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I Will Be A Unifying Member (Jake Enns)

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  1. Thank you worship. Team for leading Us in those

  2. very fitting songs. Last Sunday.

  3. Pastor Joe started us off on a, the first term of a six-part

  4. series title. I will be.

  5. I am a church member. And it's basically a very tiny

  6. little booklets, this booklet. And it's but an hour's worth of

  7. reading or so, give or take. And but the outline of that Book

  8. of Jonah, I read the book and we feel so strongly about these

  9. principles and this outline, we decided, you know, what?

  10. We believe we should adopt this for our next sermon series.

  11. Not the route preaching. This book we're giving an

  12. outline. You have those outlines in your

  13. seats there, but to just follow this and explore through the

  14. lens of scripture. What is a church member and what

  15. does that mean? For us as we call ourselves,

  16. Christians. Tom Rainer, explores through the

  17. lens of scripture. What?

  18. God, not just once, but demands and expects of us.

  19. You see people often know, they're not right with God in

  20. this world. They know, they need to repent.

  21. They know, they need to get ready for eternity.

  22. They need to heed the message to the pain.

  23. Okay. You know what, I'm going to do

  24. that, I'm going to get baptized enjoying the church and then

  25. after that's done, you know. Okay got that done.

  26. That's out of the way. Now I can go on with life.

  27. That's not true. That is only the starting point.

  28. That's the launch point when we become members of Christ's body

  29. as Believers. There's way more than just, I

  30. got my name in a church register.

  31. Okay, now I'm a member we as Believers belong, first and

  32. foremost to the body of Christ. We belong to him, so remembers

  33. of that body, but it's far more intricate.

  34. We also belong to each other. We call that membership.

  35. We become accountable to each other.

  36. We hold each other. Other accountable, we even

  37. confront one another. We encourage one another, we

  38. pull for each other, we have each other's back last Sunday.

  39. Pastor, Joe preached on the topic of a functioning church

  40. member. Imagine a non-functioning church

  41. member Just as Anna sports team, there are a non-functioning

  42. member sometimes. Sometimes a person joins a team,

  43. whether it's volleyball. Baseball hockey, soccer, you

  44. name it, but they don't show up for practice.

  45. They don't even attend nevermind play.

  46. And when the team loses, oh, well, It's interesting how

  47. people view membership, what their thoughts are on it for a

  48. lot of people and Joe touching this last Sunday, I'm just kind

  49. of repeating some of the stuff. It's like a benefit membership

  50. is a benefit? As in, here's what the church

  51. will do for me once I join and some of that is true, there is a

  52. benefit to being a member because let's say there's a

  53. there's a there's a loss in the family.

  54. There's maybe there's a there's lots of income people rally

  55. around people who Fall short or there's somebody sick, somebody

  56. passes away. There's there's value in being

  57. members, but there's accountability and

  58. responsibility that goes with it years ago.

  59. I was a pastor's lunch meeting, and it was an interesting

  60. meeting in the fact that we got on the topic.

  61. I don't know how he got on it, but was a topic on membership

  62. and we were pastors from different denominations.

  63. And so on this one, Pastor commented on how at one time in

  64. his life he was an associate pastor of the church that he

  65. attended that he was pastoring and he was in the unenviable

  66. task of following up on church members, who were no longer

  67. attending and hadn't attended for a long time.

  68. And so they told him the leadership told him to, you need

  69. to write letters and contact. These people and see if they

  70. still want to remain members. And this Pastors in this group

  71. of us passed its sharing. And not always remember what he

  72. said to us. Other pastors that he says, I

  73. never received so much hate mail, my life verbatim, that's

  74. exactly what he said. He said some of these people in

  75. the one for his one particular member had not been in the

  76. church for more than 20 years and the response.

