Sermon
Modesty & Beauty
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We started a brand new series here in 1 Timothy just two weeks ago.
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And if you missed the past two weeks, I'd encourage you, go to the church website
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and you can listen to those first two messages in the series.
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You can find it on Google or the addresses on the front cover of the bulletin.
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We've already covered the background of this letter.
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And we looked at the introduction and the first instructions in verses 1 to 8.
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Then last Sunday we jumped ahead to chapter 2.
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And we did the first eight verses there.
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And we heard Paul urge Timothy to implement the prime directive in the church.
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And what's the prime directive?
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Was anybody here?
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Pray, pray, pray, and give thanks for all people.
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Then we heard how Paul urged the men specifically to come together and pray without anger, without disputing.
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And I encouraged our men about those things last Sunday.
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Well, now we're going to move into the Lord's instructions for women in the church.
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And we're looking at verses 9 and 10 of chapter 2 today.
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Let me just read these verses for us.
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This is Paul writing to Timothy.
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Therefore, I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing.
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I also want the women to dress modestly with decency and propriety,
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adorning themselves not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes,
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but with good deeds appropriate for women who profess to worship God.
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So Jesus has specific instructions here for the men.
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He also has specific instructions for the women.
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But I want to start this morning by acknowledging that there's a sense in which both instructions to men and women
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apply to both men and women.
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Paul says, I want the men everywhere to pray.
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Does he want the women to pray too?
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Of course.
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Paul highlights that the men should pray without anger or disputing.
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Do women ever have issues with anger or get in arguments?
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Of course you do.
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But, as I said last week, some of these things might be more of an issue for men.
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Neglecting prayer.
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Anger.
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Disputing.
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I look out my back window and I see my girls playing family in the backyard.
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I look out my front window and I see Caleb and Josh wrestling in the grass.
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We tend to be a little more vigorous and abrasive.
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So now as we come to these instructions for women in verses 9 and 10,
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yes, it is mainly aimed at women.
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But the general principle applies to men as well.
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Yes, us men sometimes are tempted to dress immodestly.
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To show off new or expensive clothes or accessories.
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But generally it is going to be more of an issue for the women than the men.
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So what's the instruction given here to the women?
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In verse 9, Paul says,
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So our faith in Jesus affects every area of our lives.
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Yes, even down to how we dress and the clothes that we wear.
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There are certain ways of dressing that simply do not fit with our faith in Christ.
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And I want us first to notice here that Christ's instructions for how we should physically clothe ourselves
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only last for one verse.
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This isn't a 10-page list.
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And the instructions given here revolve really around two moral issues.
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So it's not a highly restricted dress code that's intended to take away all of our freedoms.
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We aren't told what color socks to wear.
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We aren't told that we must, for women, must always wear dresses.
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Or that on certain days of the week we must wear this or that.
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Or that women must wear burqas.
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Rather, Christ gives us a couple principles and a couple examples
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to steer us away from that way of dressing that is inappropriate for God's people.
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And the first principle that he gives us here about how we should physically clothe ourselves
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is this principle of modesty.
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I want the women to dress modestly, with decency, and propriety.
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Paul uses three words here.
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Modesty, decency, and propriety.
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And it's kind of hard to define these words without each other.
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I tried looking them up in the dictionary and they all just had the other word there.
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But when it comes right down to it, their meaning is very similar.
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Especially in the context of clothing and how we dress.
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Basically, the idea is that we dress appropriately.
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Respectably.
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Suitably.
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Decency carries that same idea, but also that idea of being adequately covered.
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Or not exposed.
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And with propriety means with reasonableness.
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Good judgment.
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Discretion.
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Moderation.
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Now part of the trouble here is that how we dress is very much related to current culture.
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And we have to be careful here because we can go too far in either direction.
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We can make the cultural context too much of a factor here.
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Or we can make it not enough of a factor here.
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In how we interpret and apply these words.
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For example, some people will just let these words go in one ear and out the other.
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And say, well, that was way back then in Ephesus.
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Times have changed.
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How could any of this possibly have any application or relevance to us today?
