Sermon
Ephesians 5:22-33
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Please join me in taking your copy of God's Word and turning to Ephesians chapter 5.
Ephesians 5 chapter mention
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! This morning is going to be abnormal for us.
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! If you're a guest this morning, I'm sorry.
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On the one hand, I really would love for you to be here with us for our normal verse-by-verse
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exposition, the general habit of our church. On the other, maybe it's good for you to see
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that as a church we take the Scripture seriously and what it teaches seriously, even when it
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comes to topics of Christian living. We, as a church, endeavor to walk in all things
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in the truth. Over the past, I don't want to admit how many years, the issue of marriage,
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divorce, and remarriage has come up in our verse-by-verse expedition, that as well, exposition,
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as we work through the Gospel of Mark, and then more recently through the Sermon on the
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Mount in Matthew. And each of those times, I have said to you, you'll recall if you were
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here, that this is not an easy matter to sort through. In fact, it has been a centuries-old
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debate on exactly what is the teaching of the Bible concerning particularly divorce and remarriage.
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If you find yourself in a place this morning, believing that you have it already sorted out,
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let me just invite you into a place of humility. It's most likely that you have not yet read enough
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concerning these matters, that you've not really studied it fully, if you have a
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abounding confidence in the position that you may hold. I know that many of you don't really know
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exactly what to think, and this is where I found myself in some past years. Recently, comforted by
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all of the position papers that I managed to find and pull and read, that the shortest amount of time
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any church took in forming a position was a year, and many of them took much longer in careful study
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over the matter. No matter the position we take concerning divorce and remarriage, we have to
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extrapolate, we have to draw out some meaning, because the Bible is an ancient book. It wasn't
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written in our language, and it wasn't written to our cultural context. So there's some challenges
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sometimes fully grasping the meaning of a text, right? Ringing it out, and then having it harmonized
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with the rest of what the Bible has to say. And this has been my labor over the past months.
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I've picked it up. I've gotten so exasperated that I've put it back down. I've picked it up again,
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because I knew that I had to. I have never in the past 10 years of being a pastor prayed for snow.
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I must admit that I did this week, and yet we find ourselves here.
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I have read and read and read. I have taken all of the pertinent texts and put them up on a large
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board so I could look at it all together and scribbled and erased and tore down and put back up again.
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I've labored in writing. Students, you may
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connect with me on this and then highlighted whole pages and hit delete.
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Rewrote and deleted and rewrote again.
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I have sitting on my computer now as a draft a 10-page paper and growing that I had intended to
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give to you this morning.
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But as I personally have arrived at a position and
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looked to articulate that position,
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I set out first to say,
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I'm just going to write a paper that states the position.
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And then on the Sunday that we talk about it,
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I'll try to do my best to articulate the opposing positions and work out the complexities of the text.
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But beloved, it is complex.
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It's not a single Sunday morning working out.
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And I don't think it'd be great for our church to spend weeks and weeks and weeks
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Sunday morning gatherings on this.
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So we're going to do it this morning.
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We're going to take some time.
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But as I began to try to articulate the position well,
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it seems so often necessary to talk about other positions held.
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And so the paper kept growing and growing and growing.
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And as I would reread it, I'd go,
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I can't just say that.
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That's a jump in logic.
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As people read this paper,
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I've got to explain that more.
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So another paragraph and another paragraph
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and another paragraph would be added.
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So at this point, I've discarded it.
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I mean, it exists, but I don't intend to hand you the document that I've been writing thus far.
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But decided instead to distribute to you,
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sort of as a rough draft of a position for our church,
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a document that I had nothing to do with,
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but yet I agree with it to this date.
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That's a position paper that was presented to and adopted
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at the Presbyterian Church of America 20th General Assembly in 1992.
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And it's a part of a much greater work.
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There's some application chapters.
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There's some historical survey chapters
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as the PCA Church has a rich Reformed tradition.
