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  1. Hello, everyone, and welcome to this week's episode

  2. of Trinity Talks. My name is Kyla. I'm Britton.

  3. I'm still Bill. And we are here to wrap up our

  4. Advent conversation. Christmas is coming, folks.

  5. Oh, no. Yeah. I don't know if we feel ready for

  6. that or not. Theoretically, we've had four weeks

  7. to get ready. but I don't know. Spiritually.

  8. Spiritually. Yes. Yes. And that is a very different

  9. thing than logistically. Yes. Yes. Or commercially.

  10. Or commercially. Yes. Yes. Yes. But we have lit

  11. four Advent candles and all that is left on our

  12. wreath is the Christ candle, which of course

  13. doesn't get lit until Christmas Eve. And the

  14. fourth candle in our Advent candles in the Advent

  15. wreath is the candle of love, which is very nice,

  16. I think. Yeah. Yeah. And it's also, I guess,

  17. traditionally the Sunday where like one of the

  18. readings would be Mary's Magnificat. Yeah. And

  19. so like, I don't know. I feel like those things

  20. go well together in my mind because Mary's like

  21. talking about. like she's so mary the mother

  22. of jesus and like obviously there's a lot of

  23. love there between mother and child but then

  24. mary's magnificat this like song about the coming

  25. of jesus is all about like god's love coming

  26. and like yeah changing things i think so that's

  27. pretty cool receiving god's love responding to

  28. god's love yeah yeah it's pretty cool stuff um

  29. yeah so when you think about love um first before

  30. we get into like what that is like I don't know.

  31. What's like, do you have like a memory or like

  32. a feeling or like a thing that comes to mind

  33. when you're like, ah, that's love? Peppermint

  34. heart candies. Okay. So it's a very specific

  35. flavor. Yeah, I eat a lot of that during Valentine's

  36. Day. And if I can get my hands on it outside

  37. of that, then yeah. But that's like my visual

  38. representation of love is peppermint heart candies.

  39. Okay. But different from Valentine's Day love,

  40. which would be cinnamon. flavored oh no sorry

  41. it's cinnamon oh my goodness you're correcting

  42. me yeah my flavors are so off That's wild. That's

  43. disrespectful to the candy brand. Hopefully they're

  44. not sponsoring it. I like peppermint. Peppermint

  45. love candies. It's cinnamon. The little red hearts

  46. you're talking about. Those are cinnamon. Not

  47. peppermint. Maybe they exist. If they were peppermint,

  48. I would like them better. I'm not a big fan of

  49. cinnamon hearts. Oh, okay. Wow. Okay. Peppermint

  50. hearts on the fourth Sunday of Advent next year.

  51. Okay. Great. Love that. We're putting it out

  52. there. Yes. Yeah. Okay. What about you, Bill?

  53. Is there like a visceral like thing that's like,

  54. this is love? Yeah. I think when I think of love,

  55. I think of, I just think of moments of family

  56. and not even great moments. Just like all four

  57. of us driving in the car, you know, be driving,

  58. we're going somewhere, we're going somewhere

  59. as a family or I'm driving around dropping everyone

  60. off different places or something. It's just

  61. like family in action, family in motion, just

  62. all together, safe. Yeah, you know that. I mean,

  63. yeah, that's that's that's the deep, visceral

  64. kind of feeling of just, you know, wanting to

  65. take care of people and see people getting where

  66. they're going, not only on the day of the drive,

  67. but through life. Sure. And yeah, so that's that

  68. sense of. A family when the the recognition of

  69. it existing is a great thing. And the understanding

  70. of its absence and its effects is the negative

  71. thing. Sure. So if it's there, amazing. If it's

  72. not, then we miss it. Yeah, it's traumatic. Yeah,

  73. sure. Yeah. I think when I think about love sort

  74. of similar, there's no like, ah, this big moment.

  75. It's like, oh, no, like the little like cozy

  76. moments, you know, and just like being with the

  77. right people, like drinking a cup of tea. like

  78. last night like sitting on the sofa with my partner

  79. just like watching tv like just like chill you

  80. know this is love yeah and it sounds lovely we

  81. had an experience yesterday where um a friend

  82. of mine uh their two senior uh folks were in

  83. the area in my neighborhood so they came to to

  84. my house and they just sat with my wife and i

  85. and we just talked for like hours in trinidad

  86. they call it a lime when you're just hanging

  87. out there's no end time or anything it turned

  88. into like a stop, turned into dinner. Uh, and

  89. I made this meal that is like very Trinidadian

  90. that I never made before. And I was able to give

  91. it to them and they had it. And, and that when,

  92. when they left, uh, I was just so overjoyed.