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Elaborate braided hairstyles may have been immodest back then, but today, that's totally all right.
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Culturally, it's all right, isn't it?
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Or we can kind of go down the other side and we could say that, well, the culture isn't really the issue.
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It's what does it say?
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This is immodest.
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No matter what the cultural context is.
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But then how do we apply this in cultures today around the world when we see such different standards of dress for women?
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So it's not totally irrelevant.
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As we'll see in a moment, modesty and clothing transcends culture in some ways.
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But it's also bound by culture in some ways.
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Let's start by realizing that this wasn't just a problem for the women in the church at Ephesus.
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How do we know that?
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Well, we see this in verses 8 and 9.
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8 is the instructions for men.
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That's the first sentence.
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9 is the instructions for women.
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And back in the original language, in the original way this was written,
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they actually share the same verb and they're connected by that word also or likewise, depending on your translation.
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So these instructions are meant to be together.
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I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing.
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Likewise, the women to dress modestly with decency and propriety.
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So Paul himself lets us know that this is an issue that transcends local culture.
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Just as the men were to pray everywhere, in every church.
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The women too, to dress modestly, everywhere, in every church.
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Whether that's in the Jewish areas or the Roman cultures or the Greek cultures.
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So there is a bit of a transculturalness to this that we need to see here.
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It's not just the women in Ephesus who struggled with this.
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But next, let's see how this issue was affected by the culture of the first century.
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Back in those days, it was the days of the Roman Empire.
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And there was something of a dress code back then.
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Now it wasn't necessarily written down in law or any policies.
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But there was this shared cultural understanding of what was appropriate for women to wear and what was inappropriate.
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They had women who worked as prostitutes back then.
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And they would dress in a certain way in order to attract men and to make money.
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And so if you were a married woman, you didn't dress like that.
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That was considered inappropriate.
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It was considered dishonoring to your husband and to your family.
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And so by what you wore, you could either broadcast this message as a woman.
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Either I'm taken, I'm married, I'm unavailable.
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Or you could broadcast the opposite.
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I'm available.
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I'm interested in some kind of a relationship.
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Whether romantic or sexual.
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Not only that, but fashion was a thing back then too.
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The wealthy, courtesan women in the highest levels of the Roman Empire,
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they seemed to set the trend for women all around.
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And so as we read of the kind of the styles back then,
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we hear mentioned in the passage, elaborate braided hairstyles.
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This was really a fashion trend started by the wealthy, courtesan women.
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They would spend hours having their servants do up their hair with these elaborate braids
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and kind of piling it all on top of their heads with gold and pearls and beads,
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worked into the design.
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And then young girls and women all throughout the empire would see them and they think,
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wow, that looks beautiful.
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And they would begin to imitate and follow along with that.
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Surprisingly, when we think about that cultural context,
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it's actually not all that different from today.
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We have women today who work in the sex industry and who dress a certain way
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in order to attract and allure the attention of men.
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And most women today are quite aware of the difference between business casual
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and the outfit for the bar or clubbing.
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We also have wealthy celebrities today spending thousands of dollars on fashion,
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styling, even cosmetic surgery, eager to show off the latest and the greatest.
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And similarly, we have countless women who are watching,
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young girls who are watching and who are imitating.
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So what are the real problems here?
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Essentially, there are two.
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The first is dressing to appeal in the sexual sense.
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That's kind of implied by the terms modestly, decency, and propriety.
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And the second is dressing to show off.
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That's kind of comes to us in what Paul says,
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not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.
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So these are the two big ways, the two moral principles
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that kind of anchor his instructions here about modesty.
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One is more about sexual attraction.
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And the other is more about showing off through fashion and style.
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But I would like to suggest that both of these really boil down to just one principle,
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one heart problem.
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And it's simply this.
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Dressing to draw attention to myself.
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That's what a modest dress and indecent clothing and expensive clothes are about.
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I'm dressing in order to draw attention to myself.
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I want people to notice me.
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I want people to like me.
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I want that guy to see me.
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I hope that he asks me out.