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And what I've done is I've just pulled out chapter 2.
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and made a ton of copies of it
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and stapled this hand sore
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to be able to put those copies in your hand this morning
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so that we can talk further about this.
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So I have some guys, I think they're the same guys
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that took care of the offering for us.
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They've got some stacks.
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I'm going to ask them now just to go ahead
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and work on distributing copies of this particular paper
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for your further study.
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We're going to reference it a little bit here in just a moment,
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but I want you to take this home.
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If you're a guest this morning, you don't have to.
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I don't feel like you're obligated to take a copy of this and study it.
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If you're a member, you certainly need to.
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If you're a guest, you're welcome to,
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if you'd like to put this in your hand.
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I think we have enough for everybody this morning.
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To be clear, presently, we believe in a plurality leadership.
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Presently, we have one other elder, including myself.
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There's two of us, Doug Hitchcock.
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And I'm not presenting this as our position this morning
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because I have not given Doug Hitchcock enough time to...
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He didn't even know I was doing this.
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Now he does.
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Hey, Doug.
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Him and I have done a lot of work on this topic.
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I think very generally we agree.
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We've spent a bunch of time talking through various implications and applications.
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But I just want you to be aware that I'm springing this on him at this moment.
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So don't, if you're upset, grill him.
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Come to me.
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While you're getting this, I want to express to you just some pastoral concern.
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The way we approach this topic matters deeply
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because marriage is an extremely important institution.
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We'll talk more about that from Ephesians chapter 5 momentarily.
Ephesians 5 chapter mention
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Extremely important institution.
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We don't want to minimize, in talking about this, the importance of marriage.
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But at the same time, we live in a fallen world
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and people have been affected by divorce and remarriage,
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the challenges and the messiness of marriage.
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And so we don't want to minimize our love and care and concern for people as well.
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And so there's a very careful tightrope to walk here
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in talking about these things that I hope you'll join me in in some coming weeks.
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I want to read from a pastor named Sam Storms who wrote a position paper on this.
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I just felt like he summarized this pastoral challenge well.
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So please hear my heart as we spend some time this morning around this topic this morning.
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He wrote,
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How do I stress the permanence of marriage without condemning,
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how do I feel judged and rejected and unfit for ministry and service in the church?
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But if I express compassion and love for divorced people
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and remind them how much God really does love them,
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others may think I'm glossing over their failures
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and that I'm contributing to the very devaluation of marriage that I earlier denounced.
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How do I stress the permanence of marriage without condemning the divorced?
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And how do I love and affirm the divorced person without condoning sin and failure?
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Our challenge is to mingle the call to obedience with the tears of compassion.
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To be both tender to those who have failed without compromising the high standards of Scripture.
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Here then is my two-fold appeal.
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Number one, to the divorce I say that my emphasis on the importance of marriage
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and honoring one's vows and fighting to stay together
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does not mean I don't love you and care about you
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or that you aren't wanted or can't fit in or can never be active in ministry.
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Second, to the married I say that my emphasis on the dignity of the divorced person
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and their value to God and the forgiveness and restoration that is available to them
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through the cross does not mean that we can take a flippant, casual attitude toward marriage
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or that marriage isn't worth preserving
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or that we are adopting a loose view toward sin.
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End quote.
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So why have I labored so long in coming to a position concerning marriage, divorce, and remarriage?
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Why does it matter so much that we work together on getting this as right as people, this side of glory, can get it?
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First, marriage pictures, although so often imperfectly, the gospel of Jesus Christ.
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It's a shadow of a greater thing.
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It's meant to point us to the good that God has given to us in Jesus.
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Let's look at our text briefly.
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Again, this is an odd Sunday for us.
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Ephesians chapter 5 is going to serve this single point of why this matters so very, very much,
Ephesians 5 chapter mention
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and then I'll make some further comments.
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Ephesians chapter 5, verse 22 and following.
