Sermon
Do not commit adultery
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Heavenly Father, I thank you for your word. Thank you that you have spoken to the deep places of
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our souls, and sometimes it's really easy and refreshing to read, and other times it can be
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hard and challenging. And yet, every word of your word is life. And so as we open up your word now
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and spend some time on Deuteronomy 5.18, we pray that you would speak to the deep places of our
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heart, that you would bring your life and your love to those parts of us where it seems it's
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lacking. Do a great thing amongst us today. In Jesus' name, amen. Please be seated.
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Well, the ancient Greeks had a lot of legends and myths, and I think sometimes when we teach Greek
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history, which those were some of my first degrees, we tend to make the false assumption that they
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really thought those legends and myths were true. And maybe some of them, that was the case. But in
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many cases, the myths and legends they told, they told knowing they weren't true stories, but that
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they communicated truth about life, like a parable. Well, one that's worth telling this morning is that
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there was this ancient myth of Jason the Argonauts. Jason was one of the greatest heroes that the Greek
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world had ever seen. He's not Hercules, he's not, but he is, he was an incredible fighter, good man, noble man.
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Well, he and the Argonauts, they were not the Toronto football team, but rather another set of heroes.
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And he and all this, it was just multiple ships filled with heroes. We're all sailing off to fight,
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I can't remember what, but some horrible bad guy that was threatening their wives and their children
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back home. And so they got on these ships courageously, and they set out across the Aegean Sea
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to fight the bad guys. But Jason, knowing something of seas and all, knew that their path was going to
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take them across the, by the Isles of the Sirens. The Sirens were these famous demon women, who, these
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spirit demon women, who would sing this song. And this song was so compelling, so seductive, that even
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though every Greek boy knew, as he grew up to be a man, they knew that if they turned their ships
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toward the Sirens, they would be destroyed on the, on the horrible hidden rocks and everything.
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They knew if they turned toward the Sirens, they would be destroyed. Every single sailor, every
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soldier, every warrior, whoever sailed past them, inevitably, despite themselves, would turn and try to
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get as close to the Sirens as possible with that seductive song, and would inevitably be destroyed.
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Jason, unlike all those who'd gone before him, he knew that no matter how strong and great and famous
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he was, he was not strong enough. He knew that the people, his great warriors and the ships, the fleet
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of ships, they were not strong enough. And so Jason faced a problem. What would he do to get past the
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Sirens, to be able to protect his, their wives and their children back home? I share that story with you
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because Deuteronomy 5.18, we're going through the Ten Commandments week by week here in the summer.
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And as Jeremiah read, this is the text we're looking at today. It's not very complicated.
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And you shall not commit adultery. It's not very complicated. It's pretty straightforward.
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Jesus in Matthew 5.27 tells us that it's not simply the act of committing adultery. It's not simply
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if a married woman or man has sex with someone they're not married to, that that's adultery. Jesus
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says that if you look at someone with lust, if you're having sexual fantasy, if you're engaging in
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any practice, any sexual activity that is not with your spouse as a married person, that that is
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adultery. And all of a sudden, as we look at what Jesus said in Matthew 5.27, we realize that this
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pretty straightforward commandment, one that might apply to this person or that person, actually
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speaks to every single one of us. The call not to lust is something that, like, we've, I'm sure if
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you've spent much time in church, you've heard before, that we shouldn't lust, we shouldn't have
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sexual fantasies or engage in sexual activity outside of marriage. And yet, if you look at the statistics
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or simply at your own heart, you know that every single one of us encounters a struggle with this
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this time or another time. It's something that we all deal with. And it's one of those things that,
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like, I, for a long time, was in youth ministry, young adult ministry. And so, you'd be brought into
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this context or that to speak about pornography and these things. And the thing is, like, I'd be
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brought into different contexts to speak about porn in different churches. And that, like, these youth
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pastors would say, like, come and, like, tell as many stories. Just honestly, they would say, like, tell as
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many stories as you can to scare these kids away from porn. I had someone email me one time saying,
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it was a young girl in university, she emailed me and said, I've been trying to stay away from porn,
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but I'm addicted and I can't. So, can you tell me a few more stories of how porn is linked to human
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trafficking? The idea was, if I could just somehow, like, scare her enough, tell her enough haunting
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stories, real stories, of how porn is tied to human trafficking, then she'd be able to fight against her lust.
