RESPONSIBLE MEN

There is something that God has kept inside of you.

It is said that today the richest place on earth

is the graveyard.

True or true true, the richest place on earth.

It's not done this place, but the cemetery where ideas

that should have made our world to be better, Where

ideas that should have led to progress, Where ideas I've

been buried, ideas that never saw the light of day.

And that's why I'm praying this morning that for you

and for me we will die empty in Jesus' name.

Somebody does not understand this.

This is it.

Where God was creating you. It kept ideas inside of you.

And the ideas that God has kept inside of you

is on hundred percent. Do you know that many of

us die we leave this world without using any of

these ideas, and some of us that even't try to

use it, some of us that try to use it.

Maybe what we have used is five percent of the ideas.

Even though the person has grown as old as mental cellar,

but he has only used five of the ideas that

God has given the person. May we die empty in

the name of Jesus. I will not die full, and

we die empty in the name of Jesus. Because on

the last day God, you want to get before God,

and God will just look at you and you will

see that you are empty because why you have been

able to use all the ideas that God has given

to you to benefit humanity. The question is what are

you doing where you are? May God help us in

Jesus' name. Now, before I bring the message this morning,

all fathers, all fathers that are not in Father's uniform, eh,

I want to plead with you. Your responsibility begins from

that place. It is not wrong for you to buy

something for yourself. And I will begin from m chairman.

I would have told you to work out and go

back home. You should have come the white one that

you brought the needed Father's Day emphasis like this man came.

That's that's better.

Forgive me. Sorry.

I don't mean to hurt you, but I think that

responsibility from that place. Responsibility begins from that place. And

I know things. All fingers are not equal years, but

it takes years. Some of us are just using the

top a loom. That makes sense, mister Patrick. Since I

came to this church, you have been in MM. You're

not new to M You. I can forgive people like

Souleyman because they are new the air, new fathers, Baracoury,

do something about it. And the Lord we all know

you in Jesus' name. That's where responsibility begins.

Movie.

So who are you angry? Smile now, Jesus loves you.

Don't be angry. That's what father is supposed to do.

Mister came up. Don't wear our uniform on Father's Day,

your father, even though you're there, cancel. This is not

our race celebration. It is Father's Day. You are forgiven.

Please next year, I expect all fathers to come, either

this one or the one by back is wearing. In fact,

they say fathers, the spirit I used to enter inside

women as enter fathers. Now they say they want to

do another one for father and as the Lord will

save us for our mothers. You know all of them,

they have plenty. If you ask some of them now

to continue to wear all these chevy all this video

doing for the wm U for conference for association for

a centenary for this one, I'm sure some of them

they have special bags for it.

My wife has special bag for it.

One of our mothers said that she has a complete

world group like this for all those women attire that

if for one one mon they said she should just

be wearing different women group attire enough and you will

not change to any other one except for all those

kinds of clothes.

Amen.

But now the thing is entering into men too. Men,

you're broken, fring Jesus name alja. I want to thank

the Lord for safety on the journey. I had to

make journey to bury my grandmother just this past week,

and the journey was a complete day journey. And I

was sharing before the service began, how many of us

have been to Ilila before? You know a place in

Angela called Ilila. Ah ooh, it's serious and you have

been Naia, you've not been to Ilila before. It is

actually in Socoto States. How many of us have been

there or you ahead of it? Ah, that's serious even

though you have been some of it. Josey and I

we are from the north. We speak al sade. Listen,

you've not even been to that place before. We have

been there, Amen.

So I'm more Nanjerlian than you.

Eh, Elaila is okay about a movie? Adamar okay? Yes, sir,

whelse okay, mommy okay, sir okay. So that's about fifteen

You know from movie you have about fifteen minutes drive

or so to Cameroon. Yes, Elela. It's also a border

town to Nijer Republic.

Yeah.

My my town that I went to is another border town.

