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Firm Foundations: Week 5

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  1. Today we are finishing our message series called Firm Foundations. We've been looking at

  2. the ten Commandments in Exodus chapter twenty, and today one of the commandments we're

  3. gonna look at is a commandment that my mom instilled in me. My mom

  4. taught me this commandment. She repeated this commandment and reminded me of this commandment.

  5. And so let's look at Exodus chapter twenty, verse seven. You shall

  6. not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord

  7. will not hold him guiltless who takes his name in vain. Now, my

  8. mom taught me, do not take the Lord's name in vain. My mom

  9. taught me that I'm not allowed to use God's name as a curse word or

  10. a swear word. I wasn't allowed to say things like oh my God,

  11. or I swear to God. I wasn't even allowed. I would get in

  12. trouble if I said gosh or golly, because those were substitutes for God's name,

  13. and that's just as bad as using his name. Anybody else raised like

  14. that, or is it just me? But that's how my mom taught me.

  15. And so today we're gonna look at two of the ten commandments numbers three

  16. and numbers five. We're gonna look at these two commandments together, and these

  17. commandments all have to do with the theme of honor. Honor is our theme

  18. today. We're talking about honor. That commandment we just read is about honoring

  19. God's name, and then the next commandment we're gonna read is about honoring others.

  20. Take a look at verse twelve. We read honor your father and your

  21. mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your

  22. God is giving you. So this message today is all about honor. And

  23. here's how I want you to think about honor with me. I want you

  24. to think about honor as vertical honor and horizontal honor. There's two approaches to

  25. honor. So if we look here, you and I, we are gonna

  26. honor God vertically, we give honor to God and his name, and we're

  27. gonna honor others horizontally, other people, other family members, we're gonna honor

  28. others. So this is honor vertically and honor horizontally. So let's talk first

  29. about honor vertically. Let's talk about honoring God's name. I brought along with

  30. me this three legged stool because I think there are three components or three legs

  31. to honoring God's name. Now, let me ask you, as you look

  32. at this three legged stool, which of these legs is the most important leg.

  33. That's a trick question. Now which leg could I remove and not compromise

  34. the stool? That's another trick question. I want to talk about three components

  35. or three legs to honoring God's names because I think there are three ways that

  36. we might dishonor God's name. And so the first one, the first leg,

  37. is misusing God's name carelessly. That's the first leg, misusing God's name

  38. carelessly. In the NIV translation, Exodus twenty seven says, you shall not

  39. misuse the name of the Lord your God. Now, this is what I

  40. learned from my mom. This is what mom taught me. Do not use

  41. God's name as a swear word or a curse word. Do not say I

  42. swear to God, I'm telling the truth, or whatever. Don't misuse it.

  43. James Chapter five says, do not swear not by heaven or by earth,

  44. or by anything else. All you need to say is a simple yes

  45. or no. Misusing God's name carelessly dishonors God's name. Now the second leg

  46. of this stool. The second component is misrepresenting God's name, misrepresenting his name,

  47. dishonors his name. If you think about the name Christian, the name

  48. Christ is in the name Christian. If you call yourself a Christian, are

  49. you representing Christ? Well. The name Christian was first given to the believers

  50. in the first century in the city of Anne, and it was a pejorative

  51. term. The name Christian in that culture meant little Christ, and so people

  52. would degrade and mock believers by saying, oh, look at these little Christs,

  53. these people who follow Jesus. They think they're like Jesus, little Christ.

  54. And so it was used as a degrading term these Christians. But over

  55. the years Christians took up that name and they carried it with honor. One

  56. Peter chapter four tells us, however, if you suffer as a Christian,

  57. do not be ashamed, but praise God that you bear that name. We

  58. bear the name Christ. So how you speak, how you conduct yourself,

  59. how you behave at work and at school, it represents Jesus. We carry

  60. the name of Jesus. In the Book of Acts, we read about the

  61. apostles being arrested for preaching in the name of Jesus. And they were beaten,

  62. and they were flogged and commanded not to preach in the name of Jesus.

