Sermon
Ephesians 5:22-33
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I'm going to preach to you on marriage for the next two weeks.
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And I realise that for many in this congregation here this morning, that might be hard, isn't it?
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There are some who are married and it is deeply unsatisfying.
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There are some here who would love to be married, but it's just never worked out.
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And there are some here who were married and it was an absolute nightmare.
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And so I'm well aware that this is not an easy topic for many of you.
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And yet I'm not going to apologise for that.
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Because I think the glorious truth of the real basis of marriage is a great comfort.
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And I hope that as we look at this picture of the relationship between Christ and his church,
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you will see how gloriously you are loved by God the Father, by the Lord Jesus and by the Holy Spirit.
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And I think also, I think it's right to say it, if you're a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ this morning, you are married.
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And we await, don't we, that great consummation.
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We are part of the bride of Christ.
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And so, that is my introduction.
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Now what makes marriage work?
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What makes marriage last?
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What makes marriage strong and deeply satisfying?
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You know, it is a wedding, two people stand at the top of the aisle,
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they make promises to each other, because to a very large degree their relationship works.
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Otherwise they wouldn't be getting married.
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They like each other, they're attracted to each other,
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they have the same values, they have some of the same hobbies,
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some of the interests that they've shared in their courtship and engagement,
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and it's obvious to them and to others that they care about each other.
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But all couples stand at the top of the aisle like that.
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And yet somewhere down the line, for so many, the marriages come unstuck.
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And the fact is that today marriage seems harder than it's ever been.
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And marriage as a lifelong commitment, one man to one woman, is not popular.
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Weddings are very popular, aren't they?
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Go to the Newsagent tomorrow, look at the bridal magazines,
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and they'll tell you weddings are popular.
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We know that, don't we?
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Everything that happens on the day.
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The flowers are beautiful, the cars are fantastic,
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the bridesmaids look magnificent,
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the food and the wine and the dancing.
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How could you not like weddings?
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But marriage as a lifelong commitment to the same person,
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through thick and thin, through up and down, is not popular.
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How do you do that?
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How do we make sure that the marriages in this congregation last?
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Well, we look at Ephesians chapter 5.
Ephesians 5 chapter mention
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And this is the answer.
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What will make a marriage work?
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What will make a human marriage work is when it copies another marriage.
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Human marriage works when it copies the divine marriage.
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The marriage between Christ and his church.
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Human marriage works when it copies the divine marriage between Christ and the church.
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Now, at many levels, that just seems such a bizarre answer, isn't it?
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It's not Cosmo's answer of great sex or new woman's answer of unending romance.
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What makes marriage work is a couple seeing that their marriage is not the true marriage.
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It's not the ultimate marriage.
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That we need to copy and imitate.
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That we need to base ourselves on another marriage.
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So we go through married life needing to have our eyes on someone else.
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And that other marriage is the pattern for our marriage.
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That is the primary marriage that we have to imitate and copy.
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And so we're going to take two weeks to pause and simply try and think a little bit more deeply about marriage.
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Today the pattern.
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And then next week we try and get a bit more practical.
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And look at the nitty gritty of what that looks like.
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What it looks like to live this example of the divine marriage out.
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So we understand the pattern this week.
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And we're going to see that marriage works when it copies the divine marriage between Christ and the church.
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When the husband and the wife play different roles.
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For the wife the part of submission and respect.
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And for the husband the part of headship and love.
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So let me give you that.
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Marriage works when it copies the divine marriage of Christ and the church.
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And when the husband and wife play different roles.
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The wife submission and respect.
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The husband, headship and love.
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Now let me give you two questions that probably are in your mind.
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Two questions about submission and headship.
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Let's put the brakes on here.
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First of all what is the relevance of all this?
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And then what is the problem with it?
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What is the relevance?
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What about me?
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I'm single.
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I'm not yet married.
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What is the relevance?
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Well I think it's got particular relevance for us.
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Particularly if we're women.
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When the Bible talks about submission.
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Biblical submission is not absolute and it's not universal.
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It is not all women to all men.
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It's not that.
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But it is one woman to one man.
