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"Common Sins and Struggles" by Joey Morgan - Part 12

Cumberland Trace Church of Christ (Formerly Lehman Ave Church of Christ)

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  1. about. We started out defining what selfishness is based on what Paul wrote in Philippians

  2. 2 and 3. He said let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit but in lowliness

  3. of mind let each esteem others better than themselves. Let each of you look out not only

  4. for your own interest but also for the interest of others. So he said don't have selfish ambition

  5. which he said don't let anything be done with that and he said the opposite of that is esteeming

  6. others better than yourselves. So that means selfish ambition is or selfishness is esteeming

  7. others or esteeming yourself better than others. That's what selfishness is. So essentially

  8. it's putting yourself at the center of the universe and the most important all the time.

  9. And then we saw in James 3, 14 and 15 where it comes from. He said but if you have bitter

  10. envy and self-seeking in your hearts do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom

  11. does not descend from above but is earthly sensual demonic for where envy and self-seeking

  12. exist confusion and every evil thing are there. So he's saying it's not from the desires that

  13. God has given us to be selfish. It's not from him but it's a desire within our own selves.

  14. God did not basically create us to be self-seeking. He didn't create us to be that way but sometimes

  15. we become that way and that's when selfishness plays its role. And then James in that next

  16. chapter says what it causes when selfishness is involved and your desires within yourself

  17. aren't fulfilled he said that's when conflict comes. He said where do wars and fights come

  18. from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure and war within your members?

  19. You lust and you do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain so then you fight

  20. and war. So if you are selfish you don't fulfill your desires that's where a lot of

  21. conflict is going to come in your life. Well then we finished by starting to look at biblical

  22. examples of times when selfishness was involved. We started by looking at Cain and then we

  23. ended up looking at who was the second one we looked at the prodigal son in Luke chapter

    Luke 15 chapter mention

  24. 15. We looked at some examples within the writings about those that we saw selfishness

  25. play a role. I've got one more that I want to look at this morning and then we're going

  26. to look at what an example in which is the opposite of selfishness that we should be

  27. more like. So anybody know anything about diatrophies? Who knows something about diatrophies?

  28. I'll give you a hint he's in third John it says something about him. Anybody know that

  29. one off the top of your head? Yeah Andy? He liked the preeminence. If you turn over to

  30. John or third John we'll begin in verse 9 where it says I wrote to the church but diatrophies

  31. who loves to have preeminence among them does not receive us. Therefore if I come I will

  32. call to mind his deeds which he does prating against us with malicious words and not content

  33. with that he himself does not receive the brethren and forbids those who wish to putting

  34. them out of the church. So diatrophies has or he loves the preeminence is what it says.

  35. What is what is preeminence? First place. Someone who is feels as if they are superior

  36. to everyone else they're above everyone else whether it's in rank if you want to say that

  37. or in importance or maybe in degree whatever it is it's someone who loves to be at the

  38. top someone who loves to have be the top dog he loved being first and because of that

  39. he didn't receive Paul or he didn't receive the others who were not willing to give him

  40. that or John and not the others who were willing to give him that. Well selfishness is the

  41. opposite of selflessness and someone who is selfless what do they seek to do typically?

  42. Serve, right? They seek to serve. Seek what's best for maybe other people but selfish people

  43. they're not going to want to serve that's someone who's going to want preeminence they

  44. want to be at the top because if they're at the top that means everyone below them is

  45. supposed to be serving them. So if you love preeminence that's going to play a role in

  46. that. So what things can we look for in ourselves if we think about preeminence that will warn

  47. us if possibly we might have a little bit of a struggle with selfishness because as

  48. I said with all these struggles we've covered a lot of these aren't easy to see in ourselves.

  49. I think a lot of us might walk around and say you know I know I don't love money and

  50. you may love it a little bit or you might walk around and say I don't think I'm selfish

  51. but you might be a little bit selfish and you might not see it in yourselves. So what

  52. does selfishness often want? If you are someone who is if you feel yourself wanting these

  53. things how would you what are those types of things where you might say oh I might have

  54. a little bit of selfishness in me. Always wanting to have your own way. Control always

  55. wanting to have control of the situation. Always wanting attention. Always wanting praise.

