Sermon
Moral and Marital Boundaries (Jake Enns)
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Transcript
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Today we begin continuing our sermon series, the Sermon on the
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on the Mount that Jesus taught, Matthew chapter 5 and 6:00 and
Matthew 5 chapter mention
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7:00. As I mentioned early on in the
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sermon series, some of these things that Jesus teaches are
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very difficult. They're hard, and the passages,
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they add weight to what was said in the Old Testament.
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It never diminished, never decreased from that.
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Last Sunday's sermon was, in a way, maybe a difficult sermon,
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but so is today's as well. And the reason it's hard is
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because we as human beings, we are, we're sinners and we are
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weak and we find it hard and impossible, in fact, to live up
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to it. But today's title is moral and
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Marital Boundaries. Someone might right off the bat
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here say, well, I'm not married. This is not for me.
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Well, this is for everyone. Moral boundaries exist for
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everyone and for everybody. And marital boundaries exist for
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people who are married. So nobody's exempted from this,
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from this, this theme, from the title alone.
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Somebody might be thinking, OK, well, here we go.
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Another list of do's and don'ts. Well, the Bible has do's and
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don'ts, and our job is to align ourselves with God, to follow
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his commandments, which of course we won't fully keep and
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can't fully keep up. Through God's grace we can.
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And where we fall short, there's there's forgiveness.
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There's a fictitious little story.
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It's not a true story, but it's an interesting one of the
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children of Israel, they're wandering through the desert and
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they come to this mountain of God where God calls Moses to go
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up to the mountain and God is going to give him the
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commandments. Moses goes up and he's gone for
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a long time. And finally Moses comes down and
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he meets the congregation of Israel and says, I have good
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news and bad news. Which do you want first?
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Well, the congregation says, well, let's have the good news
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first. Moses says, OK, the good news is
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I got God down from 20 commandments down to 10.
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So good news. OK, they say, so what's the bad
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news? Bad news is the commandment
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against adultery stays just the fictitious little story, but it
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illustrates a point. People do not like to be told
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not to do what they want to do. That's who we are.
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We do not like to be told not to do what we do want to do.
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So many people want to just always adjust and tweak and bend
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and chisel away the rules to make it more tolerable, more
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convenient, more pliable. That's not the Bible.
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We adjust ourselves to the Bible, not the Bible to us.
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We got to have that straight. And yet so often we read it.
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We want something. Or what does it really say?
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With the question in mind, can we somehow accept and make it
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work? Well, let's read today's
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passage, Matthew 5, verse 27 and on.
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You've heard that it was said of to those of old, you shall not
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commit adultery. But I say to you that whoever
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looks at the woman to lust for her has already committed
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adultery with her in his heart. If you're right, I causes you to
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sin, pluck it out and cast it from you.
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For it is more profitable for you that one of your members
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perished than for your whole body to be cast into hell.
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And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast
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it from you. For it is more profitable for
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you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body
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to be cast into hell. Furthermore, it has been said,
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whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of
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divorce. But I say to you, whoever
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divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes
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her to commit adultery. And whoever marries a woman
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who's divorced commits adultery. Here Jesus again doing what he
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does earlier in the sermon, Jesus taking something everybody
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knew, everybody knows, and everybody understands.
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And he sheds new light on it and he explains it in a way that has
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never been done before. Jesus takes the law and explains
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it from the standpoint of the heart of God.
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All other people knew the law. They knew don't commit adultery.
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They have the 10 commandments they knew was clearly outlined.
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But here in this sermon, Jesus changes not the commandment of
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adultery. He adds something else to it.
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So the first thing we want to look at this morning, lust is a
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violation of God's moral boundary.
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We have numerous passages in the Old Testament that clearly
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outline the sin of physical adultery.
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But to the people whom Jesus preached to, they had never
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heard this before, not this way. They had heard it said don't
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commit adultery, but they've never heard it said this way.
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There's a man I've watched on YouTube and he has some good
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ideas, but and some of the things are just he's not a
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Christian, he's Jewish and he doesn't like this idea here in
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Matthew chapter 5. In fact, I heard him talk on
Matthew 5 chapter mention
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YouTube once and he said that's not how Jews understand it.
