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  1. So glad you're here. And I have a question for you. Are you offended if I call you ladies?

  2. ! That is a southern thing for sure. Ladies? Okay. I always wonder about that. The other thing I want to say, we have some lovely Collins in this room.

  3. So if you cannot see me, do me a favor. Pull your chairs out. Go ahead and move them. Actually, for just a minute, stay at your table and then you can relocate. You can turn around. You're going to be doing some things at your table for a few minutes.

  4. But after that, when I call us back together, feel free to relocate to where you can see. Because the worst thing is trying to see a speaker when there's a column in your face.

  5. So I am thrilled that you're here. Thank you for coming and being a part of this event. I was telling my table, I said, this is my jam. This is my jam here.

  6. First of all, I love events and I love working with teams. But probably the thing that, if it is not at the top of my list, it is at the top two of my list, is teaching women.

  7. And so I'm super, super excited to be able to teach you today and to share with you.

  8. So we're going to be looking at Martha and Jesus and the story of discipleship.

  9. And to get us started, I'm going to have you do something around your tables.

  10. The first thing I want you to do is I want you to, as a group, I want you to talk about what is discipleship to you.

  11. And then the second thing that you're going to do is you're going to read Luke 10, 38 through 42 together.

  12. This is the story that Martha is most famous for.

  13. So you're going to read that together. And based on that passage, I'm going to ask you to paint her portrait.

  14. What do you see in her story? Who is she? Draw a picture of who she is.

  15. And then we'll share some of those things.

  16. So go ahead and take a few minutes around your table and do that.

  17. So what is discipleship to you? And then paint a portrait of Martha.

  18. Well, I would absolutely love for a few of you just to share your portrait of Martha.

  19. Let's hear what you came up with.

  20. Whoever wants to be brave.

  21. She loves Jesus and she wants to serve.

  22. She loves Jesus and she wants to serve.

  23. Can I get an amen?

  24. Amen.

  25. What else?

  26. What's your portrait of her?

  27. Say it one more time.

  28. She had the gift of hospitality.

  29. She had the gift of hospitality.

  30. So she's just trying to do what she's gifted to do, right?

  31. Sometimes she gets overwhelmed.

  32. Yeah, sometimes she gets overwhelmed.

  33. Now, I'm sure that never happens to any of us in this room.

  34. Amen.

  35. She is bold and she is honest.

  36. Yeah.

  37. She is hurting.

  38. She is hurting.

  39. I think she has a deep sense of responsibility because it's her house.

  40. Yes.

  41. She has a deep sense of responsibility because it's her house.

  42. She was willing to be corrected.

  43. Yeah.

  44. She was willing to be corrected.

  45. At least we think so because we don't really know the rest of the story.

  46. The whole story.

  47. Yeah.

  48. Yeah.

  49. Yeah.

  50. Well, one of the reasons I wanted to do that, I wanted to see if anybody, maybe at your table,

  51. somebody said this.

  52. Did anybody put down that she was a disciple of Jesus?

  53. No.

  54. No.

  55. Guess what?

  56. That is not uncommon because often we don't think about Martha as a disciple.

  57. We think of her as a servant.

  58. And, you know, if we do that with Martha, guess what?

  59. We're going to do that with ourselves as well.

  60. So we could go home after that right there.

  61. So instead, let me pray for us and then we'll jump into this passage.

  62. Father God, I praise you and I worship you this day.

  63. And I thank you that you brought us together.

  64. It is an honor and it's a privilege to be able to study your word.

  65. We ask, Lord, that you would speak to our hearts and that you would give us a bigger picture of who Martha is

  66. and what it means to actually be a disciple.

  67. We ask that you would pour out your spirit upon this place and that you would be glorified and honored above all else

  68. and we would walk away from here changed, that we would walk away from here different

  69. because we have been with you.

  70. In Jesus' name, amen.

  71. Amen.

  72. So, like I said, her story is about discipleship, but we often miss the bigger story because we're so focused on that one part of her story.

