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  1. So glad that you're here today, and thank you Anderson Coral,

  2. and we get to hear a couple more songs from

  3. them at the end of the service, looking very forward

  4. to that, and also a couple of songs that you

  5. guys have already sung this morning. I grew up in Middletown, Ohio,

  6. and that was a part of our almost weekly repertoire,

  7. and it was so good to hear some of those songs.

  8. So thank you so much and thank you. They had

  9. to wake up about five o'clock in the morning to

  10. be here for us today and that crazy, sweet, kind,

  11. wonderful thank you, thank you, thank you. And so today

  12. is and in between week from series. We just finished

  13. up our series and we're about ready to start a

  14. new series next week. So it's called a one off.

  15. And So when I was thinking and praying about what

  16. should I speak on today, at first I was thinking

  17. about all the college students that we would have here

  18. today and thinking about what did I need to hear

  19. when I was in college? What do I wish I

  20. would have learned when I was in college. But then

  21. as I started thinking about it, I like, and I

  22. don't know a person in this church not being like you,

  23. I mean like you know, the church worldwide that doesn't

  24. need to hear this message or be reminded of this

  25. message today. So I'm excited to share with you God's word.

  26. Let us pray and prepare our hearts. Father God, we

  27. pray God that you will speak to our spirits today,

  28. give us insight, show us how to apply your word

  29. to our life today. And Father God, we give you

  30. praise in Jesus name. Amen. There was an Aerosmith video

  31. that absolutely rocked when I was in high school. It

  32. was so awesome. And the car in that video was

  33. a black on black Mustang GT convertible. And let me

  34. tell you something, I knew that I needed to have.

  35. That car had a really good job. And so I

  36. found one up at a dealership in Dayton, Ohio, and

  37. I said to my dad, I said, Dad, can we

  38. go check out this car? Look at that? I mean,

  39. you get that? That is sweet. That's a five point

  40. zero engine, Okay. And so my dad and I we

  41. go up and we go to test drive the car.

  42. But the car is a stick shift. Guess who has

  43. never even been in a stick shift? Me? So my

  44. dad says, I'll test drive it. For you. So my

  45. dad's test driving and we're going around this little town

  46. and he says to me, James, you've got to get

  47. this car. And so we get back and my dad

  48. co signs alone for me. I can't remember for seventeen

  49. or eighteen thousand dollars, which was you know, that's a

  50. little bit of a chunk of money. But like I said,

  51. I had a good job at that time. And so,

  52. you know what, I had the coolest car in my school,

  53. in my town. I mean, you can just imagine how

  54. cool I was. Right, this was awesome. So all of

  55. a sudden I come to christ and guess what doesn't

  56. matter to me anymore? This? And then I get called

  57. in the ministry and then Gina and I start talking

  58. about getting married, and we're not ready to get married.

  59. So and I'm thinking, you know what, I don't need

  60. car payments. This isn't wise. And so I went out

  61. and I traded this car in my black on black

  62. Mustang GT convertible five point zero, and I traded it

  63. in for a black on black four door four cylinder Corsica. Okay,

  64. this was not a cool car, didn't even deserve a

  65. picture today. And so I have it for a little while,

  66. and then all of a sudden, we're doing any I

  67. was a youth pastor and we're making a video and

  68. the video called for the use of a lobster, a

  69. dead lobster, and I accidentally left the lobster in my

  70. vehicle overnight. The next morning, I come in and let

  71. me tell you, I don't know if you know this.

