Sermon

Life on the Altar

Crossway Bible Church | Sermons

Open publisher episode ↗

Publisher transcript

Transcript

View source ↗
  1. And men, what church. You can have a seat and

  2. you can grab your bibles.

  3. Please grab your bibles and start turning to Romans chapter

  4. thirteen this morning. Romans chapter thirteen. It's where we're gonna be.

  5. And if you need a bible or a bulletin or

  6. a pen, you see already the ushers. They are looking

  7. for your hands raised there, So raise your hand if

  8. you need one of those, and they'll get.

  9. You situated with that.

  10. And also, if you've yet to fill out a connection

  11. card this morning, I encourage you to interact with those

  12. QR codes and fill out a connection card. It's a

  13. helpful shepherding tool for us. We ask everybody to do

  14. that each week. And want to know that you're here

  15. by name and to be able to pray for you.

  16. So be sure to do that. Pastor Josh he's out

  17. this weekend. He's serving some extended family out of town.

  18. And so I'm Pastor Seth here with you this morning.

  19. And I turned forty six. Recently turned forty six. Is

  20. that a good age?

  21. I don't know.

  22. Well, they they tell me that's middle aged, at least

  23. middle aged. I'm not quite sure when that started or

  24. when it finishes. I'm pretty sure though, that it does

  25. mean some things like I'm supposed to be relatively grown

  26. up by now, supposed to be matured.

  27. In life and in the faith.

  28. And yet it's also super clear to me that there's

  29. no real visible finish line to this process of maturing

  30. and growing up, especially when it comes to my lived

  31. out trust in the Lord.

  32. My maturity is a Christian.

  33. And even as I live each day, there's plenty of

  34. me that needs to die. You tracking with me on that,

  35. even as I live each day, there's still plenty of.

  36. Me that needs to die.

  37. And that's the paradox we actually read about at the

  38. beginning of Romans chapter twelve. This morning is this hinge

  39. point of Paul's Letter to the Roman Church that he

  40. wrote about twenty five years after Jesus died and resurrected.

  41. For the first eleven chapters of his letter, he largely

  42. addresses doctrines, great doctrines concerning God's righteousness, an offer of

  43. salvation for us these unrighteous people, now rescued, rescued ones

  44. needing instructions, so desperately needing instruction for faithful living. But

  45. it's faithful living as sacrifices we'll read here in a second,

  46. this living sacrifices language. He uses, I'm calling for us

  47. here this morning, life on the altar, Life on the altar.

  48. So let's read the chapter now, Romans, Chapter twelve.

  49. You can follow along with me.

  50. He says, I appeal to you there, for brothers, by

  51. the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a

  52. living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your

  53. spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but

  54. be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by

  55. testing you may discern what is the will of God,

  56. what is good and acceptable and perfect. For by the

  57. grace given to me, I say to everyone among you

  58. not to think of himself more highly than he ought

  59. to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according

  60. to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For

  61. As in one body, we have many members, and the

  62. members do not all have the same functions.

  63. So we, though many.

  64. Are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another,

  65. having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us,

  66. let us use them, if prophecy in proportion to our faith,

  67. if service in our serving the one who teaches in

  68. his teaching. The one who exhorts in his exhortation, the

  69. one who contributes in generosity, the one who leads with zeal,

  70. the does acts of mercy with cheerfulness. Let love be genuine,

  71. Abhor what is evil, fast to what is good. Love

  72. one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

  73. Do not be slothful in zeal. Be fervent in spirit,

  74. serve the Lord, Rejoice in hope, be patient and tribulation.

  75. Be constant in prayer.

  76. Contribute to the needs of the saints, and seek to

  77. show hospitality. Bless those who persecute you. Bless and do

  78. not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice. Weep with

  79. those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do

  80. not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.

  81. Never be wise in your own sight.

  82. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to

  83. do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible,

  84. so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with

  85. all beloved. Never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the

  86. wrath of God. For it is written vengeance is mine.

  87. I will repay, says the Lord to the contrary If

  88. your enemy is hungry, feed him. If heels thirsty, give

  89. him something to drink. For by so doing you will

  90. heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome

  91. by evil, but overcome evil with good.

  92. This is God's word for us this morning.

  93. Anybody feel a little overwhelmed by all we are being

  94. called to in this chapter?

  95. It's very much the same for me. With that.

  96. You know, every sentence feels like it could use a

  97. sermon and a playbook as we read through it.