  93. Maybe joyous candle I'm referencing, but like

  94. there was this. like this feeling of kinship

  95. that I had with them. And it was, yeah, there

  96. was some, we couldn't pinpoint it. We were trying

  97. to figure out why is it this house feels more

  98. bubbly since they left. And I think it was just

  99. that sharing together that time, which is over

  100. Christmas, we do, right? We spend so much time

  101. with family and friends and just getting a bit

  102. of that in our home was. was joyous for people

  103. that acts of service is a, is a, is an expression

  104. of love. So it's, yeah, it's no surprise that

  105. when you're had the opportunity to, to show your

  106. love to your friends and family, that it felt

  107. good. It felt beautiful. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I

  108. think like love. It naturally sort of sort of

  109. comes hand in hand with Christmas, at least for

  110. for a lot of folks, not for everybody, for sure.

  111. But, yeah, there is as we think about getting

  112. closer to this Christmas season, as we think

  113. about getting together with friends and family

  114. and that like relaxed time. Like, yeah, love

  115. is is what comes to mind there. So then we think

  116. about these different aspects of love is when

  117. we think about love in like a biblical sense,

  118. is it? sort of the same as some of these things

  119. that we've just been describing? Are there some

  120. differences between like how we are talking about

  121. love and the way that the Bible talks about love?

  122. Yeah, I think like if I come back to my example,

  123. like something about that felt like there was

  124. this bubbliness. It's like a feeling. I'm confident

  125. as the evening wore on, it probably faded a little

  126. bit and I got tired and went to sleep and I forgot

  127. about it. But I think love in the Bible is like

  128. agape. And agape love is like a principled love.

  129. It doesn't sway with the seasons or with emotion,

  130. but it's there. It's steady. It's consistent.

  131. And I think that's the kind of love that God's

  132. calling us into, not necessarily one that moves

  133. with our emotions. Those things are a part of

  134. our life, but it's something consistent and solid

  135. and principled. Yeah. So it's like, I think it

  136. can be like some of those feelings sometimes

  137. do accompany like a biblical love, but it's also,

  138. you're right. Like something that's a little

  139. more sort of solid. Yeah. I guess. Yeah. I think

  140. our expression of love, uh, is a facet of, of

  141. God's love. Um, the, uh, it's, uh, like Brett

  142. was saying, it's not as, uh, you know, it may

  143. not be as, as permanent or as consistent or as,

  144. you know um uh always um uh they are accessible

  145. as as human love but it is uh it is our It's

  146. our expression. It's God's love flowing through

  147. us. So God's love is the perfect love. And in

  148. the Advent season where that love is God sending

  149. Jesus as the gift to the world at Christmas,

  150. there's no greater love than that. God for so

  151. loved the world that He gave His only begotten

  152. Son, right? That is the kind of... full and perfect

  153. love that, um, um, that God makes available to

  154. us. Uh, and then there's the, and then there's

  155. our expression of that, that love, which is,

  156. which is, you know, our, it's our human love,

  157. but it's, but it's a, it's a divine love that

  158. flows through us. And I think that's different.

  159. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like the, the source of that

  160. love is God first, not us first. Yeah. And there's

  161. a, there's a trans transformative element to

  162. that too, that, uh, that we're God's love flowing

  163. through us. Uh, it, it, uh, changes, uh, what

  164. we do and how we act. Um, and, uh, and, and also,

  165. you know, changes us from the inside out. Yeah.

