Sermon
Life on the Altar
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And men, what church. You can have a seat and
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you can grab your bibles.
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Please grab your bibles and start turning to Romans chapter
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thirteen this morning. Romans chapter thirteen. It's where we're gonna be.
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And if you need a bible or a bulletin or
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a pen, you see already the ushers. They are looking
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for your hands raised there, So raise your hand if
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You situated with that.
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QR codes and fill out a connection card. It's a
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helpful shepherding tool for us. We ask everybody to do
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that each week. And want to know that you're here
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by name and to be able to pray for you.
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So be sure to do that. Pastor Josh he's out
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this weekend. He's serving some extended family out of town.
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And so I'm Pastor Seth here with you this morning.
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And I turned forty six. Recently turned forty six. Is
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that a good age?
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I don't know.
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Well, they they tell me that's middle aged, at least
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middle aged. I'm not quite sure when that started or
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when it finishes. I'm pretty sure though, that it does
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mean some things like I'm supposed to be relatively grown
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up by now, supposed to be matured.
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In life and in the faith.
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And yet it's also super clear to me that there's
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no real visible finish line to this process of maturing
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and growing up, especially when it comes to my lived
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out trust in the Lord.
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My maturity is a Christian.
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And even as I live each day, there's plenty of
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me that needs to die. You tracking with me on that,
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even as I live each day, there's still plenty of.
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Me that needs to die.
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And that's the paradox we actually read about at the
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beginning of Romans chapter twelve. This morning is this hinge
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point of Paul's Letter to the Roman Church that he
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wrote about twenty five years after Jesus died and resurrected.
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For the first eleven chapters of his letter, he largely
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addresses doctrines, great doctrines concerning God's righteousness, an offer of
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salvation for us these unrighteous people, now rescued, rescued ones
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needing instructions, so desperately needing instruction for faithful living. But
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it's faithful living as sacrifices we'll read here in a second,
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this living sacrifices language. He uses, I'm calling for us
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here this morning, life on the altar, Life on the altar.
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So let's read the chapter now, Romans, Chapter twelve.
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You can follow along with me.
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He says, I appeal to you there, for brothers, by
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the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a
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living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your
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spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but
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be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by
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testing you may discern what is the will of God,
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what is good and acceptable and perfect. For by the
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grace given to me, I say to everyone among you
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not to think of himself more highly than he ought
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to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according
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to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For
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As in one body, we have many members, and the
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members do not all have the same functions.
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So we, though many.
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Are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another,
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having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us,
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let us use them, if prophecy in proportion to our faith,
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if service in our serving the one who teaches in
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his teaching. The one who exhorts in his exhortation, the
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one who contributes in generosity, the one who leads with zeal,
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the does acts of mercy with cheerfulness. Let love be genuine,
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Abhor what is evil, fast to what is good. Love
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one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
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Do not be slothful in zeal. Be fervent in spirit,
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serve the Lord, Rejoice in hope, be patient and tribulation.
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Be constant in prayer.
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Contribute to the needs of the saints, and seek to
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show hospitality. Bless those who persecute you. Bless and do
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not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice. Weep with
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those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do
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not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.
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Never be wise in your own sight.
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Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to
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do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible,
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so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with
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all beloved. Never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the
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wrath of God. For it is written vengeance is mine.
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I will repay, says the Lord to the contrary If
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your enemy is hungry, feed him. If heels thirsty, give
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him something to drink. For by so doing you will
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heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome
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by evil, but overcome evil with good.
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This is God's word for us this morning.
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Anybody feel a little overwhelmed by all we are being
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called to in this chapter?
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It's very much the same for me. With that.
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You know, every sentence feels like it could use a
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sermon and a playbook as we read through it.
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How do we do this thing?