  73. And in Luke 10, Martha receives this unexpected visit from Jesus and his entourage.

  74. Now, if it were only Jesus who were showing up at Martha's door, this would not have been that big of a deal.

  75. But we know from the scriptures that any time Jesus traveled, he had a group of people with him.

  76. I mean, just think about it.

  77. He had 12 disciples.

  78. There were women who traveled with him.

  79. And we also know from the Gospels that other disciples traveled with him who were not called the 12.

  80. So, can you imagine opening your door and seeing this crowd of people there?

  81. Well, what's interesting, if you notice in the scripture, is that Jesus didn't knock on her door and say,

  82. Martha, can I come stay with you?

  83. Martha said, would you come stay with us?

  84. Come stay with us.

  85. And so, Jesus is going to do exactly what Martha tells us.

  86. So, when he arrives in Bethany, Martha opens her home to him.

  87. And this likely means, because it's her house, that she's the older sibling.

  88. So, she's the older sibling of Lazarus and Mary.

  89. And she strikes us as this take-charge person, right?

  90. I mean, how many of us can identify with her?

  91. Probably a lot, right?

  92. So, she strikes us as this take-charge person, which is typical behavior of a firstborn, right?

  93. That's usually how they think.

  94. So, she kicks into hostess mode, and she begins to prepare this meal for Jesus and his disciples.

  95. And Luke's description of the incident strikes every chord within us as women.

  96. Here she is.

  97. There is a lot of work to do, and she finds herself alone.

  98. How many times do we find ourselves in that situation?

  99. So, her sister Mary is nowhere to be found.

  100. I'm the youngest of four sisters.

  101. Trust me, I understand this story on a deep level.

  102. I really do.

  103. I would probably have been the Mary.

  104. But her sister is nowhere to be found until she realizes that Mary is actually with Jesus.

  105. And she is hanging out with him, or as Luke tells us, that she is sitting at the Lord's feet, listening to his teaching.

  106. So, Martha, I think, tolerates this until she can't.

  107. I imagine her in the kitchen thinking, well, I'll just bang some pots and pans, and maybe that'll get Mary's attention.

  108. And then she'll come in and help.

  109. And no matter what she was doing in that kitchen, nothing was working.

  110. And so, like I said, she tolerated until she couldn't.

  111. And then she goes out to confront.

  112. Now, I don't know if it struck anybody else, but it struck me as interesting that she doesn't confront Mary.

  113. Who does she confront?

  114. Jesus, absolutely.

  115. So, in a moment of frustration, she says to him, and I picture this.

  116. I don't know that this is what happened, but I picture her walking into that room.

  117. Not walking, marching.

  118. Marching into that room, hands on hips, and saying to Jesus,

  119. Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to serve alone?

  120. Tell her, then, to help me.

  121. In a moment of frustration, what she's doing is she is spewing accusation and critical words that are directed at Jesus.

  122. There we go.

  123. The room comes to a screeching halt is the way I see this happening.

  124. Now, we don't know this.

  125. Luke doesn't say that.

  126. But I'm pretty sure if somebody walked into a room where there are a lot of people,

  127. and that one person is getting in the face of Jesus,

  128. that everything stops.

  129. Everything comes to a halt.

  130. And I also imagine that every eye that was before fixed on Jesus,

  131. now gets fixed on her.

  132. So, there she stands,

  133. as every eye in the room is looking at her.

  134. Can you imagine how she felt?

  135. Sure, you can.

  136. You have been Martha.

  137. I mean, which one of us hasn't done what Martha did,

  138. allowed our frustration to get the better of us?

  139. And say something that we wish we could take back immediately?

  140. And felt ourselves go beet red from shame and embarrassment.

  141. If you haven't had that experience, praise God for you.

  142. I've had it more than once.

  143. But there she stands.

  144. And she probably, as she's looking at these people who are with Jesus,

  145. she sees this shock and disbelief on their face.

  146. And here's why, that I make this conclusion.

  147. Who speaks to Jesus like this?

  148. Well, I'll tell you who speaks to Jesus this way.

  149. Someone who has a deep personal relationship with him.

  150. Someone who believes that he can take it and he will not leave her.

  151. That's who she is.

  152. We think that Jesus is mad at her.

  153. I don't think so, and I'm going to show you why.

  154. So after she talks to Jesus this way,

  155. we know that Jesus says to her something.

  156. And he uses two words to compel her to look at him.

  157. Because I would almost guess that she's looking at everybody looking at her.

  158. And then all of a sudden he says,

  159. Martha, Martha.

  160. Now, I don't know how you hear him say to her,

  161. Martha, Martha.

  162. But it's probably a reflection of how you think he would speak to you.

  163. If you think he's disappointed in you,

  164. you're going to hear disappointment in his voice.

  165. If you think he loves you,

  166. you're going to hear love in his voice.

  167. So whatever it is,

  168. whatever tone he used with her,

  169. I believe at that point she looks straight at him.

  170. And the question that we have to ask is,

  171. what did she see?

