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Paul’s Counsel to the Unmarried & Widows in Corinth, 8/9/26

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  1. Well, we come once again to our passage in the

  2. book of 1 Corinthians chapter 7. Lord willing,

    1 Corinthians 7 chapter mention

  3. today I would like to complete this chapter as

  4. the Lord wills. I'm going to give my introduction

  5. before we read it, because I think it will be

  6. helpful for you as we look at this unusual portion

  7. of Scripture. At the beginning of the chapter,

  8. Paul began answering questions that the church

  9. had sent to him. They needed wisdom on various

  10. matters and they wrote to him as their father

  11. in the faith. He began answering those questions

  12. with the subject of marriage. There was great

  13. need for wisdom on that matter. When I began

  14. this chapter back in June, I set forth competing

  15. perspectives that were creating confusion on

  16. marriage. in the corinthian church two of them

  17. are likely in mind in our passage today and i'm

  18. going to repeat them again one was the jewish

  19. view jewish christians that marriage was considered

  20. obligatory a religious duty young men were expected

  21. to marry between ages 16 to 18 and remaining

  22. unmarried at age 20 was viewed with suspicion

  23. and then there were the ascetics That is, believers

  24. who taught that self -denial, especially of physical

  25. pleasures, elevated one's spiritual standing.

  26. Celibacy was prized as a superior calling, and

  27. sex, even within marriage, was seen as demeaning,

  28. earthy, and sensual, and should be avoided. Now,

  29. with a few slight differences, the problems they

  30. faced are also problems we face as well. So this

  31. chapter has been very relevant to us. Having

  32. said that, though, there are some quite unique

  33. characteristics of the passage today which Paul

  34. wrote and which applied to his day. So our first

  35. responsibility is to attempt to understand the

  36. current situation at the time of this writing.

  37. and then to understand and interpret Paul's counsel

  38. to them. The section before us deals with the

  39. question of virgins, that is, young unmarried

  40. ladies. Should they get married, or is it better

  41. to be celibate, that is, to remain unmarried?

  42. That is the question here. And Paul goes at great

  43. length to answer this. He's already established

  44. that celibacy is good for those whom the Lord

  45. has gifted for that calling, but it is not the

  46. normal state of being. The normal course of action

  47. is for young men and young ladies to get married,

  48. to have children, and to reflect a glorious picture

  49. of the glory of Christ's church in their marriage.

  50. And so, in answer to their question, to this

  51. question, the Jewish Christians would have said,

  52. absolutely, it is God's will. Virgins should

  53. marry. But the ascetics would say, no, they should

  54. not marry. Singleness and devotion to God is

  55. better, for they can serve God with a single

  56. mind. And thus, they write the question to Paul

  57. about virgins. This is the need. Paul begins

  58. by saying, though, I have no commandment from

  59. the Lord regarding this subject. It says, Yet

  60. I give judgment as one whom the Lord in his mercy

  61. has made trustworthy. What Paul is saying is

  62. that this passage is not the revelation of a

  63. command from God. He has not received direct

  64. inspiration from God. In answering this question.

  65. But as a wise man. And as one as he says. Whom

  66. God has judged to be trustworthy. And to give

  67. good judgment. He will render his judgment on

  68. the matter to them. So it's important as we read

  69. this to understand. This is the whole book. This

  70. is the whole inspired word of God. In his revelation

  71. to us. And yet Paul is saying. I did not. Hear

  72. from God specifically on this matter. And so

  73. I'm giving you wise judgment on it. Now this

  74. passage is a rather difficult passage to teach.

  75. Probably one of the most more difficult of any

  76. thus far. So we need to search for interpretive

  77. keys that might open up our understanding of

  78. it. I think that key is in verse 26. And if this

  79. is understood, it opens up the meaning of this

  80. passage tremendously. If this clue is not understood,

  81. our whole understanding will be distorted. And

  82. in fact, in history, it has been distorted. So

  83. with the help of the Lord and wise commentators,

  84. we want to understand what he is saying and then

  85. make applications for us so that we might have

  86. some takeaways. to take home i will first read

  87. the passage and then i'll begin with this key

  88. in verse 26 so first corinthians chapter 7 verse

    1 Corinthians 7:25

  89. 25 now concerning virgins i have no commandment

  90. from the lord yet i give judgment as one whom

  91. the lord in his mercy has made trustworthy i

  92. suppose therefore that this is good Because of

  93. the present distress. That it is good for a man

  94. to remain as he is. Are you bound to a wife?