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I want my friends to compliment me and think I'm awesome.
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I want them to be impressed when I walk through the door.
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I want them to ooh and ah over my new hairdo or my nails or my new piece of brand name clothing.
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I want them to see how well I'm doing financially with my latest purchase.
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Whether clothing or accessory or jewelry.
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The problem with all of this is that the focus is on me.
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It's all about me.
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Me, me.
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It's on me being loved by others.
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Me being admired by others.
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Me being praised by others.
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Having the attention of others.
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And it really is a selfish and self-centered attitude of the heart.
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Now again, I want to point out this isn't just a problem for women.
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Do you know who else had this problem of dressing in order to get others to notice them?
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The Pharisees.
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The religious leaders of the Jews.
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Jesus himself speaking about them said,
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Everything they do is done for people to see.
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They make their phylacteries wide and the tassels on their garments long.
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And this wasn't just a problem in the first century.
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Way back long ago, hundreds of years before all this,
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The prophet Isaiah rebuked the women of Jerusalem for their immodesty.
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Isaiah chapter 3 verse 16.
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The Lord is speaking and he says,
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The women of Zion are haughty.
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Walking along with outstretched necks.
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Flirting with their eyes.
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Strutting along with swaying hips.
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With ornaments jingling on their ankles.
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He goes on,
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In that day the Lord will snatch away their finery.
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The bangles and the headbands and the crescent necklaces.
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And the earrings and bracelets and veils and headdresses and anklets and sashes.
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The perfume bottles and charms.
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The signet rings.
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The nose rings.
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The fine robes.
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The capes.
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The cloaks.
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The purses and mirrors.
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And the linen garments and tiaras and shawls.
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It's quite the list that he used back then to describe all the different ways that the women were dressing seductively.
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Or dressing to show off and to impress.
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To get attention for themselves.
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And back then the Lord promised judgment.
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Because these women were wicked.
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And this way of dressing kind of fed into that and was part of that.
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So it all boils down here.
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I'm suggesting.
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I'm submitting.
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When it comes to how we dress to a heart issue.
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Am I dressing to draw attention to myself?
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The Bible's words for this is vanity.
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It means being self-absorbed.
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Really desiring the admiration and appreciation of others.
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It means being excessively concerned with your own physical appearance.
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Being a show off.
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About something that in the grand scheme of life isn't even really that important.
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This is the heart behind a modest dress.
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Am I dressing to draw attention to myself?
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This is a thing that doesn't fit with faith in the Lord Jesus.
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It's a thing that in the household of God.
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In the church.
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We should turn away from.
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We should reject.
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Now.
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I want to briefly acknowledge that.
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Dressing in this way isn't always a heart issue.
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In some cases.
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It's kind of done in ignorance.
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Without really thinking too much about it.
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Girls go shopping with their moms.
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And what happens when the vast majority of the clothes on the shelf are immodest?
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Because that's the trend of the day.
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You get these really low cut tops.
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Or you get these really high cut skirts.
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Or shorts.
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We can think of culture.
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And its effect on us.
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Like a fish swimming in the water.
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All the fish really knows about.
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Is the water that it's swimming in.
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It doesn't really know too much about the world outside the water.
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And I think sometimes it's like that for girls and for young women.
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If the world all around us is all dressing this way.
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And just acts like it's normal.
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We see it on TV.
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We see it in the movies.
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We see it online.
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We see it at school.
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We don't know anything else.
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Without even realizing it.
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We just accept.
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Yes.
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This is the way to dress.
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This is normal.
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This is beautiful.
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This is what's appropriate.
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And so we see these kind of ridiculous things.
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Like children wearing bikinis at the swimming pool.
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There's not a heart issue there, obviously.
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It's an innocent thing.
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It's more of an ignorance.
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Maybe an imitation thing.
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I want to be like mom.
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They don't realize yet why it's immodest.
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But as we grow and develop.
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And puberty happens.
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And interest in the opposite sex awakens.
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Suddenly we become more aware of what dressing in these ways does for us.
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That attention that we start to get.
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And we lose that ignorance.
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And that innocence.
