Lord,
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you've made us
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for yourself
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and our hearts
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are restless
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until they find
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their rest in you.
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And what Ecclesiastes
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and what Augustine
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is saying is,
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look,
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you have a God-shaped
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eternity-sized
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hole in your heart
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and only a God-shaped
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eternity-sized
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blessing
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is going to fill it.
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And we see people,
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maybe you're one
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of these people,
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you try to find
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the blessing
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in the approval
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of your parents.
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You try to find
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the blessing
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in the arms
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of a lover.
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You try to find
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the blessing
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in fancy degrees
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from elite universities,
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from the security
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of a big bank account,
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from the satisfaction
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of a successful career.
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You try to find
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the blessing
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in the comfort
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of food or drink.
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And it's kind
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of elusive, right?
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I've been thinking
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about this a lot
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as our daughter
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is a senior
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in high school
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and she's applying
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to colleges,
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applying for scholarships,
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and that means
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that we've been
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receiving a ton
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of mail
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over this past year,
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an incredible amount
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of mail
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from admissions offices
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that are recruiting
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her to apply.
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And these glossy mailers
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are making massive promises
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to my daughter
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about how her life
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is going to change
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for the better,
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how her life
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is going to improve
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dramatically
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should this particular
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school decide
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to confer upon her
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the blessing
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of acceptance.
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Right?
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And everything hangs
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on getting accepted,
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getting in.
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If the right people
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say you're the right person
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and you can come
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to this institution,
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you'll be blessed.
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And this is very important
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because where you go
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is who you're going
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to be, right?
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Your degree,
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the brand,
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the friends,
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the network,
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the job prospects,
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your earning potential,
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we have the ability
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to give you the blessing.
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C.S. Lewis
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was a professor
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at the University
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of Oxford
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and Cambridge
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and he gave a lecture
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called
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The Inner Ring,
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capital I,
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capital R,
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Inner Ring.
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And this is a lengthy quote
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but I think it's worth
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giving to you.
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He says,
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I believe that in all
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men's lives
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at certain periods
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and in many men's lives
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at all periods
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between infancy
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and extreme old age,
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one of the most
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dominant elements
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is the desire
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to be inside
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the local ring
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and the terror
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of being left outside.
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Think of our longing
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to enter
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the inner ring,
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our anguish
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when we are excluded
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and the kind of pleasure
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we feel
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when we get in.
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The desire
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is one of the great
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permanent mainsprings
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of human action.
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It is one of the factors
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which go to make up
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the world
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as we know it,
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this whole pell-mell
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of struggle,
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competition,
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confusion,
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graft,
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disappointment,
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and advertisement
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and if it is one
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of the permanent
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mainsprings
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then you may be
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quite sure of this.
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Unless you take measures
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to prevent it,
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this desire
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is going to be
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one of the chief
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motives of your life
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from the first day
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on which you enter
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your profession
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until the day
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when you are too old
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to care.
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Whether by pining
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or moping outside
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rings that you
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can never enter
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or by passing
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triumphantly further
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and further in,
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one way or the other
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you will be
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an inner ringer.
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The quest
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of the inner ring
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will break your hearts
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unless you break it.
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To a young person
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just entering
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adult life
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the world seems
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full of insides,
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full of delightful
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intimacies
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and confidentialities
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and he desires
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to enter them
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but if he follows
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that desire
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he will reach
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no inside
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that is worth reaching.
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The true road
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lies in quite
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another direction.
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See Lewis
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thought quite a lot
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about
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where does
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the blessing lie?
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Right?
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Does it lie
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in that inner ring
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out there?
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And he personally
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found that
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the only inside
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worth reaching
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the only inner ring
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worth being a part of
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was entering into
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the power
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of God's blessing.
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Stepping into
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the inner ring
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of the Father,
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Son and Holy Spirit
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which Jesus calls
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eternal life
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or abundant life
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or divine life.
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And I just want you
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to know that
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if you don't come
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into the power
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of God's blessing
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and you don't let
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the power of God's blessing
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come into you,
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you will spend
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the rest of your life
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looking for it
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in inner rings
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that make
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really big claims
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and really big promises
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but can never actually
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give you the thing.
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So that's the power
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of God's blessing.
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And I want to talk
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for a little bit about
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now the dysfunction
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of God's family
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because now hopefully
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we see
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the need for
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this divine
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blessing of spiritual life
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and why this family
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was so right
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to desire it
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and to seek it
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but I also want us
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to look at all
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the wrong ways
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that they sought
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to give it
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and to receive it.
