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What Black Christians Want You To Know | Trinity Talks Podcast
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Hello, everyone, and welcome to this week's episode
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of Trinity Talks. My name is Kyla, and I am joined
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here by two folks who are members of our congregation
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here at Trinity. And we're going to talk a little
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bit more about race and faith and Black history
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and just like what it is like to sort of be people
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of color in the midst of a multicultural church.
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So thank you for joining me, folks. Happy to
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be here. Yes. Happy Black History Month. Yes.
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Yeah, so maybe we'll get started, do a little
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bit of introduction. So Jen, do you want to start
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us off here? Sure. My name is Jen Agard. I've
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been going to Trinity for 29 years. My parents
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are from Barbados. They met and married in England
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and I was born in England. I came to Canada when
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I was three. Okay. So I'm pretty much Canadian.
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Yes. Okay. You know, I always thought that you
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were born in Barbados and then went to England.
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Ah, okay. Well, there you go. Learn something
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new every day. Yes. Okay. And my name's Curlin
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McLean. You'll probably recognize me for making
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all the noise in there. back there playing the
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drums. I was born in the island of St. Vincent,
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and St. Vincent is across the street from Barbados,
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actually. If you look at the map, and you'll
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see that all the islands in the Caribbean go
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in an arc, and Barbados, they're special, they
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stick out by themselves. And if you look directly
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across from Barbados, you'll see St. Vincent
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right there. And I used to go to, when I was
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a kid, I went to a Methodist church in St. Vincent.
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And the church, it's an old, I wouldn't be surprised
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if that church was built in the 1800s. Okay,
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wow. And my memories of going to that church
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as a kid, I was 11 years old when I came to Canada.
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Sure. It was just about 30 years ago. What I
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remembered most about the church is that we used
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to have an event called Harvest around October,
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November. you know the kids in the church would
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participate in the harvest event we'd have to
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memorize scripture or read a poem or something
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like that and there was always music music music
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music everywhere it's always vibrant music in
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the church and that was one of the things that
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i brought from the caribbean with me here to
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further my faith journey here so it's So people
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from Vincent are called Vincentians or Vincy
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for short. And yeah, so my journey is the Vincy
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journey, the Vincy experience and the Caribbean,
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sorry, and the Canadian journey afterwards. Okay,
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very cool. Yeah. So are there any ways that you
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think, like, I guess you've already sort of brought
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us into this a little bit, Carolyn, like that
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your race or your like cultural background have
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impacted the way that you. believe or the way
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that you practice your faith um yeah it's been
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well i mentioned the the harvest harvest was
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the big community thing for for us and and what
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i see here at trinity well when i started coming
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to trinity i came i came here i think in like
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1994 i'm aging myself uh back in 1994 and um
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It just kind of grew from there. The church kind
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of grew from there culturally, I find. I find
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that there's a lot more different. It's a lot
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more diverse now than it was back in 1994. There's
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more cultures. But what I see is that the harvest
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and the community spirit that we have here at
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Trinity is what I look forward to most. Yeah,
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yeah, yeah, for sure. So I grew up at St. Brad's
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Church. Okay. Which was, there were a few Caribbean
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families there. It was predominantly white. But
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my mother exposed us to a lot. Like I joined
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youth group. And I was pretty much the only kid
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of color in youth group. Okay. But I never felt
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that I was any different than anybody else. We
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had different events that would happen. My mom
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sang in the choir. And they did actually give
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us an opportunity to have like an evening of
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diversity where we would sort of. introduce our
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Caribbean roots to them. I wouldn't say that
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my Caribbean roots really were any different
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than what I was experiencing at St. Bride's.
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Because my parents, the foundation of Christianity
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was how we were raised. And in our home, it wasn't
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like we prayed together or we read scripture
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together. We did watch Billy Graham. That was
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a staple in our house. Every Sunday we had to
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watch Billy Graham. There was no talking when
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that was happening. And as far as coming to Trinity,
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I don't think there is any difference. The only
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big difference is what Carolyn mentioned is diversity.
