Ep 391 | A Godly Wife and Mother - Frank Brancato 5-9-21

It's good to be here with all of you today.

I have on the screen here, the passages under consideration in

First Peter chapter 3 and beginning there in verse 1.

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And you might remember that about four years ago, I taught

on these passages but I just thought today especially as

today is Mother's Day, that these would be passages that

would be helpful to us and encouraging to us as we've given

our lesson a title. And that is a Godly wife.

And mother are passages are found in First Peter chapter 3.

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Three and as we begin in verse 1, we will read wives, likewise,

be submissive to your own husband's that.

Even if some do not obey the word, they without a word, may

be won by the conduct of their wives.

When they observe your chaste, conduct accompanied by fear, do

not let your adornment be merely outward.

Arranging the hair wearing gold or putting on a fine apparel,

but rather let it be the hidden person of the heart with the The

Incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is very

precious in the sight of God. May I just say that the two

great decisions that we have to make in life?

That are the most important decisions we will ever make.

Number one is our decision to obey the gospel and become a

Christian. There's no greater decision that

we will ever make. But the second great decision

that will determine so many things in our life, especially

our happiness is who were going to marry.

And if you as a man, find the right woman that is a Godly wife

and Godly mother. You are extremely blessed.

So valuable a Godly wife and mother.

I want to talk about these passages for just a little

while, but first of all, as we go to verse one, verse one

wives, likewise be submissive to your own husband's a little bit

of background here. When Peter begins with the word

likewise, what he's talking about is a continuation from

what he just said. In the second chapter Peter said

to be submissive to Civil Authorities.

He's he also said Masters be submissive to your or servants

be submissive to your Masters. So what he's saying here is

likewise be submissive to your own husbands and these are

talking about wipes you know I have to make a point here.

This passage is not talking about somebody that marry

somebody. That's not a Christian.

The background is this. There are two people that are

married and they hear the gospel, the wife obeys.

The gospel becomes a faithful child of God but the husband has

not done so. So what Peter's talking about is

he's talking about, what should your relationship be?

And what are your duties? As those wives he says wives in

this category? Wise, be submissive to your own

husbands. Now I got to say sometimes

people think that submission is an act of weakness sometimes

people even say this putting somebody in their place, there

is nothing more unscriptural than the interpretation of a

woman being in submission or subjection.

There's nothing more unscriptural than interpreting.

It like this, that the woman is to get in her place, that is not

found in the Bible. In fact, this word submission is

found in the King James version as subjection.

It is this Greek word here and it means to arrange under or

Subordinate. Now here's where it's an act of

strength. It's a willful act.

I'm going to tell you something. Jesus thought it not robbery to

be counted equal with God but made himself of no reputation.

There's no greater example than Jesus who made the willful act

of submission to God and God's plan in the scheme of

redemption. Jesus was a strongest man that

ever lived not weak at all, he submitted himself.

What else did Jesus do? He made himself to be for a

time, a little lower than the Angels so that he could die and

All that means is this it didn't mean that the Angels were

greater than Jesus. It meant that the Angels were

ones who could not die. So therefore, he made himself

lower than the Angels like a human being because we can die.

That was a willful act of strength.

It's the same kind of connotation about wives being in

submission to their husbands. It is a willful act Peters

teaching is in perfect, Accord with Paul's instructions in

Ephesians, chapter 5, listen to this wives, submit yourself to

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your own husband's as to the Lord, for the husband, is the

head of the wife. As also Christ is the head of

the church, and he is the savior of the body.

Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ.

So let the wives be to their own husband's in everything.

One more passage Colossians chapter 3 and beginning in verse

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18 wives, submit yourself to your own husband's as is fitting

in the Lord. Husbands love your wife and do

not be bitter toward them. You know this is God's plan.

I heard somebody say one time. Yeah, I know it says all that

but times have changed and I really think God wants us to use

our heads. You know, that's not found in

the Bible. If God said for me to do

something or any of us to do something, it really doesn't

matter what we think about it. We might think that by way of

our own wisdom and our own human reasoning, we might think that

it's a better idea to do something else.

That's not the point. The point is, it's about what

God wants and what God Said is in the structure of this

marriage relationship that a woman would be submissive to

their own husband's. That a husband would love his

wife. As Christ.

Also loved the church, it's a willful act.

Therefore it's nothing of inferiority.