  63. But in Acts chapter five it says that they left their beating, they

  64. left their flogging, celebrating that they were founded worthy of suffering. Dishonor for

  65. the name, for the name of Jesus, and so we represent the greatest

  66. name by carrying the name Christian. At the name of Jesus. There is

  67. power in the name of Jesus. It's his name at which demons run and

  68. flee. In the name of Jesus, the sick are healed in the name

  69. of Jesus. The lost are saved in the name of Jesus. Addiction is

  70. broken. In the name of Jesus, there is hope, and the dead

  71. are raised. That's the name that we bear when we say I'm a Christian,

  72. and so we represent Jesus. So that's the second component of this command.

  73. Now the third component, the third leg of honoring God's name. We

  74. dishonor God's name when we misspeak in God's name, misspeaking in God's name.

  75. Have you ever met anyone who told you God told me to tell you.

  76. Have you ever heard that or the Lord told me to say this to you?

  77. Well, two things. First, I absolutely believe that God speaks to

  78. us. I absolutely believe that God's Holy Spirit communicates to us. He can

  79. give us prophetic messages, words of knowledge, words of wisdom. God's Spirit

  80. does speak to us, and he will share things that we have no way

  81. of knowing without the supernatural gift of God. Now, secondly, I believe

  82. we have to be very wise in how we steward what we hear from the

  83. Lord and how we disclose what we hear from the Lord. And we must

  84. be very discerning about what we receive when somebody shares with us a message that

  85. they've received from God, because we have seen examples of people who misuse God's

  86. name and misspeak on behalf of God, and they will use God's name to

  87. coerce or to manipulate or advance a human agenda, or even abuse other people

  88. by saying God told me. You may have seen people on the Internet who

  89. are making a name for themselves by say saying God told me this event in

  90. the world was gonna happen, but it didn't happen, or those who try

  91. to predict political and government things God told me, but it didn't happen.

  92. Or there are some making a name for themselves by trying to predict or claim

  93. when Jesus returns and the world will end, but it hasn't happened. You

  94. see, when we misspeak for God, it misuses and dishonors his name.

  95. Theologian RT. Kendall writes this, saying the Lord told me misuses the name

  96. of the Lord. It is merely name dropping. No matter how deeply people

  97. feel that they have a word from the Lord, they do not need to

  98. make this claim. Instead, they should let their hearers see for themselves that

  99. this is a word from the Lord. So if I say to you God

  100. told me, or if I say to you the Lord said, thus saith

  101. the Lord, I'm not making God look more impressive. I'm trying to impress

  102. you with my spirituality. I'm trying to impress you with my supernatural gift and

  103. that that's a form of pride. And so that's one reason why here at

  104. Church of the Crossing, we have some guidelines about hearing from God or our

  105. prayer partners, our prayer teams, our leaders are trained that when we hear

  106. from God, we try to speak in humility, and we say, can

  107. I share something with you? This may be from God, or it may

  108. not be. Or as I'm praying for you, this is coming to my

  109. mind. You need to discern if this is from the Lord. We want

  110. to speak in humility, we want to represent his name. Well. Remember,

  111. honor has two parts. There's vertical honor and there's horizontal honor. We

  112. honor God by honoring his name, and then we honor others. That's the

  113. horizontal honor. My mom taught me to address adults with honor when I was

  114. growing up. My mom taught me to say yes sir, yes ma'am.

  115. My mom taught me to call the parents of my friends mister and missus.

  116. My dad's doctor friends were doctor True, doctor Rome, and doctor Martin.

  117. Pastors at church pastor David, pastor Eric. That's how my mom taught me

  118. to speak with honor. We honor God and how we honor others. That

  119. horizontal honor also honors God, especially when we honor our father and our mothers.

