Sermon
Your Money Has a Grip on You
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absolutely.
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Um, because yeah, great species,
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say they're great species that
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So,
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sorry, I just wasn't expecting you to say great species.
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That's my, that's just.
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Well of course it was a really good quote
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So we'll just move on.
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Um, so yeah, tonight, welcome to Crowd and we're, um, just carrying on our series.
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So Matt's here tonight to chat to us a little bit about the
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theme of giving and grace, which I'm really looking forward to.
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Mm-hmm.
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Fantastic.
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So let's get into it.
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We're talking about generosity tonight.
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It's really cool to be in this little new, well, I say little, it's not exactly tiny.
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Uh, the studio You Creek, did you drop your phone?
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Uh, so it's great to be with you.
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So grab your Bibles.
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Now, I remember, um, sitting in a church and the offering plate came
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round and I had no money at the time.
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Uh, zip nada, no money whatsoever, but I really felt like I wanted to give.
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So what I did was I took off my watch, which I absolutely loved.
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By the way, this one's okay.
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I mean, it's not brilliant, but it's okay.
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But I, off, I added it to the, uh, offering plate.
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I didn't have to, I just for whatever reason really wanted to.
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And I have these sort of times where I'm in this zone of freedom to give, and I do
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it, you know, sort of gladly and joyfully.
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But then there are times, uh, where I'm not so joyful about giving.
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And I think most of us know that feeling and that tension, right?
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And it doesn't have to be, uh, in anything big or dramatic either.
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For instance, uh, my default at the self-service checkouts.
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You know, when they ask you to give a few extra pennies, um, uh, and to give
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it for charity, it's just to go no.
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Uh, and I tell myself, you know, things like I already give, but then there is
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this niggle in my mind and sometimes it's guilt and sometimes it's conviction.
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So what is it then about generosity that does this to us and why does
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talking about it cause us to tense up, you know, and to address the,
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uh, elephant in the room early.
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There are some genuine concerns that the church is just after your money, and I
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get it, but why single out the church?
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Everyone, every institution, the corner shop, the government, they all want
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your money in some shape or form.
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And of course, the Bible has a lot to say about money.
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And Pete Farrington did a great job, uh, a couple weeks ago unpacking this
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idea that money is not a neutral tool.
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And how, uh, we should see ourselves as stewards rather than owners of
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everything that we hold, right?
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So despite the tension, uh, and you know, the church is just talking about
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money again, if I'm honest with you.
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Uh, how long have we been doing Crowd now?
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I don't know, six years.
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This is the first time in six years we've, we've really done a
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few talks on money, so we're okay.
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Um, so let's have an honest conversation about giving because honestly, there
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is a freedom and a joy and generosity.
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That is pretty life transforming.
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So to unpack it, uh, we will look at why giving can feel like losing.
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We're gonna ask, is generosity actually just about money?
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And finally, I wanna look at the, this sort of freedom that I found in
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church that day where I give my watch, um, and see how we can become people
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who give with joy and not guilt.
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So let's start, start, uh, by unpacking this idea and asking the question.
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W. Why can giving feel like we're losing?
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And if I'm honest with you, I think the answer lies in the idea
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that money feels very finite.
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You know, like it's a scarce resource that we seem to have less and less
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of it at the moment, don't we?
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Uh, and once it's gone, once it's spent, it's gone.
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So giving it away can feel a little bit bizarre.
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And charities in the UK especially have spotted this downward trends.
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There are roughly 4 million fewer donors now than 10 years ago, which is a huge
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section of the population in the UK.
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And it's not surprising because we've become.
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Uh, that we'd become less generous because 80% of us now cite finances as one of
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the key sources of anxiety in life.
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That's a lot of people.
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Of course, the irony here is not lost on us, is it?
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Because often to cope with this anxiety, uh, of finance, we do
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something called self-directed spending.
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So we say things like, oh, I can't afford the house, but
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what I can do is buy this latte.
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Um, and most, so, most of us have no problem treating ourselves every week.
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And another thing, uh, for me when I is this, uh, I dunno if you guys
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have had, it's the, uh, when I have more, I'll give more thinking.
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Right.
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Um, it's called the security stockpile, proper posh name for it.
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Um, and it's the idea that I'll give, uh, when I get a pay rise or.
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For a lot of Christians I'll give when I win the lottery, which I think is a good
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one because people, a lot of Christians use that as an excuse to play the
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lottery, praying, God help me to win it.
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And I'll give the majority of the winnings to charity.
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I find that incredible by the way.
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Uh, and I, I certainly am not promoting that, but it is incredible
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how we think like that, right?
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So we have these different, um, these different ideas, these different things
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to think about when it comes to money.
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And I just wanna pause there.
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Just wanna stop.
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Have you guys ever had that?
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Uh, when I, uh, earn more, I'll give more thinking.
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Or have you just been like straight down the line?
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Give all the time.
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Never thought.
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Never ever thought that.
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Really?
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Never.
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How come?
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I think it should always cost you to give.
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Yeah.
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I think it should always cost you to give and God asks you.
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To give outta what you have, where you are.
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Mm.
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So it's never been a, a, a difficult thing in my thinking.
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I, I think I have had that mentality at points, like, particularly when I
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was younger, like when I was a student.
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Um, like, and I didn't necessarily have a regular income and any income
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I was living on was borrowed money.
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It was on my student loan or whatever, or you know, money from parents.
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So I didn't really have, I wasn't earning anything as such.
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I didn't feel necessarily that I needed to tithe like, out of my income because
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I didn't really have any income.
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But, you know, arguably looking at now anything, you have
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to explain what tithe means now,
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like giving 10% of your income, your salaried income, um, back
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to God, like through the church, uh, into ministry and stuff.
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Um, but I think the principle of giving, um, yeah, I look back at
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it now and think, well, I kind of used my student loan like it was.
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My own money.
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Yeah.
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So maybe I should have done that.
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Um, yeah, so I, but I think, yeah, so I think at the time it felt like it was
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justifiable, but I think it sometimes as you grow as a Christian, it's like, it's
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not what I can get away with in rules.
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Like I could get away with not paying.
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It's technically I'm not earning it.
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Yeah, yeah.
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But actually now I look at it much more as like, what can I give and how can I tithe?
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But also just give above and beyond that and be generous.
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Yeah.
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That's it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I'd agree.
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I think that, um, it's an interesting one, isn't it?
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And financial security is one of those things that, um, they say that
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financial security is a horizon, so we never actually reach it.
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And so this thinking about generosity and giving is a really interesting one.