  98. How do we do this thing?

  99. You might also be wondering about the whole life on

  100. the altar phrase that I used before our reading, since

  101. you didn't hear any mention of altars in this passage, right,

  102. But hopefully it's a quick connection that we can make

  103. here together. From the time that we see Noah departing

  104. from the arc in Genesis eight, and then throughout the

  105. Old Testament we see these altars, these raised platforms of

  106. earth stone and wood used for worship and often sacrifices,

  107. a place where the blood of animals was shed to

  108. make atonement for sin. And reading about altars, you read.

  109. About a lot of death.

  110. So Paul, in a way he picks up this imagery

  111. and adds a twist when he says in verse one,

  112. to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, a living sacrifice, right.

  113. It's a call to ongoing, complete surrender in a life

  114. of worshipful service. It's sort of like saying, we now live,

  115. We now live as those putting to death every ungodly

  116. way in us. Jesus he gives a related teaching when

  117. he says, what we have recorded in John twelve, twenty

  118. five and twenty six, whoever loves his life loses it,

  119. and whoever hates his life in this world will keep

  120. it for eternal life. If anyone, sir, he must follow me.

  121. Jesus said, it's this call to complete, wholehearted, all of

  122. life devotion. So now what Romans twelve gives us is

  123. initial instruction for this kind of life, This Jesus following

  124. life on the Altar.

  125. It's a pretty hefty concept. So where do we start?

  126. Where do we dive into this thing?

  127. What we might begin our exploration by stating life on

  128. the altar requires we get sorted.

  129. Get sorted.

  130. That's your first blank if you're taking notes here this morning.

  131. Before considering all the good things we might do in

  132. relating to others. We're first called to look close to home,

  133. as close as our own minds, our very thinking, to

  134. get all sorted out by God according to Godliness.

  135. See.

  136. Without proper attention and high intentionality. With this, you and

  137. I will tend to to cozy into the forms the

  138. molds the world has for us, the shapings that celebrate

  139. earthly success, a parent winning and supposed arrival in life,

  140. and that, at whatever expense, taking on an identity that

  141. proves contrary to the priorities for citizens of God's kingdom.

  142. So Paul tells us to be transformed out of that,

  143. transformed out of that, and into a new place of

  144. knowing God's will bill knowing it not so much as

  145. in figuring out his future plan for you or for me,

  146. but getting clear on what's good, acceptable, and perfect. It's

  147. about really getting God's mind for the proper evaluation of

  148. yourself and your ways. Now there are new opportunities to

  149. learn this at every phase of endpoint in life. I've noticed,

  150. just have to look around for just a moment, always

  151. fresh ways I find I must get personally sorted out

  152. and further transformed in my thinking. There's the whole middle

  153. aged thing that I'll have you consider with me again.

  154. I mean as simple as how should I even think

  155. about things like this body of mine, this physique? How

  156. am I supposed to think about this as a forty

  157. six year old man? You know, I've got to consider

  158. this because well, we were might have been even watching

  159. the Spurs game. I'm sorry to bring that up right now.

  160. I know, I know, I know, I know, but my

  161. family was laughing I think during that time at a

  162. commercial that we saw. I think it was like for

  163. testosterone supplements or something of the like. It features this guy,

  164. perhaps you know, my age, a little bit older, and

  165. you see him doing sleeveless pushups, and you see his

  166. slow mow run through the neighborhood, you know, getting the

  167. attention of the ladies, maybe the forty six year old

  168. ladies that are out there in the neighborhood.

  169. It's chuckle worthy.

  170. But but there's part of me that kind of wants

  171. to buy into that idea of holding on to youth,

  172. to vitality, to attractiveness, to sex appeal. There's an appeal

  173. to that. Or what about the car adds? So many

  174. car ads demonstrating vehicles that oh, they're just the perfect

  175. combination of sporty, roomy, classy, luxurious.

  176. Right. You've seen some of those so slick, Right.

  177. They feature a lot of people my age too, communicating

  178. that this stage of life means this level of financial

  179. success demonstrated through.

  180. These kinds of wheels.

  181. Right, I'm being invited to think and step with their

  182. value system and then do whatever I must to get

  183. their sacrificing what or who that might require, instead of

  184. giving myself to God as a living sacrifice.

