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Good News. God Does Not Love You Unconditionally.

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  1. Before we pray, last week, if you were here, I asked you to pray for me because next Sunday,

  2. I get to speak on one of the favorite topics of Canadians, which is wives be subject to your

  3. husbands. And so I was asking that you would pray for me. I realized this week that I should have

  4. asked you to pray for me every, I mean, hopefully you pray for me every week. But this week, I get

  5. to talk about homosexuality. Next week, wives be subject to your husbands. The next week, slaves,

  6. slavery and Christianity. And then I get to talk about demons. So I have four really easy sermons

  7. in a row. And so please pray for me every week. Let's bow our heads in prayer. Father, we ask,

  8. we give you thanks and praise that you see us as we really are, with perfect clarity,

  9. and yet you love us. And we give you thanks and praise that every word that you speak that seems

  10. hard is a word that you speak to us for our good and comes out of your desire that we would connect

  11. with you and that we would repent and turn to Jesus and receive those far vastly better things

  12. that you have in mind for each of us. We ask that the Holy Spirit would fall with might and power and

  13. deep conviction as we think upon your word. Lead us to Jesus. And this we ask in the name of Jesus,

  14. your Son and our Savior. Amen. So the Bible text is Ephesians chapter 5, verses 1, the following. It

    Ephesians 5:1

  15. would be probably helpful to you if you have a Bible. The text will be up on the screen, but it's really

  16. good to have your own Bible. And I just want to begin, before we start reading, I've sort of already

  17. let you know a little bit about what's in the text, and we're going to go there very quickly.

  18. But one of the first things we need to understand is that God does not love you unconditionally.

  19. For many Christians in Canada today, that sounds like blasphemy. But the fact of the matter is,

  20. is that God does not love you unconditionally. God loves you with a love that is incomparably better

  21. than unconditional love. And the more we are gripped by the idea of unconditional love,

  22. the harder it will be for us to understand the Bible, and the harder it will be for us to understand

  23. God and Jesus and the gospel. So I'm going to come back to that, why I would say such an odd statement.

  24. We're not going to begin with verse 1. I'm going to look and just try to bring your attention to

  25. the actual text in question. So some of you might be wondering, why do I talk about texts like this

  26. today? Let me tell you this. My hope and prayer is that you'll come to accept the gospel,

  27. and that you will know Jesus as your Savior and Lord. The Christian walk, to be known by God,

  28. to know the perfect forgiveness that comes through Jesus, to know the security that when Christ takes

  29. you as his child, he will never abandon you, he will never abuse you, he will never let you go,

  30. that you can begin to know the incomparable, inexhaustible love of Jesus is vastly worth it.

  31. And my hope and prayer is that everyone here and your friends and co-workers and families and

  32. neighbors will come to know the incomparable, vast, deep, pure love of the triune God. That's my hope.

  33. And one of the things we do in this church is we preach through books of the Bible.

  34. And that should be really good news to you if you're here as a seeker, or you're here as a skeptic,

  35. or you're here just as somebody who's just a bit curious. Because we're never going to hide things

  36. from you. It's not as if we're going to talk about all these, I can jump around a different text,

  37. and then you become a Christian, and then you find out there's all these nasty bits you didn't know

  38. about. You know, this is like taking you through the fine print. But when you go through the fine print

  39. of the New Testament, you understand even more deeply the boundless, deep, pure love of Jesus.

  40. So that's why we're looking at this text, not because I have some hang-ups about

  41. sex or homosexuality or anything like that. It's just because I want you to know Jesus.

  42. And I don't want to hide anything in the way of you becoming a follower of Christ. And for those of us

  43. who are Christians, that your walk with Christ will be deeper and freer. So I want to begin with the hard

  44. part, and then I'm going to look, we're going to jump back up to verse 1 and 2, and so we see how it is

  45. that the Bible introduces this topic. But I want you to understand some things. Look at verse 3.

  46. But sexual immorality and all impurity were covetousness,

  47. covetousness, must not even be named among you as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness,

  48. nor foolish talk, nor crude joking, which are out of place. But instead, let there be thanksgiving.

  49. Now, just to make sure that you understand this sexual immorality and impurity and covetousness,

  50. Paul mentions it a second time. Look at verse 5 and 6.

  51. For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure,

  52. or who is covetous, that is, an idolater,

  53. has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

  54. Let no one deceive you with empty words.

  55. For because of these things, the wrath of God comes

  56. upon the sons and daughters of disobedience.

  57. Now, it's a very, very hard text in some ways.

  58. And one of the things, you know, I sometimes joke,

  59. in fact, I often joke, I look it up on the internet, so it must be true.

  60. The three words that you see here, sexually immoral, impure, and covetous,

  61. if I was to be doing a sermon point, and actually,

  62. if you go on the webpage later and you see my points,

  63. I have three different points,

  64. and I use the Greek word porneia,

  65. which is the word that's being translated here as sexual immorality.

  66. And if you Google porneia, what does the Greek word porneia mean?

  67. The very first entry you see to define porneia,

  68. if you Google it, is a lie.

  69. It's completely, utterly, thoroughly wrong,

  70. in case you don't know what my view is on the matter.

  71. It's completely invented,

  72. a completely and utterly invented explanation of what porneia is.

  73. You have to go down to several of the other ones,

  74. and you get the true answer.

  75. And what porneia is,

  76. is this,

  77. that God created human beings

  78. so that we would have an interest in sex.

  79. He made us as male and female,

  80. and he designed sexual relations,

  81. and he designed human beings

  82. that sexual knowledge and sexual stimulation

  83. is reserved for the holiest state of matrimony

  84. between one man and one woman.