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It is a wife to a husband.
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If you are a woman and you are single.
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Therefore this passage is not telling you.
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That you have to submit to every man you meet.
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Submission is wife to husband.
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Not woman to man generally.
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But whether you're a single man or a single woman.
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I think this passage is very relevant.
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One day because maybe one day you will be married.
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But even if that's not the case.
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You are friends.
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You are our brothers and sisters.
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Of those of us who are married.
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And you are an enormous help and encouragement to us.
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So the other way I think this question.
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This passage raises the relevance question.
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Is to ask.
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Well it just seems so old fashioned isn't it?
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Well wives submitting husbands being hired.
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How in any way is that relevant today?
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Just try throwing that out tomorrow morning.
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Over coffee time.
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At work.
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And I imagine that the feelings here this morning.
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Range from simple curiosity.
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Curiosity.
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That seems so antiquated.
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And probably further along the spectrum.
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There are areas maybe of the faith which you are embarrassed.
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And this area of headship and submission.
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You are a bit embarrassed about.
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And then there's probably some here.
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Who are angry.
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And they are frustrated.
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That the Bible could actually stipulate.
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Something so hurtful.
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Or something so demeaning to women.
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Now some people think.
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That this issue of women and headship.
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Is parallel to slavery.
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In the ancient world.
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So the Bible just seems to assume.
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That slavery exists.
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And it tells slaves to work in a certain kind of way.
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Slavery existed in the ancient world.
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But we don't practice it today.
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And so some people say.
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Headship and submission are the same.
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It's the same as that.
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Well actually there's quite a big difference.
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In that the Bible.
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Gives instructions to you.
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On how to be Christian.
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If you are a slave.
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But the Bible never gives.
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Christian reasons for the institution of slavery itself.
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It never does that.
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If it exists.
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It says.
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And you are a Christian.
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Here's what you do with it.
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But the Bible never says.
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God instituted slavery.
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Or caused it.
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Never.
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But with headship and submission.
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Husbands and wives.
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The Bible very clearly gives you Christian reasons.
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For headship and submission.
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And the reasons here in chapter 5.
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Are that the marriage relationship.
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Mirrors the relationship between God.
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And his people.
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And that is why.
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Headship is for the husband.
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And submission for the wife.
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So if you know that.
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You're on that range.
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Of approaching the test.
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Some with curiosity.
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Some with embarrassment.
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Some with anger.
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Let me ask you to suspend judgment.
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Let me ask you to suspend judgment.
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For this morning.
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And for next Sunday morning.
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And let's try and work through this together.
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And hopefully we'll see it in a new light.
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Now the other question.
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I expect less of us have it.
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But it may be.
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That some of us have it.
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It's the opposite end of the spectrum.
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It's not what is the relevance of all this.
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But what is the problem in it.
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What is the problem.
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In other words.
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The Bible tells wives to submit.
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So what's the problem.
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What's so difficult about it.
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Why are people finding it so unacceptable today.
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Now I think that kind of attitude.
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It's got the right view of the Bible.
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It says the Bible is authoritative.
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It says we have to sit under the Bible.
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Even when we find this teaching difficult.
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But that view is a very shallow view of people.
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For people who read the Bible.
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If you read the Bible.
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I think we have to approach this passage this morning.
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In the knowledge that for a wife.
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Who says this is God's word.
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And I am going to submit to it.
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And to my husband.
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I think we have to be aware.
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That for some.
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Maybe for many this morning.
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That obedience will go hand in hand with tears.
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And deep personal suffering.
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And we have to come to this passage.
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Knowing that all our marriages are flawed.
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My wife isn't here this morning.
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But our marriages are flawed.
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And they are shot through with sin.
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And we've got to say that.
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Don't we?
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Because we all look at each other's marriages.
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And we all think.
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Oh they seem so great.
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Don't they?
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And we envy.
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Well you wouldn't if you lived with them.
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When we're told to submit.
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Or to be considerate.
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Or when we're told to love.
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And lay down our life.
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It's not something that we just need to nod our heads at.
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As if it's automatic.
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And as if it's obvious.
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And if it's easy.