  95. Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from

  96. a wife? Do not seek a wife. But even if you do

  97. marry, you have not sinned. And if a virgin marries,

  98. she has not sinned. Nevertheless, such will have

  99. trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.

  100. For this I say, brethren, the time is short.

  101. So that from now on, even those who have wives

  102. should be as though they had none. Those who

  103. weep as though they did not weep. Those who rejoice

  104. as though they did not rejoice. Those who buy

  105. as though they did not possess. And those who

  106. use this world as not misusing it. For the form

  107. of this world is passing away. But I want you

  108. to be without care. He who is unmarried cares

  109. for the things of the Lord, how he may please

  110. the Lord. But he who is married, okay, I might

  111. have said that wrong. He who is unmarried cares

  112. for the things of the Lord, how he may please

  113. the Lord. But he who is married cares about the

  114. things of the world, how he may please his wife.

  115. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin.

  116. The unmarried woman cares about the things of

  117. the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and

  118. in spirit. But she who is married cares about

  119. the things of the world. how she may please her

  120. husband. And this I say for your own profit,

  121. not that I may put a leash on you, but for what

  122. is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without

  123. distraction. But if any man thinks he is behaving

  124. improperly toward his virgin, if she is past

  125. the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let

  126. him do what he wishes. He does not sin. Let them

  127. marry. Nevertheless, he who stands steadfast

  128. in his heart, having no necessity, but has power

  129. over his own will and is so determined in his

  130. heart that he will keep his virgin does well.

  131. So then he who gives her in marriage does well,

  132. but he who does not give her in marriage does

  133. better. A wife is bound by law as long as her

  134. husband lives, but if her husband dies, she is

  135. at liberty to be married to whom she wishes.

  136. only in the Lord. But she is happier if she remains

  137. as she is, according to my judgment. And I think

  138. I also have the Spirit of God. Let's pray. Father,

  139. as we go through this passage, Lord, we admit

  140. before you that this one is a bit difficult to

  141. understand in its entirety, especially when we

  142. look at many other passages of Scripture. So

  143. we ask, Lord, that you would open it up to us,

  144. that we might understand what is here in your

  145. word to us for today. We pray that we might learn

  146. and profit by it, that you would guide us, Lord,

  147. that our hearts might be right and pure before

  148. you, and that we would love you devotedly. We

  149. ask, Lord, that you would bless this time together.

  150. We pray in Jesus' name. Amen. I mentioned to

  151. you that there is an interpretive key. Because,

  152. as I already explained to you, he comes here

  153. and he says, concerning virgins, I have no commandment

  154. from the Lord, but yet I give judgment. He then

  155. says, I suppose that this is good. Why? Because

  156. of the present distress. That it's good for a

  157. man to remain as he is. Are you bound to a wife?

  158. Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from

  159. a wife? Do not seek a wife. What is Paul referring

  160. to in this present distress? This is something

  161. here. He says that this is present. Now, the

  162. word present is not necessarily used here as

  163. something that is immediate. It can be near.

  164. It could be coming on. In other words, it's something

  165. that is impending or soon to come. It is threatening.

  166. Something is near that will afflict as time presses

  167. on. And so Paul writes this whole passage passage

  168. in light of the present distress that which is

  169. soon to come distress means a calamity or straits

  170. or a great trial in other words something is

  171. on the horizon that will cause great problems

  172. it will be a severe trial of significant proportions.

  173. Paul does not say specifically what this was,

  174. but he says it is something that he was aware

  175. of, and thus he is expressing his opinion to

  176. the Corinthian church on this subject in light

  177. of the present distress. What is he speaking

  178. about? Well, He doesn't tell us. So this is kind

  179. of like reading someone else's mail. We have

  180. to look for clues and things throughout the other

  181. scriptures or in history that might be possible.

  182. I think there are several possibilities. He could

  183. be referring to something specifically in Corinth.

  184. that we do not know about. There were times in

  185. Corinth where they had a prolonged grain shortage,

  186. for example, or a time of famine. We know that

  187. there was a time of great famine throughout the

  188. Roman Empire during the days of Claudius Caesar,

  189. the emperor before Nero. But that might have

  190. taken place before he wrote this. We're not exactly

  191. sure. He could also be referring to the time...

  192. That would be prior to the destruction of Jerusalem.

  193. Now, you might say, what does the destruction

  194. of Jerusalem have to do with the folks in Corinth?

