Be prepared

Leave your Bibles open where Amish just read to us.

And I'm going to pray.

Lord Jesus, as we come to your word

and as we think again about your coming again,

open our hearts to you

and help us to live our lives in the light of your coming

and to see what your coming means for those who are safe in you.

Great joy, great security

and help us to rejoice in what we see in here tonight.

In Jesus' name, Amen.

I had a pretty low day the other day.

I had a moment where I was desperately in need of God's wisdom

and I think also wanting a sense of his nearness and his care.

You know, you hit a low spot,

you almost want to feel God's there as well as know God's there.

And I went to a quiet spot.

In fact, I went up to the foyer at church.

Nobody was around.

And I sat there to pray.

And the best I was able to do was pray,

Lord, please give me wisdom and love.

That was about as big as the prayer got.

I needed God's presence.

I couldn't feel it.

And then I phoned a friend.

And he was wisdom in the flesh for me.

I don't know how I really expected God to answer my prayer,

but I tell you that he did it in a way that was really simple.

He answered it in the person of my friend,

whom I call wisdom personified.

In fact, my wife knows who this man is

because I said to her,

I prayed to God and then I rang wisdom personified

and she knew exactly who I rang.

And in that moment,

I take my friendship with my friend as God's blessing to me.

I was reassured about the presence

and the protection

and the purposes of God in the person of my friend.

Life this side of heaven

is sometimes very difficult.

And I guess when I talk to church family even tonight,

each of us are walking in a different place

and a different moment

and experiencing different things.

So some of us will be sitting here thinking,

it's pretty cool at the moment,

it's pretty great

and it's coming up to Christmas

and I'm going to get all the things I wanted.

And that's for you.

But there may be another one or two amongst us

who are really struggling at the moment

for whatever reason.

And when life is difficult,

I think that's when we really want to pray

the last words of the Bible,

which are,

come Lord Jesus, come.

Come back again, please Lord Jesus

and wrap this whole show up

because it's just not that cool

being here at the moment.

I want to say tonight

that the second coming of the Lord Jesus Christ

is an essential part of Christian understanding

and it helps us to wait

and make sense of the very imperfect world

which we're living in at the moment.

I'm preaching this short series

on Jesus coming,

the return of the Lord Jesus.

I spoke about it last week

and went to three passages,

a few different passages,

some in John's Gospel,

some in 1 Thessalonians

and some in Acts chapter 1.

Acts 1 · chapter mention

And I said that Christians believe

very distinctive things

about life after death.

We believe in the resurrection of all people.

We don't believe in reincarnation.

We don't believe in endless cycles of life.

We don't believe that you can come back

as a flea on a dog's bottom.

And we don't believe in annihilation,

back to dust with no further consequences.

We believe that people cannot escape

the ultimate justice of God

by dying out of this world.

And we believe in the resurrection

to face the judgment of God

and of ultimate accountability.

We believe in the justice of God

which does not allow us

to escape responsibility.

And we believe in the mercy of God

in the Lord Jesus Christ

which allows us to stand safe

at his judgment.

We do not have to fear

the coming of the Lord Jesus Christ.

So Jesus' second coming

from a Bible point of view,

it is certain,

it will be sudden,

it will be seen by all,

it will happen

when his father says it will happen.

Nobody can predict the moment.

So when somebody tries to,

somebody puts a date

on the coming of Jesus,

somebody says you can be slow,

it's not coming yet,

or it's going to happen next year

on such and such a date,

I want you as Christian people,

as my brothers and sisters

to be able to just say

straight out rubbish.

It's nonsense.

Even if it's the most well-meaning

and well-intentioned person.

What do I say to them?

Rubbish.

Because the scripture says otherwise.

All people will be raised

to face the judgment of God.

Jesus' coming will mean

that judgment and destruction

for those people

who have rejected him,

but joy for everyone

who trusts and hopes in him.

So to have your name

written in the Lamb's book of life

means that you will be safe

on the day of his coming.

I'm particularly preaching tonight

about Matthew chapter 25,

Matthew 25:1–13

verses 1 to 13.

Jesus tells a story

about 10 virgins

waiting to meet a bridegroom

and to escort him

to collect his bride.

That doesn't sound very good,

does it?

I think the virgins

are the bridesmaids

and they're waiting

for the groom to come

and to collect his bride.