  172. What did she see in his eyes?

  173. Did she see condemnation?

  174. Did she see disapproval?

  175. Did she see judgment?

  176. Did she see shame?

  177. Well, we know from Scripture that the answer to that is no.

  178. That is not what she saw.

  179. But how many times do we as Christ followers think that that's how Jesus is looking at us?

  180. You're falling short, therefore.

  181. But the reason that we know that Jesus did not look at her that way

  182. is he knew that he was going to the cross.

  183. And he knew that he would die and take her judgment and her condemnation.

  184. He didn't have to judge and condemn her in that moment

  185. because he was going to take it for her.

  186. So he wasn't going to look at her that way.

  187. So I think when she looks at his,

  188. into his eyes,

  189. what she sees is the love of a master

  190. who's willing to teach

  191. a rebellious and frustrated disciple.

  192. So give her a break, right?

  193. Because Jesus did.

  194. So Jesus,

  195. and here's the point,

  196. Jesus now has Martha

  197. right where he wants her.

  198. Because where has she been up to this point?

  199. In the kitchen or whatever it would have been at that time.

  200. She's in there serving him

  201. and now she is at the place that he's always wanted her to be.

  202. She is right there with him.

  203. And he doesn't treat her as she should have been treated.

  204. Instead, he treats her like a disciple who needs to be taught.

  205. We may use the word correction,

  206. but if we put it in the context of discipleship,

  207. discipleship does involve correction.

  208. But at the same time,

  209. discipleship is that God recognizes

  210. we need to be taught

  211. because we don't fully understand

  212. what it means to walk with Jesus.

  213. And so we are always learning.

  214. And he says to her,

  215. Martha, Martha,

  216. you're anxious and troubled about many things,

  217. but only one thing is needed.

  218. So anytime you see God using repetition in the Bible,

  219. we know to pay attention to that, right?

  220. And so when he uses somebody's name twice,

  221. it's as if God is saying,

  222. I need you to pay attention

  223. because what I'm getting ready to say to you

  224. is very important.

  225. And so Jesus says,

  226. Martha, Martha.

  227. And just as Martha's rant at Jesus

  228. revealed a close relationship

  229. between her and Jesus,

  230. the fact that he repeats her name twice like that

  231. reveals that he has an intimate knowledge

  232. of who she is.

  233. He knows her.

  234. He sees her.

  235. He understands her.

  236. And what she needed in that moment

  237. was she needed to be pulled out of that world

  238. that she was living in.

  239. And we know that world, right?

  240. Anxious, busy, distracted.

  241. So he teaches her that there is a better way

  242. by explaining to her what is happening.

  243. And that's how Jesus works with us.

  244. He doesn't say,

  245. okay, I want you to go read this Bible verse

  246. and fix yourself.

  247. No, he says,

  248. let me explain to you what's going on here

  249. in your own heart,

  250. in your own mind,

  251. in your own life.

  252. Let me help you.

  253. So he says,

  254. you're anxious and troubled about many things.

  255. Now, troubled means disquieted.

  256. In other words,

  257. she has lost her sense of peace.

  258. So she's disquieted.

  259. And I'm pretty sure we all understand

  260. what that feeling looks like.

  261. Trust me,

  262. planning a women's event,

  263. there are lots of opportunities

  264. to be disquieted.

  265. The other thing that he says to her

  266. is you are anxious.

  267. And when you're anxious,

  268. you're distracted.

  269. And when we're distracted,

  270. we're being drawn away from Jesus.

  271. All right?

  272. So the next time you feel distracted,

  273. recognize,

  274. wait a minute,

  275. this is all designed to draw me away from him.

  276. And what I actually need to do

  277. is to go to him.

  278. Isn't it a good thing

  279. that she walked out of that kitchen

  280. and marched into that room?

  281. Because she put herself right where

  282. she could actually hear from him.

  283. Now, this is where Scripture gets interesting.

  284. I love God's Word.

  285. So at the beginning of Luke 10,

  286. Jesus sends out 72 disciples

  287. into the towns

  288. that he would soon visit.

  289. And interestingly,

  290. he gives them a set of guidelines

  291. of what to do once he gets there.

  292. So in Luke 10, 5 through 7,

  293. and this is right before our story of Martha

  294. here at the end of Luke 10,

  295. this is what Jesus says.

  296. When you enter a house,

  297. first say,

  298. peace to this house.

  299. If a man of peace is there,

  300. your peace will rest on him.

  301. If not,

  302. it will return to you.

  303. Stay in the house,

  304. eating and drinking,

  305. whatever they give you.

  306. And right after this,

  307. Jesus shows up

  308. at Martha's house.

  309. He extends peace to Martha,

  310. but she can't receive it.