  77. This member said, how dare you question my membership?

  78. For all intents and purposes. This person was a complete

  79. stranger but yep, Once Upon a Time many decades ago I was

  80. baptized here so I'm a member Joe ended his sermon last Sunday

  81. by mentioned the term Rainer mentions that generally

  82. speaking. This is not across the board and

  83. I want to say, we may be the exception, I hope so.

  84. Not one third of members in the church are biblical members the

  85. rest. Maybe Benchwarmers may be

  86. functioning may be partially, who knows?

  87. But the point is we should be biblical functioning members.

  88. This morning, want to continue this series and sermon number

  89. two, I'm a church member, but I want to ask us this morning

  90. before we dig in how functioning.

  91. Am I, how functioning are you? And I will concede and say there

  92. are people who are not members are far more dedicated and

  93. involved than some, who are members and, for various

  94. reasons, they cannot or have not taken member, I acknowledge

  95. that, but by and large, we have to belong.

  96. How are things going? How is it working out?

  97. This morning's title is I will be a unifying church member I

  98. will be a unifying church member.

  99. The whole concept of being a member of the body of Christ is

  100. deeply rooted in this concept of unity and so we want to expand

  101. on that this morning. Explore it.

  102. What is it that keeps Unity alive?

  103. What is it? That keeps Unity?

  104. Strong and healthy? Jesus has a word for it.

  105. Will start digging into these PowerPoint.

  106. Slides, first one is John 13:35. Jesus Says, by this, all people

    John 13:35

  107. will know that you're my disciples.

  108. If you have love for one another to keywords if love Love builds.

  109. Unity love sustains unity in the body of Jesus Christ in the

  110. church. Love and unity are a must.

  111. They cannot be optional. Tom Reina writes these words.

  112. He says, when you become a Christian, God expects you to be

  113. a part of his church. But when you become a part of

  114. his church, he wants you to be a unifying presence there that

  115. state that a bit more strongly, he demands that you become a

  116. unifying. There for a church to be United,

  117. members, must be United and we must understand what that is.

  118. So that's the first point we must understand Unity.

  119. What is Unity? I'd like to go back to the

  120. analogy of sports to illustrate this.

  121. A little bit. Sports teams are made up of

  122. individual players with each player having their individual

  123. strengths abilities and skills sets and so on.

  124. So they're placed strategically to different positions.

  125. In the team. How to play for instance,

  126. baseball, not everybody is a picture.

  127. Not everybody is a good catcher or the same catcher.

  128. We have different teams or on a hockey.

  129. Some certain people play one position.

  130. Certain people play another position but all play

  131. strategically. So the team can play well and

  132. hope to win. It's a team effort.

  133. Sometimes, unfortunately, when a team has done well and they've

  134. won a game, all the attention goes to the one particular

  135. player that's a for hockey instance.

  136. One particular player, sure that the next outstanding player

  137. plays exceptionally well, but what, if he was the only one on

  138. the hockey team? What if she was the only one

  139. playing, there would be no game. And that's what can happen,

  140. sometimes. We must keep this principle of

  141. unity and togetherness and consideration, not just in

  142. sports, but even in the church, The more unify, the team is the

  143. better. They can play in the better,

  144. their chances. But as I said sometimes the

  145. Temptation is to just focus on one individual, it's a team

  146. effort, the team gets the credit, there's no room for self

  147. focus in unity, not in sports, not in work, not in marriage,

  148. and not in church years ago. I was part of a men's breakfast,

  149. one time and the Men's breakfast.

  150. I don't remember who the speaker was, but there was a young man

  151. younger than I. And he was the son of a pastor

  152. and his Pastor was a good pastor, I say, and And he was a

  153. good guy and he and I got to talking and I said to him.

  154. So what do you want in life? What do you hope to?

  155. Where do you hope to do? And he says, oh, I says I'd like

  156. to be a speaker speak in front of thousands of people. and I

  157. thought, Okay, is that really your goal is?

  158. What's the what's the, what's the driving force?

  159. And I didn't. It was a lot of guys around.

  160. I didn't want to start probing and picking on him but I thought

  161. to myself, okay. Is he willing to walk the path

  162. of the cross that gets him to a point where he will be

  163. influencing a lot of people or is he just expecting to be

  164. jumped from here to there? I don't know.