I've preached this passage before

and I was going to preach it,

not I haven't preached it here,

I've preached it in another place,

and I was going to preach it

unchanged for the night

and I got it out

and I thought,

oh, this is easy,

easy work of preparation,

I've done this before

and as I started to read

over the work

that I'd done before,

I realised I'd done

a really lousy job last time

and I hadn't understood

the passage properly

and all of a sudden

I had a workload

which I didn't expect

and I want to say to you tonight

that I think I've learnt some things,

I think I've got better

in understanding the passage

but I don't think

I've got it perfect,

so if you're sitting there

reading the passage

while I'm speaking to you tonight

and you see some things in it

and you go,

aha, tell me about it afterwards

because we don't see everything

every time we get up to speak.

You can't understand this passage

without understanding

Matthew chapter 24

Matthew 24 · chapter mention

which is immediately before it

and Matthew 24

is a notoriously difficult chapter

of the Bible to understand.

So the people of the first century,

the people that this was written to

were like some of us,

they were living at a time

when God hadn't spoken

for a long time,

maybe 500 years

since one of the prophets

had spoken.

There hadn't been a word of God

for a long time

and there was this growing expectancy

that God was going to turn up

and show his face.

some people were expecting

the coming of the Messiah,

the King

and they associated his coming

with the end of time,

one coming,

one end.

So when the Messiah comes,

that'll be the end,

it's all wrapped up.

We're a bit the same.

We're looking for one more coming

of Jesus

and we associate his coming

when he comes again

with the wrapping up of history

as we know it,

the end of the world,

one more coming,

one end.

Jesus lived in revolutionary times.

You find this out

when you read the New Testament.

People were anticipating a king

who would lead them to glory,

who would reestablish

the kingdom of David

with all its magnificence

for a thousand years before.

A king who would drive

the pagan Romans

out of the land

of God's promise

and there were false Christs

in Jesus' day

who were going to lead

God's people to glory.

You can read about them

in the New Testament.

Two of them are mentioned

in Acts chapter 5.

Acts 5 · chapter mention

They were Jewish revolutionaries.

Their names were Thutis and Judas,

not Judas who was Jesus' disciple

but another Judas.

And both these men

led uprisings

of several hundred men

against the Romans

and these movements collapsed

when their leaders were killed.

So kill the leader,

the movement collapses.

Jesus was executed

in an environment

where he was seen to be

a threat to national security.

He died

and the movement around him

didn't collapse,

it grew.

When Jesus was on trial

before Pilate,

the Jewish leadership

whipped up the crowd

to demand the release of Barabbas.

Set Barabbas free.

Don't set Jesus free.

Set Barabbas free.

We want him.

And Barabbas was

a murderous insurrectionist.

When Jesus was arrested,

Peter drew his sword

straight away,

didn't hesitate

and cut off the ear

of the high priest's servant.

Great stroke.

Magic to see.

Because he was expecting

to have to swing his sword

in following his king,

Jesus.

These were all people

who were expecting

to use weapons

to help God achieve

his purposes.

They had preconceived ideas

about what the coming

of the Messiah

would look like.

And that's why

so many of them

had no idea

that it was even happening

when it was actually happening

because they had

such another idea

in their head

about what would happen.

even Peter.

And what you see here

is that God

is very active

in his work

in a way

that they cannot see

and is not yet understood.

So Matthew 24

begins with Jesus saying,

well, it's all over

for the temple

and it's all over

for Jerusalem.

The disciples

are with Jesus.

They're travelling.

They're marvelling

at the cityscape.

I did it yesterday.

We went,

by the grace

of some of our friends here,

we went and saw

the Messiah

in the Sydney Opera House

yesterday afternoon,

Kerry and I,

with a few of you.

Who else went?

Look at the hands going.

It was the

Foo Club.

The Foo Fan Club

because we were supporting

Chrissie Fulcher

who was singing

in the chorus.

And, you know,

the city skyline

is pretty magnificent,

isn't it?

You can sit on the northern

side of the harbour

and you look across the city,

you see the Opera House,

it's silhouetted

by the bridge down this side

and the high-rise buildings

on the other side

and you can go sometimes,

oh, wow,

isn't it awesome?

And that's what these guys

did outside Jerusalem.