  85. That's how God designed male and female,

  86. man and woman.

  87. It's how he designed,

  88. from the very beginning of creation,

  89. us to know sexual pleasure

  90. for those of us who are called into it.

  91. So God designed sexual knowledge

  92. and sexual stimulation

  93. to be reserved for those

  94. who are in a marriage of one man to one woman.

  95. And anything which is not that

  96. is porneia.

  97. Anything which is not that

  98. is porneia.

  99. So that would include everything

  100. from going to a strip club

  101. to looking at pornography

  102. to same-sex sexual knowing

  103. to cheating on your husband or your wife

  104. or engaging in sexual knowing

  105. outside of marriage.

  106. All of those things

  107. would be described as porneia.

  108. And that's the Greek word there

  109. for sexual immorality.

  110. And the next word,

  111. which is translated there as impurity,

  112. that's a bit of an odd word.

  113. And there's no really good word in English

  114. to try to describe what the sin is.

  115. But as I talked about it

  116. a little bit last week,

  117. and I don't expect you to remember that.

  118. I have a hard time remembering

  119. what I said last week.

  120. Impurity is referring

  121. not to sexual matters directly,

  122. but a relationship with God.

  123. And at the heart of it,

  124. what impurity is,

  125. is the attitude

  126. and the habit of saying to God,

  127. God, you're not my boss.

  128. You're not my boss.

  129. Now, most of the time,

  130. we just live in the way

  131. that God maybe designed us.

  132. We don't do bad things.

  133. But at a very, very deep

  134. and fundamental level,

  135. in every single human being,

  136. there is a part of us

  137. that wants to say to God,

  138. you're not my boss.

  139. You're not my boss.

  140. You can't tell me to do that.

  141. If I do it,

  142. it's because I want to do it,

  143. not because you say I should do it.

  144. Because I'm the boss of me.

  145. You're not my boss.

  146. And the third sin,

  147. which is mentioned here,

  148. is covetousness.

  149. And if you look at some translations,

  150. it's translated as avarice.

  151. And the Greek word

  152. can be translated either way.

  153. Covetousness is the sin of,

  154. well, actually,

  155. what avarice is,

  156. is just basically greed.

  157. Just want more, more, more, more, more,

  158. more, more, more, more, more,

  159. all the time.

  160. More possessions,

  161. more money.

  162. It's disorder,

  163. desire for possessions and money.

  164. And the other word,

  165. covetous,

  166. is a similar type of idea.

  167. It can mean that thing,

  168. but it also is more competitive.

  169. So,

  170. covetousness would mean

  171. that you not just look at George

  172. and say, you know,

  173. George is just a very ordinary guy.

  174. And if he can be a pastor,

  175. I think I can be a pastor.

  176. That's not covetousness.

  177. Covetousness says,

  178. I want George's job.

  179. You know,

  180. that George will lose his job

  181. so I can take his job.

  182. That's the sin of covetousness.

  183. Although it also includes the idea

  184. of just wanting more and more

  185. and more and more.

  186. And the Bible describes

  187. both,

  188. all three of these things

  189. as sort of categories of sin.

  190. And the thing you need

  191. to understand about it,

  192. there's several things

  193. you need to understand

  194. about this,

  195. which will become very clear

  196. when we go back

  197. and read verses one

  198. and then we see how it is

  199. that the Bible

  200. comes to this place.

  201. The first thing

  202. you have to understand

  203. is that this is not

  204. us versus them language.

  205. This is not us

  206. versus them language.

  207. This is describing

  208. the persistent

  209. perennial problems

  210. of every single

  211. human being.

  212. In other words,

  213. I stand before you

  214. today as a man

  215. whose sexuality

  216. is disordered.

  217. And I don't mean

  218. to offend you,

  219. but I am speaking

  220. to a room full of people

  221. whose sexuality

  222. is disordered.

  223. I am a man

  224. whose relationship

  225. with God

  226. is disordered.

  227. There is part of me

  228. that whether I'm

  229. conscious of it or not

  230. wants to at times

  231. say to God,

  232. you're not my boss.

  233. And I speak to a room

  234. who have the exact

  235. same problem.

  236. And I stand before you

  237. as a man

  238. who has a disordered

  239. relationship

  240. to money and possessions.

  241. possessions.

  242. And I stand talking

  243. to a room full of people

  244. who have disordered

  245. relationships

  246. with money and possessions.

  247. The Bible text

  248. is describing

  249. the human problem

  250. and the human condition.

  251. It's not describing

  252. us versus them,

  253. the pure versus

  254. the impure,

  255. the elite

  256. versus the rabble.

  257. It's bringing to light

  258. the fundamental

  259. human condition.

  260. And in every case,

  261. what the Bible

  262. is describing

  263. is that there's

  264. something in us,

  265. in our sexuality,

  266. which is disordered.

  267. There's something

  268. about us

  269. in our relationship

  270. with God

  271. that is disordered.

  272. There is something

  273. about us

  274. that our relationship

  275. with money and possessions

  276. and positions

  277. of authority

  278. that is disordered.

  279. And that's,

  280. on one hand,

  281. very bad news,

  282. but it's also

  283. very good news.

  284. Because it means

  285. that what God

  286. desires for each of us

  287. is something better.

  288. That's what he desires

  289. for me.

  290. So let's look

  291. at this covetousness,

  292. for instance,

  293. and possessions.

  294. Here's one of the things.

  295. Every single one of us,

  296. it's normally easier

  297. for us to recognize

  298. a disordered relationship

  299. with money and possessions

  300. in other people

  301. than in ourselves.

