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Treating The Church Like Family (1 Timothy 5:1-2)

Bethesda Baptist Durham

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  1. It's so good to be with you this morning. If

  2. you have your Bibles, if you're turning with me the

  3. First Timothy chapter four. This morning, we're returning our study

  4. to Timothy, First Timothy chapter four. Now, I don't know

  5. about you, but I've noticed as I've grown up throughout

  6. my life that I've really throughout my life there are

  7. expectations of me throughout my life, whether I wanted to

  8. recognize them, when I wanted to greet to them. There

  9. were expectations that were put upon me as a young

  10. man growing up in my home, my dad had expectations

  11. of me that I was to do certain things around

  12. the house, help cut the grass, help take out the trash.

  13. As a as a grandson of a pastor, there was

  14. expectations my grandfather had on our family and that we

  15. had an expectation that we're going to be a church

  16. every Sunday, and that was an expectation. And as I

  17. grew up and began playing sports, part of different teams,

  18. basketball teams, I played tennis in high school and many

  19. different things, there was expectations by my coaches, every expectations

  20. I'd be at practice on time. There's that expectation that

  21. I would do as asked upon me. There was expectations

  22. I had as a player, as an athlete, I had

  23. expectations as an employees. I got my job with working

  24. with my grandfather, but after a little bit of time,

  25. I went and worked at my first grocery store when Dixie,

  26. as a stoker and a cashier. As far I went

  27. on to bigger and better things Target. But there at

  28. when Dixie, I had expectations that I would be there

  29. on time, that I would follow the instructions of my supervisor. Expectations.

  30. You know, there's expectations. As I became a pastor, there's

  31. expectations from the church. There's things that the church expects

  32. of me. I remember I was thirty one. I've talked

  33. to you, told you this story before. I went and

  34. visited a little lady. Her name was Mary Ann Elvington,

  35. and she said, Pastor, I'm just I know you're young

  36. and everything, but you would do really good as a

  37. young pastor if you go around and visit. You've visit

  38. some of these ladies in the church. It's what she

  39. was doing. She was explaining me, there's an expectation as

  40. a pastor to visit, to care there's the expectations of

  41. how I live expectations. We all have those, and some

  42. of those are in relation to our family. Some of

  43. those expectations come as a part of being a part

  44. of a team, or maybe as an expectation we have

  45. from our employee. We have expectations as church members. This morning,

  46. as we come to this passage of scripture, Paul was

  47. reminding Timothy of expectations that he has and the expectations

  48. here are relationship expectations. You know, as a child, my

  49. mom and dad has the expectations upon me to do

  50. certain things. But they also had expectations of how I

  51. was to treat my sisters. I had two older sisters,

  52. Mike and Judith. One of the expectations is, don't hit

  53. your sister, don't talk back, be nice to your sisters.

  54. One of the expectations and expectations of how I treat

  55. my mom. My dad would tell me, don't talk back

  56. to your mother right. My mom would tell me, listen

  57. to your father when he spoke to you. When my

  58. grandparents came in, my mom made sure my dad made

  59. sure make sure you say yes sir and no sir.

  60. Make sure you say please and thank you. Expectations that

  61. we had as far as relationships, and how I treated

  62. my sisters, I treated my mom, I treated my dad,

  63. I treated my grandparents. And this morning, as we come

  64. to this passage in Timothy, Paul was explaining to Timothy,

  65. as a young pastor, how he is to treat those

  66. in his church family. And so this morning, as we

  67. went and go back to First Timothy, I want to

  68. remind you where we are in the context of First Timothy,

  69. Paul writes to Timothy. First Timothy, Timothy as a young pastor,

  70. prodigy of Paul. Paul has left him in a church

  71. called Ephesus, there to pastor this young church, this church.