  165. And I'm not saying this to be hard on him, but obviously, and

  166. from what I could see, he did not have experience, he was

  167. naive and it would just be Great to speak in front of thousands

  168. of people that's shallow because then the focus would be on him.

  169. To be recognized, notice mentioned, you know, that's not

  170. what we should be after. So, we must evaluate our own

  171. motives our own lives. Our own Focus.

  172. Where is it? I think this passage that they

  173. worshiped even read just before one of the song between one of

  174. the songs and Philippians chapter 2 is a powerful passage.

    Philippians 2 chapter mention

  175. We can be very self-focused and that destroys Unity to be

  176. ignited church. We must be other focused self

  177. oaken's weakens team effort weakens any Organization, no

  178. matter where it's not just church, but Everywhere.

  179. You see if there's Unity, there's Common Ground, sameness

  180. of purpose, sameness of Direction.

  181. Unity means were one last week in and I were not here by the

  182. way. So the reason I know about last

  183. Sunday sermon cuz I watched it last Sunday and I were not here.

  184. We're at a marriage Retreat. And the theme was Oneness unity

  185. and marriage is extremely important.

  186. It doesn't matter in what dynamic we find ourselves is

  187. whether it's church or work with, but Unity is a important,

  188. especially in marriage. One of the biggest principles in

  189. life, is this concept? If we're going to do anything

  190. together, no matter where we're at.

  191. But especially also in church, things like marriage work,

  192. wherever Unity is always a very core Central pillar.

  193. It has to be that has to be Oneness.

  194. Last Sunday, pastor, Joe talked about the parts of the body.

  195. He used the distraction of Corinthians where Paul talks

  196. about the body, body parts function in Harmony and unity.

  197. If one part stops working. The other part suffers the whole

  198. body suffers and may even die. If the lungs say, we're not

  199. going to breathe anymore. Well, how's that going to work?

  200. You see sometimes Church to start in a community.

  201. There's a lot of energy. There's love.

  202. There's Goodwill together in this, enjoy as the church grows

  203. and starts to expand. This is one is starts to be

  204. contagious. The church grows people love

  205. each other. Sinners come to repentance to

  206. get. Baptized joined the church and

  207. it spreads. And the community becomes a

  208. healthy well-balanced functioning community.

  209. That's beautiful. When that happens.

  210. Let me repeat what I said earlier for the body of Christ

  211. to function in this world, Unity is not optional.

  212. It is an absolute must and it doesn't happen by accident by

  213. chance we must work at it. So we can ask ourselves.

  214. Do we maintain Unity? The opposite is disunity of

  215. divisiveness. You see divisiveness contention

  216. nobody needs training in that, that happens all by itself.

  217. Just watched little kids play. They never took a course in

  218. fighting and arguing and bickering and complaining and

  219. when they never take courses in there but they just do it

  220. naturally. Even I don't do it naturally,

  221. oh, but I would never be divisive.

  222. Let's ask ourselves this question.

  223. How would life be in whatever you're in whether it's church or

  224. marriage or work? How would life be if everybody

  225. did as you do? Everybody would speak as you

  226. speak, everybody was ready and willing as you are.

  227. How would things be then? There.

  228. Yes, there are people in churches, even in churches for

  229. selfish gain, at the expense of others, the Bible warns us

  230. against that, but Paul is a very positive writer.

  231. He says, in 1st Thessalonians 5 verse 11, he writes these words.

  232. Therefore encourage one and other, there's that Unity

  233. principle and build one. Another up again, the unity

  234. principle just as you are doing, you're doing it, great.

  235. But keep going, keep going. This is a reminder for us how we

  236. are to work towards unity and keep the unity.

  237. This idea Of building. One, another up is huge.

  238. It's a very serious thing. Unity is maintained when we

  239. build up the other building up the other.

  240. Let's let's think about that building up the other.

  241. When unit is present, there's loyalty, there's a desire for

  242. togetherness. And we don't do things

  243. selfishly. As a church.