  72. You can't get lobster smell out of your car if

  73. you leave it in overnight. And it smelled like the

  74. ocean meets the Apocalypse. It was horrible. And so you

  75. know what I started to do. I started to hate

  76. my black on black four door, four cylinder Corsica. Hated it,

  77. and man, summer was starting. I'm at Gas America on

  78. the corner of Roosevelt and I'm dripping sweat because that

  79. car is stupid. And I look and there's a guy

  80. that comes by in a red Mustang GT convertible to

  81. the new model. And let me tell you something. This

  82. man looked happy. He had purpose in his life, he

  83. had joy, and it looked like man, it just felt

  84. like the Holy Spirit was with him. And so I

  85. decided I'm gonna go and I got a have one

  86. within thirty six hours. I own a red Mustang GT convertible,

  87. just like that guy had. And I show up to

  88. the church with my other staff colleagues and I have

  89. them come outside and I'm like, guys, you're not gonna

  90. believe this. Check this out. And I was shocked at

  91. their response because one person said to me, are you

  92. sure you can afford this? By the way, that person

  93. also set my salary, so that was kind of a

  94. other pastors of saying, aren't you am not ready to

  95. get married? So I sort of had this hunch. I

  96. had the sense that just maybe, just maybe, just maybe

  97. I might have made a bad decision. And it wasn't

  98. the first time that I had made an unwise decision,

  99. and unwise decisions are always costly. They're always costly. And

  100. so what I decided to do is, like, you know

  101. what I've made a give you of these costly, unwise decisions.

  102. And I want to be a man of wisdom. I

  103. want to be someone who honors God with the way

  104. I make decisions in my life. And so here's what

  105. I did. I actually wrote a letter to ten different

  106. businessmen that I consider to be very wise, and I

  107. said to them, I said, will you each write me

  108. back your steps for making a wise decision. I got

  109. the letters back, I compared them, I came up of

  110. a list. I taped it on my desk at church,

  111. and I read that every single day until I knew

  112. the steps of making a wise decisions, until it was

  113. second nature to me. And because I want to be

  114. a person of wisdom. And here's the thing, what I

  115. want you to do today as I want you to

  116. think about some of the decisions you've made in your

  117. life or how you're going to move forward and making decisions. See,

  118. making wise decisions, they don't come naturally to us. You

  119. know why. I'm going to tell you why two things. One,

  120. we tend to be selfish, okay, and a wise decision

  121. is almost always self less, okay. And number two, we

  122. have a hard time making a decision with a long

  123. term outcome in our mind and because we want immediate gratification.

  124. And by the way, this is born in us. Okay,

  125. this is innate to us, even from a little child

  126. on I can tell you this right now. I've never

  127. heard someone come up to me and point to their

  128. little child and say, you know what, my child is

  129. a selfless child who consistently delays all forms of gratification

  130. until the appropriate moment never been said to me, and

  131. I could prove it to you. Have you ever been

  132. to a four year old's birthday party? Have you ever

  133. watched them open up a savings bond? All right? And

  134. then they open up a dumb toy that's worth absolutely nothing,

  135. that's gonna be thrown away here from now, and it's awesome,

  136. and it's awesome movie. We went through this with my

  137. daughter for years because my grandma always loaded her up

  138. with savings bonds, and Kate LeMond go he and it's

  139. a mom and then go for the worthless thing. Well,

  140. guess who's in college now. Guess who's praising God all

  141. the time for these savings bonds? Why? Because she had

  142. a wise grandma. Okay. And so there's something in us

  143. that we are naturally bent to wanting to make the

  144. decision that first of all benefits us and we get

  145. to receive the benefits of it immediately. Okay. And so

  146. here's what I want to do at the very beginning today.

  147. I want to talk about what is our definition so

  148. that we're all on the same page for what is

  149. a wise decision. Here's what a wise decision is. A

  150. wise decision glorifies God while it honors others. Okay, I'm

  151. gonna say that again. It glorifies God while it honors others.

  152. That's a wise decision. And so here's what we're gonna

  153. do today. We're gonna look at a guy who is

  154. known for his wisdom. Okay, We're gonna look at a

  155. guy named Solomon. Okay, if first of all, we're gonna

  156. look at his heart, and then we're gonna look at

  157. some practical steps on our way out of here today

  158. on how to make a wise decision. So, first of all,

  159. let's look at the wisest man in history, King Solomon.