  120. Now, this commandment honor your father and your mother is first introduced in

  121. the Old Testament and the Ten Commandments, but it's a command that gets a

  122. lot of attention. In the New Testament, Jesus talks about this commandment.

  123. The apostle Paul writes about this commandment. We read in one of Paul's letters

  124. and Ephesians. It says, children, obey your parents and the Lord,

  125. for this is right. Honor your father and your mother, which is the

  126. first commandment, with a promise, so that may go well with you and

  127. that you may enjoy long life on the earth. So Paul points out here

  128. this, this command has a promise that you will enjoy long life, it

  129. will go well with you. Does this mean that if you honor your parents,

  130. that you're going to live to be one hundred years old? Well,

  131. I hope so. I mean that'd be great. I'd be happy with that,

  132. I think. Though, even more meaningfully, the heart of this command

  133. and this promise is that honor is a pathway to a blessed life, no

  134. matter how long your days are, because honor begets honor, and there are

  135. God's blessings in God's favor on those who show honor and those who receive honor.

  136. I've been thinking a lot about this command honor your father and mother,

  137. now that I've become a parent, Shepherd is now four months old, so

  138. I've been a parent for four months, which means I know everything about parenting.

  139. And so when I'm changing Shepherd's diaper, his smelly, stinky, dirty

  140. diaper, I whisper in his ear. I'm doing this because I love you,

  141. and one day You're going to show me honor and change my diapers when

  142. I'm super old. Just kidding, I don't say that, but it has

  143. crossed my mind. When I turned eighteen years old, I graduated from high

  144. school and I sat down with my dad for breakfast. We sat down at

  145. a diner in my hometown and we were ordered breakfast, and I had just

  146. graduated from high school and I was planning to go to college near my hometown

  147. in Ohio. But then a church in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, reached out and

  148. invited me to join the staff team and do youth ministry at the church.

  149. And I decided that I was going to accept that invitation and move to Pennsylvania

  150. and go to college there. And so at this breakfast meeting with my dad,

  151. I shared with him my plans and told him how I had been invited,

  152. told him my plans to move, pack up and go and go to

  153. school there. And my dad later told me that during our conversation, his

  154. mind was catching up to everything I was saying, and he realized halfway through

  155. our discussion that this was not an advice meeting, this was an information meeting.

  156. I was informing him about my decision. I didn't ask for my parents'

  157. advice. I didn't seek their wisdom or their counsel. I didn't honor them,

  158. and that's something I regret. I don't regret the decision I made,

  159. but I regret that I didn't honor my parents. So as we talk about

  160. honoring others, honoring our parents, honoring our grandparents, honoring those that God

  161. has put in our life. Just like there's three legs to this stool,

  162. I want to make three observations about honoring others. And the first thing is

  163. that sometimes honor gets confused with respect, and I want to say that honor

  164. is given, respect is earned. We respect people because they've earned it.

  165. We respect people because they conduct themselves like Christ. They have character, they

  166. have integrity, They've earned our respect. Honor is something that we give to

  167. everyone. It's something that we do to honor the dignity and the value of

  168. everyone, because everyone's created in the image of God. And I understand that

  169. for some of us, honoring a parent in particular can be complicated because there

  170. might be some baggage in the past, there might be some wounds, some

  171. disappointment, there may be even some dysfunction in the family that you've come from.

  172. And someone will ask, well, what about an absent parent, What

  173. about an abusive parent? What about a selfish parent? Do they deserve honor?