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Beloved, this is God's word to us written for his glory and for our good.
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We would all do well to listen to it in order to believe its promises and obey its commands.
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Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord.
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For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church,
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his body and is himself its Savior.
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Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
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Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
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that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
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so that he might resent the church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing,
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that she might be holy and without blemish.
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In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.
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He who loves his wife loves himself.
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For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as Christ does the church,
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because we are members of his body.
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Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,
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and the two shall become one flesh.
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This mystery is profound, and I'm saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
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However, let each one of you love his wife as himself,
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and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
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So we can see in this text that Paul says this profound mystery of the way that marriage is supposed to work
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points us to a greater, a grander thing.
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That Jesus Christ is the groom of the church,
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and he has saved her by giving of his very self for her.
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He laid down his life for the sake of ours.
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That he would save us and that he would sanctify us.
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Giving of himself for our good in him.
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This is what marriage is meant to be like,
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and it's what is meant to point to men sacrificially loving their wives.
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For their wife's good, that she would be found in Christ.
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That she would be found holy in him.
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And wives lovingly submitting to that leadership in the home.
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This was the design.
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Paul even cites for us here,
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Genesis chapter 2, when he says,
Genesis 2 chapter mention
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Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,
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and the two shall become one flesh.
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This was the design from the beginning.
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A man and a woman in lifelong commitment to one another.
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Pressing each other in holiness.
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That's why this matters.
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As sin enters into the world,
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just a few verses later in Genesis chapter 3,
Genesis 3 chapter mention
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as sin corrupts everything,
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The church should be set apart.
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The church should say something very clearly to the culture around us
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about what marriage is,
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how it's to function,
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and what it's meant to picture.
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So the way we pick up this topic is of importance,
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and why I've labored so long in it.
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Because first, marriage pictures,
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although so often and perfectly,
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the gospel of Jesus Christ.
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Secondly,
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marriage is a good gift.
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Many of us in this room have experienced the goodness of marriage.
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Being granted a spouse that loves us and presses us on,
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even in their failures,
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press us towards holiness in Christ.
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And divorce,
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invariably,
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is difficult for all parties involved.
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Invariably.
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This is without exception.
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The rending of a union
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is a hurtful thing.
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It's a hard thing.
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We want to promote
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lifelong marriages
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for the good of people
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to the glory of God.
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We don't want to promote
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divorce
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because it's a harmful thing.
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It's a damaging thing.
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Third,
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we have had to,
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and will continue to have to,
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counsel those
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within our church
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and without,
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outside the doors of our church,
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what the Bible teaches
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on matters
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concerning
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marriage,
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divorce,
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and remarriage.
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It's a very present reality
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before us.
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We need to be clear-minded
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on these things.
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What does the Scripture
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teach
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concerning these
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matters?
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Fourth,
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our culture
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is very confused
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about marriage,
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divorce,
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and remarriage.
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All three.
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We have a fairly
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anything-goes
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mentality
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as a culture
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at large.
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Having redefined marriage
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altogether,
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accepting divorce
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for any reason
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whatsoever,
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those who fall in love
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get married,
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those who fall out of love
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get divorced.
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A large billboard
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on your way to Atlanta
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right now
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on 400
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that says,
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undo,
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quote-unquote,
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I do.
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And it's tragic
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that such a thing
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would be the display
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for this particular
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law firm.
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Many people
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these days
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go through
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multiple
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divorces
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and remarriages.
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marriages
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picked up
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as a flippant thing,
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a thing to not be
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taken seriously.
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Vows are meaningless
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in our culture
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these days.
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Fifth,
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the church
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is confused
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about marriage,
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divorce,
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and remarriage.
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The church
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at large
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is confused.
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We see
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equally high
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divorce rates
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amongst those
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who profess
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to be followers
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of Jesus Christ
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as those
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who don't.
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So there must
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be clarity.