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He said you don't commit adultery by looking, just
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looking at a picture or looking at a woman.
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That's not adultery. So adultery is when you do it,
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that's adultery. 10 commandments don't commit adultery.
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That's his understanding, that's his, his, his perception and and
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in so far as he would fit in right in with the people of
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Jesus day. And according to Exodus 20 verse
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14, it does say that you shall not commit adultery.
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It's simply meant for men not to have sexual relations with
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another woman or for women with another man they're not married
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to. It doesn't say don't look.
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It doesn't say that, it doesn't address the thoughts, only the
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ACT itself. But if the ACT did happen,
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punishment was severe, in fact, death penalty.
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Look at this. Look Leviticus 20, verse 10.
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The man who commits adultery with another man's wife, he who
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commits adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer
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and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
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There was punishment for that. And again, this does not refer
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to thinking, this does not refer to looking.
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It's when it happens. The penalty was death.
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What would happen in North America if every man and woman
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who committed adultery, physical adultery, got stoned?
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Think about that for a moment. Reduced the population by quite
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a bit, wouldn't it? There's so many who've done it,
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and our culture has very little problem with the next to no, no
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problem. It's two consenting adults.
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What are you going to do? Our culture has lowered the bar
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not only from the 10 commandments, even lower than
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that. Here Jesus takes the 10 commands
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and raises the bar. Think about it.
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Jesus is not happy or just OK. Just don't do it and you're
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fine. Jesus said no, no, no, keep your
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thoughts pure, keep your thoughts clean.
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If you don't, then you're in it already.
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And our society is no, no if you, if you're doing it, it's OK
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if you both agree to it. That's our culture.
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So Jesus is not satisfied to just leave it where it was.
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He strengthens it. He buttresses it with with a
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comment. He raises the bar.
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A writer by the name of Richard Gardner in his commentary in
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Matthew, writes this. He says, as understood in the
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Old Testament, adultery was an act in which a man had sexual
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relations with another man's wife.
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The law prohibited adultery to protect marital rights and to
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preserve the stability of marriage itself.
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Jesus own words on the subject. Verse 20 to 32 once again
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expands the law. Adultery does not begin in the
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neighbour's bedroom, Jesus says, but in the craving in one's
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heart to possess the neighbour's spouse.
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When Jesus preached this and he's looking at the crowd, he's
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talking, I wonder what their facial expressions might have
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been. They knew don't commit adultery.
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They knew that. If we could go back in the past
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and rewind some video of ancient times and look at the crowd.
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I can just imagine their eyes open, their jaws drop.
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You say what? Lust is adultery.
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Yes, even though nothing has happened.
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Let's go back to verse 28 one more time.
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But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her
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has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
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Our problem is we fail to see sin as God sees sin.
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See, it's so inviting, so attractive, so tempting, but I,
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I dare say if we could see the other side of it from God's
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perspective, through God's lens, the way he sees it, the moral
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coded violence and the pain and hardship and hard to get brains,
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I believe we would recoil and shock and horror and flee from
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it. Paul writes the first
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Corinthians 6 verse 18. Flee sexual immorality.
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Every sin that a man does, it's outside his body.
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You steal something that's outside your body, things like
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that. But he who commits sexual
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immorality sins against his own body when making God's image, to
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honor God's image. The temptation to sin, the
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temptation to lust, That alone should cause us to fear just
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knowing who God is and what God will do with those to reject
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him. That is a sobering thought.
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Came across an article online this last week and the writer
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mentions 2 stories. One is in the book of Isaiah and
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how Isaiah the prophet responded when he had a vision of God and
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his glory. Isaiah was shocked.
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He was frightened when he saw himself in comparison to God.
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Let's read Isaiah chapter 6 verse one to five.
Isaiah 6 chapter mention
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In the year that King Uzziah died, I saw the Lord sitting on
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a throne high and lifted up, and the train of his robe filled the
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temple. Above it stood seraphim.