  174. No, they may not deserve, but we honor everyone. Honor is

  175. given, respect is earned. There's a scene in the TV show Band of

  176. Brothers. It's a TV show about World War Two soldiers, and it's a

  177. scene that I think of frequently when I think about honor is given, respect

  178. is earned. In this scene, there are two officers that encounter each other,

  179. Officer Winters and Officer Sobl. Now, Officer Winters has been promoted up

  180. to the rank of major. But back when Officer Winters was a lieutenant,

  181. Officer Sobl was his commanding officer, and Sobil mistreated Winters. Sobol treated him

  182. poorly. But now in this scene, Officer Winters outranks him and Captain Soble

  183. when he sees this man he used to be under his command, who is

  184. now his superior officer. Officer Sobel tries to act like he doesn't see him,

  185. tries to walk past him, and he doesn't salute him, and then

  186. Major Winter says something. He says, Captain Soble, we salute the rank,

  187. not the man. Honor is given, respect is earned. Notice what

  188. we read in First Peter Chapter two, Honor everyone, love the brotherhood,

  189. fear God, Honor the Emperor. Do you know what kind of emperor was

  190. ruling Rome when Peter wrote this? Not a very good one, not a

  191. very nice one. It was likely the emperor Domician, who abused Christians,

  192. killed Christians, persecuted Christians. In fact, Domssion labeled himself with the title

  193. Lord and God. Now you tell me, is that somebody that Christians should

  194. respect? Absolutely not, Yet we're commanded to honor the Emperor, honor everyone.

  195. Do we honor those who don't love God? Yes, those who make

  196. fun of our faith or disrespect our faith? Yes, Honor is given,

  197. respect is earned. You can honor someone even if you don't like them.

  198. When we honor fathers and mothers, and we honor grandparents, and we honor

  199. others, we are honoring God. We are embodying the humility and the character

  200. of Jesus. Now at this point, some Christians have a question, and

  201. they say, what if obeying God displeases my parents or displeases my family.

  202. What if my family doesn't love Jesus and they don't approve of my faith.

  203. Well, a couple of things. One, that is a real question,

  204. valid question. Two, I think that is often the exception and not the

  205. rule. You see, we must obey God no matter what other people think

  206. about that, or even if it displeases others. But you don't have to

  207. be a jerk about your faith. You don't have to be arrogant about your

  208. faith. You can still show honor even if it creates displeasure. Jesus even

  209. talks about this in Matthew, chapter and ten. Jesus says, I have

  210. come to turn a man against his father, a daughter against her mother,

  211. a daughter in law against her mother in law. A man's enemies will be

  212. the members of his own household. Now this sounds like a harsh teaching,

  213. but here's I believe the proper interpretation of this scripture is that Jesus is saying

  214. there will be some family members who accept Jesus as Lord, and some family

  215. members who reject Jesus as Lord. Jesus is telling us that the Gospel will

  216. divide families because of their own choices, and those who reject Jesus as Lord

  217. have made believers their enemies. I once met a young man who grew up

  218. in a Muslim family, raised as a Muslim, and as a young adult,

  219. he decided that he didn't want to be Muslim anymore, and he started

  220. exploring Christianity, started learning about Jesus. And then he told his Muslim business

  221. partner and his Muslim parents that he wasn't a Muslim anymore. How do you

  222. think that went for him? Well, his business partner cut him out of

  223. the business and took all of their earnings and all of their capital, leaving

  224. him without resources, without income. So now he's dependent on his parents.

  225. But he just told them that he's not a Muslim, and his parents have

  226. essentially disowned him. They live in the same house, but it's not a

  227. home. Their roommates don't talk to him, they don't acknowledge him, they

  228. don't speak to him. His parents have made him their enemy because he's no

  229. longer a Muslim. But what does Jesus say about treating our enemies? He

  230. says, we love our enemies, we pray for enemies, we bless our

  231. enemies, we honor our enemies. Now you may be hearing these words,

  232. and someone might be thinking, Andrew, just tell me what honor is.

  233. Just tell me what honor is. Define it for me, give me a

  234. list, give me a step by step guide, and I will do what

  235. you say to show honor. And so this week I have prepared, worked

  236. really hard to prepare a step by step guide for you on how you show

  237. honor to others, how you show honor to your parents, to your grandparents.