Two been a republic. So you see all of this,

brother town. If you begin your journey the money, God

save you, that you get there the same day or

else you get there the following day. That was the

kind of journey that I went to. Well, glory to God.

Here we are. We're back, and the Lad's name be glorified.

In Jesus' name, Father, we ask that you will speak

to us as we challenge ourselves as men, as fathers,

Holy Spirit, let your word come alive in the best

way that we will understand. In Jesus mighty name, we

pray responsible men, responsible men. Thank you Father for that presentation.

And in that presentation they said, a responsible man is

a man that is a prophet, a prophet that speaks

the word of God, speaks the word of truth to

the family.

That's where it begins from.

Fathers, how many of you led devotion in your houses

this morning.

Thank you sir, Thank you mister Harry, thank you Dad. Mama.

Yes, fathers, our fathers. Please look at me, Look at me,

look at me. Don't write yet, don't write. How many

of you led devotion in your houses this morning? Thank you, sir?

So three of all of these fathers. Yet mister fann Shaques,

what happened? No? No, no, no, you see the reason

why I'm doing this is it is easier said than

don't we have responsible But if we cannot confront matters,

we are just going to talk and they will leave.

Mister Soho, you didn't lead devotion of this money in

your house. No, it's not right. Mister James, you didn't

lead devotion this money in the house. Why, sir, that

is not right. That is John, you didn't lead devotion

this money in your house. It is not good.

It has to change.

We are saying that responsible men are men that are prophets,

and the second speaker said, responsible men are men that

are priests, men who will stand in the gap, men

who we sacrifice.

Are we actually such men? It is not just a

tie to.

Even chairman did not lead devotion in his house this morning,

and we are saying.

This are not working. How will they work? Because we

have men?

Should I say men that are not responsible, because that's

what you have told us this morning.

Is that not mother's youth? Is that what they have

told us?

They say fathers or responsible men and men that are prophets,

men that are priests.

And that is the function. That's where it starts from.

So when we.

Fail in our responsibilities, what is what exactly are we

trying to preach?

You cannot tell what you are not under the games.

In his own word, he said, responsible men are patriarchs.

And who are patriarchs?

Patriarchs are family aids, their leaders, their examples, fathers in

the house. Are we truly examples at home? Can I

call one of our children and say write ten things

about your father and the man or the young person

who say, yes, indeed, my father is actually a responsible man.

Let's drive you home, eh, Let's bring it home. And

mister Patrick said that a responsible man is a man

that provides a provider. A provider. It is not just

providing money. You know, part of your assignment is to

also be available. Many of us are too occupied hearing

the money you get out before you come back. Your

children are about to sleep, and you say you are

a responsible man, No, you are not you don't need

your children in the way of the Lord. Listen this interpretation.

I think somebody brought it also to my wife.

I know.

The Bible says, train up a child in the way

issue go, and when issue, when is old, what will happen?

It will not depart from it. But you see, we

have turned the Bible upside down. The Bible is talking

about child children. Many of us are not right examples

to our children. Then when they are old, when they

have become adults, that's when you want to teach. Is

that what the Bible says. They are already formed. You

can't teach them again. Our responsibility begins from the beginning.

It is not until when the children are old. Are

we through patriarchs? Are we true priests? Are we true prophets?

Are we true providers in our homes? There are three

verses of the scriptures, First and Monthly Chapter five, verse eight,

Ephicients chapter six, verse four, Colossians Chapter three, verse nineteen.

I'll just pick a few things from this and then

we close. So if somebody is sleeping, tab the person,

let us hear from God. Don't sleep.

You know.

That's why when we come for prayer, vigil I don't

like praise singing to confirst. It's better we pray before

we start singing praise when people are feeling sleepy. Then

you start singing praise, then we wake up. The men

have led us to pray, to pray, me to sing

this money. And after we are finished singing, now we

are set to down. What do you think we begin

apple when the world of God is coming, you start sleeping.