  56. Always wanting power. Always wanting recognition. That's preeminence. You know someone who loves

  57. the preeminence that's someone who's going to have those things and those are just a

  58. few examples. I mean you could look at several so many others you know we have Diotrephes

  59. who love the preeminence. We have Cain who was not willing to you know do basically other

  60. than what he wanted to do even though God said you know you have the opportunity to

  61. do what's right. You can you can change your your sacrifice. You can do what's right. He

  62. didn't want to. We have the prodigal son who wanted what he wanted and he wanted it now.

  63. Didn't matter how it might affect his family. Didn't matter anything about that. He just

  64. wanted what he wanted. Many examples that we could look at and see that selfishness

  65. is something that's going to seek out basically what's what you want within yourself above

  66. anything else. Again if that if we go back to that's the definition. But what about the

  67. opposite of that. So what should we or how should we be. What should be the attributes

  68. that we have. Let's contrast selfishness with Jesus because we're supposed to become more

  69. like Jesus. That's who we're supposed to become like. So let's go back to Philippians 2. We've

  70. already been there. Kind of started out there whenever we were talking about selfishness.

  71. We've already looked at the first first few verses to define again what selfishness is.

  72. I read that this morning. But over in Philippians 2 we're going to go ahead and read it again

  73. and begin in verse 1. So Philippians 2 beginning at verse 1. He says therefore if there's any

  74. consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if

  75. any affection and mercy, fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love being

  76. of one accord of one mind. Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit,

  77. but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look

  78. out not only for his own interest but also the interest of others. But now look at verse

  79. 5 through 8. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus who being in the form of God

  80. did not consider it robbery to be equal with God but made himself of no reputation taking the form

  81. of a bondservant and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man he

  82. humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death even the death on the cross. So Paul

  83. starts out, let this mind be in you which was in Christ Jesus. Paul saying if you want to be

  84. selfless, if you want to put others interests before yours, if you want to have unity over

  85. preeminence because that's the choice that you've got to make, you need to have the mind of who?

  86. The mind of Christ. Jesus is the perfect example of selflessness. Let me ask you this, what did

  87. Jesus ever do for himself or solely for his own desire? Like that was the whole purpose behind it.

  88. Can anybody name something? Yeah, but is there anything that he did that was solely just just

  89. for him? Anybody think of anything? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. That's what you was gonna say. But you think

  90. about even just in these verses that Paul just gave us. He left heaven. Did he do that for him? No.

  91. Did he seek preeminence? Whenever he actually should be the one who is preeminent, did he seek it?

  92. Did he come down from heaven and say, give me the preeminence. I love it. You know, no, that's not how

  93. he was. He endured mockery. He suffered on the cross. Did he have to do that? He didn't have to,

  94. chose to. And he did all that for who? For us. Yeah, for everybody. Not of his own, not for himself, but for others.

  95. He did that seeking your interest and the world's interest, not his own. What are some examples that

  96. we can think of of Jesus putting others before himself? Because if we if we want to look at

  97. Christ as our example, again, these verses that Paul just gave us are telling us, you know, if

  98. anybody deserved to be preeminent, if anybody had the ability to be that person, it's Jesus. But he

  99. chose not to. He chose your interest over his own. But what are some other examples where we see it

  100. practiced out in the life of Jesus? Yeah, the washing of the feet of the disciples' feet over

  101. in John 13, 1 through 17. So that act itself is him showing this in practice. But then the purpose

  102. of him showing that was to do what? To teach us that we are supposed to be the same way. We're

  103. supposed to do the same thing. And we're supposed to really see within that what's the what's the

  104. main lesson that Jesus teaches with the washing of the disciples' feet? I'll just give you a hint.

  105. Diotrephes had a little bit of a problem with it that we talked about. It's not about rank. It's

  106. not about preeminence. We're supposed to see that one is not above another. I mean, if Jesus is

  107. willing to wash their feet, then shouldn't we be one who is willing to serve those that are around

  108. us as well? Yes, brother. And then Paul also said not to think about not only your own interest.

  109. Again, it's not that we should just totally put ourselves out of the picture and make ourselves

  110. miserable and make ourselves like without anything to make other people above us. But it's like, but

  111. we should be thinking about others instead of just ourselves. And that's where the problem comes in.

