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Real Life | Part 9 | Dave Gruhn
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Alright. Hey. Good morning.
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Good morning.
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As we get started, Kevin just mentioned this.
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Maybe in your venue, you already heard something
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about catalyst, and that's all about personal transformation.
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And one of the ways we wanna gauge
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that is with the survey that you've already
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been invited to participate in. And so, here's
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the deal, if you know, you know you,
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the only time that you're gonna participate in
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that is right now, I'm not gonna be
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offended. Alright? I guarantee you, in all the
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venues, I won't be offended. So you can
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grab your phone and you can do it
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right now as we get started about five
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to seven minutes, but it's really important
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that we would have a baseline. Because by
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the time we get to the end of
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catalyst, how do we talk about transformation
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if we don't have a way to gauge
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it? So, would you do that please? We
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ask.
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As we get started, I'm Dave, and we're
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welcoming Roane County down in Bearden. Good morning
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to y'all,
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over at Amplend, good morning to you as
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well. And you can open a Bible to
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chapter,
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18 in the book of Matthew,
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and We're gonna talk about a topic today
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called forgiveness.
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Everybody up for this one?
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Yeah.
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That's what I thought.
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You know, I I it was about twenty
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years ago. No. It was twenty years ago.
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And,
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this year.
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And,
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my wife and I,
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before that, we had left, one career path.
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I was in a new career path. I
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was now in vocational
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ministry, and part of that transition was the
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thing that I knew is that God was
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calling me to go to school. And it's
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a long story that I'm gonna try and
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tell in a really short period of time,
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but in the midst of that, I just
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had this deep conviction that that's what it
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was all about. I had no idea
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at that time that I might actually be
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doing what I do. I never imagined
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that I'd be doing what I do, but
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but I just knew that I was supposed
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to go to school
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and, there was a church. They invited us
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to come be on staff. It was church
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that we were part of. It's a church
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church
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that we were deeply connected in, and we
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are deeply connected with the lead pastor of
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that church and his wife. We were at
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dinner one night, and they they had invited
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us to come be part of their staff,
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and
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and, we were concerned a little bit. There
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was a lot of stuff going on in
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that church and he looked,
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at us and in particular, he looked at
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my wife straight in the eyes and he
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said, Kelly, as long as I'm the lead
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pastor of this church, you have nothing to
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worry about.
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Yeah. We were we were
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Yeah. We weren't we weren't really aware how
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that works. So
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here's the thing, it was less than a
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year later. About a year later, all of
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a sudden,
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in very short order,
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within a week, I was out of a
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job and when I asked him about that
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statement, hey, here's what you said, here's the
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promise you made to my wife, he says,
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I never said that.
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Now here's the thing,
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at that time it was like not It
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gets more complicated because it's not just
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that, hey, there was a person and they
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betrayed you. For those of you who've been
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in business, for those of you who've been
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in a marriage where you've been betrayed, those
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of you who've been in families where you've
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been betrayed by somebody who's close to you,
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you know that that's difficult, but when it's
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somebody
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who's representing Jesus in your world,
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it gets far more complicated. Not just are
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you working through do I forgive this person,
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but how do I forgive
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Jesus even though he doesn't need my forgiveness?
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How do I work my way through that?
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And so, that's where we're starting today. On
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the surface,
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forgiveness
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sounds simple. Just forgive people.
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But as you know, it's not simple at
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all. It's one of the hardest things we're
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not only asked to do, but we're commanded
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to do.
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It's not an option, this isn't like, Hey,
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there's a nice accessory,
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by the way to the Christian life. It's
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called forgiveness. If you get around to it
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and you feel like it, embrace that one.
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Jesus doesn't set it up that way.
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So here's what we're gonna talk about today,
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this idea of forgiveness. And what I wanna
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do is I wanna set it up and
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and I wanna set it up by telling
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you it is complicated
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and your situation is complicated and you probably
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can't figure it out on your own if
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you haven't figured it out already.
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You probably aren't gonna figure it out this
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afternoon if it's been 10:20,
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thirty years that you've been dealing with it.
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And so I'm gonna encourage you that you
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requires that we would
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get wise counsel.
