Sermon
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
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During family devotions at dinner, I usually read the
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sermon passage that's going to be preached and I teach on it
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briefly. I mean like 60 seconds.
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My kids are all under 6 and I need to keep their attention.
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Then right before we sing, I'll ask them, do you have any
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questions? This week, the kids set a new
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record for questions after family devotions.
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Questions regarding this sermon passage.
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Specifically, a lot of questions about death.
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What is death? What does it look like when
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someone dies? What happens when we die?
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Why do people die? When will we die?
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For my kids, death remains opaque.
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It's abstract off in the distance, but I know that death
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will eventually show its face. For generations before us, death
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was concrete. It was experience lived a shadow
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over your life ever looming. Just a few generations ago, the
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average life expectancy was the late 30s.
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Without modern medicine, you never knew what would happen
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when someone you loved caught a cold.
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For example, the Puritan Thomas Boston buried six children
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before they reached their 2nd birthday.
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John Owen, another Puritan, outlived every single one of his
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eleven children and also his first wife, meaning Owen buried
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nearly every person he loved. How do you face the death of of
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a loved one? What can you do with all your
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grief in the face of death? Is there any hope?
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Friends, today we're considering a letter the Apostle Paul wrote
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to Christians wrestling with these very questions.
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If you're a Christian because Jesus died and rose again, you
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have hope. Not some opiate of the masses as
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Karl Marx famously accused religion of being, but real
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objective hope in the face of death.
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Because Christ, who rose from the dead will return, and when
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he does, he will evict death and all his friends.
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Turn your Bible to 1st Thessalonians.
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If you don't have a Bible, just raise your hand.
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There's some Bibles back there. There's a friend ready to bring
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you a Bible right now. Just raise your hand.
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We've been studying the letter the Apostle Paul wrote to the
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Church of Thessalonica just 20 years or so after Christ rose
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from the dead. They were a one year old church
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plant that Paul planted in a Pagan city and they were
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struggling. Why were they struggling, you
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might wonder? They were persecuted by the
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world. They were tempted by Satan, and
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in chapter 4, we'll see they also faced the last enemy,
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death. In chapter 4, we learn that
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death took the lives of believers in Thessalonica.
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They needed to know that the gospel has something to say to
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those burdened with grief. Look at chapter 4, verses 13 to
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18. Listen as I read God's word.
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But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about
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those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who
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have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus
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died and rose again, Even so, through Jesus God will bring
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with him those who have fallen asleep.
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For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord, that we who
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are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not
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precede those who have fallen asleep.
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For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a cry
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of command, with the voice of an Archangel, and with the sound of
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the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise
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first. Then we who are alive, who are
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left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet
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the Lord in the air. And so we will always be with
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the Lord. Therefore, encourage one another
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with these words. Now there are some more complex
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parts of this passage if you get into the details, but overall
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this passage is very simple. It's like a sandwich.
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It begins. Look at verse 13 with Paul's
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pastoral concern. Paul does not want the
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Thessalonians to be uninformed about those who are asleep, the
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Christians, the members of their church who had died.
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He does not want the Thessalonians to grieve without
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hope. And the passage ends.
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Look at verse 18 with Paul's pastoral exhortation.
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He wants the Thessalonians to do something with this word.
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He says, therefore, encourage one another with these words.
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In other words, Paul wants them to help one another.
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Hope in the face of death. Hope in what?
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Look at the middle. The meat of the sandwich.
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Verses 14 to 17. Hope in Christ in the face of
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death, the grounds of their hope, the reason for their
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encouragement. Verse 14 Jesus died and rose
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again. Verses 15 to 17 Jesus will
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return. Paul shows the Thessalonians how
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the gospel transforms our grief. Here's the main point of the
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passage. One sentence.
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In the face of death, help one another grieve with hope.
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In the face of death, help one another.
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Grieve with hope. Here's where we're going.
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It's four points .1 Grieve with hope.
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That's verse 13. Grieve with hope .2 Hope in
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Christ's death and resurrection. Verse 14.3 Hope in Christ's
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return, verses 15 to 17. And finally, .4 Help one another
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hope. Verse 18.1, verse 13.
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Grieve with hope. Look at verse 13 again.
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But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about
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those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who
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have no hope. Paul states two concerns in
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verse 13. He doesn't want the
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Thessalonians to be ignorant. He doesn't want them to be
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hopeless. He doesn't want them to be
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ignorant about those who are asleep.