  311. And

  312. Jesus actually had a lesser demand

  313. of Martha

  314. than she had of herself.

  315. Because I see it this way

  316. all the time.

  317. He could take

  318. how many loaves of bread

  319. and how many fish

  320. and feed 15,000?

  321. Martha,

  322. this is not a big deal

  323. for Jesus.

  324. All right.

  325. I mean,

  326. I think based on this

  327. Luke 10,

  328. 5 through 7 passage,

  329. I think this is what

  330. Jesus is saying.

  331. I'm happy with whatever

  332. you put before me.

  333. PB and J

  334. works for me.

  335. So,

  336. sadly,

  337. instead of enjoying

  338. being with Jesus,

  339. she is easily drawn away.

  340. And we have to ask

  341. the question,

  342. why?

  343. I mean,

  344. we always attribute it

  345. to the fact that

  346. she has so many people

  347. at her house.

  348. But that's not

  349. what's going on here.

  350. The reason that

  351. she's drawn away

  352. from Jesus

  353. is because of

  354. expectations.

  355. Cultural expectations,

  356. gender expectations,

  357. and misguided

  358. or perceived

  359. expectations.

  360. Culturally,

  361. hospitality was a

  362. high value

  363. in her culture.

  364. So,

  365. if you were opening

  366. your home

  367. and sharing a

  368. communal meal

  369. with someone,

  370. it had great

  371. significance.

  372. It was an invitation

  373. to share life

  374. and do fellowship

  375. together.

  376. So,

  377. there's a cultural

  378. expectation of her.

  379. There's a gender

  380. expectation.

  381. She defined herself,

  382. if not primarily,

  383. almost always.

  384. As a woman,

  385. I have got to be

  386. a good hostess.

  387. In her culture,

  388. that was what

  389. they valued.

  390. And so,

  391. she has this

  392. gender expectation.

  393. And then,

  394. she has this

  395. misguided

  396. or this perceived

  397. expectation of

  398. herself.

  399. And her perception

  400. of this,

  401. is what she believed

  402. about Jesus

  403. is what he expected

  404. from her.

  405. what she perceived

  406. about Jesus

  407. is what he expected

  408. from her.

  409. So,

  410. Martha's complaint

  411. about Mary

  412. was that she

  413. wasn't fulfilling

  414. this cultural,

  415. this gender,

  416. and this perceived

  417. expectation.

  418. Tell her

  419. to help me.

  420. Tell her to get

  421. in that kitchen

  422. and do women's work.

  423. How'd you like

  424. that southern

  425. slang there?

  426. But Jesus

  427. says to Martha,

  428. only one thing

  429. is needed

  430. or one thing

  431. is necessary.

  432. In the Greek,

  433. it actually says,

  434. one thing

  435. is of necessity.

  436. So,

  437. we need to hear

  438. this message

  439. that Jesus

  440. is saying to us

  441. as women,

  442. there is one thing

  443. that is needed.

  444. And when we get

  445. the order straight,

  446. the other things

  447. will fall in place.

  448. The one thing

  449. that is needed

  450. is to be with him

  451. and to learn to him

  452. and not be defined

  453. by the expectations.

  454. Boy,

  455. if we can do that,

  456. hallelujah.

  457. Right?

  458. You see,

  459. Martha's lesser mistake

  460. was rebuking Jesus.

  461. Her bigger mistake

  462. was being drawn

  463. away from him.

  464. And I think

  465. we can all

  466. understand that.

  467. How many times

  468. have we been so busy

  469. that we don't get

  470. to spend time

  471. with Jesus

  472. and then later

  473. we're like,

  474. I wish I hadn't

  475. left this rod

  476. be in my time

  477. with you.

  478. So,

  479. Jesus goes on

  480. and he says,

  481. Mary has chosen

  482. a good portion

  483. which will not

  484. be taken from her.

  485. Now,

  486. he is not saying

  487. to Martha,

  488. you need to be

  489. like Mary.

  490. God didn't create

  491. Martha to be Mary

  492. and he didn't create

  493. Mary to be Martha.

  494. What he is saying

  495. to her is,

  496. you need to be

  497. with me.

  498. That's the one thing.

  499. Not be like your sister.

  500. Be with me.

  501. And so,

  502. Luke ends this story

  503. without telling us

  504. anything about

  505. Martha's response.

  506. I mean,

  507. it's just done.

  508. And we have to realize

  509. that that's intentional

  510. because the Spirit of God

  511. is inspiring him

  512. to write.