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And there's this great analogy, you know, when being tight with money,
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um, the good old Yorkshiremen, you know, being our fist stay closed and
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there's a bit of Victorian folklore that tells us how we can catch monkeys.
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And we catch them with a hollowed out coconut.
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And you chain the coconut to a tree and you make sure that in that coconut
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there is a hole just big enough for the monkey's hand to slip in.
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But it's too small, uh, for it to come out.
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When it grabs the peanuts inside the coconut, it puts its hand in, grabs a
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peanuts, and he can't get its hand out.
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So the monkey, uh, it becomes trapped by its, um, by these peanuts, right?
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And so once it's reached and grabbed them, grabbed as much of its can.
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It's fist is too big to take out and it's trapped.
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But of course, the monkey is not trapped by the coconut, is it?
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It's trapped by its own refusal to let go of what it's holding.
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See, a closed fist, uh, traps us in many ways, but it's the very act
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of letting go that sets us free.
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And the monkey should learn this.
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So.
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Let's go a little bit deeper, is generosity just about money.
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Now in the Bible, uh, we have a few letters.
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Um, Paul wrote to a church in a place called Corinth.
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And Corinth was a trade city.
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It's a lot like Liverpool or Chicago, not really the capital, but doing
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all right for itself and, you know, prospering and, and having a lot of trade.
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And Paul is organizing a financial gift from the non-Jewish churches in Corinth.
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Uh, and he's raising money for the Jewish church in Jerusalem who were facing
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some serious hardship, uh, at the time.
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Now, the Jewish believers in Jerusalem had sent out the good news and Paul
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wanted the non-Jewish believers then to respond by sharing their
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resources back, which was money.
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And in Paul's mind, this gift back is a living picture of what he called grace.
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And it's a word that we see a lot in the Bible.
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And it's a word that Paul uses a lot when talking about giving.
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So grace is simply when someone gives you something you didn't
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earn and you can't repay.
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Grace is when someone gives you something that you didn't earn and you can't repay.
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So when we experienced God's grace, uh, we experienced God's grace, right?
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Mm-hmm.
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Through the work of Christ.
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He gives us abundant life and it wasn't something that we earned.
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And we can never, ever, uh, repay that gift.
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But on a micro level, then grace might be a complete stranger, uh, walking
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into the restaurant where you are eating and they pay your bill for
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no apparent reason and then get off so you can't pay them back, right?
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And so.
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This is a beautiful, uh, picture of grace.
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So Paul shows us this really beautiful cycle of how generosity is about grace
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and how grace is about generosity.
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And it's this cycle that goes around.
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And, you know, over the years I have done and.
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Maybe you've not done them, but I've definitely done every, uh, wrong kind of
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giving because grace was absent, right?
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There was a season where I basically tipped God, there you go.
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Um, then I went through a phase of every gift felt like a deal, you
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know, I gave, so where's my blessing?
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Uh, and honestly, there was also a stretch when my church giving was basically a
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membership fee and I would only keep giving it if the church church sort of met
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my needs because none of this is what Paul is describing when he talks about Grace.
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Um, instead what he actually does, he gives an example of the Macedonian
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Church now, the Macedonian Church.
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Was, uh, a very different town to Corinth.
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Um, and it was full of people in extreme poverty.
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Uh, in second Corinthians chapter eight, Paul says, we want you to know brothers
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about the grace of God that has been given among the churches of Macedonia.
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So there's that word, grace again, this abundant, uh, favor that's been given
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to the churches in Macedonia for, in a severe test of affliction, their abundance
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of joy and their extreme poverty.
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I mean, that's a juxtaposition right there.
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Abundance of joy.
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But extreme poverty, um, has overflowed in a wealth of generosity.
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On their part.
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It's a really astounding scripture.
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So imagine being a Macedonian believer, right?
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Having to choose between this idea of feeding your children and sending
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money to strangers in Jerusalem and choosing to send the money
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to the strangers in Jerusalem.
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Not because you are reckless, but because you have experienced God's grace.
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And grace changes how you count.
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Grace opens a fist because a closed fist cannot receive, right?
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One of the most beautiful stories in the Bible, uh, about giving.
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Is where Jesus, um, is sat in front of the offering box in the synagogue.
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Now this box that Jesus sat in front of at the synagogue was
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shaped a little bit like a trumpet.
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So there was a box, and then out of the top came this sort of trumpet
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and it was long, um, and narrow.
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Uh, and it, but it opened at the top and sort of narrowed down so you couldn't get
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your hand in to steal the offering, right?
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But this was made out of metal.
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Okay?
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So what was interesting here.
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Is when you put the coins in, they made this huge noise, right?
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Like, um, you know the change machines you get in the arcade?
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Yeah.
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Uh, and so the more you gave, the more noise it made.
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So the wealthy givers made a lot of noise and they looked really generous.
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And so in Luke chapter 21, uh, it says that when Jesus was in the temple,
Luke 21 chapter mention
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he watched these rich people dropping their gifts in the collection box
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and he would've heard it as well.
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And then along comes a poor widow who dropped in two
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small coins and Jesus watches.
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But like I say, he can also hear, I think he would've hardly heard
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anything from what the widow put in.
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The rich made a lot of noise and the world knew what they gave.
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But the poor widow.
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Not a whole lot of noise.
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Um, and Jesus makes this really incredible statement.
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He says, right, I tell you the truth.
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When Jesus ever starts a sentence with, I tell you the truth, I'm always paying
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attention because he is the truth, right?
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I mean, why would you start?
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I'm telling you the truth.
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So he wants you to get this point right?
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And he says, this poor widow has given more than all the rest of them for,
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they have given a tiny part of their surplus, but she poor as she is, has
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given everything she has, and that is.
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Beautiful in so many ways.
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And I have to be honest with you, I don't think Jesus whispers this.
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Uh, I think everybody would've heard Jesus say this because I think
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for Jesus giving has never been about the total amount, the sum.
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I think in God's kingdom, the beautiful thing is two small
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coins can mean more than millions.
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And I know that sounds like the maths doesn't really add up, but
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I think Jesus measures something differently from quantity.
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And that's powerful and liberating, but it's also deeply challenging, right?
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So heaven's accounting doesn't measure amount.
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I think it measures sacrifice, right?
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And Paul put it this way, in his letter, uh, carrying on, he's carrying on.
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In second Corinthians a few verses down, he says, each one of us must give.
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As we have decided in our hearts, not reluctantly.
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That's always a challenge, right?
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Uh, or under compulsion for God loves a cheerful giver.
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And so I wonder if that widow was cheerful when she gave, I kind
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of think she was, in many ways.
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Maybe she gave because she had guilt.