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Sleep is one way the scripture talks about death.
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It's a fitting picture because sleep implies an awakening.
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Daniel 12/2 says those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall
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awake, some to everlasting life, some to shame and everlasting
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contempt. Physical death is temporary.
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Death is always followed by resurrection, some to eternal
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life, some to eternal judgment, And so cemeteries are rightfully
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called dormitories of the dead. You went to bed last night.
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Maybe you nodded off as you read a book.
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Then your alarm went off. Or the kids came in and you
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awoke this morning from hopefully a good night's sleep.
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In the same way, when you die after they've buried you in the
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ground, perhaps even after you've returned to the dust
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itself, you will eventually awaken.
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Sleep is an especially sweet picture of the believer's death.
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That's who Paul's talking about in verse 13.
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Specifically, those who are asleep is referring to
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Christians. Sometimes Hannah and I debate
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about who gets to wake up our daughter from her nap.
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If she's still asleep, we might say, I'll go wake her up.
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Or the other one might say, no, no, no, I'll go this time
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because it's so sweet. We walk in, we rub her back.
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We say, hey, it's time to wake up.
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We're going to see in verses 15 to 17 that Christ himself will
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wake each believer up from their sleep.
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Paul does not want them to be ignorant.
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Paul also doesn't want them to grieve as others do who have no
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hope. These ideas are connected.
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If they're ignorant about those who are asleep, they'll be
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hopeless. In other words, they'll grieve
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without hope. Notice the distinction Paul
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makes verse 13. He doesn't say don't grieve.
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He doesn't say mature Christians.
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They don't grieve, he says. Don't grieve as others do.
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Paul distinguishes between worldly grief and godly grief,
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between grief without hope and grief mingled with hope.
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Worldly grief is grief without hope.
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The world offers many cures for grief.
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One strategy is avoidance. Just ignore death, deny it.
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Move cities, going a long vacation, Bury yourself in work,
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find a new hobby. This is nothing new.
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Blaise Pascal, writing 400 years ago, said being unable to cure
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death, men have decided in order to be happy not to think about
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such things, just ignore it. Another strategy, perhaps more
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common, is wishful thinking. Some non Christians face the
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death of their loved ones with great confidence.
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They say things like I, I like to think that they're in a
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better place. Well, if there's a God, then
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surely he knows they're a good person.
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But friends, if that's you, these are just fantasies.
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They're fiction. Some harden their hearts in the
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face of death. They refuse to mourn the loss of
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someone they love. They suppress their grief.
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Ignore it. But to suppress grief is
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inhuman. It's unnatural.
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The human heart cannot remain unaffected in the face of death.
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Still others let their grief consume them.
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Their grief destroys them. They become untethered to
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reality itself, frozen in time, unable to move.
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Every worldly cure for grief can distract for a time, but can
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never cleanse the wound. They can never fully heal.
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They can offer no hope. If you're not a Christian, you
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should be able to see a difference between the world and
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the church at our funerals. Godly grief is mingled with
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hope. Christianity, and only
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Christianity, offers true comfort in the face of death.
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Grief is the right response to death.
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Remember Jesus at Lazarus's tomb?
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He wept. He wept because he loved his
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friend. He wept because he hated death.
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Christ's tears instruct us Christians of our duty to
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grieve. When we lose a beloved member of
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our church to death, we must grieve.
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Grief is hard work. Grief doesn't hurry.
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Grief doesn't keep to our timelines.
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Grief doesn't schedule appointments on our calendar.
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But grief is the only way to face death.
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We grieve because death is not the way things are supposed to
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be. We grieve because death is a
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result of sin. We grieve because death is the
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last enemy. In the face of death, we grieve,
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but we grieve with hope. Friend, what's your hope in
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today? Hope is confident expectation
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about the future. But hope as you know, it's
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something that can so easily slip through our fingers or
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evaporate like mist before our eyes.
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It can crumble before us. A longing for marriage can end
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during engagement. A student plans to pass an exam,
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but the results arrive in the future they've worked so hard
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for disappears. An athlete trains twice a day
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for years to make the team, but just one twist of the body and
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their season ends in injury. Is there a hope in the face of
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death that can never be shaken? Paul's answer in the next verses
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is that there is there is only 1.2.