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And so as parents.
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And even just as people in general.
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We need to be sensitive to this.
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In some cases.
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It's not that the person is just hungry for attention.
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Sometimes we just get into following the trend of the day.
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Without thinking too much about it.
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Or sometimes.
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Women may choose to wear modest clothes.
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Simply because they don't want to stand out.
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Like a sore thumb.
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Because if that's the trend.
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That's the style.
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And everybody else is dressed like this.
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I'm going to feel really weird.
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If I'm wearing something totally different.
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Something that's out of style.
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My friends will make fun of me.
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So yes.
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There is a heart issue here.
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That we have to watch out for.
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But also an ignorance.
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And a naivety that can be part of it.
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Especially for girls or young ladies.
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As the temptation is there just to follow the crowd.
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So here are some questions.
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To ask yourself.
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As you get dressed in the morning.
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And look in the mirror.
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And do all the stuff that you do.
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It's different for men than for women.
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Here's some questions.
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Is this modest?
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Is this appropriate?
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Is this respectable?
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Is it honorable?
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Am I looking for attention from others?
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With this outfit?
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This makeup?
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These accessories?
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Or jewelry?
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Am I dressing like this to impress someone?
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And if so, who is it?
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What part of my body does this outfit highlight?
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And draw people's eyes to?
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The most?
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And is it one of the parts that they shouldn't be looking at?
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You guys know the parts I'm talking about.
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Now we might wonder here.
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You know, is Jesus saying that we should never braid our hair?
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Or have elaborate hairstyles?
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Or even wear expensive clothes?
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Or have any jewelry?
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And I think the answer to that question is no.
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These things listed are an example of the immodesty common in the day.
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Paul's just kind of painting a picture of how they would dress when they come to church.
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Or just even on an ordinary day.
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But even Jesus acknowledged that it was appropriate to dress up for occasions in one of his parables.
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In Matthew chapter 22, Jesus tells a parable about a king who prepared a wedding banquet for his son.
Matthew 22 chapter mention
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And there was this man who slips in unnoticed without wedding clothes.
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And when the king finds him at the banquet, the king throws him out because he's not dressed appropriately for the occasion.
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Now yes, there is a deeper meaning to this parable.
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It's about the kingdom of God.
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But the illustration that holds that meaning up is still true.
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Jesus was implicitly acknowledging that, yes, it would be inappropriate to go to a wedding banquet without wearing clothes suitable for the occasion.
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And I think there's a principle here.
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That we should dress to suit the occasion.
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We should dress in a way that honors the person that's being celebrated.
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And yes, wedding suits and gowns and dresses are expensive.
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But that expense is not paid just to draw attention to myself.
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It's paid to honor the one being celebrated and remembered that day.
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Maybe you've been in that position where you didn't have anything that fit anymore.
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Or something happened to your old wedding attire.
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But then somebody gets married and you've got to go get a new suit.
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You wouldn't have got it otherwise, maybe.
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But you go get it because that's how you honor the occasion and the people that are being celebrated that day.
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So we should dress up to honor the occasion or the person.
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Some occasions are very special.
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Some are once in a lifetime.
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That's a different heart than dressing, though, just to draw attention to yourself.
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And it still needs to be governed by decency and modesty.
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Now, I haven't been to a wedding in a while.
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But when I was younger, I was always surprised by how some of my peers, young Christian women,
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I mean, they dress modestly every day.
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Everything was all covered.
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But then comes the wedding day and the dress is so revealing.
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Just showing it all up here or totally all bare right down the back.
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I couldn't believe it.
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I was like, man, it's like they're half naked in front of all these people.
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Like, awkward for me.
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Or at the pool with bikinis.
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You know, if it's immodest to wear just a bra and panties out in public,
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how's that any different than wearing a bikini at the public swimming pool?
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It's the same amount of coverage.
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Basically the same thing.
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So yes, we dress up to suit the occasion.
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We dress up to show honor to others.
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Yet also keeping in mind decency, modesty.
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Let's talk for a moment about how we should dress for church on Sundays.