  72. He's a young pastor. And in this letter, one of

  73. the roles and one of the things that he's one

  74. of the intents of writing this letter is to get

  75. Timothy to confront the false teachers that are in the

  76. church in Ephesus, to confront them, confront their teaching. And

  77. in chapter four, as we kind of go back, and

  78. I just want to start in chapter four, verse twelve.

  79. In just a minute, we're going to read he's been

  80. strutting in Timothy, in particular in chapter four on how

  81. Timothy's to be a good minister. If you remember in

  82. one Timothy four to six, he says, if you put

  83. these things before the brothers, you'll be a good servant

  84. of Christ Jesus, being trained in the words of faith

  85. and of good doctrine that you have followed he's been

  86. teaching Timothy. Timothy, you have a responsibility. You have expectations

  87. from the church. The church has personal expectations of that

  88. you are to live what you preach. And then they

  89. have expectations for you professionally you are to be a

  90. good minister and how you care for them. So there's

  91. professional and personal expectations the church has for you. But Timothy,

  92. this morning, there is expectations of how you treat church members.

  93. And in this passage of scripture, he instructs how Timothy

  94. is he treats the church body and church members just

  95. as he treats his own father, just as he treats

  96. his own mother, just as he treats his own brother,

  97. just as he treats his own sister. So should he

  98. treat the members of God's family this morning, church family,

  99. Can I just encourage you? Do you recognize these it's

  100. in this congregation with you. Do you recognize them that

  101. they're more than just members of the church. They're members

  102. of your family, your church family. Do you recognize this

  103. morning that as we sit in this body of congregation,

  104. we are a part of God's family. And as part

  105. of God's family, we are brothers and sisters in Christ.

  106. And we have expectations as part of being God's family,

  107. of how we should treat one another. This morning, Let's

  108. look together, Let's discover together as we read, how God

  109. leads us how we are to treat the church like family.

  110. Let's stand together and let's read God's word His first

  111. Timothy chapter four were to start in verse twelve, and

  112. we'll read through chapter I mean read through chapter five,

  113. verse two. Listen what says here? He says here, This

  114. is the word of the Lord. Let no one despise

  115. you for your youth. But set the believers an example

  116. in speech and conduct, and love and faith and impurity

  117. until I come. Devote yourselves to the public reading of scripture,

  118. to exhortation, to teaching. Do not neglect the gift that

  119. you have, which was given to you by prophecy when

  120. the Council of Elders laid their hands on you. Practice

  121. these things. Immerse yourselves in them, so that all might

  122. see your progress. Keep a close watch on yourselves and

  123. on your teaching. Persist in this, for by doing so,

  124. you will save both yourself and your hearers. Verse Chapter five,

  125. Verse one. Do not rebuke an older man, but encourage

  126. him as you would a father. Young men as brothers,

  127. older women as mothers, younger women as sisters in all purity.

  128. Let's pray together, Father, God, we thank you that this

  129. morning that you have expectations upon us of how we

  130. should care for other members, how we should treat them

  131. like family. So, Lord, today, may we recognize Lord, that

  132. we're a part of your family. Lord, that we're a

  133. part of your church family, and this is your family. Lord.

  134. So may we Lord, honor you and how we relate

  135. to one another, how we care for one another, how

  136. we encourage one another. Lord, help us pursue godly relationships.

  137. Help us, Lord, honor you in the way we treat

  138. one another. Lord. I pray today, Lord that as we

  139. look to you and your word, Lord, I pray for Lord,

  140. not my words, but yours. Lord. I pray today we

  141. would be encouraged in our role to care for one another. Lord,

  142. I pray that today you would speak through me clearly,

  143. Lord your word. May you challenge us. Lord, May you

  144. draw us to you. Lord, May you use us in

  145. caring for one another. Lord, we love you. We thank

  146. you Lord for this passage. Lord, May you guide us

  147. through your word now and your name. We pray a

  148. man you may be see how we treat the church

  149. like family. First, we treat the church like family. We

  150. must give proper respect to all members. We must give

  151. proper respect to all members. So Paul as this passage

  152. as we looked at Paul's been talking to Timothy about

  153. his expectations or his responsibilities. And we looked over this

  154. the last probably about a month ago when the last

  155. time we were in Timothy and we explain that Timothy,

  156. Paul is one thing to Timothy, that Timoth you have

  157. doctrine or responsibilities, that you're the doctrine to lead the

  158. church in public reading a scripture and exhortation or encouraging

  159. church members through the teaching of the Word. But you're

  160. and you're also to teach, You're to exposite scripture. Do

  161. you explain scripture? So those kind of Pauls, I mean,

  162. Timothy's responsibilities or expectations. Doctrinally, he also had an ethical responsibility,

  163. and that's how you live out the teachings of God's word.