  166. Or at least it can't. Yeah. Yeah. For sure. For

  167. sure. yeah i think the other thing that i think

  168. about like god's love and then like ideally our

  169. love is that like god's love just doesn't have

  170. a limit um and it doesn't have a limit on any

  171. one person it's not like okay if you do this

  172. this this and be like god will stop loving you

  173. or like after this amount of time god will stop

  174. loving you but also God's love doesn't have a

  175. limit on like, it's like width on like how many

  176. people it sort of extends to. And so then if

  177. our job is like followers of Christ, it's like

  178. live that kind of love. Then like our love doesn't

  179. get to have limits either, which is hard and

  180. scary. Hard? Yeah. I think that's why it's principled,

  181. right? So like the two greatest commandments

  182. is to love God and to love your neighbor. And

  183. I think what... what God is what's what's happening

  184. there is like you know sometimes your neighbors

  185. are not great yeah or there may be people you

  186. like have uh like problems with there could be

  187. deep conflict that is happening there and what

  188. God is asking you to extend in loving your neighbor

  189. is not something that's moving with emotion because

  190. emotion can move if I'm in conflict like when

  191. I was a kid and I was in conflict with my siblings,

  192. like, oh my gosh, like we didn't, I don't want

  193. to talk to this person. But love for what that

  194. means for me to love them is to know like, even

  195. in. I'm not loving you because of what you've

  196. done. Right. Just as God is not loving us because

  197. of anything that we've done. Sure. God is loving

  198. us because God is love. And for us, it's to remember

  199. that, to remember that when we as humans were

  200. not lovable, God loved us in the same way we

  201. are supposed to love others. Right. With that

  202. same type of expression. Yeah. Yeah. That's good.

  203. I was going to say something similar to that

  204. by saying, you know, that. Advent love is God

  205. sending Christ to us. And it transforms us. And

  206. then the next part of that is acts of service.

  207. Like Britt was alluding to. It can't just be

  208. a feeling. It can't just be that love inside

  209. us. It needs to flow out of us. And I was thinking

  210. of an analogy for this. The perfect vessel versus

  211. the broken vessel in terms of containing God's

  212. love in us. And I think we as humans are broken

  213. people. And I think a lot of us, in order to

  214. feel comfortable receiving love, feel like we

  215. need to be the perfect vessel that will hold

  216. God's love and contain it. And I don't think

  217. that's how God's love works. I think God's love

  218. is supposed to flow through us. I think it's

  219. almost like the design is as a broken vessel,

  220. as God's love is being poured into us, is seeping,

  221. is pouring out in the cracks all over the place,

  222. all over everything else. And as opposed to the

  223. perfect vessel that we think we're supposed to

  224. be, where we go, okay, God, I got enough love.

  225. I'm full. You can go away now. I'm great. Just

  226. saw me all by myself. I'm like, I'm content.

  227. There you go. And the, but it's, but it's, but

  228. in the broken vessel, you know, God is pouring

  229. his love and it's, and it just pours out onto

  230. all the other people around you, which I think

  231. that's the point. Sure. And then you're just

  232. going, you know, keep pouring God. It's coming.

  233. It's spilling everywhere. I'm not, I'm not full

  234. yet. Keep going. Keep pouring. Right. And we're

  235. part of that flowing of God's love into the world.

  236. So the call to action. was a super a huge part

  237. of the advent love and god's gift and yeah and

  238. and what we're meant to do with with the with

  239. that love and that sacrifice that christ has

  240. done for us yeah the other thing like i sometimes

  241. think about like the order that the candles are

  242. placed in i'm wondering you know who decided

  243. this and why and whatever but like love seems

  244. like a really good place to end it not not that

  245. like it's over but like to sort of put in this

  246. part of the sequence because to me i think about

  247. like okay hope is where we sort of started like

  248. yeah we need that first and like christmas is

  249. still a long way off so we need some time for

  250. hope and then like okay peace is like yeah like

  251. peace is the thing we're all hoping for and then

  252. joy it's just like you know a little levity in

  253. the middle and love as like i think of love as

  254. like the primary reason for Jesus coming, right?

  255. Like all of the other reasons that Jesus has

  256. come kind of fit under the like category of love.