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Each one had 6 wings. With two he covered his face,
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and with two he covered his feet, and with two he flew, and
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one cried to another, and said, Holy, holy, holy is the Lord of
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hosts. The whole earth is full of his
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glory. And the post of the door were
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shaken by the voice of him who cried out, and the house was
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filled with smoke. So I said, woe is me, for I am
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undone, because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the
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midst of a people of unclean lips.
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From my eyes have seen the king, the Lord of hosts.
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Isaiah had a vision of God and His Majesty, His Holiness, and
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it shocked him what he saw in comparison to what he saw.
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He was an unclean person. He was not an adulterer.
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He said I have unclean lips. And then if you read the story
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further, there's an Angel that takes a live coal from an altar,
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touches his lips and says you're clean.
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And then he gives the command, go and preach to the nation of
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Israel and teach them to repent of their sins.
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Unless you and I see God for who God is, and unless we see
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ourselves for who we are, and unless we see sin for what sin
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is, we will justify it, we'll rationalize it, we'll downplay
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it and OK it. It often takes a very powerful
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experience in life to see ourselves for who we really are.
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The other story in this article, the story of a man named Malcolm
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Muggeridge, and I've read the story elsewhere, but the way he
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shares the stories. Malcolm Muggeridge was a British
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journalist back in his days, passed away years ago.
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One day Malcolm Muggeridge was an assignment as a journalist in
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Indian Was evening and he went for a walk by the river for a
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swim. Daylight was fading.
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In some distance away he saw a woman in the water bathing.
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He couldn't see her well, she was turned away from him, but he
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had this lustful temptation to go for her, to go out, go after
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and and see what he could do. He knew better than that.
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But he pushed his conscience aside and got in the water and
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swiftly swam to where she was. He got close to her and he came
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up out of the water and the woman turned, looked at him, and
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it was then that he saw her face and he was shocked.
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This woman had an ugly, hideous, toothless, disfigured face
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ravaged by the disease of leprosy.
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A shock to look at. Malcolm was shocked as this
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powerful truth hit him all at once.
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He knew in a moment that this woman with this hideously
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disfigured face, because of what he saw, he realized in a moment.
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That's the face of my heart. As ugly as she looked in the
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face, he realized his heart was uglier than that.
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He realized in that moment who he was and how wrong he was.
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Needless to say, he didn't fulfill his heart's desire, but
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it was a lesson to him. He saw his heart for what it
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was, a heart diseased by the craving and hunger for lust.
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You see, lust comes dressed up and polished, beautiful,
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attractive, on display. What could go wrong?
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What's wrong with this? And if we don't have solid
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convictions, if we don't set boundaries for ourselves, we
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will fall for the sin of lust. This is a battle every man and
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woman has to fight in their own lives.
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And where there's a lack of boundaries, temptation will find
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an easy Rd. in. And from there, it's no telling
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what may happen. When the heart is disfigured and
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ravaged by sin and lust, it impacts, effects and shades
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everything else. Just think the billions and 10s
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of billions of dollars of the porn industry in the world.
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How many men, and now increasingly women to fall for
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it and get drawn into the trap? We don't need to be in judgement
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of these people. We need to be in prayer for
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them. But we must look at ourselves.
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Do we have boundaries? Let's read again how strongly
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Jesus commands this. Back to verse 29.
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If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it
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from you, for it's more profitable for you that one
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member of your one of your members should perish than for
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your whole body to be cast into hell.
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And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast
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it from you, for it's more profitable for you that one of
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your members perish than for your whole body to be cast into
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hell. What Jesus saying?
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Spare no effort in winning the battle over lust.
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Spare no effort in freeing yourself from the sin of lust,
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from this trap. We cannot afford to lose this
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battle. Granted, the sin of lust does
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not affect all people equally. Everywhere.
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Generally it's more men than women who deal with this.
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But in recent decades, the increase in women struggling
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with lust has dramatically increased.
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And true, our society is not helping.
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But this is not about our society here this morning.
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This is about us, but us as a church.
