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Three Ways to Almost Be a Christian

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  1. Good morning, everyone.

  2. The scripture reading this morning comes from Matthew chapter 12.

    Matthew 12 chapter mention

  3. You can follow along in the bulletin or in your Bible.

  4. Starting in verse 38, we read,

  5. Then some of the scribes and Pharisees answered him, saying,

  6. Teacher, we wish to see a sign from you.

  7. But he answered them, An evil and adulterous generation seeks for a sign,

  8. but no sign will be given to it except the sign of the prophet Jonah.

  9. For just as Jonah was three days and three nights in the belly of the great fish,

  10. so will the Son of Man be three days and three nights in the heart of the earth.

  11. The men of Nineveh will rise up at the judgment with this generation and condemn it,

  12. for they repented at the preaching of Jonah,

  13. and behold, something greater than Jonah is here.

  14. The queen of the south will rise up at the judgment with this generation and condemn it,

  15. for she came from the ends of the earth to hear the wisdom of Solomon,

  16. and behold, something greater than Solomon is here.

  17. When the unclean spirit has gone out of a person,

  18. it passes through waterless places seeking rest, but finds none.

  19. Then it says, I will return to my house from which I came.

  20. And when it comes, it finds the house empty, swept and put in order.

  21. Then it goes and brings with it seven other spirits more evil than itself,

  22. and they enter and dwell there.

  23. And the last state of that person is worse than the first.

  24. So also will it be with this evil generation.

  25. While he was still speaking to the people,

  26. behold, his mother and his brother stood outside asking to speak to him.

  27. But he replied to the man who told him,

  28. Who is my mother and who are my brothers?

  29. And stretching out his hand towards his disciples,

  30. he said,

  31. Here are my mother and my brothers,

  32. for whoever does the will of my Father in heaven

  33. is my brother and sister and mother.

  34. This is the word of God.

  35. Great. Thank you, Angie.

  36. Well, good morning, everybody.

  37. If you are new to Watermark and you don't know me,

  38. my name is Kevin,

  39. and it's great to be with you this morning.

  40. Let's pray together as we just reflect on God's word

  41. and ask God to speak to us.

  42. Heavenly Father, Lord Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit,

  43. we come before you this morning.

  44. We come to your word because we want to hear from you.

  45. God, even a passage of scripture like this,

  46. which is quite challenging, quite provocative.

  47. God, we sense your tenderness and your love,

  48. your kindness, God.

  49. You bring us these words because you want to reach deep into our hearts

  50. and help us see who you are

  51. to encounter your life-transforming grace.

  52. God, I pray this morning that your word won't just wash over us,

  53. won't just go in and out,

  54. won't just be something interesting we hear

  55. and think about for a few minutes,

  56. but God, you will deeply penetrate our hearts.

  57. God, I pray whether we are on the journey towards faith

  58. or whether we've been Christians for many years

  59. that you, God, will come and meet with us

  60. through your word this morning.

  61. Father, some of us this morning are weary and anxious,

  62. exhausted and heavy laden.

  63. But some of us have had such a big week, Lord.

  64. God, we come to you this morning

  65. because we want to hear you speaking to us

  66. and speaking to our hearts.

  67. God, some of us come empty-handed.

  68. We don't have a whole lot that we bring to the table,

  69. but that's just how you want us to come,

  70. to meet with you.

  71. And so, God, this morning, almost in our hearts,

  72. we want to leave at the door our resumes and our CVs,

  73. all the things that we think credit us to your account.

  74. And we come empty and say,

  75. God, give us your grace, please.

  76. We need you.

  77. Holy Spirit, come and have your way.

  78. We pray this in your wonderful and your gracious name.

  79. Amen.

  80. Amen.

  81. We, as a church, are continuing to work through Matthew's Gospel.

  82. We're in Matthew chapter 12.

    Matthew 12 chapter mention

  83. And a few weeks ago, Chris reminded us that Matthew 11 and 12,

  84. kind of the big theme of this section of Matthew's Gospel

  85. is the response to Jesus.

  86. Jesus has been saying a bunch of things,

  87. doing a bunch of things.

  88. What is the response going to be like?

  89. Do you remember in chapter 11, Jesus says,

  90. this generation is like a bunch of children.

  91. They sing a dirge, and they're upset that I'm not mourning.

  92. They sing a dance song, and they're upset that I'm not dancing.

  93. They want to control me with their responses.

  94. But he says, but I'm not like you.

  95. You can't put me in a box.

  96. John the Baptist comes to Jesus, and he says,

  97. Jesus, I don't know what's going on with you.

  98. I mean, I went telling everyone that you were the Messiah,

  99. and now you don't fulfill my expectations.

  100. What's up with you?

  101. And Matthew 11 and 12 are all about how Jesus,

  102. who Jesus is, doesn't fit neatly into any box.

  103. But what is our response to him going to be like?

  104. Are we going to write him off?

  105. Are we going to bow down and surrender?

  106. And that theme continues in the passage that we're looking at today.

  107. What is the response to Jesus?

  108. And today, the passage is focusing in on the religious leaders.

  109. Jesus has been saying and doing some things.

  110. What are the religious leaders' response to him going to be like?

  111. And in the passage that Angie read to us,

  112. we're going to see three almost counterfeit responses to Jesus.

  113. Or you could say it this way.

  114. Martin Lloyd-Jones, a famous man from many years ago, said,

  115. to almost be a Christian is like being almost saved from drowning in the river.

  116. It's like almost passing your exams.

  117. You might get pretty close, but it doesn't help you at the end of the day.

  118. In the passage that we're going to look at today,

  119. we're going to see what does it look like to almost be a Christian, right?