They're travelling

with Jesus,

they're looking back

at Jerusalem,

they're seeing the walls

and the temple

and the other buildings

out there

and they're saying,

it's awesome, Jesus.

And Jesus says,

it's up for demolition.

It's all coming down.

And in AD 67,

the Roman army

came in

and totaled the city.

And 600 years later,

Muslims built a mosque

on the side,

the third holiest shrine

in Islam

and it's been

the most contentious

piece of real estate

in the world

ever since.

A temple

hasn't been rebuilt.

Why wasn't a temple

rebuilt?

Why doesn't a temple

need to be rebuilt?

Help me out.

Help me out.

God is everywhere.

We are the temple

of the living God.

So why do we need

a temple rebuilt

to sacrifice animals

over and over again

to God

in worship of him

when we have had

the one true sacrifice

for sin

that Romans describes

in the person

of the Lord Jesus

step onto the stage

of the world history?

So Christians

who want to bring

a temple back,

we need to be able

to say to them,

rubbish as well.

There's two rubbishes

tonight.

If you go to the chapter

before,

Matthew chapter 23,

Matthew 23 · chapter mention

Jesus actually brings

the curtain down

on the whole

of the Old Testament.

He says these words,

O Jerusalem,

Jerusalem,

Jerusalem,

the city that kills

the prophets

and stones those

who are sent to it.

how often would I

have gathered

your children together

as a hen gathers

her brood under

her wings

and you would not.

Your house is left

to you desolate

for I tell you,

you will not see me

again until you say,

blessed is he

who comes in the name

of the Lord.

Jesus has told

parables

about the rejection

of God's messengers

and ultimately

God's son

and a new age

is coming

and a new dawn

is about to begin

and so in chapter 24

verse 3,

he sat on the

Mount of Olives,

the disciples

came to him privately

and they said,

tell us,

when will these things

be and what will be

the sign of your coming

and of the close

of the age?

So you get

information here,

you see that Jesus

is alone with his disciples,

he's teaching them privately,

this private teaching

goes on through

the whole of chapter 24

and the whole of chapter 25

and his close friends,

his disciples,

his followers

have got two

really big questions,

when and what?

When will these things

happen?

And what will be

the sign of your coming

and of the close

of the age?

How will we know

that it's about to happen

so that we can see

it coming and be warned?

They have this mindset

that the coming of Jesus

means the close

of the age,

for them the end

of history is upon them

and they want to be

ready for it.

And the first question

has an easy answer,

chapter 24 verse 36,

concerning that,

this is Jesus speaking,

concerning that day

and hour,

no one knows,

not even the angels

of heaven

nor the son

but the father only.

Only the father

of God in heaven

knows when this

is going to happen,

not even me.

And then in verse 44,

therefore you must

be ready

because the son of man

is coming at an hour

when you do not expect.

And so the easy answer

is be ready.

My father is the only

person who knows

the timing,

it will be sudden,

it will be unexpected

and if anybody else

has got a suggestion

about the timing,

just forget it.

They don't know.

But the second question

is much harder.

It's a really good question

but they're asking it

with wrong expectations.

They don't yet understand

that Jesus will come twice.

All the end time expectations

which they're expecting

to happen right now

aren't going to happen

just right now,

they're going to be spread

over time.

Not everything's going

to be completed

with Jesus' first coming.

It's a brand new idea

and it's never been

on their radar before

that Jesus might come once

and then he might come again

or the Messiah,

the King might come once

and then he might come again.

And so Jesus tells them

things about the destruction

of the temple,

many false Christs,

wars, famines,

persecution of believers

to death,

sun, moon and stars

not giving light,

the abomination

of desolation

standing in the temple.

And in verses 34 and 35

he says,

I tell you the truth,

this generation

will certainly not pass away

until all these things

have happened.

And he's saying

that there are events

of cosmic consequence

in the life and times

of the current generation.

You're living in them

at the moment

to the people back there

2,000 years ago.

They're happening

with this current visit

of God to his world

and in the person

of his son,

the Lord Jesus Christ.

You have to move past Christmas.

Christmas is nothing

compared with what

Christ is about to do.

It's a great time of the year

but in terms of what

Christ is about to do,

it's what he's come to do

and who he is

which is really important.