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For those of you who remember the 90s, if anybody was in, like, youth ministry in the 90s or attend
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a youth group, like, they used to bring in not stories of human trafficking, because we didn't
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talk about that as much in the 90s, but rather they'd bring these speakers to talk about STDs and
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then STDs and STIs, as if, like, you can scare people into purity. And the reality is it just doesn't
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work. You could, like, just like the Greek warriors, you could know that turning toward this lustful
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stuff is dangerous for you or that it's sinful. But if you just, you can fill yourself more and more
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and more with, I should not do this, I should not do this. And yet we find ourselves in, despite
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ourselves, and despite the truth we know, turning toward it. Now, perhaps you can't relate at all to
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the issue of the battle regarding lust or porn or adultery, but maybe there's another thing. You know
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something else that the Bible forbids gossip. You know you shouldn't gossip. And it just, you know,
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you're with your friend. You just can't help. You just find yourself inevitably gossiping again.
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Or lying. Or anger and hate. Whatever it is. There's things that the Bible forbids that you
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and I know we shouldn't do, but we find ourselves turning toward it. What do we do about that?
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Well, first, before we move on, it's important for us to note that everything the Bible forbids,
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everything that God forbids, he does it because he loves us. That's the context of the commandment.
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It's his love and commitment to our flourishing. And so, sometimes, like, I was at Camp Iowa last
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week, and I was chatting with some of the, they're, like, in grade 10, and I said, you know how, like,
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some of your youth leaders, you know, like, some of your camp leaders, you know they want you to have
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fun, right? They're just the most fun. And then there's always, like, that one cabin leader who just,
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like, seems like, like, every day is a Monday for them, right? They're just always in a bad mood,
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and they just, if it's fun, it's bad, right? They knew what I was talking about. Maybe you don't.
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But, you know, there's just that one person. So, I said, you know what, some of us, we act as if God
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is that cabin leader, the one that, like, he sees us laughing, and he's, like, stop it, right? And that's
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how we relate to God sometimes. But really, God is a lot more like the cabin leader that you just know
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loves you so much and wants you to have so much fun. And that is the context of the commandments,
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that God is committed to our flourishing. And that's the context of all of this. Everything,
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therefore, that God says, don't do that. It's not because he's trying to, like, crimp our style
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or make us sad. He doesn't want us to laugh and have fun. But it's because everything he forbids,
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he does so for a reason. And the reason, there's a few, but everything that the scriptures show us is
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sinful. It's stuff that doesn't just hurt us, but hurts those around us. I share this with you because
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you and I in those places where we're wrestling with temptation, we so often will believe a lie
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that society tells us, that our decisions just affect us. It's why you hear so much rhetoric from
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politicians trying to change stuff about, well, like, it's just between two consenting adults,
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so whatever. Just let them be what they be. But that's this lie that your sin just affects
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yourself. And if you're sitting with someone else, it's just you and the other person.
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When we engage in things the Bible forbids, it hurts those around us. Whether you find yourself
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just beginning to kind of hide away from people and you begin, like, just being more removed and
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kind of robbing your friends of a friend. Or you find yourself in so many different ways, and I'm not
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going to get into a whole, like, anti-porn talk right now, but specifically for pornography, like,
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it is intimately tied to human trafficking, right? And so it's one of those things where you find
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someone that they'll wrestling with this as if it just affects himself, but it's actually perpetuating
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really harmful, harmful stuff. It also gets in the way of our relationship with God and therefore
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our joy and our thriving and our sense of real intimacy and joy. And so as the scriptures, these
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different things in the Ten Commandments that the Bible forbids, it's forbidding them because God is
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committed to our and those we love, our thriving and our communities flourishing and our joy.
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But what do we do when we find, despite knowing all those truths, that we find ourselves doing
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those things again? We'll go through that today. In 1 John 1, 9, it says that if we confess our sin,
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he is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
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And that really is the first step to dealing with the temptations and the sin in our life.
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We find that when sin, when it's a secret, and it's amazing how much we can, what lengths we can go
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to keep our sin hidden. And we do it for the self-preservation, this idea that that is,
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in our own commitment to our thriving, that keeping our sin secret is the way forward.
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But sin is like mold. Mold, when it's in the darkness, like it just flourishes and grows.