  257. Um, and sometimes I think that we think of like,

  258. Jesus came to like die on the cross and this

  259. is true, but I don't think it's the only reason

  260. Jesus came. Right. And like that moment on the

  261. cross summarizes love, but like love, is present

  262. in like all of jesus's life i think right like

  263. in the way that he interacts with other people

  264. in the fact that like the son of god was like

  265. i'm gonna become a person now who like has limits

  266. and like will be hungry and like experience life

  267. like that i think of as a kind of act of love

  268. like yeah just like all of jesus Yeah. Well,

  269. I mean, certainly you've got hope. Yeah. You've

  270. got joy. You've got peace. Yeah. But I've heard

  271. from a very reliable source that all you need

  272. is love. Yes. This is true. The Beatles, the

  273. Beatles Bible. Yes. All you need is love. Yeah.

  274. So then, okay. When you guys think about like

  275. the life of Jesus and this idea of love, like,

  276. How did like, just like reflect on that? Like

  277. what is, how does Jesus's life like reveal God's

  278. love to us? Hmm. Are there ways that, yeah. Like,

  279. so like I said, I think the first thing that

  280. I think of is like Jesus's interactions with

  281. other people. Yeah. Just like first and foremost,

  282. they're like always based in a spirit of like

  283. love. Yeah. Yeah. I definitely see like the way

  284. that I think from the moment. Christ was born

  285. to the moment he died and was resurrected. The

  286. people he was surrounded by give us a picture

  287. of what salvation will look like and what the

  288. body looks like. I think that he was. He was

  289. there with his parents, but he was in a stable

  290. with a bunch of animals. Very humble, but also

  291. was visited by the wealthy and by the poorest

  292. of the poor, by those who were wise and by those

  293. who society would consider simple or unintelligent.

  294. everyone was in that mix. And I think that narrative

  295. continues or continued, uh, and it continues

  296. and it's, uh, and so, yeah, I think that's, I

  297. think that's one way. Um, cause I think what

  298. love pushes us to do is for us to one, um, be

  299. humble. Uh, two, I think for many of us be uncomfortable.

  300. Uh, sometimes it's cause it could be hard to

  301. love. Um, I've, I've worked in some conditions

  302. where, you know, there's people who are, who

  303. I don't want to love because they've, they've

  304. said mean things to me or, uh, they have a prejudice

  305. or discriminatory views of me. And, but I love

  306. them anyway. Um, because I know that that's what,

  307. that's what Christ has done. not just as an example,

  308. but has done to me. Um, so yeah, I think I can

  309. go on and on and on and on and on, but yeah,

  310. I think the people that God surrounded him, that

  311. Jesus surrounded himself with, uh, were a true

  312. example of what that love looks like in action.

  313. Yeah. Yeah. I think there, ultimately it's the,

  314. um, the sacrificial. uh, redemptive love of Christ

  315. on the cross. I mean, that's the, that is, um,

  316. uh, you know, everything, Jesus' life and ministry

  317. builds up to that. Uh, and so that is the, that

  318. is the ultimate expression of, uh, of God's love

  319. for us. Um, but I think, uh, I think like Britt

  320. has said is that, you know, the, we, um, uh,

  321. we experience, uh, or know, uh, love in a lot

  322. of the, day -to -day examples of Jesus' life

  323. and ministry, of caring for others, of looking,

  324. of, you know, recognize and lifting up the least

  325. of these, you know, healing their sins as opposed

  326. to their physical ailments, recognizing that

  327. it was, you know, their spirit and their heart

  328. that needed healing first, and then the bodily

  329. healing came second, right? So just demonstrating

  330. or experiencing that love on a day -to -day basis

  331. with his closest friends and with people that

  332. he ministered to. They're all great examples.

  333. Yeah. And I think that loving... The people who

  334. are hard to love is like, that also shows up

  335. in Jesus's life. Like he, he loves the outsiders,

  336. but he also in like one of the stories that I

  337. think about is when there's this rich young ruler

  338. who like comes to Jesus and he's like, Jesus,

  339. I really want to follow you. And Jesus is like,

  340. okay, so sell everything you have, give it to

  341. the poor and then come follow me. And the young

  342. man is like, I can't do that. And he walks away.

  343. what the gospels then say is like jesus looked

  344. at him and loved him and like even though this

  345. man couldn't make that hard choice even though

  346. he didn't ultimately turn around and follow jesus

  347. jesus looked at him and loved him right and yeah

  348. so it's like not about the choices that we make

  349. or don't make it's god just loves yeah it just

  350. is yeah yeah yeah and loving and like the understanding

  351. like while i know the person I'm in relationship

  352. with might not be in the place that I, or I believe

  353. that God wants them to go. Sure. I love them

  354. anyway. Yeah. And pray for them and love them

  355. into what God is calling them into knowing that

  356. God is doing a good work and that God can, we

  357. don't know the end of the story for the rich

  358. young ruler. Right. Yeah. But God loved him anyway.