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We can get counsel from things like books.
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There's a book called Forgive
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by Timothy Keller. He's since passed away, but
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in that book, in particular, it's based upon
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the parable that we're gonna see today, and
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in the end, there's some appendixes that actually
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walk you through the process. What does this
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look like for me to actually
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experience and give the forgiveness that I've been
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given?
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Forgiveness is a word we know, but what
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we're talking about here is this idea that
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forgiveness means giving up the right to revenge,
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the right to seek repayment from the one
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who harmed you.
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It must be recognized
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that forgiveness
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is a form of voluntary
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suffering.
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There's a debt
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that needs to be paid.
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Unforgiveness
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says
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when you finally do enough
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then we can move on, then I'll forgive
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you. When you finally
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pay the penalty.
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But forgiveness is different than that. The forgiveness
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that's gospel centered forgiveness looks like, I don't
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expect you to pay it because I'm gonna
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pay your debt.
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I'm gonna take the debt of your offense
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with me, and I'm gonna take it upon
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myself,
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and I'm going to pay your debt. I
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forgive you. That sounds a lot like the
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gospel, does it not?
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Sounds like what Jesus did for us and
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the expectation Jesus had for us
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is that that kind
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of forgiveness is what would flow out of
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us and into others. And in that book,
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Forgive by,
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Timothy Keller, he he talks about a lot
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of real world stuff that has happened in
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the last five years
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Because the world's message is don't be foolish.
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People have to pay. They did the crime.
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They gotta do the time. While that may
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be true, okay? The relationships that you have
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may never be the same.
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Jesus is gonna give us a warning.
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It does require forgiveness in our heart.
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If we're a follower of Christ,
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that's the grave warning. So here's what we're
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gonna walk away with this weekend.
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Real life with Jesus in his kingdom is
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fueled by grace
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demonstrated
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by unlimited
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forgiveness. If you take note, circuit that word
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unlimited.
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We don't get to set the parameters. Now
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with that, I I don't know what your
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story is.
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I don't
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know how
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how great the offense is that you have
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to forgive.
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I have no idea. It may be unimaginable
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and we'll talk about that.
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All I know is what Jesus says.
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And he doesn't say that, Oh, if you
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reach a certain level,
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now you've qualified for the unforgiveness camp.
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It's all levels, and he does so by
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telling a story.
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Now, Matthew 18,
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here's what we've seen, is that Jesus
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talks about us that those who are in
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the kingdom are like children, humble and dependent,
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and he calls us to pursue those who
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have wandered away and to care for others
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in the pursuit
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of those people, and that we would
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work hard towards seeing relationships
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restored.
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Forgiveness isn't just an isolated moment, it's it's
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the culmination of all that's gone on already
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in chapter 18.
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If we are in God's kingdom, and we
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are within a body called the body of
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Christ, that we pursue one another, and we
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forgive one another because it's what Jesus has
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given us as a model of the gospel,
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and so this is what Peter's wrestling with.
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He's trying to figure out how kingdom greatness
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works in the real world where people mess
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up. As we pick up here in chapter
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18 in verse 22 where it says, Then
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Peter came up and said to him,
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Lord, how often will my brother sin against
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me and I forgive him?
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As many as seven times?
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Jesus said to him, I do not say
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to you seven times,
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but 77 times.
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Therefore,
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the kingdom of heaven may be compared to
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a king who wished to settle accounts with
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his servants.
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When he began to settle, one was brought
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to him who owed him 10,000 talents. And
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since he could not pay,
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his master ordered him to be sold with
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his wife and children and all that he
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had and payment to be made. Now last
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night, while I was sitting here,
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getting ready to get up on stage and
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speak, ChatGPT helped me out. Gave me like
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a modern day kind of thing. We figured
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it out earlier in the week, but I'm
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like, what about now? What's ChatGPT have to
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say? And if ChatGPT is right, we're talking
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about $6,000,000,000.
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We figured it earlier this week. It's about
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$13,000,000,000
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to give you
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a scale. Okay? So the the kind of
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debt that we're talking about is
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massive
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to the point of being
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unpayable.