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It is actually something that we need to bend our knees this morning for.
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And cry out to God for help.
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So these two questions.
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What is the relevance of this in the 21st century?
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What is the relevance?
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I suppose that that is.
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Isn't it the 21st century woman's question?
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And then second question.
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What is the problem with it?
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Well that is the kind of churchy evangelical man's question.
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Isn't it?
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Isn't it?
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Now.
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I want you to notice one thing.
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I'll say in introduction.
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I want you to notice this.
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Just before we get into it.
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That the command is never given to the man.
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To make sure the wife submits.
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The command is never given to the man.
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To make sure the wife submits.
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The command you notice is always given to the wife.
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It is her will that is appealed to.
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It is never, never, never a club to put into the hands of men.
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It is words spoken to the wife.
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So there's just two things.
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That I want to look at tonight.
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I want to look at the pattern.
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This morning I want to look at the pattern.
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And then I want to look at the roles.
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So first of all.
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Let's look at the pattern.
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Between Christ and the church.
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What does all this talk mean?
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A divine marriage between Christ and the church.
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You can see it if you look at verse 31.
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Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother.
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And hold fast to his wife.
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And the two shall become one flesh.
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This mystery is profound.
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And I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
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Paul's point is this.
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Jesus is married to his people.
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Just like a husband is married to his wife.
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And the way that you see this through the passage.
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Is the constant word of the use.
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Use of the little word.
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As.
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Or just as.
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Or also in the same way.
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Look at verse 32.
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Wives submit to your husbands.
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As to the Lord.
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The husband is the head of the wife.
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As Christ is the head of the church.
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Verse 24.
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Now as.
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So also.
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Verse 25.
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Husbands love your wife.
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As.
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Christ loved the church.
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And gave himself up for her.
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Just as.
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Also.
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As.
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Copy.
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Copy.
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Copy.
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Copy.
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Copy an original marriage.
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Paul is saying.
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When Jesus Christ went to the cross to die.
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What he was doing was giving his life for men and women and boys and girls like you and me.
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Who've turned their backs on God.
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And have brought chaos into the world and into our lives.
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That is how Christ loved us.
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He fell down.
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He laid down.
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His life to rescue us.
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And the Bible says that that love of Christ.
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For his people is so strong.
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It's so passionate.
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It's so committed.
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That only the word marriage.
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Can be used to describe it.
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The love that is so strong.
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That Christ is actually a bridegroom.
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And these men and women.
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Who he loves.
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Are actually like a bride.
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That is the divine marriage.
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The divine marriage between Christ and the church.
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It's why.
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The book of Revelation.
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An angel says to John.
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Come.
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I will show you the bride.
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The wife of the lamb.
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And I think of all Paul's language in chapter 5.
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As we read it.
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It is based on another passage.
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It's based on a lovely passage.
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In Ezekiel chapter 16.
Ezekiel 16 chapter mention
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So can you turn that.
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Ezekiel chapter 16.
Ezekiel 16 chapter mention
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You all know it from your house group studies.
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So turn to page 702.
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Ezekiel chapter 16.
Ezekiel 16 chapter mention
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And I'm going to read.
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I'm going to read quite a chunk of it.
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Just listen to the beauty.
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Of God's love for his people.
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Ezekiel chapter 16.
Ezekiel 16 chapter mention
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Again the word of the Lord came to me.
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Son of man.
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Make known to Jerusalem her abominations.
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And say.
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Thus says the Lord God to Jerusalem.
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Your origin and your birth.
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Are of the land of the Canaanites.
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Your father was an Amorite.
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And your mother a Hittite.
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And as for your birth.
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On the day you were born.
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Your cord was not cut.
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Nor were you washed with water.
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To cleanse you.
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Do you notice the language.
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Of Ephesians 5.
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Nor rubbed with salt.
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Nor wrapped in swaddling cloths.
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No I pitied you.
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To do any of these things to you.
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Out of compassion for you.
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But you were cast out on the open field.
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For you were abhorred.
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On the day that you were born.
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And then here we go.
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And when I passed by you.
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And saw you wallowing in your blood.
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I said to you in your blood.