  238. And sadly, I'm gonna disappoint many of you because I don't have a

  239. step by step guide on how to show honor. It'd be foolish of me

  240. to try and prescribe to you how to show honor to the people in your

  241. life because I don't know your relationships, I don't know your context. So

  242. what I'd like to do is encourage you to ask ask yourself these questions.

  243. Ask yourself, do I honor God by how I treat my parents, How

  244. I speak to my parents, by how I talk about my parents, how

  245. I think about my parents. Only you can answer these questions. And if

  246. you find yourself justifying something or making some excuses like, oh, I'm just

  247. venting about my frustration, maybe there's some work to be done. I have

  248. a friend who is living in a unique season in life. He is right

  249. in the middle of the Sandwich generation. Do you know what the Sandwich generation

  250. is. It's those adults who are in their late forties and their fifties who

  251. are raising children, maybe even grown children. But they've also got parents who

  252. are aging and need a little bit more support, and so they're like in

  253. the sandwich between two generations. My friend Dale is living smack dab in the

  254. middle of the Sandwich generation. On one hand, he's got grown kids,

  255. he's got a granddaughter, he's got a second grandchild on the way now.

  256. On the other hand, his father is aging and has some real health needs

  257. right now. Dale told me that in one day, in one day,

  258. he was in the morning babysitting his granddaughter, and then in the afternoon he

  259. was helping his dad at physical therapy. Like he's living in both extremes.

  260. And if you can relate to that, you know how it can feel a

  261. little bit disorienting. You know how it can be a little bit challenging,

  262. and there's like no man you will like turn to page ten to learn how

  263. to help your parents who need some extra support. And so this is the

  264. second observation I want to make, like the second of the three legged stool.

  265. You will not outgrow honor. You will not outgrow giving honor. You

  266. will not outgrow receiving honor. Even if you have children that you're raising,

  267. you still honor your parents. Even if your parents have passed, you honor

  268. their memory and their legacy. Honor might look different when our parents are older

  269. and need more support and care. Jesus actually argued with some of the religious

  270. leaders about this commandment. In Mark chapter seven, Jesus says, for Moses

  271. said, honor your father and mother, and anyone who curses their father and

  272. mother is to be put to death. But you, that's the Pharisees,

  273. the religious leaders. You say that if anyone declares what might have been used

  274. to help their father and mother is corbin that is devoted to God, then

  275. you no longer let them do anything for their father and mother. Thus you

  276. nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. Okay,

  277. what is Jesus talking about? What is Corbin? Corbin was a Jewish

  278. tradition that if you sold property or you had some money and you wanted to

  279. give this to God's work or God's mission, you would put it in Corbin

  280. like an escrow account. So think of it this way. If you sell

  281. property, or sell some stocks, or you got some earnings, you say,

  282. I want to take this and I want to give it to God's work,

  283. So you might put it in an escrow account, or you might put

  284. it in a charitable fund that can be used for God's work. But then,

  285. what if unexpectedly your parents have some health concerns, or they're ill,

  286. and they've got medical bills, or they need treatment, or they need care.

  287. But all your resources are tied up in this account under Corbin, what

  288. do you do well? The Pharisees of Jesus's day would say, you can't

  289. touch those resources because you dedicated it to God. You can't honor your father

  290. and mother. Honoring our parents can look different when they are older and need

  291. support and need care. I'll give you two examples, two completely different examples.

  292. On one hand, I know a family here in the United States who

  293. has an older, aging relative who's lived in their home with them and they've

  294. been a family. Now that relative has some health needs that require more care,

  295. more attention, and this family's trying to decide, do we we switched

  296. to assisted living? Do we switch to professional care? On the other hand,

  297. I was speaking with one of my friends from our Arabic speaking congregation who

  298. grew up in Egypt, where there's a completely different culture than the United States,

  299. and my friend told me that in Egypt it's common for parents and children

  300. to have their grandparents and their great grandparents all live in the same home and

  301. live out their days because that shows honor. And my friends told me that

  302. if an Egyptian were to put their parent or grandparent in assisted living or into

  303. professional care, they would be shamed in their community. It's incredibly dishonoring to

  304. their family. And so which one is right, Well, it's not always

  305. black and white. It depends on the context, depends on the family,

  306. depends on the culture. I personally know one family who helped one of their

  307. older relatives and they lived out their days in their home and in their family.