  359. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I think like, so then as

  360. we think about that, like it's, it's, one thing

  361. to sort of look at, okay, what did this look

  362. like in Jesus's life? But like, what does it

  363. look like for us to love the people who are hard

  364. to love? Um, and like, especially, I think it's

  365. one thing to sort of like love the people who

  366. are hard to love that. Like we don't need to

  367. interact with regularly and be like, ah, I love

  368. you. I'm going to like show compassion, like

  369. think the best towards you. And then, okay. So

  370. that's like one type of person. And then there's

  371. the other type of person who's like, I, interact

  372. with you on a regular basis and this is clearly

  373. a hostile relationship right like how do i love

  374. that person like what does that look like interesting

  375. well i think uh first and foremost by necessity

  376. i think we need to uh figure out how to love

  377. our friends and family of course we're around

  378. them all the time yes and the um and that might

  379. sound strange to say but i but i think i mean

  380. But when love is not just a feeling, but it's

  381. a discipline, right? It is like some of the other

  382. themes of Advent. We're saying that it is a gift

  383. of God, but it's also something that we can grow

  384. and develop in ourselves. And so sometimes, sometimes

  385. we need help to love the closest ones around

  386. us. And I think there's, there's another layer

  387. of relationships that a circle that goes out

  388. beyond there, which might be coworkers and, and,

  389. you know, people in the community and things

  390. like that, that some, some we like, some we don't

  391. like, but we're called to, we're called to love.

  392. So what does it look like to, to love them? So

  393. we kind of figured that out. And then I think

  394. there's I think there is another group of people

  395. that we might not necessarily associate with

  396. on a day -to -day basis unless we're involved

  397. in community programs and stuff, and that's the

  398. homeless and the hungry. And as the Bible says,

  399. the poor and the naked and the sick. And so I

  400. think that is also a group of people in our community,

  401. in our society, that we need to think about,

  402. oh, how do we show? How do we express our love?

  403. How do we express God's love through us to that

  404. particular people group? Is that about making

  405. a donation? Is that about showing up? Is that

  406. about helping as a group? Is that about helping

  407. as an individual, like volunteering with a group

  408. of people or volunteering on your own someplace?

  409. What does that look like? I think we're called,

  410. I think God calls us all to express love for

  411. the least of these among us. So our question

  412. is, what does that look like for us? What does

  413. that look like for me to do that? That answer

  414. is going to be different for different people.

  415. But I think it needs to have... our the our expression

  416. of god's love needs to have an element of that

  417. sure or it's not god's love in its fullness it's

  418. yeah it's something that's both like very practical

  419. and yeah extends to each of these circles as

  420. you were just saying it's a it's a selfless love

  421. it's a practical love and it responds to uh the

  422. needs of others in the community yeah yeah for

  423. sure for sure yeah yeah I won't be too critical,

  424. but like, not critical of you, but I'm just thinking

  425. about love and I'm thinking about like, it's

  426. very easy for us to. say, within our local communities

  427. that we're loving. But most of the people within

  428. our circles are people that are like us. We tend

  429. to be attracted to people that are, you know,

  430. like similar things, probably have similar cultural

  431. backgrounds and similar socioeconomic backgrounds.

  432. Like those are the things that like usually tie

  433. us together. Sure. So I often ask myself. uh

  434. when I look around and I think about like who

  435. who am I loving who who do I care for if I'm

  436. just caring for folks that are just like me um

  437. and there's we can have a whole conversation

  438. on demographics and how people like find themselves

  439. in physical spaces and all that because that

  440. plays a role in it but I think there's lots of

  441. opportunities where we intentionally leave out

  442. or find convenient ways to not love people that

  443. are not like us in various ways. And it's easy

  444. to do that. It's easy for us to like, you know,

  445. take the go transit. And as we make our way through

  446. the lines, just like ignore the people that are

  447. sitting there on the side. It's probably also

  448. easy for us to ignore people that have different

  449. like political views or ideologies and not extend

  450. love to them. I think the question for us truly

  451. is like, what is if love is not just this like

  452. cute feeling? um, or a convenient habit, then

  453. like, what does that principle love look like?