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Live.
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I said to you in your blood.
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Live.
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And made you flourish like a plant in the field.
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And you grew up.
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And became tall.
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And arrived at full adornment.
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And your breasts were formed.
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And your hair had grown.
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And yet you were naked and bare.
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And I passed by you again.
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And I saw you.
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Behold you at the age of love.
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And I spread the corner of my garment over you.
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And covered your nakedness.
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I made my vow to you.
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And entered into a covenant with you.
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Declares the Lord God.
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And you became mine.
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Then I bathed you with water.
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And I washed up your blood from you.
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And anointed you with oil.
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And I clothed you also with embroidered cloth.
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And shod you with fine leather.
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I wrapped you in fine linen.
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And covered you with silk.
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And I adorned you with ornaments.
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And put bracelets on your wrists.
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And a chain on your neck.
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And put a ring on your nose.
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And earrings in your ears.
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And a beautiful crown on your head.
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Thus you were adorned with gold and silver.
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And your clothing was of fine linen.
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And silk and embroidered cloth.
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You ate fine flour.
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And honey and oil.
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You grew exceedingly beautiful.
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And advanced to royalty.
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And your renown went forth among the nations.
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Because of your beauty.
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For it was perfect through the splendour.
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That I had bestowed on you.
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Declares the Lord God.
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Isn't that a stunning picture?
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Of God's love for his people.
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Like a father rescuing his child.
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Like a lover making beautiful his bride.
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And clothing her.
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Dressing her.
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Washing her.
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Adoring her.
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That says Paul.
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Is what Jesus has done for you and I.
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He found us.
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He brought us to him.
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He's made an eternal.
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Unbreakable covenant.
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Which is marriage.
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So what that means.
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Is that our marriages.
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Are partly like a play.
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And the man plays the part of Christ.
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That covenant.
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Keeping.
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Searching.
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God.
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That we read of in Ezekiel.
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And the woman plays the part of the church.
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And what if you like happens.
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When a couple stand.
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And get married at the front of church.
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The curtains.
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Come up.
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And the play begins.
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And the bridegroom.
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Plays the part of Christ.
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To his wife.
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Every single day.
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For the rest of their married life.
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And the wife now plays the part of the church.
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To her husband.
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Every day of their married life.
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And written above the stage.
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Of their marriage.
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Begins this play.
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It says.
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Based on a true story.
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Based on an original.
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That our marriages.
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Are based on the divine marriage.
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Between Christ and his bride.
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And the big point.
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Of this original marriage.
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The big point.
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Is oneness.
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Oneness.
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Union.
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Of Christ.
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And all his people.
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So that nothing.
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Absolutely nothing.
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Separates.
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Us from Christ.
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Christ.
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It's all to do with the head.
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And the body image.
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Go back to Ephesians 5.
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Verse 23.
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For the husband.
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Is the head of the wife.
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Even as Christ.
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Is the head of the church.
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And his body.
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And is himself.
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Its saviour.
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Head and body.
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Are never separated.
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They belong together.
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Look at verse 29.
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For no one ever hated his own flesh.
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But nourishes and cherishes it.
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Just as Christ does the church.
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And then verse 32.
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This mystery is profound.
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But I am saying.
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That it refers to Christ.
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And the church.
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It's a profound mystery.
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It's a profound mystery.
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This morning.
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That Christ.
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Is as close to his people.
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And he is united with them.
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He is as close.
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To his people.
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And he is united with them.
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As a husband and a wife.
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Are to each other.
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In one flesh.
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Sexual union.
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You can't get any closer than that.
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You can't get any closer than that.
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That is how close Christ is to you and I.
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And it can only be described.
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This mysterious concept.
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Is it?
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But there should be never any doubt.
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For you if you are a believer.
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How close you are to him.
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If you belong to him.
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And of course this fits.
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Doesn't it?
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So much.
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And so well with what God is doing.
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What is God doing in the world?
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He is bringing everything together.
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Under the lordship of Christ.
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He is united.
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Jew and Gentile.
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Together.
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Christ is the head of a new humanity.
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The church.
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And Christ is bound to that church.