  164. He it was not only to be one who teach

  165. the word or preach the word. He was to live

  166. out what he preached. He had a responsibility, ethical responsibility.

  167. We see in verse twelve to let no one despise

  168. you for youth, but instead of believers, an example right

  169. in your speech and conduct and love and faith and purity.

  170. He's a live out purities, live out faith. He has

  171. a live out in an example of love and conduct

  172. and speech to his congregation. He's just show them how

  173. they should love and be pure and have good conduct.

  174. And he's the big example of faith to them now

  175. this morning. He transitions a bit. In verse five. He

  176. now talks about a relationship responsibility, how he's responsible as

  177. a church member to care for the church members, to

  178. treat them. I think Page Patterson said when I was

  179. in seminary many many years ago, these words, and I

  180. don't think they're original to him. I think they were

  181. from someone else. But I'll never forget those words. The

  182. quote that he gave was people don't care how much

  183. they know until they know how much you care you

  184. know for Paul. He's telling Timothy, Timothy, doctrially, you might

  185. know a lot of different things, you might live an example,

  186. but the people in your congregation need to know relationally

  187. how much do you care for them? So he explains

  188. how is to treat church members. Look at verse one.

  189. There he begins by explaining to Timothy something that Timothy

  190. is not to do. He starts with maybe a negative here,

  191. or that's something he's not to do. Do not rebuke

  192. an older man. The word rebuke there is epy plaso.

  193. It's the word means to express strong disapproval in form

  194. of rebuke, a reproach, or denounce. We would maybe think

  195. of someone chastising someone or reprimanding them. I was thinking

  196. that this word. And I don't know if you've ever

  197. been in the grocery store and you saw a mom

  198. reprimand or a father reprimand their child and just scold

  199. them in front of everyone. We all probably have seen

  200. that at some point. That's the idea, is that it's

  201. a scolding. It is to rebuke them publicly or harshly.

  202. Paul is saying to Timothy, and you're treating other church members. First,

  203. you should not rebuke them, chastise them, reprimand reprimand them.

  204. But look who he talks about there, do not rebuke

  205. and an older man the word older man, there's presbyteria.

  206. So that's the same word that we have in earlier

  207. in chapter three for the word for overseer elder. Some

  208. would would think, is he talking about don't rebuke and

  209. an elder talking about someone who's in the office of

  210. elder or overseer. We we know that this term presbyteriois

  211. is actually used interchangeably. It can be used to talk

  212. about the office of overseer of elder, but it also

  213. can be used to describe older men, older men in

  214. the congregation. I remember I was at a church one time,

  215. and I think I could think of it. I could

  216. see the man right now, and he would come up

  217. to me and he say, Pastor. He said, you know,

  218. I'm one of the oldest men in this church. He says,

  219. the Bible calls me an elder, and he's using that

  220. right correctly. He is right, he is an elder. He's

  221. one of the older men in the church. But he

  222. confused that idea that just because he was the oldest

  223. man in the church. That man he had the function

  224. of an elder or an office oversea. Actually the term

  225. is used describe both. But it's not just because you're

  226. the oldest man in the church doesn't mean you're automatically

  227. an elder or overseer. But that's the way he understood that.

  228. But here, Paul, you would say, is Paul talking about

  229. the older Is he talking about the office or he's

  230. talking about just someone who's older in the congregation. We

  231. understand he's talking about someone's older in the congregation. Why

  232. because he uses these relational terms of family, terms of father,

  233. younger men, brother, older He's talking about a family relationship here.