  120. To get pretty close, but no cigar, as somebody famously said once upon a time.

  121. Okay?

  122. Three ways of coming close to Jesus,

  123. but not encountering his life-transforming grace.

  124. And we're going to look at the negotiator, the renovator, and the tiger mom.

  125. Okay?

  126. So, let's look at the first one, the negotiator.

  127. Okay?

  128. Look at Matthew 12, verse 38 to 42 with me.

    Matthew 12:38–42

  129. Some religious people come to Jesus, and they ask him for a sign,

  130. some proof, some evidence that Jesus is who he said he is.

  131. Now, remember, Jesus has been making some pretty remarkable claims up until this point.

  132. Jesus has been doing some amazing miracles,

  133. but Jesus is constantly saying,

  134. I am the way, the truth, and the life.

  135. The whole point of the Bible is to point to me, says Jesus.

  136. Jesus is not like Buddha, who said,

  137. Don't look to me, look to my teachings.

  138. Remember Buddha on his deathbed, he says to his disciples,

  139. Don't worship me, follow my teachings, follow the Dharma, follow my dogma.

  140. Jesus is not like Muhammad, who said,

  141. I am a prophet, one who will give you the words of Allah.

  142. No, Jesus is constantly saying,

  143. I am God, I am the Son of God.

  144. I am the way, the truth, and the life.

  145. I am the living water.

  146. I am the bread of heaven.

  147. If you want to know God, you've got to come to me.

  148. And so the Pharisees come to Jesus,

  149. and they say,

  150. Give us some proof for these things that you are saying.

  151. Give us some evidence.

  152. And so they are asking for a sign.

  153. But they are asking for more than just a miracle.

  154. Jesus has done lots of miracles up until this point already.

  155. There were many people in the first century that came to be magicians,

  156. and be able to do fancy tricks.

  157. No, they want a clear sign that Jesus comes from heaven.

  158. They want him to bring a legion of angels,

  159. or a pillar of fire from heaven,

  160. or something irrefutable.

  161. They are asking for a sign.

  162. But look at what Jesus says, verse 39.

  163. An evil and adulterous generation seeks for a sign,

  164. and I tell you, no sign will be given to it.

  165. What's Jesus saying here?

  166. Is Jesus saying that Christianity is anti-intellectual?

  167. We shouldn't think about it.

  168. We shouldn't want evidence or proof.

  169. When we read the Bible, when we come to church,

  170. just switch off your brains,

  171. and just blindly follow whatever the preacher tells you to follow.

  172. Now that's not what Jesus is saying.

  173. What the religious leaders are doing here,

  174. they're not coming so much with a request,

  175. they're coming with an excuse.

  176. They're looking not for evidence,

  177. they're looking for a reason not to believe Jesus.

  178. They're coming not with genuine faith,

  179. seeking the truth,

  180. they're seeking an excuse that will allow them

  181. to retain their independence,

  182. and allow them to keep Jesus at arm's length.

  183. They come to Jesus with an excuse

  184. that will allow them to convince themselves

  185. that Jesus is not really who he said he is,

  186. he's not really trustworthy,

  187. he's not really dependable.

  188. And therefore, they can admire him from the distance,

  189. but they don't need to hand over their lives to him.

  190. It's kind of like this.

  191. Imagine you are negotiating a deal with someone,

  192. okay?

  193. And you're around the boardroom table,

  194. and you're negotiating this deal,

  195. and the client says,

  196. listen, I need this and this and this.

  197. And you're like, oh, okay, that's okay,

  198. we'll see if we can do that.

  199. And you come back and you say,

  200. okay, we've got it.

  201. And they say, okay, thanks,

  202. we're almost there,

  203. we just need a few more things,

  204. just X, Y, Z.

  205. I think, okay.

  206. And you go in your range and you come back,

  207. and they say, okay, look,

  208. we're almost there,

  209. just one last thing we need.

  210. We just need the Queen of England

  211. to sign off on this deal,

  212. and then we're good to go, right?

  213. And suddenly you realize

  214. they're not negotiating good faith.

  215. They don't really want the deal.

  216. They're playing games with you, right?

  217. That's something of what the Pharisees are doing here.

  218. They're coming to Jesus,

  219. and they say, Jesus,

  220. we're open to being convinced.

  221. We're ready to follow you.

  222. We just need one more sign.

  223. We know that you've cast out the demons,

  224. you've healed the sick,

  225. you've raised the dead to life.

  226. We just need one more thing from you.

  227. And what they need

  228. is they're looking for an excuse.

  229. Friends, don't we sometimes do the same?

  230. We come to Jesus and say,

  231. Jesus, I'm willing to follow you all in.

  232. I just need you to give me that job.

  233. Just save my marriage.

  234. Just give me a husband.

  235. And then I'm willing to follow you.

  236. Jesus, give me a sign.

  237. Prove yourself.

  238. But look at what Jesus says here.

  239. He says,

  240. An evil and adulterous generation

  241. looks for a sign.

  242. And in the Bible,

  243. the word adultery

  244. is always connected with idolatry.

  245. God is often saying that

  246. his people are adulterous

  247. because something's more important to them than God.

  248. God has been relegated to second place in their lives.

  249. And Jesus says here,

  250. An evil and adulterous people seek for a sign,

  251. and no sign will be given to it

  252. except the sign of the prophet Jonah.

  253. You think, what's Jonah got to do with that?

  254. That was an interesting story.

  255. But what's Jonah got to do with Jesus, right?

  256. There's actually a whole bunch of things

  257. in the story of Jonah

  258. that relate to the gospel.