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But not only
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in what we would
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call more
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conservative views,
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more biblical
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views on
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marriage,
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divorce,
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and remarriage,
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but there are
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many
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within orthodoxy
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opposing views.
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This is a
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centuries-old
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question
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and debate.
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I want to
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maybe even
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caution you
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to not go
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down the
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wormhole
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too deep
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on this
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debate.
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This is why
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I've charted
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and graphed
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and drawn
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out.
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I would
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annoy you
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to death
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sharing with
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you all
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of the
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things that
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I've done
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to try to
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wrap my
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mind around
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all the
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varying
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views
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and
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positions.
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Even within
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the prominent
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views,
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there are
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nuances of
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them that
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are hard
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to represent.
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It's difficult
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to say,
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let me tell
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you what
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this view
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says because
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I can speak
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to it in
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generalities,
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but the
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particulars
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can differ
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all the
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same.
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And so
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there are
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three positions
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worth
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considering
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broadly,
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and I want
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to point
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your attention
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to the
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second page
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of this
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document that
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was handed
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out.
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Which
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outlines
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those for
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you?
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So it
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would be
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marked as
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page 203.
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About two
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thirds down
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the page,
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it says
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number one,
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no divorce,
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no remarriage.
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That's where I'm
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drawing your
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attention to.
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Those are
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three positions
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worth considering.
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There's
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another,
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although there's
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variances in it
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enough that
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some might
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call it
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more,
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but I'll
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call it a
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fourth view,
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which is
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basically an
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anything-goes
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type of view,
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which we
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won't even
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consider.
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The Bible
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does have
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things to
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say about
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marriage,
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divorce,
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and remarriage.
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We can't
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just define it
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for ourselves
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and treat it
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however we
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would like.
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So call that
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the fourth
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view and
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look with me
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for just a
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bit at
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three positions
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worth
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considering.
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So the
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first one is
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the no
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divorce,
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no remarriage
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view.
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This is
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very commonly
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called the
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permanence
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view.
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It's the
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only view
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that has
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an agreed
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upon name.
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So if you
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hear permanence,
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this is what's
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being talked
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about.
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Again,
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there are
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nuances
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within it,
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but permanence
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folks would
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say that
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there is
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no reason
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for,
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biblically
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allowable
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reason for
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divorce and
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no biblically
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allowable
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reason for
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remarriage
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if somebody
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has been
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sinfully
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divorced.
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And there
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are many
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orthodox
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people that
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hold this
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view.
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Some examples
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in our day
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are Votie
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Bauckham
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and John
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Piper.
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There's not
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a lot of
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writing,
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but I have
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some writing
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on this
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particular
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view.
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It's a
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lesser held
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view in
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what we
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would consider
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orthodox
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Christian
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belief.
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I think
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there are
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some people
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in our
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fellowship
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that hold
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this view
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and there
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are some
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great arguments
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to be
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made for
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it.
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Second,
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and this
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paper develops
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some of
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those
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arguments.
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The second
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view,
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and this
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is the
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view put
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forth in
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this paper
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and that
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I would
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put forth
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to you
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this morning,
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which we'll
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talk about
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generally,
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strictly
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limited
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grounds
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for divorce
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and for
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remarriage.
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I have
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deemed
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this,
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me by
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myself,
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nobody
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else has,
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but by
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myself I
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call this
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the less
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permissive
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view.
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So permissive
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would say
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that there
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are some
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allowable
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times and
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purposes,
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reasons,
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but it's
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not a
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broad
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sense.
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It's a
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lesser
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sense of
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permissive.
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See the
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first
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couple
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sentences
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there.
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a general
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consensus
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among
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reformed
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believers
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is the
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view that
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the Bible
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neither
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condones
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nor
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commands
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divorce,
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but rather
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permits and
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regulates
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divorce due
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to sin.