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You might also be wondering about the whole life on
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the altar phrase that I used before our reading, since
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you didn't hear any mention of altars in this passage, right,
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But hopefully it's a quick connection that we can make
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here together. From the time that we see Noah departing
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from the arc in Genesis eight, and then throughout the
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Old Testament we see these altars, these raised platforms of
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earth stone and wood used for worship and often sacrifices,
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a place where the blood of animals was shed to
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make atonement for sin. And reading about altars, you read.
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About a lot of death.
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So Paul, in a way he picks up this imagery
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and adds a twist when he says in verse one,
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to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, a living sacrifice, right.
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It's a call to ongoing, complete surrender in a life
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of worshipful service. It's sort of like saying, we now live,
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We now live as those putting to death every ungodly
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way in us. Jesus he gives a related teaching when
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he says, what we have recorded in John twelve, twenty
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five and twenty six, whoever loves his life loses it,
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and whoever hates his life in this world will keep
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it for eternal life. If anyone, sir, he must follow me.
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Jesus said, it's this call to complete, wholehearted, all of
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life devotion. So now what Romans twelve gives us is
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initial instruction for this kind of life, This Jesus following
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life on the Altar.
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It's a pretty hefty concept. So where do we start?
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Where do we dive into this thing?
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What we might begin our exploration by stating life on
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the altar requires we get sorted.
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Get sorted.
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That's your first blank if you're taking notes here this morning.
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Before considering all the good things we might do in
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relating to others. We're first called to look close to home,
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as close as our own minds, our very thinking, to
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get all sorted out by God according to Godliness.
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See.
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Without proper attention and high intentionality. With this, you and
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I will tend to to cozy into the forms the
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molds the world has for us, the shapings that celebrate
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earthly success, a parent winning and supposed arrival in life,
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and that, at whatever expense, taking on an identity that
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proves contrary to the priorities for citizens of God's kingdom.
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So Paul tells us to be transformed out of that,
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transformed out of that, and into a new place of
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knowing God's will bill knowing it not so much as
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in figuring out his future plan for you or for me,
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but getting clear on what's good, acceptable, and perfect. It's
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about really getting God's mind for the proper evaluation of
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yourself and your ways. Now there are new opportunities to
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learn this at every phase of endpoint in life. I've noticed,
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just have to look around for just a moment, always
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fresh ways I find I must get personally sorted out
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and further transformed in my thinking. There's the whole middle
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aged thing that I'll have you consider with me again.
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I mean as simple as how should I even think
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about things like this body of mine, this physique? How
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am I supposed to think about this as a forty
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six year old man? You know, I've got to consider
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this because well, we were might have been even watching
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the Spurs game. I'm sorry to bring that up right now.
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I know, I know, I know, I know, but my
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family was laughing I think during that time at a
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commercial that we saw. I think it was like for
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testosterone supplements or something of the like. It features this guy,
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perhaps you know, my age, a little bit older, and
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you see him doing sleeveless pushups, and you see his
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slow mow run through the neighborhood, you know, getting the
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attention of the ladies, maybe the forty six year old
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ladies that are out there in the neighborhood.
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It's chuckle worthy.
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But but there's part of me that kind of wants
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to buy into that idea of holding on to youth,
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to vitality, to attractiveness, to sex appeal. There's an appeal
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to that. Or what about the car adds? So many
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car ads demonstrating vehicles that oh, they're just the perfect
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combination of sporty, roomy, classy, luxurious.
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Right. You've seen some of those so slick, Right.
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They feature a lot of people my age too, communicating
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that this stage of life means this level of financial
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success demonstrated through.
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These kinds of wheels.
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Right, I'm being invited to think and step with their
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value system and then do whatever I must to get
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their sacrificing what or who that might require, instead of
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giving myself to God as a living sacrifice.
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It's the truth is behind the flashy ads. Right.
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Of course, longing for nice bodies or fancy rides may
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not be everyone's worldly mind trap here this morning, But
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you've got your own phase of life and groups of
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peers and targeted ads all aimed at molding you into
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something contrary to the way of a living sacrifice, holy
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and acceptable to God, where you build values and make
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choices that line.