  112. A lot of times it's all about just us. There's like examples of maybe you've, this was something

  113. that's talking about somebody the other day, you know, sometimes maybe you're at work and maybe

  114. someone else that does your work is about to have a surgery. I think this was Amanda that actually

  115. brought this up now that I'm thinking of it, but somebody's about to have a surgery and maybe they

  116. do same type of work as you, or maybe them being gone is going to impact you in some way. But

  117. somebody says, oh, I'm going to be gone for two weeks. And your first thought is, oh man, I bet

  118. this is going to put a lot of work on me. And as you start thinking about that, you don't even think

  119. about this person's about to go have surgery on some kind of major thing or whatever it is. And

  120. it's just all about, again, if that thought is what's in your mind is you only thinking about

  121. how does this affect me? You've got a little bit of selfishness in you. And it's, again,

  122. it's not easy for us to see sometimes, but that's the case. Yes, brother. Yeah. Yeah. And just think

  123. about how that really plays out. Cause it seems like, oh, what if I got to go around and just

  124. serve people all the time? I'm never going to get anything. But is it as if he just gave the

  125. command to just me? I mean, what if we all do that? Doesn't that mean we're all going to have

  126. our interests taken care of where, because not only am I serving, but others are going to be

  127. serving it. That's the way that it's supposed to work. It's not just supposed to be a hundred.

  128. There's these group of givers and a group of takers. That's not how it's meant to be. Because

  129. if we all play this out, we're all serving one another with whatever we each need and all our

  130. needs are being taken care of. That's the way that it should work out. It doesn't always because

  131. that's not the case where somebody else is selfish in the picture, but we shouldn't still come from

  132. it from the aspect of, well, if they're going to be selfish, I'm going to be selfish because that

  133. doesn't work. You have something else, Russell? What in our mindset makes us think that we're

  134. above that or somebody else should submit to us or, you know, it just doesn't make sense. But we

  135. get that mindset sometimes. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We have to be a light to the world. We have to

  136. go out and share Christ with others. That's our responsibility to do that. We also do have to be

  137. careful whenever we do it and don't put ourselves in a situation where we might be pulled the other

  138. direction. But yeah, it is our responsibility to do so. Yes. I have a question that, I mean,

  139. and maybe I can get a lot of opinions about this, but you know, when we're tempted, that means that

  140. it's something that we would want. Is that correct? Because I just think about when Jesus was tempted,

  141. he was tempted by Satan that he, you know, for things that were selfish. And so I just wonder

  142. if those were things that actually tempted Jesus. Yeah. Or, and of course he withstood it. Yeah. But to me, that gives me hope, you know, that I could withstand the same. Yeah. Well, and a lot of the things that he was tempted with are really, if you get down to it, the core of it is the core of all things that we're all probably tempted with, whether it's the power aspect or whether it's just to fulfill your needs in that moment. Again, our needs at that moment might be

  143. different than the bread or whatever it is, because we're in whatever situation we're in, but it's still just the core. These are the temptations that we all face. And him being in the human flesh, he would have had those same things, I would think. But anybody else have any comments on that? Yes.

  144. Yeah. How can you talk to somebody if you think you're better than them? And, and yeah, and they can see it. Yeah. And people are pretty perspective or I don't know what the word for that is. Perceptive. There we go. I'm not, I'm not a, I'm not a brilliant vocabulary lister. Even that word is probably not a word. I don't know. But yeah. How can, how can someone, how can you talk to somebody? They're not going to be receptive of it.

  145. I'll just tell you that if they feel that way, they're going to think, who's this person think that they are, you know, to talk to me in that way. Versus if we come to them humbly and in a, in a manner of servant and in a manner of humbleness, somebody is going to maybe see that you are looking out for their best interest. They're going to be a lot more receptive to that for sure. Anything else? Yes.

  146. You know, when you trying to bring people to cars, you're going to approach it in a humble state, you know, not just jack it down the throat. So, and humble is of course, people that claim to not be selfish, but if they know the truth about any particular topic in life, this in our average dealings of life, if you, if you know how to do something and you see someone making a decision that you don't agree with, then you wouldn't want to jab it down the throat.

  147. It would show them that they're doing deliberately wrong.

  148. That's going to make somebody more perceptive to listen to the message in which you're coming to speak.

  149. And that's some of the other things that I have of him putting others before himself, healing and teaching while he was exhausted and had just fed the 5,000 over Mark 6, 33, 44, you know, he was exhausted, but they kept coming to him.