  234. So we talk. We know we were talking about an

  235. older man. One of the things that he explains to

  236. them here is he's not to rebute this older man,

  237. but in turn, he's to encourage him, and he's encourage him.

  238. Listen to this as you would a father, a younger

  239. man as a brother, an older women as a mother,

  240. and younger woman a sister as you You're not to

  241. rebuke them harshly, but you're too you're to treat them

  242. like family. If you remember, go back with me the

  243. verse twelve of chapter four, Let no one despise you

  244. for your youth. You know, if you remember back when

  245. we first looked at this passage, one of the things

  246. we understand about the context of this passage is that

  247. there was a habit of Paul as he put pastors

  248. in churches, that he would put older pastors in churches.

  249. But here in Ephesus he doesn't do that. He actually

  250. puts young Timothy as the pastor of the church at Ephesus,

  251. and as a result, there were older men in the

  252. church who are much older than Timothy, and many of

  253. them were looking down upon Timothy because of his youth.

  254. I told you the story and when we first looked

  255. at that the first time I became senior pastor of

  256. a church, I was thirty one years old, and I

  257. told you the story about one lady who had always

  258. come to me every time, almost every time she see me,

  259. and she would say, you're so young, you're so young

  260. to be my pastor have children who are older than you.

  261. And I always felt, like Timothy here that she always

  262. looked down upon me because of my age. And here's

  263. this imagery that Paul is saying to Timothy, you have

  264. older men who are looking down upon you. Maybe they're

  265. not treating you fairly, or maybe giving you the respect

  266. that you deserve. And how are you to respond to them.

  267. You're not to rebut them or reprimand them, or retaliate

  268. to them. But instead, Timothy, you are to treat them

  269. like family. You're to care for them. You're to treat

  270. them like your father. You're to treat them like your brother.

  271. You're to treat the older women as your mother's. You

  272. to treat the younger women as your sister. Not only

  273. is he to treat them like family, but he is

  274. to encourage them. Look at the word there, Parcoleo. It

  275. means to encourage, instead of reprimanding them and treating them

  276. harshly or retaliating them. You are to treat them like family.

  277. But you're also to treat them like family with the

  278. go of what encouraging them. The word there is to encourage.

  279. It's the same word Paul uses an Acts and Acts

  280. fourteen as Paul goes and visits the churches and he

  281. encourages them in the faith. In Colossians, Paul talks about

  282. sending one of his fellow ministers to the church their colossy,

  283. and he sends them for the sole purpose to encourage

  284. their hearts. And first Thessalonians, Paul tells the church to

  285. encourage one another and build them up. And Hebrews, the

  286. writer of Hebrews tells the church, don't neglect the gathering

  287. of the church body. Why that you might encourage one another.

  288. You see, as a church body, one of our functions

  289. as a church is to encourage one another, to encourage

  290. one another in the faith, to courage others in their hearts,

  291. come when their hearts are discouraged, to encourage others when

  292. they're down and dismayed. Reality is, let's be honest about

  293. good Southern badtists. We have a reputation, don't we. One

  294. of the reditation Southern bat has heard it, just heard

  295. it this week, is that we like to argue. We

  296. like to fight. I read an article was written by

  297. Tom Rayner and by in The Christian Post many many

  298. years ago. It was twenty five silly things that church

  299. members fight over for the second time. I'm not gonna

  300. write all twenty five, but here are my top five

  301. from his list, and you can look up the list

  302. and read them off you would like. The first one

  303. is a church argued over the appropriate length of the

  304. worship pastor's beard. One church fault over a forty five

  305. heated argument over the type of filing cabinets to purchase,

  306. black or brown, two or three or four drawers. One

  307. church fought over whether the worship leaders should have shoes.

  308. This is for you, Tanner, the worship leaders should have

  309. shoes on during the worship service. One church fault disputed

  310. and it was argued because the Lord's to see whether

  311. they should change the juice in the Lord's Supper instead

  312. of grape juice to cram grape juice in my favorite,

  313. my last, but number one on my list. One church

  314. argued over what type of green beans the church should

  315. serve at the church function. We as Southern Baptists, at

  316. times have been known to not treat each other fairly,

  317. to argue over trivial things. I've seen it in churches

  318. throughout well, actually, I'll be honest with I was thinking

  319. through this this morning, and God's been gracious to me.