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How are we responding? Jesus is actually saying get rid
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of whatever it is in your life that's causing you to sin.
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If your eye cause you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from
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you. We're thankful Jesus speaking
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what's called hyperbole, meaning he's making exaggerated
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statements in order to get the truth He's not telling people Go
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chop off your hands and gouge out your eyes.
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That would make most men blind and most men armless.
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What He is meaning is you go to whatever length you need to to
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stay pure. Our first allegiance must be to
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Jesus, not the stuff we watch indulge ourselves in with.
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And if we tolerate these things in our lives that cause us to
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sin, He's warning us the price to pay.
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He actually says it's more profitable to go to heaven one
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eye having one eye and missing or missing one eye and missing a
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limb than to have everything and go to hell.
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What are some things that we need to be mindful of today that
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are causing us to sin? Well, let's look at the heart.
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Or we can look at technology. I'll make a few comments about
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it, but technology is not the root of the problem.
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It is a problem, but it's not the root.
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We should be so intentional, so careful how to guard our hearts.
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And yes, for some people may mean get a different device.
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If the smartphone is too dangerous for you, get a flip
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phone and if the computers, if Internet is too dangerous, go
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offline. The truth is, if we do not have
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strong moral boundaries in the hearts, if we, we have no idea
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what will happen. Boundaries are not optional,
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they are a must for every man and woman.
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We have a story in the Bible. I want to spend a few minutes on
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that story this morning. It's a very powerful story that
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illustrates the truth about the danger of lust and what does
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happen when the boundaries are compromised and the cravings of
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lust are followed after. The stories in Second Samuel,
2 Samuel 11 chapter mention
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Chapter 11 and 12. Won't read the chapters this
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morning. The story of King David.
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He was for the most part a good king, but he struggled with lust
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and it happened one day when his army was out to war.
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Job was fighting a war some distance away and he's in the
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evening time and he's walking out on the roof and cool of the
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day and she's a woman, a beautiful woman having a bath.
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He sends somebody quiet. Who's that woman to tell me
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she's Bathsheba, wife of Uriah the hitt tight.
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Uriah was not at home. He was in the war fighting
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David's David's battles. David sends for Bathsheba and
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she comes to his house and has an affair with with her and
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sends her home and sometime later she sends words saying I'm
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pregnant. Well, now David goes to damage
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control. He quickly sent word to his
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army. General Joab, the war says, send
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Uriah home, we need him home. Uriah comes home and David asked
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him how's the war going and so on.
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And Uriah gives the report and David gives him a gift and sends
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him home. And have a good time with your
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wife. And Uriah won't go home.
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He sweeps at the King's gate with the King's soldiers.
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The next day David asked him, so why didn't you go home last
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night? Uriah says, well, the ark of God
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and Israel's intense. My Lord Joab and the general are
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in the battle open fields. I won't go home and drink and
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lie with my wife. I won't do it.
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Well, David's carefully cooked up plan to cover sins failed.
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He's hoping your rabbit go home and then when the babies come,
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watch your eyes baby. Well, David says stay here till
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tomorrow, I'll send you back. David writes a letter to General
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Joab and tells him in the letter put your eye where the fighting
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is the worst and just go back and let him die in battle.
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Well it happens. Your eye goes back with his
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death warrant in his pocket and Job reads the letter puts you
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right in the frontline. Your eye ends up dead as David
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ordered It's word back from Joab.
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Well, your eyes dead and we find out how.
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David then takes Bathsheba and marries her.
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Well, God's not happy. God sends Nathan the prophet to
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David and tells him that there's a rich man who had large flocks
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of sheep and the poor man had only 1 little lamb.
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Visitor comes and visit the rich man and the rich man instead of
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taking one of his many sheep, takes the poor man's little lamb
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and kills it for his visitor. David's angry when hears the
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story. Nathan prophet says to David,
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you're that man. Then he goes on to explain to
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David what he's done and I want to read that part.
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Second Samuels 12 or 7 to 14. The Nathan said to David, you
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are the man. Thus says the Lord God of
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Israel, I anointed you king over Israel.