  244. We say we have the message of Hope for this world.

  245. We say we bring the message of love but let's go back again.

  246. John 13, verse 35. I'm going to repeat this verse

    John 13:35

  247. by this. All people will know that you

  248. are my disciples. If you have love for one another

  249. If this truth is kept in principle and lived out in our

  250. hearts and minds and our lives will be honest with each other

  251. will want, what's best for the other will speak truth, even if

  252. it means sometimes confronting we will suffer with.

  253. And for one another, we will not act deceitfully or evil towards

  254. another. We will love one another.

  255. We will do our best to add to the unity to maintain the unity

  256. Paul writes in Ephesians chapter 1, verse 15 to 16.

    Ephesians 1:15–16

  257. These words he writes for this reason because I've heard of

  258. your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love toward all the saints.

  259. I do not cease to give, thanks for you.

  260. Remembering you in my prayers, he had started that church was

  261. doing well. He was encouraged.

  262. These people were faithful, loving, one, another.

  263. Let's look a bit later on in the passage and 4:1. 23.

  264. Paul writes I therefore a prisoner for the Lord urge you

  265. to walk in a manner. Worthy of the calling you have

  266. been called to which you've been called with all humility and

  267. gentleness, with patience bearing with one another in love

  268. eager to maintain the unity in the spirit in the bond of Peace.

  269. This church at Ephesus was doing what churches should be doing.

  270. See the bottom line is the fruits of the spirit that Paul

  271. mentions here. They're at their best.

  272. Asked and bring their greatest blessings when they grow in an

  273. environment of unity and Oneness.

  274. In this is what we call to be an influencer of unity in the

  275. church. We're to be such members in the

  276. church that people just know, we have the best interest for the

  277. church and for one another we give our best.

  278. Yeah, but it takes work. In a sermon like this, we could

  279. speak of so many things that are so important.

  280. But due to time restraints, we just narrowed it down to a few

  281. narrow line, will not look at all that we could look at but

  282. Tom Rainer puts it this way. He says, the next slide here,

  283. you have a responsibility as a church member your to be a

  284. source of unity. You're never to be a divisive

  285. force. You to love your fellow church

  286. members unconditionally while the same time.

  287. Well, that doesn't mean your agree with everyone all the

  288. time. It does mean you're willing to

  289. sacrifice your own preferences to keep unity in your Church

  290. Paul wrote to the Colossians, tell him how to live out the

  291. fruits of the spirit, and 3:12 and onward.

  292. Let's read that as well. Colossians, 3:14 above all these

  293. things put on love, which binds everything together in.

  294. Perfect Harmony, love is what binds.

  295. It's the bonding agent. In a way, I would just love to

  296. end the sermon here have prayer and go home would be great, but

  297. it wouldn't be fair, wouldn't be right.

  298. There's much more to be said in much that we can't cover in just

  299. 30 to 40 minutes. That has to do with what not to

  300. do, what to avoid again, this could be very long, but one of

  301. the greatest things that distances people, that destroys

  302. relationships, that separates is when through our use of words,

  303. we create divisiveness. That's the next point.

  304. We must stay away from Gossip and - talk As much as I've just

  305. like, to avoid this part of this room, we can't, we have to deal

  306. with it. Leviticus chapter 19, verse 16,

    Leviticus 19:16

  307. Moses wrote you shall not go around as a slander among your

  308. people. You shall not stand up against

  309. the life of your neighbor. I am the Lord.

  310. God had very clear warnings about how the people of Israel

  311. were to treat one another in the community, especially in their

  312. words not going around. Slandering one another.

  313. It's toxic. What is Gossip?

  314. Actually. It's sharing stories and

  315. information. Nation about another person in

  316. order to tarnish their reputation.

  317. It's like this. Hey, I don't like that guy.

  318. I'm going to tell you something. Hope you don't like him either.

  319. It's the opposite of Redemptive, it's the opposite of good.

  320. Will I know this gets tricky because there's there are times

  321. we'll talk about in a second here.