  320. I've heard stories of hard stories of things that's happened

  321. in churches. Arguments in the parking lot, church member pulling

  322. out of pastor's hair, church members fighting, and parking lot

  323. shooting guns in the ground. I've heard all kinds of

  324. stories in the past. God's grace has been gracious to me.

  325. I've never seen that in the churches I personally served him.

  326. But we see these issues. But we as a great

  327. commission so that Baptist Church should be a church that's

  328. not known for how we fight. Maybe we be known

  329. for how we encourage, but church known for how we

  330. care for one another, how we treat each other like family,

  331. how we love one another. Just yesterday, I got a

  332. call from my daughter. She left out on Friday, very

  333. very early to serve as a missionary in Mexico for

  334. five weeks. Yesterday she was kind of having a hard

  335. day and I think jet lag like a sleep and

  336. no air conditioning in her room kind of compacted and

  337. made things a hard day. She reached out to me

  338. and her mom and you know when when she was

  339. down and discourage, what do we do? I called her,

  340. I sent her messages. Brandy as her mom called her

  341. and sent her messages. Chloe heard about it, and Chloe

  342. called her and sent her messages. Calling heard about it.

  343. He's words of encouragement. Once we see someone's down, what

  344. as a family, what do we do. We don't step back.

  345. We rightly too, right if and I want you to

  346. hear that's the imagery of this passage. Paul is saying, listen,

  347. there's people in the church here today or discouraged. They're

  348. down and they need a brother. They need a sister

  349. in Christ. They need a godly older woman that's like

  350. a mother figure to them. They need a godly older

  351. man as a scene, as a father who comes alongside

  352. and says, hey, I want to encourage you. I want

  353. to encourage you in your faith. I want to encourage

  354. you when you're down. I want to lead you and

  355. care for you. May we be a church that understands

  356. that part of our role as a church is to

  357. give proper respect to all members, to encourage them, to

  358. treat them like family. As you think about this passage,

  359. you to remind you of one thing. Go with me

  360. to the very end of this passage, chapter five. If

  361. you'll go to verse twenty a chapter five, actually go

  362. back to verse nineteen one verse over. You have to

  363. remember what was the purpose of this letter Paul wrote

  364. to Timothy to confront the false teachers, who are the

  365. false teachers in the church. Older men you have to understand,

  366. as Paul was thinking to Timothy and instructing how he's

  367. to treat these older men who probably have looked down

  368. upon him because he's young. He's to treat them like family.

  369. He's to encourage them not to rebute them. But he's

  370. foreshadowing a time and not along from now, that Timothy

  371. is going to have to go to some older men

  372. to the church who are false teachers and confront them,

  373. Confront them and their sin, confront them and their false teaching.

  374. And he describes this in this passage in verses nineteen

  375. and twenty kind of the steps upon doing this, It says,

  376. don't admit a charge against an elder. This is the

  377. office there. It's setting on the evisis of two or

  378. three witnesses for those who persist in sin. Rebuke them

  379. in the presence of all, say God, so that the

  380. rest may stand in fear in the presence of God,

  381. in Christ, Jesus and the elect angels. I charge you

  382. to keep these rules without prejudging. Do nothing from partiality.

  383. He's strutting Timothy how he's to practice church discipline on

  384. elders who have strayed away from truth. Timothy is going

  385. to be charged with doing this. You know, as I

  386. was thinking about this message, I thought about last week.

  387. Last week we talked about the issue of sexual morality

  388. that's plaguing our church today across America. And one of

  389. the challenges I gave you, and one of the challenges

  390. I believe that we saw in Ephesians five was that

  391. we as a church are to confront we confront those

  392. who are in sin. Where to confront those in sin?