  259. Think about how Jonah left his home country

  260. to go to a foreign people

  261. to bring them the good news of the gospel.

  262. Just as Jesus left heaven

  263. to come to us

  264. to bring us the good news of the gospel.

  265. Think about how,

  266. in the story of Jonah,

  267. the people of Nineveh

  268. repent and are spared.

  269. God, they encounter God's grace

  270. as they respond to the message.

  271. And just like us,

  272. we will encounter God's grace

  273. as we respond to the message.

  274. But that's actually not what Jesus is talking about.

  275. Because look at what Jesus says in verse 40.

  276. He says,

  277. For just as Jonah was three days and three nights

  278. in the belly of the great fish,

  279. so will the Son of Man,

  280. that's himself,

  281. be three days and three nights

  282. in the heart of the earth.

  283. Jesus is saying that

  284. if you want a sign,

  285. I'll give you a sign.

  286. I'll give you the greatest sign

  287. you can ever imagine.

  288. I will die,

  289. I'll be buried in the tomb,

  290. and I will rise again from the dead.

  291. Jesus says,

  292. If you want a sign,

  293. there's only one sign

  294. that you really need.

  295. One thing you need to understand

  296. to really be a Christian,

  297. to encounter my grace.

  298. And that is the fact that

  299. I am going to die on the cross

  300. and be buried in the grave

  301. for the sins of the world,

  302. and I will rise again

  303. on the third day.

  304. I will conquer sin,

  305. I will conquer death,

  306. I will conquer Satan,

  307. I will die for your sins

  308. and rise again.

  309. You need a sign?

  310. There's only one sign you need.

  311. Trust in what I'm going to do on the cross.

  312. Look to Calvary.

  313. Look to Golgotha.

  314. Look to the empty tomb

  315. and see there who I am.

  316. Jesus says,

  317. If you take hold of Calvary,

  318. if you wrestle with that,

  319. if you wrestle with what I'm going to do on the cross,

  320. grapple with what that means,

  321. you'll see who I am,

  322. and you'll understand

  323. what the Bible is all about.

  324. Jesus says that,

  325. or let me put it this way.

  326. Do you remember John chapter 12?

    John 12 chapter mention

  327. Jesus says this remarkable thing.

  328. Jesus talks about Calvary

  329. as his moment of glory.

  330. You think,

  331. what?

  332. His moment of glory?

  333. Surely Calvary was the moment of shame,

  334. right?

  335. That's like the worst day in Jesus' life.

  336. Jesus had a bad day in the office

  337. on Good Friday,

  338. right?

  339. That's the lowest point in human history,

  340. but Jesus talks about it

  341. as his moment of glory.

  342. You know what Jesus is saying?

  343. He's saying,

  344. If you look at Calvary

  345. and you understand what I'm doing there,

  346. that I went to the cross

  347. for the sins of the world,

  348. you'll see who I really am.

  349. You'll see my glory.

  350. You'll see my majesty.

  351. Look,

  352. miss that,

  353. and you miss everything about Christianity.

  354. You may see the signs.

  355. You see the miracles.

  356. You see the dead rising from the grave.

  357. You see the healings.

  358. You see my wise teachings,

  359. but miss Calvary,

  360. you miss it all.

  361. Jesus says that if you miss Calvary,

  362. you could almost be a Christian,

  363. but you'll be like a drowning man

  364. that is almost saved.

  365. You might know everything there is

  366. to know about the Bible,

  367. but you won't know who Jesus is.

  368. You won't encounter

  369. his life-transforming power.

  370. Sometimes I talk to people

  371. and I ask them,

  372. Hey,

  373. how did you become a Christian?

  374. They'll say,

  375. Oh,

  376. well,

  377. my mom was diagnosed with cancer

  378. and I prayed and said,

  379. God,

  380. if you'll save my mom,

  381. I'll become a Christian.

  382. Or I needed a job.

  383. I was out of work.

  384. Money was tight.

  385. I said,

  386. God,

  387. if you give me a job,

  388. I'll follow you for the rest of my life.

  389. Friends,

  390. that's not a Christian.

  391. That's a negotiator,

  392. right?

  393. That's a business person.

  394. But God says that what we need

  395. is not to negotiate with Jesus.

  396. We need to see what Jesus did on the cross.

  397. We need to see that we were dead in our sins

  398. and Jesus came

  399. and he died

  400. and he rose again to save us.

  401. John 3,

  402. 16 says,

  403. God so loved the world

  404. that he sent his very best negotiator.

  405. No,

  406. no,

  407. he didn't.

  408. He sent his son

  409. that whoever will believe in him,

  410. that means whoever will hand over their life to him,

  411. whoever will see what Jesus did on the cross

  412. will be saved.

  413. Now,

  414. here's the question.

  415. Why this sign?

  416. I mean,

  417. Jesus did many amazing things,

  418. right?

  419. Why this sign?

  420. Why not,

  421. you know,

  422. Jesus,

  423. if you want to establish heaven on earth,

  424. why not destroy the Romans?

  425. Send a legion of,

  426. an angel,

  427. an army of angels.

  428. Jesus,

  429. send a pillar of fire

  430. and destroy all those idol workers,

  431. idol worshipers.

  432. That'll,

  433. that'll get people's attention.

  434. That'll get people to worship you.

  435. We may think the same things.

  436. You know,

  437. sometimes I think,

  438. listen,

  439. Jesus,

  440. if you want to establish your kingdom,

  441. just wipe out COVID,

  442. right?