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Right. The huge amount of diversity that is here
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at Trinity as compared to St. Bride's. Right.
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But I mean, I had a really good experience at
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St. Bride's being in youth groups singing. I
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sang in a folk group. That's when I first started
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singing. My mom sang in the choir. So eventually
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she made me sing in the choir. Sure. But yeah,
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I don't think there was really any difference.
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Okay. I felt the same too. There was a bit of
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a difference for me. When we came to Canada,
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my mom didn't come. She was Anglican, and that
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was baptized Methodist. To be honest, I don't
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even know what Methodist is. But anyhow, when
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we were living in Don Mills, and she found an
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Anglican church across the street. sort of across
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us, but we had to walk a bit of a distance to
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get there. And she sent me and my younger brother
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to this Anglican church. And when we went, we
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had to dress in suit and tie every Sunday. And
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same in St. Vincent. When I lived in St. Vincent,
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we always went to church. Church for us in St.
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Vincent, we had the whole family was there in
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the morning. And then in the afternoon, the kids
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would go back for Sunday school. So it wasn't
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incorporated. It was a whole day event. Then
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when I left, my parents in Pickering and moved
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to Mississauga, I was in search of a church because
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my mother was shoving the Anglican church on
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me. She wasn't really shoving it on me, but I
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appreciate it. That's it. I started searching
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for a church and I landed here. This was the
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first church that I found and it's the only church
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that I've ever explored. I've been to other churches,
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but this is the only church that I stayed at.
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It was the first one that I found and came here.
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And I came dressed in suit and tie. And I looked
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around and everyone else was wearing just casual.
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And I came the second time and I dressed in suit
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and tie again. I looked around. It was so different
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from what I was accustomed to. Back in St. Vincent
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and going to the Anglican Church out in Don Mills.
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And then after that, I just started dressing
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casually like everyone else. But I would say
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that's more of a cultural thing because in the
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West Indies, because at St. Bride's, we always
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dressed up. But the whole church did. Sure. So
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coming to Trinity, it was like that when I first
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came. But then I noticed that it became more
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casual. And I think that was more to introduce
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other people into the church who may not be able
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to dress. you know? Sure. The way we grew up,
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we had Sunday school clothes that were just for
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Sunday school. That's right. Yes. That was our
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respect for the church. And it's not to say that
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people don't dress, but that's just the way that.
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you know, Caribbean, I guess black people are
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when it comes to church, it's someplace that
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is respected and honored. So you dress that way.
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Sure. So a lot of people still in this church,
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I see there are still people that dress that
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way. Yeah. And they may not understand when they
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see other people that are not dressed that way.
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And that's where it comes from. It's not necessarily,
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it's not a judgment. It's just a cultural thing.
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Sure. Where when you go to church, you dress
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properly, right? Or what's considered proper.
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Right. By dressing up. Yeah. So, I mean, I'm
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wearing jeans today, which I rarely do because
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it's still in the back of my mind that I have
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to dress properly. But today is not one off for
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me. Well, they're black jeans, so they're a little
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nicer, right? It didn't matter. I remember asking
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once if I could wear jeans or cords to church,
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and my mother just stared at me like I had two
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heads. You're never allowed to mix the two together.
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They're separate. When you come to church, you
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honor church by dressing appropriately. Okay.