  393. Just like Timothy is going to confront these are in

  394. teaching false doctrine in Timothy, and I think it's important

  395. that you understand. In first, I mean the Ephesians five eleven,

  396. he says, no part in the fruitful work of the darkness,

  397. but instead expose them. That's the idea we looked at.

  398. Expose him. Where to confront? Matthew eighteen fifteen says, if

  399. your brother sends it gets you, go and tell him

  400. his fault between you and him alone, and if he

  401. listens to you have gained your brother. In James five

  402. and in nineteen and twenty, he says, my brother is

  403. anyone among you wonders from the truth, and someone brings

  404. him back, let him know whoever brings back a sinner

  405. from his wondering, will save his soul from death, and

  406. will cover a multitude of sin. You know, I really

  407. believe this. As a pastor of church, There's gonna be

  408. times where God calls me to confront sin. It's one

  409. of my roles, one of my responsibilities, one of the

  410. things that God's entrusted me, just like he didn't trusted Timothy.

  411. But listen, that doesn't lie only on my shoulders. There's

  412. times also that God is going to call you as

  413. a church member to go to someone who's in sin.

  414. And I think this passage and only allowed lines for

  415. us how we are to encourage one another as family.

  416. But I also think it outlines for us how we

  417. to go, how we to confront sin. When we confront

  418. sin and we confront others who are in sin, listen,

  419. we are to not to do it in a way

  420. that's rebuking. There's reprimanding that's harsh or scolding. We or

  421. should do it in a way that encourages them to

  422. turn back to the Lord. There's two times in my life,

  423. probably the hardest things I've ever done in my life

  424. was go to my mom and my dad at different

  425. times in their life. And no parent is perfect, right.

  426. I'm not a perfect parent. None of us here are perfect.

  427. We all fall short, right, And thank the Lord that

  428. God given us family and brothers and sisters and Christ

  429. who come alongside of us and lead us in ways

  430. that we need to grow across the Lord. And there's

  431. times in my life that God's called me to go

  432. to my mom and dad and say, hey, I love you,

  433. but I don't think this is right in the eyes

  434. of the Lord. And I'll never get in. Both of

  435. those moments I never got in. It came to my parents,

  436. and I never expect to them harshly or scolded them

  437. or demeaned them. But as I went to them, I

  438. did it in love. I did an encouragement and I

  439. did it with compassion. Why because it was my father,

  440. it was my mother. Can I say to you, when

  441. you God leaves you to go to a brother and

  442. sister in Christ and that's in sin, do it in

  443. a way that's encouraging, loving, gracious, that encourages them to

  444. turn back to the Lord. You see that in this passage.

  445. Just think it's beautiful versus here Paul, commend Timothy treat

  446. him as you would I want you to know Timothy's

  447. father was unbelievered. You know that. I wonder he's reminding

  448. Timothy just as you would go to your father and

  449. confront him in his sin. May you do it the

  450. same way to your brothers and sisters in Christ? Can

  451. I encourage you today? Church? We are to treat the

  452. church like family. May we give proper respect to all members?

  453. May we treat them like family? May we commit to

  454. encourage one another? Won't you see the second part of

  455. this passage scripture and all we must give proper respect,

  456. but we must maintain proper purity in all our relationships.

  457. Notice the end of verse two he describes how is

  458. to treat each member as his own father, as his

  459. own brother, is his own sister, is his own mother

  460. as his own sister. And then he adds this ending

  461. in all purity and all purity. It's interesting that same

  462. word purity there is also the same word that she

  463. choose in One Timothy four twelve. Listen to that passage.

  464. Remind you of that again I read it earlier. Let

  465. no one despise you for your youth, but set up

  466. believers an example right and speech and conduct and love

  467. and faith and impurity. Timothy as a passion of the church,

  468. as a leader of the church, is the setting example

  469. for the believers to follow, to show them how they

  470. live for Christ. In one of the areas in which

  471. he is to illustrate or give an example to the

  472. church is in his own personal purity. We looked at

  473. at a few months ago and are about a month ago.