We move beyond

the baby story

to the glory of Christ

and the kingship

which he's going to exercise

and he's particularly

going to exercise

that cross,

that,

that,

his kingship

on a hill

outside of Jerusalem

when he gives his life

for the sins

of anybody

who would trust in him

and when God vindicates him

by raising him

from the dead.

And the Bible says

that this is a climactic event

with cosmic consequences.

What Jesus is doing

back there

has implications

for the whole of history.

That's how big this event is.

I think when Jesus died

on the cross

that was the abomination

that causes desolation.

There is nothing

that has happened

in the whole of human history

which is as gross

as what happened

to Jesus on the cross.

Because we,

the people that God has made,

even the religious leaders

of his own time,

the people who were supposed

to protect religion

and the temple

and keep it holy

and all those things

seized God himself

with their own hands

and tried to destroy him

as ridiculous

as that is.

That is an abomination.

So Jesus is also preparing them

for an intervening period

and another coming.

In chapter 24,

verses 39 to 44,

he says,

keep watch

because you do not know

on what day

your Lord will come.

But understand this,

if the owner of the house

had known

at what time of night

the thief was coming,

he would have kept watch

and would not have let

his house be broken into.

If the thief had made

an appointment,

the owner of the house

wouldn't have got caught out.

So you also must be ready

because the Son of God

will come at an hour

when you don't expect him.

God's not going to make

an appointment

for you to look forward to.

There will be another coming.

There will be a delay

between the two

and that is where

the story of the wedding

in chapter 25 comes in.

Ten virgins

took their lamps

and they went out

to meet the bridegroom.

Five of them were foolish

and five were wise.

The foolish ones

took their lamps

but did not take

any oil with them.

The wise, however,

took oil in jars

along with their lamps.

Bridegroom was a long time

in coming

and they all became drowsy

and fell asleep.

So Jesus tells this story.

There's a wedding.

No, I can't say

what I want to say.

And you hear nothing

about the bride

in this wedding.

It's bridegroom focused.

It's man-centric.

It's man-centric.

The man spends the money.

The man makes the arrangements.

I'm a dad

and I've got

one married son,

one unmarried son

and I've also got

three unmarried daughters.

So I like this passage

because

I think it's great

for the man's family

to bear the cost

of the marriage

and I think

dowries

are especially

encouraged

and

I know I'm right

because I talked

to my boss this morning

and he totally agrees

with me.

So in Jesus' day,

marriage was like

this three-stage process.

You'd get engaged.

There was engagement,

there was betrothal

and then there was marriage

and the story Jesus tells

is about the third stage

where the bridegroom

returns from his dad's place

to take his bride.

He's been building

and what he's been doing,

he's been at his dad's house

building on an additional room

that he can bring his bride to

to begin their married life together.

So he will come

as soon as the building's completed,

he will come

at that moment

with his entourage

to get his bride

and take her to his house

to consummate the marriage

and to live in their new home.

It's a great moment.

It's a moment

that they've been anticipating

together for some time.

Really interesting,

Jesus uses similar language

and imagery

in John chapter 14

John 14 · chapter mention

when he said,

in my father's house

are many rooms

and I am going there

to prepare a place for you.

And he also said,

I will come back

and take you to be with me

that you may be where I am.

I'm going away,

there are going to be rooms

for my followers,

I will return

and we will journey

to the place where I am.

So these ten young women

are going to light the way

for the groom

when he arrives

and they will go with him

to the wedding banquet.

Five are described as foolish,

five are wise,

all of them have lamps,

the lamps are not the little thing

they carry around a house,

they're probably long sticks

with a rag on the end

soaked in oil

that creates a blazing light

outside as you travel

through the night.

Five are called wise

because they have jars of oil,

five are called foolish

because they don't.

They all look the same

while they're waiting,

they don't look any different,

there's no difference

except the oil.

The bridegroom's delayed,

he takes a long time,

he doesn't come as quickly

as they had expected him to come,

everybody gets the nods

and they go to sleep.

And it's really interesting

because there's no judgment

in this passage

about them going to sleep,

it's not as though

going to sleep

was a wrong thing

for them to do,

they all go to sleep.

But what Jesus is preparing them for

is a delayed return,

that's a new thought.

It may well be

an unexpectedly long time

into the future

and for people like us

we can see that,

we can look back,

we can say,

well it's been 2,000 years already,

of course it was going to be

a long time into the future.