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Uh, maybe it was out of a sense of guilt.
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Maybe she felt like she had to, but I, I dunno, it doesn't feel right to me.
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I somehow doubt it.
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I kind of think the lady had caught something about God, just like the
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church in Macedonia had caught something about giving these small amounts.
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And Jesus noticed it because it's wrapped up in grace.
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So some of you may be thinking, you know, this is great, Matt, what's.
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About the tithe, the thing that Anna mentioned, which
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I think is a fair question.
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Um, and just to echo, if you dunno what tithing is, it's where you give a portion
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of your income usually to the church, and depending on what your theology is,
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that will range between 10% and 23%.
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Uh, and I believe that regular proportional giving is important
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and is a good thing to do, but I didn't wanna spend time on that.
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I wanted to get it right, uh, here because I think you've gotta get the grace thing,
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you've gotta get your heart right, right?
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Because you can tithe and still have a closed fist.
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Uh, which is why Grace, I think, has to be the foundation of your
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giving and definitely not legalism.
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Now, I know that many will genuinely struggle with this, and I, I know
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that quite a few of, um, people listening to this will be struggling
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to pay their bills every month.
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And so, hear me clearly, this is not a sermon asking you to give.
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Um, like instead of paying your gas bill or whatever, God knows your situation.
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But early on in my Christian walk, I had gone a bit crazy with money
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thinking God would give me money if I asked, rather than waiting on God.
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I got friendly with my credit card.
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Oh yes, sometimes I had to use it just to buy food.
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Uh, but most of the time I just used it 'cause I wanted to
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thinking God will just pay it off.
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'cause God meets all my needs according to his riches in glory.
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The Bible tells us.
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So what happened was my wrong thinking produced a wrong outcome, and I was tens
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of thousands in debt before I realized.
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And my wife, who is next to me here on the comments, uh, married me and my debts.
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Right babe,
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that's a great tack.
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I don't recommend the debt in marriage.
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But anyway, um, it was in that place that I knew I had to get my
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handle, uh, had to get a handle on.
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Finances, which for me meant understanding not just what I should
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give, but why, why should I give?
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Okay.
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I want it to be more like the widow than the Pharisees.
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Um, and it's not always easy when there are so many of the things that
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we can do with our money, right?
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So yes, a closed fist cannot receive, but it's also hard to keep that
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hand open once you've got it open.
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I dunno if you've ever played that game where you put a coin in your hand, right?
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And someone has to grab it before you close it, just like that.
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It can be a bit like that with God, I've found, you know?
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Yeah.
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God, I've got an open hand and you just close it real quick again.
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Um, but then I'm reminded, uh, of what else Paul said.
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Uh, in Corinthians, he says, for you know,
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It's one of the most astounding verses in scripture.
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You know, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet
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for your sake, he became poor so that you by his poverty might become rich.
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And this is the entire engine of all of this.
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You don't need to give to get blessed because you are already blessed.
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Uh, you have already been given everything that matters.
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You were made in the image of God.
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And God is a generous God.
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So living generously aligns with who I think we're meant to be.
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So we don't need to open our hands and then snap them shut again.
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Although we probably will on time and occasion.
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Um, but we can remember again two Corinthians nine verse eight, so many
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great verses in two cor nine, eight.
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God is able.
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To make all grace abound towards you.
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There's that word again.
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God is able to make this grace abound towards you so that you, having all
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sufficiency in all things at all times may abound in every good work.
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That sounds like God wants to get some stuff to us to give
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stuff for every good work.
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Now, God can make this grace abound towards you.
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I love that phrase.
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Um, I think that's how much he wants us to be, people who are generous.
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And that's why I put my watch in the offering that day.
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Not because I had to, but because I wanted to.
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And that point, right at that point, I still remember it really clearly.
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I was a cheerful giver.
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And you know what?
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It was really, really freeing.
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So maybe like me, I dunno, you need to know that it's okay to open your hand
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and if you really want to challenge this week, maybe give something that costs.
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But do it because of grace, not because of guilt.
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Give something that makes your hand open even slightly and notice what happens,
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not just to your bank balance, but to you.
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If you do the research, you'll find actually there are some
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really good mental health benefits to being a generous person.
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Absolutely.
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Um, but that's an aside.
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Uh, but give something, right, give something that costs you.
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And if it can't be money, find something else.
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But if it can be money, give that everything God has for you.
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Every grace, every joy, every bit of freedom, uh, is awesome.
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And Grace frees you from money's grip and it flows through an open hand.
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Okay.
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Because a clenched fist cannot hold what God is offering.
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Mm.
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It's this really interesting paradox.
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So imagine giving and feeling joy instead of loss.
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Imagine being the kind of person who holds everything loosely.
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I do not because I don't care, not because I'm reckless, but because I've received
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something that's made me rich already.
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I don't, I'm not talking about my bank balance.
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I'm just rich in grace and I think that's available not through will, uh,
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willpower, but just understanding what you have been given through Christ.
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Lord, I just pray that you help us all open our hands more to you this week.
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Amen.
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Amen.
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Amen.
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Wonderful.
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Thanks Matt.
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That was great.
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Lots of content in there that I'm sure we're keen to discuss.
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Um.
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Yeah.
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Dave, any thoughts from
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you?
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It's one of my favorite topics.
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Um, not because it's about money, I think because it's about, um,
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generosity and for me it's about the condition of our hearts, you know?
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Um, whether we have much or whether we have little, it's what it's our, our
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heart, um, and what we do with that.
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And we want, you know, for me, I believe the Bible talks about
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that we're generous and we're only stewards, I think Matt mentioned.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Or whatever we have, we're only stewards of it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I wondered if anyone had got any practical examples of like when you've given,
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um, kind of the impact that had on you, because when at the end there, Matt, when
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you were talking about kind of giving.
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How giving like when you've got closed hand giving like opens your
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hand and it sort of, it almost does more to us and our hearts doesn't it?
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Yeah.
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Than it actually does to our finances.
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Yeah.
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Like I had, uh, one example when I was in, um, our church sort of did a gap year.
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I used to do a gap year and so that, that was a year where I kind
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of gave nine months up to kind of work for the church and I wasn't
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earning any income at the time.
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Um, and so I was kind of what Christians call living by Faith, which basically
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means like earning a bit of money before and after and kind of praying
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lots and hoping for the best really.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Doing bits of work here and there in between.
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Um, but yeah, during that season, like obviously money was particularly
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tight in that season 'cause it wasn't working and I think it's really hard
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sometimes to learn about generosity when, when you are really skin.
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Yeah.
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Like it's a lot harder.