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And I want to walk
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through each family member
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and show you
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how they're all wrong
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though some of them
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are relatively less wrong
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than others.
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Okay, you tracking with me?
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Basically, if you want
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your family to be miserable,
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if you want our church
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to be miserable,
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be like these people.
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Okay?
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In this patriarchal context,
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Isaac bears the most
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responsibility
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as the leader of the family.
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You can quibble with that
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in your modern feminist ways
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but that's just the world
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that we're talking about.
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And he's the heir
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of the promises
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and the covenant
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with Abraham.
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And so the question is,
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is this old and blind man
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merely the victim
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of Rebekah's ruse
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and her deception
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or is there something
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more going on
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in the story?
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And also in the ancient
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Near East,
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Esau bears big time
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responsibility
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as the firstborn son
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and again,
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you might not like
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that structure
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but that's what it is.
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And the question is,
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is Esau,
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this manly man,
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this hunter dude,
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is he merely the victim
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of Jacob's lies
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and trickery
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or is there something
-
deeper going on?
-
And I want to say
-
that like life,
-
this story is way more
-
complex than all the headlines.
-
Because if you look
-
at verse four,
-
Isaac says to Esau,
-
he says,
-
prepare me the kind
-
of tasty food,
-
the kind of delicious food
-
that I like
-
and bring it to me to eat
-
so that I may give you
-
my blessing
-
before I die.
-
Basically,
-
Isaac had been
-
a man of God,
-
he had been this person
-
who was persistent
-
in prayer
-
and was known
-
for his spirituality
-
but at this point
-
in his life,
-
he's known less
-
for his spirituality
-
and more for his sensuality.
-
He's controlled
-
by his mouth,
-
he's controlled
-
by his stomach
-
and somehow
-
his appetite
-
for meat
-
has become more powerful
-
than his theology.
-
And he's become
-
basically like Esau,
-
if you know the story
-
in Genesis 25,
-
Esau sold his birthright
-
for a pot
-
of lentil stew.
-
And so both Isaac
-
and Esau
-
surrender something
-
that's eternally precious,
-
something that is
-
a precious long-term good
-
in order to immediately
-
satisfy their appetites.
-
And what's more,
-
if you look at
-
Genesis 24 to 28,
-
it's very clear
-
that Abraham and Sarah
-
went to great lengths
-
to find Isaac
-
a wife
-
who shared
-
their spiritual vision,
-
shared their values,
-
shared their training
-
and their faith
-
in the Lord.
-
But Isaac seems
-
to have not done that
-
for Esau
-
and Esau
-
goes out
-
and he marries
-
a Canaanite wife,
-
basically a wife
-
who doesn't believe
-
anything about
-
the God of Israel,
-
Yahweh,
-
Elohim.
-
He not only marries
-
one Canaanite wife,
-
he marries two
-
Canaanite wives
-
who basically
-
just care
-
nothing about God,
-
nothing about
-
the promises of God,
-
the covenant of God.
-
They don't care anything
-
about what we read
-
about in Genesis 18-19
-
where it says,
-
Abraham,
-
you're to direct
-
your children
-
and your family
-
to keep the way
-
of the Lord
-
by doing what is right
-
and just.
-
Esau doesn't care
-
about that.
-
These women
-
don't care about that.
-
And what I want us
-
to see is that Isaac,
-
though he started strong,
-
he ends weak
-
and he ends passive.
-
And his physical blindness
-
is a sign
-
of his spiritual blindness.
-
His eyes can't recognize
-
God's leading
-
because he should have seen
-
that Esau
-
was actually
-
spiritually unsuitable,
-
that Esau
-
was actually
-
an unbeliever.
-
He despised the Lord.
-
He despised his family.
-
He despised his role.
-
He despised his birthright.
-
He held it all in contempt.
-
He said,
-
it's completely worthless
-
to me.
-
I'd rather have
-
this pot of stew.
-
And what's worse
-
is that Isaac
-
also knows
-
this word of the Lord
-
from Genesis 25,
-
verse 23.
-
This word that came
-
to Rebekah
-
where the Lord said,
-
the older will serve
-
the younger
-
and my will
-
is for the blessing
-
to bypass
-
the older one
-
and for the younger one
-
to be stronger
-
and for the younger one
-
to be the ruler.