  474. How he's to be a one woman man. He's committed

  475. to fidelity. He's committed to have eyes that only have

  476. eyes for his wife. He's committed to his personal purity

  477. and how he handles other things. Here Paul applies that

  478. not only is he's personally to practice purity in his

  479. personal walk with the Lord, what he sees, what he

  480. looks at. Here he discusses how Timothy is to be

  481. pure and how he has relationships with others in the church.

  482. You know, we see here and we also see this

  483. in One Timothy five point twenty two. He says, don't

  484. be hasty on the laying of hands talking about elders,

  485. but take no part in the sins of others. Keep

  486. yourself pure. It's to be a man of purity in

  487. his personal life, but also in his relationship with others.

  488. Reality is if we're we've got to be honest to

  489. think about what's happened in the church through history. We

  490. have a church have also had a history of not purity.

  491. In the nineteen eighties and the nineteen nineties, the Catholic

  492. Church was plagued with accusations of sexual abuse. It happened

  493. also in two thousand. Came out early two thousand scandal

  494. that came out by the Boston Globe that explodes that

  495. widespread abuse in the Catholic Church. We look at that

  496. what's happened at the Catholic Church and we say shame, shame, shame.

  497. But in twenty nineteen, February twenty ten, twenty nineteen, the

  498. Houston Chronicle came out with an article about the Southern

  499. Baptist churches. The article was titled abuse in Faith and

  500. in that article it did a survey or a study

  501. that found for over twenty years that found roughly three

  502. hundred church leaders, lay leaders, volunteers, faith allegations of sexual

  503. misconducts over a twenty year period, over seven hundred victims,

  504. many of who were children. We have to recognize our

  505. own churches have had a history of not being pure

  506. in our relationships. This should grieve our hearts, should break

  507. our hearts that this is even mentioned. That's what Paul says,

  508. we looked last week. It shouldn't even be sexual morality

  509. should not even be named among you, and it should

  510. grieve our hearts that this is being named among us.

  511. As Southern Baptists, grieve us, but I should grieve us.

  512. What happens in our convention, what's happened in churches all

  513. across the United States should should grieve us. What happens

  514. in many churches. I remember witnessing as a young pastor

  515. being in a church one time where a young man

  516. in the church making inapropriate comments to a woman. I've

  517. seen it in the churches that from young men to

  518. old men who've made inappropriate comments. And we've seen issues

  519. at time in churches where men who've been inappropriate with

  520. women in the church. It should not be named among us.

  521. We've had issues with inappropriate conversations, inappropriate things happening. We've

  522. had issues with adultery in the church, Pastors having fair

  523. with church members, church members having affairs should not be

  524. named among us. Should grieve our hearts, should break our

  525. hearts I think we need to, as this passage says,

  526. we need to be individuals in a church who says

  527. we are committed in purity in our relationship. What does

  528. that mean? You know? Job says in Job thirty one

  529. to one, I've made a covenant with my eyes. How

  530. then shall I gaze at a virgin? What does that mean? That?

  531. Here the Job is saying he makes a covenant, That

  532. means he made a prominence agreement with his eyes. He

  533. was not going to look upon a woman. I think

  534. we as church members, as individually members of it, we

  535. must have to make safeguards in our life that we

  536. are going to protect ourselves. We're going to protect our actions.

  537. We're not gonna put ourselves in situations. We're not going

  538. to say certain things, We're not going to do certain things.

  539. Is never okay in any shape, form or fashion. I

  540. encourage you this morning, we as I would say to me.

  541. I remember, as my Ordination Council, I had pastors who

  542. were commending me or really encouraging me on this. And

  543. I remember one of the encouragement in more Nation Council

  544. was that pastor never put yourself. Never, never put yourself

  545. while you're alone with a woman by yourself. It's one

  546. of the encouragements. There's something I've practiced all my ministry,

  547. something that we practice as a staff. I asked all

  548. our staff members make that commitment. Why that's to because

  549. to be above approach and we not only listen. That's

  550. not only for me, that's for all of us. We

  551. need to put safeguards in our in our relationships that

  552. we don't husbands. You should not have any text thread

  553. with any other woman. Your wife should be the only

  554. person that you have a relationship with other women that

  555. you should have a relationship with wives just the same

  556. way we might have safeguards where were practicing protecting our

  557. relationships handling relationships. If you think about this, just idea. Listen,

  558. you are to treat look at the passage older women

  559. as mothers and younger women's as sisters in all purity.