  302. I'm just trying to think

  303. of how many funerals

  304. I've done.

  305. Next year,

  306. I'll have been ordained

  307. 35 years.

  308. In the first 10 years

  309. of my ordination,

  310. maybe even the first 15 years

  311. of my ordination,

  312. I did probably

  313. between 10 to 20 funerals

  314. a year.

  315. I was Barry and George.

  316. And so I don't know.

  317. I've maybe done

  318. 200 funerals.

  319. I haven't done very many funerals

  320. the last 7 or 8 or 9 or 10 years.

  321. Let me tell you this.

  322. Let's say I've done

  323. 200 funerals.

  324. There has been only

  325. one funeral

  326. that I have ever done

  327. where when I'm talking

  328. to the family before

  329. and the family and friends

  330. before and the family

  331. and friends afterwards,

  332. there's only been one

  333. funeral that I've ever done

  334. where anybody has ever said

  335. the problem with,

  336. and I'm going to mention

  337. his name because it's not

  338. an embarrassing thing,

  339. the problem with John

  340. is he was too generous.

  341. 200 funerals,

  342. only one person

  343. has ever said

  344. about another person

  345. that the problem they had

  346. was that they were

  347. too generous.

  348. They gave away

  349. too much money.

  350. Isn't that interesting?

  351. Like, I can tell you this.

  352. They're not going to say

  353. about me at my funeral,

  354. at least if I die

  355. like in the next 10 minutes.

  356. The problem with George

  357. is he gave away

  358. too much money.

  359. And I don't want

  360. to offend you.

  361. I don't know how many

  362. of you they're going

  363. to say that about either.

  364. Now, the funny, funny,

  365. funny, funny thing

  366. about John,

  367. John Pierce, by the way,

  368. a couple of us know him,

  369. is that the person

  370. who said it to me

  371. that the problem with John

  372. was he gave away

  373. too much money.

  374. When he died,

  375. he had lots of money

  376. still in the bank.

  377. In fact, I said

  378. to the person who said it,

  379. I guess you were wrong.

  380. He gave away

  381. too much money.

  382. He didn't have lots of money,

  383. but he had enough money

  384. to live every week,

  385. even though the complaint

  386. about him was that

  387. he was way too generous.

  388. He gave away

  389. way too much money.

  390. See, the fact of the matter

  391. is that we notice

  392. other people

  393. that they're cheap,

  394. that they seem to be

  395. obsessed with possessions.

  396. And it doesn't,

  397. you know,

  398. a friend of mine said,

  399. this is in class talk,

  400. by the way.

  401. A friend of mine

  402. once said,

  403. the poor man

  404. has three rust buckets

  405. in his driveway,

  406. none of which work.

  407. The rich man

  408. has a jaguar.

  409. So it's not the matter

  410. that the poor man

  411. is consumed with possessions

  412. because he has three cars.

  413. Right?

  414. It's not a class thing.

  415. It's something which affects

  416. every single human being.

  417. We have a hard time

  418. giving stuff away.

  419. We have a hard time

  420. being generous

  421. to missions,

  422. to the poor,

  423. to the needs of the church.

  424. We have a hard time

  425. giving it away.

  426. We have fixations

  427. that we can have

  428. about sunglasses

  429. or watches

  430. or shoes

  431. or purses

  432. or jackets

  433. or clothing,

  434. about a better car,

  435. a better house.

  436. And you see,

  437. what's there

  438. isn't that we shouldn't desire.

  439. This isn't saying

  440. that, you know,

  441. if you're a young man

  442. or a young woman here,

  443. this isn't saying,

  444. covetousness isn't saying

  445. you shouldn't have

  446. any desire

  447. to try to make more money

  448. so you can provide

  449. for your needs

  450. and the needs of your family

  451. and the needs of your friends.

  452. We didn't look at it last week.

  453. But if you go back

  454. and read the last bit

  455. of chapter four,

  456. you'll see that

  457. Paul says that

  458. when the gospel

  459. hits a thief

  460. and a thief receives

  461. the gospel,

  462. what a thief,

  463. what the gospel will do

  464. in a thief's life

  465. will be eventually

  466. to make them have

  467. the desire

  468. to work very,

  469. very hard

  470. so they can provide

  471. for their own needs

  472. and be generous.

  473. That's how Paul says

  474. the gospel will impact

  475. somebody who's a thief.

  476. And so,

  477. what the Bible is saying

  478. isn't just that

  479. if you receive the gospel,

  480. it's going to take away

  481. any desire for ambition.

  482. It's going to take away

  483. any desire to earn.

  484. No, it's not that.

  485. It's just that

  486. we somehow have

  487. a way of making

  488. certain possessions

  489. and having more

  490. and having these things,

  491. they become a key part

  492. of our identity

  493. and they never satisfy.

  494. They never satisfy.

  495. And then the same thing

  496. with this thing about God,

  497. you're not my boss.

  498. The thing which is

  499. disordered there,

  500. it's several.

  501. It's as if

  502. unless I,

  503. at times when it comes up,

  504. you know,

  505. shake my fist at God

  506. and say,

  507. you're not telling me

  508. what to do.

  509. I'm going to tell me

  510. what to do.

  511. I'm the boss of my life.

  512. I'm the one

  513. who's going to pursue that.

  514. I mean,

  515. most of the time

  516. we don't say that,

  517. but when all of a sudden

  518. the demands of God,

  519. well,

  520. let's just say with money,

  521. that maybe you should consider

  522. giving 10% of your money away

  523. for the furtherance

  524. of the gospel.

  525. Whoa,

  526. you're not my boss, God.