So don't sleep in our world today many men have

abandoned their god giving rules.

Is that true or not very true?

They are priests, their prophets, their providers, and your patriarchs.

These are their rules, but they have abandoned these rules.

Some neglect their families. Others will provoke their children or

mistreat their wives. The Bible provides clear guidance for men

regarding their responsibilities, particularly in family relationships. And so those

three verses that mister Patrick read to earlier on first

Remote chapter five, vers eight, efficiency after verse four Colossians

Chapter three, verse nineteen, we you know, give us fundamental principles,

principles of our fathers. We take up their responsibilities at all.

Let's go to the first one. The first one is

the provider's hearts first motive verse five, verse five, US eight.

The provider's heart. That is the first responsibility of a man.

Look at what the Bible says, First Timothy, chapter five,

US eight. But if anyone does not provide for his

relatives or his family, okay.

And especially for members of his household, he says, that

person has denied faith and is worse than an unbeliever, infidel,

an unbeliever, that's what infidel is worse than unbeliever.

Because if you say you are a Christian.

And you can provide for your family, then you'd better

never be called a believer.

What Adverse is saying is this.

That this major responsibility of men, one of his is

as heads of household, which is patriarx. So the word

provide that the Bible renders in that place. In Greek,

it is proneo proneo. What does that mean? It means

to think ahead, It means to plan. It means to

take care of needs before they become urgent. So a

family head, a father who is to be a provider

must be a man responsible enough to think ahead of

what is likely going to app must be a man

that is ready to plan ahead, must be a man

that will be ready to take care of needs.

Before they begin.

They begin to take place, so that you don't begin

to run around and say, oh, it is urgent.

It is urgent.

And this includes more than just financial support. It is

not just money alone that the Bible is talking about here.

What are the biblical provision that the Bible is talking

about here? Physical needs like food, like shelter, like clothing,

like health health care. Okay, it is the responsibility of

the father fathers are in trouble. Alleluyer, father's wake up.

Another one is emotional security. They mentioned it for us

as we're talking the other time. You create and enabling

environments and loving environment and environment where you fathers, fathers,

fathers or she Loo Baptist change. When last did you

have some meeting with your children? All of it your

decide to sit down? When as did you watch TV

with your children? Even we have not been doing that well,

as did you watch TV with your children.

Fathers?

I mean you just decided that today we just go

back home. Everybody will just sit down and your friend

will come. You say, no, I have personal time with

my family. How many of us are doing that?

Eh? We don't do it. Oh babaku does it? Okay,

very good.

Okay, So that's the first ass I meant today. No

father is going out today your special gifts on this

Father's Day. Once we finished service, go home and sit

with your family. As a matter of fact, your wife

is supposed to cook. And as your wife is cookie,

I know those who are closed by here, so I

can come to your house. I want to see all

of you in the kitchen with your wife today. Yes, amen,

even if your wife is not around. Hey, even if

your wife is not around, Rather than cookie, rise today,

do swallow if your wife is not around. Mister Piles,

I know my dam is not around. So today go man, cook,

don't go to eat outside. Eh, you're not a bachelor,

you're a married man. MMU President, missus, missus, m mu President.

He must join you in the kitchen. Only two of

you must cook. This have to noon meal. Thank you

very much. I will ask you if that is not done,

just give me a called.

Flash me.

No going out, don't go out today. Where's the Gideon?

Where's Gideon? Where are you?

And you are the one that will report whatever has

happened in the house. Amen. Amen, let's begin to take

this responsibility.

Mister James of Carasana, you're not babbing today, Abby and

missus James in the kitchen, two of you.

Amen.

The father also has the responsibility of spiritual leadership. I've

said this one, so don't let me repeat myself again.

If you're not doing family devotion, you are part of

the problem of our society.

Is that true or not?