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Verse 14 Hope in Christ, death and resurrection.
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Hope in Christ, death and resurrection.
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Look at verse 14. For since we believe that Jesus
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died and rose again, Even so, through Jesus God will bring
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with him those who have fallen asleep.
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Paul affirms the historical and the theological reality at the
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very heart of our faith. We believe that Jesus died and
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rose again. If you ask Paul, Paul, what is
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our hope in life and death? Paul would say Christ alone.
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In other words, Paul tethers the Thessalonians, hope, and ours to
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the Gospel. God created us to live with him
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forever. He formed us from the dust of
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the ground and he breathed the breath of life into us.
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Our first parents, Adam and Eve, were forbidden only one tree in
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the garden. Everything else was theirs to
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work and to keep. They were told that the day they
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ate of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, that day they
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would surely die. Death at that time was abstract,
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an idea, not an experience. Then Satan whispered to Eve that
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first lie in the garden, you will not surely die.
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Adam and Eve sinned. They ate.
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They brought death into the world.
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The wages of sin is death. Because of our sin, we deserve
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to die. Not just a physical death, but
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eternal death. Death with its sting, death with
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its hell, death with God's wrath.
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Forever. If you're not a Christian, what
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hope do you have? Should you die today?
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What comfort do you have should this day be your last?
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Imagine with me, friend, that your life from here on out goes
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exactly how you've planned, which I'm assuming is good.
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You live out your wildest dreams.
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You land that job, start that family, build that home, enjoy
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those vacations, retire early. Then what?
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Death will take it all. Death will leave you with
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nothing. Death will bring you face to
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face with the Creator. After death, then comes
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judgement. You are living your days with a
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death sentence that you cannot escape.
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And This is why Jesus Christ came.
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Jesus Christ came to pay the wages of sin by dying on the
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cross, bearing God's wrath. Jesus died and as Paul says,
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rose again. He defeated death.
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He satisfied God's wrath. He offers forgiveness of sins to
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all who would trust in him. If you're not a Christian
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without Christ, you can only face death without hope.
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But if by faith you've trusted in Christ, if you believe in
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your heart that Jesus died and rose again, if you turn from
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your sin, if you have Christ, you can also believe with
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confidence that death will not be the end, that you too, as
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Christ did, will rise from the grave.
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Brothers and sisters, if you believe that Jesus died and rose
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again, look what great hope you have in verse 14.
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Even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have
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fallen asleep. In other words, as Jesus rose
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again, so you will rise again. The resurrection is the model.
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Jesus did it. The resurrection is the means
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because he's done it. Though you die, you shall live.
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But some may wonder, still a good question.
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What happens when a believer dies?
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What will happen the moment after you believer?
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close your eyes and breathe your last breath before the
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resurrection. In the final judgement, those
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who die enter what is called the intermediate state.
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Their souls separate from their bodies and their souls are
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conscious, and they go to either heaven or Hades.
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Those apart from Christ go to judgement in Hades.
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In the parable of the rich man and Lazarus, Jesus tells of a
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man who died and went to Hades, where he was tormented in
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flames, awaiting final judgement.
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But those in Christ go to be with Christ in heaven.
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Jesus assured the thief on the cross.
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Today you will be with me in paradise.
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The intermediate state for the believer is incredibly good.
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Paul says it's better to be away from the body and at home with
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the Lord. That's what happens, believer,
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when you die in Christ. Have you trusted Christ?
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If you have, then just as God did not abandon Jesus to death
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but raise him to life, so too will God raise you with him.
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But when .3 verses 15 to 17. Hope in Christ's return.
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Hope in Christ's return. Just a heads up, friends, this
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point is the longest. There's a lot in here.
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There's still more hope to be found in Christ.
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In verses 15 to 17, Paul encourages the Thessalonians
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with Christ's return. These are verses of comfort, but
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some find them confusing. There's a couple of knots here
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that I need to attempt to untie before we get to the comfort.
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So if you know the saying, don't miss the forest for the trees,
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we're going to look at the trees first.
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Then we will zoom back and we'll see the forest.
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I'm going to spend a little time here because, like Paul, I don't
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want you to be uninformed. That's the goal.
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One knot is verse 15 Paul declares what he's received.
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Verse 15 he says a word from the Lord.