-
That God
-
in his sovereign freedom
-
said,
-
I want to reverse
-
and I want to turn
-
upside down
-
the norms of culture.
-
Isaac knew that
-
but he stubbornly
-
resisted that clear
-
word of the Lord
-
and said,
-
well that's not
-
how I want to do it.
-
And so like
-
Adam and Eve
-
in Genesis 3
-
who loved
-
that forbidden fruit
-
more than they loved
-
trusting and obeying God.
-
And like Esau
-
in Genesis 25
-
who loved
-
that pot of stew
-
more than he loved
-
his spiritual birthright.
-
In this story
-
Isaac loves barbecue
-
more than he loves God.
-
And the question for us
-
is do you ever
-
resist the Lord
-
like this?
-
Do you ever resist
-
the Lord's word
-
and his will
-
and his way
-
for you like this?
-
Like Isaac and Esau
-
do you ever put
-
your appetite
-
before principle?
-
Do you ever put
-
self-indulgence
-
before the just thing
-
and the right thing?
-
Do you ever put
-
immediate satisfaction
-
before long-term
-
spiritual values?
-
Have you ever
-
found yourself
-
in a place
-
where you're just
-
unwilling to submit
-
to the plans of God
-
when they differ
-
from your own desires?
-
Isaac
-
and his love
-
for a comfortable life,
-
Isaac and his love
-
for good food
-
has put him
-
in this precarious place
-
where he's
-
not only neglecting
-
his parental duties
-
but he's also
-
become spiritually
-
indifferent
-
to pleasing the Lord.
-
And that's a very
-
dangerous place to be.
-
Just so you know,
-
passing on the blessing
-
was meant to be
-
a public affair.
-
Okay?
-
You're supposed
-
to call
-
your whole community
-
together,
-
get your whole
-
extended family,
-
all your kids
-
and your spouse
-
and you're to have
-
this moment.
-
But Isaac says,
-
no, I'm going to
-
conspire to have
-
this private
-
clandestine meeting
-
with only one son
-
and I'm not going
-
to share it with my wife.
-
Now, guys,
-
I'm still figuring
-
some stuff out
-
about marriage.
-
But here's one thing
-
I do know.
-
Do not keep secrets
-
from your wife.
-
Ladies,
-
can I get an amen
-
on that?
-
Okay.
-
Now, ladies,
-
if you see your husband
-
trying to thwart
-
God's plan
-
that he's given
-
in his word,
-
what should you do?
-
Should you dress up
-
your favorite child
-
like it's Halloween
-
and act like a con artist?
-
Should you pull up
-
a heist on your husband
-
through trickery
-
and manipulation
-
and deceit
-
and domination?
-
Your husband
-
definitely should not
-
be keeping secrets
-
from you.
-
He definitely
-
should not be favoring
-
your most rebellious
-
child
-
and he should not
-
be flat out
-
refusing to obey
-
the Lord.
-
But what should you do?
-
You should go
-
talk to him.
-
You should go
-
have a conversation
-
with him.
-
You should go
-
and say,
-
honey,
-
I'd like to discuss
-
a spiritual matter
-
that's very important
-
to me.
-
And again,
-
I'm still figuring
-
some stuff out
-
about marriage
-
but here's one thing
-
I do know
-
is ladies,
-
your husband
-
cannot read
-
your mind.
-
Amen?
-
And here's the other thing,
-
if he could read
-
your mind,
-
he still won't get it.
-
You're going to have
-
to spell it out
-
for him
-
and then explain that
-
and then give
-
a further explanation
-
of that.
-
Like he's,
-
we're slow.
-
And what I want you
-
to see is that
-
Rebecca's spiritual
-
values are actually
-
sound.
-
I think she's
-
the most sound
-
person spiritually
-
in the story.
-
Right?
-
She goes to inquire
-
of the Lord.
-
She desires
-
to be faithful
-
to God's word.
-
She treasures
-
the birthright
-
and the blessing.
-
She wants God's
-
will to be done.
-
All of those
-
are good and right
-
things.
-
Her spiritual values
-
are sound
-
but her methods
-
are deplorable.
-
And she goes
-
about trying to
-
pass on God's
-
blessing in all
-
the wrong ways.
-
as if the right
-
ends justify
-
wrong means.
-
And basically
-
instead of dropping
-
to her knees
-
in prayer
-
or instead of
-
going to her
-
husband and saying
-
can we have a
-
conversation?