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You can never pay the debt. It's a
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really important point
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in the story.
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So the servant fell on his knees imploring
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him, have patience with me and I will
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pay you everything.
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And out of pity for him, the master
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of that servant released him and forgave him
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the debt.
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But when the servant went out, he found
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one of his fellow servants who owed him
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a 100 denarii and seizing him he began
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to choke him saying,
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Pay what you owe.
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In today's dollars, about $10,000.
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He owes 6,000,000,000
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that was forgiven,
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but you're gonna pay me the 10,000.
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So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded
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with him, have patience with me and I
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will pay you.
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He refused and went and put him in
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prison until he should pay the debt.
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When his fellow servants saw what had taken
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place, they were greatly distressed and they went
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and reported to their master all that had
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taken place.
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Then his master summoned him and said to
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him, you wicked servant.
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I forgave you all that debt because you
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pleaded with me.
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And should not you have had mercy on
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your fellow servant as I had mercy on
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you?
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And in anger his master delivered him to
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the jailers, to the tormentors
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until he should pay all his debt.
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So also my heavenly father will do to
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every one of you if you do not
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forgive your brother from your heart. Now when
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Jesus had finished these sayings, he went away
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from Galilee and entered the region of Judea
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by the Jordan.
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If you write in your Bibles, that that
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last part there, the end of chapter 18,
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should be underlined,
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starred, highlighted, circled, all the things
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because it's the point of the parable,
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and it's great. It's a huge warning, and
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throughout this week, I I kind of wrestled
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from the time we went from sermon meeting
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and we went through this week until this
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weekend. I'm like, it's really important that we
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would know the magnitude of the warning.
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That that this is something that's he doesn't
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say like if you feel like it.
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He says this is what's gonna happen.
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If you if you're a person who says,
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I I could never, I will never,
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we're gonna talk about the hard truth.
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Here's the hard truth.
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Maybe you don't know grace,
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maybe you haven't experienced
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the supernatural
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forgiveness of God, of a debt that you
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could never pay.
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Maybe that's an indicator
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in your life
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that you don't really
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grasp
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what the debt that Christ paid,
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the debt that's been forgiven.
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Because if we grasp that,
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if we grasp that,
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we're certainly going to be people who say,
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I know it's difficult, maybe even seems impossible
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to me, but I'm going to pass that
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along. And there's something to keep in your
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back of your mind
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as we go through the rest of this,
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this weekend, the rest of this message.
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Jesus
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thinks this is possible.
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This is built
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on Jesus
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believing this is possible.
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So if in your mind you're saying that's
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not possible, I could never,
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you're not arguing with me.
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You're arguing with Jesus
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who says
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this is the expectation
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that we would be people who pass along
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this kind of forgiveness.
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This got all in my business. I'm already
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all up in yours, so let's go.
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Here's the deal. We're called to cancel offenses,
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not track them. We're called to cancel
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offenses, not track them, and this goes against
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everything within us. Jesus connects the dots for
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Peter by using a Biblical story. In Genesis
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chapter four, there's a guy who shows up
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by the name of Lamech. He's a descendant
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of Cain, and Cain was the first murderer
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in the Bible. So,
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you've got this lineage
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from Cain to Lamech,
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and it's a family line of violence.
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And so
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Lamech says, if Cain's revenge is sevenfold,
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then Lamech's is 70 sevenfold.
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He's not setting a limit. He's declaring
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that Lamech's
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payment is
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unlimited
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vengeance.
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Lamech represents
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the world's system.
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If you
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offended me
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to a certain level,
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you
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don't deserve
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forgiveness.
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And the gospel says
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it doesn't matter if they deserve it.
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It doesn't matter if they deserve it. It
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doesn't matter if they ask for it. It
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doesn't matter if they want it.
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It doesn't matter if they humble themselves and
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come and ask for it.
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There's something that that has to happen within
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us.
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And somebody said that Jesus takes this saying
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and he flips it upright, the world's thinking
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is upside down and so Jesus comes and
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he takes Lamech's thinking and he flips it
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upright
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and what happens is he gives us a
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representation
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of what it looks like to live in
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the kingdom. And so 70 times seven is
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an idiom of limitless forgiveness.