It's an act of Courage, obedience and strength.

Have you ever considered that the woman's role is a position

of Courage, obedience, and strength.

Absolutely. So Even if the husband is not a

Christian, First Corinthians 7:2, Paul gave the physical side

1 Corinthians 7:2

of the physical reasons, he said, nevertheless, because of

sexual immorality. Let each man have his own wife

and let each woman have her own husband.

Now, Peter is now giving reasons on the spiritual level and here

they are, here's the reasons on the spiritual level that even if

some do not obey the word very important here.

Okay? The Word obey is a word that

describes as Thayer says, somebody that absolutely will

not be subjected to what is said.

In other words, here's somebody that hears, the word of God,

they hear what the Bible says, and by the way, that's the

gospel, but they absolutely will not submit to it.

That's what he's saying. So here's the picture, you have

a Godly Christian woman, she's a faithful member of the Lord's

Church. You have a husband that wants

absolutely nothing to do with it.

In fact, when he heard the word of God, he has rejected it at

least for a Time. But look at the power of a Godly

wife. Notice right here.

In fact, one scholar said these husbands were obstinate non

persuadable. They were the type that would

not listen to reason and Peter says this, even if some do not

obey the word, they without a word may be won by the conduct

of their wives. Now, we have to make a couple

points here about what has the power to save.

Peter's not saying that a woman has the power to save because

you know what, nobody in the world has the power to save.

We can be an influence on people, but nothing in the world

has the power to save accept the gospel.

Paul said, in Romans 1:16 for, I am not ashamed of the gospel of

Romans 1:16

Christ for it is the power of God unto salvation to everyone

who believes to the Jew first and also to the Gentile, or the

Greek as the King James says. So in that we understand the

word of God, only the word of God has the power to save but

look at the power of a Godly life of his wife.

He heard the word of God. At one point wants nothing to do

with it, but he may be won by the conduct of their wife

without her saying a word. That's what that means.

Now, I'm going to tell you, when you look at the King James

version on this passage, it says this that even if some do not

obey the word, they without the word may be won by the conduct

of their wives, it seems a little confusing.

But what he's talking about is this not obeying the word of

God, but they will in the future.

Perhaps, without the woman saying a word May be persuaded

to hear the gospel again and Obey it down the line because

the gospel is the only thing that has the power to save what

we're saying is this. The silent.

But powerful persuasion of a believing Behavior has the power

to do great things. One man said one time that Godly

conduct is more powerful. Than persistent speech.

Now that brings us to verse 2 when they observe your chaste

conduct accompanied by fear. You know this words, observe is

in the King James it says behold and it's only found in the

Epistle of Peter. It's only found in First Peter

and it's found in two places. It's found right here and it's

also founded. I'll read you the passage in 1st

Peter chapter 2 and verse 12. Listen to this.

Having your conduct honorable among the Gentiles that when

they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good

works which they observe glorify God.

In the day of visitation what a powerful passage that even

people, that would criticize you and speak evil of you.

You live your life in such a way that they'll be ashamed.

When they see how you live, it'll make everything that

they're saying by way of an evildoer false.

And What else? They may even have an

opportunity to observe you, therefore glorify God in the day

of visitation? What does it mean in the day of

visitation? Well, if you look back into the

Old Testament, you find the day of visitation where oftentimes,

as, when God came and judgment but here in that passage and

found in the New Testament, it's talking about the offer of

Salvation. So notice this you live your

life in such a way that when people in the world, observe

your life, they will be. Shame that would falsely accuse

you absolutely as an evildoer. But what else?

It will have the power or the influence that when they hear

the word of God, the day of visitation, they'll obey it and

become a Christian. Now, that's the same thing as

the wife. But what are they going to

observe those husbands? First of all, they're chased

conduct accompanied by fear. Chased means pure from Fault

Immaculate, and by the way, That doesn't mean perfect.

It doesn't mean perfect being Immaculate means free from

accusation. So what he's saying is this when

your husband's continually observe, your chaste, or pure

from fault or or Immaculate conduct, it will have that kind

of power fear. They are says, is the term of

reverence and respect. So, in conclusion of that,

thought the immaculate Life manifested by Godly living will

be seen by the Believing partner who otherwise would never see

the word of God. But the word of God is the only

thing that has the power to save, but The Godly life of a

Christian spouse can lead the unbeliever to respond and listen

to the gospel and Obey it in the future.