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Yeah. No, for sure. For sure. yeah um so when
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you think about maybe it's culture maybe it's
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race like are there ways that that those aspects
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of your identity have like created challenges
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or have created like moments of joy as you mix
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you know like your cultural and racial identity
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with your like faith identity I think the only
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challenge for me growing up was I never saw anyone
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in leadership that looked like me. I'm staying
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in the choir, but I wouldn't say that was really
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leadership. Sure. There was nobody like in the
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pulpit. No, there was no one in the pulpit. And
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there were maybe a few groups, volunteer groups,
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but still in those groups, you never saw anyone
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that was different. And I think even now when
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we're looking at diversity here at Trinity and
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we're trying to engage people, when it comes
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to black people, I think that's what part of
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it is, is that. never saw that before. So, you
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know, why now are they interested in having me
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join this group? But it's nice to see that people
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are starting to do it, which is great. But that's
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probably where it comes from. That would be the
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only challenge for me at that time. I don't find
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that challenge here anymore because I've had
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the opportunity to be involved in a lot of different
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ministries and some leadership, some, you know,
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all volunteer, but some leadership, some just
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walking alongside. So that's been. a joy rather
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than a challenge. Sure. But that would be the
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only challenge that, you know, just knowing that
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from my past and not being sure whether, you
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know, can I actually do that? Am I okay to do
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that? Right. But watching Trinity over the years,
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it's evolved quite a bit. Sure. Where it's opened
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the doors to allow anybody to do anything. Yeah.
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Yeah. So that's really positive. For sure. Yeah.
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And like you were serving as like a warden. for
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our church for a while. So like, that was like
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one of like the, the top three sort of leadership
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roles, kind of, kind of in the church. And so
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like, yeah, in some ways I think you're like
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blazing a path so people can like look at that.
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That's true. That's true. Jen did that. So like
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I can do that. Well, and that's what I hope.
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Yeah. Because there are a lot of people that
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want to do a lot of things and they don't necessarily
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want to be involved because they're not sure.
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Yeah. And sometimes. They look to me to be the
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person involved and I try to encourage people.
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Now you get involved and I see that there are
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a lot of people getting involved in different
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things, you know, that, you know, that are not
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actually in the forefront, but still, I think
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it's a slow progression to that. Yeah, for sure.
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And similar to Jen, I was able to participate
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in some of the. The activities here at the church.
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I was a deputy warden, if you want to call it
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that, or advisory. I was on the advisory committee
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on the Trinity as well. But I started playing
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with the worship team here in 2008, I think it
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was. And I actually never saw myself up there
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up front. At one point, I was actually assisting
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with leading worship up there. And I never saw
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myself in that capacity at this church. I was
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given that opportunity in my professional career.
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I did experience this is external to the church.
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I did experience a challenging time where I was
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a police officer and I was pretty much forced
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out of the police service because of racial discrimination.
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We won't get into all the dirty details of that.
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But when we come to church and when I come to
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church and. I bring that weight of me as a Black
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person with that challenge of navigating what
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was supposed to be me helping enforce justice
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out there in the community and navigating around
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the injustices of the racial discrimination that
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I experienced in the police service. And when
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we come into the church, I bring that weight
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with me into the sanctuary. And some people don't.
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We all come into the church for different reasons.
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And sometimes some of my friends who don't go
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to church or are non -believers, why do you go
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to church? Well, I still need my spiritual nourishment.
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That's why I come in. But not everybody comes
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in sharing the same. experience that I endured.
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And so when we walk in, you don't know what's
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Curlin carrying today. When he goes up for communion,
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what's he carrying with him? When we're in the
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moment of prayer, what's he praying for? What's
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so heavy on his heart? What's so heavy on Jen's
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heart today that we need to pray for? Sure. You
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never know what we're carrying, what we're experiencing.
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And on that, I think that a lot of people don't
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believe that we that we experience racism now.
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They believe that, oh, you know, it doesn't happen
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here or, you know, even in the States, people
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don't believe that some of the stuff that's going
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on is real. Yeah. And and I think what Kerlin
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is saying, what I feel, too, is that sometimes
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people need to. to think about what it's like
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to walk in our shoes because I experienced that
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in my, in my workplace too. And that was in 2018.
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Right. And people still experience it today.
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And, and it's not to say that, you know, the
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church is kind of the sanctuary. It's a place
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where we can bring that to God. But I, I also
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think that we can't forget that it happens everywhere,
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like even in a church. And I'm not saying Trinity,
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but I, when I was. asked to do this, I was talking
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to a couple about what I was going to do. And
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they mentioned that maybe five to 10 years ago,
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they were in a church where they sat in a pew
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by themselves, even during the holidays when
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it was packed, nobody would sit in their pew
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because they were the only people of color in
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their church. And that's disappointing, but it's
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real. And I think that people need to recognize
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that this is real. This is not something that
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just happens or that we just believe in our minds.