  160. Here we go at Gibeon. The Lord appeared to Solomon.

  161. And by the way, Solomon's a young man. He just

  162. inherited the throne. Okay, so here we go. He appeared

  163. to Solomon during tonight in a dream, and God said,

  164. ask for whatever you want me to give you. How

  165. many of you could handle that question if the Lord

  166. came to me. Let me tell you why the Lord

  167. hasn't came to me and asked me that question, because

  168. I would have a brand new bass ranger boat. I

  169. would have an unlimited spending card to kabel Us or

  170. maybe Amazon. Have you ever noticed that our culture has

  171. been on that even do you all remember some of

  172. you who actually remember when some of these songs were written? Sorry,

  173. bad joke, but that wish list seers book that used

  174. to come and did you notice that they've just updated it?

  175. Because they know how we are on Amazon? They have

  176. a wish list, and so we keep piling things into

  177. our wish list until we can get them, because we're

  178. always looking for that next thing. And there's something inside

  179. of us that it's always wanting more and more and more,

  180. and that's where we make a lot of our wrong decisions.

  181. And speaking of being online, if you were to go

  182. online and do a search, I did the search what

  183. do people wish for? You can probably name the top

  184. three with me. Number one thing that people want when

  185. they wish for something they want wealth, secondly, health, number

  186. three happiness. Okay, that's pretty consistent. Now. I don't know

  187. about you, but those are pretty good. It doesn't wrong

  188. with those answers who would hear could not use a

  189. few more million upon the millions you already have? Right?

  190. Who in here doesn't want to be healthy. Who here

  191. doesn't want to be happy? So it would make a

  192. lot of sense that when God came to Solomon, this

  193. young man and said I'll give you whatever you want,

  194. Solomon could have said this, I want to be a

  195. king that is unrivaled. I want to have more wealth

  196. than anyone's ever had. I want to live to be

  197. one hundred and fifty. And he could have named anything,

  198. God that I will give you whatever you want. What

  199. did he say, Let's look at this. Solomon answered, you

  200. have shown great kindness to your servant, my father David,

  201. because he was faithful to you and righteous and upright

  202. and heart. You've continued this great kindness to him, and

  203. you've given him a son to sit on the throne

  204. to this very day. So then he answers the question.

  205. He says, now, Lord, my God, you've made your servant

  206. king in place of my father David. But here's the thing.

  207. I'm only a little child. In other words, I'm a

  208. young man, and I do not know how to carry

  209. out all of my duty. Your servant is here among

  210. the people that you've chosen, a great people, too numerous

  211. account or to number. Say, here's what I want you

  212. to do. Lord, will you give your servant a discerning

  213. heart to govern your people and distinguish between right and wrong?

  214. For who is able to govern these great people of yours. Remember,

  215. he could have asked for anything, and what does he do?

  216. He says, Lord, give me a discerning heart, so that

  217. I can lead your people to honor you, to obey you.

  218. He didn't ask for something for himself. Part of being

  219. a wise decision, and it is selfless. It glorifies God

  220. and it honors other. Solomon's request was not about him.

  221. Matter of fact, when we look into Hebrew, this phrase

  222. discerning heart leans towards meaning that Solomon wants to be

  223. able to hear from God. He wants to be able

  224. to hear from God. But here's what we need to understand.

  225. Hearing from God in the Old test means something different

  226. today when we say we hear something. In the Old Testament,

  227. if you heard something, it was not heard until you

  228. actually obeyed it. That's a little bit different. So he

  229. wanted to hear from God, but the whole point of

  230. hearing from God was so that he could obey God. Again,

  231. you didn't hear from God until you obey God. Now,

  232. think about this. We've spliced that up today, haven't we.