  150. And he just continued to do what they needed to be done.

  151. Everything from the betrayal to him dying on the cross, Matthew 26, 36 through 46, none of that he did do because he wanted to and because it was something of his own that was going to give himself something.

  152. It was all for us.

  153. You know, he said, if possible, take this cup away, but not my will, thy will be done.

  154. He did not do that for him.

  155. He did that for you.

  156. He did that for me.

  157. And the ones even who fell asleep while they were supposed to be standing guard, he did it for them.

  158. He forgave others.

  159. He showed compassion.

  160. He's the perfect example of us, for us, of who we're supposed to be.

  161. You know, how I talked about how James said, if you have this selfishness and you seek your desires, that's not wisdom from above.

  162. That's not who God created us to be.

  163. He created us to be like Christ.

  164. He created us to be more like him.

  165. That's why he is our example to do that.

  166. So the world is going to say, put yourself first.

  167. That's what the world's going to say.

  168. A selfish person says, I'm going to put myself first.

  169. That's what I'm going to do.

  170. But look at what Jesus says.

  171. Turn over to Matthew 16.

  172. Let's look at verses 24 through 28.

  173. Matthew 16, verses 24 through 28.

    Matthew 16:24–28

  174. Then Jesus said to his disciples, if anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself.

  175. You know, that's pretty much the opposite of selfishness.

  176. Take up his cross and follow me.

  177. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it.

  178. But whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.

  179. For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul?

  180. Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?

  181. For the son of man will come in the glory of his father and his angels, and then he will reward each according to his works.

  182. Assuredly I say to you that there are some standing here who shall not taste death till they see the son of man coming in his kingdom.

  183. So Jesus starts out by saying, deny yourself.

  184. And that's what he did.

  185. He put the father's will above his own will.

  186. And he put your interest, what's best for you, above maybe what was going to end up being best for him.

  187. What did Jesus say in Matthew 22, 37 through 40 when asked about the greatest commandment?

  188. What did he say that those greatest commandments were?

  189. He said, you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.

  190. He said, this is the first and great commandment.

  191. And the second one is like it.

  192. You shall love your neighbor as yourself.

  193. And on these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

  194. Did Jesus do that?

  195. Did he love the Lord your God with all his heart, with all his soul, with all his mind?

  196. I believe so.

  197. That's the first and greatest commandment.

  198. And the second one he said, you shall love your neighbor as yourself.

  199. What's that mean?

  200. You're going to think about their interest.

  201. You're going to think about what's best for them.

  202. You're going to do things for them, even if maybe it might cost you something.

  203. He put his will below the father's because he chose the father's over anything.

  204. And he did that because of his love for others.

  205. Jesus said, if you want to follow him, you're going to have to deny yourself.

  206. You're going to have to deny your selfish nature because it's the direct opposite of these two commands.

  207. If you're a selfish person, are you going to love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind?

  208. Pretty unlikely because you're kind of thinking about your needs, your wants, your desires.

  209. And you can't have two. You can't have two masters.

  210. You can't have two gods.

  211. In a selfish person, you're a little bit of your own God.

  212. Is a selfish person going to love your neighbor as yourself?

  213. Pretty unlikely because you love yourself quite a bit.

  214. You don't have a lot to spare, a lot to give to someone else.

  215. The direct opposite of these two commands is being selfish.

  216. And Jesus came and was a perfect example of selflessness.

  217. So now let's talk about now that we've seen some examples of selfishness,

  218. and now we see Jesus as the ultimate example of selflessness and the opposite of selfishness.

  219. Why is it a big deal?

  220. Some might say, what's a big deal to be a little selfish?

  221. What's it really hurt?

  222. But selfishness destroys a lot of things.

  223. And again, as I mentioned, it's the root of all sorts of the struggles that you actually deal with.

  224. Your relationship with others ends up being hurt by it.

  225. Your relationship with God ends up being hurt by it.

  226. You're going to end up being left with just yourself.

  227. And that's not good to be alone.

  228. Why are selfish people not good in relationships?

  229. Because that's what it ultimately it's going to affect your relationships with other people.

  230. It's going to affect those two commandments.

  231. It's going to affect your relationship with God to where you can't love him with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.

  232. It's going to also affect your relationship with your neighbors.

  233. So why is why is being selfish harmful to a relationship?

  234. If maybe don't call out their name, but if you know a selfish person or someone who you feel is selfish,

  235. what are some attributes they have?