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So it's
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not the
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high ideal,
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it's not
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the thing
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that we're
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counseling
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toward ever,
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it's not
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the thing
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we want
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to see
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happen,
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so the
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scripture
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doesn't
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command it,
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the scripture
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does not
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condone it,
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but rather
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permits and
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regulates it.
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However,
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a person
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can divorce
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only for
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adultery and
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separation of
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an unbelieving
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spouse.
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There's some
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specific
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circumstances
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in which
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someone can
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be divorced
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and the
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question of
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remarriage
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arises later
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as a result.
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Prominent
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people who
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interestingly
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all their
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names start
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with a J,
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John
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MacArthur,
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J Adams,
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the late
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John
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Murray,
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Jim
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Neuheiser,
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these are
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all people
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you may be
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familiar with
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that hold
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to this
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view.
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Once again,
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with variance
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and nuance
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in their
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particular
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holding of
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it,
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the place
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where my
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brain came
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to a
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constant
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screeching
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halt,
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got all
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knotted
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up,
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was particularly
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around the
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conversation
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of remarriage
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and there's
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not a
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massive amount
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of consensus
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concerning that
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matter.
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The last
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one is a
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broader
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grounds for
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divorce and
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remarriage.
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I've deemed
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this the
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more permissive.
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It's not
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outside that
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realm of
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anything goes
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kind of a
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mentality,
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but they would
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suggest that
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those two
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reasons given,
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adultery and
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separation of an
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unbelieving
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spouse,
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should be
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interpreted with
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more latitude.
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So they're
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more quick
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to include
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things like
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abuse in
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that category
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or not
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providing for
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and meeting
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the marital
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agreement.
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They would
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tend to
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work into
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some of
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that
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understanding.
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the labor
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in this is
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that we
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don't want
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to condone
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that which
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is sin.
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We don't
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want to give
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permission for
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sin.
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We also do
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not want to
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forbid that
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which is not
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sin.
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There's an
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error on both
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sides here.
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There's always
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a fine line
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to walk
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between
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licentiousness
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and
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legalism.
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We don't
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want to find
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ourselves in
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either
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place.
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So the
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position that's
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put forth in
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this paper,
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the position
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that I'm
-
putting before
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you today,
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I believe
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is the most
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exegetically
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defensible,
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theologically
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sustainable,
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and
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pastorally
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sensible.
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For us as
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a church,
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it's going to
-
be important
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that we
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say,
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this far,
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but no
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further.
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We have to
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say,
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what can we
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be confident
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the Scripture
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does in
-
fact teach?
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I do think
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that allows
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for some
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narrower views.
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I don't mean
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narrow-minded,
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I mean just
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more restrictive
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views within
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that view.
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But we're
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going to have
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to consider
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what will
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our church
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call sin
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and what
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will we
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not?
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This is a
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challenging
-
thing to do
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in this
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matter.
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Consider
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particularly
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the faithful
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churches
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that hold
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varied views
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and that
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people may
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come to
-
us from
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those
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places
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and we
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will be
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asking them
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to recognize
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something as
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sin that
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they did
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not previously
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recognize as
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sin and may
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not be.
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Some of my
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insanity coming
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out,
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are you starting
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to go,
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gosh,
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I have been
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losing my
-
mind over
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all of this.
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So here's
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the position
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summary.
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I know
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we're not
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opening the
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text.
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This is a
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weird Sunday
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for us.
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Please know
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that if you're
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a guest.
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The position
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put forth in
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this paper,
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this is my
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summary of
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that position
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and it's
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what I want
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you to pick
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up and I
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want you
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to wrestle
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with.
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Number one,
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marriage is
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the lifelong
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uniting of
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one man and
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one woman in
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covenant
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commitment.
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This is from
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our statement
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of faith.
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Marriage is.
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This is what
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it was intended
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to be.
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This is the
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point.
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We do
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premarital
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counseling in
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this way.
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The vows
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that we do
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when I
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officiate a
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wedding ceremony
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are permanence
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vows.
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We don't say
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do you,
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unless of
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course if.