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Some think this refers to a private prophetic word that Paul
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received from Jesus. But that phrase, a word from the
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Lord in the New Testament, never refers to God speaking through a
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prophet. So more likely, I think Paul
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appeals to Jesus's words, which we can find in Matthew 24 where
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Jesus teaches on the second coming.
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In fact, if you read Matthew 2429 to 51, then read First
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Thessalonians four and five, you will find obvious parallels.
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There's another knot in verse 15.
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Some think that when Paul refers to we who are alive, who are
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left until the coming of the Lord, not proceeding, those who
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have fallen a seat. Some take this to mean that Paul
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thought mistakenly that he would be alive when the Lord returned.
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But just a few verses later, chapter 5, Paul says the day of
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the Lord will come like a thief in the night.
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In other words, Paul saying I don't know when the day of the
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Lord will come. It seems weird if he's saying
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first he thinks he'll be there and then just two verses later
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saying not sure when it's going to happen.
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I think the reason Paul identifies with living believers
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in verse 15 is because he was alive.
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It's as simple as that. Which brings us to verse 16.
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After Jesus died and rose again, he ascended to heaven to sit at
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the right hand of the Father on the last day.
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As Jesus ascended, so will he descend from heaven.
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And Paul describes the sound. Look at verse 16.
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A cry of command, the voice of an Archangel, the sound of the
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trumpet of God. Somebody asked me earlier this
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week, are these three sounds? Are they 1 sound?
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What's going on here? Well, we need to understand Old
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Testament imagery here. One in Joel 21-A prophet
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announces the day of the Lord. If you remember back to the book
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of Exodus, Exodus 1919, the trumpet signals God's presence
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coming down to Sinai. If you go back all the way to
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creation, God spoke and creation came to be.
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If you Fast forward to the New Testament at Lazarus's tomb,
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Jesus cried out and Lazarus rose.
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All that to say, I'm not sure if the sounds are literal or
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figurative. I do know that Paul is painting
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a picture of the Second coming with the Old Testament as his
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brush. What is ruled out, however, is
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any notion of a secret coming. Christ's coming will reverberate
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with loud noise. The living and the dead will
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hear Christ's voice and obey. Verse 16.
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The dead in Christ will rise first.
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Keep in mind, the Thessalonians were worried about what would
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happen to Christians who died before Christ's coming.
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Their loved ones, Paul assures them, are not forgotten.
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They are the 1st order of business.
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The dead in Christ will rise first.
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Now the biggest, not this one's in verse 17, then we who are
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alive, who are left will be caught up together with them in
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the clouds to meet the Lord in the air.
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And so we will always be with the Lord.
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So what's happening here? You might be wondering where is
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Christ coming down? Is this over New York City?
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Is it in Hong Kong or Jerusalem? Where is this happening?
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I mean, I think this this can confuse us easily, especially if
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we miss again the Old Testament allusions.
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Paul echoes Daniel's vision in Chapter 7, where suddenly one,
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like a son of man, was coming with the clouds of heaven.
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After the dead are raised, the living believers will be
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raptured. That is caught up, That's the
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phrase together with the believing dead in the clouds to
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meet the Lord in the air. This rapture, if you call it
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that, happens at the second Coming, not after.
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And Paul doesn't tell us which direction the believers go after
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they travel to meet Jesus in the air.
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But I think a good case can be made here that the Saints
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snatched in the air, returned to the earth to triumph with Christ
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in the new creation. One, Paul says they will meet
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the Lord in the air. The Greek word for meet here
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Paul, uses two other times. It's used in the New Testament
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and it refers to groups going out to greet someone in order to
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welcome that person back to the group starting point.
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So that's how the words used in the New Testament also
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supporting this Greek literature at the time.
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This same word meet is often used to describe citizens of a
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city going out to meet and arriving dignitary and then
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escorting like his entourage, that person back into the city.
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So it seems to summarize all of that, that when Christ descends
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from heaven, the Saints on earth meet him in the air.
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Then Christ with his Saints brings heaven to earth in the
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new creation. That was a lot.
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The hope for God's people has always been not to escape earth
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for heaven, but that heaven and earth would become one and that
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hope becomes reality in Christ's return.
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Christ the King of Heaven returns to reign on earth.
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If you have questions about that, come find me at the back
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door after the service. Would love to talk to you more,
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hopefully with some things clarified.