All right, all of that is now the foundational proportion.

In general of our lesson. Now we go to verse 3 and

sometimes verse 3 is very much misunderstood.

So let's begin verse 3. Do not let your adornment be

merely outward. Arranging the hair wearing gold

or putting on fine apparel. The Christian wife is not to

depend on outward, adornment to win her husband.

To Christ her adornment Rises From Within it, comes from what

is on the inside. And by the way, what you are in

every way on the inside is what you will be on the outside.

Side. In every way.

Sometimes people say the, I know he does all this stuff.

But he has a really good heart. Really.

If you're good on the inside, it will manifest itself as good on

the outside. You can't say I am one way when

really, I'm not and you can't separate your behavior and your

choices and your actions from what you are on the inside, they

go hand in hand. So what he's saying is this, you

wives, do not let the adornment be merely outward.

It's what is on the inside. So three distinct areas.

Now, here they are the way she wears her hair, the jewelry.

She selects and the Carol that she puts on now here it says the

adorned merely outward arranging of the hair but we also find

that that word is to plate or be either woven or braiding.

According to the King James version and by the way, this

doesn't mean that a girl cannot braid her hair.

Not with that means at all. fact, I used to say this one

Taylor was little Wherever she would have some activity.

Need to have her hair braided, I would do it.

I can why you get it tight, you know, when you grew up riding

horses, tails you figure out how to do that.

So I learned how to do that. Breda tell you can braid some

hair and I was good at it because I got a real tight.

Real tight braids. Is that what that's talking

about is it forbidden for a woman to braid her hair?

Absolutely not. Let's notice what it actually

means. According to the King James

version, it is called plating or boarding abroad.

Bring the hair. Now, in 1st, Timothy Chapter 2

and beginning in verse 9, Paul said this.

In like manner also that the woman Adorn themselves in modest

apparel with propriety and moderation.

Not with broided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing but

which is proper for women. Professing godliness.

Now, evidently Paul is giving insight into the extravagant

excesses among women in the first century.

Roman Empire noticed what mr. Vincent said and I quote The

attendants will vote on the dressing of the hair as if a

question of reputation, or of life worth steak.

So great is the trouble. She takes in quest of Beauty

with so many tears. Does she load?

I tried to figure out what that look like.

We're so many tears, does she load with so many continuous

stories? Does she build up on high her

head? She is.

As tall as and Rumaki in front. Which by the way, was the Greek

mythology. The Wife of Hector captured by

the Greeks at the white at the fall of Troy, in the front

behind she's shorter, you would think her another person.

That's somebody that went out of their way to do something by way

of a personal outward. Look Clement of Alexandria.

Said, this first century women were given to Great Extremes in

braiding and plaiting, their hair, gold and silver were

intertwined and twisted within the strands with pearls.

Now, this is what Peter and Paul is condemning not by braiding.

The hair, would you talking about?

He's talking about This he's talking about stuck in the hair.

Mile-high with all of this show and then interweaving Pearl and

gold and all of that in it, an outward show.

In other words, don't try to win your husband to Christ by the

outward show. And I want to make a side point

here. This is talking about in

context, somebody that's a Christian trying to convert

their non converted spouse. But there's a secondary thought

here. Is there not If you're a young

lady, don't try to attract a young boy by doing the same

things. Let it be on the inward side,

and we're going to get more to that in just a minute, but never

let it be from an outward show. Paul said, Peter says, don't do

that. Don't let it be that which is on

the out side. Now, the wearing of gold wearing

is to put around or hang down according to mr.

Thayer now, it seems as though in passing by That there is a

general prohibit prohibition to wearing gold but that's not the

case. That's not the context in the

Greek text at all wearing gold. It was the adornment of the

golden ornaments that were placed around the head or the

body. And the Greek text really is

talking about that is talking about lavish conspicuous

displays of jewelry, the wearing of jewelry is not forbidden for

a Ian woman, but garlic gaudy, elaborate displays of expensive.

Jewelry is the same thing. As the artificial manner of

wearing the hair and then he says this.

So don't do that. Don't Let It Be by way of

arranging, the hair, or wearing gold.

But then he says this, or putting on of fine apparel.

The Greek uses two words for clothing.

One word is clothing to protect and cover the body.

That's not the word here in this passage.