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These men and women.
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In covenantal love.
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And in unbreakable closeness.
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Oneness.
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Oneness together.
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That is the goal of everything that God is doing.
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It is where the world is heading.
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And I think that is profoundly helpful.
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To my marriage and to your marriage.
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That you may be.
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The marriage you may be in one day.
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That very very simply.
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The goal of my marriage.
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Is not my marriage.
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Have you got that?
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And the goal of my marriage is not my marriage.
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The goal of my marriage is not my happiness.
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The point of my own marriage is what?
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It is to display the ultimate marriage.
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And make it visible.
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And so I am to love Claire.
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In such a way.
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That it shows the world.
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Just how much Christ loves the people.
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That is the challenge.
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And the reason why we are so often unhappy in our marriage.
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Is we have idolised them.
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And we have expected too much from them.
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We think our love story is the original.
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Our love story is the true story.
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The big story.
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It is the ultimate story.
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And many many people think their marriage is like that.
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The bride walks up the aisle.
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And the husband is already at the front.
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And there they are.
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They stand kind of next to each other.
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Holding each other's hands.
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Looking at each other.
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That isn't actually the way I think we should do vows.
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I think we should be tuned.
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Probably tuned to face the congregation.
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So you are feasting each other.
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But you are reflecting out.
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You are reflecting what Christ has done.
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You depend on each other for everything.
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You look at each other.
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But you face outwards.
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You face God together.
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And then you reflect that.
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You reflect that to the world.
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You show other people in your marriage.
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What God's marriage is like.
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That is the purpose.
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I think there is another reason that this helps.
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And it is a profound reason.
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And it is God has found a way.
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Of taking me.
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And uniting me to Christ.
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And removing all the barriers.
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Between me and Christ.
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And he has brought my wife to Christ.
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And united her to Christ.
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Well then.
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If we are one.
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If you can get this.
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If there is a oneness.
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Between husband and wife.
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Who am I.
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To allow the destruction of that oneness.
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If Christ has bound me.
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As closely to him.
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As is possible.
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What would ever make me think.
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That as a husband.
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I can allow all sorts of petty resentments.
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And silly pride.
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And silly sin.
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And annoyances.
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And irritations.
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Whatever it is.
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To come between my wife and I.
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Do you see.
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The goal of Christ's marriage.
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Is oneness.
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The point of my marriage.
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Is to be oneness.
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Our marriage is to reflect that.
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So marriage works.
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When a husband and wife.
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If I can follow that.
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Know their lines.
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And play their part.
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So what are they.
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Let's look at the roles.
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Let's look at the roles.
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Secondly.
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Well first of all.
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Wives submission in respect.
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Verse 32.
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Here is the command.
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Verse 32.
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So verse.
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Trying to wives.
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Submit to your own husbands.
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As to the Lord.
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And then verse 23.
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For the husband is the head of the wife.
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Even as Christ is the head of the church's body.
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And is himself its saviour.
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Now these are some of the most.
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Comprovisional words.
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Aren't they?
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The passage.
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And we struggle with it.
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Wives submit to your husbands.
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Because the husband is the head of the wife.
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Now all we're going to do this week.
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Is notice the pattern.
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Next week I want to try and explain it.
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More of what it means to live by the pattern.
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But at least initially.
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I want to make the problem worse.
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Right.
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And I think the pattern of wives.
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Submission to their husbands.
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We have to understand.
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It's not reciprocal.
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Husbands.
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Do not submit to their wives.
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And that is worth saying.
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Because if you look at verse 21.
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Verse 21 has misled a lot of people.
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Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
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Paul.
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What is very popular if you read the commonities.
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Will say this.
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Paul is saying.
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Everybody in the church should submit to everyone.
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And he goes on to mention wives.
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But he's already said in verse 21.
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We should assume that husbands are to submit to their wives.
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Because they submit to one another in everything.
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The problem with that phrase is it doesn't always mean.
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That it's reciprocal.
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The one another there.
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It doesn't.
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So in Revelation chapter 6 verse 4.
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We're told that men slay one another.
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It can't mean that both people.
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Both people at the same time slaughter one another.