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And at my parents' home in Stittsville, we had some mold problems. And so we picked up some spray
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and we spray it. It's like, oh, we got rid of the mold. And then like later that day, the mold's back,
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right? What we ended up having to do actually was to remove the curtains and to let the sun shine
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through. Because when you're able to shine a light on mold, the real light, the sun's light,
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it loses its grip on the wall. It actually begins to dissipate. And the same is true for our sin.
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It's incredible how much we want to keep our sin hidden, but when we actually are able to confess
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it, all of a sudden it loses its grip on us. It's actually an incredible thing to watch.
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And I've gone to see as a pastor, just kind of walking with people, is that you can have people
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who for years, this stuff just holds them, just owns them. And then it's a beautiful thing
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when you see someone find the courage, or sometimes it's that desperation, or simply the sanity,
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to say, you know what? It doesn't work to fight this on my own. And you can promise yourself again
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and again that you're going to try harder and do better and be more faithful, but you won't
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until you're able to confess it to someone. And this wisdom that we've learned over the years
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of who to confess to, you want to confess to someone who is not kind of at the same level
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of defeat in it as yourself. Sometimes you want to do that because then it's just kind of like you
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just kind of feel bad for each other, you know, pat each other on the back and be like, okay,
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we're both really miserable. But you want to find someone, perhaps your pastor or a trusted,
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someone who you know is walking to victory over that sin and be able to confess to them.
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The second thing that we've observed over time chatting with George and other pastors is that,
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or just observing my own life, is that when we, is that sometimes when we finally want to confess
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to someone, we'll confess little pieces of our sin to different people. So no one, we're not really
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confessing how hurting and messed up we are. And so one of the things that I just want to encourage
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you today in trying to live out 1 John 1, 9, if you're trying to deal with habitual sin,
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something that you find yourself continue to go back and go back and go back to,
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is to find someone who's mature. Perhaps it's George, Jonathan Camere, Daniel Apton,
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some of the guys who, or surely some of the people that you know are seriously, you know,
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walking with the Lord. Come and confess to them and be committed to confessing every time you fall
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in this area. And at first it might not seem like you're having too much freedom, but over time you
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see that it begins to lose this grip on you. As long as our sin is hidden, it just, like it owns us.
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David in Psalm 32 speaks right to this and he says that as long as he kept his sin hidden,
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he was talking about lust, adultery, as long as he kept it hidden, it was like the strength of his
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very bones was sapped. That when he confessed his sin, when he went public with it, all of a sudden
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the strength came back. It makes no sense. It's actually insanity for us to, we want to keep our sin
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hidden as if that's for our happiness, as if that's for our security. But when we do,
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we're self-imploding. The safest thing you can do, the happiest thing you can do, the thing that will
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restore your confidence and your freedom and your joy is to find the courage to confess.
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The second thing Jesus says in Matthew 5, 28 and 29, it's part of like the same paragraph when he
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says that if you lust, it's you've committed adultery. In Matthew 5, 28 and 29, he says that
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whatever part of you causes you to sin, cut it out. He says if your right eye causes you to sin,
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gouge it out. If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. He was just talking about lust, so
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you can just continue on logically from there. If your penis causes you to sin, amputate it, etc.
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Okay? Now Jesus is speaking, he's speaking metaphorically, but he's not exaggerating. Okay?
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Just as painful and as awkward as it would be and inconvenient to gouge out your eye, your hand,
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or an intimate part of your body. So also, we have to be that relentless with our sin.
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Notice he didn't say, for those of you who are sitting in the front, like if you're Ross,
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then you need to take this seriously. He didn't say if you want to be on staff at the church,
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then cut out a part of your body. He says if any of you sin, then cut it out.
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He's speaking to every single one of us. If you, every single one of us has to take your sin that
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seriously. So what is he saying? He's saying that thing that is your avenue towards sin, cut it out.
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Some of the ways I've seen girls and guys live this out around me is, one of my friends
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was addicted to porn, and they, you know, just kind of journaled, wrote down, what is their access to
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porn? And it was their phone. And so they got rid of their iPhone. You know, any other iPhone users here,
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you know that, like, that's not just a phone. It's part of our identity, right? They got rid of
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their iPhone and got a flip phone so that they couldn't have access to porn. Another friend of
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mine had a, was offered a job at Parliament Hill. This was a job they, like, they dreamed of getting.