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This 77 times.
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It's not saying count to them. It's it's
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just a way of saying
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don't count. There's unlimited forgiveness.
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Stop counting.
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This is the overflow of something deeper.
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It's the overflow of the work of Jesus
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in us.
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It's the overflow,
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that we've really grasped
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forgiveness because forgiveness stops being a decision that
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we that we make and it starts becoming
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who we are. The more that we understand
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the gospel, the more that that plays out
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in our life. How would I not forgive
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when I'm forgiven? And then once again, it's
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complicated. Does it mean? It does not mean
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that we just go back and we pretend
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like something didn't happen.
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It's not like we just pretend that the
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offense didn't didn't occur.
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Because when we do that with Jesus, if
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we pretend like the offense didn't occur, occur,
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what happens?
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We forget.
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The offense occurred,
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and because the offense occurred,
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it keeps me humble under the rule of
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Jesus,
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and I recognize my need for Jesus, the
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one who has forgiven my debt.
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And so when I I think about relationships
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with other people, I I don't just go
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and maybe put myself in the same situation.
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I'm wise.
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It requires wisdom,
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but it requires a work inside. He says
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that this is a forgiveness in the heart,
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and so what we're talking about is grace
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received must become grace given.
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That's the story.
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The grace that I've received is the grace
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that I pass on and it does require
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wisdom.
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It requires wisdom.
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Because here's the thing, Jesus says you must
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forgive them in your heart and that doesn't
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look like this.
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Somebody has offended you.
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They don't know it.
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Or maybe even they do.
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In your wrestling you're like, You know what?
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I do. I have to forgive them. I
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have to forgive them in my heart.
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So because I've forgiven them, I wanna make
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sure that they know.
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So I'm gonna tell them,
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Hey, by the way, you hurt my feelings
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and I've forgiven you.
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Don't do that.
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That's the wrong answer, okay? You just took
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your forgiveness and made it about you,
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And now they have to forgive you.
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You just passed it along.
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Now you're like Now they're sitting there going,
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Hey, I'm glad that you forgave me for
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my offense. Now I gotta forgive you for
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your offense because I'm offended at you.
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Now we're in this cycle.
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Don't do that.
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If it's real, if it's genuine, if it's
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something that he's doing within you, you don't
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have to declare it to the other person.
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Now if a person comes to you and
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they've offended you and you've followed Christ in
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that and you've forgiven them and they come
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to you and they say to you,
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I'm sorry.
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I did this thing to you,
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please forgive me. Well then it would be
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appropriate for you to say, I've already forgiven
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you.
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I've already forgiven you. We're good. I've forgiven
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you. There's no offense to be forgiven.
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I've forgiven you.
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And it's also the reason why we need
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to stop calling Matthew 18 the the church
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discipline chapter. It turns out it's not about
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that.
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It's about life in the kingdom. We should
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call it the kingdom life.
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Humble, pursuing others, living within the body of
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Christ,
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forgiving as we're forgiven,
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chasing each other down when we go astray,
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caring for one another, living in community
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with each other.
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You see, withholding forgiveness contradicts the gospel we
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can aim to believe
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and that's why we started with a warning.
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If we absolutely
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refuse to embrace
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the forgiveness
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of Christ in the lives of other people,
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forgiveness in our hearts, we're saying, I don't
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know that I really believe it or at
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least
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my allegiance isn't with Jesus. My allegiance is
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somewhere else. My allegiance is most likely to
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me.
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So what does the gospel actually look like
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when it's lived out? It looks like this
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parable.
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When someone truly understands that the king has
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forgiven them,
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it lets us be transformed
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in how we treat others.
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Once again, not pretending that the offense didn't
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happen,
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Forgiving is not forgetting.
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It's remembering
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but without exacting payment.
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It's not throwing it in someone else's face,
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it's saying it's been redeemed. I've forgiven it.
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You see, real forgiveness
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reflects Jesus' heart and it defines life in
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his kingdom.
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So when you step back and you look
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at the whole parable,
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that's what Jesus has been showing them.