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Up with His kingdom.
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You know what helped me sort out a little bit,
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sort out my own mind and renew my thoughts this
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last week and add nothing to do with my own
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age or life situation. I'll get off of the whole
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middle life thing. It was read everything leading up to
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Romans twelve simple as that, and then to the end
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of the letter a little bit more after that, I
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got to think God's thoughts through that exercise in a
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way that so helped me to press out other empty longings,
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replacing them with glorious truths of things good, acceptable, and perfect.
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That was just so richly reorienting for me. But can
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I level with you here this morning, I don't want
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you to hear me say that if you read Romans
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this week, everything is going to be great.
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And you'll be in.
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The perfect headspace for the summer. It'd be so awesome.
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I think it was maybe Monday when I read through it,
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And then part of my birthday celebration on Tuesday included
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us sitting as a family and scrolling through our Google
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photos on our TV from the last year, and then
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Jen and I giving thanks for God's blessings right before
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going to sleep, and then and then me waking up
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the next morning in such in irritable funk, Oh my goodness,
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such a funk. The next morning, weary in body and soul.
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Where did that come from? But in that state where
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I didn't want to serve nothing and nobody but myself.
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With my next bits of Bible to read for that morning.
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As I stumbled into it with a heavy and distracted mind.
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I read the account in John thirteen of Jesus washing
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his disciple bull's feet as an example for them of
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the humble service they also were to walk in. And
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then you know what I did. I read it a
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second time. You know why, because I didn't remember a
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lick of what my eyes had just passed over.
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I don't even know if I could have told you
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what account it was.
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I had to read it a second time, and then,
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through that battle of gaining something here, grabbed a few
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verses of instruction from it, confessed my cold heart in
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regard to things like serving all of you through preparing
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this sermon.
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Prayed for His help, and I was.
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Gradually slowly yet yet steadily well revived to fight forward
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in faithfulness. Guys, that's an that's a normal Tuesday or
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Wednesday or Thursday for this guy. I share that with
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you because it's important for you to understand something of
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my basic weakness as I also try to live life
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on the altar as a living sacrifice before God as
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He sorts me out in this daily battle for Christian
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renewal and hope in the Lord, and push against desires
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for selfish ease and escape.
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And simply my own way.
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So that's something of a picture of how life on
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the Altar starts as each of us we each learn
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to be living sacrifices surrendered to God by getting sorted
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out in our minds and our thinking. But life on
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the altar doesn't end there. It also requires, as we
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saw in this chapter, it requires we get moving it
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we get moving, and that's our next point of focus
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as we drive further into this chapter. Looking specifically at
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Versus three through thirteen, which might be slightly different than
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the non inspired but often helpful headings that you have
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in your bibles in front of you. Look specifically here
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now at Versus three through thirteen. In this section, these
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next two paragraphs, we see how our right thinking needs
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to move us into right actions, specifically when it comes
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to our serving one another. Only even as we step
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into this where this call is for us to get moving,
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it's as if Paul tells us, hold on, hold on,
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wait a minute, I still need you to engage your
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brains here with some right thinking, specifically when it comes
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to this serving, and that will be best done with
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a mirror in your hand, where you'll do some honest
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self assessment and evaluation.
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Did you hear that? Look again at.
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Verse three, he says, for by the grace given to me,
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I say to everyone among you not to think of
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himself more highly than he ought to think, but to
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think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of
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faith that God has assigned. So, in other words, think
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soberly about yourself as you take a look at yourself
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before using the gifts you've been given to serve one another.
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Make sure you understand.
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Your humble service is not about your prominence. It's not
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about your personal fulfillment, but something you're doing as an
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outworking of the faith that God has provided. Then, yes,
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then get to it. Use those gifts you see there
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in verse six, Let us use them.