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It was a job that would be good on their resume. It would be much better money than the other jobs
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they could have gotten. But they knew they'd have unfiltered access to the internet. And so they turned
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down that job and got a much more menial job that was a lot more work and a lot less fun and paid
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significantly less because they were committed to just obeying Jesus. It wasn't their eye that was
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causing them to sin so much as that, that unfiltered internet at work. So they cut it out. For some of
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us, it might not be a technology we have to deal with, but a relationship. You can tell yourself and
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tell yourself that you're friends with them because you're influencing them to the gospel and all that
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stuff, but really, you know they're toxic. You know they're toxic. Whether it has to do with lust stuff or it
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has to do with gossip or anger or whatever it is, you know that being with them brings you down.
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And you can either treat Jesus' words as a joke or you can take it seriously. Those are your options.
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Take it seriously because there's life in obedience to Jesus.
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The next thing in seeking out to live these words, do not commit adultery, is that confession is
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something that we initiate. That when you sin or you're feeling tempted, you confess to someone.
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But the next thing we need that we sometimes confuse with it to is accountability. Accountability,
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unlike confession, where confession you initiate, accountability is where there's someone who's
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committed to walking with you. Someone that can text you or meet up with you or call you throughout
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the week and say, how are you doing? And specifically, ask them. Ask them to ask you the questions about
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your sin. And so, and so you ask questions like, have you looked up porn this week? Or whatever else
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the question you need to ask. Ask people to ask you those questions. And not just regarding the specific
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sinful behavior. But how we live this out is also by having someone ask us questions about our
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spiritual disciplines and our thriving. And so if you just focus simply on the sin aspect, you'll find
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that there's other things missing. But when you have someone who'll ask you, how's your time in the
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word this week? How's your time in prayer this week? And some of those questions, you'll find that
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it's going to help you be able to do the things you need to do to fight it.
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And that brings us to the next one. In Psalm 119 verse 9, the psalmist writes, how can a young man
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keep his way pure? Young men, young women in the room, you know it is very hard to keep your way pure.
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It feels sometimes like it's impossible. How can a young man keep his way pure? At first, it almost
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sounds like it's like a question of desperation. How can a young man keep his way pure? But he actually
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gives an answer. By guarding his way according to your word. By guarding your way according to
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your word. He's saying that the way that you and I are able to walk in purity is by this like, by
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like holding fast to the Bible. By holding fast to it. It's, the Bible refers to itself as, as food,
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as bread, as our spiritual nourishment. And so a really apt analogy. When I was in grade 12, my, my
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parents switched me from a school that was kind of far away to a school that was really far away.
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And so I'd have to get on the bus very early. And I was like the first stop or second stop.
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So by that, like we'd pick up everyone else. I had to get up like basically the day before,
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you know, in order to catch the bus to get to school the next, you know what I'm saying?
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And so I had to get up super early. And I don't know about you, when I'm super tired,
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I have no appetite. Some of you might be the opposite. I just have no appetite. So get up super
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early. I was always super tired. I had to, and my mom, she's amazing. I'm, I'm really sorry for you if
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this is how you get introduced to my mom because she deserves better. But, um, my mom had this,
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like this ability to search out the most tasteless and flavorless and texturless cereal. And to be
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like, Hey, breakfast. Now she's amazing. Like this, it's just not fair to only share that story with
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you. Amazing woman. But just when it comes to cereal, this wasn't, wasn't the best. Okay.
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And so I'd be there as nutritious, just didn't taste, feel or do anything good besides nutrition.
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And so I'd get up for myself cereal. I'd sit at the table already not hungry. Like I would have
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had trouble eating bacon and eggs. Um, and I'd be sitting there just force feeding myself this food.
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Now, why did I do that? I didn't do it because my parents said I had to, because literally I don't
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think they actually cared. Okay. I did it because I wanted to have a good day. I wanted to thrive.
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I wanted to do well in school, you know? So because of that, I force fed myself the stuff that was
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nutritious. And the same is true for the Bible. There's times where you, there's certain,
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certain parts of the Bible you read. It's just like the words are jumping off the page to you.
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And it feels like just, honestly, you think of whatever's your favorite food. It feels like that,
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you know? It tastes like bacon and eggs. I didn't have enough breakfast today. I'm really thinking
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about bacon and eggs. But, okay. But there's other times where it really, you read it. Deuteronomy is
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one of those parts of the Bible that more typically when you read, it will feel more like my mama's cereal.