  443. Or,

  444. or end world poverty,

  445. or just annihilate all those child abusers.

  446. Then we'll know that you really are the king.

  447. But Jesus says,

  448. those signs are not sufficient.

  449. They're not good enough.

  450. Why this sign?

  451. Why Calvary?

  452. Jesus is saying here,

  453. that all those other things are not sufficient

  454. because the human heart is so twisted,

  455. we'll find a way of using those things for ourselves

  456. rather than surrendering it to him.

  457. In other words,

  458. you need a job.

  459. You say,

  460. God,

  461. if you give me a job,

  462. I'll worship you all my days.

  463. He gives you a job.

  464. Well,

  465. who's still on the throne of your life?

  466. I am,

  467. right?

  468. I'll come to church.

  469. I'll say,

  470. Jesus,

  471. thank you so much.

  472. I'll,

  473. I'll give him my token worship,

  474. my token offering,

  475. but I'm still on the throne of my life.

  476. I'm still king.

  477. Jesus says,

  478. if you grapple with the cross and what that means,

  479. it'll pierce your pride.

  480. It'll crucify your pride.

  481. There's no ways you can really see the majesty of Jesus on the cross

  482. and still be king of your life on the throne.

  483. If you grapple with what Jesus was doing on the cross,

  484. that he was dying for you and for your sin,

  485. for your rebellion,

  486. your pride will have to be pierced.

  487. It'll have to be dismantled.

  488. And that will lead to true life.

  489. I don't know if you remember,

  490. in Luke chapter 16,

    Luke 16 chapter mention

  491. Jesus tells this fascinating parable.

  492. He says,

  493. there was this really rich man one day,

  494. and there was a poor beggar that used to live outside his house.

  495. And the poor beggar,

  496. his name was Lazarus.

  497. And one day,

  498. both of these guys die.

  499. And the rich man,

  500. unfortunately,

  501. he ends up in hell,

  502. and the beggar is enjoying the luxury of heaven.

  503. And so this rich man,

  504. he looks up into heaven,

  505. and he sees Lazarus in heaven.

  506. And he says to Abraham,

  507. Abraham,

  508. I'm dying here in hell.

  509. Look,

  510. it's really hot.

  511. Send Lazarus to give me a glass of water.

  512. And Abraham says,

  513. no,

  514. no,

  515. I can't do that.

  516. It's too late.

  517. And so the rich man says,

  518. listen,

  519. if you can't do anything for me,

  520. the one thing you can do,

  521. send somebody from heaven to go and warn my father and my brothers.

  522. Tell them that I'm in hell,

  523. and they don't want to end up here.

  524. Give them a warning to repent,

  525. to change their ways,

  526. to go to heaven.

  527. And Abraham says,

  528. no,

  529. no,

  530. you know,

  531. they've got Moses,

  532. they've got the prophets.

  533. They must listen to them.

  534. And the rich man says,

  535. listen,

  536. they won't listen to Moses and the prophets,

  537. but if somebody rises from the dead and tells them,

  538. then they'll listen.

  539. But listen to what Jesus says in verse 31.

  540. He says,

  541. if they will not listen to Moses and the prophets,

  542. neither will they be convinced if someone should rise from the dead.

  543. What's Jesus saying?

  544. Friends,

  545. sometimes people say,

  546. I'd believe in Jesus if ABC would happen.

  547. I'll follow Jesus if X,

  548. Y,

  549. Z.

  550. If someone were to rise from the dead and come and die,

  551. tell me what heaven is like,

  552. then I'll believe.

  553. No,

  554. you wouldn't.

  555. No,

  556. you wouldn't.

  557. Jesus saying that if our hearts are too hard to believe the resurrection,

  558. that Jesus conquered the grave,

  559. they'll be too hard to believe,

  560. even if someone that was dead were to walk in this door this morning.

  561. Jesus says,

  562. the problem is not the evidence.

  563. It's not the sign.

  564. It's a hard and unbelieving heart.

  565. It's the issue of pride in our lives.

  566. It's a heart that doesn't want to surrender.

  567. The Pharisees come and say,

  568. give us a sign and we'll believe.

  569. And Jesus says,

  570. even if I were to move this mountain from here to there,

  571. you still wouldn't believe.

  572. Your hearts are hard.

  573. The sign is sufficient,

  574. says Douglas O'Donnell.

  575. The death and the resurrection are more than enough,

  576. but it's not enough to those who will not believe.

  577. And so look at what Jesus says in verse 42 and 43.

  578. Jesus quotes two well-known instances from the Old Testament.

  579. The story of Jonah going to Ninevites

  580. and the queen of Sheba coming to Solomon.

  581. And he says,

  582. these two people,

  583. who very offensively were Gentiles,

  584. okay,

  585. it's like the most offensive thing Jesus can say to the Pharisees.

  586. These two Gentiles are better off than you guys

  587. because they responded to the message.

  588. They saw the sign.

  589. They responded to the message.

  590. And you're going to see me rising from the dead

  591. and you still won't believe.

  592. Friends,

  593. are you almost a Christian this morning?

  594. Have you come close,

  595. but you haven't quite handed over your life to Jesus?

  596. What's stopping you from surrendering this morning?

  597. Friends,

  598. what's stopping you from handing over your life to Jesus?

  599. Jesus.

  600. You're not so sure about the resurrection?

  601. Okay,

  602. go and do the research.

  603. Go read the books.

  604. Go examine the evidence.

  605. You'll find that Jesus Christ died and he rose again.

  606. He was in the tomb,

  607. but he rose from the grave.