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This isn't really about the other person or
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what they did when you look at it.
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It's not about the person who has offended
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you, it's about you.
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This is the irony of this.
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Your entire life in God's kingdom is built
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on one foundation.
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You've been shown
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mercy you didn't
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deserve.
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You've been shown mercy you didn't deserve.
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You know what that's called? That's good news.
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You've been shown mercy you didn't deserve.
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That $6,000,000,000
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thing you could never pay?
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Wow.
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Forgiven.
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Paid
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by Christ.
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But here's the honest part, the grace we're
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called to give doesn't work like a light
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switch. It's It's not something you can just
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go, Oh okay, I heard this today. I'm
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gonna walk out of here. Oop, problem solved.
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Last three years of my life I've been
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struggling with this thing, but now I guess
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I'm not.
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No. It requires that we embrace the process.
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I'm gonna use in a a baseball analogy,
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because it just works for this.
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Trust the process. And so here's what happens
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in baseball. In baseball,
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being a hitter is very difficult. Hitting a
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baseball, it's very
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difficult.
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You know it's difficult
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because if you're a professional baseball
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player and you hit a baseball
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and get on base one third of the
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time,
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do you know what happens to you?
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You end up in the hall of fame
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as one of the greatest baseball players who
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ever played.
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It's hard.
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And sometimes they get they get in slumps
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where they they're doing all the things,
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but they're not getting on base. They have
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to trust the process. They have to trust,
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okay, I'm gonna work with my coach. I'm
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gonna work with my hitting coach. Do you
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know what professional baseball players do you know
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who they work with?
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They're making multimillion
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dollars
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and they're working with a swing coach. Do
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you know what golfers do who are making
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multimillion
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dollars? They work with a swing coach.
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As followers of Christ,
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there's wisdom here for us.
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What's it look like for us to to
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be open to seeking wise counsel, to to
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going, Wow, I've not been able to figure
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this one out. I need to clude other
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people,
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not to bash the person who needs forgiveness,
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but what does that look like for me
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to work through this? What does this look
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like for me to work through this process?
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You see, forgiveness is a journey with Jesus
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empowered by the spirit over time.
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Forgiveness like this isn't something we can produce
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on our own. I don't believe this is
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something you can dig deeper and find. I
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believe that this is a supernatural work of
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people who are born through the spirit of
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God. People who are who have become new
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in Christ, followers of Christ,
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who've been born again or born from above,
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this is what John calls it,
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who are indwelt by the Spirit of God.
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That's what's required to see this kind of
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response. It's a spirit empowered response.
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And so Paul writes this to the church
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in Ephesus. He says, do not grieve the
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Holy Spirit of God
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by whom you were sealed for the day
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of redemption.
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Let all bitterness and wrath
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and anger and clamor and slander be put
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away from you along with all malice.
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Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
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another as God in Christ forgave you.
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Therefore,
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be imitators of God as beloved children
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and walk in love as Christ loved us
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and gave himself up for us a fragrant
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offering
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and sacrifice to God. That's the Spirit empowered
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life.
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That requires
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that we don't grieve the spirit, we obey
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the spirit.
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That we are yielded
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to the spirit so that we can actually
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be kind to one another.
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We can be tenderhearted,
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we can
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forgive one another as God in Christ forgave
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you. How did Jesus forgive
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you? Completely.
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It's an unlimited
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forgiveness.
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So forgiveness is the hard work of saying
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yes to Jesus
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again
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and again and you could add like a
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bunch more agains.
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Again and again and again and again until
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it's really annoying. Keep saying that to yourself.
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How many times? And again
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and yet again. You keep offending me.
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And you forgive
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yet again. Now it doesn't mean that you
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don't address relational problems. It doesn't mean that
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you don't seek counseling. It doesn't mean that
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you just keep letting the same situation
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play out and you become, you know, just
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a an emotional punching bag. No. It does
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mean that because of forgiveness
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you step into the situation.
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I don't hold your offense against you
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by stepping into the offense.
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Forgiveness
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demonstrates our allegiance to Jesus
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and living under his reign in our everyday
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lives. This is the culmination of real life
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with Jesus in his kingdom that this is
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what this looks like. It looks like a
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life that has submitted to the rule and
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reign of Christ.