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I delivered you from the hand of Saul.
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I gave you your master's house and your master's wives into
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your keeping and gave you your the House of Israel and Judah.
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And if that had been too little, I also would have given you much
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more. Notice how God says I, I, I in
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this passage. I did, I did, I did, I would
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have done more. He says.
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Now let's look at the next part, verse 9 and on.
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Why have you despised the commandment of the Lord to do
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this evil in the sight? You have killed Uriah the
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Hittite with a sword, you have taken his wife to be your wife,
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and have killed him with a sword of the people of Ammon.
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Now, therefore the sword shall never depart from your house,
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because you have despised me and have taken the wife of Uriah the
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Hittite to be your wife. Thus says the Lord Build I will
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raise adversity against you from your own house, and I will take
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your wives before your eyes and give them to your neighbor, and
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he shall lie with your wives in the sight of this sun.
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For you did it secretly. But I will do this thing before
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all Israel and before the sun. Wow.
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Humiliating, embarrassing, catastrophic, tragic, tragic.
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And this literally did happen as a consequence for him.
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Following the sin of lust, he removed the boundary and it led
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to adultery. He looked at a woman instead of
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learnt, turning away. He lusted, turned into action,
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acquired who she was, took her and had sexual relations with
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her. She became pregnant.
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He tried to kill her husband. He did kill her husband.
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He did deserve the death penalty, but David's response is
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what spared him. So David said to Nathan, I have
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sinned against the Lord. The only way out of this, the
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only way out of lust, the only way out of a daughter is
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repentance. I have sinned.
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Those 3 words against the Lord. I have sinned is the starting
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point. And God was merciful.
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He was gracious, it says, and Nathan said to David, the Lord
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has also put away your sins. You shall not die.
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However, because of this deed. You have given great occasion to
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the enemies of the Lord to blasphemy.
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The child also who was born to you shall surely die.
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Harsh judgment, consequences, difficulties, all this did
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happen. Every last little bit that God
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said would happen did happen. Yes, David lost, almost lost the
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Kingdom. His own son out of his own house
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rebelled against him. His own wives were ravaged.
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It was his concubines, but it was broad daylight.
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He repented, but he couldn't escape the consequences.
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And so many men and women do that, and they wonder, why is my
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life so messed up? Well, repentance does not erase
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the consequences, doesn't necessarily build trust right
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away. He humbled himself.
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And if you want to read further about how David felt about what
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he did, read Psalm 51. I would encourage you today
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something read Psalm 51 that tells you how he felt about what
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he had done. The torrent of evil that Dave
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had opened the door to, not only in his life but into his family
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and to the nation. Because of his one sin.
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He had broken trust. He had violated God's commands
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and he would lose the respect of those close to him.
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Even his son rebelled Absalom. Death brought his own family.
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You see, actions have consequences.
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Let's go back again to Matthew chapter 5, verse 29.
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If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it
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from you. For it's more profitable for you
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that one of your members perish than for your whole body to be
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cast into hell. And if your right hand cause you
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to sin, cut it off and cast it from you.
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For it's more profitable for you that one of your members perish
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than for your whole body to be cast into hell.
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Again, it's hyperbole, but spare no effort.
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In summary, Jesus saying there's nothing in this world that's
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going that's worth going to hell over.
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For many people that means putting boundaries that will be
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very uncomfortable on devices, maybe getting rid of some
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devices or changing devices. I know of a man years ago told
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me he says he can't go to the beach in the summer because of
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his last issue struggle with it. One guy one time friend of mine,
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he part was way before about years ago.
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Anyway pulled up to 711 want to go buy some said I won't go in
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and says so why won't you go in? Well I know what they sell in
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that store, the porn books and the shelves.
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I used to be an addict so I don't go in there.
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Oh good for you. I said awesome that's good.
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But this is not finished. He's not done.
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Let's keep going. Now he addresses adultery, he
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says. Furthermore, it has been said
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whoever divorced his wife, let him give her certificate of
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divorce. But I say to you that whoever
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divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes
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her to commit adultery. And whoever marries a woman who
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is divorced commits adultery. Back then, in these days as well
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as now, there were very hard, very difficult conversations on
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this subject. Different religious leaders had
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different opinions. Jews did not all agree with each
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other. In Jesus day.