  195. Well, Jesus himself says in Luke chapter 19,

    Luke 19 chapter mention

  196. I'm sorry, chapter 21, and also in Matthew 24,

  197. that there would be great natural disasters in

  198. various places in the world at that same time

  199. period. There would be earthquakes, Jesus said,

  200. famines. pestilences, and it would be a very

  201. difficult time. Jesus said in Luke 21 verse 9,

    Luke 21:9

  202. but when you hear of wars and commotions, do

  203. not be terrified, for these things must come

  204. to pass first, but the end will not come immediately.

  205. Then he said to them, nation will rise against

  206. nation, and kingdom against kingdom, and there

  207. will be great earthquakes in various places,

  208. and famines, and pestilences, and there will

  209. be fearful sights and great signs from heaven.

  210. So it could be possible that this great earth

  211. -shaking event that took place at that time would

  212. also affect Corinth in some way, as history would

  213. bear out that even in far -off places, this was

  214. a great and tumultuous time. In AD 69 there was

  215. an intense civil war. Four different Roman empires

  216. reigned in one year. Some were murdered, others

  217. died and it was a time of great upheaval. So

  218. perhaps he is referring to that. Paul knew this

  219. prophecy of Jesus and that it would take place

  220. within the first generation after Christ. The

  221. word distress is the same word used in Luke 21,

    Luke 21:23

  222. verse 23. Woe to those who are pregnant and to

  223. those who are nursing babies in those days, for

  224. there will be great distress in the land and

  225. wrath upon this people. So that's one possibility.

  226. Another option is that there was severe persecution

  227. under Nero. This happened around AD 64. Persecution

  228. broke out with great ferocity against the church.

  229. Now this was especially in Rome. There's a question

  230. of how much this would have affected Corinth

  231. in Greece, but it is certainly possible. Now

  232. both of these last options would fulfill the

  233. prophecy in the book of Revelation about the

  234. beast of the sea and the beast of the land. And

  235. it was as if all hell was turned loose against

  236. the church. Paul might have had in mind the fulfillment

  237. of Revelation 12 when it says that the dragon,

  238. the evil one, Satan, made war against the saints

  239. of the church. Romans 12 verse 17 says, And the

    Romans 12:17

  240. dragon was enraged with the woman, and he went

  241. to make war with the rest of her offspring, who

  242. kept the commandments of God and had the testimony

  243. of Jesus Christ. Paul might have had something

  244. like that in mind, although the book of Revelation

  245. was probably not yet written then. Now all of

  246. this happened in the first century. So we really

  247. don't know what this present distress was. But

  248. it was something that was really distressing.

  249. And I gave you here a number of options to think

  250. about. Therefore, as we examine this portion

  251. of Holy Scripture of Paul's advice to the Corinthians,

  252. this context must, I underline that, it must

  253. be kept in mind. Because we cannot interpret

  254. this passage as something that is normative.

  255. Something that is just regularly practiced all

  256. the time. It's not the ideal. Virginity is not

  257. more holy and righteous than marriage, as some

  258. of the ascetics or some of the early church fathers

  259. thought. Because this would go against the express

  260. commands of other scripture. It would confuse

  261. and twist the normal purpose and goal of young

  262. men and women to live for God by marrying, having

  263. children, and living a normal Christian life

  264. wherever they are in this world. Paul's advice

  265. here is not a diatribe or a prohibition against

  266. marriage, and it's not to be taken in a normative

  267. context. It does not contradict the commands

  268. given to be fruitful and multiply in Genesis

  269. 1 and Genesis 2 and Genesis 9 or in Psalm 127

  270. and Psalm 128. I believe this verse is the interpretive

  271. key to understand everything else in this passage,

  272. including this statement that he who gives her

  273. in marriage does well, but he who does not give

  274. her in marriage does better in verse 38. So with

  275. this understanding, in light of this interpretive

  276. key, we'll now look through the rest of the passage

  277. to understand Paul's counsel to the Corinthian

  278. church in light of the present distress. We're

  279. not going to examine all the meanings of every

  280. word. A lot of this is fairly plain. It just

  281. needs to be understood in light of this, which

  282. is why I've spent the amount of time in preparation

  283. for this. So the principle is, verse 26 to 28,

  284. because of the present distress, a man should

  285. remain as he is in his current state. So Paul

  286. says, if you are married, though, do not be loosed

  287. from your wife. It's in verse 27 in the beginning.

  288. Now the word loosed here means divorced. It means

  289. being set free from the bond of marriage. So

  290. the present distress does not mean that you have

  291. the authority to break the earlier command, which

  292. is that a wife is not to depart from her husband.

  293. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried

  294. or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband

  295. is not to divorce his wife. In other words, the

  296. present distress was no excuse for them to divorce

  297. or to separate. It's not an option on the table

  298. at all. Take it off. So what he's saying here,

  299. do not be loosed from your wife. He then says,

  300. if you are loosed from your wife, do not seek

  301. a wife. This is his counsel to stay in that state.