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That can't mean that.
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Well listen to James.
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James chapter 5 and verse 6.
James 5 chapter mention
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James chapter 5 and verse 6.
James 5 chapter mention
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It's a famous verse.
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Verse 16.
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It says this.
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Therefore confess your sins to one another.
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And pray for one another.
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That you may be healed.
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And when you look at the context in James 5.
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It is very clear that not everyone is confessing.
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Because not everyone is sick.
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It's only the person who is sick through sin.
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So the praying for one another.
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Is not because everyone needs to be healed.
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But because some do so.
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So the context besides the meaning.
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When Paul says submit to one another.
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Then immediately he says.
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Doesn't he.
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Wives submit to your husbands.
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And then he says children submit to your parents.
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And then he says slaves submit to your masters.
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And I think that means.
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Everyone should submit to the person they are submitting to.
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Notice the pattern in Ephesians 5 and 6.
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Each time the person is told to submit.
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Then immediately the person they are told to submit to.
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Is told to do something in turn.
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Each time in Ephesians.
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Somebody is told to submit.
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Wives, children, slaves.
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And then the person they are told to submit to.
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Is told to do something in turn.
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Husbands we are told.
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To love our wives.
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Fathers are told not to exasperate your children.
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Not to submit to them.
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Masters are told to treat their slaves well.
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Not to submit to them.
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So we have got a big issue haven't we.
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What does the language of submission look like.
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Well as I said.
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All I want to do this morning.
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Is see this pattern.
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Submission is the pattern for the wife.
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Because she is playing the part of the church.
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In the great marriage play.
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Which is based on the true story.
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Let's move on.
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We will come back to that next week.
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Husbands.
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Headship and love.
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Now here again.
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I want to make a very very simple point.
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And I want you to notice this.
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This is the most important thing about the sermon.
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So wake up.
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Husbands are not commanded here to be the head.
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I don't know why I've missed this.
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I don't know why I've missed it for so many years.
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Husbands are not commanded to be the head.
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Do you notice that?
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Paul doesn't say husbands they ought to be the head.
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It says they are the head.
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And Paul is telling us what the marriage relationship between a husband and wife is.
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Marriage is defined in part as the headship of a husband over a wife.
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Without headship there is no marriage.
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I was speaking at a wedding.
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And on the way out of the service.
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Somebody was very very upset by this passage.
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And they said to me it reflects a bygone era.
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It's an outmoded cultural form.
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The person says.
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He said to me.
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He and his wife.
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This is not a command that he felt was needed for today.
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It was not a command that he had to keep today.
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Well I wish I'd said to them.
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Of course the problem is.
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It's not a command.
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Paul does not say to the husbands.
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He does not say to you if you are a husband.
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Be the head.
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He says you are.
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And if you are married.
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And you are the man.
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You are the head.
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Just as we would say if you are married.
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You're a man.
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You are male.
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Now let me try and explain to you what it means.
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And then let me try and give you an illustration.
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Here's what it means.
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If you are married.
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If you are a married man.
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You are inescapably in a position of leadership.
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Inescapably.
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You are inescapably in a position of leadership.
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You cannot successfully refuse to lead your home.
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You always, always, always will lead.
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You will either lead it well.
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Or you will lead it poorly.
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But you will always lead it.
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So here is the words of one writer.
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Listen to this.
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A husband cannot successfully refuse to lead.
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If he attempts to abdicate in some way.
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He may through his rebellion lead poorly.
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But no matter what he does.
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Or where he goes.
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He does so as the head of his wife.
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That is how God designed marriage.
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God has created us male and female.
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In such a way as to ensure that men will always be dominant in marriage.
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If the husband is godly.
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Then the dominance will not be harsh.
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In fact his dominance will be characterized by the same self-sacrificial love demonstrated by our Lord at the cross.
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But if a husband tries to run away from his abdication.
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And here is the key point.
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That abdication will dominate the home.
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If he catches a plane to the other side of the country.
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And stays there.
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He will dominate in and by his absence.
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How many children have grown up in a home dominated by the empty chair at the table?
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If the marriage is one in which the wife.