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I know that this conversation has bubbled around the surface here in our church on occasion.
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Should we dress up?
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Or should we just come as we are?
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Because that's who we are.
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And that's more authentic.
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I think, again, it all comes back to this heart question of why am I dressing up for church?
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If it's just to draw attention to yourself or because others expect it, then it's vanity.
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It's just like the women portrayed here in this passage.
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But if you're dressing up to honor the occasion, to honor the Lord who we are gathered to worship,
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then by all means, dress nicer for his sake.
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Probably don't dress it up so much that you end up drawing a lot of attention to yourself.
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I mean, do you want people singing and praising God during worship?
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Or do you want them kind of distracted by your bridesmaid's gown or your tuxedo and your shiny shoes?
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That being said, there are times and situations where we've got to choose between coming to worship or not coming to worship.
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And we don't want to make that choice based on whether we can get home and get the clothes.
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So if you've got a shift after this at the health center or you're working on duty or whatever,
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coming off a shift here in coveralls, I think the Lord would rather you be here and be worshiping.
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Because worship is really all about the heart and not about the outward appearance.
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It's just a way that we can honor the Lord when we gather.
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Now I want to take a few minutes to talk practically about what immodest dress looks like.
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And then we're going to look at how Christ wants us to dress.
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Now I hemmed and hawed over this back and forth all week long,
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whether to make a list like this.
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But you know, I think in the church we need to spell it out clearly.
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If we don't, then we leave it up to the world.
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We leave it up to culture around us to define modesty.
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And as we're seeing more and more, our culture is going away from it.
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So don't take this as a religious to-do list.
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Just take it as a practical guide for how a person might dress immodestly.
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And also this list is for us who are followers of Jesus.
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I hope that, I want you to know that if you're visiting or new here,
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just checking things out, if you're dressed like this,
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you don't need to run out the door here.
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We're not going to hold a check stop at the back door on the way out.
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We're here to learn.
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We're here to see what Christ is calling us to as his followers.
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And so I hope this list is helpful.
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Maybe we can have some conversations about it.
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If there's some pushback, bring it on.
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Let's talk about it.
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Let's have the conversation.
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It's important.
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So here goes.
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Immodest dress is clothing that doesn't completely cover private parts.
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Clothing that can be seen to fit very tightly around the private areas.
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The areas listed on screen.
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Clothing that is see-through or sheer, which allows people to see your undergarments or lack thereof.
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Clothing that covers but is still designed intentionally to get people's attention to private parts.
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Clothing that reveals midriff.
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Now I know there might be some pushback on that.
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I'm going to tell you though.
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If you Google outfits for the bar, you'll find a lot that show midriff.
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And if you Google business casual, you'll find none.
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Why is that?
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I think it's because we generally have this sense of what is acceptable out in the public, in the workplace, in the daytime.
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Clothing that has windows or cutouts near private parts or along the sides of the body.
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Clothing that reveals the inner thighs.
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Now I'm not going to give an exact skirt or shorts length above the knee, but I'm going to say when in doubt, probably go longer.
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Because we see the direction that our culture is moving, right?
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Again, Google business casual for women and you won't find short skirts, really short skirts, really short shorts.
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Another thing that's not inherently immodest, but just sometimes something to watch out for, is clothing that is unsuitable for the activity.
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Maybe it reveals private areas when you're bending over or sitting down.
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When we gather like this, we're almost in like a family gathering as a church.
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I mean, there's hustle and bustle.
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Things are going on.
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There's stuff all over the floor that the kids have dropped.
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We're shuffling furniture sometimes.
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We're doing different things.
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We need clothing that is functionally modest.
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Whereas there's some occasions where you can kind of get away with clothing that is less functionally modest.
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On the other side of things, on the showy side of things,
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immodest dress includes brand name clothing or accessories that are very expensive.
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I'm thinking coach purses.
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Maybe you women know what those are all about.
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$500 clutch, $1,000 handbag, $2,200 leather jacket.
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And that's the only brand name I know.
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You guys can probably think of more.
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Those highfalutin brands.
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At this point, it's not about quality.