  308. At the same time, another older relative needed professional care and they worked

  309. with a treatment place, professional care for them. They did both because that's

  310. what was best for those relationships. If you're living in the Sandwich generation and

  311. you're feeling this pressure, I want to encourage you today that God is with

  312. you. There is grace for you. If you feel like, where's the

  313. manual, where's the how to instructions? I want to tell you, don't

  314. feel shame, don't feel guilt, don't give into the pressures and expectations that

  315. other people put on you. You may not have a manual, but you've

  316. got God with you. You've got the spirit of God guiding you, and

  317. He's gonna help you. And so that's why I want to encourage you to

  318. ask yourself this question as you honor your parents, ask yourself, am I

  319. doing the best I can with what I have? Are you doing your best

  320. or are you just doing the minimum? Are you doing the best you can

  321. or are you just doing enough to satisfy your conscience or or just the minimum?

  322. Are you doing the best you can with your resources, the best you

  323. can to show love, the best you can to support. Are you praying

  324. with and loving showing the love of God to your family, to those that

  325. God's called you to honor. In Exodus chapter twenty, God gives us the

  326. Ten Commandments. He lays down the instructions for following him and obeying him.

  327. And there's one thing that God says in Exodus chapter twenty that is really unusual.

  328. He says something that's puzzled me, and it's many scholars have debated what

  329. God is talking about here. In verse four, he says, you must

  330. not make for yourself an idol of any kind, or an image of anything

  331. in the heavens or on the earth, or in the sea. You must

  332. not bow down to them or worship them for either lords. Your God am

  333. a jealous god, and will not tolerate your affection for any other gods.

  334. Lay. Now this is the part that's puzzling. I lay the sins of

  335. the parents upon their children. The entire family is affected, even children in

  336. the third and fourth generations of those who reject me. Now, this is

  337. the part that's puzzling. As I read this, I wonder why did God

  338. say this? Why did God say that children will suffer the consequences of their

  339. parents. Why did he include this? And here's the conclusion that I reached.

  340. Now, I haven't read this in any Bible commentaries or other scholars.

  341. So I could be wrong, but I wonder if God is warning families about

  342. generational sins and generational curses. I wonder if God is warning them that when

  343. you bring an idol into your home, you're inviting demonic forces into your home.

  344. You're inviting evil spirits into your home. And we know that demons and

  345. evil spirits can torment and oppress families for generations. Now, you probably don't

  346. have a little gold statue in your an idol in your home that you pray

  347. to. But God says he will not tolerate your affection for any other gods.

  348. What do you give your affection to? There are modern day idols in

  349. this world, things that we love more than God. Sometimes things that we

  350. worship more than God. Sometimes those modern day idols will influence our children and

  351. our grandchildren. What you honor will create generational curses or generational blessings. And

  352. you may be young, you may be single, you may be in college,

  353. and you don't you can't even think about having children or a family.

  354. I want to tell you the decisions that you make now will produce generational curses

  355. or generational blessings. I've seen this in my family. Both Lauren and I

  356. we come from parents. Both of our parents are divorced, and their parents

  357. are divorced multiple generations. We see examples where addiction issues and a parent get

  358. transferred to a child. I mean, men learn from their fathers how to

  359. mistreat and abuse women. I've seen daughters learn from their mothers how to manipulate

  360. and take advantage of men. We see the generational consequences. I have a

  361. very good friend who grew up in a home that did not love Jesus.

  362. He's a Christian now, but growing up his parents his family did not love

  363. Jesus, and sadly, he was introduced to pornography as a little boy,

  364. and he struggled with that his whole life until he came to faith in Jesus.