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Divorce was allowed under the law of Moses for specific
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circumstances. But here in the Sermon on the
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Mount, Jesus narrows it down again.
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Not only the standard that they had under the law, Jesus raised
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it. And our culture goes down from
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there. Lower yet, so we're further
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apart. But here's what I want to say.
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When divorce happens, it is always, now repeat.
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Always. Because somewhere sin is in the
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equation. Sin is never out of the question
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when a divorce happens. It's always mixed in somewhere.
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Always. When divorce happens, somewhere
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some repenting needs to happen, and if it doesn't, freedom won't
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come in. Matthew 19 is a fairly lengthy
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teaching on the divorce and remarriage subject when it comes
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out. What comes out in all of the
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teachings of Jesus is that marriage is intended for as long
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as both partners live. It's not created with an expiry
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date. We do know that people do break
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their marriage vows and he spoke to it.
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But what we have to be careful for is to protect the boundary
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of marriage. If a person tolerates lust in
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their lives and if person does not equip themselves to fight
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this battle to stand against lust, the boundary of marriage
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may very well be compromised. Doesn't always happen.
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They're still married and not divorced.
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But when lust becomes part of the equation and Jesus is
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adultery is saying he was 32. If a man divorces his wife for
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any reason except sexual morality.
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Is accept sexual morality? He causes her to commit adultery
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and whoever marries a woman who's divorced commits adultery.
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These 3 words except sexual immorality have been the words
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of countless hours of debate and arguing about how do you
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interpret that? My question is, why do those two
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words become the focus point? Is it because we so desperately
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want an escape hatch? A loophole in a bad
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relationship. The Bible does not teach.
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That a person who's living in an abusive environment has to stay
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in the relationship. Paul writes about that they can
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separate, but he always, and he follows that up with the intent
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to reconcile. You find that in Corinthians.
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Where it becomes a problem. Is when it becomes more like oh
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thank God at least my spouse cheated.
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I haven't out. I can remarry.
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Here, Jesus. Again, I see so many times he
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raises the bar. If marriage in God's eyes before
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was serious, Jesus revealed to his audience just now it's more
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serious than they thought it was.
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I do want to. Draw attention to something in
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this passage that many people miss when they read it.
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And I think it's a very important detail, he says.
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To this, I'll just just paraphrase a bit.
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He says if the man's wife has been faithful, if she has not
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been promiscuous, she has not been sexually immoral, then the
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man divorced her. He is forcing her to commit
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adultery because she's going to have another man, because she
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has to have another man to provide for her.
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He is forcing an innocent woman into a sin.
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That's what he's saying here. That's what seriousness is.
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Let's just stop for a moment. If a man's divorcing his wife
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and she's been faithful, been true, and she gets remarried,
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why is her second relationship now adultery?
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She's innocent. She's the innocent party.
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Why is that? Why is that adultery?
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Because in Jesus eyes. The first marriage is still
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intact. Adultery is the sin of a married
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person. If it wasn't that way, it would
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be fornication. She's been victimized,
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pressured. Now she's forced into a relation
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if she doesn't want, and she's now marrying a guy or being with
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a guy and someone might say, jeez, how cruel can you get?
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She's innocent, of course she is.
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But. Then she's forced into this.
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Sinful relationship. I know this is.
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Hard. I've had connections with people
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who've gone through this and it's very painful.
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Women in those days didn't have the social networks and safety
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Nets and job opportunities that women have today, so they were
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in a very hard position. If divorce dissolved.
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The marriage, then that second relation would not be adultery.
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But now even though she's innocent from sexual immorality
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and she goes after another man, she is committing adultery.
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And then Jesus says, and he who marries a divorced woman,
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innocent or guilty, is not qualified, commits adultery.
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I'm not making this up. This is what it is saying.
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I know in my mind I can what about if and what if and what
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how about. I know I get that.