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It's about getting attention.
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It's about showing off because you've got the brand name swag.
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But hey, if you find one of these pieces of clothing or these purses for almost nothing at Value Village,
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go for it.
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Don't worry about it.
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God knows your heart.
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Ostentatious jewelry.
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Really large earrings, rings, necklaces, brooches.
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Probably not for most people in our generation, but over-the-top fascinators.
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You ever see those hats that all the feathers coming out and it's like, woo!
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And for many young people today, their phones have almost become like a fashion accessory.
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People showing off their expensive new iPhone 14, 15, whatever it is.
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And then when people stop caring about it, oh, I've got to go get another case that matches my favorite outfit
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so that I can show how it matches with my clothes.
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And just spending all this money just for a show.
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It's modest.
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All right, well, that's the end of the list.
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We've thoroughly unpacked and applied that first part about how to dress modestly with decency and propriety.
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But now let's hear the second half of what Jesus wants us to do.
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I also want the women to dress modestly with decency and propriety,
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adorning themselves not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes,
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but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.
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Adorn yourselves with good deeds.
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Make yourselves beautiful, not with all these outward things, but with good deeds.
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The kind of actions and works that are fitting for a woman who claims to worship God,
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says Jesus through Paul.
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Again, we get this idea here that there is a way of making ourselves beautiful
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that is fitting with our faith in God.
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And there's a way of making ourselves beautiful that's not fitting with our faith in him.
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And so I want to say to you women,
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do not concern yourself too much with body beautification, fashion, clothing, accessories.
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Make yourself beautiful by doing the things that godly women do.
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Quite literally, through good works.
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In other words, you know what's truly beautiful?
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It's when you see another person in need,
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and you give of your time,
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your resources,
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your energy to help that person
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and meet that need.
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That's what good works are all about.
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Acts of love.
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Acts of encouragement.
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Things done to meet the needs of others.
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And now be careful.
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Paul's not saying,
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well, go around and do a bunch of good works
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to get others to notice you.
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Of course not.
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That's what Jesus scolded the Pharisees for doing.
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He means do these good works out of that genuine love in your heart
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for the people around you,
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the people in need.
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Again, the heart is the key.
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True beauty.
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The greatest beauty that a woman can have
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has to do with who she is on the inside.
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Not the outside.
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Jesus said it this way through the Apostle Peter.
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He said,
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your beauty should not come from outward adornment.
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He's talking to wives specifically.
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Such as elaborate hairstyles
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and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.
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Rather, it should be that of your inner self.
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The unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,
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which is of great worth in God's sight.
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Now here in this context,
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Peter is talking specifically about wives submitting to husbands,
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and we're going to get to that in time,
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not today.
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So that's why he highlights these particular qualities.
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Gentleness and a quiet spirit.
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But there are other inward character qualities
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that make a woman beautiful.
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The fruits of the spirit is a good place
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to look for a quick list.
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Love.
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Joy.
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Patience.
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kindness.
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Faithfulness.
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Self-control.
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And we could add to that list.
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Wisdom.
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Humility.
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Deep trust or faith in God.
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Reverence.
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Respect.
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Compassion.
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Generosity.
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These are all inward things
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that we get through our devotion to God,
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through our relationship with him.
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And these are the things
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that make a man or a woman
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beautiful.
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Radiant.
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And so I want to encourage you women.
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Pursue the inward beauty.
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Pursue that inward beauty.
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Go after it.
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Let it flow out of you
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in your actions.
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I think we all know the answer,
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but let me just ask it anyway.
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Women,
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what's more attractive?
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That muscular guy
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who's ripped
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with that charming face,
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who only cares about himself
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and lives to please himself,
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whose mouth is foul
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and who never keeps his word.
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Or a somewhat overweight,
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ordinary looking guy
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who isn't perfect,
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but loves God
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and genuinely cares about other people
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and treats them with kindness
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and respect
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and honor.
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Solomon said it this way,
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Proverbs 11, 22.
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Like a gold ring
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in a pig's snout
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is a beautiful woman
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who shows no discretion.