  233. So we could hear from God, but we consider that

  234. it's been heard, whether we obey it or not. Think

  235. about our children, you know, we tell them to do

  236. something and they're still running around doing dumb things. And

  237. how many of you have ever said this? Do you

  238. hear what I'm saying to you? Because what you're saying

  239. is you're not hearing me. Why because do you hear

  240. something means that you will obey it. And so Psalomon says,

  241. I don't want to just hear from God so that

  242. I know a lot about God. I'm a great theo

  243. log just so I'm a great philosopher, so I have

  244. all this wisdom for myself. No, no, no, he wants to

  245. hear from God so that he can obey God, so

  246. that he could impact the nation and lead them. So

  247. how does God respond to this request? It says the

  248. Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for this. So

  249. God said to him, well, since you've asked for this,

  250. and and then he mentions the things that we just

  251. talked about, not for a long life or wealth for yourself.

  252. Think about that times have changed. But the concerns are

  253. still the same, right, we all want money and we

  254. all want health. Now, this is very interesting because that

  255. shows you the place of the king, he says, or

  256. the death of my enemies that did not make the

  257. top ten list on the internet. The death of my enemies.

  258. But anyways, different times, okay, he says, But for discernment

  259. and administrating justice, I'm going to do what you've asked.

  260. I will give you a wise and discerning heart so

  261. that you that there will never be anyone like you

  262. now are in the future. It seems like God was

  263. really impressed with Solomon. Matter of fact, it seems like

  264. God had joy in his heart because the heart of Solomon.

  265. He says, give me, give me your wisdom so that

  266. I can honor you and lead your people. So what

  267. does God do. He gives him a gift of wisdom,

  268. not like just like a talent or a spiritual gift.

  269. He actually gave him the gift of wisdom. Solomon today

  270. is still considered the wisest man whoever lived. He wrote

  271. a couple books Ecclesiastes and Proverbs. They're mostly accredited to him,

  272. and what are his books called wisdom literature Wisdom literature.

  273. And so here's what we're gonna do. We're gonna benefit

  274. from this gift today. I can't imagine anybody in this

  275. room who doesn't want to make wise decisions, okay, And

  276. whether you're trying to discern a business decision, who to marry,

  277. decisions in parenting as you get old, there are some

  278. decisions on retirement and when to do that. We all

  279. need God's wisdom and direction. So here's what we're gonna do.

  280. I'm just gonna ask a simple question today and we're

  281. gonna answer it. How do you make a wise decision?

  282. Here we go. Number one, you want to gather the facts. Okay,

  283. the very first thing when you have a decision that

  284. you have to make, you want to gather the facts.

  285. Proverbs eighteen says as to answer before listening. That is

  286. folly and shame. In other words, if you do something

  287. before you have the information that you need to respond

  288. to that, well, it's gonna lead well through some ignorant decisions, okay,

  289. potential embarrassment. Have you ever made a decision only to

  290. say later if I would have known that, I would

  291. not have done that. All of us have My friend

  292. from childhood in Middletown, Ohio. He decided to get in

  293. on the eBay sells explosion about twenty two years ago.

  294. And so what he decided to do was he decided

  295. that he was going to buy a box of one

  296. thousand music CDs for five hundred dollars. And so he

  297. kept telling me for weeks until it came in, I'm

  298. gonna make a ton of money. I'm gonna make a

  299. ton of money. And I praised the Lord God Almighty

  300. that I was there when he opened up this box

  301. of one thousand CDs. Because as we opened up this

  302. box of one thousand CDs, it was one thousand CDs

  303. of musicians and artists that no one on this earth

  304. has ever heard of. In other words, there's record companies

  305. with distribution channels who could not get rid of these

  306. one thousand CDs. But they found some dude in Middletown,

  307. Ohio that was willing to take one thousand of them

  308. off their hands with no distribution systems. And so, of course,

  309. I mean, he's heartbroking. I'm not one for comfort in

  310. those moments. I'm dying laughing, just going through like, oh,

  311. I bet this is good. Oh Latin Morocco everybody. People

  312. are gonna love this over here in Kentucky. Anyways. You know,

  313. what if he'd have done some research, say, for instance,

  314. what if he gathered some facts like number one. This

  315. might sound crazy, but what if you have ask what

  316. CDs am I? By? Just a little research would have

  317. saved him five hundred bucks and me not telling a

  318. story every year of my life for the next twenty

  319. two years. So we do some research, you know, before

  320. we hire a person, well, we look at their work history.