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Let us use these gifts.
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Now, maybe yours is listed here in Romans twelve, but
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maybe it's not. But covering every possible gift isn't the
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point here in this list or in other lists in
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the scriptures. Stepping into opportunities sometimes to even discover what
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God has equipped you with according to your faith in
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Him and strengths he's providing.
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Is all we may have to go on at first.
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So let's try to flesh this out a little bit
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as we think about it here together, because there are
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a few things I think are helpful to address as
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we talk about using our gifts to benefit the body.
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The first one is simply this, be patient. Be patient.
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I don't mean to the extent that you fail to
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seize upon opportunities there in front of you. I just
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mean that most often good things we learn how to
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do well are built over time and in sequence with
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other things going on in the body. It's just the
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way it tends to work according to God's design. For instance,
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you see there in verse seven the gift of teaching
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is mentioned.
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But but for.
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Various reasons, you know, you plug into the church here
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and you end up serving somewhere more in the mix
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of Sunday morning hospitality. That could have been because of
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the needs of the church at that moment when you
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were plugging in, or because you were at that time
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not thinking much about the possibility of teaching within the body.
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But then there comes up.
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An opportunity later to teach in we'll say children's ministry,
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and you step into that opportunity. Ruthanna our children's ministry
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director was just sharing recently about such a situation, and
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now she says she cannot get enough of that person
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teaching because of the amazing capabilities that she observes there.
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So that's the first encouragement. Trust in God's timetable here
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for things right. Be patient, Be patient. But the second
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one is this, The second encouragement I'd give for you
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is this, don't flatten the command. Don't flatten the command
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to use your gifts. So what I mean by that is,
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don't see established church ministry teams or even small groups
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as your only opportunity to serve others with the gifts
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and the strengths that go Odd has given you.
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Yeah, Yeah, be faithful. Be faithful in.
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Those official areas of teams and groups as they are
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serving unique purposes to ensure that church functions like this
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are able to happen well, and more importantly, that people
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don't fall through the cracks. You're a part of people
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not falling through the cracks by being an active part
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of your small group. Be steady, be reliable in those areas.
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But you need to know that the leadership of this
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church loves when organic, healthy things grow here as people are.
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Caring for one another. We love that. We love that.
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A lady with some gifts of administration, probably among other
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gifts too, a few years ago saw an opportunity to
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help the women of the church stick to a plan
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of read their Bibles over the summer. And there's an
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active chat thread now for it that's ramped up once
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again for this summer. So I see my wife engaging
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with that, even while she's not neglecting our small group ladies.
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She's participating even in a summer book study with them.
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And I can say, I can look at all of
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these things and say, praise God. Praise God for using
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his people to grow healthy ministry in all kinds of
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corners that benefit the body.
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Praise the Lord. We love that. Or maybe men, you
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see written that the one who has a gift to
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lead should do so with zeal.
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There in verse eight, you caught that nobody has perhaps
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invited you into a formal leadership role in the church
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up to this point.
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But you could start.
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You could start with calling a couple guys in your
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small group to summer of accountability of some sort.
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It wouldn't have to be with reading.
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Your bibles necessarily but maybe you've seen this theme among
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the other guys of anger or relational coldness. You've seen
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that come up as you guys have talked and prayed
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together at the end of your meetings confessing these things.
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They very well might need your leadership in establishing some
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basic weekly check ins over the next six weeks to
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see how you can spur one another on and faithfulness
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in this.
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Leadership.
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Opportunities abound, So don't flatten the command viewing it in
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some very narrow.
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Sort of way.
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Look up, bend around a bit, and take initiative where
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you can. But here's one more also, a third help
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in this, and using our gifts serve the body. Be
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graciously persistent. Be graciously persistent. If the members of the
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body don't respond the way you would want them to
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the first time you try to use your gifts to
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serve them, don't give up. Take another swing later, or
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try a different avenue or angle. It's a little bit
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like putting up window flower boxes.