  454. What does it mean for me to show up and love

  455. people who I might deem hard to love? Um, or

  456. yeah, what does that look like? And I think that's

  457. a, it's an exercise that we're, as God reveals

  458. himself to us, we will learn more about that

  459. looks like. Um, yeah. So I, yeah, I don't have

  460. like an exact, like an exact answer to like what

  461. it, what it can look like, but I know what it,

  462. I know what's challenging. Um, but I know what

  463. it does for me when I start feeling like I just

  464. want to like throw people away and I don't want

  465. to extend love to them. Then I come back and

  466. I'm like, okay, well, I remember when I was.

  467. worse off than I am now or more challenging in

  468. in my or critical of of individuals of myself

  469. and all these things and God loved me anyway

  470. and God used people to like those broken vessel

  471. pieces use those broken parts to flow love through

  472. me to me um so I think that's like as we remember

  473. where we were and where we are I think that can

  474. help us in just being just open to to loving

  475. people in a principled way. Yeah. Like as I reflect

  476. on like what both of you have sort of been saying,

  477. like, I think about there's like, maybe not one

  478. thing that we can say, okay, this is what love

  479. looks like. But I think there's a series of questions

  480. that we can ask ourselves, right? There's a like,

  481. okay, so like, who are we loving? And like, who

  482. are we maybe leaving out of that love? And we

  483. can ask ourselves, okay, like, how am I loving

  484. them? And am I loving them? in ways and at times

  485. where it just like feels convenient and easy,

  486. or am I still showing up when it feels hard or

  487. when it feels costly? Right. And like, I think

  488. the other thing is you were like thinking about

  489. these circles of people and like starting with

  490. friends and family. The thing that I reflected

  491. on was like, sometimes we can think we are loving

  492. our friends and family well, but they don't necessarily

  493. feel well loved. And I can see that. And so,

  494. maybe it's worth asking your close friends and

  495. family, like the people that you live with, Hey,

  496. do you feel loved? And like, I don't know, maybe

  497. that's a weird question to ask just like that

  498. out of the blue, but like find some way to like

  499. bring that about and be like, Hey, like what

  500. do I do that? Or what do I not do that? Like

  501. makes you feel cared for that makes you feel

  502. like you belong, whatever, however you want to

  503. sort of word that. Right. Well, that's that's

  504. why I think. Yeah. And that's why I think love

  505. is both a gift and a discipline. Right. Yeah.

  506. I think I think we are we are gifted. We are

  507. made to to love. And the but I but I think it

  508. also takes it also takes work. So I think I like

  509. you're saying you have you have your friends

  510. in your family and you express love to them.

  511. And I think that is that is. That is part of

  512. what's needed, but it's a very basic level of

  513. expression of love. I think as you grow in your

  514. understanding of faith and what love is and different

  515. kinds of love, then you grow and you develop

  516. to the point where you can not just... express

  517. generic love but you can but you you then uh

  518. understand that people receive love in different

  519. ways right and that it's not just the that one

  520. love that kind of love that that kind of makes

  521. that works for everybody and and so you begin

  522. again that's that's the work of of love in a

  523. relationship is right is understanding how they

  524. receive love and learning to show love in a way

  525. that that they receive even understand it yeah

  526. yeah yeah for sure for sure yeah yeah love is

  527. something like i feel like we like talk about

  528. it and we think i know what that is i know what

  529. that feels like but like it's complicated yeah

  530. and it's yeah yeah it's like it's something that

  531. you said bill where it was like um In Christ

  532. healing people, he healed their spiritual needs,

  533. their spiritual, their sins, and then also their

  534. physical needs. And I'm trying to connect how

  535. I got this, but the thought that's coming to

  536. me is like there's... God shows up in a particular

  537. way that meets our moment and meets our specific

  538. needs. So I'm not going to do the same thing

  539. for every single person. I'm going to do what's

  540. needed for that person in that time. And I think

  541. Christ was the greatest example of that, right?

  542. What we needed was a savior and we needed someone

  543. to be our substitute. Uh, Christ could have just

  544. said, well, I'm just going to sit back and I

  545. know what they need, but I'm not going to do

  546. it. But what he did was he came as a baby and,

  547. and lived as a man and died on the cross to,

  548. to pay for our sins. Um, so yeah, I think like

  549. what, what love really looks like is it's one,

  550. you have to be in relationship with people to

  551. know what their needs are, to know what their

  552. specific needs are and then, and then be that,

  553. um, in that way. my caution though is like don't

  554. like there's healthy ways to do that sure and

  555. there's unhealthy ways to do that don't lose

  556. yourself yeah so how can I show up in the way

  557. that I am uh that meets your need in that unique

  558. way um yeah yeah and I think like in the like

  559. thinking about healthy ways and unhealthy ways

  560. of doing that like sometimes the healthiest way

  561. that like I can show you love is actually to

  562. say Hey, Britain, I understand you have a need

  563. right now. Here's somebody who can like actually

  564. help you. Right. Like I don't have to be like

  565. the fix it person. Right. I can be like, OK,

  566. you need food. That doesn't mean I need to cook

  567. for you. Sometimes it does. But it could mean,

  568. hey, I'm going to help you get to the services

  569. that will give you the food that you need. Right.