  527. But at the heart of that

  528. is this

  529. disordered understanding

  530. that God will care for you

  531. and that you have

  532. a type of integrity

  533. and a type of value

  534. and a type of worth

  535. that God himself guarantees.

  536. You see,

  537. because we have this

  538. disordered relationship

  539. with God

  540. and we think we have

  541. to assert our place

  542. that we won't be forgotten,

  543. that I have autonomy,

  544. that I have integrity,

  545. that people can't walk over me,

  546. and there's not anything wrong

  547. with some of those desires

  548. that people can't walk over you,

  549. they can't just treat you

  550. with disrespect,

  551. they can't belittle you,

  552. they can't do all of those things,

  553. but it's disordered

  554. because we feel

  555. that it's all up to us

  556. so that it even comes

  557. in terms of God

  558. without understanding

  559. that the very,

  560. very heart of the gospel

  561. is that God saw you

  562. and he loved you so much

  563. that Jesus comes,

  564. God,

  565. the Son of God,

  566. leaves heaven,

  567. strips himself

  568. of his divine prerogatives,

  569. his authority,

  570. his glory,

  571. his majesty,

  572. but still remaining God,

  573. takes into himself

  574. our human nature,

  575. lives a fully human life,

  576. dies bearing in himself

  577. all your sin,

  578. all your rebellion,

  579. all your shame,

  580. all this stuff about you

  581. that's just not right,

  582. every accusation

  583. that could ever be against you,

  584. he does that

  585. and he takes it for you

  586. and dies for you

  587. because he loves you,

  588. because he wants

  589. to restore you

  590. to the integrity

  591. and the value

  592. and the dignity

  593. that you should have

  594. in this life

  595. and that you will have

  596. into all eternity

  597. and so our disordered

  598. relationship with God

  599. means that we have

  600. to grasp these things

  601. and we have to usually

  602. end up saying them

  603. at the expense of others

  604. because if God wants me

  605. to let's say be more,

  606. you know,

  607. to be sexually faithful

  608. to my wife

  609. and I end up saying

  610. I don't want God,

  611. you're not my boss,

  612. I'm going to do,

  613. I'm the boss of my life

  614. and I end up doing something

  615. that not only offends

  616. against God

  617. but ends up damaging

  618. my wife and my family

  619. and my kids

  620. and the church

  621. and everybody, right?

  622. Because that's what happens.

  623. We're disordered with God

  624. and it means we end up

  625. being disordered

  626. with the creation.

  627. We're disordered

  628. around possessions

  629. and so it fuels

  630. raping the environment,

  631. it fuels rage

  632. against other nations

  633. and wars,

  634. it fuels class warfare,

  635. it fuels all these

  636. terrible things

  637. because our relationship

  638. with money and possessions

  639. is disordered

  640. and our relationship

  641. with God is disordered

  642. and it fuels this injustice

  643. that I have to prove

  644. that you are not my boss, God

  645. and when I end up

  646. acting that out,

  647. people are hurt

  648. and I am hurt as well.

  649. The same thing with sexuality.

  650. The biblical truth is

  651. that we aren't just

  652. some random collection

  653. of atoms

  654. and we now have to define

  655. and identify ourselves

  656. by our own terms

  657. but God has designed us

  658. for a purpose

  659. that fits,

  660. that has integrity

  661. and that while the initial words

  662. of the gospel

  663. and the Bible

  664. seem to be very hard,

  665. if we just always remember

  666. that everything that is said

  667. is said because Jesus loves you so much

  668. he died for you on the cross.

  669. He tasted death for you.

  670. He tasted judgment for you.

  671. He tasted God's wrath,

  672. just wrath for you.

  673. That you would be reordered

  674. as God designed you to be

  675. in a way that will bring him glory.

  676. So let's go back.

  677. I've spent almost the whole sermon

  678. just trying to get

  679. those three terms

  680. into you.

  681. Let's go back

  682. and see how

  683. what I've just been saying

  684. actually flows out

  685. of what the Bible says.

  686. Look at how it's structured.

  687. Actually,

  688. excuse me,

  689. we don't have it up on the text.

  690. This is the advantage

  691. of having your own Bible.

  692. If you look at verse 32,

  693. the last verse

  694. of chapter 4 of Ephesians,

  695. I'll read it to you

  696. if you don't have your Bibles.

  697. It says this,

  698. Be kind to one another,

  699. tender-hearted,

  700. forgiving one another,

  701. as God in Christ

  702. forgave you.

  703. And then you look at chapter 5,

  704. the very next word after it says,

  705. As God in Christ forgave you,

  706. therefore,

  707. therefore,

  708. be imitators of God.

  709. Right?

  710. To be gripped with the idea

  711. that God in Christ forgave you.

  712. Remember,

  713. God in Christ forgave you,

  714. therefore,

  715. be imitators of God

  716. as beloved children

  717. and walk in love.

  718. And walk in love.

  719. As Christ loved us

  720. and gave himself up for us,

  721. a fragrant offering

  722. and sacrifice to God.

  723. on one level,

  724. you want to know

  725. the entire understanding

  726. of Christian moral teaching?

  727. Walk in love.

  728. Walk in love.

  729. That's what Jesus says,

  730. the two great commandments,

  731. love the Lord your God

  732. with all your heart,

  733. mind, soul,

  734. and love your neighbor

  735. as yourself.

  736. Walk in love.

  737. It's said quite a few places

  738. in the New Testament,

  739. walk in love.

  740. But notice here

  741. how what the Bible

  742. is talking about

  743. is not unconditional love.