  185. It's the truth is behind the flashy ads. Right.

  186. Of course, longing for nice bodies or fancy rides may

  187. not be everyone's worldly mind trap here this morning, But

  188. you've got your own phase of life and groups of

  189. peers and targeted ads all aimed at molding you into

  190. something contrary to the way of a living sacrifice, holy

  191. and acceptable to God, where you build values and make

  192. choices that line.

  193. Up with His kingdom.

  194. You know what helped me sort out a little bit,

  195. sort out my own mind and renew my thoughts this

  196. last week and add nothing to do with my own

  197. age or life situation. I'll get off of the whole

  198. middle life thing. It was read everything leading up to

  199. Romans twelve simple as that, and then to the end

  200. of the letter a little bit more after that, I

  201. got to think God's thoughts through that exercise in a

  202. way that so helped me to press out other empty longings,

  203. replacing them with glorious truths of things good, acceptable, and perfect.

  204. That was just so richly reorienting for me. But can

  205. I level with you here this morning, I don't want

  206. you to hear me say that if you read Romans

  207. this week, everything is going to be great.

  208. And you'll be in.

  209. The perfect headspace for the summer. It'd be so awesome.

  210. I think it was maybe Monday when I read through it,

  211. And then part of my birthday celebration on Tuesday included

  212. us sitting as a family and scrolling through our Google

  213. photos on our TV from the last year, and then

  214. Jen and I giving thanks for God's blessings right before

  215. going to sleep, and then and then me waking up

  216. the next morning in such in irritable funk, Oh my goodness,

  217. such a funk. The next morning, weary in body and soul.

  218. Where did that come from? But in that state where

  219. I didn't want to serve nothing and nobody but myself.

  220. With my next bits of Bible to read for that morning.

  221. As I stumbled into it with a heavy and distracted mind.

  222. I read the account in John thirteen of Jesus washing

  223. his disciple bull's feet as an example for them of

  224. the humble service they also were to walk in. And

  225. then you know what I did. I read it a

  226. second time. You know why, because I didn't remember a

  227. lick of what my eyes had just passed over.

  228. I don't even know if I could have told you

  229. what account it was.

  230. I had to read it a second time, and then,

  231. through that battle of gaining something here, grabbed a few

  232. verses of instruction from it, confessed my cold heart in

  233. regard to things like serving all of you through preparing

  234. this sermon.

  235. Prayed for His help, and I was.

  236. Gradually slowly yet yet steadily well revived to fight forward

  237. in faithfulness. Guys, that's an that's a normal Tuesday or

  238. Wednesday or Thursday for this guy. I share that with

  239. you because it's important for you to understand something of

  240. my basic weakness as I also try to live life

  241. on the altar as a living sacrifice before God as

  242. He sorts me out in this daily battle for Christian

  243. renewal and hope in the Lord, and push against desires

  244. for selfish ease and escape.

  245. And simply my own way.

  246. So that's something of a picture of how life on

  247. the Altar starts as each of us we each learn

  248. to be living sacrifices surrendered to God by getting sorted

  249. out in our minds and our thinking. But life on

  250. the altar doesn't end there. It also requires, as we

  251. saw in this chapter, it requires we get moving it

  252. we get moving, and that's our next point of focus

  253. as we drive further into this chapter. Looking specifically at

  254. Versus three through thirteen, which might be slightly different than

  255. the non inspired but often helpful headings that you have

  256. in your bibles in front of you. Look specifically here

  257. now at Versus three through thirteen. In this section, these

  258. next two paragraphs, we see how our right thinking needs

  259. to move us into right actions, specifically when it comes

  260. to our serving one another. Only even as we step

  261. into this where this call is for us to get moving,

  262. it's as if Paul tells us, hold on, hold on,

  263. wait a minute, I still need you to engage your

  264. brains here with some right thinking, specifically when it comes

  265. to this serving, and that will be best done with

  266. a mirror in your hand, where you'll do some honest

  267. self assessment and evaluation.

  268. Did you hear that? Look again at.

  269. Verse three, he says, for by the grace given to me,

  270. I say to everyone among you not to think of

  271. himself more highly than he ought to think, but to

  272. think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of

  273. faith that God has assigned. So, in other words, think

  274. soberly about yourself as you take a look at yourself

  275. before using the gifts you've been given to serve one another.