  236. Do they listen very well when you talk to them?

  237. Do they like take your advice?

  238. Do they really seem like they care about you when you're talking about them?

  239. Like what she mentioned, whenever you're having a conversation like and you're telling you're spilling out this problem,

  240. maybe you're having a struggle and they're just like, okay.

  241. And then as soon as you get done, they start talking about themselves.

  242. So let me tell you about something I'm going through.

  243. They don't listen well.

  244. So then a relationship is not going to be great with that person.

  245. Sometimes someone becomes defensive whenever they're selfish,

  246. because it's as if you're trying to show them something about themselves that they don't want to change.

  247. They're going to refuse to sacrifice.

  248. So it's a one sided relationship typically with a selfish person.

  249. They're also going to expect constant accommodation,

  250. because again, it's their interest above anyone else's.

  251. You need to accommodate me.

  252. A selfish friend ask,

  253. what can I get from this relationship?

  254. It's one sided.

  255. My relationship with you is a one sided relationship.

  256. Basically, if I'm a selfish person,

  257. a selfless friend ask,

  258. what can I do for this person?

  259. How can I help this person that's in need?

  260. How can I help this person in the situation they're in?

  261. What is it that I can do in this situation to be helpful?

  262. And it doesn't have to be exclusively to the other's benefit,

  263. because remember Paul said that each of you again,

  264. not look out only for your own interests,

  265. but also for the interest of other.

  266. I'm not saying you have to go out and just 100% pour out into other people

  267. and never take care of yourself like what we mentioned,

  268. because we're supposed to look out for our own interests too.

  269. But are you seeking something basically outside of yourself

  270. is the question that you have to ask.

  271. Am I seeking something outside of myself?

  272. Sometimes, occasionally, or am I just solely going through life

  273. and everything that I hear, I'm like, how does this affect me?

  274. What's this going to do to me?

  275. How's it going to benefit me?

  276. If those questions go on in your head a lot,

  277. you might be a little bit of a selfish person.

  278. I almost feel like I'm becoming Jeff Foxworth.

  279. You might be a selfish person.

  280. Just some things to think about.

  281. But it also plays out on an individual level,

  282. but it can play out in a group level as well.

  283. It may be in your work life,

  284. maybe here at the congregation or in the church.

  285. You can also have this same thing.

  286. A selfish Christian might ask,

  287. what does the church do for me?

  288. And a selfless Christian might ask, how can I serve?

  289. What is it that I can do?

  290. How can I be a benefit to the others?

  291. What is there that I can do that can help serve someone else

  292. and help them in whatever way that it might be?

  293. Again, it's basically two completely different mindsets

  294. whenever you think about it.

  295. And we have to get to the point

  296. where we let this mind that was in Christ be in us.

  297. Because I'll tell you, he had one of those mindsets.

  298. It's a drastic mindset difference

  299. between selflessness and selfishness.

  300. And Paul said we're supposed to let this mind be in you,

  301. which was in Christ Jesus.

  302. And you can't have a selfish mindset

  303. and have the same mind as Christ.

  304. Thinking about congregationally,

  305. so just take out the just individually wise,

  306. how can selfishness, if it's in the congregation,

  307. how can it hurt the congregation?

  308. When people choose their interest only, what can happen?

  309. There's one that's a mathematical term, division.

  310. Stagnate and start to die.

  311. You'll end up having division

  312. because that's what selfishness brings.

  313. Again, remember, if you have your desires

  314. and they're not fulfilled,

  315. James said that's what brings the wars and the conflicts among you.

  316. You're going to have division

  317. because somebody's not going to get what they want.

  318. And the person and the people who want that preeminence

  319. and want to have what they want,

  320. they're going to divide themselves among the others.

  321. A selfish person, there's going to be power

  322. or selfishness within a congregation.

  323. There might be power struggles.

  324. There's going to be a lack of unity, division.

  325. There'll be a lot of probably gossip going on.

  326. There'll be lack of service

  327. because serving requires selflessness.

  328. And whenever there's selfishness,

  329. there's going to be a lack of that.

  330. Go over to Romans 12.

  331. We're going to look at verses 9 through 21

  332. at what Paul says here.

  333. And my Bible has a bold heading above it

  334. that says behave like a Christian.