  608. You'll be confronted by the facts.

  609. But more than that,

  610. you'll be confronted with the fact that Jesus died for you.

  611. He died for your sin.

  612. He died because your sin has cut you off from God.

  613. Jesus Christ left heaven.

  614. Like Jonah left Jerusalem to go to Nineveh,

  615. Jesus left heaven to go to the cross for you.

  616. Friends,

  617. what's stopping you from handing over your life?

  618. Don't almost be a Christian.

  619. Don't almost be saved.

  620. Come and encounter the life-transforming power of the living God.

  621. Come to Jesus with a humble heart this morning.

  622. Okay?

  623. That's what true and saving faith looks like.

  624. To see who Jesus is,

  625. to grapple with the cross,

  626. to be confronted by the problem of sin,

  627. and to turn to Jesus in faith and repentance.

  628. Okay,

  629. you still with me?

  630. Okay,

  631. thank you.

  632. Okay,

  633. that's the longest one.

  634. Okay,

  635. the next two are a bit shorter.

  636. So firstly,

  637. the negotiator.

  638. Secondly,

  639. the renovator.

  640. Well,

  641. look at what Jesus says in verse 43 and 45.

  642. He says,

  643. What's Jesus saying?

  644. saying here.

  645. What's going on?

  646. Jesus is saying that one way to almost be a Christian,

  647. to think that you're a Christian,

  648. to be fooled into thinking you're a Christian,

  649. is to see Jesus and Christianity as a self-improvement project.

  650. I don't know if you've ever said this,

  651. or maybe you've got a friend that said it.

  652. You say,

  653. Listen,

  654. my life's out of control.

  655. I've got to clean up my life,

  656. right?

  657. All these late nights,

  658. all these parties,

  659. these one-night stands.

  660. Listen,

  661. it's not any good for me.

  662. I've got to clean up my life.

  663. Okay?

  664. And so we think,

  665. I'm going to stop the potting,

  666. stop the drinking.

  667. I'm going to get spiritual,

  668. do a bit of yoga,

  669. a bit of Jesus.

  670. I'm going to come back to church,

  671. and I'm going to clean up my life.

  672. Okay?

  673. But look at what Jesus says here.

  674. Jesus says,

  675. you can clean up shop,

  676. you can clean up some of the external behavior,

  677. sweep out the junk,

  678. quit the smoking,

  679. quit the drinking,

  680. quit the one-night stands,

  681. and yet,

  682. unless you fill that void,

  683. with something more powerful,

  684. more beautiful,

  685. actually,

  686. you're just dealing with the symptoms.

  687. You're not dealing with the heart issues.

  688. Jesus says,

  689. you've got to replace the void,

  690. with something more wonderful.

  691. You've got to fall more in love,

  692. with something else.

  693. Otherwise,

  694. you're just going to fill that void,

  695. with some other vice.

  696. I've told the story,

  697. many times before,

  698. so you'll know this.

  699. I should just say,

  700. you know,

  701. it's that story,

  702. right?

  703. Then you all know the story.

  704. But,

  705. a friend of ours in Cape Town,

  706. really struggled with drinking a lot,

  707. would,

  708. you know,

  709. go get a bottle of wine,

  710. just for herself,

  711. and finish it within a couple of hours,

  712. all on her own.

  713. And one day she says,

  714. listen,

  715. this is getting out of hand,

  716. I've got to stop the drinking,

  717. right?

  718. And so she,

  719. she stops the drinking.

  720. But then she can't stop,

  721. weird relationships,

  722. toxic relationships.

  723. And there's one-night stands here,

  724. one-night stands there,

  725. and that's unhelpful.

  726. And so,

  727. she soon says,

  728. oh,

  729. that's not good.

  730. I've got to stop these relationships.

  731. It's not good for my work,

  732. and my,

  733. all these things.

  734. But then she can't stop spending money.

  735. And she gets into debt,

  736. buying this handbag,

  737. and that pair of shoes.

  738. What's happening?

  739. She's cleaning up the life,

  740. but rather than filling the void,

  741. with something more real and substantial,

  742. it's just jumping from one symptom,

  743. to the next.

  744. Thomas Chalmers,

  745. was a Scottish economist,

  746. and a preacher,

  747. from 200 years ago.

  748. And he preached this amazing sermon,

  749. called,

  750. The Expulsive Power of a New Affection.

  751. Okay?

  752. And what he says is,

  753. if you try and clean up your life,

  754. by just dealing with the surface things,

  755. unless,

  756. something more attractive,

  757. something more beautiful,

  758. fills the void,

  759. you're not going to really deal with the substance.

  760. He says,

  761. in order to change your life,

  762. you've got to,

  763. fall more in love,

  764. with something,

  765. with something new.

  766. Okay?

  767. Maybe a simple example of this is,

  768. you want to get healthy,

  769. you've got to be more in love,

  770. with the idea of a healthy body,

  771. than the bar of chocolate.

  772. Okay?

  773. You can't just say,

  774. I won't eat chocolate,

  775. I won't eat chocolate,

  776. and then,

  777. Kathy Tom's chocolate cookies come along,

  778. and you think,

  779. I'm not eating chocolate,

  780. but I'm eating this.

  781. Right?

  782. You've got to be more in love,

  783. with something else.

  784. So,

  785. let's listen to how Thomas Chalmers says it.

  786. He says it better than me.

  787. He says,

  788. a person's sinful desires,

  789. are not gotten rid of,

  790. simply by destroying them.

  791. They must be gotten rid of,

  792. by substituting them,

  793. with another desire in its place.