  276. Make sure you understand.

  277. Your humble service is not about your prominence. It's not

  278. about your personal fulfillment, but something you're doing as an

  279. outworking of the faith that God has provided. Then, yes,

  280. then get to it. Use those gifts you see there

  281. in verse six, Let us use them.

  282. Let us use these gifts.

  283. Now, maybe yours is listed here in Romans twelve, but

  284. maybe it's not. But covering every possible gift isn't the

  285. point here in this list or in other lists in

  286. the scriptures. Stepping into opportunities sometimes to even discover what

  287. God has equipped you with according to your faith in

  288. Him and strengths he's providing.

  289. Is all we may have to go on at first.

  290. So let's try to flesh this out a little bit

  291. as we think about it here together, because there are

  292. a few things I think are helpful to address as

  293. we talk about using our gifts to benefit the body.

  294. The first one is simply this, be patient. Be patient.

  295. I don't mean to the extent that you fail to

  296. seize upon opportunities there in front of you. I just

  297. mean that most often good things we learn how to

  298. do well are built over time and in sequence with

  299. other things going on in the body. It's just the

  300. way it tends to work according to God's design. For instance,

  301. you see there in verse seven the gift of teaching

  302. is mentioned.

  303. But but for.

  304. Various reasons, you know, you plug into the church here

  305. and you end up serving somewhere more in the mix

  306. of Sunday morning hospitality. That could have been because of

  307. the needs of the church at that moment when you

  308. were plugging in, or because you were at that time

  309. not thinking much about the possibility of teaching within the body.

  310. But then there comes up.

  311. An opportunity later to teach in we'll say children's ministry,

  312. and you step into that opportunity. Ruthanna our children's ministry

  313. director was just sharing recently about such a situation, and

  314. now she says she cannot get enough of that person

  315. teaching because of the amazing capabilities that she observes there.

  316. So that's the first encouragement. Trust in God's timetable here

  317. for things right. Be patient, Be patient. But the second

  318. one is this, The second encouragement I'd give for you

  319. is this, don't flatten the command. Don't flatten the command

  320. to use your gifts. So what I mean by that is,

  321. don't see established church ministry teams or even small groups

  322. as your only opportunity to serve others with the gifts

  323. and the strengths that go Odd has given you.

  324. Yeah, Yeah, be faithful. Be faithful in.

  325. Those official areas of teams and groups as they are

  326. serving unique purposes to ensure that church functions like this

  327. are able to happen well, and more importantly, that people

  328. don't fall through the cracks. You're a part of people

  329. not falling through the cracks by being an active part

  330. of your small group. Be steady, be reliable in those areas.

  331. But you need to know that the leadership of this

  332. church loves when organic, healthy things grow here as people are.

  333. Caring for one another. We love that. We love that.

  334. A lady with some gifts of administration, probably among other

  335. gifts too, a few years ago saw an opportunity to

  336. help the women of the church stick to a plan

  337. of read their Bibles over the summer. And there's an

  338. active chat thread now for it that's ramped up once

  339. again for this summer. So I see my wife engaging

  340. with that, even while she's not neglecting our small group ladies.

  341. She's participating even in a summer book study with them.

  342. And I can say, I can look at all of

  343. these things and say, praise God. Praise God for using

  344. his people to grow healthy ministry in all kinds of

  345. corners that benefit the body.

  346. Praise the Lord. We love that. Or maybe men, you

  347. see written that the one who has a gift to

  348. lead should do so with zeal.

  349. There in verse eight, you caught that nobody has perhaps

  350. invited you into a formal leadership role in the church

  351. up to this point.

  352. But you could start.

  353. You could start with calling a couple guys in your

  354. small group to summer of accountability of some sort.

  355. It wouldn't have to be with reading.

  356. Your bibles necessarily but maybe you've seen this theme among

  357. the other guys of anger or relational coldness. You've seen

  358. that come up as you guys have talked and prayed

  359. together at the end of your meetings confessing these things.

  360. They very well might need your leadership in establishing some

  361. basic weekly check ins over the next six weeks to

  362. see how you can spur one another on and faithfulness

  363. in this.

  364. Leadership.

  365. Opportunities abound, So don't flatten the command viewing it in

  366. some very narrow.

  367. Sort of way.

  368. Look up, bend around a bit, and take initiative where

  369. you can. But here's one more also, a third help

  370. in this, and using our gifts serve the body. Be

  371. graciously persistent. Be graciously persistent. If the members of the

  372. body don't respond the way you would want them to

  373. the first time you try to use your gifts to

  374. serve them, don't give up. Take another swing later, or

  375. try a different avenue or angle. It's a little bit

  376. like putting up window flower boxes.