But it doesn't take faith

for us to see that,

we just look and see.

But we do need faith

to know that Jesus

is still coming.

It was probably

very difficult

for Jesus' disciples

to come to terms

with a slow return

because they just thought

it was going to be imminent.

You know,

this same Jesus

that you've seen

going to heaven,

he's going to return again

in the same way

that you've seen him

going to heaven,

said the angel.

And they thought

it was going to be

in their own lifetime.

But it shouldn't fill us

with a,

or lull us

into a false sense

of security either.

One of,

when I was in

country town

in New South Wales

ministering,

one of my precious

90 year old ladies

who was full of faith

and she'd walked

through some hard yards

in her life

and God had been

really gracious with her

so I really respected her.

but she said to me

one day,

she said,

I don't think

Jesus will return yet

because I don't think

all the prophecies

have been fulfilled yet.

She was trying

to be scriptural

but she was limiting

God with her theology.

And I lovingly

disagreed

and reminded her

that Jesus teaches us

to be at the ready.

I don't think

I changed her mind

by the way

but we differed

and it was okay.

And when you think

about readiness

I think there's two ways

of understanding

or thinking about readiness.

There's a right way

and there's a wrong way.

So the wrong way

is the story

I told in my message

last week

about the deputy principal

at Frenchess Forest High School

who resigned his job

in 1981

absolutely convinced

that Jesus would return

in 1982.

I'm not sure

what he did

after 1982.

And I was thinking

about this

because I thought

if I knew Jesus

was coming back

in four weeks time

I'm going to stop

putting money

into superannuation

straight away

and I'm going to

start spending it.

I'm not going

to do any work.

I said that to Steve

this morning.

No work.

Sorry Deb.

You have to do it all.

You do it all anyway.

That's probably

what you're going to say.

I'd be with my family

and I'd probably

be pleading

with any members

of my family

to prepare

to meet Christ.

That would be

important for me

just because I know

and love the Lord Jesus.

But if I was

in the country

I wouldn't bother

planting any more crops.

Wouldn't even bother

harvesting them

because there'd be

no one to sell to

in four weeks time.

People who aren't

Christians

I think would go

into a frantic

indulgent panic

if they thought

it was true

if the world

was going to end

in four weeks time.

I think you'd

go and load up

your credit card

knowing that you'd

never have any bank fees

again never have

to pay it back.

I think life

would be turned

on its head.

We'd become

totally irresponsible

and selfish.

We'd go out there

and live and do

whatever we wanted

to do without

regard to the

consequences.

The routines

of life would be

shot to pieces.

Nobody would be

serving one another.

That's the wrong

type of readiness

and when somebody

preaches to us

that you've just

got to be ever ready

as though he's

going to walk

in the door

tonight

well yes

that's right

but no

in terms of panic.

So what is

the right way?

Well I think you

see it in the

remainder of the

story.

The moment of

truth arrives

verse 6

at midnight

the cry rang out

here's the bridegroom

come out to meet

him and all the

virgins woke

and they trimmed

their lamps

and the bridegroom's

return catches

everyone by surprise

the wise and the

foolish everybody's

caught up in the

surprise of his

return.

They all have to

wake up to meet

him.

He turns up in the

dead of the night

when all the women

are asleep.

Everyone needs to

do the normal

things including

sleep so it's all

right to sleep

but now there is a

problem because the

difference between

the two groups

becomes immediately

obvious with the

coming of the

groom.

Some are ready

to meet him

and some

aren't.

And the

foolish ones

in a panic

say to the

wives give us

some of your

oil our lamps

are going out.

No they replied

there mightn't be

enough for both

of us and you

you get down

the shop really

quickly and go to

the cellars of

oil wake them

up and buy

some for

yourselves.

And while they

were on their

way to buy

some oil the

bridegroom arrived

the virgins who

were ready went

in with him to

the wedding banquet

and the door

was shut.

it's a hard

word and if

you're like me

you sort of you

ask all sorts of

questions when you're

trying to prepare a

message and figure out

what's going on here

but you know

couldn't they have

shared?

But you've got to

look beyond the

parable to see that

this is a decisive

moment of truth.

There just isn't

enough for everyone.

It is the moment

when preparedness

is going to be

seen in a final

and an unchangeable

way.

When Jesus

returns it will

be too late to

decide to get

ready.