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I find it easy to give now relatively easily because.
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And No.
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Quite enough.
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'cause you had enough, I've got enough to give.
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Yeah.
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But in that seasonal life, I really didn't have anything to give.
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Mm-hmm.
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So, but I remember like, like the fear of not having enough had quite a hold on me.
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And I went to church one day and somebody prayed with me and they said, and that
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it wasn't about money, but they said, I just feel like you need to give.
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Yeah.
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Like, and it wasn't even a, do you think it was even praying about money?
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It was something else.
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But she said, I just feel like you should go and test this, but feel like
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God wants you to give some money away.
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Yeah.
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And I was like, I've got like 160 quid in my bank account, that's it.
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To like live on, to pay my rent, to pay my feed bills, whatever.
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This was 20 years ago.
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So it would've gone a bit further than it does now, but
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still not a lot of money really.
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And, um, and I just, I sat with it and I thought, now fair, fair
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Money's got a real grip on me.
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Mm-hmm.
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So I'm just gonna have a go, like, I know I'm not good in this area of my life.
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And so I gave like something, like a whole chunk of it, like a hundred quid of that.
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Away to another person that I knew needed some money, um, who
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happens to be on my team as well.
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I did it, you know, kind of anonymously.
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Didn't know it was from me, I just left them the cash and I just
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thought, if nothing else break the fear of money on my life.
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And I prayed about it and I did it.
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God sort of dropped to somebody in my mind to give it to.
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So I did that and the next day I got up and there was like.
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Basically like money through my door.
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Wow.
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And it was the exact amount I'd given away.
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Wow.
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And I just thought, in a way, I was like, well, what was the point of that?
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God, I just like that money's just gone in circles.
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But I felt like it really, it did do something.
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It wasn't about the money, it wasn't about having more or less, it was
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about breaking that hold of fear.
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Money on my life.
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Absolutely.
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That's powerful.
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I was just like, well, you can't out- give God whatever you give, he'll give.
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He can give back to you.
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But mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Just that it wasn't about the money, it was about changing my heart.
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Yeah.
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And that fear and the grip that money can have when you hold onto it tight.
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So I, I really resonated with that.
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It just reminded me.
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But yeah.
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Has anyone else got any good examples of,
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I mean, I thought, I, I think that's a great story.
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And it, it's actually tied in what you were saying before.
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Um, you know about not, you know, like not tithing and not giving whatever, but you,
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you, you did what you did outta obedience.
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Mm-hmm.
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And whenever we.
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Do anything outta obedience.
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Again, that word cost comes in.
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Mm-hmm.
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But, you know, as a student, um, you know, I think sometimes we think
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it's always about money and quite often obviously money's involved.
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But, and, and when you are on the year team, you gave what you had.
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What, what do we have?
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We have our time.
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Mm-hmm.
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Once you spend that, you don't get that back.
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Yeah.
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Mm.
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That's the most valuable thing we have when we give that.
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Yeah.
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You served, you know, um, there's so many, you know, you engage with
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different things that were going on and all those things cost us.
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So whilst money, we quite often make to be the main thing.
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It's all those other things, but it's the obedience.
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So I think that's, I think it's great task as we like to say, you know, is that when
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we step out in obedience, and I'm sure you would've been, I'm sure you were blessed
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that, you know, some money came in.
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Mm-hmm.
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But I'm sure that you would've still been blessed if it hadn't, because.
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But you're never left. No.
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With a void when we're obedient.
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No.
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There's just something so amazing about that.
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And actually the blessing isn't in that situation.
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It wasn't about the money or the amount, although it kind of
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taught me that God had it covered.
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Um, but it wasn't even about that.
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It was about, the blessing was in learning that money didn't
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need to have a hold on me.
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Yes, absolutely.
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It already was blessing, wasn't it?
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Yeah.
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So, yeah, I, it's interesting.
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Hmm.
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Um, I, I really like the question that Matt raised earlier though.
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Um, like is generosity just about money?
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Yeah.
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Um, 'cause I, I think you are right Dave, isn't it, it's about your time.
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It's about hospitality, how generous you are with your things.
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I think we should be generous with money because money can have a real hold on us.
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Absolutely.
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We can be generous there so many other ways as
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well.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah.
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And this, Peter and John, isn't it, now when they go into the temple and
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they see the guy who's begging, the guy who's begging, doesn't even
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look at them in the best place.
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Mm.
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He just puts his hand out, ask him for a gift.
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Mm-hmm.
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But they look at him.
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Mm-hmm.
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They literally, they look at him, they say, silver and gold have I none.
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Mm-hmm.
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You know, but what I do have, I give. So in that case, you
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know, for me it's about getting down and connecting with people.
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There's a guy I see a lot at Tesco, um, that's my little mission field, and he,
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and he, he's there begging and he's got a drug history and his name's peace and
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been on a journey with him for the last few years, you know, talking with him.
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And he's always amazed that I, I say coronation chicken and a latte
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say now that a few years ago he couldn't have, and he goes, I, why
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do you bother remembering my name?
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You know?
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And I'm like, well, I want to.
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And I think, you know, God does, when these things don't have
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control over us, God does something.
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So for me, it's about time.
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I keep saying to him, let me take you for a coffee.
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And he's like, oh, you don't want to do that.
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You know, I'm bit, I'm like.
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Yeah, I do.
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Mm-hmm.
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You know, I haven't taken him for a coffee.
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I've taken coffee and sandwiches to him.
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Um, and my goal is actually to get him to come with me.
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Yeah.
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Because time is really important.
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Yeah.
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And he needs to know that he's valued as we are generous with our time.
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That means going a little bit earlier somewhere, so you've
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got time to do these things.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Alicia has put in the comments, um, the time is what I have most trouble giving
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when it comes to my sense of comfort.
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Yeah.
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Um, because I'm an introvert and after giving a lot of myself, I feel depleted.
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Yeah.
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Which is not good for creative, but it's very true.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Um, and it is, it's, it's, I I I, I love this lesson.
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Yeah.
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You know, your time, your treasure, your talent.
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Mm-hmm.
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All your tongue.
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Yeah.
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Um.
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All of these things are, are really important things to learn,
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to be generous with, isn't it?
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It's not just, I think a lot of Christians, what tends to happen is,
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um, and Dave, maybe you've seen this more than I have, but, uh, you go to
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church, you know, I, I joined when I was 18, didn't really have any money.
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It was exciting, you know, and yeah, and you, you're learning this whole
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thing about living by faith and God's doing some really great stuff.
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Then you get a job, um, and you start, you go through this shift of seeing your
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employer as your provider rather than God.