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In my years of ministry, I've had many hard conversations with
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people about these things. What I try to do is always,
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first and foremost, try to point them back to Jesus and back to
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the cross. He's merciful, He's gracious.
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And yes, there are circumstances and situations where things are
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so messed up, so intertwined, so tangled up that that you can
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never unravel it. And to try to makes it worse.
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So what to do? There is grace for those who
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look to Jesus and surrender to Him.
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Does this mean everybody now separates?
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I'm not going to go there. I, I'm not in their shoes.
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I do believe there's forgiveness.
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At the same time, it can't be called right.
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And there's mercy and there's grace.
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I believe it's this way. All manner of immorality can be
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forgiven, but the damage of morality cannot be undone or
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fixed. In many cases.
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When people commit immorality, they just have not paid
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attention to the boundaries they've caused themselves and a
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lot of others so much pain. You see, the path forward is
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always to the cross, to surrender to Jesus, give him the
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mess, whatever it may be, and then ask other believers who are
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unbiased to seek the Lord's face and from that point of reference
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come to a decision. And the decision won't always be
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what everybody agrees to or agrees with.
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My focus and my sermon here this morning is not so much how to
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resolve and restore broken marriages as it is to outline
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the boundaries that keep marriages intact and together.
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For some people, their marriages.
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Have suffered much, some of broken marriages and some are
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planning to get married and sadly some are planning to get
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divorced. Let me ask you what?
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Boundaries are you putting in your place that protect your
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marriage and avoid shipwrecking your marriage and.
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This principle. Of abiding by boundaries and
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morality. This for everyone married or
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single doesn't matter. Young and old we must be in
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guard at all times. Matthew chapter 5 verse 8 we
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read blessed are the pure and heart for they shall see God.
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Do you want to see God? Well then let's keep our hearts
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pure. The church has always had to
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fight this struggle. It is not new.
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In 2nd Corinthians 6, verse 11 to 18, Paul writes all
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Corinthians. We've spoken openly to you.
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Our heart is wide open. You're not restricted by.
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Aspect you're restricted by your own affections now in return for
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the same I speak as to children, you also be open.
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Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
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For what fellowship has righteousness?
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With lawlessness, what communion has liked with darkness, and
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what accord is Christ with Belial?
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Or what part has a? Believer with an unbeliever.
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And what agreement has the temple of God with idols?
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We are the temple of God, for you are the temple of the living
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God. As God has said, I will dwell in
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them and walk among them. I'll be their God, and they'll
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be my people. Therefore come out from among
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them. Be separate, says the Lord.
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Do not touch what is unclean. I will receive you.
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I'll be your father to you, a father to you.
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You shall be my sons and daughters, says the Lord
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Almighty. The moral boundaries.
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God has put in scripture are for our benefit, for our protection,
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for our safekeeping. They're not there to restrict
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us. They're there to set us free.
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When Jesus preached the Sermon on the Mount, he knew what he
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was saying. He knew it was different than
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what people were used. To our call is to.
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Not even lust, never mind the physical part.
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How will this what we heard? Today make a difference in our
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lives. This week Are there some people
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who need to disconnect from people who they become involved
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with? Are there?
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People who are looking. At pictures or watching stuff
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online or wherever it may be that's damaging their
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relationship with Jesus. Or maybe you're here this
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morning in courage, walking in peace and victory with the Lord.
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Praise God for that. Wherever you are today, my
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prayers, you will experience the closeness in the fellowship of
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Jesus. He died for the sins of the
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world. We can be part of his family.
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And when we turn from sin and learn to live with Him, we're
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part of that. May God's Word bring fruit in
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our lives. Let us pray.
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Lord, we're grateful. For your word to us, we live in
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a very broken, corrupt world where there seems to be almost
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no moral compass left anymore anywhere.
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Help us, Lord, as your people, to repent of our carelessness.
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Our lukewarm hearts. Help us to be diligent, to
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watch, and to guard our lives with the moral boundaries you've
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put in place. Give us wisdom how to navigate
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the culture of our time. May we be faithful, obedient to
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you. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.