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We don't
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include that.
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This is the
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point.
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This is the
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goal.
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This is what
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we're striving
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for.
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Lifelong
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uniting of
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one man and
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one woman in
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covenant
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commitment.
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That's number
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one.
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Number two,
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a believer
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should not
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marry an
-
unbeliever.
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This comes
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into play
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later as we
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talk about
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remarriage.
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Believers
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should not
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marry an
-
unbeliever.
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They should
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not be
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unequally
-
yoked.
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Third,
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a believer
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should remain
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married to
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an unbeliever
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if the
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unbeliever is
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willing to
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remain married.
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Somebody
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converted to
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faith in
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Christ should
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not divorce
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their
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unbelieving
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spouse if the
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spouse is
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willing to
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remain in
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the marriage.
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Fourth,
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divorce always
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stems from
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sin,
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but in
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some cases
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is not
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sinful for
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one of the
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parties of
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the divorce.
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Divorce always
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stems from
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sin, but in
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some cases
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is not
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sinful.
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The Bible
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never commands
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divorce.
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It doesn't
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condone it,
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but it does
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not condemn
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divorce in
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two cases.
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when a
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spouse is
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sexually
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unfaithful.
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Secondly,
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when an
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unbelieving
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spouse
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abandons
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a believing
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spouse.
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And there
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are particulars
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and there
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are intricacies
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even in
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those two
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exceptions.
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Fifth,
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because death
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breaks the
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marriage bond,
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remarriage is
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allowed for
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the surviving
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spouse.
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And sixth,
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and you're
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going to hate
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this one because
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it's the
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broadest one I'm
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going to give
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you this
-
morning.
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The paper
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speaks more
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to this.
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In some
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cases,
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remarriage is
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allowed for
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divorced people
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with surviving
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ex-spouses.
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In some
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cases,
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remarriage is
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allowed for
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divorced people
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with surviving
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ex-spouses.
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I want you to
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read carefully
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through that
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section.
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It's the very
-
end of this
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paper.
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And give
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it prayerful
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thought and
-
consideration.
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So, I
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know that's
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probably really
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unsatisfying for
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you.
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Know that
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everything I'm
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saying is
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accompanied by
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a 28-page
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document that I
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want you to
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read and dig
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into and give
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lots of
-
thought.
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Prayerfully
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consider it.
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Roll around.
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Have lots of
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conversations about
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this.
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I'm available
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most of the
-
time to talk
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about it.
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My only rule
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is not today.
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I don't want
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to talk about
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divorce and
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remarriage today.
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So, I
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promise I will
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shut you down
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if you come up
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to me after the
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service and want
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to talk about
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it.
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But other
-
times, after
-
today, I'm
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here with you
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and I want to
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walk through it
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and I want to
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pursue the
-
truth together.
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And so, let me
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just say some
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things to you about
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how we should
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continue in this
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process and then
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we're going to
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talk about the
-
gospel again a
-
little bit and
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then we're going
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to sing some
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great songs
-
together and
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press on with
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our day.
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So, as we,
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it's been my
-
labor, I'm
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inviting you into
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that now as
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well.
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Number one, let's
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be congregational.
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We are a
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congregational
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church.
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That means that
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people who are
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members of this
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fellowship are
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responsible for
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the doctrine of
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this church.
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That means you
-
play a part in
-
that.
-
And the elders
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of your church
-
should and we
-
want to give you
-
leadership in
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that.
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We want to get
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out ahead of
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you and do
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hard work and
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present things
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and teach you
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what the
-
scripture says,
-
but you are
-
responsible for
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what our church
-
decides, where
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we decide to
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stand on this
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particular issue.
-
And you should
-
not do that
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when you show up
-
to a meeting
-
and suddenly you
-
have questions
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and suddenly you
-
have an opinion
-
and a thought.
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Do the work.