  794. The most effective way,

  795. of withdrawing the mind,

  796. from one object of desire,

  797. is not by turning it to nothingness,

  798. but by presenting to it,

  799. another object,

  800. which is even more attractive.

  801. The heart is so designed,

  802. the only way to dispossess it,

  803. of one old affection,

  804. is by the expulsive power,

  805. of a new one.

  806. Okay?

  807. Do you see what he's saying there?

  808. That's what Jesus is saying here.

  809. He's saying,

  810. you want to clean up your life?

  811. You can't just say,

  812. oh,

  813. I've got to clean up shop,

  814. I've got to stop the drinking,

  815. stop the smoking,

  816. I'm going to be a better person.

  817. You've got to fall more in love with Jesus.

  818. Jesus is saying,

  819. if you come to him and say,

  820. oh,

  821. Jesus,

  822. my life's a bit of a mess,

  823. I've got to clean up,

  824. will you help me clean up?

  825. But you don't get off the throne of your life,

  826. if you still hold on to the keys of your heart,

  827. you're just going to replace one vice with another.

  828. What you've got to do is,

  829. you've got to hand over the keys of your heart to Jesus,

  830. and say,

  831. here they are,

  832. you have your way.

  833. You've got to hand over the combination to the vault of your heart to Jesus,

  834. and say,

  835. Jesus,

  836. here's the combination.

  837. You've got to get off the throne and say,

  838. Jesus Christ,

  839. you're on the throne,

  840. have your way in my life.

  841. It's like,

  842. I don't know if you've seen on Netflix,

  843. those home renovation projects,

  844. right?

  845. Someone buys an old house,

  846. and they want to clean it up,

  847. and there's damp on the wall,

  848. and they say,

  849. I'll just paint over it.

  850. If you just paint over it,

  851. it's just going to reemerge.

  852. You've got to get to the root issue.

  853. You've got to get right to the heart.

  854. Jesus says here,

  855. that if you clean up your life,

  856. you can stop the drinking,

  857. you can put a filter on your phone,

  858. so you don't look at porn.

  859. You can ask Jesus to clean up your heart,

  860. but if you just clean up the external behavior,

  861. you'll be worse off,

  862. because your heart will still be full of pride.

  863. It'll still be full of self-sufficiency.

  864. It'll still be full of self-worship.

  865. Unless you come to Jesus and say,

  866. Jesus,

  867. you have your place in my life.

  868. Something else will fill the void,

  869. and you'll be left worse off,

  870. because you'll think you're a Christian,

  871. but you're still worshiping yourself.

  872. You'll never be transformed,

  873. never be changed.

  874. The idols of your heart won't be removed.

  875. They'll just have a new facade on.

  876. Jesus says,

  877. don't come to him just as a renovator.

  878. Don't come and ask him to clean up your life.

  879. Come to him and worship.

  880. Come to him and surrender.

  881. Come and put him on the throne of your life.

  882. Come and say,

  883. you have your way in my life.

  884. Everything I am,

  885. mind, body, soul, strength,

  886. money, sexuality, finances,

  887. all of it, it's yours.

  888. Jesus, come and have your way.

  889. That way you'll encounter the living God.

  890. Okay,

  891. don't come to Jesus as a negotiator.

  892. Don't come as a renovator.

  893. Don't come as a tiger mom.

  894. Okay, look at what he says in verse 46.

  895. While still speaking to the people,

  896. behold,

  897. his mother and his brothers stood outside,

  898. asking to speak to him.

  899. But he replied to the man who told them,

  900. who is my mother?

  901. Who are my brothers?

  902. Stretching out his hand towards his disciples,

  903. he says,

  904. here are my mother and my brothers.

  905. Whoever does the will of my father in heaven

  906. is my brother,

  907. my sister,

  908. and my mother.

  909. In this final story,

  910. Jesus' family members come to him

  911. and they say,

  912. Jesus,

  913. this stuff is getting out of hand now.

  914. Come and do your homework.

  915. Okay,

  916. Jesus,

  917. come back home.

  918. This ministry thing,

  919. there's people everywhere.

  920. You're not getting some rest.

  921. Come,

  922. you need an early night.

  923. And they're trying to tell Jesus what to do.

  924. But Jesus' family members

  925. think that they've got a claim on his life

  926. because of their proximity to him

  927. or because of some past experiences.

  928. Because of Jesus growing up in their home,

  929. they think they've got a claim on him,

  930. right?

  931. But Jesus doesn't buy that.

  932. Jesus says something remarkably offensive.

  933. He says,

  934. you think that because you're my family,

  935. you've got an inside track.

  936. You've got a backstage pass

  937. to tell me what to do

  938. and how to live my life.

  939. You think that because of your connection with me,

  940. you get to manage me.

  941. But Jesus says that actually,

  942. the relationship has changed.

  943. No one gets to manage me

  944. because I'm the son of God,

  945. not just the son of man.

  946. Sometimes,

  947. you know,

  948. we hear people saying,

  949. you know,

  950. back in the 1990s,

  951. I went on this amazing mission trip

  952. and I smuggled Bibles into Pakistan

  953. and I faced the firing squad

  954. and then their guns didn't work

  955. and then I preached to the leader

  956. and then they all fell down their knees

  957. and it was amazing,

  958. right?

  959. And we're still living on

  960. what happened in the 1990s.

  961. Or someone might say,

  962. you know,

  963. back in 2000,

  964. John Piper came

  965. and he laid his hands on me

  966. and he commissioned me

  967. and he told me

  968. I was going to be a great person

  969. and I feel so good about myself.