-
Both of which
-
would have been
-
the faithful
-
and commendable
-
thing to do.
-
Rebecca says to
-
herself desperate
-
times call for
-
desperate measures.
-
And I'm going to
-
do a righteous
-
thing in a very
-
unrighteous way.
-
And so she reacts
-
to Isaac's
-
deceitful behavior
-
and his failure
-
to be the kind
-
of spiritually
-
discerning person
-
that he was
-
supposed to be.
-
And she launches
-
this counter
-
conspiracy
-
perpetuating a
-
more hurtful
-
ruse that
-
exploits her
-
husband's weaknesses
-
his blindness
-
his appetite
-
and Jacob
-
goes along
-
with his mom
-
not only deceiving
-
his father
-
but look in
-
verse 19
-
it says
-
Jacob said to
-
his father
-
I am Esau
-
your firstborn
-
I've done
-
as you told
-
me
-
please sit
-
up and eat
-
some of my
-
game
-
so that
-
you may
-
give me
-
your blessing
-
and Isaac
-
asked his son
-
how did you
-
find it so
-
quickly my son
-
the Lord
-
your God
-
gave me
-
success
-
he replied
-
you ever
-
have you
-
have
-
you ever done
-
it's a dangerous
-
thing to be
-
a spiritual
-
person
-
to use
-
the name
-
of God
-
to use
-
the things
-
of God
-
actually to
-
further your
-
own personal
-
interests
-
and my point
-
is this
-
that if you
-
look hard
-
enough into
-
the mirror
-
of Genesis
-
27
-
and you
-
don't see
-
something of
-
yourself
-
reflected back
-
to you
-
if you
-
can't identify
-
with the
-
failings of
-
this holy
-
family
-
then you
-
might be as
-
blind as
-
Isaac was
-
blind
-
because at
-
times
-
we fall
-
as badly
-
as this
-
and I can
-
say that now
-
I couldn't say
-
that as a
-
young pastor
-
but I've been
-
a pastor
-
20 years
-
at times
-
we fall
-
as badly
-
as this
-
and if I
-
had time
-
I'd show you
-
all the
-
spiritual
-
and relational
-
dysfunctions
-
that catch up
-
with this family
-
in the end
-
all the ways
-
they reap
-
what they sow
-
and they're
-
paying just
-
dearly
-
we'll see it
-
as we go
-
through the
-
story
-
they're experiencing
-
all the
-
consequences
-
of just
-
going against
-
God's moral
-
law
-
and you might
-
be saying
-
well pastor
-
why are you
-
trying so hard
-
to discourage
-
us today
-
and I'm
-
actually trying
-
to do
-
the exact
-
opposite
-
I'm trying
-
to encourage
-
you
-
because if
-
God can
-
bring about
-
salvation
-
in a
-
context
-
of such
-
unprincipled
-
behavior
-
by literally
-
every fallible
-
member of
-
the covenant
-
family
-
the chosen
-
people of
-
God
-
each one
-
of them
-
self-centeredly
-
seeking their
-
own interest
-
all of them
-
acting out
-
of impure
-
motives
-
and misdirected
-
intentions
-
their virtues
-
almost always
-
serving as
-
vices
-
if that's
-
what God
-
can do
-
here
-
then perhaps
-
in his
-
mercy and
-
grace
-
he can
-
bring about
-
salvation
-
in our
-
own lives
-
as well
-
right
-
if God
-
can overcome
-
their weaknesses
-
and if he
-
can use them
-
warts and all
-
then perhaps
-
he can use
-
me
-
perhaps he
-
can overcome
-
your messiness
-
perhaps he
-
can use us
-
as well
-
so that's
-
why I like
-
to end
-
talking about
-
the triumph
-
of God's
-
grace
-
we talked
-
about the
-
power of
-
God's blessing
-
and the
-
dysfunction
-
of God's
-
family
-
but let's
-
talk about
-
the triumph
-
of God's
-
grace
-
you know
-
what's
-
outrageous
-
in this
-
story
-
it's meant
-
to strike
-
us as
-
outrageous
-
is that
-
the power
-
of God's
-
blessing
-
is almost
-
squandered
-
it's almost
-
lost
-
because
-
God's people
-
are so
-
dysfunctional
-
that's
-
outrageous
-
and the
-
second thing
-
that's outrageous
-
is that
-
God's
-
intentions
-
to bless
-
his elect
-
God's
-
intentions
-
to bless
-
Jacob
-
are actually
-
forwarded by
-
the most
-
underhanded
-
tactics
-
the most
-
Machiavellian
-
manipulation
-
you can imagine
-
I don't even
-
know how
-
this is in
-
the Bible
-
it's crazy
-
but actually
-
the most
-
outrageous
-
thing of
-
all
-
is that
-
God
-
consistently
-
brings
-
his scandalous
-
intervening
-
grace
-
into the
-
lives
-
of people
-
who do
-
not
-
deserve
-
it
-
into
-
the
-
lives
-
of
-
people
-
who
-
aren't
-
even
-
really
-
looking
-
for
-
it
-
and
-
into
-
the
-
lives
-
of
-
people
-
who
-
are
-
perpetually
-
resisting
-
it
-
and
-
even
-
after
-
they've
-
gotten
-
it
-
they
-
don't
-
even
-
appreciate
-
it
-
what
-
this
-
story
-
tells
-
us
-
is
-
that
-
God's
-
grace
-
cannot
-
be
-
silenced
-
by
-
conflict
-
or
-
alienation
-
nor
-
can
-
it
-
be chased
-
away
-
by
-
exploitation
-
and deceit
-
and in
-
spite of
-
all this
-
family's
-
machinations
-
and mischief
-
the divine
-
purpose
-
stands
-
and
-
despite
-
all the
-
appalling
-
misdeeds
-
of
-
fallen
-
infallible
-
men and
-
women
-
like us
-
God's
-
gracious
-
blessing
-
to give
-
life
-
God's
-
sovereign
-
election
-
of his
-
people
-
continues
-
on
-
and his
-
purposes
-
ultimately
-
are fulfilled
-
and
-
this
-
is
-
one
-
thing
-
we
-
see
-
over
-
and
-
over
-
in
-
the
-
book
-
of
-
Genesis
-
is
-
that
-
this
-
God
-
of
-
grace
-
he
-
loves
-
to draw
-
straight
-
lines
-
with
-
crooked
-
sticks
-
in
-
Genesis
-
50
-
the very
-
end
-
of
-
the
-
book
-
one
-
of
-
the
-
sons
-
of
-
Jacob
-
his
-
name
-
is
-
Joseph
-
he
-
says
-
this
-
he
-
says
-
what
-
you
-
intended
-
for
-
harm
-
and
-
evil
-
God
-
intended
-
for
-
good
-
and
-
the
-
saving
-
of
-
many
-
lives
-
if
-
the
-
kingdom
-
of
-
God
-
coming
-
into
-
this
-
world
-
dependent
-
on
-
us
-
and
-
our
-
faithfulness
-
it
-
would
-
never
-
happen
-
but
-
the
-
good
-
news
-
is
-
that
-
the
-
kingdom
-
of
-
God
-
is
-
totally
-
and
-
completely
-
dependent
-
on
-
God's
-
sovereign
-
grace
-
God's
-
gracious
-
blessing
-
of
-
life
-
that
-
overrides
-
all
-
absolutely
-
all
-
of our
-
miserable
-
failures
-
and so
-
the
-
question
-
as we
-
conclude
-
is
-
how
-
can
-
you
-
get
-
the
-
blessing
-
of
-
God's
-
triumphant
-
grace
-
in your
-
life
-
how
-
does
-
it
-
become
-
operative
-
in
-
your
-
life
-
well
-
it's
-
interesting
-
when you
-
turn the
-
gospel
-
of
-
John
-
Jesus
-
is
-
called
-
the
-
only
-
begotten
-
son
-
of
-
God
-
he's
-
the
-
eternally
-
beloved
-
son
-
of
-
the
-
father
-
who's
-
been
-
forever
-
in
-
the
-
state
-
of
-
living
-
under
-
the
-
blessing
-
of
-
the
-
father
-
and
-
then
-
you
-
go
-
to
-
the
-
end
-
of
-
the
-
gospel
-
and
-
it
-
says
-
that
-
Jesus
-
gave
-
up
-
that
-
blessing
-
by
-
taking
-
on
-
not
-
just
-
human
-
flesh
-
but
-
by
-
dying
-
on
-
the
-
cross
-
now
-
why
-
would
-
Jesus
-
give up
-
his
-
blessing
-
of being
-
the
-
eternally
-
begotten
-
and beloved
-
son
-
of the
-
father
-
the
-
answer
-
is
-
because
-
he
-
wanted
-
you
-
to
-
have
-
it
-
the
-
apostle
-
Paul
-
says
-
in
-
Galatians
-
3
-
he says
-
Jesus
-
redeemed
-
us
-
from
-
the
-
curse
-
of
-
the
-
law
-
by
-
becoming
-
a
-
curse
-
for
-
us
-
for
-
it
-
is
-
written
-
curse
-
it
-
as
-
everyone
-
who
-
is
-
hanged
-
on
-
a
-
tree
-
and
-
he
-
took
-
on
-
that
-
curse
-
Paul
-
says
-
so
-
that
-
the
-
blessing
-
given
-
to
-
Abraham
-
might
-
come
-
to
-
us
-
through
-
Jesus
-
Christ
-
see
-
on
-
the
-
cross
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Jesus
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is
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in a
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way
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Jesus
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is