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Right.
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I mean, I felt really challenged, but I think I mentioned it a couple weeks ago.
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Um, but you, you tithe, you give, you give your 10% and occasionally
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you'll give to the, you know, a special offering or a missionary
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or something that comes through.
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Um, but it's, it's like we've lost that element of faith.
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Do you know what I mean?
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Because we've got comfortable a little bit with it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Um, and so then I.
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We can look at other areas like hospitality, like time, like
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generosity in, in those areas.
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But it's, I think it's easy to become comfortable and we, we
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operate within our, our boundaries.
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What always, always, one of the things that came out when I was doing uh,
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research on the talk was that, um, the poorest continent on the world, uh,
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Africa gives proportionately over pretty much double what we give in Europe.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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So as a percentage of its income, Africa is twice as generous as
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Europe where we're, you know, super wealthy and got everything.
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And there's something about a lot of people's stories about giving
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and God doing something is when they didn't have something to give.
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Do you see what I mean?
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Totally.
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Yeah.
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Um, and you don't, I think it's a shame in many ways.
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We don't hear many stories of people who are comfortable.
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Um, in life.
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Yeah.
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Mm-hmm.
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Because, I don't know, I just wonder if we've lost the, the faith is the
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wrong word, but maybe the belief that, um, or the, the willing to
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risk or the wanting the adventure.
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Mm-hmm.
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Do you see what I mean?
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Well, we live in a world, don't we?
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We are all individuals and we all like our own space.
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And I, I don't want, I don't want to invade your space and, you
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know, I don't, I don't wanna put you under pressure, you know?
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I'm sure you know, and, and.
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So we almost get to a place where we don't need each other.
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Mm-hmm.
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And we're certainly not gonna say, can I give you this?
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Can or can I do that?
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Um, because it's like we're intruding.
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Mm-hmm.
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And I think that's what we need.
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We need to lose some of that, where we actually dare to say, look, can I
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just do, I don't want anything off you.
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Mm.
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You know, because when you do give things to people, um, it's, it's
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almost, well, what you want from me?
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Absolutely nothing.
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Just when I say You're precious, I love you.
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At this stage, you're precious to God.
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Here you go.
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Yeah.
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And that may lead to, you know, two other things, but did you say it was Alicia?
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Who, who said that first?
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Alicia.
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Alicia.
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Alicia.
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I would, I would encourage you, you know, um, it does cost us,
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um, you know, um, with our time.
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And do it joyfully.
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And you know, you said that you feel depleted.
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Maybe that's part of the cost that you pay, but you know, God always, always,
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always, always honors our obedience.
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Mm-hmm.
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So I'd encourage you to have a go and, and let us know you get on.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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That's a good point.
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I think it's a really interesting thing, isn't it?
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It's like, God, where can I give, where can I be generous?
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Mm-hmm.
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May be money.
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That may be time.
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It tends to be in an area where, um, I find God challenges you in areas where you
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probably don't have, like I said, as much.
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Mm.
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And so it's harder to give.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, but yeah, I, I think that, you know, God, where can I, so where can
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I give, um, that adventure that it's, I, I mentioned it, um, before, but
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neuroscientists are finally caught up with God or caught up with the apostle.
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When you spend money on yourself, you know, retail therapy, the happiness fades.
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It doesn't last very long.
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Some of you, you may know this from, you know, from your own
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experiences, but it doesn't last very long and the happiness does fade.
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But when you give and you are generous, that happiness remains.
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Yeah.
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Um, which is quite an extraordinary thing.
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Isn't I'm feeling down, therefore I should go and give.
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Mm.
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Um, it's not, it doesn't just roll off the tongue.
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Yeah.
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Um, but there's just something deeply powerful about going, I
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am just, I just need to do this.
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Yeah.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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It's almost like a, a heart thing more than a proportionality thing, isn't it?
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I like, like the, um, going back to the widow you talked about, and I
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was just thinking about that example you gave of Africa as a continent.
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Proportionately give more than we do in the rich West and Yeah.
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You just sort of think it, it reminded me again of that story told about the
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widow, Matt, that like, it's not about.
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The proportionality of our giving.
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It's about the heart behind our, our giving.
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Absolutely.
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Absolutely.
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God's always, always, always after our heart, isn't he?
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Yeah.
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He, he's after he, he doesn't need our money.
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Like he doesn't need our giving.
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God has all the,
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absolutely,
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all the resources in the world.
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Right?
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He like, he needs us to give forward.
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It does to us, not for him.
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Like, so it is about that kind of proportionality and if something's costly
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for you to give, then that's probably the thing you should be giving, I guess.
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Yeah.
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Whether that's money, which does have a grip on a lot of us, but it may well be
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something else like your time or whatever.
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Well, that, that ties in beautifully with, uh, Ellis's question here.
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Should we give a proportionately flat fee or should we give a higher percentage?
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If we earn more?
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It really doesn't matter.
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I mean, I think that's a question lots of people in church, um, ask.
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I've asked me over the years and I would just say.
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I have never given that more than a second thought.
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Purely because you give what is on your heart to give and give it joyfully.
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You know, people say, do I give, you know, before tax or do I give after tax?
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Tithing is a starting point.
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It's, it's a principle that they use in the Old Testament.
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You know, you give what God has laid on your heart and I always think a tithe's
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a great place to start with generosity.
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Yeah.
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Never thinks about volume.
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You know, he never thinks, oh, I'll give, you know, 200
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pound this month or whatever.
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It just gives, and you know, in church, you know, people give
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regularly towards the work, towards the support of the church.
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'cause obviously you have to keep the lights on, et cetera.
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But it, it's beyond that.
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Um, and I, I would just encourage you, don't overthink it.
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Just go, just say God.
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Touch my heart.
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And, um, I know for, for Julie and I, um, and I remember very quickly when we first
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got married, being in a meeting and a little bit like Matt, um, with the watch.
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And Julie said to me, um, I was nursing and we, we did get
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a whole lot of money down it.
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I think Julie, uh, we just had our first baby, I think.
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Um, can't remember.
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And um, and I remember Julie saying, um, I think, I think we
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need just to empty our bank account.
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And I'm thinking, well, that's not gonna be hard.
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But what I did know that we'd only been paid maybe one week before.
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We were gonna have like three weeks where we had nothing.
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And I'm like, well, have you really thought about this? Have you?
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Have you really thought this through?
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You know, God's man of faith and power?
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No.
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Um, but it was something that Julie really thought we should do, so we did it.
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And I remember I was saying, look, we're not gonna say anything to anybody, I
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think must live on the credit card again.