  377. Right, just me, just me, okay, Well, here's the thing.

  378. Jenn had mentioned some time ago that she liked the

  379. look of window flower boxes on other houses that she

  380. had seen, and so I kind of filed that away

  381. over the last couple of years, and I needed a

  382. plan for Mother's Day last month, and so here we go.

  383. We've got the plan. So I worked together with the

  384. the kids on getting that as a gift for her.

  385. I ordered a set of two of these flower boxes

  386. and worked with the kids to go out and get

  387. a few little potted flowers, which they did just a

  388. bang up job on and I picked up some soil,

  389. and then the night before Mother's Day had them helped

  390. me get one of these situated right outside our bedroom

  391. window where Jen sits in the mornings with her Bible

  392. and her coffee for that initial start to the day.

  393. So got all that set up and she got to

  394. see it the next morning, and she liked it.

  395. It was a good gift, she said.

  396. But here's the here's the deal. There's a major issue

  397. with my plan and all of this. The soil that

  398. I got was of the sort that drained too quickly

  399. for the type of box or basket material that surrounded

  400. the flowers. We left for vacation, we came back to dirt.

  401. Isn't that fun.

  402. It's a good idea that needed some execution work right,

  403. and really truly frustrating because of time spent and even

  404. the fact that my kid's investment took a hit. I mean,

  405. brought my kids into this and it becomes their failure

  406. as well.

  407. But guess what.

  408. I learned something from that got the better soil and

  409. a few more flowers, and then installed both the boxes,

  410. which are looking pretty good last time I checked. I

  411. needed a little more persistent and some different methodology to

  412. best serve my wife through my still developing modest, modest,

  413. modest gift of gardening. Right, So, let's creative prayerfully persistent

  414. in serving one another, ensuring that brotherly affection for one

  415. another in service to the Lord is the manner.

  416. That we employ.

  417. It seems to be what the Holy Spirit through Paul

  418. would have for us here, especially in that final paragraph

  419. of this section in verses nine through thirteen. So look

  420. at it again, verses nine through thirteen, and note they're

  421. the focus on love and honor and fervency and resilience

  422. and welcoming, all ultimately in service to God. So we've

  423. seen how this living sacrifice Christianity includes being sorted out

  424. by God who calls us also to get moving in

  425. our service. But here's a final requirement of life on

  426. the altar, there's the uncomfortable call to thirdly, get meek,

  427. Get meek. This is the requirement of humility in our

  428. relationships that is spoken of throughout this chapter, but especially

  429. emphasized beginning in verse fourteen to the end. So let's

  430. read this section again together. Starting in verse fourteen, says,

  431. Bless those who persecute you. Bless and do not curse them.

  432. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

  433. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty,

  434. but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your

  435. own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give

  436. thought to do what is on in the sight of all,

  437. if possible, so far as it depends on you, live

  438. peaceably with all beloved. Never avenge yourselves, but leave it

  439. to the wrath of God. For it has written vengeance

  440. is mine. I will repay, says the Lord to the contrary.

  441. If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty,

  442. to give him something to drink, for by so doing

  443. you will heat burning coals on his head. Do not

  444. be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Well.

  445. This paragraph covers the territory.

  446. I believe of many types of relationships so that it

  447. can be applied in our wider communities, in the church,

  448. in our homes. But what's especially clear is that Paul

  449. has in mind, through many of these words, the hard relationships,

  450. the hard relationships, or at least those that are in

  451. a season of extra challenge. He speaks of matters like

  452. blessing persecutors, slowing down enough to meet and mirror people

  453. in the moment, giving ourselves to associate with stations that

  454. might feel below us, only acting in ways that would

  455. look honorable to others and would make for peace, taking

  456. the loss instead of taking vengeance, satisfying the needs of

  457. an enemy, and as a kind of summary, wielding only

  458. the weapon of goodness in our relationships to gain victory

  459. over evil.

  460. Do you get discouraged by.

  461. Or even bristle a bit against any of these directives

  462. if you've been stung by someone, especially if it's happened repeatedly,

  463. And these instructions can seem quite unreasonable. And I tell

  464. you I have grieved with many of you over some

  465. of those hurts that you've endured at the hands of employers,

  466. of friends, of parents, of children, of siblings.