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And he uses the phrase wears the trousers.
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The wimpiness of the husband is the most obvious thing about the marriage.
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His abdication dominates.
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Now I realize that that might be controversial to think of it in that way.
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But I don't think it should be.
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It's just the position that reflects what Paul says here.
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That the husband is the head of the wife.
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In the same non-negotiable way that Christ is the head of the church.
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And so the question for a husband is what we're going to kind of marinate in next week.
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The question for a husband is what kind of head are you going to be?
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Let me give you an illustration which has really helped me.
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And I think it's a profoundly beautiful thing for a wife.
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And for a marriage.
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This idea of headship.
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One writer says.
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When a couple comes for marriage preparation.
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My operating assumption.
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Is that always the man.
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Is completely responsible for all the problems.
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Amen.
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Now you hear some of you say.
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Let me read that again.
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When a couple comes for marriage preparation.
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My operating assumption.
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Is that always the man.
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Is completely responsible for all the problems.
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Some may be inclined to react to this.
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But it is important to note.
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That responsibility.
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Is not the same as guilt.
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If a woman has been unfaithful.
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To her husband.
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Of course.
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She bears the guilt.
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Of adultery.
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But at the same time.
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He is responsible for it.
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To illustrate.
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Suppose a young sailor.
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Disobeys his orders.
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And runs a ship aground.
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In the middle of the night.
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The captain was asleep.
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And had nothing to do.
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With his irresponsible actions.
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But who is finally responsible?
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The captain is responsible.
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For the incident.
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It may strike many as being unfair.
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But that is undisputably.
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The way God made the world.
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The sailor is guilty.
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The captain is responsible.
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The same writer goes on to say.
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Without his understanding of responsibility.
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Authority becomes meaningless.
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And tyrannical.
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Husbands are responsible.
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For their wives.
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They are the head of their wives.
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As Christ is the head of the church.
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Taking a covenant oath.
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To become a husband.
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Assumes responsibility.
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For that home.
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This means that men.
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Whether through tyranny.
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Or abdication.
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Are responsible.
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For any problems.
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In the home.
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Now really.
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What I want to do next week.
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So I want to show you.
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Why headship.
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In a marriage.
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Really means.
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Covenantal protection.
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For a wife.
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Headship does not mean.
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It never means.
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That it is a husband's role.
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To tell his wife.
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What to do.
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Or what to think.
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Or what to go.
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Where to go.
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Or what to wear.
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Anything like that.
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It is exactly the opposite.
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We are going to see next week.
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That headship bears a cross.
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And a husband's headship.
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Bears a cross.
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And a husband's love.
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Bestows loveliness.
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And a wife's submission.
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Gives honour.
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And a wife's respect.
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Bestows dignity.
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Headship wears a cross.
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Love bestows loveliness.
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Submission bears honour.
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Respect.
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Bestows dignity.
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Christian marriages.
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Are meant to be a world.
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Of health.
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And wholeness.
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And human flourishing.
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As a husband says to his wife.
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Who I am.
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And what I am about.
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Is you.
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What I am is for you.
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All that I have.
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I give to you.
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Completely.
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And utterly.
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At your disposal.
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So a marriage works.
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When it copies.
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The divine marriage.
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Between Christ and the church.
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It works.
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When a husband and wife.
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Play different roles.
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For the wife's submission.
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Respect.
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And the husband.
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Henship and love.
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And so next week.
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What I want to try and do.
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Is say.
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What are the actual lines.
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That we live.
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We speak in this play.
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What do the roles sound like.
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What do they look like.
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What do they feel like.
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And my prayer is this.
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That God will help us.
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Not simply to do the acting.
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Out of the roles.
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But to understand.
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The foundations.
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And the pattern.
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And perhaps.
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More than anything.
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To realise.
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Just how close.
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We are to Christ.
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That we are unbreakably.
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Bound to him.
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As one.
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Forever.
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Because of his love.
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And that applies.
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Doesn't it.
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Whether you're married.
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Whether you're divorced.
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Whether you've never been married.
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Or you never will be married.
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But you are in Christ.
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Let's pray.