  970. Or maybe you hear people say,

  971. I know I'm a Christian

  972. because I was christened

  973. or baptized by the bishop.

  974. Or I was confirmed

  975. in confirmation class

  976. back when I was a teenager.

  977. And we look back

  978. to some historical connection,

  979. some past event

  980. to give us confidence

  981. about our relationship with Jesus.

  982. But Jesus says,

  983. this is the one

  984. that has relationship with me.

  985. The one who's walking in obedience

  986. to my father today.

  987. It's not about what happened

  988. back in 1990

  989. or what happened in 2005.

  990. What's our life like today?

  991. What's our relationship

  992. with Jesus like today?

  993. You know,

  994. one of the remarkable things

  995. about Watermark

  996. is the number of people here

  997. whose parents

  998. are in Christian ministry

  999. or were in Christian ministry

  1000. or pastors.

  1001. It's actually unbelievable

  1002. how many people in our church

  1003. grew up in homes

  1004. where their parents

  1005. were in ministry.

  1006. But friends,

  1007. your parents,

  1008. being a pastor,

  1009. doesn't give you access

  1010. to Jesus.

  1011. You being confirmed

  1012. by the great bishop

  1013. or in St. John's Cathedral

  1014. doesn't give you access

  1015. to Jesus.

  1016. You doing some great exploit

  1017. for Jesus back in the day

  1018. doesn't mean

  1019. you're walking with him.

  1020. As wonderful as those things are,

  1021. they don't put us

  1022. in Jesus' good books.

  1023. They don't make you a Christian.

  1024. The world may look

  1025. at those things

  1026. and say,

  1027. oh, look at your great CV,

  1028. your resume.

  1029. Jesus says,

  1030. who is my mother?

  1031. Who are my brothers?

  1032. It's the one who does

  1033. the will of my Father

  1034. in heaven.

  1035. Jesus says the same thing

  1036. in Matthew chapter 7.

    Matthew 7 chapter mention

  1037. He says,

  1038. some people are going

  1039. to come to him

  1040. and say,

  1041. Lord, Lord,

  1042. didn't we prophesy

  1043. in your name?

  1044. Didn't we cast out demons?

  1045. Didn't we do many mighty works

  1046. in your name?

  1047. Jesus,

  1048. look at all the boards

  1049. that I've sat on.

  1050. Look at how I've funded

  1051. all these ministries.

  1052. And Jesus says,

  1053. I will say to you,

  1054. I never knew you

  1055. because you did not do

  1056. the will of my Father

  1057. in heaven.

  1058. Friends,

  1059. it's not proximity

  1060. to Christian stuff.

  1061. It's not proximity

  1062. to Christian relationships.

  1063. It's not an impressive

  1064. Christian resume or CV.

  1065. Those things don't guarantee

  1066. genuine faith.

  1067. Those things don't make

  1068. you a Christian.

  1069. Those things don't allow us

  1070. to encounter the life-transforming

  1071. power of Jesus.

  1072. It's a surrendered heart.

  1073. Friends,

  1074. you serve in the kids' ministry team?

  1075. That's wonderful.

  1076. But what are you like

  1077. on a Thursday afternoon

  1078. in the boardroom?

  1079. Is your heart surrendered

  1080. to Jesus?

  1081. You sing in the worship team

  1082. on a Sunday morning?

  1083. That's wonderful.

  1084. But what are you like

  1085. on a Tuesday night

  1086. in the university hall?

  1087. Is your heart surrendered

  1088. to Jesus?

  1089. Is Christ first in your life?

  1090. Friends,

  1091. maybe you give

  1092. a wonderful check

  1093. to the church.

  1094. You serve at ICM.

  1095. That's fantastic.

  1096. But how do you love

  1097. your wife?

  1098. Do you welcome people

  1099. as Christ has welcomed you?

  1100. Or is our life filled

  1101. with bitterness

  1102. and anger,

  1103. resentment?

  1104. Or is it filled

  1105. with the sweetness

  1106. of Jesus?

  1107. Friends,

  1108. don't come to Jesus

  1109. as a negotiator.

  1110. Don't come looking

  1111. for a sign

  1112. to try and wangle your way.

  1113. Come to Him as Lord.

  1114. Come to Him

  1115. like the Ninevites.

  1116. Come in repentance

  1117. and say,

  1118. Jesus,

  1119. have your way.

  1120. Don't come to Jesus

  1121. as a home-proven project,

  1122. as a renovator,

  1123. saying,

  1124. Jesus,

  1125. I need you to fix up

  1126. this area of my life,

  1127. clean up the junk

  1128. so I can get back

  1129. on my way.

  1130. No, no, friends,

  1131. come to Jesus

  1132. as a worshiper.

  1133. Come and hand over

  1134. your life.

  1135. Come and surrender.

  1136. Say,

  1137. Jesus,

  1138. have your way.

  1139. Heart, soul, body, mind, strength.

  1140. Have all of it.

  1141. Jesus,

  1142. come and sit on the throne.

  1143. Hand over the keys

  1144. of your heart to Him.

  1145. Friends,

  1146. don't come to Jesus

  1147. thinking that you can

  1148. tell Him what to do

  1149. or how He can fit

  1150. into your life.

  1151. Come to Him as Lord.

  1152. Come to Him as King.

  1153. Come in humility.

  1154. Come and obey Him.

  1155. Come and say,

  1156. Jesus,

  1157. have your way.

  1158. Friends,

  1159. the one way to come to Jesus,

  1160. Jesus says at the end

  1161. of the previous chapter,

  1162. He says,

  1163. come to me,

  1164. all you who are weary

  1165. and heavy laden.