The other is a word that describes clothing, that is

ornate, its decorative with complex patterns or fancy and so

on and so forth. The putting on of apparel is not

to be understood unconditionally prohibited just like braiding

the hair or wearing gold. They're not unconditionally

prohibitive. So, The point is this Christian

women are not to depend on outward adornment to win their

husbands and their adornment must come from the Christian

heart and that brings us to verse 4.

Here it is. This is what how we should do.

So But let it be the hidden person of the heart.

Now, what's the heart sometimes in the Bible?

Heart refers to your deep feelings.

Like when you would say, for example, I love you with all of

my heart or when Paul was writing to Philemon and wanted

Philemon to forgive onesimus. He says, this is my whole heart,

in other words, that's the deepest part of my feelings.

That's not the word heart hear the word heart and this passage

is talking about intelligence reason and will So let it be

from the intelligence reason and will the hidden man of the heart

First Corinthians 4:16? Therefore, we do not lose heart.

1 Corinthians 4:16

Even though our outward man is perishing yet the inward man is

being renewed day by day by the word of God.

So, the Inner Man of the heart is, what is under consideration?

In other words, as Christians, Christians clothing should be

consistent with the Purity and beauty of the Lord who, dwells

in his, or her heart. I want to say something.

You know. To the young ladies.

And by the way, the end of this little lesson is my favorite

part. Because we're going to talk

about how valuable our precious daughters are, that's my

favorite part of this whole thing.

Okay, can't wait to get there but I want to say something to

the young lady's right now. if you have to dress a certain way,

To attract a boy, he ain't for you.

We don't need him here in worthy.

And if you feel like you what to do that to attract the boy, A

little problem with the heart. We don't want to do that when we

get our heart, right? If a boy cannot look at you and

see the inner beauty that you are as a child of God, we don't

need him around. He ain't for us.

And remember this, remember this, the hidden man of the

heart. What's on the inside?

Again, will manifest itself on the outside?

And may I also say this, if we're having trouble with being

modest, Fitting in and I'm going to say this to listen, I'm

almost 55 years old, had been that long ago, that I was a

young person to. And when I was a young person, I

know how peer pressure's come down and you want to fit in.

And sometimes you feel alienated and ostracized, because you

don't feel like you fit in, I get it.

It's sometimes hard to stand and be the outsider, right?

I get it. But I'm going to tell you

something folks, if we're having struggles with that, because

there is a way to dressed. It's worldly.

There's a way to dress that's in modest.

And if we do that, we struggle with that, it's because we're

struggling with the heart. Got to fix it on the inside and

a precious godly woman is what's important.

And may I say this too. Don't ever think you have to

settle or compromise. Oh, I better compromise or I'm

never going to get a spouse. No.

Be the Christian. You should be be the best person

that you could be. Let Jesus come forth in your

life and other see it and somewhere along the line.

You may find somebody that's worthy of you.

I got to tell you I was going to say this at the wedding when

Taylor and way got married, but I start bawling, I could have

done it. But I went up, I cut it out.

She doesn't even know this, but I cut it out and I was going to

say that. I, when Taylor was born, I

remember, I remember when she came out and I got to go into

the NICU unit with her, and I remember I couldn't stop crying.

I was so thankful that I had a little girl.

And I'm going to take something as a dad.

I don't know if a greater gift that have a daughter.

I just don't incredible. And I now have a little girl.

And I thought man there's nobody in this world going to be worthy

of that, little girl. Nobody. and then when Wade came

along, I started praying for it because that's the right kind of

man that will see my daughter to understand.

Hey, I Loved Her First and God loves her too.

And Jesus loves her too. And a man that is willing to see

those things. That's what's important.

They are worthy of their affection, their love and their

worthy of having those Godly women for their wife.

Don't ever settle. Don't ever ever settle a

Christians clothing. Should be consistent with the

Purity and beauty of the Lord who dwells in their heart.

Now I want to say this now What is the importance of a wife or

the importance of the role of a mother?

And a wife, how important is that?

We bring up our daughters to Aspire to fulfill that role.

And I got to tell you, we spend a lot of time, don't we?

We need to, we need to bring up young boys at they'll be

teachers in the church. That true.

Yeah, well, we need some evangelists reason preachers.

We got to train, those guys to be preachers that true.

Yeah, we need to get those guys that want to be elders.

And Dickens, in the Lord's church, is that important.