  744. I don't know

  745. if he invented the term,

  746. but the one

  747. who made the term

  748. of unconditional love

  749. very, very popular

  750. is a man

  751. by the name of Carl Rogers

  752. who invented

  753. a type of therapy

  754. called Rogerian therapy.

  755. Now,

  756. I'm not saying

  757. this next thing

  758. because anything

  759. an atheist says

  760. is dumb

  761. and it's not that.

  762. Obviously,

  763. that would be

  764. a stupid thing

  765. for anybody to say.

  766. But it's very interesting

  767. that Carl Rogers

  768. who invented this term

  769. of unconditional love

  770. as well as other aspects

  771. of his therapy

  772. is also the fellow

  773. who won the award

  774. by the American Humanist Association

  775. for the top atheist

  776. in 1964.

  777. And at the very,

  778. very heart

  779. of Rogers' endeavor

  780. was that he wanted

  781. to separate love

  782. from a sense of morals.

  783. That's what

  784. unconditional means.

  785. He wants to separate out

  786. the idea of right and wrong,

  787. the idea of just and unjust.

  788. He wants to separate

  789. all of that

  790. so that all you have

  791. is unconditional love

  792. and unconditional positive regard.

  793. But that is not a wise idea.

  794. It's very interesting.

  795. One of my favorite authors

  796. is a man,

  797. Reed,

  798. I've had a temporal,

  799. Reed Farrell Coleman.

  800. And you might not remember it,

  801. but several times

  802. over the years

  803. I've quoted parts

  804. of his writings to you.

  805. He's an atheist

  806. and he's very,

  807. very, very articulate

  808. in his stories.

  809. He often articulates

  810. aspects of atheism

  811. just so beautifully.

  812. Occasionally,

  813. I've quoted him to you.

  814. I just finished reading

  815. a novel of his.

  816. And it's an interesting thing

  817. because at the heart

  818. of the novel

  819. is that there's the opioid,

  820. I can't pronounce

  821. that word very well,

  822. the opioid,

  823. is that right?

  824. Vaguely right?

  825. Opioid addiction problem

  826. in this community

  827. where this fellow

  828. is a police chief.

  829. And somebody dies

  830. as a result

  831. of taking this chemical

  832. laced with something

  833. that kills them.

  834. And he tries to figure it out

  835. and he ends up discovering

  836. that many of the,

  837. both some of the poor people,

  838. but many of the rich people,

  839. that their daughters

  840. or their sons,

  841. have become addicted

  842. to the opioid crisis.

  843. And it's very interesting.

  844. Remember,

  845. the writer's an atheist, right?

  846. And the way he,

  847. what he does

  848. is that he does it

  849. very powerfully

  850. in the context

  851. of the narrative

  852. to show that many

  853. of the parents,

  854. what they did is,

  855. in a sense,

  856. they showed unconditional love

  857. to their daughter and son

  858. and ignored their addiction

  859. to the kids' great harm.

  860. In fact,

  861. the young woman

  862. that launches the whole story,

  863. her parents gave her

  864. unconditional love

  865. and turned their eye

  866. and enabled her addiction,

  867. which led to her death

  868. by a drug overdose.

  869. Remember,

  870. the author's an atheist.

  871. And as he's going

  872. to try to figure this out,

  873. he discovers

  874. the different parents

  875. who love their daughter

  876. or their son,

  877. but when they find out

  878. about the addiction,

  879. they take action.

  880. If you have a loved one

  881. and they're addicted

  882. to an opioid

  883. and you turn your eyes

  884. and just unconditionally

  885. love them

  886. and don't confront them

  887. so they will deal

  888. with their addiction,

  889. you are not loving your kid.

  890. You are not loving your kid

  891. or your husband

  892. or your wife

  893. or your grandparents

  894. or your aunt

  895. and your uncle.

  896. You are not loving them.

  897. And it's very powerfully

  898. put in this novel

  899. by an atheist.

  900. You see,

  901. the fact of the matter is

  902. it's not loving

  903. to ignore

  904. all sorts of things

  905. that are going on

  906. in somebody's life

  907. that are just bad.

  908. You know,

  909. if a wife discovers

  910. that her husband

  911. is going to strip shows,

  912. she shouldn't

  913. unconditionally love him.

  914. She should kick him

  915. in the butt

  916. and say

  917. it's unacceptable.

  918. Occasionally,

  919. I've had marriage counseling

  920. with somebody

  921. and at some point in time

  922. it starts to dawn on me

  923. that there's probably

  924. physical abuse

  925. going on

  926. in the marriage.

  927. And so I ask

  928. the direct question

  929. to the woman.

  930. Is this guy hitting you?

  931. Long, silent pause.

  932. Husband sinks lower

  933. in the seat.

  934. Finally,

  935. she says yes.

  936. I don't show the man

  937. unconditional love.

  938. I say,

  939. you gotta stop

  940. hitting your wife.

  941. Beginning of the story,

  942. middle of the story,

  943. end of the story.

  944. Unacceptable.

  945. And I say to her,

  946. I will give you

  947. every help I can

  948. to make sure

  949. he doesn't do it

  950. and if you need to,

  951. you leave him

  952. because it's completely wrong.

  953. And so what do we see here?

  954. You see,

  955. the thing is,

  956. is God's love to you

  957. is not unconditional.

  958. It is unfailing.

  959. And God's unfailing love,

  960. he is also unfailingly good.

  961. He is also unfailingly just.

  962. He is unfailing.

  963. He is unfailingly merciful.

  964. He is unfailingly true.

  965. And none of these things

  966. are in conflict

  967. with each other.

  968. And so it is.

  969. God doesn't look at us

  970. in our condition

  971. and say,

  972. I'm just gonna

  973. unconditionally love George

  974. while he goes to hell.