  321. Before you buy a car, you better get on carfax report,

  322. before you purchase a home, look at your budget, can

  323. you afford it? Look at make sure you listen to

  324. the people who expect it right. You want to gather

  325. the facts Principal number two. Today you want to seek

  326. wise counsel. You don't want to make a decision by yourself.

  327. You want to seek wise counsel. What does it say

  328. here for lack of guidance, nation falls. But victory is

  329. one through what many advisors. You want to surround yourself

  330. with wise, godly people, people of integrity. This is so important.

  331. Let me tell you something. Great decisions are made by

  332. people who are surrounded by great people. That was not

  333. my notes. I wish I had put that in my notes.

  334. That was a good quote. You should write that down.

  335. Great decisions are made by people surrounded by great people.

  336. And let me tell you something, it's important to find

  337. people who are full of integrity too, because here's what

  338. I have found, especially in our younger years, our friends

  339. are sometimes not the best people to give us advice

  340. because they're going to give us advice based on according

  341. to what they think. You know, we want them to

  342. hear from us, and so you get comments. I've literally

  343. heard people give advice like this where they say, you

  344. know what, your husband is a jerk. Of course he

  345. deserved to be cheated on. He doesn't appreciate you anyways.

  346. Or you know what, you should go to your boss's

  347. office tomorrow morning and tell him exactly what you think

  348. about his leadership style. Is that a good wise? No? Lord, No, See,

  349. here's what happens. Our friends tend to tell us what

  350. they think we want to hear from them. But when

  351. you're making a very important decision, here's what you need

  352. to do. You need to have people around you check

  353. this out that trust in God's opinion way more than

  354. they fear your opinion. Of them. I'm gonna say that again.

  355. You all should have amen after I said that. Okay,

  356. I'm gonna say this again. All right, here we go.

  357. You need to surround yourself with people who trust in

  358. God's opinion, care about God's opinion more than they fear

  359. your opinion about them. Oh My God, Revival Church, the Crossing. Okay,

  360. here we go. Here's what you want to find. You

  361. want to find people that follow Proverbs three five, where

  362. they trust in the Lord with their whole art. They

  363. don't lean on their own understanding. In all of your ways,

  364. you acknowledge him because He's gonna make your paths straight. Now,

  365. here's the thing. Almost every single week since I've been here,

  366. I meet with a team called my advisory team. It's

  367. three people from the former boards elders who represent you.

  368. Then I have three staff members, and then I have

  369. one outside pastor. What we simply do is we get together.

  370. I put up all the decisions things we're thinking about

  371. the church. And you know what they just they can

  372. ask any question about it, they can push. Their job

  373. is not to help me figure out how to make

  374. things happen. Their job is to protect the church from

  375. me making a dumb decision. I've put that in place,

  376. and so therefore they can push back on anything. And

  377. they push back, and they push back, and they push

  378. back and they push back. Now, once we get to

  379. a place where we say, all right, this is a decision.

  380. We're gonna make this decision. You know what they do next,

  381. then we have long conversations about how to implement a decision.

  382. Here's a little freebie today. When you're in leadership, how

  383. you implement a decision. It's just as important as a

  384. decision you make, because you could make a good decision

  385. and blow your company up. Okay, sometimes it takes ten

  386. steps to pull off that one decision. So you need

  387. that discernment in your life. And so I have these men,

  388. and here's the thing. These men, man, they're not afraid

  389. to come in and push me, you know, push hard

  390. at my thoughts. And let me tell you, there's a

  391. lot of thoughts. I've had a lot of ideas I've

  392. had for this church that by the time I say

  393. it out loud, they're like, oh, oh, was that in

  394. a dream? Or like is that for real? And is

  395. this so good? To get that fleshed out? All right?