  1166. You who have been

  1167. trying to control me,

  1168. you who have been

  1169. trying to control

  1170. your own life,

  1171. come to me

  1172. and I will give you rest.

  1173. Come and hand over

  1174. your life.

  1175. Come and take my yoke

  1176. upon you.

  1177. Come and take my authority

  1178. upon you.

  1179. Come and step off

  1180. the throne of your life

  1181. and say,

  1182. Jesus,

  1183. have your way.

  1184. Do that

  1185. and you'll find life.

  1186. Do that

  1187. and you'll encounter

  1188. the life-transforming

  1189. power of the gospel.

  1190. Do that

  1191. and you'll find

  1192. Jesus.

  1193. Do that

  1194. and you'll find life.

  1195. Let's pray together.

  1196. Lord Jesus Christ,

  1197. we come to you

  1198. this morning

  1199. because you are God

  1200. and we are not.

  1201. Father,

  1202. we come and acknowledge,

  1203. confess,

  1204. that Lord,

  1205. so often

  1206. in our lives,

  1207. Lord,

  1208. we try to fit you in.

  1209. We try to give you

  1210. a share of our lives.

  1211. a minority share.

  1212. But Jesus,

  1213. this morning,

  1214. you're telling us

  1215. that you won't take

  1216. a minority shareholding.

  1217. You won't be accommodated.

  1218. You'll either be

  1219. Lord of all

  1220. or you will not be

  1221. Lord at all.

  1222. And so Jesus,

  1223. we come before you

  1224. this morning.

  1225. Help us not to be

  1226. like the religious leaders.

  1227. Help us to not be

  1228. like the Pharisees.

  1229. Help us,

  1230. God,

  1231. to rather be like

  1232. the Ninevites

  1233. who heard the message

  1234. and responded.

  1235. Help us,

  1236. Lord Jesus,

  1237. to get on our knees

  1238. and to say,

  1239. you are God

  1240. and have your way

  1241. in our life.

  1242. Jesus,

  1243. we pray,

  1244. won't you take

  1245. hold of the keys

  1246. of our heart.

  1247. God,

  1248. this morning,

  1249. we want to give you

  1250. the access codes

  1251. to our hearts,

  1252. to the very center,

  1253. the very throne room

  1254. of our lives.

  1255. Jesus,

  1256. the things that we

  1257. struggle with,

  1258. the things that we

  1259. are fearful of,

  1260. the things we want

  1261. to control,

  1262. Christ,

  1263. come and have your way.

  1264. Friends,

  1265. maybe some of us

  1266. here this morning

  1267. are not followers

  1268. of Jesus.

  1269. Maybe you've been

  1270. religious your entire life.

  1271. You got baptized

  1272. as an infant.

  1273. You were confirmed

  1274. as a teenager.

  1275. You've been going

  1276. to church your whole life,

  1277. but your whole life

  1278. you've held onto

  1279. the reins of your life.

  1280. You've maybe

  1281. tried to negotiate

  1282. with Jesus.

  1283. You've tried to give him

  1284. a share of your life.

  1285. This morning,

  1286. Jesus looks you

  1287. in the eye

  1288. and he says,

  1289. you want to be saved?

  1290. You want to encounter

  1291. the gospel?

  1292. You want to encounter

  1293. my life transforming power?

  1294. Hand over the keys.

  1295. Friends,

  1296. this morning,

  1297. will you hand over

  1298. the keys of your life

  1299. to Jesus?

  1300. This morning,

  1301. will you confess

  1302. your sin?

  1303. Will you come

  1304. face to face

  1305. with the cross

  1306. that Jesus went

  1307. to the cross for you

  1308. because your sin

  1309. has separated him

  1310. from him?

  1311. Will you come

  1312. and hand over

  1313. all your excuses?

  1314. Hand over your resume?

  1315. Come empty-handed

  1316. and come let Jesus

  1317. flood you

  1318. and change you.

  1319. Come and let Jesus

  1320. be King and Lord.

  1321. Lord.

  1322. Lord.

  1323. Lord.

  1324. Lord.

  1325. Lord.

  1326. Lord.

  1327. Lord.

  1328. This morning,

  1329. come and do that.

  1330. Why don't you

  1331. in your own heart

  1332. just pray a simple prayer

  1333. and say,

  1334. Lord Jesus,

  1335. I believe that you are real.

  1336. I believe that you want

  1337. to forgive me of my sin.

  1338. I let you be Lord

  1339. of my life.

  1340. Come and have your way.

  1341. Can you pray that?

  1342. Ask Jesus to be King.

  1343. He'll change you.

  1344. He won't just change

  1345. the superficial facade.

  1346. God.

  1347. He'll change you

  1348. from the inside out.

  1349. He'll make you

  1350. a brand new person.

  1351. He'll change your life

  1352. altogether.

  1353. Lord Jesus,

  1354. we pray for our church

  1355. and Watermark Church

  1356. that you will come

  1357. and have your way.

  1358. That you will come

  1359. and not just

  1360. as a facade,

  1361. not just on the surface level.

  1362. Christ,

  1363. won't you come

  1364. and be central?

  1365. Won't you have

  1366. the keys of the church

  1367. in a way?

  1368. Lord,

  1369. won't you come

  1370. and be Lord of our lives

  1371. and Lord of Watermark Church?

  1372. In every area,

  1373. in every way,

  1374. Jesus,

  1375. come and be Lord.

  1376. We pray this

  1377. in your great

  1378. and your awesome name.

  1379. Amen.

  1380. Amen.