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I want you to see how strong our hope is when it's hope tethered
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to Christ's return. Here's a few comforts for you.
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First, comfort. When Christ returns, He comes
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himself. What an important detail in
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verse 16. Look at verse 16.
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The Lord himself will descend. Friends, how precious are these
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Saints to Christ? How dear are they to Him?
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Christ bought every Christian with his blood.
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He will not send an intermediary.
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He comes himself. What a sweet reunion awaits when
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we behold our Savior face to face.
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Second, comfort. When a believer dies, they die
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in Christ. Paul calls them verse 16, the
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dead in Christ. With that little phrase in
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Christ, Paul draws upon the glorious doctrine of our union
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with Christ. All the blessings of our
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salvation are wrapped up in those two words in Christ.
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When you believe in Christ, you are united to Christ by faith.
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Your union with Christ has a beginning.
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It has no end. Every other union can end.
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A tornado can RIP through and tear your house from its
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foundation. A divorce can separate you from
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your spouse. Death separates the soul from
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the body. But nothing can separate a
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believer from Christ. That is why Paul says in Romans
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14-8, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lords.
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This is why the Puritan Thomas Brooks preached A sermon titled
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A Believer's Last Day, His Best day.
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The believing dead are dead in Christ.
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Third, comfort. When Christ returns, our reunion
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lasts forever. Verse 17 is really the whole
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point of the passage. Do not miss verse 17.
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So we will always be with the Lord.
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The reason you can grieve with hope when a believer dies is
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because they will be with the Lord and you will be with the
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Lord, and together you will always be with the Lord.
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When I was a kid, my parents accidentally left me in the
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garage after they came home from the grocery store.
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I was asleep, quiet as a mouse. I woke up pitch black.
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I could just see the little, you know, the red garage door light,
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and apparently I screamed or eventually they realized they
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came out to get me. As a parent myself, I now
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understand how that's possible. I get it.
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Christ, our Good Shepherd will leave no sheep unaccounted for.
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No believer will be left behind. Every believer will be safe with
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the Lord. This is the comfort of the
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gospel. Yes, for the forgiveness of
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sins. Yes, justification by faith
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alone. Yes, God's wrath satisfied.
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Yes, a glorified body. Yes, reunion with loved ones.
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But those treasures are ultimately about perfect
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fellowship with God himself. When Christ returns, you and
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your believing loved ones will embrace, and you will together
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embrace Christ. We will always be with the Lord.
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Friends, in a passage like this, do not miss the forest for the
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trees. Christ's return, Christ's
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resurrection, death defeated, reunion with Christ and His
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bride forever in the face of death.
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Believer, you have hope. And now your job, believer, is
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to help one another. Hope .4 Finally verse 18 help
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one another. Hope verse 18 is so simple.
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Therefore, Paul says encourage one another with these words.
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Paul does not want the Thessalonians to stop at being
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comforted. They are to take the comfort
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from this letter and to share it with their brothers and sisters
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in the face of death. God's word of comfort must
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reverberate in their congregation as they speak it
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back and forth to one another. Now, as you know, in the face of
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death, there are countless ways to help, like just being
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present, bringing someone a meal, mowing their lawn or
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walking their dog, or helping with school runs, or just
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listening, sending a text message.
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The list goes on. Paul's focus here in these
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verses is on taking the word of God, these words and helping one
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another hope in our hour of death.
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There's many ways we can do this, but here's three.
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First, be encouraged by these words.
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Be encouraged by these words. If you're in need of hope and
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comfort today, let these words comfort you.
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This is the medicine you need. If you aren't facing a tragedy
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today, don't wait until tragedy strikes to be comforted by these
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truths. When suffering washes over us,
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sometimes we need to learn to cover our mouths, like Job, lest
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we curse God in our pain. Other times, we need to learn to
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lament our sorrows and refuse to stop lamenting until our laments
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turn to praise. If you find yourself today in
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the valley of the shadow of death, it is because the Lord
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has LED you there. But believer, it's not your
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final destination. It's just one stop along the
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journey. You and your believing loved one
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are heading to heaven. Place your hope in heaven while
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you're still on earth. Let it be said of you, as it was
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said of the Puritan Richard Sibbs.
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Heaven was in him before he was in heaven.
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Will you be someone who is open to Christ's comfort?
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Will you be someone who gathers every crumb of comfort that
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spills from Christ's death and resurrection and return?