  513. It's intentional.

  514. It's not an accident.

  515. It's intentional

  516. because this is

  517. only a small part

  518. of Martha's story.

  519. She has a much

  520. bigger story.

  521. And we have to ask

  522. the question,

  523. well,

  524. what does he want us

  525. to understand from this?

  526. And this is at the heart

  527. of what I believe

  528. women's discipleship

  529. is to be about.

  530. We are to disciple

  531. women as disciples

  532. first and roles

  533. second.

  534. We are to disciple

  535. women as disciples

  536. first and roles

  537. second.

  538. Jesus is teaching

  539. Martha to prioritize

  540. discipleship over

  541. everything else.

  542. Even the traditional

  543. role that she has

  544. in her culture

  545. and the way that

  546. she proves her value

  547. and her worth

  548. to other people,

  549. to God,

  550. and especially

  551. to herself.

  552. discipleship.

  553. Right?

  554. These things

  555. may be important.

  556. I'm not saying

  557. they aren't important.

  558. But they must

  559. bow the knee

  560. to discipleship

  561. because being with

  562. Jesus and learning

  563. from him

  564. is what we are

  565. called to do.

  566. Martha is a disciple.

  567. You,

  568. if you know Jesus,

  569. you are a disciple.

  570. So Mary is sitting

  571. at the feet of Jesus

  572. and listening to

  573. what he's teaching.

  574. And Jesus says

  575. that she's chosen

  576. a good portion.

  577. Well,

  578. isn't that an

  579. interesting phrase,

  580. a good portion?

  581. Because he understands

  582. if you choose

  583. the good portion

  584. first,

  585. the other portions

  586. will fall into place.

  587. But it's when

  588. we choose

  589. the other portions

  590. and we neglect

  591. the good portion

  592. that we end up

  593. like Martha

  594. in the kitchen

  595. frustrated.

  596. But Jesus says

  597. this is not going

  598. to be taken from her

  599. because any amount

  600. of time that we

  601. spend with him

  602. is an investment

  603. in who we are.

  604. And he has promised

  605. it won't be taken

  606. from you.

  607. In fact,

  608. it's going to bear

  609. fruit in your life.

  610. And so Jesus

  611. is teaching Martha

  612. to shift her priorities

  613. and to sit with him

  614. and to listen.

  615. He is inviting her

  616. to be a disciple.

  617. Now the next time

  618. that we see Martha

  619. and Jesus together

  620. is in John 11.

  621. And in John 11,

  622. it's the story

  623. of Lazarus dying.

  624. If you remember

  625. that story,

  626. John tells us,

  627. and he's the one

  628. who finishes the story

  629. of Martha,

  630. it's not Luke,

  631. but John tells us

  632. in John 11.5

  633. that Jesus loved Martha

  634. and her sister

  635. and Lazarus.

  636. But isn't it interesting

  637. that he is specifically

  638. telling us

  639. Jesus loved Martha

  640. because what he is seeing

  641. is telling about

  642. their relationship.

  643. So when Lazarus

  644. becomes ill,

  645. Mary and Martha

  646. send to Jesus

  647. and say,

  648. the one you love

  649. is sick.

  650. Come heal him.

  651. And of course,

  652. if you've read the story,

  653. then you know

  654. that Jesus delayed

  655. two days,

  656. which meant

  657. by the time

  658. he actually got

  659. to Bethany,

  660. Lazarus had died.

  661. And when Martha

  662. hears that Jesus

  663. has actually made

  664. it to Bethany,

  665. she takes off

  666. and she goes out

  667. to meet him.

  668. And the first thing

  669. that she says to him,

  670. and again,

  671. you see the intimacy

  672. of the relationship

  673. in this comment.

  674. Lord,

  675. if you had been here,

  676. my brother

  677. would not have died.

  678. But then she says this,

  679. but I know

  680. that even now

  681. God will give you

  682. whatever you ask.

  683. Now the rest

  684. of the story

  685. tells us

  686. that she was not

  687. expecting Jesus

  688. to raise Lazarus

  689. from the dead.

  690. That's not what

  691. she's thinking

  692. at this point.

  693. So don't misunderstand

  694. her words.

  695. The point that John

  696. is making

  697. you that is this,

  698. that in the midst

  699. of crisis,

  700. Martha's impressing

  701. him with her faith.

  702. But even,

  703. but I know

  704. that even now,

  705. God will give you

  706. whatever you want.

  707. In other words,

  708. she's saying,

  709. Jesus,

  710. I believe in you

  711. even though this

  712. bad thing has happened.