  322. There's times when we need to oppose any to warn others about

  323. false prophets and so on, we need to sometimes say things, I

  324. read a quote, this last week, it goes like this.

  325. The church always reads, collectively, what individuals.

  326. So personally I think that fits here, when I act divisive it

  327. toward another, it's contagious. How we talk about them, how I

  328. talk about another, how you talk about another, we either tear

  329. down or build up and when we do it affects the whole body.

  330. These are not empty words, words carry weight.

  331. In fact Paul writes about this in Romans chapter 1 verse 29.

    Romans 1:29

  332. Paul writes these words he says and he's talking about the

  333. ungodly World in which we find ourselves and so on.

  334. And he says, they're filled with all manner of unrighteousness,

  335. evil covetousness is malice, they're full of Envy, murder

  336. Strife, deceit, maliciousness their gossips, slanderers haters

  337. Haters of God insolent, hottie, boastful, inventors of evil

  338. disobedient to parents, foolish. Faith was heartless.

  339. Ruthless at the end of verse 29. He says he uses the word

  340. gossips. This all comes from the same tap

  341. from the same bucket. And it much of it comes from the

  342. tongue time, rain or rights again.

  343. He says, few things can destroy the unity of the church like

  344. gossip a unified churches. Powerful gossip, tears, apart

  345. that. Unity and renders our church

  346. powerless. It's like separating the bonds

  347. that hold it together, the Apostle James and his letter had

  348. something to say about the use of the tongue.

  349. He says James 3 Verse 6 and the tongue is a fire.

    James 3:6

  350. Our world of unrighteousness, the tongue is set among our

  351. members thinning. The whole body setting on fire

  352. the entire course of life and set on fire by hell.

  353. I know this sounds depressing, I'm aware of that, but it's

  354. necessary that we look at this and evaluate ourselves that stay

  355. away from this and take inventory and see where we're at

  356. in our walk with Jesus and see if we have some work to do here.

  357. At this point, some might be wondering what this, this

  358. doesn't mean that I cannot should not ever say anything.

  359. No, it's not what it means, but here's what it does mean.

  360. Our words should never bring dishonor to God.

  361. It should always be something. God would want to hear it.

  362. Should never be false. Don't spread false stuff.

  363. It should never be laced with hatred or malice towards someone

  364. else. It should always be for the

  365. intent of building up and protecting the body.

  366. Our first and foremost, focus is Lord, the Lord Jesus Christ and

  367. then our neighbors and everything should work around

  368. that work with that somebody at this point may be wondering.

  369. Okay, what about Sin? Should we expose that are just

  370. just just don't talk about it, just leave it.

  371. Somebody's the false prophet done, just don't talk about it.

  372. Somebody's going around and causing lots of Destruction.

  373. I just don't talk about it. Is that what this means?

  374. No, this is not what that means. So that's Point number 3, we

  375. must defend Unity We must defend Unity.

  376. It doesn't mean just shut up. If there's a false prophet, like

  377. Matthew writes, the wolf in sheep's clothing or we talked

  378. about several Sundays ago and the letter of Jude false

  379. prophets were were spreading false stuff or as Jesus writes

  380. in Matthew chapter 18. If somebody sins against you,

    Matthew 18 chapter mention

  381. you gotta deal with it. You confront that person, tell

  382. him this is sin. What you're doing?

  383. If the person listens and repents great, if not take

  384. another one, repeat the process. If they don't, if they listen

  385. great, if not take the go to bring a ring, Bringing for the

  386. church. If you lessons, then consider

  387. him an unbeliever. There are times when we have to

  388. for the sake of the protection of the church confronts.

  389. In these talks about that, this all and is included in this

  390. whole concept of unity and they're actually stories and

  391. scripture. Believe it or not, we're this

  392. actually happened that we can draw attention from To defend

  393. the unity of the church takes sometimes doing difficult tasks.