Absolutely, you've heard my series on that, and I said that

a person is going to be a deacon or an elder.

Someday has to purpose in their mind Wayne Advance before when

they're young to be a Godly person and pursue it is all that

true. Yes, it is.

We spend a lot of time talking about the young men because of

this passage right here. Psalm 144 and 12 that our sons

may be as plants grown up in their youth.

Is that true? Absolutely true.

Absolutely true in the Hebrew, by the way, you know, it says in

the Hebrew, it says they'll be grown large in their youth.

The meaning the direct meaning of that is they'll cut become

Stout, strong, and vigorous and well-formed, even early in life.

One scholar said it like this. He offered this paraphrase.

I love this. Make our sons in their Prime, be

like, sturdy, Oaks in other words, not going out in sowing,

their Wild, Oats, as it were, but being strong in the Lord in

their youth. You know, I'm going to tell you

something, I don't know anybody. Including me.

I don't know anybody that reflects back on their youth.

Without at least a little bit of regret.

Right. I mean, if you can say that you

look back on your youth with no regret more power to you, I

can't I haven't made every decision, just right.

So is it important that we understand this?

Absolutely. We need those young men to grow

up as plants grown up in their youth.

Be strong oak trees. Absolutely, we need to do that.

That's true. But the second part is what I

love so much. One translation.

Renders it like this. Look at this, our daughters will

be like carved columns shapely as those of the temple.

The new English version, adds this crucial picture.

Look at this. It says, our daughters will be

like Corner, pillars, carved, like those in a pelops before I

go any further, let me ask you something.

Young ladies daughters. Do you have even a clue as to

how valuable you are? How necessary you are.

Look, not only about the young boys, but what about this?

Our daughters will be carved. Like, carved column shapely and

of those of the temple, our daughters will be like Corner

pillars and the King. James know, it says they'll be

Corner Stones. That's pretty important in it.

You know, that words being used to that Cornerstone words.

Been used again with the Lord. When you talk about the church,

the kingdom and Jesus is the chief Corner Stone, same

language about the home. Cornerstones.

I want to read you something bear with me while I read it

all. Listen to this, listen to what

was being described by way of Bible palaces back in those

days. Listen to this.

In Bible times, Palace has contained a number of large

columns. They were both decorative and

weight-bearing. The most expensive columns were

cut from Marble. They were highly polished and

carefully put in place. The most important of those

columns were placed at the intersection of two or more

walls. These core columns were crucial

because they held everything together.

The master Craftsman would take extra time, choosing the best

materials working overtime, to produce a stone that's cut to

exact measurements and Polished to a high degree of Brilliance.

If they were cut wrong or play strong, the entire building

would be unsound but when properly placed, they became the

foundation and Connecting Point for everything else.

Don't be deceived though by the emphasis on beauty and Grace.

These columns were Not Mere ornaments added to please the

eye. They were Corner pillars that

held the palace together and folks such is the image of Godly

daughters. They're like highly polished

carefully, chosen perfectly placed Corner columns that hold

together. The palace where the king,

dwells such a noble goal for our daughters to raise a polished

Corner pillar That will one day hold her family together with

strength, and joy, and love and laughter, having a contagious

faith in Jesus Christ. Yes.

As I've stated God's base, God's best gift to any man is a Godly

woman of strength and beauty. Her worth is far more above

rubies. Such a woman is truly God's

Masterpiece. And I like, what one man said,

one time about the family He said the father is the head of

the home? But the mother.

Is the heart. And the children.

Are the hope. The structure in God's eyes, or

how it should be. Make no mistake about it.

Young ladies, when you grow up, you don't have a role.

That is inferior. You just have a different one

that's all and you're not inferior.

And any way shape, or form, in fact, you realize, how valuable

you are. I'm going to tell you right now,

man. Can't do anything to their

maximum capacity without the right woman in their Corner.

Can't happen. You know the old saying behind

every good man is a good woman. Oh, that is so true.

So true. So we need to raise our

daughters, to be those kind of women.

Let it be the inner part of the heart that attracts others.

And not only did Peter say you can win your unbelieving spouse

or even. That's the kind of person that

you'll attract one day for you. As you are the right woman, that

godly woman in your own, I'm finished this morning.

Thank you for your kind listening, to what we had to

consider. And I hope something was said,

that was edifying to you in some way.

Encouraging to you in some way. Way a Godly wife and mother.

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