  302. Now here the word loosed is slightly different,

  303. but it still implies that you're loosed from

  304. something that you were fastened to, such as

  305. a husband and wife joined together by the bond

  306. of matrimony. This again... It goes back to the

  307. possibility of divorce that came about because,

  308. or the possibility of divorce because of an unbeliever

  309. not wanting to stay. And so if in such case,

  310. Paul said, let the unbeliever depart, let the

  311. one who's abandoning depart. A brother or sister

  312. is not in bondage in such cases. But at the same

  313. time, here he is saying, if that is the case,

  314. in light of the present distress, don't seek

  315. a wife. This is his counsel. In other words,

  316. where there is abandonment and you have the opportunity

  317. to marry, Paul's counsel was, do not seek a wife

  318. in light of the circumstances. But he goes on.

  319. He says, even if you do marry, you have not sinned.

  320. And if a virgin marries, she has not sinned.

  321. In other words, Paul is again giving wise counsel,

  322. but he is also demonstrating Christian liberty.

  323. The wise counsel, don't get married if you are

  324. loosed, and the Christian liberty, even if you

  325. marry, you have not sinned. In this, the apostle

  326. is an example to us in how he is very careful

  327. not to infringe on the liberty that comes to

  328. all Christians. This is a really good lesson.

  329. It's a key point of this chapter. It's one that's

  330. very wise for parents as well as pastors and

  331. teachers and any in authority or in a place of

  332. influence. It is so easy for us to give our counsel

  333. and then fail to extend the liberty to the person

  334. to disregard that counsel. We can so easily pretend

  335. to be the Holy Spirit instead of recognizing

  336. that both we and they, the other person, or persons

  337. are filled with the Holy Spirit, and he is not

  338. us. We are not he. There are many times when

  339. wise counsel must be given in light of current

  340. circumstances, but great care must be taken so

  341. as not to bind the conscience where God has not

  342. bound it. We do not have. that authority. And

  343. here even the beloved apostle Paul, in all of

  344. his authority as an apostle, because he didn't

  345. receive this as revelation from the Lord, he

  346. said, if you do this, you have not sinned. If

  347. you have to do this, you have not sinned. You

  348. are at liberty, but here is my counsel. Very,

  349. very wise for us to consider and remember. Then

  350. he makes this statement, nevertheless, such will

  351. have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare

  352. you. This is the first reason that he gives for

  353. his counsel. He's going to give three reasons.

  354. What would this entail? What would this trouble

  355. in the flesh entail? Just think for a moment

  356. of a time of great tribulation, of persecution,

  357. or of peril, or of famine. The care of a wife

  358. and children, or the care of a husband and children,

  359. weighs most heavily on the mind of the one undergoing

  360. the tribulation. There have been times where

  361. people recanted because they couldn't take the

  362. pressure of all the care and responsibility that

  363. they are foregoing because of naming the name

  364. of Christ or of living for Christ. And so Paul

  365. says this is a care. You're going to have trouble

  366. in the flesh about this. A good example is John

  367. Bunyan, the author of Sinners Abounding as well

  368. as What is more well known is that is the pilgrim's

  369. progress. He was an English nonconformist preacher

  370. who preached without the appropriate license

  371. or authority from the state and consequently

  372. was imprisoned for 12 years. He had a wife, he

  373. had a family, and he was not able to be there

  374. with them. He could see them occasionally, but

  375. it was a great hardship for him and for them.

  376. And yet he continued steadfast in this. I will

  377. not yield to the authority of the state in their

  378. matter because that would be to go against God.

  379. And he remained faithful to the Lord in it. But

  380. it was a great hardship for him to be thinking

  381. about the care that he could not give. And his

  382. children growing up. without Him there in the

  383. home to lead them in family worship, to love

  384. them, care for them, discipline. This indeed

  385. is what the Apostle Paul is talking about. We

  386. can also think of those who are married and have

  387. children during a time of severe famine, and

  388. you don't have the food to give to your children.

  389. And they have hungry bellies, and they're crying

  390. out for food, and you can't give it to them.

  391. These are the kinds of things that Paul has in

  392. mind as he thinks of the current distress, the

  393. present distress. The care is so much more difficult.