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And, um, you know what, it was quite amazing because God was speaking
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to people at the evening and we would, I remember arriving home, I
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think it was Monday evening from my shift, and there was food, there was
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like a bag of food on the doorstep.
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And that happened numerous times during this time.
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And I'm not, I can't remember us ever telling anybody about it, you know, but
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when God knows about it, he makes a way.
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Yeah, he does.
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You know, and it, it really is about, um, just trust him.
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And, you know what?
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If he hadn't, I think we would've survived going while without,
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it's interesting, isn't it?
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Because I think I, there are stories where people, um, will
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say, oh, we give away a car.
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Um, and then God gave us a brand new car.
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Or we give away a house and God give us a house.
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So you sit there and you listen to that and go, well, I want a new house.
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Yeah.
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So I'm gonna give my house away and God's gonna give me a
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house and you end up homeless.
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Yeah.
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It's a really interesting thing, isn't it?
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But at the same time, I think if you sow pineapple seeds, guess what?
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You grow.
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Mm.
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And I would venture to say if there's an area in life that you want to
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grow in, that you want to develop in, that you feel like God's challenging
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you in, start giving into that area.
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Yeah.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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And start sowing seeds into that area.
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Yeah.
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Um, if you, if you do that, you'll be amazed at what starts to happen.
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Yeah.
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Mm-hmm.
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Right?
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Um, and just, you know, you cast your bread on many waters, don't you?
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Mm-hmm.
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And, and I, and I think it's really interesting when, when you do that, God
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starts to prove himself in that situation.
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Um.
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And so,
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but at the same time, you shouldn't give with, with like
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that kind of intention in mind.
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Like, you know, like that idea of giving so you get a new house, a bigger
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house, or a better this or better that.
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Like if I, if I bless someone else, God will bless me back.
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So I'm gonna do it like, yeah.
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To me it's a, again, what you're saying there is, it's about the heart state.
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Absolutely.
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Because like you, if you, you can't,
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yes.
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You can't do something expecting to get something back.
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'cause that's the wrong motive to give with.
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Mm-hmm.
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So, well you can do it, but it's probably not a good idea.
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It's like the heart thing, isn't it?
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It is.
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But if you give, God's gonna give back now.
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He, he's, he's your timeframe and, and your expectations are probably gonna be
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questioned.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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And there's no formula to it.
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Right.
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No formula.
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Like you can formula, you can't tell God
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what to give you formula.
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It's all about the heart.
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Yeah.
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Isn't it?
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You know, so they can have two different people.
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I, I agree with that totally, Anna, that I, I remember many years ago,
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frontline, a guy coming in, he was saying, um, I, I, I prayed for a car
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and God gave me this brand new car.
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And then I saw this car go past and he said, you know what, I, I went and I
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gave my car away and I got that car.
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And I'm thinking, well, what's your idol?
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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It may sound judgmental to you, but you know, this story just went
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on and it happened with houses.
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And I'm just like, you know what we.
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In the real world, we need to know what it is to be at peace
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with God, with much, with Yeah.
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And with plenty.
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Mm-hmm.
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And I think, you know, um, it, it's, it is all about the heart.
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God knows our heart.
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Mm-hmm.
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You know, we think where will be happier?
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We'll be more fulfilled with a bigger car or a better house, or blah, blah, blah.
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Where does that stop?
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'cause we know in the real world it doesn't, does it. It just happens.
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It then becomes let's exchange the wife.
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Yeah.
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You know, that's the sad reality of it.
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Yeah.
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Everything becomes temporary.
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Yeah.
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You know, and, and I think,
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and it's a real
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shame.
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It does start with one.
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And I think that, I generally think there is a progression, but I think
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it, I think that is a good point.
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If you have something on your heart, it is good to sow into that.
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Yeah.
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It is.
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Yeah.
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You
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know, it is like if you're the whole thing it is, it is key.
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Because Paul says, mm-hmm.
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I've learned what it is to, like you said, I've learned, learned to have plenty and
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I've learned what it is to be in need.
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But in every situation I've learned to be content.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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The word content just means independent of circumstance, which I love.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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Paul's like, I don't care whether I'm rich or poor.
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Yeah.
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I've just got God's grace.
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But I tell you, one of the magical, going back to you,
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you know, saying breaking fear.
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I think if there's a fear, you break it by, by giving.
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If there's an idol, you absolutely.
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You break it by.
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You can't give your God away.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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If, if, if money is your God, you can't give it away.
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Yeah.
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So how do you know money is not your God?
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Well, you can give it away.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, so if, if you are struggling, you know, and you kind of, with
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housing, you're like, gotta.
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I need, I need some breakthrough here.
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Mm-hmm.
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I would genuinely be going, right.
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Where can I give not
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mm-hmm.
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Not give away your, you know, your deposits and all that sort of, you've
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gotta do what God tells you to do.
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Yeah.
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Just inviting people around, just being hospitable, absolutely right?
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Just, just bring people in.
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Yeah.
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And it in
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that area, and it applies in every area of life, doesn't it. It always strikes me
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because as much as you can give a small amount like the widow, when you only
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have a small amount proportionally, and that like matters to God.
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Yeah.
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Equally, when you've got like.
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I used to have people around when I had a flat share with other mates and
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I didn't even own my own property.
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Yeah.
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And now I still like to have people around our dining room table.
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Now I own my own family house.
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But you don't start when you get the bigger house.
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When you get the perfect house, just start where you are.
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Even if it's just like a shed.
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So, and a couple of like dial out pizzas, you know?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But you don't, yeah.
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You start with where you're at.
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You do.
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And
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use what
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you've got.
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And you'll notice everything that God tells us to do.
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To be hospitable.
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Yeah.
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To pray for somebody.
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Absolutely.
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To, to, to listen to, to grieve with those who grieve, to rejoice with those who rejoice.
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And guess what all that requires.
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Yeah.
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You to give.
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Yeah.
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Something.
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The whole thing, for God so loved the world that he gave, the whole
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gospel is built on God's generosity.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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And I think, you know, you just said there and something that is a value that
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we all have in common about, you know, hospitality, sharing our homes, you know.
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Um, I mean that's something that o over the decades we've done freely like
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Sundays, you know, Sunday lunches to think how many, hundreds and hundreds opening
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up our homes for people to come and live with us, you know, share, just sharing
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what we have and it's holding it lightly.
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It's not that they're not precious, we hold them lightly, 'cause we all
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received from those things ourselves.
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Yeah, yeah.
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You know, whether we have, um, just people around on a Sunday or
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whether we're having people come and share, share our homes with us.