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Right, just me, just me, okay, Well, here's the thing.
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Jenn had mentioned some time ago that she liked the
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look of window flower boxes on other houses that she
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had seen, and so I kind of filed that away
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over the last couple of years, and I needed a
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plan for Mother's Day last month, and so here we go.
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We've got the plan. So I worked together with the
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the kids on getting that as a gift for her.
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I ordered a set of two of these flower boxes
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and worked with the kids to go out and get
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a few little potted flowers, which they did just a
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bang up job on and I picked up some soil,
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and then the night before Mother's Day had them helped
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me get one of these situated right outside our bedroom
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window where Jen sits in the mornings with her Bible
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and her coffee for that initial start to the day.
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So got all that set up and she got to
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see it the next morning, and she liked it.
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It was a good gift, she said.
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But here's the here's the deal. There's a major issue
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with my plan and all of this. The soil that
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I got was of the sort that drained too quickly
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for the type of box or basket material that surrounded
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the flowers. We left for vacation, we came back to dirt.
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Isn't that fun.
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It's a good idea that needed some execution work right,
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and really truly frustrating because of time spent and even
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the fact that my kid's investment took a hit. I mean,
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brought my kids into this and it becomes their failure
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as well.
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But guess what.
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I learned something from that got the better soil and
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a few more flowers, and then installed both the boxes,
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which are looking pretty good last time I checked. I
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needed a little more persistent and some different methodology to
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best serve my wife through my still developing modest, modest,
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modest gift of gardening. Right, So, let's creative prayerfully persistent
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in serving one another, ensuring that brotherly affection for one
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another in service to the Lord is the manner.
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That we employ.
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It seems to be what the Holy Spirit through Paul
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would have for us here, especially in that final paragraph
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of this section in verses nine through thirteen. So look
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at it again, verses nine through thirteen, and note they're
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the focus on love and honor and fervency and resilience
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and welcoming, all ultimately in service to God. So we've
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seen how this living sacrifice Christianity includes being sorted out
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by God who calls us also to get moving in
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our service. But here's a final requirement of life on
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the altar, there's the uncomfortable call to thirdly, get meek,
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Get meek. This is the requirement of humility in our
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relationships that is spoken of throughout this chapter, but especially
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emphasized beginning in verse fourteen to the end. So let's
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read this section again together. Starting in verse fourteen, says,
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Bless those who persecute you. Bless and do not curse them.
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Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.
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Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty,
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but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your
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own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give
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thought to do what is on in the sight of all,
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if possible, so far as it depends on you, live
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peaceably with all beloved. Never avenge yourselves, but leave it
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to the wrath of God. For it has written vengeance
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is mine. I will repay, says the Lord to the contrary.
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If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty,
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to give him something to drink, for by so doing
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you will heat burning coals on his head. Do not
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be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Well.
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This paragraph covers the territory.
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I believe of many types of relationships so that it
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can be applied in our wider communities, in the church,
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in our homes. But what's especially clear is that Paul
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has in mind, through many of these words, the hard relationships,
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the hard relationships, or at least those that are in
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a season of extra challenge. He speaks of matters like
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blessing persecutors, slowing down enough to meet and mirror people
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in the moment, giving ourselves to associate with stations that
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might feel below us, only acting in ways that would
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look honorable to others and would make for peace, taking
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the loss instead of taking vengeance, satisfying the needs of
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an enemy, and as a kind of summary, wielding only
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the weapon of goodness in our relationships to gain victory
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over evil.
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Do you get discouraged by.
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Or even bristle a bit against any of these directives
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if you've been stung by someone, especially if it's happened repeatedly,
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And these instructions can seem quite unreasonable. And I tell
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you I have grieved with many of you over some
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of those hurts that you've endured at the hands of employers,
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of friends, of parents, of children, of siblings.
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And of spouses.