If you like say it, you're part of the problem

in our society. You're a bad example. If you say

you are a Christian and in your house there is

no family altar. You're not irresponsible, man, No, you're not.

You're not.

And we meet, especially with our mothers. So I'm going

to see whether there's going to be a change in

the next couple of weeks.

Change.

Future planning is another provision that is expected of us

as father. Let's look at second one, the father's calling

in Ephicients, chapter six, verse four. The father's calling in

that passage, there's a special calling of the father.

The Bible says, fathers, do not provoke.

Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them

up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

It is simple.

Don't provoke them to anger. What this passage is saying,

is this it reveals very delicate balance that is required

in a biblical fatherhood. Paul gives birth a prohibition, meaning

that what a father should not to do. He says,

don't provoke them. In my version, he says, exaspirates beg English,

but no vex them.

No vex your children.

The word provoked in the Greek rendition is parorogiso, which

means to arousph to rap or exaspirates.

What does that mean?

Don't frustrate your children, don't annoy your children, don't irritate

your children. Don't make your children to be angry. How

many of us have made our children to be angry?

They've not done something, but you accuse them of doing it.

How do fathers provoke their children by being harsh and

making all reasonable demands? Can I give you one of

your reasonable demands? While I was growing up, every father,

there is no house where a father has snogged or

the father they always getting first position. When they went

primary and secondary school, All of them weren't check any

house The father would sit down. When I was young,

like you, I used to take first position. And you

now wonder upon all the children when their school, so

all of them they gets first position. So they when

I say you too, you must get first position. Very

unreasonable demand. I'm for you to see that and helped

his children. You won't be there yet, you say. When

I was young like you, I used to take false position.

In fact, my children know me. I didn't take false position.

It was only one time that my father because my

father used to stay in Abuja Yea and we were

in our village that we went to and that year

my father took his leave and he came home and

it was we're preparing for example, and it sat with

me and helped me. That was the only time in

my primary school that I got taught position. And we

were even three of us in the class that God

is taught position three people and I was one of them.

After that time, back to start to school, I didn't

discover myself. Those in younger an exceptional didn't know my story.

I didn't discover myself until after secondary school. But many times,

many of us as fathers, we paint a picture that ah,

when I was like you me, I used to me.

I used to okay, sure us are you used to

May God forgive fathers in Jesus name. Do you know

how we make our children angry? Inconsistent discipline, all favoritism.

Somebody lied, you disciplined this song and this one lies.

You said, it's okay. You know you don't have to

do that. Don't do it that way. Favoritism in the house,

then that one with Vegs and what happened between n

and Ebel. We start you start creating it in your family.

You start creating it in your family.

Ah.

But when you crush their spirits with constant criticism, you

this child, I don't even know where your mother brings

you from. Sef You're just good for nothing child. I'm

not even sure you're my son because you don't behave.

Like me.

Criticism. We make these children angry in this way part

of the training that the Bible enjoins us. In fact,

speare the road. What happens you spoil the child me.

I don't beat children, but my wife used to beat

children very well. But when it is time for me

to beat I have special cubocle that used to beat them.

But before I do that, what many fathers do is

that they beat the children. And you won't tell them

the reason why you're beating them. Well, first of us,

sit down when we explain, this is what you did.

Eh.

And one of my children did something like that. I

went out with my wife to do some visitation, and

as soon as we came back, the tab that they

use for their online class, he was using it to

play game.

Eh.

No matter how much you have new clothes, young people,

you can never have old clothes rags like fathers or

like older people. What does that mean? I'm not talking

in this physical thing. And when we go to the house,

he went inside the room and he was coming from

inside the room, and I said, what happened? This was

my wife that first asked him. Said he was just

coming from inside the room. I say, you have done

something wrong. What were you doing? You were supposed to

be ready. The others have slept, only you just your

year to sleep. Say I'm not doing anything. You were

playing with this tab. Say no, and I carried the tab.