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Okay. Where you read it and it's just like, it doesn't, doesn't feel like, doesn't captivate
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your interest. Okay. Or like the parable that Neil read, Luke 6, 1 to 9. Right? Where like it doesn't,
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the meaning doesn't just jump off the page at you. And yet, if, if you believe that the Bible is
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real, if you believe it really is God's word, then, then take what it says true, truly that,
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that the Bible feeds us. And so that's why we got to read through the pages of the Bible day after
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day after day. It's amazing. I'll, like, I've done this in my life. I've, I've seen others do this and
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meet up with where it's like, oh, I just, I can't beat this sin in my life. I'm just, I just feel far
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from God. Oh. And then you'll start asking about, like, are you in the word? Well, no. Or, or how's your
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Bible reading? Oh, really good. And then you find they're just only reading your, I'm, I'm only reading my
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favorite parts of the Bible, the parts that just jump out at me. But, but every, every page of
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scripture is God breathed. It's all for our good. You know, when Jesus is feeling temptation,
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and he's in, in Matthew 4, I think, Jesus is battling temptation, and, um, how does he beat the
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temptation? Do you know? He quotes the Bible, right? He's feeling temptation, and he holds, he's doing what
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Psalm 119, 9. Jesus is a young man, and he's guarding his way according to the word. He's, he speaks out loud,
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what the Bible says. Do you know that every verse Jesus quotes against the temptation, it's all from
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one book of the Bible. Do you know what it is? It's Deuteronomy. Question, like, can you and I, when
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we're feeling temptation, when we're wrestling with sin, can you and I quote Deuteronomy at our
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temptation? Could you, like, do you even know what Deuteronomy talks about, right? There's parts of the
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Bible, not just you, that, that me also will really struggle with, um, being able to hold fast to,
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because you don't read it, right? It's one of the reasons it's so important to be at a church like
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Church of the Messiah. It's not the only one, but it's definitely one, where there were, we're faithfully
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going through the Bible, and you'll see, like, we were committed to preaching through the Bible, so
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you'll see that, and reading through the Bible, so Neil read a part of the Bible that is, seems more
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difficult to wrestle with, but, but this church consistently is, is preaching through the tough
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stuff of the Bible, but it's not enough to get that once a week on Sundays, but for us to be daily
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devoted to reading through the Bible, wrestling with what the Bible says, eating it up. It feeds us,
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just like that cereal, whether you feel it or not, it still feeds you. Um, an analogy that George has
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shared a couple years ago that I want to remind you of. George shared that the Bible is like, um,
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it's, it's like the, uh, you're on a quest, you know, um, if you've read The Silver Chair, there's
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other books like this, right? Silver Chair by C.S. Lewis. So these, these kids, they get this riddle at
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the start of their quest, and they're like, they're put, they're mulling over their heads, they're mulling
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over their heads, and it doesn't make sense. It's some poetic thing, and then along the quest, at one
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point, like, things come to folks, and they see that Ridge of the Mountains, and also they recall that
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that speaks to the, like, that, that, that riddle actually is about that, and then they're able to know how to
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navigate it. George said the Bible is like that, and he's right, the Bible's like that, that there's
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things that will speak to us as we're reading through it, and it doesn't seem to make a lot of
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sense, and then you're in a situation, and all of a sudden it pulls the situation to focus. The only way
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you're going to be able to remember what that riddle said is by mulling it over, holding fast to it,
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and that's why men and women who are faithful to the end in their walk with God, who are thriving in
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what God made them for, are people who are reading through the Bible, and when you get to the end,
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to start again, and be reading through it, and reading through it. How can a young man or young
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woman walk in purity? By living according to God's Word. And before moving on, for so many of us, purity,
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it seems to be something that we're convinced means, like, the absence of defilement. So our goal to
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live pure is just to be free of lust, to be free of gossip, to be free of anger. But when the
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scriptures speak of purity, it never is only speaking of being rid of sin, but rather it's a
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life that is teeming with the fullness of God. And so you'll see as you read through the letters in
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the New Testament, that when it speaks of, like, putting to death sin, it always also speaks about
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clothing yourselves with compassion, and kindness, and generosity, and worship, singing psalms, and hymns,
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and spiritual psalms, like it says in Colossians 3. You'll see that again and again and again.
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It talks, Paul will write about fleeing sin, and then, and then, like, running the race, running
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toward the prize. What you run from catches up with you, in a sense, but what you run toward,
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you'll find that if you're only focused on just putting to death sin, you'll find somehow, like,
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it still owns you. It's still your focus. It still occupies your thoughts, and compels you toward it.