  396. So you need to bring some people around you that

  397. you trust and who are close to Lord number three

  398. run the scenarios. It says that the naive believes everything,

  399. but the prudent man considers his steps. In other words,

  400. you want to think about the calls and the effect

  401. before you make a decision. You always got to ask

  402. this question, if I make this decision, how is it

  403. gonna affect others? How's it gonna affect company? How's it

  404. gonna affect my family? You got to think through the

  405. ripples of your decision. How's this gonna affect? So? For instance,

  406. you want to think through the possible outcomes of your decisions.

  407. For instance, before you send an angry email at midnight,

  408. maybe you should consider the possible outcomes. Could that go

  409. bad for you? Uh? Before you post your unsolicited opinion

  410. on Facebook or Instagram or whatever you're using today, you

  411. might want to consider if this could possibly call some

  412. heated debates and your words might be twisted back against you.

  413. Here's a question I wish I would have asked myself

  414. ten years ago. If I buy two puppies within a

  415. year or so of each other, what's the odds of

  416. me not replacing every squarefoot of carpet in my whole house.

  417. That's a simple question I could have asked. Nowadays, I

  418. live in a all wood floor, leather furniture house. They're

  419. trained now, but still I'm ready for whatever comes. You know,

  420. you need to think about things before you decide to

  421. do them. What are the possible consequences. In Brazil, this

  422. is a true story. In Brazil, there was a beer taster.

  423. I didn't even know that was a job. There's a

  424. beer taster at a Brazilian brewery who actually took his

  425. company to court and sued them for making him an

  426. alcoholic because his job was a drink sixteen to twenty

  427. five small glasses of beer every day, and then every

  428. day he was sent home with another bottle of beer. Okay, so,

  429. by the way, he won forty nine thousand dollars. I

  430. don't even know what that is in Brazil, but anyways,

  431. he won forty nine thousand dollars because you know, the

  432. court found that was an unsafe job to have someone in. Now,

  433. this beer taster could have ransom scenarios, like he could

  434. have asked some questions. I don't know. I made up

  435. some questions for him, like I wonder what my life

  436. will be like if I get paid to drink beer

  437. all day? Good question. Question number two, does drinking beer

  438. every single day call someone to crave more beer? Good question?

  439. And what's the odds of drinking twenty five glasses of

  440. beer a day and at not completely messing my whole

  441. life up? Another good question? Okay, see the pipebolet calls

  442. for us to be people of wisdom, and there's some

  443. consequences for action number four. Now this is the most

  444. important one. But you might be surprised that I have

  445. this at number four, and that is to pray. I'm

  446. wist explain to you why I have it at number four,

  447. not at number one, even though it's the most important one.

  448. All right, So remember prayer is so important. Proverbs eight

  449. says this, I love those who love me, and those

  450. who seek me diligently find me. Now here's why I

  451. put this in at number four. Often, if we go

  452. to God with a big decision, then we just pray.