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So you can be outwardly beautiful,
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but altogether quite unattractive.
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Without the godly character
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and wisdom
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that only comes
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through your relationship
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with Jesus,
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you could have the perfect body,
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the perfect features,
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but they would actually be spoiled
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by your lack of character.
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Proverbs chapter 31
Proverbs 31 chapter mention
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is one of the best chapters
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in the Bible
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dealing with this.
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The whole chapter
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is wonderful.
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It speaks of all the good deeds
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that a wife might do
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to bring blessing
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and benefit
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to her children,
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to her husband,
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to the poor
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and the needy.
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And at the end of the chapter
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it says this,
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Proverbs 31, verse 30.
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Charm is deceptive
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and beauty is fleeting,
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but a woman
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who fears the Lord
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is to be praised.
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One day,
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if God lets us live that long,
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we'll all be old,
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wrinkled,
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baggy,
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and saggy.
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Outward beauty
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is fleeting.
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It doesn't last.
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But that inward beauty
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of godly character
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is unfading.
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And it leads us
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to do all kinds
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of beautiful things
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that will leave
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a truly beautiful legacy
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in the world around us.
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Pop culture blogs
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and websites
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like to keep records
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of ridiculous things
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like the top ten
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most beautiful women
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of all time.
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Maybe you've
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come across
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an article or two
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like that.
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And the list,
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of course,
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will be all these
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celebrities,
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models,
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wealthy people.
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But I can tell you
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right now,
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much more beautiful
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than any from those lists
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are women like
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Corrie Ten Boom,
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whose faith led her
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to put her life
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on the line,
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to hide Jews,
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to save their lives
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during World War II.
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Or little Gladys Aylward
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who packed her bag
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and went all by herself
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to China
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to share Jesus
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with these people
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who didn't know Christ
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even though everybody
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laughed at her
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and said,
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what can you possibly do?
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Or Elizabeth Elliot
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who followed her husband
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to reach out to
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a tribe that
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killed him
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and then went
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one step further
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and moved into the tribe
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and shared Jesus
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with them.
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I'm going to bet
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that most of you
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wouldn't even recognize them
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if you saw their photo
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on the screen.
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And yet from the things
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that they did,
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those real acts
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of courageous love,
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they are among
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the most beautiful women
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our world has ever seen.
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And so I want to encourage you,
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be like them.
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Let who you are
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on the inside
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be your highest priority.
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Go after God.
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Love him with all your heart,
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soul,
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mind,
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and strength.
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Live for him.
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Obey him.
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And do the good works
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that he's put before you
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to do.
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And you will be
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outstandingly beautiful.
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We've got to tune out
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what the world is telling us
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about beauty.
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Most of it's wrong.
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Don't listen to Disney.
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Don't listen to Mattel.
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Don't look at Vanity Fair
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or Vogue
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or the Kardashians
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or those trashy men's magazines
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that sell indecent pictures
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of women for profit.
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Don't take the fashion advice
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from the YouTubers
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or the TikTokers
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who are just trying
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to get more subscribers
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for their channel.
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As Christians
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in the household of God,
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we need to listen
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to the Lord Jesus.
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We need to take our advice,
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our instruction from him.
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He is the one
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who loves his bride
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so much
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that he died for us
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to make us,
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to cleanse us,
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to wash us,
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and to present us
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to himself
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as a radiant church.
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If we focus on ourselves,
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we'll wind up
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feeling empty
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and disappointed.
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But if we focus on him,
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he will make us shine
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with a beauty
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that's like no other.
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Let's pray.
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Let's pray.
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Father in heaven,
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I thank you for these words
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that you've given us.
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And I know I'm aware
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that for some here today,
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they may be hard words
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to hear,
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but they're your words.
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And I pray that you would
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press them into our hearts
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and in all the right places
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and that we would grow,
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that we would see
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how we can continue
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to walk in this world
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holy,
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distinct,
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set apart,
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holding up the light
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of Jesus.
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May the world around us
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see the difference
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and come to put
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their trust in you.
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We ask this
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for Jesus' sake.
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Amen.