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But as you do the things you need to do, confess your sin, amputate the avenues toward sin,
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bring accountability into life, be reading the Word, and as you begin to give yourself to the
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stuff, not only that the Bible calls us to put to death, but give yourself to the pursuit of living
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a life with Jesus. Compassionate hearts, kindness, humility. As you actively engage in what God calls
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us to, we find that the freedom begins to be part of it. You know that just, one of the things in,
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in the helping people get free of porn and other lust issues that we found, one of the number one
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reasons that people will relapse into this stuff is boredom. And I've chatted with psychologists who,
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like, they say, like, they used to be simply focused on, like, getting to those childhood issues,
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and, or, like, you were abandoned as a kid, and, like, you're trying to deal with that stuff
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to try to, like, help people get free. And some of those questions can be good to deal with,
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but part of it is just that issue of boredom, which is why, again, the Bible, who knew, is so wise
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as it calls, not just to put things to death, but then to engage in the epic work that God is doing
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today. It is, we actually begin to join Jesus in what he's doing, and to fill our time with the stuff of
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God, to give ourselves to purity. You find that there's actually so much more strength to put that stuff
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to death. And so, again, before moving on, what is our mandate? What is that stuff we're called to?
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Well, it's a really answer that I got to read through the Word. Day after day, you'll see the
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Bible speaks to it. But very simply put, Jesus, at the start of his ministry, reads his mission
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statement. It's an ancient prophecy found in Isaiah 61. Jesus reads it over himself. This is his mission
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statement, not just 2,000 years ago, but today. This is Jesus' mission statement. And it's relevant to you
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to me because to be a child of God, to be a Christian, is to be a follower of Jesus. So if
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that's Jesus' mission statement, then whether you know it or not, this is your and my mission statement
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for today and every day of our lives. This is our mission statement. And Isaiah 61, it says that
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he is anointed to preach the gospel to the poor, to bind up the brokenhearted, to bring freedom to
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captives, to open the eyes of the blind, to be bringing hope to those who don't have hope,
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to bring the truth of who Jesus is to those who don't know it. And freedom from captivity,
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that encompasses so much. To be advocating for victims, whether it's sexual abuse or human
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trafficking, that type of stuff. But even, not only that, but how many of those around us
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who might be living what seems to be lives of freedom are actually captive to their own
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lusts, or captive to the pain of bitterness in their hearts, to be captive to unforgiveness,
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who are in prison of their own unforgiveness.
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And Jesus today, and tomorrow when you're back at work, is seeking to set people free from those
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cages. And how does he do it? But through his hands and feet, the church, you and me.
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I share this with you because a huge part of defeating the lusts and sins of our life,
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to being able to have the ability to stay away from the stuff that the Ten Commandments tell us
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to stay away from, is as we engage in the beautiful calling that he has in our lives.
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It really isn't optional. To follow Jesus, to be a Christian, is to give ourselves to this work.
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There's more. Romans 12, 1 and 2 says that we are able to present ourselves wholly to God,
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that we can't find that strength to do that. As we present ourselves to God as a living sacrifice,
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through the renewal of our minds. And this is one of the beautiful truths we find that
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the Bible just was way ahead of all the psychologists. That when you're seeking to
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change your behavior, to change your lustful thoughts and behaviors, that a huge part of it
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isn't just focusing on, again, trying hard or promising this. You actually have to renew your mind.
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And how do we do that? But again, by reading the scriptures, by meditating on them,
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giving ourselves to that. Now, when people have, whether for myself or others, when we're talking
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about dealing with this stuff, so often what we're looking at is behavior modification.
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We see it says don't commit adultery, don't steal, don't lie, all this different stuff that the
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scriptures call us to not do. And so we want to change our behaviors. And so we're looking, okay,
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I'm going to confess my sin. And I'm going to, you know, amputate my access to it. I'm going to do
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these things. But ultimately, what we're actually looking at isn't just behavior modification,
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but a heart transformation. Because Jesus actually says, I don't have it written down.
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Snap. I think it's actually Matthew 18, where Jesus says that it's out of the heart that unlawful
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talk comes a harmful speech and sexual morality. And he lists off a whole different bunch of
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examples of sin. Ultimately, what's happening when we find ourselves living out harmful behavior,
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disobeying God, is that it's not just a behavior problem. It's a heart problem. There's brokenness
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in our hearts.