  467. And of spouses.

  468. And isn't it true that some of the last and

  469. relationally closest ones that I just mentioned in that list

  470. or the contexts for some of the deepest pains that

  471. you've endured, And I certainly don't have any words that

  472. can magically make those wounds disappear.

  473. Doesn't work that way.

  474. But at the same time, I believe this paragraph throbs

  475. with some of the richest gospel application that we have

  476. in all of Scripture. What portion of these words do

  477. we not see exemplified through the life and cross of

  478. Christ too, in his final breaths received the greatest evil,

  479. and overcame it with the profound good of giving his

  480. life for us, a sacrifice unto death, that we might

  481. now walk as these living sacrifices, having received His mercy

  482. and grace that we now get to extend to others,

  483. mercy and grace we've received, that we get to extend

  484. to others. Who comes to mind for you? When I

  485. speak of offering horizontally the mercy and grace you've received.

  486. From God, who comes to mind this morning, I'm.

  487. Not speaking here, and neither is Paul of quietly submitting

  488. yourself to domestic abuse or endangering your family through giving

  489. criminals or their equivalent unrestrained presence in your life. In

  490. the very next chapter of this letter, Paul even speaks

  491. of the good gift of governing authorities who are God's

  492. servants for punishing wickedness and restraining evil. There are those

  493. of you who have needed to, or may need even now,

  494. to call upon such authorities without hesitation. It's a clarifier

  495. you need to receive this morning. But here's the common

  496. It's an ordinary challenge that many of us are facing

  497. on the day alien some of our closest relationships. We

  498. want the win. We want the win, but don't cherish

  499. Christian victory.

  500. We want the win, but we don't.

  501. Cherish Christian victory. Here's what I mean, markedly. Christian victory

  502. looks like verse nineteen, which ends with the quotation from

  503. Deuteronomy thirty two. Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says

  504. the Lord. So Christian victory looks like trusting that God's

  505. vengeance is the only appropriate vengeance. And this is in

  506. fact very good news, because He's far better at it

  507. than we could ever be, and is not corrupted by

  508. executing it. Some thing that we can't claim for ourselves.

  509. When the temptation arises to get back at someone, we're

  510. faced with the opportunity to choose the posture of I

  511. can trust God with this and with this person. It's

  512. not mine to try to score retribution points here. I

  513. can trust God. But markedly Christian victory also looks like

  514. Versus twenty and twenty one before us this morning, which

  515. also isn't, by the way, only a New Testament call,

  516. but a partial quotation from Proverbs twenty five.

  517. It's showing a.

  518. Kindness to the one who has made your life uncomfortable.

  519. It's about that really irritating, potty mouthed co worker who

  520. leaves his dirty dishes in the breakroom, but.

  521. Has a birthday.

  522. Coming up, and you scour the depths of your brain

  523. to write in a card a sentence of kind encouragement.

  524. And it doesn't count if it's something like, I'm truly

  525. trusting God can help you be less of an idiot

  526. over the course of the next year, happiest of birthdays,

  527. your Christian enemy doing you good, Brad.

  528. Doesn't work?

  529. We laugh, and well we should, But isn't it our

  530. tendency Sometimes in our more subtle ways to try and

  531. still squeeze out fleshly wins in our interactions with difficult people,

  532. even at home, even with our spouses who can sometimes

  533. feel like enemies. Let me speak for a moment to

  534. us married people in the room, although the application can

  535. stretch farther than that for all of us. So for

  536. the marrieds, how meek, how meek, how humble are you

  537. willing to get with one another? Are you doing everything

  538. you can everything you can to live peaceably with your spouse?

  539. Are you seeking to do your husband your wife so

  540. much good that even if they've been acting a little

  541. bit more like an enemy lately, they won't know what

  542. to do with the surprising good that is essentially like

  543. a handful of burning coals on their head that they

  544. can't help but have their attention awakened. That's the picture

  545. here of the recipient of the good coming to the

  546. place of conviction, needing to assume God's hand at work

  547. through you, or at least to inquire of it, saying why.

  548. Are you being so good to me? Now? I know

  549. that sounds overly simplified.