  335. So a congregation that does these things,

  336. that Paul mentions in Romans 12, 9 through 21,

  337. it's going to help them to fight off

  338. what might happen if selfishness is involved.

  339. So let's look at all these verses,

  340. Romans 12, 9 through 21,

  341. and look at what he says.

  342. See which ones don't jive with selfishness.

  343. Verse 9, he says,

  344. let love be without hypocrisy.

  345. What is love with hypocrisy?

  346. There's conditions to it.

  347. There's I'll love you if maybe you love me,

  348. and that's it.

  349. Selfishness leads one to love only what benefits them.

  350. I'll love you if you do what I'm asking you to do.

  351. Arbor what is evil, cling to what is good.

  352. Jesus said in Matthew 5, 46,

  353. for if you love those who love you,

  354. what reward have you?

  355. Don't even the tax collectors do the same.

  356. So those first couple of verses,

  357. love without hypocrisy,

  358. that doesn't jive with selflessness.

  359. Sincerity.

  360. Yeah.

  361. Yeah.

  362. Verse 10, be kindly affectionate to one another

  363. with brotherly love and honor.

  364. Give preference to one another.

  365. Give preference to one another.

  366. Not lagging in diligence,

  367. fervent in spirit,

  368. serving in the Lord,

  369. rejoicing in hope,

  370. patient in tribulation,

  371. continue steadfastly in prayer,

  372. distributing to the needs of the saints,

  373. given to hospitality.

  374. That probably doesn't jive with selfishness.

  375. Bless those who persecute you.

  376. Bless and do not curse.

  377. Rejoice with those who do rejoice.

  378. Weep with those who weep.

  379. Be of the same mind toward one another.

  380. Do not set your mind on high things,

  381. but associate with the humble.

  382. Do not be wise in your own opinion.

  383. I mean, over and over,

  384. none of those jive with selfishness.

  385. Repay no one evil for evil.

  386. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men.

  387. If it's possible, as much as depends on you,

  388. live peaceably with all men.

  389. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves,

  390. but rather give place to wrath.

  391. For it is written, vengeance is mine.

  392. I will repay, says the Lord.

  393. Therefore, if your enemy is hungry, feed him.

  394. If he's thirsty, give him a drink.

  395. For in doing so, you will reap heaps of fire on his head.

  396. Do not be overcome by evil,

  397. but overcome evil with good.

  398. Tons of things in there.

  399. Under the heading, again, in mind,

  400. it says behave like a Christian.

  401. Behave like Christ.

  402. Attributes that we should have

  403. individually and congregationally.

  404. And almost all of them, if not all of them,

  405. are the opposite of selfishness.

  406. Verse 10 probably says it as plain as any of them.

  407. Be kindly affectionate to one another

  408. with brotherly love and honor,

  409. and give preference to one another.

  410. To me, that's a different way of saying

  411. put others above yourselves.

  412. That verse destroys selfishness

  413. and tells us how to effectively be a person

  414. as an individual, a group of people

  415. that are going to flourish

  416. under that wisdom that's from above,

  417. God's wisdom,

  418. and not the wisdom from below.

  419. Love one another, honor one another,

  420. give preference to one another.

  421. That means I'm not going to demand my own way.

  422. I'm going to honor other people.

  423. I'm going to show humility when it's needed.

  424. That's what I need to do.

  425. That's how I have the mind of Christ inside of me

  426. because that's how he was.

  427. That's the example he gave us.

  428. So how do we overcome it?

  429. We'll finish with this.

  430. How do we overcome selfishness?

  431. If we struggle with it, how do we fight it?

  432. What are some ways that we can fight selfishness?

  433. Serve other people.

  434. Serve others intentionally.

  435. Serve even when you get no credit.

  436. Serve when you get no attention.

  437. Serve when you get no praise.

  438. That's what reveals the heart of your servanthood

  439. because you're not doing it for those things.

  440. You're doing it because you want to.

  441. Yes?

  442. Serving others is one way.

  443. I've got practice gratitude.

  444. Selfish people are going to focus on what they like,

  445. what they don't have.

  446. Grateful people focus on what they do have

  447. and it causes them to be less selfish.

  448. Learn humility

  449. because humility is going to tell you

  450. the one thing that I said is at the center of it

  451. or at the definition of it is

  452. you're not the center of the universe.