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We actually experienced it. But it's nice to
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know that you can come to a church where There's
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so much diversity and everybody respects everyone
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and everyone is so welcoming. And I think that's
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why we have so many people coming to Trinity.
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It's because they feel welcome. They look around
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and they see that. And they now see everybody
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up on the pulpit doing different things, whether
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it's worship, whether they're reading scripture
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or praying or serving or welcoming, whatever
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it is. Everybody's there. Everybody's there.
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Not to belabor Jen's point, but it's really,
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really heartbreaking when I'm talking to somebody
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who's white, for example, and you tell them about
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some of the things that we experienced. And as
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Jen said, they would respond with, that doesn't
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really happen. And it's really, really heartbreaking.
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I was really, I think it was September when Charlie
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Kirk was shot and killed. I absolutely don't
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condone violence in any form, sort or shape or
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form. But when that event happened, I was surprised
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to find that some people actually from this church
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was posting on social media their sorrow and
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their support for Charlie Kirk in a way. Yes,
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grieve for Charlie Kirk that he was violently
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killed, but they supported him in a way that
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was deplorable. Because Charlie Kirk had made
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some really, really disparaging comments about
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black people. Actually, I think I've made a couple
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of notes about what he had said. One of the things
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what he had said was Joy Reid was a TV reporter.
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Joy Reid, Ketanji Brown Jackson, the Supreme
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Court Justice and Michelle Obama. They stole
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white people's jobs because they did. And they
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shouldn't have because they don't have the brain
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capacity to be in those roles. I think it was
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something to that effect. He also said something
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about, if I see a white pilot at the airport,
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I have to stop and wonder if he's a diversity
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hire and if he's properly qualified to fly the
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plane. But he wouldn't say that about somebody
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who's white. Really broke my heart to see people
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who I thought were my friends support that ideology.
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Sure. I think in that case, and I'm not making
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excuses, I think people have a hard time separating.
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Sure. You know, what that person is from the
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fact that they are, you know, yes, they've lost
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their lives and that's understandable. But I
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think sometimes. They may be separating the fact
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and thinking, oh, you know, but he's still a
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person. And yes, he is still a person. But you
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can't, as Carly was saying, you can't forget
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where he was coming from. And it's hard for us
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to feel, you feel sorrow because you don't want
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anyone to be hurt ever. I don't want to do violence
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either. But be real about who the person is.
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You know, don't try to hide behind it because
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he lost his life. It's unfortunate he lost his
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life. But the type of person he was was not a
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good person. Right. And didn't care for people
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like myself and Carolyn. Right. And other diverse
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people in the world. Right. So it is hurtful.
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And you can't really talk about it because then
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your loved one is being angry because black people
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are angry, apparently. And we're not angry. We
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just want justice like anybody else does. Not
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that that's justice, but in terms of understanding
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what we go through and what's said about us and
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how we perceive those things and how we feel
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when we hear those things. For sure. Yeah. And
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just figuring out how do we hold sorrow for the
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loss of a life and also. sorrow for the damage
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that that life did yes right like it's yeah and
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Jen might feel differently about this but when
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I saw that uh people who I associate with or
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associated with were posting those types of comments
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yeah and I reflected on it and I thought there
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there's that's their view and I thought that
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I should have taken an opportunity to um because
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they don't believe that These things actually
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happened to us. Sure. And I should have taken
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that opportunity to sort of correct them and
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say, like, we actually really do experience these
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things. And but I didn't. I just left it alone.
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And sometimes I think you have to you needed
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a chance to step back, though, and look at it
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and determine how do I want to respond to it?