  394. Paul wrote in his letter to Timothy.

  395. Second, Timothy chapter 4. He's writing Timothy a letter.

  396. He says this Alexander, the coppersmith, did me great harm,

  397. the Lord will repay him according to his deeds, beware

  398. of him for he strongly opposed, our message, ouch Paul.

  399. What are you doing? How's that going to help

  400. Alexander the coppersmith? Is he going to be drawn in by

  401. that? What's Paul doing?

  402. No, aleksandr was a man who was dangerous.

  403. He was dangerous to the church. He was, he was destructive.

  404. And so, Paul is saying to Timothy the pastor of emphasis

  405. is Young pastors be careful. Timothy this man is dangerous,

  406. Not only was it right for Paul to warn Timothy, because if he

  407. didn't, this man could have an influence that would destroy the

  408. church to keep silent. Would have been wrong at that

  409. point, there was nothing hateful from Paul towards Alexander

  410. know, Paul wanted Timothy to be aware to protect the church from

  411. the influence of This man, the Apostle John did something

  412. similar to John chapter 1 verse 9 to 10.

    John 1:9–10

  413. He says, this first John 1 verse 9.

    1 John 1:9

  414. I have written something to the church, but diotrephes who likes

  415. to put himself, first? Does not acknowledge our

  416. Authority. So, if I come out of bring up

  417. what he's doing talking, Wicked nonsense against us and not

  418. content with that, he refused to welcome, the brothers and also

  419. stops those who want to, who want to and puts them out of the

  420. church. Diotrephes is not a good guy.

  421. You got to be careful. He says to the church.

  422. What's going on here? Unity was at risk of being

  423. compromised, for the sake, of some selfish individual, who

  424. wanted to push his own way. Calling out evil is not sin but

  425. we must be careful how we do it. If there are people who appear

  426. to be followers of Jesus but are opposing.

  427. The gospel are destroying the church that can't be tolerated.

  428. as I was getting ready for the sermon and event came to my

  429. mind, that happened to me many years ago, was my first real job

  430. as a truck driver. I was hauling gravel for my boss

  431. and he was a pastor who was actually my pastor When they

  432. told me says that we got this contract, we're going to be

  433. hauling gravel for so-and-so and he mentioned who it was and I

  434. thought, oh, not them. Because these guys had a

  435. terrible reputation they were known as Crooks dishonest.

  436. Lying would steal from people. My boss had no idea who these

  437. guys were. What would I do?

  438. I didn't want my boss to get ripped off.

  439. So I just said to my heard some bad things about these guys.

  440. They're not trustworthy. You have to be careful.

  441. My boss did not want to hear that.

  442. I didn't blame him. It sounded like I was gossiping

  443. about these guys and Edward. It appeared that way too.

  444. I wasn't surprised. but I wanted him to avoid this Pitfall of

  445. losing money on this deal, he's responded to me very gently,

  446. nicely saying, well, perhaps, if changed my now, That was where I

  447. left it. I was good with it.

  448. And for a few days, I hauled load after load of gravel for

  449. these guys, and I thought, if my boss gets ripped off, at least

  450. I've tried after several days of hauling gravel for these guys,

  451. one morning, with boss comes out of the house, was it as I

  452. arrived for work. And he slowly and hesitantly

  453. said to me, says, now I know what you were trying to tell me

  454. the other day he was in for it now they were starting to deal

  455. with him. The way they did with a lot of

  456. other people, I was gonna get ripped off Off getting taken

  457. precaution. And I had problems had I done

  458. wrong by warning him. No, I had enough information

  459. about what the reputation of these guys were that, I needed

  460. to warn him so he would not become victim number, who knows

  461. how many That was a very small minor thing, that's just some

  462. money and maybe a business deal. But one of the greatest

  463. weaknesses of the church is it silence on sin?