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dressing
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up
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like
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us
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and
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he's
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getting
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the
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curse
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that
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we
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deserved
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so
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that
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when
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we
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believe
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in
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him
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we
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get
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the
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blessing
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that
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he
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deserved
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and
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he
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came
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to
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give
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you
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all
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of
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the
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blessing
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that's
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his
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all
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the
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blessing
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all
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the
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inheritance
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of
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being
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the
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first
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born
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son
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so
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when
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you
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look
-
at
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that
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blessing
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in
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verse
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28
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where it
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says in
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Genesis
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27
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28
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may
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God
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give
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you
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the
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of
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heaven's
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dew
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and
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of
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earth's
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richness
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an
-
abundance
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of
-
grain
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and
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new
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wine
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may
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nations
-
serve
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you
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and
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peoples
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bow
-
down
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to
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you
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be
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lord
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over
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your
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brothers
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and
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may
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the
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sons
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of
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your
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mother
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bow
-
down
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to
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you
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may
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those
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who
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curse
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you
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be
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cursed
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and
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those
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who
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bless
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you
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be
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blessed
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surrounded
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by all
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of
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his
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loyal
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and
-
adoring
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subjects
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and
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so
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the
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question
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as we
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come
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to
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this
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table
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of
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abundant
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grain
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and
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new
-
wine
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this
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royal
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feast
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that's
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set
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before
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us
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is
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Jesus
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Christ
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resurrected
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from the
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dead
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is he
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your
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king
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and
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through
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Jesus
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have you
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had
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lavished
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upon
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you
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the
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love
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of
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God
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the
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father
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and
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in
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Jesus
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Christ
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have
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you
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had
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put
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into
-
you
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the
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presence
-
and
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the
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power
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of
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the
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Holy
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Spirit
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of
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God
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and
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has
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he
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invited
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you
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to
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come
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and
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feast
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with
-
him
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around
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this
-
table
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of
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abundance
-
this
-
table
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of
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victory
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because
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if
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that's
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you
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no
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matter
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how
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dysfunctional
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you
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are
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no
-
matter
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how
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undeserving
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you
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are
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you're
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part
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of
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the
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nations
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that
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God
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is
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gathering
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together
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in
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this
-
blessing
-
that
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are
-
serving
-
Jesus
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and bowing
-
down
-
to
-
Jesus
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and blessing
-
Jesus
-
and that
-
means
-
that you're
-
living under
-
the power
-
of God's
-
blessing
-
and that
-
means
-
that the
-
triumph
-
of God's
-
grace
-
is going
-
to be
-
true
-
for you
-
so friends
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let's come
-
to this
-
table
-
expectant
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that
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as we
-
come
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we're
-
children
-
of the
-
blessing
-
that
-
here
-
we
-
get
-
heaven's
-
dew
-
and earth's
-
richness
-
that
-
here
-
we
-
get
-
an
-
abundance
-
of
-
grain
-
and
-
new
-
wine
-
here
-
we
-
get
-
to
-
sit
-
down
-
with
-
the
-
king
-
of
-
kings
-
and
-
the
-
lord
-
of
-
lords
-
around
-
whom
-
all
-
the
-
nations
-
are
-
bowing
-
down
-
and
-
will
-
one
-
day
-
bow
-
down
-
and
-
say
-
you
-
are
-
the
-
Lord
-
this
-
is
-
where
-
the
-
blessing
-
!
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In the
-
name of
-
the
-
Father
-
Son
-
and
-
Holy
-
Spirit
-
Amen