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And will you store them up as more precious than gold itself?
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Be encouraged by these words. Second, study these words when
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it comes to eschatology, the study of the last things many of
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us can be like when you're in a friend's kitchen, somebody walks
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in, you're with a bunch of people.
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They say, hey, do you know where the trash can is?
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You, you know they have a trash can.
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Surely they do. You don't know it's not your
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kitchen. That can be many of us when it
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comes to the last things. Do not let it be said of you
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that you're ignorant of God's glorious Master Plan for the
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end. Study Christ, death,
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resurrection, and return. Explore the scriptures teaching
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about heaven and hell and the new creation.
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Devote yourself once again to studying Scripture regularly.
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In the book Scribes and Scripture, Peter Gurry and John
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Meade tell the story of a girl, Mary Jones, and her search for a
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Bible. She became a Christian at 8
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years old. She wanted a Bible in her own
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language, which was in Welsh. But at that time, in the early
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19th century, Bibles were expensive.
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And they were rare. The only access Mary had to a
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Bible was a relative who lived a few miles away.
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So Mary saved up for six years to buy a Bible.
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And when it came time to buy a Bible, the only person she knew
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selling one was 25 miles away. Mary walked those 25 miles
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barefoot to buy that Bible. Believer, how precious is God's
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Word in the Scriptures? You have the entire storehouse
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of divine comfort, the entire medicine cabinet of comfort
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filled with every divine consolation.
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Your duty, members of Trinity Baptist Church, is to your
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brothers and sisters. You need to study the Scriptures
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so that you can offer them Christ's words of comfort in
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their hour of need. Third, speak these words to one
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another in God's family. We speak.
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We speak to God, we speak to one another.
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We speak God's Word to one another.
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When troubles and trials come, do not stay silent.
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Speak words of comfort. God is the God of comfort.
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He is a fountain of comfort. Every true word of comfort that
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you speak overflows from God's Word itself and God in His
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infinite wisdom, with his infinite resources, with his
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boundless provision, with his unending generosity, the God who
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can use anything and everything to comfort his people, in his
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wisdom and in his compassion, He has chosen to offer suffering
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Saints his words through his people.
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In other words, God's given us each other for comfort.
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Speak these words to one another.
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But as you know, it's not just what you say, it's how you say
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it. Speak the truth in love.
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Weep with those who weep. Christian, your eyes are not
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your own. There's an art to speaking
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gospel truths that stir up comfort.
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Often those who've suffered the most know how to comfort best.
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But with practice, your love can become more skillful.
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Say something when death visits this church.
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When a member loses a loved one, speak to them.
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If you don't know what to say, pray for them.
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Pray a Psalm. Pray a Psalm like Psalm 23.
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Hide that in your heart so it's ready to be deployed for
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comfort. Memorize Psalm 46.
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The Lord is our refuge and strength.
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Offer someone a prayer of comfort.
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Prayer rightly acknowledges to those suffering that only God
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can truly comfort them. And when you speak, do not speak
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as if you fully understand, even if you've gone through something
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similar. Every person's grief is their
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own. As the proverb says, the heart
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knows its own bitterness. Parents, speak to your kids.
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Speak to your kids about death and resurrection and Christ's
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return. Speak honestly.
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Use concrete language. The world is broken.
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Your kids will experience sorrows that you cannot shield
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them from. Kids, you need to know that
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Christ has defeated death by His own death.
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You need to know that only God can take the wrong in this world
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and make it right. Encourage one another with these
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words. Imagine with me a Church that
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cares for suffering Saints and helps the grieving hope in the
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face of death. A church that builds one another
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up and surrounds one another with comfort.
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A church marked by compassion and humility and mutual care.
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Pray for that kind of church here.
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When my kids asked me a million questions about death during
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family devotions this week, my answer to many of those
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questions was, I don't know. I don't know when we'll die.
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I don't know what death will feel like.
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There's much we don't know. But we know this, that just as
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our bodies are lowered into the ground, so they will be raised
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on the last day in glory. We know that in the face of
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death, we have hope. Let's pray,
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Lord, We pray for us who bear so many sorrows, who face the death
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of our loved ones. Help us to grieve, Lord, as
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those who hope in Christ death and resurrection and return and
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that sweet reunion we'll have with those Saints and with our
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Savior. We pray in Jesus name on that.