  975. I'm not gonna

  976. unconditionally love George

  977. while he gives me

  978. the finger

  979. and shakes his fist at me

  980. and does wrong things

  981. and is all massively

  982. screwed up

  983. about possessions

  984. and money

  985. and he's gonna get

  986. more screwed up.

  987. I'm just gonna

  988. unconditionally love him.

  989. No!

  990. Look at it again.

  991. Verse 32 of chapter 4,

  992. As God and Christ

  993. forgave you.

  994. 5.1

  995. Therefore be imitators

  996. of God

  997. as beloved children

  998. walk in love

  999. as Christ loved us

  1000. and gave himself

  1001. up for us

  1002. a fragrant offering

  1003. and sacrifice

  1004. to God.

  1005. Unfailing love

  1006. pays a price

  1007. for the good

  1008. of the other person.

  1009. Clear eyed

  1010. about what is right

  1011. and wrong.

  1012. Clear eyed

  1013. about what is

  1014. destroying their lives.

  1015. God's love

  1016. is not unconditional.

  1017. It is unfailing.

  1018. It is pure.

  1019. And it is completely

  1020. and utterly

  1021. at one with justice

  1022. and mercy

  1023. and the good

  1024. and the true

  1025. and the right.

  1026. And that's what

  1027. we should aspire to.

  1028. That's what we should aspire to.

  1029. So in light of that,

  1030. let's look at the rest

  1031. of the text.

  1032. We'll go through it

  1033. very quickly.

  1034. Right?

  1035. Verse 2

  1036. And walk in love

  1037. as Christ loved us

  1038. and gave himself

  1039. up for us

  1040. a fragrant offering

  1041. and sacrifice

  1042. to God.

  1043. But sexual immorality

  1044. pornea

  1045. and all

  1046. telling

  1047. living your life

  1048. with this deep attitude

  1049. that God

  1050. is not your boss

  1051. and you have to grasp

  1052. your own position

  1053. and your own power

  1054. not trusting God

  1055. or not trusting

  1056. other human beings

  1057. to love you

  1058. or covetousness

  1059. a completely

  1060. and utterly

  1061. screwed up

  1062. relationship

  1063. with possessions

  1064. with positions

  1065. of authority

  1066. and with money

  1067. must not even

  1068. be named among you

  1069. as is proper

  1070. among saints

  1071. and saints here

  1072. just means

  1073. the ordinary

  1074. average Christian.

  1075. if you've given your life

  1076. to Jesus

  1077. you're a saint.

  1078. Let there be no

  1079. filthiness

  1080. nor foolish talk

  1081. nor crude joking

  1082. which are out of place

  1083. but instead

  1084. let there be thanksgiving.

  1085. I don't have time

  1086. to go into it

  1087. don't understand this

  1088. in class terms

  1089. as if it's talking

  1090. about refined people

  1091. in Rockcliffe

  1092. versus how

  1093. the guy

  1094. working the jackhammer

  1095. talks

  1096. this language

  1097. refers to both.

  1098. Okay?

  1099. This isn't

  1100. Rockcliffe people

  1101. I hope

  1102. I'm not insulting

  1103. if you live in Rockcliffe

  1104. I don't mean that way

  1105. but it's not

  1106. class-based

  1107. stuff.

  1108. Okay?

  1109. It's not class-based

  1110. but I don't have time

  1111. to go into it.

  1112. Verse 5

  1113. For you may be sure

  1114. of this

  1115. that everyone

  1116. who is porneia

  1117. or saying

  1118. God you're not my boss

  1119. or who is

  1120. covetous

  1121. that is

  1122. disordered around

  1123. possessions

  1124. money

  1125. and positions

  1126. of authority

  1127. that last problem

  1128. that's the problem

  1129. of idolatry.

  1130. They have no

  1131. inheritance

  1132. in the kingdom

  1133. of Christ

  1134. and God.

  1135. Let no one

  1136. deceive you

  1137. with empty words

  1138. for because

  1139. of these things

  1140. the wrath of God

  1141. comes upon the

  1142. sons of disobedience.

  1143. And by the way

  1144. you might not know this

  1145. but we used to be

  1146. part of the

  1147. Anglican Church of Canada

  1148. our congregation

  1149. is older than

  1150. the Diocese of Ottawa

  1151. and in 2008

  1152. this text is

  1153. perfectly expressing

  1154. why we believed

  1155. we had to separate

  1156. from the Diocese of Ottawa

  1157. because the Diocese of Ottawa

  1158. declared as a doctrine

  1159. that there is a way

  1160. of being sexually disordered

  1161. that is in fact

  1162. not sexually disordered

  1163. but is blessed

  1164. and is something

  1165. that people

  1166. should emulate

  1167. and the Bible

  1168. says it's the

  1169. complete opposite.

  1170. It's the complete opposite.

  1171. Verse 7

  1172. Therefore do not

  1173. become partners

  1174. with them

  1175. and partner

  1176. here means

  1177. it doesn't mean

  1178. that you shouldn't

  1179. work with people

  1180. like that

  1181. it doesn't mean

  1182. you shouldn't

  1183. have neighbors

  1184. like that

  1185. it means a deep

  1186. intimate sharing

  1187. of purpose

  1188. and direction

  1189. with them.

  1190. For at one time

  1191. verse 8

  1192. you were darkness

  1193. but now you are

  1194. light in the Lord

  1195. walk as children

  1196. of light

  1197. for the fruit

  1198. of light

  1199. is found

  1200. in all that is good

  1201. and right

  1202. and true.