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We've humbled ourselves
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under the authority of Christ.
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We're connected with other followers of Jesus.
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We go after those who strayed
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and we forgive with a supernatural forgiveness that
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comes from the spirit of God alone.
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Forgiveness
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demonstrates
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ultimately
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who I believe.
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Do I believe Jesus
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or not? So real life with Jesus in
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his kingdom is fueled by grace demonstrated by
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unlimited
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forgiveness
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And the question is always, so what will
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you do with it? This week,
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we're headed towards a national holiday of celebrating
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Thanksgiving, right? We're heading toward that place of
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being grateful.
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And before we get there, I wanna encourage
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you that you would reconcile
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things in your own heart and mind.
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We can't possibly
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demonstrate
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thankfulness
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for the gospel
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and not pass along forgiveness.
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The hypocrisy
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of walking into thanksgiving saying, God, I'm so
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grateful.
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And yet harboring things against another person in
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our heart and mind who doesn't deserve our
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forgiveness,
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it it's the ultimate in hypocrisy.
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What are you grateful for?
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Well, I'm grateful for the 6,000,000,000 out of
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my account, but I'm still gonna look for
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all the 10 thousands people owe me.
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Or
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I'm grateful
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that I'm forgiven so that I can live
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in the freedom of Christ. And so my
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story, it it played out over time. I
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I had deep wounds because
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the offense against me wasn't just against me.
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It wasn't just that I lost a job.
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It wasn't just that. It was like, woah,
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this this impacted my whole family. This was
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a wound that that impacted all of us
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and so I I wrestled with it over
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time and it began, it was always on
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the front of my mind.
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And I wrestled through it because it's like,
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God, I don't think I should have to.
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I wrestled with God for a couple years
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and I finally had to come to grips
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with the fact that I was mad at
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Jesus, I was mad at the world,
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I was working it out slowly through the
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power of the spirit, it wasn't something that
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happened in an instant.
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And then do you know what happened?
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There were other offenses by other people that
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started mounting up as well.
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All of a sudden it felt like, wow
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I have this huge gaping wound and now
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I have all these other little
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stab wounds to go along with it.
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How's this ever gonna work out? And so
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I I was working it through my mind
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from last night until today.
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It is probably
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about six years later.
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It's about six years later
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and,
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I ran into him at a conference.
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Where do you run into people at a
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conference? In a bathroom? Of course, that's where
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you're gonna run into people, right? I ran
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into him, I was like, Woah,
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hello.
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And I realized something in that moment.
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I realized that God had done a supernatural
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work over time.
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That there had been something through the intentional
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work of allowing the spirit of God to
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transform my heart and mind, because when I
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saw him, I didn't
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feel the emotion of how dare you, how
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could you. I was able to smile, I
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was able to to go,
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with a genuine kind of way, Hey, how
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are you? What's going on in your world?
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And here's ultimately what what happened is God
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revealed that that this was something in the
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back of my mind while forgiveness had happened
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over time, it was so gradual, I didn't
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even realize the completion of it until he
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revealed it to me through an encounter with
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a person. It doesn't make any sense. I
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still to this day believe it was the
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supernatural kindness of God to allow me to
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encounter him in that restroom,
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as weird as that sounds.
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And in that moment,
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I knew that forgiveness had brought healing,
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not to our relationship,
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not to the relationship between the two of
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us,
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but to me. Because the irony of forgiveness
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is that it restores you.
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It restores you.
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You may have heard this before,
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it's a common phrase that you have a
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person living rent free in your head.
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There's someone that they're always on your mind,
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they're coming to mind, they're the person when
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we're talking about today, it's the first thing
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that came to mind, they are hanging out
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and they are living there and they're paying
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no rent,
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and what they're doing is they're keeping you
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in bondage.
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You're not experiencing the freedom of the gospel.
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You're not experiencing
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the freedom of Christ because you've not extended
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forgiveness.
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As followers of Jesus, we forgive
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because we're forgiven.
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You may have heard this before,
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forgiveness
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is based on forgiveness.