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Yeah.
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I can't think about how many people, I
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mean I think you and Julie, but obviously you and Sharon as well, mark, like
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you're both great at your people I think of who are great at having people
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around, having people live with you.
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Like that is the real lifestyle choice.
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It's not easy for everyone to give up their own personal
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family space and do that.
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Amazing.
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And not a natural one for, for me.
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'cause I'm, I'm quite selfish, you know, and um, and we did it when we had a
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small house and we got a larger house.
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But I always say it's a value that we really love and every now and
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then we meet people saying, oh, we really loved it when we live with you.
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And I'm like, did you?
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Where was I?
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You know?
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And uh, did your face
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know?
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Yeah.
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You know, I remember John McOwen and
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Dave was our most, the
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and Tony Ri and they're saying, we live with you.
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I'm like, did you about any man living in our house?
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Funny.
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But you, you know, it's, you hold what you have.
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And, but you know what I love seeing is that that value that,
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that we have lots of people.
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You, you know, even though you share it, you know, you
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share, you use what you have.
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And I understand not everybody can have, you know, people live with them.
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And, and we did it outta obedience.
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I, you know, just did it outta obedience.
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'cause it wasn't a natural thing initially, but we just loved and, you
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know, it, it was, it's just great to do.
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Yeah.
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You
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know, it is.
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Can highly recommend.
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One more question that I just had, um, was.
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Because Matt, you talked a little bit in your talk about kind of when you
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got into some debt on cards and, and, and went into marriage with debt.
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Like what do you think about giving while and tithing, I guess, but you
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know, above and beyond tithing as well, while you are in debt and you, you know,
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you basically owe other people money or like you touched on it briefly mm-hmm.
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But like, what, like is, you know, what would you recommend
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people do in that scenario?
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I think debt's a really interesting one.
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Mm-hmm.
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Having been in it and having done debt counseling with people over the years.
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Um, I, I would say that, um,
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for me, when I was in debt, and this is for me and what we did,
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I doubled down on my giving.
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Mm-hmm.
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I made sure I paid the debt every month.
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Yep.
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And I doubled down on my giving.
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Um, and what that, what that meant was we.
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I couldn't buy the things that I wanted to buy right.
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In, in essence, you, there had to be some change.
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Um, but I think in that scenario, I refuse to let debt and the fear of debt rob me.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, and the anxiety of it.
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So I'm like, no, I'm gonna make sure that I give, even if I have to work
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another job, even if I have to do this, that, and the other, or sell stuff.
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Um, I, and trust me, I had plenty of nonsense that I bought on the
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credit card that I could sell, but, um, but we, we also, you know, we
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worked hard to get out of the debt.
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Um, and, and we made some choices.
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And it's not like getting outta debt is a, is a, happens in a month.
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No.
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It can take years.
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Mm-hmm.
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Right.
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Um, and so now, um, I'm super grateful we sit here and I don't have any
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debt other than the mortgage on my house, you know, but we own the car.
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We save for cars, we buy cars, cash.
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We don't, um, we don't.
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Lease them.
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And I know people do, and I'm not, it's not a judgmental thing for me.
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I wanted to get out of the debt.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Um, you know, I, I think it's good to get outta the debt, but you have to
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make those lifestyle choices early.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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Um,
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I, I think as well, what awful might, you know, you've said, um,
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oh, you've done some debt counseling.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, we've done quite a bit of that o over the years and I've seen God just
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do some amazing things because we were never able to say, here's the
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money, cover your debt and pay us, but just never had it to do with that.
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But walking through it with people
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mm-hmm.
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Um, I would have to, we would always say, you know, we'd talk about the debt,
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what you want to do, and some of them say, we can pay this, blah, blah, blah.
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But we, one of the key things we have to do is help people
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deconstruct their idea of money.
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Because there's all this input, like buy now, pay later type of thing.
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Mm-hmm.
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And that has devastating impact on marriages that mm-hmm.
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Numbers of marriages that break down because of that is huge.
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So we have to deconstruct the idea of money, how we use it, and, um,
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but I think, you know, when we are helping people walk through that, I
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think in that they get some healing.
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They get some input about what money is
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Yeah.
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And how they should use it.
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Mm-hmm.
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It was really interesting when we were doing the debt counselling that, um, you
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have to, because like you, it's like you see people and you go, well, I can't
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give you the money to pay your debts.
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But if I could, I probably wouldn't.
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That's right.
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Right?
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That's right.
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And, and it's a really interesting thing.
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Thing that's Yeah.
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Was there was this really odd phenomenon that I noticed.
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They, they called it the debt consolidation loan.
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I dunno if they still do, but this was the idea whereby you'd run a, you know,
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four or five different credit cards.
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Mm-hmm.
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And let's say you owed 40 grand mm-hmm.
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Across all your credit cards.
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So you consolidated that debt into one payment Yeah.
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Every month.
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And that payment would've been lower than the debt payments on all the credit cards.
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Mm-hmm.
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And so you, you, you go, this makes financial sense because it's
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gonna free up money every month.
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We're not gonna go from hand to mouth.
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And so you, you consolidate your debts and you start to pay.
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Now, I dunno if you noticed this, but I noticed when people consolidated
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their debts within 12 months mm-hmm.
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18 months, they were not in 40,000 pounds worth of debt.
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They were in 80,000 pounds worth of debt.
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Mm-hmm.
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Because they, they'd not dealt with the financial That's right.
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Habits that got them into debt in the first place.
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Now I'm not.
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It's not, hear me, I'm not saying everyone in debt, it's their own stupid fault.
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Mm. I'm not saying that at all, but quite often there are habits.
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I definitely had them that got me into debt.
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Mm-hmm.
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And if you don't deal with that, the white knight in shining armour,
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you know, so classic one recently.
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So I had a lot of debt.
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You get redundancy, you get a big redundancy payout, you pay those debts
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off thinking, well, I'm debt free two months later, how's the debts?
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Wow.
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They're still low, aren't they?
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And they, they actually, they're creeping up again.
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Yeah.
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And so, yeah, I think, I think debt's a really interesting one.
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Um, and having to deal with those reasons you're in debt.
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Important.
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Um, so Alicia said, uh, well let's just look at the comments here.
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Uh, lady Beby giving and blessing aren't necessarily like for, like, for example,
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financial giving doesn't necessarily mean you'll be blessed financially.
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Right.
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God knows what we need and blesses us accordingly.
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Mm-hmm.
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Um, I think everyone is agreeing there.
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Mm.
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Uh, Alicia says, I want to reiterate that God has always been faithful in
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restoring me after I've been depleted.