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Which brings us back to Jason. How did Jason get past? How did he get past, or how did he deal with
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the sirens? He didn't just say, you know what, I'm going to tell myself as many horrible stories of
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sailors who dashed themselves on the rocks. And that will motivate me to freedom, to not go to
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them. Jason knew that wouldn't be enough. Others had tried it. So Jason brought with himself Orpheus,
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the world's greatest harpist. And so as they got close to the sirens, Jason said, Orpheus,
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play your song. And as Orpheus began to play a greater song, a more beautiful song, that filled the minds,
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that captivated the minds, the hearts, and the very souls of those sailors. They were able to get past
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the sirens. And that, again, is a truth that the Greeks wrestled with, and one of the scriptures
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already spoke of. In 2 Corinthians 3, 18, let's turn there now.
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The Bible says,
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And we all with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same
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image, from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.
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What is it saying there? It's beautiful poetry. But it's saying that where we are able to be
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transformed. We didn't have the strength to stay away from that sinful thoughts or behaviors,
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and now we have the strength to flourish.
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Where we didn't, where we just, as much as we thought, oh, it would be so good to join Jesus in what he's doing,
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to be able to share the gospel with my co-worker, you're just, you're still too shy.
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Where we find that strength that transforms us, is as we behold Jesus.
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As we turn our attention to him, let the beauty of who God is, and what he's done, and what he's doing in our lives,
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as we let the beauty of the gospel, not just be something that we're looking at with our mind,
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but actually, as we let it, like, captivate our hearts.
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As we fall in love with who Jesus is, and what he's doing, what he's about.
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That actually transforms us.
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That we are to behold and to savor who Jesus is.
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So, that's one of the reasons that we spend time in worship.
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It's not just about singing some songs, or doing, like, Christian karaoke, we have the words on the screen, we sing along.
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But to actually, like, feast on those words.
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Pray to be in awe of those truths.
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To revel in the beauty of who Jesus is, and what he's doing, and what he's done for us.
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That's where we find this magnificent transformation.
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There's a scene, perhaps you already know, where this sinful woman, this adulterous woman,
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comes to Jesus among all these very good guys.
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Their lives are empty of darkness in so many ways.
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And they think that that's purity.
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And this woman, she has lusted and committed adultery, all this stuff.
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And she's on her knees at Jesus' feet, crying, just, like, wiping Jesus' feet with her tears and her hair.
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And in that culture, that'd be very intimate.
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In our culture, just be weird, but they're just very intimate acts.
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And these Pharisees are like, okay, Jesus, do you not know who she is?
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Thinking they're the ones who are pure, because their lives are absent of a lot of bad behavior.
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And Jesus says, he who's forgiven much, loves much.
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Ultimately, purity isn't simply about filling our lives with the stuff of God,
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but there really is, at the heart of it, about a love for Jesus.
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These guys, their lives are so absent of all this bad behavior, but their hearts are far from God.
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And because of that, they don't love him, their hearts are dead.
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As a kid, like, I was a homeschool kid.
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Didn't, like, I, when I went, finally went to school, I never got a detention.
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Like, I, my life was devoid of a lot of bad stuff.
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And so I'd read that, and I'd be a little perplexed.
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Like, okay, I don't feel like I've been forgiven much.
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So do I get to love much?
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And then as I kept reading through the Bible, I found that,
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even though I hadn't, like, lived out a lot of those more, like, whatever stuff,
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that, you know, I had, I had committed adultery.
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So I'd lusted.
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And I had murdered, because I've been angry.
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And Jesus says that to be, to hate your brother is to, is to commit murder.
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And I found that as you actually wrestle with what the reality is of what Jesus has forgiven us,
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you and me, of every single one of us is just like that woman.
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Those Pharisees were just like that woman.
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Except, instead of receiving Jesus' forgiveness, and then devoting themselves to him,
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they sat there, unmoved with their hearts dead.
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Just last year, he was preaching from one of these passages about putting our sin to death
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and Jesus' forgiveness.
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In Colossians 3, it says, Paul's writing about these very serious sins,
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sexual morality and idolatry and all this different stuff.
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And then to those same people, he says,
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now is God's holy and beloved.
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Close yourself with the stuff of God.
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And so I was preaching that evening to these kids and my buddy who drove me there.
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I shared with them, you know what?