  394. This is why Paul was counseling singleness for

  395. times like that so that they are spared from

  396. the trouble in the flesh. Then he moves on to

  397. the urgency of the times and to live in light

  398. of eternity, verses 29 to 31. He says, but this

  399. I say, brethren, the time is short. So that from

  400. now on, even those who have wives should be as

  401. though they had none. Those who weep as though

  402. they did not weep. Those who rejoice as they

  403. did not rejoice. Those who buy as though they

  404. did not possess. And those who use this world

  405. as not misusing it. For the form of this world

  406. is passing away. Second reason to remain single

  407. right now is because the time is short before

  408. these troubles will come. The pressure is on.

  409. And that's the idea here is that of pressure.

  410. The persecution or the distresses are coming

  411. soon. And therefore earthly relationships and

  412. circumstances need to be held loosely. He said

  413. those who have wives as though they had none.

  414. That is they must not set their hearts too much

  415. on the comforts of life. And the joyful companionship

  416. with their wife. Rather. they must be prepared

  417. to be separated from their wife if it was persecution.

  418. He might need to escape for his life or to meet

  419. death, being drug from her to appear before the

  420. magistrate. These kinds of things happened at

  421. times like this. Those who weep as though they

  422. did not weep. Again, those who rejoice as though

  423. they did not rejoice. Those who buy as they did

  424. not possess, as though they did not possess.

  425. The distress or confusion may be such that private

  426. sorrows or private joys will be absorbed up into

  427. horrors of the time. Those who use the world

  428. is not misusing it as holding it lightly, so

  429. to speak. Possessing them, but not letting them

  430. possess you. This is a good reminder for us.

  431. And I'll speak of this again a little bit later.

  432. In fact, this whole passage right here would

  433. almost sound like times even far in the distance.

  434. I believe Paul is referring to it here specifically.

  435. And yet certainly this is something for us all

  436. to consider as we live constantly in the light

  437. of eternity with God and not knowing the future.

  438. why is this he paul gives the reason by saying

  439. he says the form of this world is passing away

  440. he's not saying the world is passing away he's

  441. saying the form in other words the particular

  442. order of the time this would be one inclination

  443. that paul could be referring to the upheaval

  444. and tribulation around the time of the destruction

  445. of jerusalem even though that did not occur for

  446. some time after he wrote this but he may have

  447. had that in mind because that was a tremendous

  448. upheaval where the form of the current world

  449. system was greatly changed so it's a possibility

  450. i don't know exactly I don't think though it

  451. fully means the second coming of Christ because

  452. it's not talking about the world but rather the

  453. form of the world and it fits into the context

  454. better that way. Then he moves on to verse 32

  455. to 35 and gives the third reason and that is

  456. the advantage of singleness. That is freedom

  457. from anxious care for undivided devotion. He

  458. says, but I want you to be without care. He who

  459. is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord,

  460. how he may please the Lord. But he who is married

  461. cares about the things of the world, how he may

  462. please his wife. There's a difference between

  463. a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares

  464. about the things of the Lord, that she may be

  465. holy both in body and in spirit. But she who

  466. is married cares about the things of the world,

  467. how she may please. her husband. And this I say

  468. for your own profit, not that I may put a leash

  469. on you, but for what is proper and that you may

  470. serve the Lord without distraction. So the third

  471. reason here, Paul says this counsel that he is

  472. giving is that I want you to be without care.

  473. And this word care is referring to anxiety. Now,

  474. why would one be anxious? because of the present

  475. distress. He therefore gives this counsel so

  476. that they would not be anxious, but devoted completely

  477. to the Lord during this difficult time. Look

  478. back at Deuteronomy 6 and verse 5. You shall

  479. love the Lord your God with all your heart, with

  480. all your soul, and with all your strength. And

  481. that verse applies, that command applies in every

  482. situation. But depending on where you are, you

  483. might have some times of being anxious and you

  484. might easily be diverted from an intense love

  485. for the Lord to anxiety about your current situation.

  486. What's going to happen here? What's going to

  487. happen if I'm persecuted and taken away? Or what's

  488. going to happen if a famine comes or whatever

  489. else it might be? He says here, I want you to

  490. not be anxious, to be without care. He then gives

  491. a contrast. Note that he's not referring to the

  492. man and the woman as sinning by caring about

  493. each other. In fact, that's commanded in many

  494. places. It's fully intended by God that a husband

  495. and a wife care about pleasing each other and

  496. thus care about the things of the world. In other

  497. words, things that are not sinful, but that are

  498. earthy, that are connected to our marriage right

  499. here. We care about it. We want to love each

  500. other and to please each other. In fact, if you're

  501. a husband or a wife and you don't want to please

  502. your spouse, there's something wrong. And you

  503. are sinning against God if you are not seeking

  504. to please Him in it. But he notes the difference

  505. between married and unmarried in the level of

  506. responsibility and in the time of great difficulty.