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Because sometimes when you see things like that,
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you initially want to respond in a way that may
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not be, you know, correct. And you don't it's
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not about. having a debate back and forth is
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about trying to understand each other and where
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we're coming from yeah yeah yeah for sure yeah
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i think there's a lot of moments where we ask
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ourselves okay what what is the right thing for
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me to do here right and like sometimes it is
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to engage and sometimes that's just like not
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the work i can do today yeah and it depends on
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the people that you're dealing with because if
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they're not going to be open to hearing it right
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then why are you wasting your breath to say anything
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you just understand you appreciate that they're
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letting you know where they stand yeah and i
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appreciate that more than anything i know where
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you stand now so yeah yeah so like when you think
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about bringing all of these experiences into
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the church like has church felt like a place
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where you can like do that well and like be able
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to like come together and like share some of
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that that sorrow and that heaviness I mentioned
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my police career. Back in 2000, I had a very
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dramatic incident that happened with me at work.
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And around that time, we were meeting at Hazel
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McAllen Public School. The event happened on
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the Friday, and I went to church on the Sunday,
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and I was just sitting there in the pew. I think
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it was Diane Toyson and Dave and Harold Percy
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was the pastor at the time. And they actually
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came and grabbed me out of the pew and took me
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into a room. They had heard about what had happened.
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Yeah. And they prayed for me. Yeah. I didn't
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know that they were aware, but it was coming
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into the church and having the community pray
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for me in such a way that was really like. They're
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here for me. They knew what happened and they
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came and they got me. And that's what I see in
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Trinity, that this whole community of diverse
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people are all coming together and sharing together,
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much like when I was in St. Vincent and we had
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our harvest. in October or November, whenever
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it was. And that whole community came together
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and there was, you know, there was joy, there
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was music, there was, you know. But that's what
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I appreciated was that the community was there
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to support me. And that's what I appreciate about
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the fact that I was accepted into a Trinity.
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Yeah, it's intentional fellowship. You know,
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it's, yes, we have culture, we have diversity,
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but at the end of the day, we have a church community.
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And to me, For example, my faith doesn't have
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a color. My faith is about my relationship with
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Christ. It's not because I'm black. My relationship
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with Christ is different. Everybody's faith is
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different. That I agree with. But having a relationship
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with Christ is not about the color of your skin
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or the culture or diversity that you belong to.
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It's that relationship that you have with Christ.
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And that goes into the community and fellowship
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as well. It's not about... the color of anyone's
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skin. It's about what is that person going through?
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Let's pray with that person. It's not about,
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well, is it okay because they're different? It
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doesn't happen here at Trinity. Everybody cares
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about everyone. I mean, and it's not to say that,
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yeah, you may have people in the church that
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may not agree with that, but that really doesn't
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matter because God's working on those people,
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right? So we're focused as a community to care
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for each other and help each other and acknowledge
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each other and see each other. that's the most
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important thing is that we see each other. And
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I think at Trinity, we do that. Yeah. We see
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each other. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. So are
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there things, I know we've sort of talked a little
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bit about this, but are you thinking, are there
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things that you wish like more people understood
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about like black people's experiences of faith
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or of church? I know we already talked about
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this, but as far as the way that we dress. Yeah.
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No, like. As casual as Trinity is, I can tell
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you there are a lot of Caribbean people who are
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not going to dress casual. Sure. Because it's
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ingrained in their mind, as Carolyn said, that
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this is the way. Sure. But it's not to put anybody
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else down. They're just like that. And if you
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do have someone say something, it's just because
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it's ingrained in them. Sure. That's how you
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dress for church. Yep. And the other thing, too,
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is we move when we worship. Like, I can't stay
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still when music is going on. I have to move.
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And, you know, sometimes... Sometimes I'm the
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only one moving. Sure. But I don't. It's just
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who we are. Because if you ever go to the islands,
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people do not stay still when they're worshiping.
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Sure. They don't. If you go to a Pentecostal
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church, they definitely don't stay still. My
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sister -in -law came here. We had the Toronto
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Mass Choir here one time. Oh, yeah. I remember
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that. And my sister -in -law is white and she's
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Pentecostal. Yeah. So we were sitting in the
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pew and she got up and I wondered where she was.