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Maybe there's a time right now, or maybe it's in years from now,
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that you need to hear these words, that you're God's holy and beloved.
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That even as you've done horrific stuff, you don't recognize yourself.
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You feel so far from God.
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You've done something you thought you'd never do.
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If you look to Jesus for forgiveness, you're his holy and beloved.
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I talked about the reality of his forgiveness.
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We drove home.
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It was two hours.
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Got to my house.
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And just as I was about to get out of my car, I don't know why,
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I just turned to my buddy.
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And I said, hey, did you want to talk about anything else?
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It was late.
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And he said, yeah.
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And he confessed to me that he'd committed, about a year and a half before,
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horrific crimes against a child.
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He said, what do I need to know?
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What do I need to do?
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What do I need to hear?
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Well, on the one hand, everything in me just, well, you knew how I would have felt.
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But standing upon the Bible, I had to look him in the eye and say,
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you're God's holy and beloved.
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I had to hug him, embrace him, who I knew had used intimacy in horrific ways.
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Just hug him and held him.
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You're God's holy and beloved.
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Just like this woman who's been forgiven much, you've also been called to love much.
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And we went from there to the police station.
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He turned himself in and he went to jail.
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The police officers, I remember them questioning him, grilling him, grilling him.
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Why did you turn yourself in?
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You never were going to be caught.
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Now you're going to go to jail.
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And he just, he said to the police officers through tears,
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God is a God of love.
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He's come into my life.
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And that love means this kid getting help.
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The kid only gets help if I come forward.
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And he said, God is a God of justice.
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That means I go to jail.
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God is a God of freedom.
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That means I have to turn myself in.
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He found, I just was on the phone with him this past week.
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He found freedom even behind prison bars, legit, as he confessed his sin.
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And this memory he was trying to suppress and hide from and keep secret,
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and he managed to do that successfully.
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He was in a far greater prison than when he actually went to jail.
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I tell this story because every single one of us is like this guy.
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That every single one of us is stuff that we want to keep hidden and secret.
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And just like him, our sin, maybe it's not on such a grand, like a large scale,
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but our sin has hurt other people, whether we understand how it does or not.
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And just like him, we can think that we're living in freedom,
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but really we're in a prison that's so much worse.
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But just like this guy, we can run into the light and confess our sin.
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It can feel scary, but it is the place of safety.
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I just spoke with him on the phone.
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It's a year later.
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And this guy, he just got out of prison.
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It's a lot of conditions on his freedom, all this stuff.
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But the joy that this guy knows in the forgiveness he's found in God is a beautiful thing,
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and it is a joy that you and I can have today.
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And so I want to invite you to this week to come forward and confess whatever stuff you need to confess,
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to engage in the battle of putting sin to death,
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to give ourselves to the call to join Jesus in what he's doing,
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bringing light into the darkness.
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But more than anything to realize that you and I can walk in freedom and joy,
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not because of how good we're doing or bad we're doing on a given week,
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but because Jesus has forgiven us.
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Because ultimately, the call to purity is not simply about a life devoid of sin
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or even a life that's full and busy with the epic stuff of God.
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But you and I and anyone else who's pure is pure because of Jesus' forgiveness.
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That's why we talk about the cross so much and sing songs about this and all this stuff.
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It's because of Jesus.
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Let's pray.
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Would you stand with me?
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Heavenly Father, as we mentioned this morning that
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that the things the Bible forbids cause harm to ourselves or others,
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I know that for some of us, it feels all too real.
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That the sins that others have committed have harmed us in such brutal ways.
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Even just talking about the stories they have legit can be triggering for us.
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For others of us, maybe for all of us as well.
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God, we've defamed you.
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We've sinned against you in all manner of different ways.
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And yet, just like that woman on her knees with tears coming down her face,
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encountered the beauty, the awe-inspiring glory of your forgiveness,
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God, would you fill our hearts afresh in awe and wonder at your forgiveness,
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at the gospel, that you who knew no sin became sin,
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that we might be the righteousness of God,
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whether we're murderers or adulterers or any sort of anything.
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God, for those of us who have been harmed by this stuff,
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would you bring healing and wholeness?
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For every one of us, God, bring your forgiveness and freedom.
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You would help us to live out the call
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to not commit adultery,
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but instead, to live life as forgiven people,
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walking in the fullness of purity to your glory.
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In Jesus' name, amen.