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It's not based on a qualifying
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ask, it's not based on deserving, it's not
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based on,
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somebody
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just having a deep regret and finally they
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got to the point where you're like, Okay,
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I'll forgive you. No, it is an unconditional
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supernatural thing that's through the spirit of God
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as we yield and humble ourselves to His
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power at work in us.
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So my encouragement to you is, go to
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work.
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Embrace the process.
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Don't write it off.
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Maybe you are five
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levels
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removed.
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And I wanna encourage you, I wanna encourage
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you this week, listen to the podcast, it's
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in the Live It Out Guide. Listen to
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the podcast, we worked through some of this
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in there. It's not simple.
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It's not just a decision that you make
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and you move on and it's not something
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that you go, well, it's all gonna work
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out in the end. It's not.
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Without you embracing the supernatural
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work of God in your heart and mind
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to extend grace in a way that's beyond
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your ability.
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That's what
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the church is.
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This is the picture of life in God's
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kingdom.
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To be these people. We need each other.
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We need each other when we're like, man,
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I don't know what to do.
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This is the relationship that I have. This
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is the relationship that ended. This is the
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the thing where I am. This is the
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person who walked out the door on me,
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this is the business partner who betrayed me
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and walked away with a bazillion dollars, whatever
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that may be. Now I wanna say to
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you, this parable is not about money.
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Don't don't misapply the parable. Once again, doesn't
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mean that if the spirit of God says,
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Hey, forgive the real debt that they have,
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that you should, but it's not a command
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that anybody who might owe you money doesn't
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owe you money. Okay? That is not what
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this parable is about. This is about forgiveness.
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The supernatural work of God in our heart
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and minds.
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And once again, I'm not saying the spirit
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of God might not say,
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you need to give, forgive the actual
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financial obligation.
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Just saying, Don't use this parable to do
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it.
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So here's the question, I want to encourage
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you, and before I do.
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So it's one thing to say, Reach out
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for help, it's another thing to give you
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a resource. So there's two resources. One way
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you can reach out for help is by
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buying a book called Forgive by Timothy Keller
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and going through the process and using the
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appendix in the back. There's four of them.
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To work through the process. What's it look
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like for me to allow the spirit of
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God to use scripture to change my heart
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and mind over time?
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Another way is you might need counseling, you
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might need somebody to come alongside and help
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you in that process and that's
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why we wanna encourage you to reach out
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for a referral.
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Don't keep doing the same thing.
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Change course
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and don't think, oh, I'll do that someday.
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We want to encourage you, don't delay because
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the longer that we delay, especially from weekends,
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the longer that we delay in following through,
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the chances that we'll follow through, they they
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start to decrease exponentially.
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And so I want to encourage you follow
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through.
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Here's the question though,
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that I'm gonna ask us to all wrestle
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with.
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Where is Jesus asking you to pursue Him,
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so that you can forgive
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like Him?
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I do believe the lack of forgiveness is
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out of a lack of pursuit.
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If we're pursuing Christ,
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forgiveness becomes a lot easier.
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When I grasp what Jesus is doing in
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me,
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extending that onto other people
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is a lot easier.
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And so I want to encourage you, ask
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that question. I'm gonna give you like twenty
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seconds.
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Where is Jesus asking you to pursue Him
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so that you can forgive like Him? And
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and hold it captive, write it down, maybe
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like, I don't even gotta write that down,
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I know, I know that.
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Ask him that
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question.
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So over the next couple of days, my
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encouragement to you is to do the work.
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Use the Live It Out guide. Over the
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next couple days, as we head and we
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celebrate
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Thanksgiving, as we celebrate our gratefulness
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to God for all the abundance of blessings
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in in our world and in our lives,
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let's begin by doing the hard work,
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trusting the process that that as we do,
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we'll experience a gratefulness
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we could never have known
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any other way. Now in all of our
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venues, I'm gonna invite you to stand. Father,
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we are grateful that you're a God who's
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led us out of darkness and into the
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light. And we pray that this week we
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would be people who walk in the light
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of the truth of the gospel.
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We declare your praise now in Jesus name.
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Amen.