  453. What you want to do is you want to invite

  454. Him into the process of you making that decision. But

  455. if you go to God at the very beginning of

  456. a big decision, say God, show me what to do,

  457. more likely God is gonna answer. Probably should do some research,

  458. You probably should run some scenarios. You should probably think

  459. about this and get some advisors around you, like my

  460. scriptures have taught you instead of me just giving you

  461. a yes or a no, because we can often mess

  462. up hearing from God if we go to him and

  463. we're like, well, I feel like he's saying this. Here's

  464. what I have found. After I go out and get

  465. godly wisdom, after I've studied a situation, after I've ran

  466. through all the scenarios, I go to God. I say,

  467. oh God, I've done my due diligence. Will you give

  468. me wisdom? What do I do? And here's what I

  469. find that God often does. God very often does not

  470. tell me yes or no. Very often he says, yes,

  471. but I think you should do it this way. All

  472. of a sudden, the Holy Spirit gives you insight that

  473. I didn't even read. I didn't even research. Also, because

  474. I've done all this stuff and I prepared myself to

  475. be before the Lord, the Lord will take one little

  476. comment that someone said when I was gathering advice, or

  477. one little thing I read when I was gathering information,

  478. and he says, all right, move in this direction, or

  479. are go in this direction. I'm often surprised that when

  480. I go before the Lord, I'm often surprised at his creativity.

  481. Often my answer is not something that anybody said, nor

  482. is it a thought that I thought before I went

  483. into prayer. Our God is a creative god. He is

  484. a wise god, and he delights to help you. You

  485. know what, something pretty awesome. It doesn't matter who you are.

  486. He loves to help you. Look at what James says.

  487. James says this. He says, if anyone of you lacked wisdom,

  488. which we can say all of us, you should ask God,

  489. who would generously give to all without finding fault. It

  490. will be given to you. God loves to give you wisdom.

  491. Number five. As we're closing up today, only got a

  492. couple more here. Number five. Don't let others rush you.

  493. Proverbs nineteen says this enthusiasm without knowledge is no good.

  494. Haste makes mistakes. And let me tell you, almost every

  495. time in my ministry that I've made a decision while

  496. looking at a clock, I've later on maybe not regretted

  497. the decision, but realized I could have made a better

  498. decision with more wisdom. And here's the thing I hated

  499. during the pandemic was often during the pandemic you had

  500. to make decisions on the clock because things were happening

  501. so quick. And let me tell you something. When you

  502. are making decisions based on a clock and you have

  503. to make the decision, often you will look back with

  504. twenty twenty high sight and says, I would have done

  505. it this way instead that way, if there is any

  506. way possible possible. Don't let anyone rush you into making

  507. a decision. People, often your bosses as you get a

  508. little bit older, Just so you know, your bosses are

  509. gonna want you to make that commitment today. Why because

  510. they want to check it off their agenda and get

  511. back to work. It's okay for you to say, let

  512. me think about that for a day. Let me pray

  513. about that. Parents, how often do your kids come to

  514. you with all these emotions? They want this, they want this,

  515. they want this. You know what, You don't have to

  516. make that decision right there, you' say, give me some

  517. time to think about it. Why because good decisions are

  518. made uh when we actually have time to process it.

  519. Bad decisions are made on the clock. Don't let anybody

  520. rush you, okay, And lastly today, Okay. Unfortunately, when you

  521. go before God and ask him to help you make

  522. a decision, Unfortunately he does not call you to go

  523. out into your backyard and grab a stone hammer, and

  524. he's not gonna tell you a B, C, D, E

  525. F G. Here's what you do. Often you're gonna be

  526. led by the spirit and he's gonna help you, but

  527. at the end of the day, you're probably not gonna

  528. hear an audible voice telling you what to do. So

  529. often I get to these situations where I really feel

  530. like this is what God wants me to do, but

  531. I'm not one hundred percent sure. So here's what I do.

  532. Whatever decision I make, I make sure I'm gonna take

  533. a step of faith. I'm gonna trust in the Lord,

  534. and I'm gonna make a decision that honors the Lord.

  535. At the end of the day, if you don't know

  536. what to do, make a decision that you believe will

  537. best glorify God and honor others. Because if you make

  538. a decision and then a little bit later the decision

  539. maybe wasn't the best decision, you could rest well at

  540. night knowing this, Hey, you know what I did due diligence,

  541. and at the end of the day, I made a

  542. decision that I really believe honored God, but glorified God

  543. and honor others. If it doesn't go well, my family's

  544. gonna know that I honored them, honored my coworkers, honored

  545. those involved. I'm gonna close out by simply sharing this.