My wife carried the tub and felt the tab. When

you have using your phone, we lead you warm or

not it would be warm. He said, no, that's okay.

So I check all the logs everything way don't they do?

You don't clear everything come out as a good. I

love that very smart. I love that smartness. I said

number one, you lied. Eh he has not said he

did it. Say you lied, And the only reason why

I'm going to flog you today is because you're lied,

not because of anything. I'm not angry with you because

you use this tab. It's okay if you use it,

but simply tell me, yes, I use it. What were

you using it for? To play a game? Okay, fine,

don't do it again. I don't like that. Use it

to study. Simple and we may just overlooked it and go.

But for the next thirty minutes instead did not confess.

But somehow, on my own phone, I have set it

so I can monitor what is done on that tab.

So I opened my phone and I showed him everything

he had done with time, because it will show time

on my own.

And then finish. Nothing more to do.

I say, so, because you have lied, it is time

to display. While I encourage discipline, but let us tell

them the reason why we are disciplining them. I didn't

want to discipline him, but you see, our society is

full of bad people because parents and fathers especially, we

have failed in our capacity.

We want to train adults rather.

Than training children, when we fail to explain the reason

why we are disciplining them.

When we don't set where we set impossible standards, eh

or being hypocritical.

You yourself, you are not doing the thing, but you want

your children.

To do it.

No, that is not right, that is not right. Number three,

the husband's love. That's what you see in Collusions chapter three,

verse nineteen. The husband's love. The Bible says in that passage, husbands,

love your wives and do not be hush with them.

And this command is side by side what we see

in Efphicients chapter five, twenty five to thirty three. It

defines the husband's primary responsibility towards his wife, which is

love alghab power love and that means to sacrifice, to

be selfless. And that is the kind of love that

Christ as In actually shows to the church. What does

that can of love look like? It is Number one sacrificial.

That is, you put the needs of your wife before

your own comfort. Father, forgive us, Father made in Jesus name,

saying man, now, Father, forgive men in Jesus name, because

we have.

Not been sacrificial enough by African tradition.

You go carried out woman from your Papa house, you

bring then your house. You know, the first thing that

you do by the child, by that woman coming to

your house is to remove the father's name, the father

that we don't pay all the money from beginning to

the tire where you go carrier, your commodifather name. See

now from today, you're going to start there in my name.

Yet you're not sacrificial. You're not protective. You're not guiding

her physically, you're not guiding her emotionally. You're not guiding

us spiritually. Fathers, this is what God's world is explaining

to us. I'm not saying that I'm perfect to I'm

not perfect in this. I am not because the Bible

says that the world of God is a double edged sword,

double edge.

Two sides.

So when you go like this, you're telling people when

you come like this is pointing to you too. But

look at this. We have to be protective of our wives.

We have to cherish them. That is what the love

looks like. We have to cherish them. We have to

value and treasure them as pressures gift. Do we actually

do that? When we don't do that, we are not responsible.

Men seven looking for ways to bless and support our daily.

That's why I say, men today you have to go

to the kitchen. If your wife is not around, you yourself,

go to the kitchen, cook for children. Amen a man.

So father's not going out to this afternoon, stay at home.

Let him feel you. Are you faithful to your wife,

maintaining exclusive devotion and commitments. This is what the Bible

is expecting of us. May the Lord help us in

the martin name of Jesus. I just want to pick

those three things. Just challenge us today as fathers. Be

a responsible man, a man that is a priest, a

man that is a prophet, a man that is a

patriarch in the family, a man that is a provider. Father,

where we have failed you as men, were, ask that

you will forgive us. In Jesus' name, Lord, we seek

your face, that you will make our lives better from

today onward. In the name of Jesus, we pray that

your grace beyond measure, you will shower upon our father's

in the mighty name of Jesus, Thank you, Holy Spirit.

Let's deced of word germinate and bear much fruit in

the life.

Of our father's. In Jesus' name, we pray,