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Get in there
-
and work it
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through if you
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want a voice
-
and you want to
-
speak and be
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part of the
-
process.
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Be congregational.
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That doesn't
-
just mean show
-
up to a
-
meeting and
-
vote.
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That means
-
pick up the
-
challenge.
-
Take up the
-
work of working
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it through.
-
I have got
-
endless resources
-
I could give
-
you.
-
There are many
-
of them cited
-
in this particular
-
paper as well.
-
You may need
-
to pick up a
-
read and work
-
it through and
-
read it.
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So be
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congregational in
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the broad
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sense all the
-
time as we're
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working this out
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together.
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together.
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Secondly, let's
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give the Bible
-
the final say.
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And what I
-
mean by that
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is try to
-
set aside your
-
prejudices as
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you come to
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the text,
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which we all
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have around
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so many
-
issues.
-
But almost
-
all of us
-
have been
-
affected by
-
divorce in
-
some way in
-
our life.
-
We have
-
emotion that
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we bring to
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the text.
-
We want to
-
see a certain
-
outcome.
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We would
-
prefer it to
-
say a
-
particular thing
-
to justify a
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particular action
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that's happened
-
in the past
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or to condemn
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a particular
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action that's
-
happened in
-
the past.
-
So prayerfully
-
labor to set
-
aside those
-
things.
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Come to the
-
text honestly.
-
What does the
-
scripture teach
-
on this?
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Be prepared
-
that it is
-
not abundantly
-
clear.
-
the most
-
pertinent
-
texts are on
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the back of
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your bulletin.
-
You may or
-
may not have
-
noticed that.
-
I think it's
-
helpful to see
-
them next to
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each other.
-
To not have
-
to flip,
-
flip,
-
flip,
-
flip,
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or scroll,
-
scroll.
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I think it's
-
helpful to
-
actually be
-
able to look
-
at them
-
together,
-
compare.
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These are
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all from
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the ESV
-
translations.
-
So I hope
-
that will be
-
a help to
-
you in being
-
able to look
-
at them in
-
this way.
-
But be
-
cautioned.
-
Be sure to
-
place your
-
study of
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this particular
-
topic in
-
the larger
-
context of
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God's
-
redemptive
-
story.
-
You have a
-
printed copy of
-
that, I hope.
-
If you don't,
-
I'll get you
-
one.
-
I didn't need
-
to put that
-
on the back
-
of your
-
bulletin,
-
I hope.
-
Try to put
-
this in the
-
larger context
-
of God's
-
redemptive
-
story.
-
Third,
-
let's
-
pursue the
-
truth in
-
love.
-
Let's
-
pursue the
-
truth in
-
love.
-
Let's
-
work together
-
on this.
-
Please know
-
that my
-
intent is
-
not for
-
our church
-
to hold
-
my view.
-
I don't
-
care if
-
I am
-
shown right.
-
I care that
-
God's shown
-
glorious,
-
that He's
-
given instructions
-
to His
-
people,
-
and that we
-
would follow
-
those
-
instructions
-
for our
-
good and
-
His fame,
-
His acclaim
-
in the
-
world.
-
So let's
-
work together
-
on that.
-
I am glad
-
to be
-
challenged,
-
but do so
-
in love.
-
Do so in
-
care and
-
concern.
-
We want to
-
come together
-
and do
-
this together.
-
Land our
-
finger on the
-
position our
-
church will
-
hold on
-
this.
-
The German
-
theologian,
-
this has been
-
accredited to a
-
lot of
-
people,
-
but it was
-
the German
-
theologian,
-
Rupertus
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Melvinius,
-
probably why
-
people try to
-
accredit it to
-
somebody else,
-
said,
-
in essentials
-
unity,
-
in non-essentials
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liberty,
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in all things
-
charity,
-
and that was
-
the word used
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for love.
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In all
-
things
-
charity.
-
So let's
-
pursue the
-
truth in
-
love.
-
Fourth,
-
let's be
-
humble.