  365. Where do you think he was introduced to that sin his father? His

  366. father approved of that sin in their home. I met a young woman who

  367. struggled with night terrors and sleep paralysis. She would often wake up in the

  368. middle of the night. She couldn't cry out, she couldn't move, and

  369. she feel this demonic presence sitting over her. And she wanted to be free

  370. of this and so I asked her all the standard questions about inviting evil.

  371. Do you use Ouiji boards, no, Tara card's, no horoscopes, no

  372. palm reading, no, no, no. And then she told me that

  373. her dad often suffered the same conditions, sleep paralysis and night terrors. And

  374. I said, tell me more about your dad and his family. And then

  375. I learned that her father's mother was a fortune teller and dark things like that,

  376. evil things like that, invite sin and evil, and we see how

  377. it torments generation after generation. Thankfully, that young woman renounced those generational sins

  378. in the name of Jesus, and she was free of those night terrors.

  379. And so this is the third observation. If we're talking about three legs of

  380. a stool, the third observation is that your children will honor what you honor.

  381. Your children will honor what you honor. If you value integrity, if

  382. you value character and honesty and humility, your children are going to learn those

  383. qualities. Your children will value what you value. They will honor what you

  384. honor. A friend to mine is raising a teenage son, and recently,

  385. this teenage boy has started working and earning a little bit of money for himself

  386. and One day after church, the family was driving away from the church and

  387. the teenage boy said, wait, stop, we have to go back to

  388. the church building. And a little bit puzzled, his parents asked why,

  389. and he explained that he still had his tithe offering that he wanted to give

  390. before they left the church. And so they turned around and came back in

  391. and he put his gift in the in the lock box in the back.

  392. Your children will honor what you honor. Now, I understand that you may

  393. be hearing this, and there might be something going on inside of you because

  394. you've got baggage from your family of origin. There's some stuff in the past.

  395. There's some junk in the past. There might be some dysfunction, there

  396. might be a lot of disappointment. There might be some destructive patterns. And

  397. you've promised yourself that you're not gonna commit the sins of your father. You're

  398. not gonna go down the same path that your mom went down. And I've

  399. heard many Christians who say I'm gonna break the cycle, and I understand what

  400. they're saying, but I think God wants to do something deeper than just break

  401. the cycle. I believe God wants to heal the wound. He wants to

  402. bring healing to the wound. He wants to heal the heart. He wants

  403. to heal the disappointment. He wants to heal the regret. He wants to

  404. heal that baggage and that trauma. In Exodus twenty, he says that the

  405. sins of the parents will visit to the third and fourth generation. But then

  406. in verse six he says, I lavish unfailing love for a thousand generations on

  407. those who love me and obey my commands. God's love heals the hurt of

  408. the past. God's love heals the hurt in the family of origin. God's

  409. love transforms, and God's love fixes what was broken. And so here's what

  410. I want to say. Here's what I want to tell you. If you're

  411. feeling this tension, if you're feeling this stuff from the past, the family

  412. of origin coming back up, Here's what I want to tell you today.

  413. Speak the name of Jesus over your past. Speak the name of Jesus over

  414. your pain. Honor the name of Jesus, because at the name of Jesus,

  415. lives are changed, stories are rewritten. Will you speak the name of

  416. Jesus over your family, over your children, over your grandchildren, because it

  417. is the name that changes family trajectories. It's the name that changes what has

  418. been broken and corrupted by sin. Philippians two says that God exalted Jesus to

  419. the highest place and gave him the name that is above what above every name

  420. that at the name of Jesus, every knee will bow in heaven and on

  421. earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.