  546. I was going for a jog back in Middletown, and

  547. it was a very slow jog in case you're wondering,

  548. and I'm running down this hill and this ferocious you've

  549. just seen it, like, had murder in its eyes. A

  550. fifteen pound poodle came running at me and I thought

  551. for sure he was gonna bite me, potentially take my

  552. whole leg off, And so I tripped on an uneven sidewalk,

  553. went up into the air, landed on my shoulder, and

  554. immediately it was destroyed. My shoulder was destroyed. The most

  555. painful thing. I broke my back, I broke my ankle.

  556. This was the most it. I had to have surgery,

  557. all kinds of things afterwards. Now, the lady whose house

  558. and who had the poodle, she actually helped me, took

  559. me to the hospital, stayed there to make sure I

  560. was taken care of. And she called me a couple

  561. of days later and said, you know, I'm just going

  562. to ask you a favor. Please don't sue me. And

  563. she said that she was married to a pastor who

  564. recently divorced her, she didn't have anything, and she's barely

  565. hanging on. And she said, if you sue me, I'm

  566. going to lose everything. And she was also broken at

  567. this point. And so I said to her, you know what,

  568. I think the insurances are going to cover my medical bills.

  569. I'm not losing paychecks from work. And I said, you

  570. know what, I give you my word, I'm not going

  571. to sue you. Now, the lawyer from her company, insurance company,

  572. came to me and he says, we want to settle today.

  573. I go, well, there's no settlement. I just want the

  574. medical bills covered. I don't want any money for pain

  575. or suffering or whatever. And then he just didn't want

  576. to take that as an answer because he was afraid

  577. it will come back later. And he says, and then

  578. he pushed the paper and it was more money than

  579. I had ever had in my life, and it was

  580. thousands upon thousands of dollars, and he said, just sign here,

  581. we'll settle today, it'll be over. And I said, I

  582. can't sign that. I gave her my word. Now, I'm

  583. not telling you that it's not okay to sue for

  584. pain and suffer. I'm not telling you that at all.

  585. What I'm telling you was that there was a lady

  586. on the edge and she just asked me not to

  587. push her over. A Christian asked me not to do something,

  588. so I said, I won't do it. And let me

  589. tell you something. My shoulder still hurts, but the Lord's

  590. taking care of every need I've ever had. God is faithful.

  591. And I don't regret that decision. Why because I glorify

  592. God and I honored her through it. At the end

  593. of the day, when you're in weird situations like that

  594. was a weird situation, there is no what do you

  595. do here? But you know what, when you're in one

  596. of those situations where you don't know what to do here,

  597. what will glorify God and what will honor others, that's

  598. what you do. So here's what we're gonna do today.

  599. And we're gonna put the principles of making a decision

  600. back up on the screen, and I'm gonna give you

  601. about three minutes to have some prayer time here this morning,

  602. and I want you to look at which one of

  603. those do you need to grow in. But at the

  604. same time, I want you to think about that thing

  605. that's big in your life right now. Maybe it's a decision,

  606. maybe it's a burden. And here's the thing. You might

  607. be sitting here today thinking, well, James, I don't have

  608. a business decision to make right now, but I will

  609. say this. Maybe God is the decision is God wants

  610. you to forgive somebody today. Maybe the decision is that

  611. God wants you to love on people. Maybe the decision

  612. is not something that is a yes or no, but

  613. but it's an action God's calling you to do this.

  614. Or maybe it's a decision today to share your faith.

  615. Maybe it doesn't have to be this weird, big decision

  616. about what car do I buy? Won't you ask the Lord?

  617. If you don't have something to say, Lord, what is

  618. something that you've been calling me to do that today

  619. I need to make a decision to say yes to.

  620. Or maybe the decision you need to make today is

  621. to make a decision to say no to something or

  622. stop doing something because it doesn't honor God. So here's

  623. what I want to do. I trust that the Holy

  624. Spirit will speak to you, and so we're going to

  625. go into a time of prayer for about two to

  626. three minutes before the crowd comes back up, and just

  627. allow the Lord to speak to your heart.