-
Let's be
-
humble.
-
God has a
-
way,
-
if we are
-
not already
-
humble,
-
humble
-
ourselves to
-
humble us,
-
and I
-
will be an
-
agent in
-
that process
-
if need
-
be.
-
I'm not
-
saying that I've
-
studied this
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more,
-
therefore I'm
-
right.
-
I'm saying I
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have studied
-
it,
-
and studied
-
it,
-
and studied
-
it,
-
therefore I'm
-
humble.
-
You will
-
not approach
-
me with an
-
argument I
-
have not
-
already argued
-
with myself.
-
So be
-
careful in
-
your approach.
-
Be humble.
-
Don't think
-
you have the
-
corner on the
-
truth.
-
I don't think
-
I do.
-
I'm doing
-
my very best
-
with a great
-
deal of
-
fear and
-
trembling to
-
work out what
-
the scripture
-
has to say
-
on these
-
matters.
-
Please approach
-
it the same
-
way.
-
It will
-
serve us all
-
well to do
-
that very
-
thing.
-
I'm not
-
trying to be
-
true.
-
The scripture
-
is true.
-
God be
-
proven true
-
in these
-
matters.
-
So let's
-
be humble.
-
Fifth,
-
let's
-
remember the
-
gospel.
-
And last,
-
let's
-
remember the
-
gospel.
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We as a
-
people who
-
take the
-
Bible very
-
seriously,
-
praise the
-
Lord,
-
the grace
-
that he has
-
worked in
-
us that we
-
take the
-
Bible very
-
seriously,
-
we also
-
tend to
-
take its
-
commands and
-
find our
-
worth in the
-
keeping of
-
them.
-
To say we
-
are most
-
obedient,
-
therefore we
-
are accepted
-
by God.
-
But we
-
are not
-
accepted by
-
God because
-
of our
-
works.
-
We are
-
accepted by
-
God because
-
of the
-
completed work
-
of Jesus
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Christ.
-
We would
-
be fools to
-
think that we
-
will always
-
have our
-
doctrine and
-
our practice
-
all lined
-
up.
-
Be a
-
student of
-
church history
-
and you will
-
find that no
-
generation has
-
done this.
-
They've all
-
had their
-
failings,
-
they've all
-
had their
-
faults.
-
And while
-
we want to
-
endeavor to
-
do it right,
-
we should,
-
oh, let us
-
be the first
-
perfect generation
-
that's gotten
-
it all right,
-
it's doubtful
-
that we will.
-
We will have
-
missed it at
-
some point.
-
So even as
-
we are zealous
-
to be obedient
-
to every
-
command of
-
the Bible,
-
let's not
-
forget that
-
the gospel of
-
Jesus Christ
-
says to us
-
that we're
-
not accepted
-
because we
-
get it all
-
right.
-
We're accepted
-
because Jesus
-
got it all
-
right.
-
He threaded
-
it perfectly.
-
He is our
-
righteousness.
-
And he
-
has the very
-
motivation for
-
us to want
-
to get it
-
right, to
-
want to be
-
obedient in
-
all things,
-
to strive to
-
honor God
-
with our
-
very living.
-
And so let's
-
not forget
-
that.
-
Let's remember
-
the gospel
-
as we work
-
together.
-
I'm going to
-
close in reading
-
to you as a
-
way of
-
reminder,
-
Romans chapter
Romans 8 chapter mention
-
8 and
-
verse 1
-
where Paul
-
said,
-
there is
-
therefore now
-
no condemnation
-
for those
-
who are in
-
Christ Jesus.
-
May we as a
-
people pick up
-
that promise
-
as we endeavor
-
to be obedient
-
to every
-
command of
-
the Bible,
-
particularly
-
in the coming
-
weeks as it
-
pertains to
-
marriage,
-
divorce,
-
and remarriage.
-
church.
-
Let's pray
-
together to
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that end.