  560. You would be pure in your conversations with your sister.

  561. You would be pure and how you handled your relationship

  562. with your sister, And so should you treat others in

  563. the church as you would treat your own family impurity,

  564. So our conversation church, But we need to be honest

  565. about how important it is that we practice purity as

  566. a church in our relationships and how we care for

  567. one another. As we finished this morning, I want to

  568. encourage you. How are you treating the church like family?

  569. We are to give proper respect to all members. I

  570. want to challenge you today. How are you treating others

  571. like family? How are you encouraging one another's Can I

  572. encourage you today? How are you practicing purity in your

  573. relationships with others? Safeguards or you've established in your life

  574. to practice purity in your relationship with others? As we close?

  575. When you think about the word family a special word,

  576. isn't it If you think about the word family, Yeah,

  577. I asked the band. If you want to make your

  578. way up, it means something, doesn't it. It means you're

  579. not alone. There's someone to care for you. There's someone

  580. there to encourage you. There's someone there to comfort you.

  581. There's someone to forgive you when you've fallen, to pick

  582. you up when things have fallen apart. There's someone who's

  583. there who loves you. And that's what family means. When

  584. we think about the family God gave us our moms,

  585. our dads, our sisters, our brothers, our cousin, our aunts

  586. and uncles. When we think about our family, we think

  587. we're not alone. We are loved, we're encouraged, We're cared for,

  588. We're comforted, we're forgiven, We're loved. You know. There's a

  589. old song by Bill Gaither and he talks about his

  590. church family. He says this, I'm so glad I'm a

  591. part of the family of God. I've been washed in

  592. the fountain, cleansed by His blood. Join heirs with Jesus

  593. as we travel this sod for I'm a part, a

  594. part of the family of God. I wonder today if

  595. there's anyone here that's not a part of God's family.

  596. Can I tell you, as part of God's family, you

  597. are loved, you are careful, and you are not alone.

  598. You're not alone because God loves you. God cares for you.

  599. Bel you're not alone because God's given your church family

  600. to walk with you today. If you're not a part

  601. of God's family, listen passage of scripture in John one

  602. twelve through thirteen. But all who did receive Him, who

  603. believed in his name, he gave the right to become

  604. children of God, who were born not of the blood

  605. nor the will of the flesh. Nor the will of man,

  606. but of God. Listen today, can I tell you if

  607. you're not a part of the family of God, Listen,

  608. there's the invitation from the Lord today. If you receive

  609. him and you believe in his name, he will make

  610. you a part of his family. You'll become today one

  611. of his children. Will you accept his invitation to become

  612. a child of God? Today? Would you pray with me?

  613. Every head bouty, every eye close. Lord, We thank you

  614. Lord this morning, that God, You God, you have expectations

  615. of how we are to care one another our Lord.

  616. We are to Lord, how we are to give proper

  617. respect to everyone, to treat each other like family, to

  618. encourage one another God, how we are to be pure

  619. in our relationships with one another. God. We thank you,

  620. Lord for your encouragement to us today. Lord, I pray today, Lord,

  621. our hearts would be heavy about our personal responsibility in

  622. caring for one another. Lord, I pray today that if

  623. there's someone here today that's not a part of your

  624. family God, today, that they would receive you. They'd put

  625. their faith in you for salvation and what you've done

  626. for them on the cross. And today Lord, you will

  627. Lord make them a child of God. Lord. So today,

  628. if there's anyone here, Lord, may they put their faith

  629. in you for salvation and enjoin Lord your family. But

  630. we love you. We thank your Lord for this morning.

  631. We thank you Lord for your word. Lead us now

  632. into response. In your name, we pray Amen, Jesus, pain

  633. and all to him