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She was in the back getting into it. And she
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said to me, what's wrong with these people? I
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said, they're very Anglican, but they're learning.
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But I think too that, and that's an opportunity
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for us to maybe show people that it's okay to
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move to music. And I noticed there's a lot of
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people that will, but there's still some people
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that are very still because in the Anglican church,
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you know, it's not really known that you do that,
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but I've always been like that. I just, you know,
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when I first came in and I noticed that people
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didn't do it, I thought, should I be doing this?
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And eventually I, and I didn't, but eventually.
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It can't be helped. And as I hear music, my body
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just starts to move. Sure. And that's how I worship.
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Remember that time I was leading worship this
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one time and the congregation, they were clapping
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on one and three and I had to stop the music.
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And I said, you people are driving me nuts. You
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don't clap on one and three, you clap on two
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and four. It's like this. Clap, clap. The following
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weeks after that, everyone started doing the
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clapping thing on 214. But Jen, that was great
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that you brought up the whole music thing because
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I'm part of the worship team and I play the drums.
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If you go to the Caribbean, even today, you get
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on a bus going into the city, there's music blasting
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in the bus that's going into the city. And nobody
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cares that they're blasting the music. And very
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often you will hear them playing Christian music
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in the buses. There was one song that we play
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here. I forgot what it is, but it has a bit of
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an island beat to it. It would have been great
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today. I saw Pat playing the bass up there today.
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And I thought that because often when he plays,
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we play this song. And like I said, it's got
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a bit of a Caribbean beat to it. And it would
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have been perfect for today with the weather
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being so cold outside. It brought some of that
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Caribbean sunshine. We had actually tried to.
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To bring Julie Frost. As a matter of fact, Julie
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passed away four years ago today. Okay. Wow.
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As a matter of fact, around this time was when
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her husband said goodbye to her. She had a group
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of people from this church that got involved
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with playing the steel drums. I was one of them.
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Okay. Very cool. Wow. Yeah. It was a lot of fun.
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Yeah. But we had like. It wasn't just us, though.
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We had, I think, Carol. Yes, and Ted. Ted. They
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were both there, too. Carol and Ted Smith. Yeah.
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Okay. Very cool. And we actually had the steel
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band come here to the church and play out in
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the lobby here. Very cool. And perform two or
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three songs, I think it was. It was very nice
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to get that. that Caribbean experience into the
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church. But sadly, um, Julie passed and we didn't
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get to carry on. Sure. Somebody else could have
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taken up the torch, but maybe you get some steel
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drums back in the sanctuary. Music is a big part
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of who we are. And I've been singing since I
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was a kid. Cause my mom, she was one kind of
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encouraged me, kind of enforced me to do it.
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But it's always part of who we are. And that's
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how one of the ways that I mean, when you go
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back to slavery times, that's the way they communicated
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in the fields. Sure. Most of those hymns that
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you hear, like Swing Low, Sweet Chariot. Yeah.
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And there's a whole bunch of them. I can't think
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of them. Michael Rowe, The Boat of Shore. Those
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were songs that were actually messages to the
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slaves in the field and to also the slaves that
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were on the run. Yeah. To let them know. That
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they were safe when it was time to go or in the
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field, letting them know that I'm going to be
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going. Are you going to come with me? Yeah. You
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know, so it's always been a part of who you are.
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It's a part of our communication. That's right.
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So back in the days of slavery, as Jen pointed
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out, they used the drums and the music for communicating
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messages. big part of the Caribbean culture.
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As a matter of fact, right now in Trinidad they're
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having Carnival. And Carnival stems from that
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whole Days of Slavery thing where they use the
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music to communicate all. And we have Caravana
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here in August. August is probably a better time
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to be having a festival outdoors than the middle
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of February. Yeah, for sure. So then like, yeah,
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I just, as I think about all of this, like there's
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so much like richness in like what you're saying
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and like so much richness in like just being
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part of this really diverse sort of group of
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people and being able to like be yourselves and
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like bring yourself into that space. Yeah. It
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just like seems really important. It is important.