  1203. In verse 10

  1204. and this is actually

  1205. not as good a translation

  1206. as it is

  1207. it actually says

  1208. not try to discern

  1209. the Bible

  1210. literally says

  1211. and discern

  1212. it implies

  1213. that you can grow

  1214. it implies

  1215. that God

  1216. is saying

  1217. I'm giving you

  1218. your Holy Spirit

  1219. this is going to happen

  1220. to you

  1221. you are going to

  1222. increase in discernment

  1223. and discern

  1224. what is pleasing

  1225. to the Lord

  1226. take no part

  1227. did I

  1228. oh

  1229. the next part

  1230. verse 11

  1231. sorry yeah

  1232. verse 11

  1233. take no part

  1234. in the unfruitful

  1235. works of darkness

  1236. but instead expose them

  1237. for it is shameful

  1238. even to speak

  1239. of the things

  1240. that they do

  1241. in secret

  1242. verse 13

  1243. but when anything

  1244. is exposed

  1245. by the light

  1246. it becomes visible

  1247. anything that becomes

  1248. visible is light

  1249. therefore it says

  1250. arise oh sleeper

  1251. and rise from the dead

  1252. and Christ

  1253. will shine on you

  1254. just a

  1255. couple of things

  1256. about this

  1257. it's a very very

  1258. compact language

  1259. here

  1260. one of the things

  1261. that we understand

  1262. is that light

  1263. and darkness

  1264. can't coexist

  1265. and once again

  1266. when the Bible

  1267. is describing

  1268. darkness

  1269. it's describing

  1270. the human condition

  1271. and what happens

  1272. is in a sense

  1273. what the Bible

  1274. is saying

  1275. is that you have

  1276. to understand

  1277. that every human

  1278. being is characterized

  1279. by a type of darkness

  1280. and all the darkness

  1281. in the world

  1282. will never create light

  1283. this is another

  1284. image of what

  1285. salvation is

  1286. that all the darkness

  1287. in the world

  1288. will never

  1289. create light

  1290. light

  1291. has to enter

  1292. darkness

  1293. from somewhere

  1294. other than darkness

  1295. light

  1296. is light itself

  1297. and light

  1298. enters darkness

  1299. darkness

  1300. will never

  1301. create light

  1302. and so

  1303. he's giving here

  1304. this

  1305. this

  1306. this simple

  1307. picture image

  1308. of what happens

  1309. and what it means

  1310. to be a Christian

  1311. George

  1312. there is no

  1313. there's nothing

  1314. in me

  1315. that is light

  1316. that comes

  1317. from me

  1318. and the only light

  1319. is that

  1320. uncreated light

  1321. of God

  1322. and God

  1323. the Son of God

  1324. and of the Holy Spirit

  1325. and that uncreated light

  1326. enters the darkness

  1327. and the darkness

  1328. has not understood it

  1329. it hasn't been able

  1330. to comprehend it

  1331. it hasn't been able

  1332. to defeat it

  1333. it hasn't been able

  1334. to overcome it

  1335. and all

  1336. who

  1337. allow

  1338. the light

  1339. to come

  1340. in them

  1341. are no longer

  1342. darkness

  1343. but are light

  1344. and the light

  1345. that I have

  1346. as a Christian

  1347. this isn't something

  1348. I can boast in

  1349. because the light

  1350. doesn't come

  1351. from me

  1352. it comes from

  1353. God

  1354. as a gift

  1355. of grace

  1356. and the light

  1357. that comes

  1358. to me

  1359. that's a gift

  1360. of grace

  1361. is something

  1362. that I reflect

  1363. but does not

  1364. emerge from me

  1365. and this language

  1366. of exposing

  1367. it's all very

  1368. technical language

  1369. if I had time

  1370. you could try

  1371. to unpack

  1372. all of the

  1373. different technical

  1374. language

  1375. but it's basically

  1376. just saying this

  1377. that what you do

  1378. is you share

  1379. with people

  1380. their darkness

  1381. not to depress

  1382. them

  1383. but the light

  1384. bringing the light

  1385. to them

  1386. is telling them

  1387. the gospel

  1388. and the purpose

  1389. of telling them

  1390. the gospel

  1391. is so they receive

  1392. the gospel

  1393. and become light

  1394. that's what he's saying

  1395. it's not a matter

  1396. of us versus them

  1397. it's not about

  1398. the fact that

  1399. I'm so good

  1400. and I've accomplished

  1401. all these things

  1402. and you just suck

  1403. not like that at all

  1404. you share the gospel

  1405. in the hope

  1406. that they receive it

  1407. and they become

  1408. light themselves

  1409. and the really

  1410. interesting thing

  1411. it's just like

  1412. a couple of chapters

  1413. ago

  1414. if you look

  1415. what Paul does

  1416. with these scripture

  1417. texts here

  1418. awake oh sleep

  1419. and arise from the dead

  1420. and Christ will shine

  1421. on you

  1422. it's a bit of a mash

  1423. of part of Isaiah

  1424. I can't remember

  1425. if it's 29 or 26

  1426. and Isaiah 60

  1427. but the interesting

  1428. thing is

  1429. what Paul has done

  1430. here is he's saying

  1431. I'm summarizing

  1432. most of Isaiah

  1433. with these two quotes

  1434. and the way the grammar

  1435. works

  1436. and it's because

  1437. God knew

  1438. what he was going

  1439. to do with Jesus

  1440. 600 years

  1441. after Isaiah