  507. that responsibility can be overwhelming, it can

  508. create anxiety, and can add a great burden, thus

  509. distracting one from serving the Lord wholeheartedly

  510. in this difficult time. And so he breaks it down.

  511. Unmarried man cares for the things of the Lord,

  512. how he might please the Lord. Unmarried woman

  513. or virgin cares about the things of the Lord

  514. that she may be holy both in body and spirit.

  515. The married man cares about the things of the

  516. world, how he may please his wife. The married

  517. woman cares about the things of the world, how

  518. she may please her husband. None of these are

  519. sinful. It's just a fact of life in the way that

  520. it is. So in no way can we interpret these verses

  521. to mean that God is not pleased with married

  522. men and women serving Him by loving and pleasing

  523. each other, by making sure that their physical

  524. and sexual needs are fulfilled, and that a husband

  525. provides for his wife and family as to the Lord.

  526. No, dear brother, as Proverbs 5 exhorts you,

  527. let your fountain be blessed. Rejoice with the

  528. wife of your youth. As a loving dear and a graceful

  529. doe, let her breast satisfy you at all times

  530. and always be enraptured with her love. That

  531. is biblical counsel and wisdom and it is a foundational

  532. principle for marriage. You can do this with

  533. a heart filled with love and delight in God your

  534. creator through Jesus Christ by the Holy Spirit.

  535. But know that in a time of great persecution

  536. or famine or pestilence, the care, the anxiety,

  537. and the responsibility can rise exponentially

  538. and be overwhelming. So Paul's counsel is, in

  539. light of that, if you are thinking of getting

  540. married, it might be good to delay that. It might

  541. be good for you to remain in the state in which

  542. you are right now. Paul clearly means this when

  543. in verse 35, he says, I say for your own profit,

  544. not that I may put a leash on you, but for what

  545. is proper and that you might serve the Lord without

  546. distraction, without distraction. I think this

  547. is the key to understanding this. Finally, then

  548. we come to verses 36 and 38. And he gives guidance

  549. for those considering marriage. He says, But

  550. if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward

  551. his virgin, if she has passed the flower of youth,

  552. and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes.

  553. He does not sin. Let them marry. Nevertheless,

  554. he who stands steadfast in his heart, having

  555. no necessity, but has power over his own will,

  556. and has so determined in his heart that he will

  557. keep his virgin, does well. So then he who gives

  558. her in marriage does well, but he who does not

  559. give her in marriage does better. Here again,

  560. we have some significant challenges in understanding

  561. these verses. Who is the any man? Or depending

  562. on your translation, it might be man or he. Who

  563. is this in these verses? Is this speaking of

  564. the girl's father? of the unmarried person, or

  565. even the fiancé, the betrothed. This has been

  566. much debated by good biblical scholars and teachers,

  567. and it is not explicitly plain in the text, because

  568. the words that are used do not indicate this

  569. exactly. It's just any man and then he. Who's

  570. the he, in other words? Many of the early church

  571. fathers and many of those in several hundred

  572. years ago believe that this is speaking of the

  573. father. This is speaking of the father in these

  574. particular verses. However, as much as I appreciate

  575. them, I will take a different view of that. I

  576. think that this is speaking of the betrothed

  577. man. the betrothed man although verse 38 could

  578. be speaking of the virgin's father therefore

  579. i understand it like this and i'm going to paraphrase

  580. it here and see if this makes sense to you but

  581. if a betrothed man the fiancee thinks he is behaving

  582. improperly toward his virgin if she has passed

  583. the flower of youth and thus it must be let him

  584. do what he wishes he does not sin let them marry

  585. Nevertheless, the betrothed man who stands steadfast

  586. in his heart, having no necessity, but has power

  587. over his own will, and is so determined in his

  588. heart that he will keep his virgin, does well.

  589. Now, I understand either way you could look at

  590. it. It could go either way, but I think this

  591. fits it a little bit better. To make this person

  592. be the father does not fully make sense. Although,

  593. again, I say wise men have interpreted it so.