  464. That's one of the greatest weaknesses of the church.

  465. Just be quiet. Don't talk about it.

  466. Just don't say anything. It's not your skin off, but it's

  467. not it's going off your back. There are people as we talked

  468. about when we went through Jude, who literally joined the church

  469. was selfish motives. Paul knew that and talked about

  470. Alexander, I don't know, Alexander was a member of the

  471. church, just the guy in the community trying to destroy the

  472. church or diotrephes. There are these people.

  473. So to deal with this concept of unity is very very delicate,

  474. it's very very sensitive and it behooves us to be in prayer and

  475. Devotion to God to make sure that our hearts are right with

  476. God. And what we want is to honor God

  477. The rest of the church and make sure that it stays pure.

  478. If we see the body of Christ under threat at risk of people

  479. who want to destroy it, we have to voice Our concern.

  480. There's a quote that's usually a credit to Dietrich Bonhoeffer

  481. and some say that he didn't make the quote, but regardless the

  482. quote is this and I don't know who wrote it silence.

  483. And the face of evil itself is evil.

  484. God will not hold us Guiltless, not to speak, is to speak, not

  485. to act is to act. What this comes down to.

  486. We must have unity in the church and live such lives that our

  487. lives speak for themselves? Can we be members like that?

  488. Can we be members are so focused on the unit and health of the

  489. church that it supersedes everything.

  490. What I mean with that is I'm more concerned that Jesus will

  491. be honored. His body will be blessed.

  492. Then that what people think about me to defend the unity of

  493. the church? I must put myself last and

  494. others first. As Paul doubt, Paul writes in

  495. Philippians chapter 2, verse 1 to 11, we heard that before the

    Philippians 2:1–11

  496. came up here. It means that I'm only concerned

  497. that Jesus honored, his church is blessed.

  498. His name is glorified, that's my desire.

  499. That leads us to point number four.

  500. In our sermon is we must forgive each other.

  501. How does forgiveness play a part in being a unifying member of

  502. the church, Tom rain, and his book mentions, how one time

  503. early in his life, he joined a small men's group who met

  504. regularly despres and Holub how much of a blessing.

  505. It was to him. It wasn't one of those meetings

  506. at one point. He came to an awareness of sin

  507. in his heart that was blocking him from praying.

  508. He was harboring unforgiveness to a teacher who in school had

  509. abused him. It was blocking him.

  510. He was struggling to forgive this teacher and he mentioned

  511. that in this prayer group. This what happened?

  512. I was abused and I can't pray and can't forgive and so on.

  513. And with the help of these guys who is able to break free from

  514. the bondage, he was able to Pray Again.

  515. You see, oftentimes what blocks our relationship with God is not

  516. even what we did. It's what the other guy did.

  517. And our response to it. No.

  518. The other guy can't keep me away from Christ, but doing something

  519. bad to me and me responding with evil, or with bitterness, or

  520. resentment will keep me away from him.

  521. You see, friends as hard as this sounds healing and unity will

  522. not start with your neighbor. It starts with you and me.

  523. I know it sounds hard, but you have no idea.

  524. Pastor what happened to me and what songs did to me and what I

  525. experienced you're right, I don't But if we're going to look

  526. for peace for healing for Unity, it won't happen by me fixing my

  527. neighbor. Or my family member or that

  528. parishioner or that Pastor, that staff member know that doesn't

  529. work. It'll happen by me.

  530. Coming to Christ receiving forgiveness.

  531. In togetherness, with other people who can help me and move

  532. on forgive that sin. Matthew 6:14.

    Matthew 6:14

  533. Matthew writes for if you forgive others, their

  534. trespasses, your heavenly father will also forgive you, but if

  535. you do not forgive others, their trespasses neither will your

  536. father. Forgive your trespasses, the

  537. prison of unforgiveness does not hold your adversary, it holds

  538. you. It holds me holds us, Tom rain

  539. or rights again on this matter, he says, unit in the church will

  540. not happen. If members have unforgiving

  541. hearts, too many times members of anger and hurt because of

  542. something another member has said, or done.

  543. Some members are angry and hurt at the pastor and staff because

  544. of something he should, they said, or did or failed to do?