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It's important to feel like you're part of something,
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especially growing up when you, from my childhood
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mostly. That was a time when you would hear,
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you know, comments about you. Sure. From other
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kids. And, you know, even as a teenager joining
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a youth group, it was kind of uncomfortable and
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I didn't want to go. But, you know, my mother
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said, you're going. So I went. Yeah. And then
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so those people in my youth group, we still connect
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from time to time, you know, and which is pretty
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awesome. Yeah. It's pretty amazing. Feeling connected
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there, feeling connected here at Trinity. You
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know, it doesn't matter what you're doing. You're
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always connected to something and something.
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Like I have the opportunity of helping out with
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a community dinner, which is pretty awesome.
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I get to sit with people in our community and
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just chat with them. And they don't care about
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color or anything like that. They're just happy
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to have someone sit and talk with them. And when
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I'm looking at them, I'm looking at them as people,
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not, oh, they're, you know. So being able to
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come out of that and not have to worry about
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the fact that I'm different. I know who I am.
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When I'm in my fellowship group, whether it's
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life group, whether it's worship, it doesn't
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matter. I'm just Jen. Yeah, that's awesome. So
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if folks are sort of thinking about this and
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maybe there's some new information that folks
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are hearing or maybe it's just stuff they haven't
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thought too deeply about, are there things that
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you would encourage people to do to better understand
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diversity, to better understand racial experiences
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and that sort of thing? And one of the things
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that people can do, and it's one of the things
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that Rob has talked about or encouraged people
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to do. If you see someone new here at the church
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that you don't recognize, go up and talk to them.
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But to me, that's just being polite. But you
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should just go and speak to somebody who doesn't
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look like you. And then beyond that, go. Go past
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just being polite. Sure. Get to know that person.
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Sure. Invite them out for coffee. Invite them
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over for dinner. Don't just be polite at church
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just for the sake of being polite. Get to know
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them over dinner or coffee or something else
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like that. So for me, there is someone in our
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church whose culture that I'm very interested
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in. She and I are going to go out. We haven't
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had some time yet to have a coffee just so I
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could get to know her culture a little bit more.
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I've always been interested. And there's this
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person in my church who is that culture. So I
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should. Why not? So I have approached her to
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say, you know what? I'd really like to learn
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more about you. And so we are going to go out
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and have a coffee and just see, you know, and,
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you know, and as you get to know people, then
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it's a little bit more comfortable for you to
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ask them out. you know, to have dinner together.
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But I think the beginning part is just to, to
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just saying hello is, is the first. Sure. Right.
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Yeah. And then, so I'm really excited to go out
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and learn about more about her culture. Yeah.
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So that's one way that you can do it. You know,
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if you want to learn about a specific culture,
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we have so many diverse people here. Just approach
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them and say, Hey, you know what? I'm really
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interested in knowing about how your faith, just
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what we're doing right now. You might even have
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her, but I'll still go out and have coffee with
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you just to get to know her better. So there's
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always those opportunities and Taste of the World
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is a great thing. It's a great way to start because
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now we have a cookbook coming out of that. That's
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pretty amazing. So that's pretty amazing. I couldn't
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come because I had to go to a 40th birthday party.
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But I heard it was amazing. And I remember years
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ago when we had it, it was pretty amazing. Yeah.