  422. Is he the Lord of your life? Is he the Lord of your

  423. heart? Is He the Lord of your home? Have you honored the name

  424. of Jesus in your life? There's healing in the name of Jesus. And

  425. so I want to end by telling you just a little story about my family

  426. of origin. When I look at my family of origin, I'm kind of

  427. a unique part of my family. And I'm talking about like my immediate family,

  428. my brothers and sisters, and my parents, my grandparents, And as

  429. far as I know, there's nobody in my immediate family that's in vocational pastoral

  430. ministry like I am. I've got some relatives, but like my family of

  431. origin, there's nobody else doing what I'm doing. I didn't really follow the

  432. traditional or expected path in my family of origin. You see, my mom

  433. is an accountant and successful businesswoman. My dad's a surgeon. I didn't go

  434. into medicine. I don't like blood. I don't want to be around blood.

  435. I've got a grandfather who is in the military, served honorably in the

  436. military. I know I'm too soft to make it through boot camp. I've

  437. got another grandfather who was successful entrepreneur, businessman. He negotiated millions and millions

  438. of business dollars in business deals. Great negotiator. I am not a good

  439. negotiator. The young guy that's cutting my grass this spring was gonna charge me

  440. thirty dollars and I ended up paying him thirty five just because I felt bad,

  441. like I don't negotiate, and so being a pastor. It doesn't seem

  442. like a natural trajectory from my family of origin until I learned about my maternal

  443. grandmother named Veda. And I've talked about her before. I didn't know her

  444. well because I was just barely one years old when she passed away. But

  445. I've learned about her remotely from a distance. You see, my grandmother was

  446. a disciple maker, and an evangelist. She studied the Bible. She traveled

  447. the country speaking at women's Christian Women's Connection events. She would analyze the Bible.

  448. I've read her sermon transcripts typed out on a typewriter, her testimonies,

  449. her stories. I've read through her Bible and seen her notes. She boldly

  450. stood in front of crowds of hundreds of people, proclaiming the Gospel, telling

  451. people about Jesus. And as I read through her transcripts, I saw that

  452. she would often use stories to talk about Jesus. She even used props on

  453. stage to talk about Jesus. Does that sound familiar? She would give altar

  454. calls and invitations to faith, and many, many people came to know Jesus

  455. because of her ministry. And I realized, like, even though I didn't

  456. know her, I've got some things in common with her. Her spirituality is

  457. in my DNA. Her influence is in my life because she honored Jesus.

  458. The generations that come after you will learn from you. Your influence, your

  459. witness, your testimony, your honor will influence those to come. And so

  460. here's what we're going to do. Now. Now we're going to transition into

  461. an opportunity to receive anointing because I believe God wants to release more of his

  462. love and more of his presence into many here and so first I want to

  463. invite all of us to stand together, and as we're standing, if you're

  464. a prayer partner, please come forward. You can get ready here in the

  465. front. And I want to extend two invitations to anointing. And if you'd

  466. like to receive anointing, just come down this center aisle and share will help

  467. direct you to a prayer partner. First, I want to invite moms,

  468. grandmas, step moms, all women who have a desire to be used by

  469. Jesus for his glory. If you are a woman who loves Jesus, who

  470. wants more of Jesus, who wants to see Jesus multiply in your life,

  471. I want to invite you to come forward and receive anointing and receive more of

  472. His love. We want to pray over you. And in addition to that,

  473. I want to extend this invitation to everyone who needs more of God's love

  474. and more of God's hope. If you're hurting, if you need a miracle,

  475. if you feel broken, if you've got a physical pain or illness,

  476. we'd love to pray for healing for that. So everyone's invited. Let me

  477. pray for us to open this moment, and then you're invited to come forward

  478. as you're letting. Father, God, thank you for your grace and thank

  479. you for your presence. God, thank you that we have a hope in

  480. Jesus. And so God, I pray for every woman here that you would

  481. release more of your spirit into their lives, that you would multiply their influence

  482. for the Kingdom, that you would multiply their influence of the Gospel. And

  483. God, I pray for every single person who wants to honor you, that

  484. wants to glorify you, that more of your power would embolden them to walk

  485. in obedience to You. And I pray this in Jesus' name. Amen.