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And isn't it true that some of the last and
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relationally closest ones that I just mentioned in that list
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or the contexts for some of the deepest pains that
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you've endured, And I certainly don't have any words that
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can magically make those wounds disappear.
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Doesn't work that way.
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But at the same time, I believe this paragraph throbs
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with some of the richest gospel application that we have
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in all of Scripture. What portion of these words do
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we not see exemplified through the life and cross of
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Christ too, in his final breaths received the greatest evil,
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and overcame it with the profound good of giving his
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life for us, a sacrifice unto death, that we might
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now walk as these living sacrifices, having received His mercy
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and grace that we now get to extend to others,
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mercy and grace we've received, that we get to extend
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to others. Who comes to mind for you? When I
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speak of offering horizontally the mercy and grace you've received.
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From God, who comes to mind this morning, I'm.
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Not speaking here, and neither is Paul of quietly submitting
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yourself to domestic abuse or endangering your family through giving
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criminals or their equivalent unrestrained presence in your life. In
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the very next chapter of this letter, Paul even speaks
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of the good gift of governing authorities who are God's
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servants for punishing wickedness and restraining evil. There are those
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of you who have needed to, or may need even now,
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to call upon such authorities without hesitation. It's a clarifier
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you need to receive this morning. But here's the common
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It's an ordinary challenge that many of us are facing
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on the day alien some of our closest relationships. We
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want the win. We want the win, but don't cherish
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Christian victory.
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We want the win, but we don't.
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Cherish Christian victory. Here's what I mean, markedly. Christian victory
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looks like verse nineteen, which ends with the quotation from
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Deuteronomy thirty two. Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says
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the Lord. So Christian victory looks like trusting that God's
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vengeance is the only appropriate vengeance. And this is in
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fact very good news, because He's far better at it
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than we could ever be, and is not corrupted by
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executing it. Some thing that we can't claim for ourselves.
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When the temptation arises to get back at someone, we're
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faced with the opportunity to choose the posture of I
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can trust God with this and with this person. It's
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not mine to try to score retribution points here. I
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can trust God. But markedly Christian victory also looks like
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Versus twenty and twenty one before us this morning, which
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also isn't, by the way, only a New Testament call,
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but a partial quotation from Proverbs twenty five.
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It's showing a.
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Kindness to the one who has made your life uncomfortable.
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It's about that really irritating, potty mouthed co worker who
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leaves his dirty dishes in the breakroom, but.
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Has a birthday.
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Coming up, and you scour the depths of your brain
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to write in a card a sentence of kind encouragement.
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And it doesn't count if it's something like, I'm truly
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trusting God can help you be less of an idiot
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over the course of the next year, happiest of birthdays,
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your Christian enemy doing you good, Brad.
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Doesn't work?
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We laugh, and well we should, But isn't it our
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tendency Sometimes in our more subtle ways to try and
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still squeeze out fleshly wins in our interactions with difficult people,
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even at home, even with our spouses who can sometimes
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feel like enemies. Let me speak for a moment to
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us married people in the room, although the application can
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stretch farther than that for all of us. So for
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the marrieds, how meek, how meek, how humble are you
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willing to get with one another? Are you doing everything
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you can everything you can to live peaceably with your spouse?
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Are you seeking to do your husband your wife so
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much good that even if they've been acting a little
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bit more like an enemy lately, they won't know what
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to do with the surprising good that is essentially like
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a handful of burning coals on their head that they
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can't help but have their attention awakened. That's the picture
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here of the recipient of the good coming to the
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place of conviction, needing to assume God's hand at work
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through you, or at least to inquire of it, saying why.
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Are you being so good to me? Now? I know
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that sounds overly simplified.