  545. Nobody gets a past here. Nobody makes the grade,

  546. everybody needs Grace, maybe we need to ask ourselves this

  547. morning. Who do I need to forgive, who do

  548. I need to go to, until look, listen, what happened between us

  549. was wrong. I'm sorry what I did or I'm,

  550. I've accepted what you did, I forgive you, by the way.

  551. I just want to say something here.

  552. This can get very delicate especially if it's sexual abused

  553. or marital infidelity and all those kinds of things.

  554. I recommend don't go It Alone, talk to a trusted friend.

  555. Especially young people to adults, whatever the case may

  556. be. This is very delicate.

  557. Don't just generally not a good idea to go It Alone.

  558. There's so much here we could talk about our time is too short

  559. to do that, but the bottom line still is forgiveness must take

  560. place. Paul writes to the Colossians.

  561. He says put on then as God's chosen ones holy and beloved

  562. compassionate, Hearts. Kindness, humility.

  563. Meekness and patience bearing with one another.

  564. And if one has a complaint against another forgiving each

  565. other as the Lord has forgiven you.

  566. So you also must forgive. We need to be in a place where

  567. we're not ashamed or embarrassed anymore.

  568. Jesus isn't if Jesus loved you and me enough to die for us,

  569. then we should with joy Embrace this opportunity to become

  570. members of his church and to be members of his church to be

  571. unifying members of this church. When Pastor speaking on the

  572. topic of marriage. One day, he says it's a race to

  573. the Cross. See, who gets there first.

  574. It doesn't mean we all like the same kinds of food.

  575. We all like the same temperature, setting, Joe and I

  576. talked we talked about could be called The War of the the fans

  577. or the war of the thermostat. Maybe, you know, doesn't mean we

  578. all like the same things. It means we've all pull for each

  579. other, that's what it means. What kind of church is lem.

  580. See, are we a unified church? If you remember?

  581. Are you a unified member? And if you're not a member

  582. you're attending your this is your home church.

  583. Are you unifier? A unifying presence here?

  584. Let's look at this. This is four points in a row.

  585. We must understand Unity. We must stay away from gossiping

  586. - talk. We must defend Unity.

  587. We must forgive each other. By ourselves were weak fragile.

  588. I brought an object lesson this morning.

  589. I want to use here this morning to illustrate this a little bit.

  590. My wife has a bunch of shish kabob sticks, and so I thought

  591. I'd bring some of the church to show what happens when they're

  592. not together. See this stick by itself is very

  593. weak. Splinters like that has no

  594. Unity. Well there's nobody to be United

  595. with but this stack, I don't know.

  596. If I could actually break it. They're all together.

  597. They're bound together. They belong there, United.

  598. That's what happens individually by ourselves.

  599. This is what happens together. This is what can be.

  600. Let me ask ourselves this morning, Are we invited?

  601. Are you a unifying member? Are you Faithfully serving

  602. contributing energy time and resources to bring things

  603. together to pull together or off somewhere else.

  604. Doing my thing. I'm a member but hey, I don't

  605. know what goes on. I'm not plugged in, I don't

  606. really care either. There's all kinds of members,

  607. our job, as followers of Jesus Christ is to work together.

  608. Collectively functioning as biblical members unified in our

  609. faith, in our Direction, in our purpose, Oneness in Christ.

  610. And when attacks come we're strong, we don't get broke easy.

  611. May God give us wisdom Insight strength as we serve him as

  612. members of his body. That's pray.

  613. Thank you Lord for this opportunity to be together.

  614. This is only a very short little service when we think of what is

  615. still to come. When you take your church home

  616. from now till then as a very brief time, give us what we

  617. need. Lord to be a body that others

  618. want to join and become a part of help us together to be a

  619. tight-knit and bonded group of Believers where we live together

  620. work together. Serve together.

  621. Love each other in love and in unity.

  622. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

  623. Serve together. Love each other in love and in

  624. unity. In Jesus name we pray.

  625. Amen.