  570. Or I'm going to volunteer at the services that

  571. help you get the food that you need. Right. Like

  572. it's yeah, it's all about balance and like finding.

  573. each person's sort of role in that. I think.

  574. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's love. Love. It's pretty,

  575. pretty cool thing. What's, what's love got to

  576. do with it? Everything. It's the whole candle,

  577. the whole point of Christmas. We're wrapping

  578. it all up in love. Um, yeah, but not just like

  579. a fluffy love. No. A love that like gets its

  580. hands dirty. I think, I think that's, I think

  581. that's a crux of maybe this whole thing is that

  582. we're, is that the love that we're talking about,

  583. and we didn't even joke about the fluffy love

  584. at the beginning and get down to like the serious

  585. love of God. But the, I think there is a, there

  586. is a difference between that kind of. you know,

  587. whatever else fluffy or the, the, or romantic

  588. love or the, you know, whatever. And the, and,

  589. and the kind of, of love that from God that we

  590. have, or that we're meant to have for, for each

  591. other, which. which I think translates into acts

  592. of service and is an essential part of our faith

  593. development, is receiving God's love and expressing

  594. God's love in others in ways that are meaningful

  595. to them and respond to their needs. Like we've

  596. been talking about this whole time. Yeah. Yeah.

  597. Love that shows up. Love that does the hard things.

  598. That's right. It can't just be a feeling. It

  599. needs to be present. It needs to be, it needs

  600. to show up. There needs to be action, thoughtful,

  601. caring, compassionate. Yeah. Yeah. I'll say the

  602. first step then is you need to recognize that,

  603. or we need to recognize that we, we must love

  604. everyone. And I think that. If I can, like there's,

  605. where was I? I was somewhere and someone told

  606. me they loved me. And I like look back, I'm like,

  607. I don't know if I would say that to you. Do I

  608. say it back? I'm not sure. But, and reflecting

  609. afterwards, like, no, I have, I don't have romantic

  610. love for this person. We barely know each other,

  611. but there is a love that I have for this individual.

  612. And it's the love of Christ. And I think if we

  613. can start seeing like everyone that we see. Yeah.

  614. I love you. Yeah. I don't love I don't love you

  615. because of what you did. Right. Or even who you

  616. are. Well, actually, yeah, because you're a child

  617. of God. Sure. But I love you because Christ loves

  618. you. Right. And yeah, I think that's if I like

  619. the shifting of our thoughts, like to say, like,

  620. I love you. I love you. And it's not because

  621. we spend all this time together because you got

  622. me really great Christmas gifts. I like Nikes.

  623. I like fruitcake. Okay. Okay. Good to know. Good

  624. to know. My mom makes a really good fruitcake.

  625. Oh, and you're going home. And I'm going home.

  626. And you're coming back. I see fruitcake in my

  627. future. But it's not because of all those things.

  628. No, not at all. No. I love you anyway. Thank

  629. you. It fluffs it up. It fluffs it up. Behind

  630. that fluff. Love's still there. Yes. Yes. Love

  631. and fruitcake. Yes. Yes. That's why Jesus came,

  632. right? That's right. Yes. So as we come to the

  633. end of this Advent journey, like I said, we started

  634. with hope. This like we need a thing to look

  635. forward to. And that thing is coming in Christ,

  636. has come in Christ, is coming again. We hope

  637. for peace. We get this like sense of like things

  638. will be well. We have this gift of joy. Like

  639. we get some delight in the midst of all of the

  640. craziness of life. And then we focus in on love.

  641. But like there is this moment of Christ coming

  642. that. meets us in our deepest, darkest places

  643. and says, love is there with you. And then calls

  644. us out of those deep, dark places to extend that

  645. love into the rest of the darkness. And like,

  646. that's Christmas, folks. It's pretty, pretty

  647. cool season. Love it. Yeah. Well, thank you for

  648. tuning in to this week's episode of Trinity Talks.

  649. Yeah, I pray that your Christmas season is a

  650. season filled with love. whatever that looks

  651. like for you, and that you are able to experience

  652. that deep sense of hope, peace, joy, and love

  653. that sits with us now and throughout the rest

  654. of our lives. We'll see you again next week.