  453. You're not the creator of the universe.

  454. You need to be humble

  455. and realize who you are.

  456. Put God first daily

  457. because when you put Him first daily

  458. that means you're not putting who first daily?

  459. Yourself.

  460. So that's a good way to get yourself out of the mindset of

  461. I'm not here to serve myself.

  462. I'm here to serve Him.

  463. When you put God first

  464. it takes away that

  465. selfishness seed that grows into

  466. that tells you that you are first.

  467. Yes, Kevin?

  468. Yeah.

  469. The more you think about

  470. that was my next deal was think about others.

  471. The more we're thinking outside of ourselves

  472. the more it's going to train us to not think about

  473. inwardly just ourselves.

  474. Again, not that we don't need to think about ourselves

  475. but we don't need to think just about ourselves.

  476. Before speaking or acting on things

  477. maybe ask the questions

  478. how is this going to affect other people?

  479. Because again, if you are thinking about other people

  480. it's going to cause you to think differently

  481. am I acting out of love or am I acting out of selfishness?

  482. Am I doing these things because it benefits only me

  483. or there's that motive behind it of it's just about me

  484. or am I acting out of because I feel like this is what

  485. is needed in this situation

  486. even if it costs me something

  487. or am I also demanding my own way?

  488. Think about that when you're thinking about others as well.

  489. So selfishness, again, one of the greatest enemies

  490. of spiritual maturity

  491. it's going to destroy homes

  492. it's going to destroy friendships

  493. it's going to destroy churches

  494. it's going to destroy ultimately your relationship with God

  495. that's what it's going to do.

  496. But Christianity calls us to do something higher.

  497. Paul said in Galatians 2.20

  498. I have been crucified with Christ

  499. it is no longer I who live

  500. but Christ lives in me

  501. and the life which I now live in the flesh

  502. I live by faith in the Son of God

  503. who loved me and gave himself for me.

  504. What Paul is saying there to me is

  505. my life is no longer about me.

  506. He came to that realization.

  507. My life is not about me.

  508. It's no longer a life of self-centered living

  509. but it's a life of Christ-centered living.

  510. That's what we're supposed to be.

  511. The real question for you to ask at the end of this particular study

  512. with this struggle and even the other ones

  513. that we discussed

  514. is not really

  515. am I lazy sometimes?

  516. Yes, I'm lazy sometimes.

  517. Am I angry sometimes?

  518. Yeah, I'm angry sometimes.

  519. Am I prideful sometimes?

  520. Yes.

  521. Do I gossip sometimes?

  522. Maybe so.

  523. Do I swear occasionally?

  524. Am I critical?

  525. Do I love money?

  526. The answer to that question

  527. is that we are all likely a yes

  528. on all those

  529. sometimes

  530. because we all struggle with them.

  531. The real question is

  532. to deal with these struggles

  533. the answer is the same for all of them.

  534. Who am I living my life for?

  535. Am I living my life for myself

  536. or for God?

  537. Paul said it is no longer I who live

  538. but Christ who lives in me.

  539. That's the goal of the Christian life.

  540. Less self, more Christ.

  541. That's what we're supposed to be doing

  542. as we're walking on this earth.

  543. Less self, more Christ.

  544. That's the transformation

  545. that if we allow to take place

  546. the laziness, the anger,

  547. the pridefulness,

  548. the being overly critical,

  549. the being selfish,

  550. the love of money,

  551. it all gets dealt with

  552. if it's less self, more Christ.

  553. That's the transformation that needs to take place.

  554. That's why I said

  555. selfishness is the root

  556. of all sins and struggles

  557. because it's really too much self

  558. and too little Christ

  559. that's in us.

  560. We don't have that mind in us.

  561. We're not practicing the things that he has showed us.

  562. We're not letting him be the example.

  563. We're not letting him lead us.

  564. That's the goal ultimately.

  565. Transformed

  566. into what Christ has shown us

  567. and become more like him.

  568. If any struggle,

  569. maybe we didn't cover

  570. whatever that main struggle is

  571. that you're dealing with

  572. in this class and this quarter,

  573. the answer is still the same for all of them.

  574. More Christ, less self.

  575. It helps you deal with all those.

  576. Appreciate y'all's comments on the quarter.

  577. Appreciate you sticking through it.

  578. And again, I've helped you achieve

  579. at least the conquering of one struggle,

  580. making it through my class.