  1442. was written

  1443. that he had

  1444. Isaiah written

  1445. that's what I'm saying

  1446. God knew

  1447. he was going to send

  1448. Jesus in 600 years

  1449. so he had Isaiah

  1450. written

  1451. and these two

  1452. bits of quotes

  1453. of Isaiah

  1454. summarizing a big part

  1455. of the whole message

  1456. of Isaiah

  1457. that's why he wrote

  1458. that 600 years ago

  1459. so people

  1460. would start to

  1461. understand and be

  1462. prepared

  1463. what it is

  1464. that Jesus

  1465. was going to do

  1466. for you

  1467. friends

  1468. there is nothing

  1469. special

  1470. about me

  1471. I am just

  1472. one beggar

  1473. born in darkness

  1474. who received

  1475. the light

  1476. who wants to

  1477. share with you

  1478. that there is

  1479. light

  1480. that can enter

  1481. your darkness

  1482. and make you

  1483. light in such

  1484. a way

  1485. that you begin

  1486. to become

  1487. more light

  1488. in your life

  1489. right now

  1490. but it is

  1491. but a small

  1492. and tiny

  1493. beginning

  1494. but the light

  1495. will never

  1496. leave you

  1497. and will prepare

  1498. you

  1499. for an eternal

  1500. weight

  1501. of glory

  1502. an eternal

  1503. weight

  1504. of glory

  1505. where we are

  1506. perfectly

  1507. ordered

  1508. by our loving

  1509. creator

  1510. and filled

  1511. with him

  1512. in light

  1513. for all

  1514. eternity

  1515. with no end

  1516. invite you to stand

  1517. if you're here

  1518. as a guest

  1519. or you've been

  1520. here for many

  1521. many many many

  1522. years

  1523. and things

  1524. just haven't

  1525. clicked

  1526. very very

  1527. simple

  1528. just say

  1529. father

  1530. there is a

  1531. darkness

  1532. in me

  1533. that cannot

  1534. be defeated

  1535. my attempts

  1536. to defeat

  1537. it are

  1538. darkness

  1539. itself

  1540. you have

  1541. sent

  1542. the true

  1543. light

  1544. into the

  1545. world

  1546. send

  1547. Jesus

  1548. the true

  1549. light

  1550. into my

  1551. life

  1552. that I

  1553. might be

  1554. yours

  1555. that I

  1556. might be

  1557. light

  1558. beginning

  1559. today

  1560. for all

  1561. eternity

  1562. and in

  1563. your own

  1564. words

  1565. say that

  1566. to God

  1567. and he

  1568. will say

  1569. yes

  1570. and for

  1571. the rest

  1572. of us

  1573. there's other

  1574. prayers we have

  1575. to pray

  1576. because we

  1577. all know

  1578. there's things

  1579. within us

  1580. which are

  1581. disordered

  1582. let's pray

  1583. father we

  1584. thank you

  1585. that you

  1586. saw our

  1587. disorder

  1588. you saw

  1589. how we

  1590. grasped at

  1591. possessions

  1592. and grasped

  1593. at money

  1594. and grasped

  1595. at positions

  1596. of authority

  1597. how we

  1598. grasp

  1599. in the

  1600. areas of

  1601. sexuality

  1602. how we

  1603. grasp

  1604. in terms

  1605. of maintaining

  1606. our integrity

  1607. and our

  1608. autonomy

  1609. and our

  1610. terms

  1611. at the

  1612. expense

  1613. of others

  1614. while waving

  1615. our fist

  1616. at you

  1617. father you

  1618. saw all

  1619. those things

  1620. and still

  1621. you loved

  1622. us

  1623. and sent

  1624. jesus

  1625. to die

  1626. upon the

  1627. cross

  1628. for us

  1629. the light

  1630. uncreated

  1631. light

  1632. uncreated

  1633. love

  1634. eternal

  1635. light

  1636. eternal

  1637. love

  1638. entered

  1639. our

  1640. dark

  1641. world

  1642. and died

  1643. in our

  1644. place

  1645. as an

  1646. act of

  1647. love

  1648. that we

  1649. when we

  1650. receive the

  1651. light

  1652. might be

  1653. yours

  1654. forever

  1655. might become

  1656. light

  1657. might become

  1658. a child

  1659. of light

  1660. father grip

  1661. us with

  1662. the

  1663. gospel

  1664. and father

  1665. as you

  1666. help us

  1667. to be

  1668. more

  1669. gripped

  1670. by the

  1671. gospel

  1672. continue

  1673. to help

  1674. us to

  1675. be filled

  1676. by the

  1677. holy

  1678. spirit

  1679. to walk

  1680. in love

  1681. and to

  1682. walk in

  1683. thankfulness

  1684. for all

  1685. that you

  1686. have done

  1687. father

  1688. you know

  1689. our

  1690. deepest

  1691. need

  1692. this

  1693. morning

  1694. the

  1695. deepest

  1696. disorder

  1697. of our

  1698. lives

  1699. right

  1700. this

  1701. morning

  1702. you know

  1703. the

  1704. unique

  1705. deepest

  1706. disorder

  1707. of each

  1708. one

  1709. who is

  1710. here

  1711. and we

  1712. ask

  1713. that

  1714. you

  1715. would

  1716. come

  1717. and bring

  1718. your

  1719. healing

  1720. authoritative

  1721. light

  1722. to bear

  1723. at each

  1724. of our

  1725. points

  1726. of deepest

  1727. disorder

  1728. that you

  1729. sovereignly

  1730. know

  1731. we invite

  1732. you to

  1733. do that

  1734. we give

  1735. you permission

  1736. to do

  1737. that

  1738. we long

  1739. for you

  1740. to do

  1741. that

  1742. that we

  1743. might be

  1744. more like

  1745. Jesus

  1746. and all

  1747. God's

  1748. people said

  1749. Amen