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Don't hear me downplaying the depths of trouble you might
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be in over years of her in your marriage. Now
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there are speedy breakthrough moments that come sometimes, but new
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efforts for good. You know, often it looks more like
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little leaguers trying to figure out which direction to run
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around the bases. So let me give you two things
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that might help as you seek to grow in meekness
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in your marriage over the seasons. So first thing that
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I hope is helpful, stop trying to work in a
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fleshly win during your verbal and nonverbal exchanges. It's like
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the subtler form of the backhanded birthday card I mentioned earlier. Right,
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it's the I'm sorry I snapped, but you dot dot dot.
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It's the thought pattern.
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If I'm the one who makes the kind approach in
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this chilly air moment, she'll think I'm weak, So I'm
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not gonna None of those are the way of our master.
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Can you imagine him going to the cross with that
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ungodly attitude as he's being taken to death, even though
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we didn't deserve any better than and some of these
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kind of backhanded actions. If he had had that attitude,
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he would not have been the spotless lamb.
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We'd still be trapped in our sins.
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Unimaginable, right, and what do our little perceived wins achieve anyway,
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our imaginary top spot on our imaginary podium in our
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imaginary contest. Oh wow, what a great thing to have achieved.
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And it's silly, and we just stopped to think about
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it a little bit. I get the temptation, though, I've
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taken the bait, but it's a ridiculous fools errand to
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try and work out our fleshly wins in our marriages. Remember,
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fellow marriage struggler, and all of you, remember Ephesians six
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that we do not ultimately wrestle against flesh and blood,
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but against the devil and his forces who work to
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see our marriages fail.
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Let's not cooperate. Let's not cooperate with him. Stop trying
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to work for the fleshly win. That's one.
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But secondly, let me say, notice the efforts and tame
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your suspicion. Notice the efforts and tame your suspicion. Wife,
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If things haven't been going the best at home, and
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your husband says this week, with this passage in mind,
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I like the way you.
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Did your hair today.
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Don't roll your eyes and assume that the only thing
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he's trying to do is make up for something dumb
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he did before that, or that he simply got his
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eye on something else at bedtime.
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You don't know, You don't know.
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And and what if you are right to some extent
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if he is selfishly looking for his own fleshly gain
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in a kind of comment like that, trust the Lord
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with him, Trust the Lord with him. You do what's
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right in that moment, and say thank you. That's sweet
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of you to notice. And for either of us husbands
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or wives, as we see any opportunities to build up
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with our actions or words.
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Let's take that initiative.
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Don't sinfully withhold the good you can provide. You know
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if you're in bad patterns in your home, craftily looking
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for them win in ways like this, walking with suspicion,
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withholding good, you'll need practice out of it. Ask for
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help from the Lord in this very thing today and
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every day. Seek out married people who are more practiced
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at it than you are and are seeing some level
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of success. Set up a meeting with your spouse to
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pray together about it, asking forgiveness from one another, and
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humbly receive any loving, gentle constructive criticism that the other
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might offer, hear him out, hear her out with your
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mouth closed. And again, if you can't make progress, ask
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for help, starting with people preferably who already know you
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reasonably well. I know, I know the situations in marriage
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and in relationships in general. They are manifold and messy,
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aren't they. But before we try to explain the way
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in which we're the exception.
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And kind of do what we want.
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Before we start doing that, we've got to do the
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hard work of holding our own hearts up against this
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high call in Romans twelve to present our bodies as
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living sacrifices.
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One moment at a time.
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That's all we're given from the Lord right, one moment
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at a time, Our God of mercies is our help
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as we seek to practice this life on the altar,
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you stand and pray together with me. So, Lord, that's
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our great need. Our great need is for you to
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do your mighty work on us.
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Lord. We need to be sorted out. We need to
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think rightly. Father. We desperately need to get moving some
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of us and doing good to others. Lord.
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And oh you know our temptations toward pride. Lord, we
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need hearts of humility. Lord, make us meek, Lord God,
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we trust you with these things and pray for your
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help even in this coming week, as we try to
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try to take steps into faithfulness.
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We love you, Lord in Jesus name. Amen,