The opportunity

will be in the

past.

You can't rely on

another person's

preparedness.

You might live in

a family where

one partner knows

and loves the

Lord Jesus Christ

or maybe your

mum or your

dad do and

they are well

prepared for the

return of Christ.

They know him

and he knows

them.

And they don't

have to fear the

day and on that

day you won't be

able to say my

partner did all the

church going for

our family.

Or don't you see

the fine Christian

kids that I've

raised or my

family goes back

three or four

generations,

believers, we've

been saying grace

for the last

hundred years in

our family.

family.

Or the really

hard one from a

parent point of

view is take my

faith, take my

oil and give it to

my children, please

save them instead of

me.

That doesn't work

either.

We have to answer

for ourselves.

Do we have any

oil?

Have we prepared?

It's about you and

whether you have

prepared for that

day.

Will you go in with

the groom or will

the door be shut in

your face?

And I know as I

speak tonight that

there may be some

people here who

know that what I'm

saying about Christ

and his return is

true.

You also know that

you are unprepared to

face him.

You may know lots of

true things about the

Bible especially

because you hang

around churches and

churches are a great

place to hang around

so no discouragement

of that.

Even if you don't

believe this is a

wonderful place to

be.

You may know that

Jesus died.

You may know that

Jesus was raised.

You may know that

Jesus is king in

heaven right now.

You may know some

great theology and you

may have read some

great Christian books.

But to know about

Jesus is different

from knowing Jesus

and loving Jesus.

Need both.

people who know and

trust the Lord Jesus

will be well prepared

to meet him when he

comes.

We don't have to be

afraid.

He has prepared us for

his coming by taking

our sin and nailing it

to the cross.

And we have already

entrusted ourselves to

him in response to what

he has done for us.

We will be safe when he

returns by the grace of

the Lord Jesus Christ.

Story goes on and

almost comes to a

conclusion in verse 11.

Others came to him.

Sir, sir, they said,

open the door.

The others, the others,

that's the foolish ones,

came to him and said,

sir, sir, open the door

for us.

And he replied,

I tell you the truth,

I don't know you.

I don't know you.

And then Jesus says,

therefore keep watch

because you do not know

the day or the hour.

See, the rejection for

the unprepared is

dreadfully clear.

It's too late.

There is no reversal.

Rejection is final.

And I think at the very

heart of this story are

the words at the end of

the story which are,

I don't know you.

The wise ones are known

by the groom and the

foolish ones aren't.

I said this morning,

nobody invites guests

to a wedding whom

they don't know.

Well, one of our mums

contradicted me,

but there you go.

It's the gardener wedding

next week and they've got

250 people coming.

I don't think they know

them all.

But take the principle.

You don't get invited

if you're not known.

So being ready for Jesus'

coming does not mean

frantic panic,

really important.

It means knowing the

Saviour now.

It means being on about

his business.

I'm going to come to that

next week.

Chapter 24,

verse 44 says,

you must also be ready

because the Son of Man

will come at an hour

when you do not expect

him.

Who then is the faithful

and wise servant whom

the Master has put in

charge of the servants in

his household to give them

the food at the proper

time?

The Master has given

him a job to do.

Who's the faithful servant?

It will be good for that

servant whose Master

finds him doing what

he's supposed to be doing

when he returns.

So when Jesus returns,

people will see what they

are missing out on and

they will want it.

But it will be too late.

When Jesus returns,

there won't be anybody

having a peek at how good

it is and saying,

I don't want any of that.

We'll all want in.

And those who reject

Christ now face a future

of grieving what they

have missed out on.

But the call throughout

the Bible is to a life

of faith now.

Faith which has impact

on how we live now.

Faith which is driving us

to want to know Christ

now.

Faith which leads us to

hope in Christ now.

Faith which is hungry

for the righteousness

of Christ now.

Faith which leads us

to bow our knee to Jesus

and to give way to him

now.

Faith which puts all our

hope and trust in Jesus

now.

It's a verse in Acts,

isn't it?

Today is the day of

salvation.

Knowing the groom now

is what will keep us

safe then.

So, and that makes us

safe right now,

even tonight,

to pray,

come Lord Jesus

come.

And we can only pray

that safely now

because we know

that we will be safe

then.

Amen.

that you will take

who lives

with Christ.

You

father

and

how

you