  594. I find the argument compelling. In the pillar

  595. commentary, and I'm going to quote them, it says,

  596. Although it is a very difficult exegetical decision,

  597. it seems to make the most sense, in light of

  598. verse 26 and 27, to see Paul distinguishing between

  599. two kinds of betrothed men. One who feels he

  600. should not wait any longer before marrying his

  601. fiancée. and the other who feels free to follow

  602. Paul's advice not to change his and her status

  603. during the present crisis, and who prolongs the

  604. engagement for the time being, keeping his girl

  605. as his fiancée rather than marrying her. He is

  606. bound to her, but he seeks neither to be released

  607. from her nor to conclude the engagement with

  608. the marriage for the time being. Let me explain

  609. this a little bit further. past the flower of

  610. her age refers to the lady's prime now the Greeks

  611. believed and so this is in the context of this

  612. that a woman was in her prime at age 20 that

  613. was the age of prime for a young lady of course

  614. the Jewish girls they viewed that a little bit

  615. differently it was more 16 to 18 because that's

  616. often when they got married so he who stands

  617. steadfast in his heart He has no necessity and

  618. he is over his own will that could be referring

  619. to his own sexual desires or to societal pressure

  620. from parents or peers or simply societal expectations.

  621. So in other words, he's looking at this, he's

  622. considering the situation, he is able to stay

  623. pure and thus he says, I'm not going to marry

  624. at this time in light of the present distress

  625. or whatever else it may be. In conclusion, though,

  626. Paul then again says, he who gives her in marriage

  627. does well, but he who does not give her in marriage

  628. does better. And this again could be referring

  629. to from the he could be the father or it could

  630. be the engaged man. And the word give her in

  631. marriage is which, when you think about who is

  632. it that gives someone in marriage, it's the father,

  633. right? So the father gives the one in marriage.

  634. So if you look at that word, it's actually one

  635. word that's used as being given in marriage,

  636. it would seem to be the father. However, it does

  637. not always mean this. It can simply mean to marry

  638. because it has two definitions. It could be given

  639. in marriage or simply marriage. So thus he could

  640. be referring to the father giving away his daughter

  641. in marriage or it could simply mean the fiance

  642. marrying such as he who marries her does well,

  643. but he who does not marry her does better. This

  644. is my understanding of these. So I submitted

  645. to you for your as just. I don't want to spend

  646. a lot of time on it. I'm just saying this is

  647. a difficult one to fully understand. Two final

  648. notes as we look at this. In either case, Paul

  649. says, there is no sin. There is no sin. There

  650. is Christian liberty. Paul's giving his counsel.

  651. This is not a command from the Lord. And this

  652. is all in light of the present distress and must

  653. not be considered normative. This is not normal

  654. Christian living. Normally, long, open -ended

  655. engagements should not take place. It can be

  656. very difficult. But this was an unusual circumstance.

  657. Therefore, this makes the most sense. But again,

  658. I submit it to your own thought. number six then

  659. is counsel he gives he closes with counsel to

  660. widows says a wife is bound by law as long as

  661. her husband lives but if her husband dies she

  662. is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes

  663. only in the lord but she is happier if she remains

  664. as she is according to my judgment and i think

  665. also i have the spirit of god so as a conclusion

  666. to this whole matter he's now ending the chapter

  667. on marriage And Paul then applies the same reasoning

  668. to be a widow. He's going to move on to the subject

  669. about idols and Christian liberty beginning in

  670. chapter 8 and eating the food offered to idols.

  671. But first, he makes sure that the Corinthians

  672. understand that living single because of the

  673. present distress is not an option if you are

  674. married. Therefore, he says a wife is bound by

  675. law as long as her husband lives. So in other

  676. words, it's not an option to say times are tough.

  677. I'm going to divorce you. So he's saying here

  678. very clear. This is the law by God. She is bound

  679. to him as long as her husband lives. This distress

  680. does not give permission to depart and to divorce

  681. or to separate. which is right in line with the

  682. earlier command as we already looked at it. Do

  683. not even think about it. Do not contemplate it.

  684. This is not advice or counsel. This is a directive,

  685. a command with the weight of God's law. But if

  686. her husband dies, then she is at liberty to be

  687. married to whom she wishes, but only in the Lord.

  688. And here again, we see Christian liberty. within

  689. guardrails of God's law. She is at liberty to

  690. be married again if her husband dies. At liberty,

  691. but only to marry in the Lord. Only to marry

  692. a fellow believer. Marriage after becoming a

  693. Christian is only to be between Christians. And

  694. this applies to all Christians who marry, and

  695. not only the case of widow in which it's given

  696. here. And yet Paul says, She is happier if she

  697. remains as she is. And this is according to his

  698. judgment. And he believes he has the spirit of

  699. God. But it's not law. This is wise counsel given

  700. in light of the present distress. What can we

  701. take away from this? This could be, okay, so

  702. how does this really apply to us? What can, you

  703. know, but it's here. It's here for our instruction.