  550. Don't hear me downplaying the depths of trouble you might

  551. be in over years of her in your marriage. Now

  552. there are speedy breakthrough moments that come sometimes, but new

  553. efforts for good. You know, often it looks more like

  554. little leaguers trying to figure out which direction to run

  555. around the bases. So let me give you two things

  556. that might help as you seek to grow in meekness

  557. in your marriage over the seasons. So first thing that

  558. I hope is helpful, stop trying to work in a

  559. fleshly win during your verbal and nonverbal exchanges. It's like

  560. the subtler form of the backhanded birthday card I mentioned earlier. Right,

  561. it's the I'm sorry I snapped, but you dot dot dot.

  562. It's the thought pattern.

  563. If I'm the one who makes the kind approach in

  564. this chilly air moment, she'll think I'm weak, So I'm

  565. not gonna None of those are the way of our master.

  566. Can you imagine him going to the cross with that

  567. ungodly attitude as he's being taken to death, even though

  568. we didn't deserve any better than and some of these

  569. kind of backhanded actions. If he had had that attitude,

  570. he would not have been the spotless lamb.

  571. We'd still be trapped in our sins.

  572. Unimaginable, right, and what do our little perceived wins achieve anyway,

  573. our imaginary top spot on our imaginary podium in our

  574. imaginary contest. Oh wow, what a great thing to have achieved.

  575. And it's silly, and we just stopped to think about

  576. it a little bit. I get the temptation, though, I've

  577. taken the bait, but it's a ridiculous fools errand to

  578. try and work out our fleshly wins in our marriages. Remember,

  579. fellow marriage struggler, and all of you, remember Ephesians six

  580. that we do not ultimately wrestle against flesh and blood,

  581. but against the devil and his forces who work to

  582. see our marriages fail.

  583. Let's not cooperate. Let's not cooperate with him. Stop trying

  584. to work for the fleshly win. That's one.

  585. But secondly, let me say, notice the efforts and tame

  586. your suspicion. Notice the efforts and tame your suspicion. Wife,

  587. If things haven't been going the best at home, and

  588. your husband says this week, with this passage in mind,

  589. I like the way you.

  590. Did your hair today.

  591. Don't roll your eyes and assume that the only thing

  592. he's trying to do is make up for something dumb

  593. he did before that, or that he simply got his

  594. eye on something else at bedtime.

  595. You don't know, You don't know.

  596. And and what if you are right to some extent

  597. if he is selfishly looking for his own fleshly gain

  598. in a kind of comment like that, trust the Lord

  599. with him, Trust the Lord with him. You do what's

  600. right in that moment, and say thank you. That's sweet

  601. of you to notice. And for either of us husbands

  602. or wives, as we see any opportunities to build up

  603. with our actions or words.

  604. Let's take that initiative.

  605. Don't sinfully withhold the good you can provide. You know

  606. if you're in bad patterns in your home, craftily looking

  607. for them win in ways like this, walking with suspicion,

  608. withholding good, you'll need practice out of it. Ask for

  609. help from the Lord in this very thing today and

  610. every day. Seek out married people who are more practiced

  611. at it than you are and are seeing some level

  612. of success. Set up a meeting with your spouse to

  613. pray together about it, asking forgiveness from one another, and

  614. humbly receive any loving, gentle constructive criticism that the other

  615. might offer, hear him out, hear her out with your

  616. mouth closed. And again, if you can't make progress, ask

  617. for help, starting with people preferably who already know you

  618. reasonably well. I know, I know the situations in marriage

  619. and in relationships in general. They are manifold and messy,

  620. aren't they. But before we try to explain the way

  621. in which we're the exception.

  622. And kind of do what we want.

  623. Before we start doing that, we've got to do the

  624. hard work of holding our own hearts up against this

  625. high call in Romans twelve to present our bodies as

  626. living sacrifices.

  627. One moment at a time.

  628. That's all we're given from the Lord right, one moment

  629. at a time, Our God of mercies is our help

  630. as we seek to practice this life on the altar,

  631. you stand and pray together with me. So, Lord, that's

  632. our great need. Our great need is for you to

  633. do your mighty work on us.

  634. Lord. We need to be sorted out. We need to

  635. think rightly. Father. We desperately need to get moving some

  636. of us and doing good to others. Lord.

  637. And oh you know our temptations toward pride. Lord, we

  638. need hearts of humility. Lord, make us meek, Lord God,

  639. we trust you with these things and pray for your

  640. help even in this coming week, as we try to

  641. try to take steps into faithfulness.

  642. We love you, Lord in Jesus name. Amen,