  713. Well,

  714. that sounds like

  715. a disciple,

  716. right?

  717. And the other thing

  718. that this tells us

  719. is we don't see

  720. any shame.

  721. We don't see

  722. any condemnation here.

  723. Martha and Jesus

  724. are okay,

  725. right?

  726. And what happened

  727. in Luke 10

  728. does not define her.

  729. It was forgotten.

  730. And in a moment

  731. of crisis,

  732. we see her true character.

  733. And is it not true

  734. that in a moment

  735. of crisis,

  736. we see ours?

  737. And so,

  738. we see that she's

  739. a woman of great faith.

  740. And Jesus treats her

  741. as that.

  742. Because what happens

  743. from here on out,

  744. this is,

  745. this is,

  746. again,

  747. I'm always saying

  748. this is so interesting.

  749. But this is where

  750. it gets interesting.

  751. In the midst of grief,

  752. one of the saddest

  753. experiences of her life,

  754. he teaches her.

  755. And he says to her,

  756. your brother will

  757. rise again.

  758. And Martha answered,

  759. I know he will rise again

  760. in the resurrection

  761. of the last day.

  762. Faith statement

  763. right there.

  764. I know

  765. there's this plan.

  766. He will rise again.

  767. And Jesus said to her,

  768. the thing that he had

  769. not said to anyone else,

  770. at least recorded

  771. in scripture,

  772. I am the resurrection

  773. and the life.

  774. He who believes in me

  775. will live even though

  776. he dies.

  777. And whoever lives

  778. and believes in me

  779. will never die.

  780. Do you believe this?

  781. And then,

  782. she makes a statement

  783. that very few people

  784. make before the cross.

  785. She says to him,

  786. I believe that you

  787. are the Christ,

  788. the Son of God

  789. who is coming

  790. to the world.

  791. Martha

  792. is not just a servant.

  793. She is a disciple

  794. of Christ.

  795. So after talking

  796. with Martha,

  797. Jesus spends time

  798. with Mary.

  799. And Mary says

  800. the same thing,

  801. if you had been here,

  802. my brother would not

  803. have died.

  804. But this reaction

  805. to Mary is different.

  806. His reaction to Mary

  807. is different.

  808. He doesn't talk to her

  809. about the resurrection.

  810. Why?

  811. Because she didn't

  812. need that.

  813. What Mary needed

  814. in that moment

  815. was comfort.

  816. His presence.

  817. And so,

  818. he asks,

  819. where is Lazarus buried?

  820. And then he weeps.

  821. He weeps with Mary

  822. because that's what

  823. Mary needs.

  824. He knows us so well.

  825. We think he can't

  826. understand what

  827. we're going through

  828. or what we feel.

  829. He's like,

  830. I understand you

  831. better than you

  832. understand yourself.

  833. So he weeps

  834. with Martha.

  835. You know,

  836. the same question,

  837. two different responses.

  838. Weeps with Martha.

  839. Teaches Martha

  840. as a disciple,

  841. here's what you need

  842. to understand.

  843. Do you believe this?

  844. And once again,

  845. we see him inviting

  846. Martha to come

  847. and spend time with him

  848. and to listen

  849. and to learn

  850. because that is

  851. what a disciple does.

  852. And so he uses

  853. discipleship,

  854. believe it or not,

  855. to reframe

  856. the loss

  857. of her beloved brother

  858. in the way

  859. that she thinks

  860. about death.

  861. And at that moment,

  862. Martha needed that.

  863. She didn't need

  864. what Mary needed.

  865. But what did she need?

  866. What was he actually

  867. offering her?

  868. And for all the thinkers

  869. in the room,

  870. this is where you might

  871. want to say hallelujah

  872. because you'll get it.

  873. She needed theology

  874. to encourage her faith.

  875. She needed something

  876. that she could hold on to.

  877. And Jesus gave her that.

  878. She needed a new way

  879. to think about death.

  880. And I don't know

  881. if you've lost anyone.

  882. I've lost two sisters

  883. and both of my parents

  884. at this point.

  885. And when you walk

  886. through that type of loss,

  887. you begin to think

  888. about death

  889. and you begin

  890. to think about

  891. what does this mean,

  892. Jesus?

  893. How are you involved

  894. in this?

  895. And so that's

  896. what's happening here.

  897. And he was reminding her,

  898. Martha,

  899. because you're a disciple,

  900. right now,

  901. you feel incredibly insecure.

  902. But I am here

  903. to tell you

  904. that your identity

  905. is safe

  906. and your security

  907. is safe

  908. because you're mine.