  704. It's part of my responsibility to teach the whole

  705. counsel of God. And this is right here in the

  706. word of God. So what do we take away from this?

  707. Well, there's a few things that I think are valuable

  708. for us as we close this. First, marriage is good

  709. and honorable. It is not sin. It is both commanded

  710. by God in most circumstances for most people.

  711. It is a great mystery that speaks of Christ in

  712. the church. Ephesians 5, 32. And as the wonderful

  713. wedding vows and the preparation for that in

  714. the book of common prayer says, marriage is not

  715. by any to be enterprised nor taken in hand unadvisedly,

  716. lightly, or wantonly, but reverently, discreetly,

  717. advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God. That

  718. is what marriage is to be. It should be entered

  719. with deep thought and care and respect with spiritual

  720. seriousness and clear judgment and with the choice

  721. made deliberately and with good counsel and full

  722. awareness of the responsibility and the lifelong

  723. obligation to care, to provide, to love, to respect

  724. and all of the other commands even in the midst

  725. of times of great upheaval. It is a great responsibility.

  726. But dear Christian, let no one put you on a guilt

  727. trip about marriage. The normal Christian life

  728. is that you love God, you serve Him, and in most

  729. cases you get married, have children, and live

  730. life together before the face of God. And this

  731. is good and acceptable with God and His will.

  732. So do not tear these verses, kicking and screaming

  733. out of their context, as Votie Bauckham used

  734. to say, and apply it across the board in every

  735. situation. No, it was not meant for that. Number

  736. two, singleness with self -control offers practical

  737. advantages for undivided service, especially

  738. in times of distress. Therefore, if one either

  739. has the gift from God of singleness or is self

  740. -controlled in light of present circumstances,

  741. it is acceptable before God. There is a place

  742. for singles. There is a place where you can serve

  743. God and give yourself in a way that can be very

  744. freeing, especially in difficult times. So use

  745. it for the glory of God if that's where God has

  746. you. Use it for the glory of God. There's no

  747. condemnation with this. But if one cannot succumb

  748. without, or if one cannot exist without succumbing

  749. to sexual temptations of self -abuse, or fornication

  750. then it's better to marry first corinthians 7

    1 Corinthians 7:9

  751. verse 9 if they cannot exercise self -control

  752. let them marry for it is better to marry than

  753. to burn with passion so but apart from that if

  754. you're here you're a single before the lord then

  755. use it for the glory of god and be content with

  756. where he has you until the lord provides for

  757. you in one way or another Number three, in this

  758. passage, we are taught to hold God's gifts and

  759. the things of the world loosely. As the fires

  760. of the last weeks have shown us, the things of

  761. the world, possessions, houses, lands, cattle,

  762. can be taken away in just one night of a raging

  763. fire with 40 to 50 mile an hour winds. Just that

  764. quickly. Let us hold them lightly. Job is such

  765. a great example of this. With so many things,

  766. and his life turned into a complete upheaval

  767. so quickly. His vast herds, his servants, his

  768. children, and his health. And yet the scripture

  769. says, in all this, Job did not sin with his lips,

  770. nor charge God with wrong. This is a wonderful

  771. example of how to hold things loosely. It's not

  772. wrong to possess great things if that's what

  773. the Lord gives you, but hold them loosely. Don't

  774. wrap up yourselves together in them so tightly

  775. that when they're gone, you get upset at God

  776. or you get angry at God or you turn against him.

  777. No, Job did not sin with his lips. Rather, he

  778. worshiped. And he said, naked I came from my

  779. mother's womb and naked shall I return there.

  780. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away. Blessed

  781. be the name of the Lord. That's how we hold things

  782. loosely. Paul reiterates this principle as he

  783. teaches how to view the world in light of the

  784. impending calamity and distress. Number four.

  785. This passage dramatically shows the need to understand

  786. context in the understanding of a passage. It's

  787. very important. Some of these verses have been

  788. dragged out of context to say that singleness

  789. is altogether superior and marriage is inferior.

  790. But in order to properly understand and rightly

  791. divide the Word of God, we must pay attention

  792. to the context in which it is written. including

  793. wherever possible, the who, the what, the why,

  794. the where, and the when, whenever we can. Finally,

  795. I submit this to you. I believe and hope that

  796. this has been a faithful interpretation and exposition

  797. of this difficult passage. I pray that it has

  798. been edifying for you and that it builds you

  799. up in Christ's kingdom. And indeed, if anything,

  800. I have not taught it correctly. I pray for God's

  801. forgiveness and mercy and submit it to him. Let's

  802. close in prayer. Father, we thank you so, so

  803. much.