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Yeah.
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Energetically well done or financially
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well done.
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Yeah.
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That's fantastic.
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It's just, it's often just a matter of me practicing patience in the interim.
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Um, I would totally agree.
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I think, um, it's like you said, isn't it?
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You can't out-give God.
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God is no man's debtor.
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Um, you know, and it's like, and it doesn't mean that if you
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give money, you'll get money.
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Like, um, Sonya said it's, but yeah, I think just the life of being generous
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is really, really good fun, isn't it?
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Yeah.
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Be the first person to pay for dinner.
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Mm-hmm.
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Do you know what I mean?
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Yeah.
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And you know, do those
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so freeing and it also means that like God knows your needs.
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Mm-hmm.
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You know, like I always think of about, um, passage of Matthew where he talks
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about look at the birds and Yeah.
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You know, the flowers in the field, God provides for all of
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nature, doesn't he also know your needs and we need provide for you.
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And I always think we make it so complicated sometimes, don't we?
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But like Yeah.
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It's so freeing when we live generously and God knows our
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needs, so don't worry about it.
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Yeah.
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There's, um, I'm going to, can I tell the story about our future Inlaws?
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I'm gonna tell it anyway.
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It sounds like
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you just started so
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carry on.
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I just, to my wife permission and Yeah.
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I'm gonna tell her anyway.
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So my eldest son in eight weeks is getting married.
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Is it less than eight weeks anyways, getting married soon.
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Um, and
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don't worry, Sharon knows the date.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I'll be there.
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I'll be there.
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So don't panic.
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Um.
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And we, uh, so he's marrying Abby, who's beautiful.
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Um, Abby's from Indonesia and her parents were over.
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So we met her parents and we went out to eat.
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Now, normally when we go out to eat, I will sneak off at some
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point and pay the food bill.
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Right.
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It's just one of the things in my head, I'm just trying to be generous.
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I just, I, I try and pay for the food.
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Um, but they got there before us, didn't they?
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Wow.
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They were like, I went to pay the bill and they already paid it.
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Wow.
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What did they pay when they, we came in?
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Yeah,
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I Did they call you 20 minutes before we arrived and said, here's
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my, how did they do that so quick?
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And it got to the point where I just love being around people like that,
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where you are arguing about who's gonna pay the bill so much better.
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And so we're like, alright.
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She.
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You, I'm gonna tie you to the table.
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It's my, I need to pay for this.
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Right.
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So it's just really, and they're like, no, no, no, we'll get it.
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I'm like, I'm gonna break your legs.
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Um, it's just, it's just the way it's gonna be.
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So I'm not really gonna do that, just, but it's that competition to be generous.
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I love being around people like that rather than the people when the check
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comes at dinner and they're all like,
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who paid?
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Who had what?
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50
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50? That's annoying.
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And I, I don't mind, I, I get that people want to pay that, but even if it's just a
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like, oh, if I leave it long enough, maybe you'll pay, you know, that kind of thing.
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So.
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Yeah.
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Um, anyway, uh, it's probably time for us to,
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yeah, we need to wrap up.
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Up.
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Um, I don't actually know what's happening next week 'cause I've forgot to ask.
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I'm before we went on there, I'm not, but, um, yeah.
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Matt didn't tell us.
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So tell us what's happening next week, Matt.
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Just by anyone
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he wants tonight.
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Uh, we have Will.
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So with.
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Uh, with us next week
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talking about
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God's heart for the poor.
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So we're carrying on, uh, well, God's heart for the rich and poor, actually.
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So we're carrying on a conversation about money.
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This is money part four.
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So part one was Pete Farrington talking about stewardship part two.
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Mike Cares last week talked about work, um, uh, and earning
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money, which was brilliant.
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This week I talked about grace and generosity.
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Next week is Will talking about God's heart for the rich and poor.
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And week five is you.
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Is it?
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It is.
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It's all about building a legacy.
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Um, so, uh, did you know that?
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No.
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Better start writing that page.
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I'm ready though.
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I'm done.
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We've had this conversation now
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fine tuning.
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So, um, we need to see why you're not getting emails anyway.
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Um.
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That's what's coming up.
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Mm-hmm.
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Then we've got Easter, uh, we've got age sharing with us, and then
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you are talking, aren't you done?
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Mm-hmm.
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Cool.
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Resurrection.
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Resurrection Sunday.
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And then we're getting into, you didn't ask this and I've
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just started off on one now
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I know.
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And after that we've got a 30 week series potentially on Jesus the Revolutionary,
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which I'm really looking forward to.
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Yeah, I'm make excited
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about
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that.
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Yeah, it's gonna be great.
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We're just looking at all the stories of Jesus and uh, and
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how they're so countercultural.
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Yeah.
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Uh, both then and now, um, uh, which I'm really looking forward to.
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So anyway, that's what's
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happening next week.
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Awesome.
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Sounds good.
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Fab.
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Well, we look forward to having everyone back next week and just a reminder
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as well that if people wanna stick around, um, then you can come and
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join us in the live lounge afterwards.
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So we've, um, yeah, we'll just be around a couple of us.
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If you wanna chat, discuss your questions, get to know us a bit more, one-to-one.
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There'll be a link somewhere in the chat.
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Is that right?
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Z.
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There's in there apparently.
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Say you're doing the comment.
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Brilliant.
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But
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I was looking at me like, I dunno.
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I dunno.
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It's alright.
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We're all under control.
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It's the,
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it's okay.
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Zoe Cold Sweats.
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Next week we'll have know a bit more what we're doing in this room
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and format, so it'll be slicker.
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Yeah.
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But
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yeah,
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the slicker,
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I'm
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what Crowd's known for.
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I'm not saying slick, I just say slightly slicker.
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That's really what we're known for.
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We are like so slick in it.
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Um, but yeah, no, it'd be good to see you in Live Lounge though.
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So that links in the comments.
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Right.
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Um, it's gonna be a bit low key this week, but we're gonna get live lounge
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better as the tech, uh, gets a bit more established in our really slick studio.
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Mm-hmm.
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I love that.
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We're gonna get slicker.
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Yeah.
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There should be a t-shirt slogan.
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Well, we've gotta get going much more the other direction you,
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anyway, there we are.
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I think that's a wrap, isn't it?
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It is.
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Dave, thank you so much for joining us.
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It's great to be with you guys a little bit.
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I'll be in two weeks apparently.
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Yeah, you'll be back in a couple weeks.
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So we'll see.
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You see, and uh, Matt, we just see you every week, so yeah,
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sorry about that.
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But yeah, thanks for joining us, everyone, and we'll see you soon.