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You know, it was a lot of fun. And we actually,
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I think we had a show too, where people were
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able to do, and I'm not sure they did that with
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this one, but people were able to perform and,
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you know, show a little bit of their culture
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that way, which was, and we had a fashion show
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too. Okay. Which was kind of fun, but it's a
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great way to get to know people and who they
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are and where they come from and what they're
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about and how their faith, you know, works into
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that. And for me, I guess faith doesn't, As far
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as what faith is and as far as diversity, I don't
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think that for me, it doesn't really have anything
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to do with my diversity or who I am. It does
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in terms of how I was raised. But even that,
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I mean, I'm Canadian. So, like, you know, I didn't
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have the experience of going to church in the
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Caribbean. I have gone back with my parents to
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go to church. And even like the whole. back to
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the dressing thing, even in 110 degree weather,
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people are dressed into the nines. They got jackets
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on and pantyhose. I'm like, you know, I'm dying,
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but you know, but all of that is so important
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to different people in different ways. And just
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learning about that, you know, and understanding
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where people are coming from. Sure. It helps
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us to be better understanding. I did say understanding,
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but maybe understanding is not the right word,
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but. It helps us not even to be prepared, but
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to just to just get ourselves more involved in
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people's cultures and understand diversity for
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what it is. Yeah. Understand is not the wrong
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word, but having an understanding of who we are,
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like black people, we're not all the same. Like
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Jen, as I just find out that she was born and
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raised in England, so she would have different
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experiences in her. English church than I would
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have had in my Caribbean church. Yeah, except
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there's only three, so I don't really have any
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experience. I know that we have some African
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members of our congregation. They listen to different
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music than some Black people listen to hip -hop,
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some don't. Some Black people listen to Caribbean
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music, some don't. Right. But to your point,
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because I was brought up in Canada, I don't really
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have any, I'm Canadian. Sure. I wish I could
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say I was Caribbean, but I'm not. I grew up with
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Caribbean music, but I grew up in the church
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here. So I'm not familiar with Caribbean. Like
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my parents played them, but I grew up in Canada.
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So I was three. So I grew up in the church here.
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So I'm very Anglican. The difference is that
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evangelical is different for me, which is pretty
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awesome because it's a different way to worship.
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So for me, that's my different way of worshiping
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and understanding my faith. At the end of the
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day, we all pray to the same God. My most favorite
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way of worshiping is through music. And you probably
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know that a lot of our songs that we play up
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on the stage comes right from scripture. We play
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10 ,000 Reasons. That's right from scripture.
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Sorry, I can't quote the passage right now. I
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was going through a period back in 2023. I usually
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keep some stuff to myself. But I was going through
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a period back in 2023. And my anthem for a good
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couple of weeks was Battle Belongs by Jeremy.
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Is it Jeremy? No, it was Phil Wickham. And I
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played that song daily. And that song is also
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straight from scripture. The battle belongs to
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God. And, you know, because I was saying that
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at the end of the day, we all listen to scripture
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through music. Yeah. Despite the fact that we're
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all different. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's like
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it's like just hearing you talk about, you know,
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things like like how we dress and music and how
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we move in church and all these different things.
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Right. Like these are all important differences
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that like. But they're kind of like surface level
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differences, really. I mean, like there's different
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ideologies and like thoughts and beliefs behind
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it. But like Jesus is still Jesus. We're all
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still doing the same faith thing, even if it
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like looks different or even if we like emphasize
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different parts differently. And I think that
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was God's purpose, wasn't it? Sure. Day of Pentecost.
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Yeah. He's the one that made everyone's, you
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know, languages change and voices change. And
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so. You know, I think as much as we have diversity
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and we have different cultures, at the end of
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the day, we all belong to God. Yeah. We're all
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worshiping the same God. And it's nice to have
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those differences. Yeah. But at the same time,
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I think that we're all the same people. Yeah.
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We're all Christians. And I won't be doing that.
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That's how different we are. Okay. No high fives.
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Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Thank you so much, folks. I
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appreciate. your like honesty and vulnerability
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in this conversation. And I appreciate, yeah,
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just the way that you have brought your whole
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selves into this and been so willing to share
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and help us get to have a little bit of a picture
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of like what church looks like through your eyes
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and how we can all. come together and support
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and care for one another in the midst of our
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diverse experiences. So thank you so much. Thank
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you for having me. Thanks for the opportunity.
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Appreciate it. And thank you for joining us for
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this week's episode of Trinity Talks. Wherever
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you find yourself, whether it's in a diverse
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church or a monocultural church, whether you
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are a person of color or not, I pray that God
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meets you there and that you are able to find
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a community that can walk with you and support
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you in all. of the various areas of our lives.
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We'll see you again next week.