  909. You don't have

  910. to be with Lazarus

  911. for you to be safe.

  912. So as the story continues,

  913. Jesus, we know,

  914. goes and he stands

  915. in front of the tomb

  916. where Lazarus is buried

  917. and he tells the people

  918. to remove the stone

  919. because he's getting ready

  920. to raise Lazarus.

  921. And Martha says

  922. that he has been

  923. in there for days

  924. and there's going

  925. to be a bad odor.

  926. Now, I'm not,

  927. I don't know a whole lot

  928. of the King James

  929. version of the Bible,

  930. but this is my favorite

  931. verse in the King James.

  932. He's stinking.

  933. I mean, there you go.

  934. The next time

  935. you're having a bad day,

  936. you can say to Jesus,

  937. he stinketh.

  938. But Jesus says

  939. back to her,

  940. Martha,

  941. did I not tell you

  942. that if you believed

  943. you would see

  944. the glory of God?

  945. He isn't discounting

  946. her grief.

  947. He isn't rebuking her

  948. for lack of faith.

  949. He's discipling her

  950. in the midst of it.

  951. Here's what you need

  952. to understand.

  953. Do you believe this?

  954. And once again,

  955. there is no response

  956. for Martha.

  957. John doesn't tell us

  958. what she says

  959. at that point.

  960. Instead, he tells us

  961. that Jesus raised

  962. Lazarus.

  963. But what we know

  964. because of the conversation

  965. is where is she?

  966. Right there with Jesus,

  967. right by his side,

  968. where he's wanted her

  969. all along.

  970. We have one more story

  971. of Martha in John 12.

  972. And it's at a dinner

  973. that was being given

  974. in honor of Jesus.

  975. And John finishes

  976. Martha's story

  977. with two words.

  978. Just two.

  979. Six days before

  980. the Passover,

  981. Jesus arrived at Bethany

  982. where Lazarus lived,

  983. whom Jesus had raised

  984. from the dead.

  985. Here, a dinner was given

  986. in Jesus' honor.

  987. Martha served.

  988. So her story

  989. has come full circle,

  990. right?

  991. We're back where we started.

  992. But everything

  993. has changed.

  994. You don't see her anxious.

  995. You don't see her distracted.

  996. You see a sense

  997. of peace in her.

  998. And the reason for that

  999. is because she prioritized

  1000. discipleship

  1001. even over her grief.

  1002. And so again,

  1003. the question for us is

  1004. how is this connected to us?

  1005. And why is this important

  1006. for us personally?

  1007. Does it have any bearing

  1008. on our lives today?

  1009. Well,

  1010. I think the point

  1011. is this.

  1012. Jesus,

  1013. the same does,

  1014. comes at his feet,

  1015. learn from him

  1016. and recognize

  1017. that our identity

  1018. is first and foremost

  1019. as a disciple of Christ.

  1020. And as we think

  1021. about women's discipleship

  1022. here at Trinity,

  1023. honestly,

  1024. I don't have a grand vision

  1025. to give you today.

  1026. I wish I did.

  1027. I don't.

  1028. But here's what I know.

  1029. What I know is this.

  1030. We are called

  1031. to disciple women

  1032. as disciples of Christ first

  1033. and based on their roles second.

  1034. There's an order to this.

  1035. We are called

  1036. to encourage one another

  1037. to come and sit

  1038. at the feet of Jesus

  1039. and to listen

  1040. and to learn from him.

  1041. We're called

  1042. in this ministry

  1043. to encourage

  1044. one another

  1045. to define yourself

  1046. based on who you are

  1047. not what you do.

  1048. Here's the thing.

  1049. Identity is never based

  1050. on how others see us

  1051. but it's always based

  1052. on how we see ourselves

  1053. through the eyes of Jesus

  1054. and the gospel.

  1055. And we may think

  1056. everybody else

  1057. is telling us

  1058. who we are.

  1059. No.

  1060. We're telling us

  1061. who we are.

  1062. So,

  1063. in this ministry

  1064. I hope and pray

  1065. that we will be able

  1066. to encourage one another

  1067. and say

  1068. don't allow your life

  1069. and your responsibilities

  1070. distract you from Jesus.

  1071. Trust that he will

  1072. make a way for all.

  1073. Trust that if you

  1074. prioritize the good portion

  1075. he gives you enough

  1076. in that good portion

  1077. to do all the other things.

  1078. there will be enough

  1079. for your family

  1080. your career

  1081. your education

  1082. and your blank

  1083. whatever that blank is.

  1084. Right?

  1085. If you come

  1086. and you learn from me

  1087. Jesus says

  1088. it will not be taken

  1089. from you.

  1090. It will grow

  1091. and it will transform you

  1092. into the person

  1093. that I created you

  1094. to be all along.

  1095. You know what?

  1096. Jesus never told

  1097. Martha to stop serving.

  1098. He just put it

  1099. in a perspective

  1100. that if you want

  1101. to be the best servant

  1102. you can be

  1103. I have to be your priority.

  1104. Well,

  1105. we know

  1106. based on Romans 8 29

  1107. that God has a plan

  1108. for every one

  1109. of our lives

  1110. and that plan is

  1111. for those God foreknew

  1112. he also predestined

  1113. to be conformed

  1114. to the image

  1115. of his son

  1116. that he might be

  1117. the firstborn

  1118. among many

  1119. brothers and sisters.

  1120. So God's goal

  1121. for each one of us

  1122. in this room

  1123. is to make us

  1124. like Jesus

  1125. and the only way

  1126. that we can be made

  1127. like Jesus

  1128. is to spend time

  1129. with Jesus.

  1130. It's not complicated

  1131. and yet it is.

  1132. Again,

  1133. when I think about

  1134. women's discipleship

  1135. here's where

  1136. I'm going to encourage us.

  1137. Together,

  1138. as sisters in Christ

  1139. as disciples of Jesus

  1140. we want to help

  1141. each other

  1142. recognize that

  1143. our first and foremost

  1144. identity

  1145. is as his disciple.

  1146. We want to be women

  1147. who live and work

  1148. and serve

  1149. from that identity

  1150. rather than

  1151. all these expectations

  1152. that other people

  1153. have for us

  1154. or that we have

  1155. for ourselves

  1156. whether it's cultural

  1157. gender or misguided.

  1158. We want to be women

  1159. who are free

  1160. from this idea

  1161. of perfection.

  1162. It is a lie.

  1163. None of us in here

  1164. will ever be perfect.

  1165. We don't need to be perfect.

  1166. We have a perfect savior

  1167. who is perfecting us.

  1168. So we need to be women

  1169. who are free

  1170. of ideas of perfection

  1171. released to be

  1172. redemptive works

  1173. in progress

  1174. because that is

  1175. who we are.

  1176. And we need to be women

  1177. who know and believe

  1178. that just like Martha

  1179. it can be said of us

  1180. Jesus loved

  1181. Debbie.

  1182. Jesus loved Selena.

  1183. Jesus loved Erica.

  1184. Jesus loved Jamie.

  1185. Jesus loved Shirley.

  1186. Jesus loved Mona.

  1187. I could go around

  1188. this room

  1189. and say these things

  1190. to you

  1191. because I know

  1192. they're true.

  1193. Jesus loves you.

  1194. Now here's the thing

  1195. about women's discipleship

  1196. at Trinity.

  1197. We will never

  1198. do it perfectly.

  1199. It may look

  1200. one way one day

  1201. and it may look

  1202. a different way

  1203. the next day

  1204. and I hope so

  1205. because I hope

  1206. that's because God

  1207. is leading not me.

  1208. Leading me

  1209. as I lead you.

  1210. but the direction

  1211. that we're going

  1212. is there.

  1213. We want to encourage

  1214. each other

  1215. first and foremost

  1216. as disciples of Jesus

  1217. and I promise you

  1218. there will be room

  1219. to equip you

  1220. to be better leaders,

  1221. better moms,

  1222. better wives.

  1223. Those things

  1224. are important.

  1225. Just as Jesus

  1226. does not invalidate

  1227. serving,

  1228. he does not

  1229. invalidate those things.

  1230. He just says

  1231. okay let's make sure

  1232. that we have

  1233. our order correct.

  1234. So my question

  1235. for you today

  1236. is will you

  1237. come along?

  1238. Will you come along

  1239. with what,

  1240. not what Pamela Hall

  1241. says,

  1242. but will you come along

  1243. with what scripture

  1244. says?

  1245. And would you help

  1246. me build

  1247. a women's discipleship

  1248. ministry

  1249. where someday

  1250. people will say

  1251. they love Jesus

  1252. because they knew

  1253. he loved them?

  1254. Would that not

  1255. be the greatest?

  1256. I think so too.

  1257. Okay.

  1258. So shifting gears

  1259. a little bit,

  1260. I'm going to give you

  1261. some time at your table

  1262. to do some discussion

  1263. and then I'll bring us

  1264. back together

  1265. in a little bit.

  1266. Thank you.

  1267. Thank you.

  1268. Thank you.