Sermon
When and How to Leave a Church
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Well, good morning. This is the second week of a two-week break from our verse-by-verse exposition of John's gospel.
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! But I'd still like for you to join me in John's gospel in chapter 17 and verse 3.
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This will be the first text that we'll turn to today.
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This morning we're going to think a bit together about when and how to leave a church.
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If you are going to be connected meaningfully to the life of a church, you will experience the loss of people that you care about.
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It is inevitable that people will leave a church.
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Some for legitimate, reasonable, healthy reasons.
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Reasons that we would be glad to send people out of our church.
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And their departure, it's handled with great maturity.
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We walk together through that process.
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Sometimes, this is sadly not the case.
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So today I want to take a bit of time to think about good reasons to leave a church.
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With some additional comments about when and how not to.
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We don't have a lot of explicit biblical data to derive conclusions from on this topic.
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We do see in the Bible people sent from one place to another for a particular purpose.
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And we do see letters commending the acceptance of people sent.
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However, our complex Christian society requires that we come to some conclusions implicitly.
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Which I hope to help us do so faithfully.
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By complex, I mean we live in a saturated marketplace, if you'll allow.
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There are churches all over.
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So how do we navigate both joining a church and then in some cases, leaving one?
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All of that said, do be discerning.
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Anytime you hear teaching from the Bible.
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A guest, a guest member.
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Anytime you hear teaching from the Bible.
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Especially so when the Bible is approached topically and implicitly.
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So be discerning.
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Anytime we open God's Word together.
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Be especially so this morning.
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It's easy.
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We have seen people do this over and over and over again.
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To use the Bible to say what they want to say.
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And that's certainly not my desire this morning.
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I want you to hold me accountable.
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Are we being faithful to the text as we try to derive wisdom from it on topics like this?
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Now, so much could be said here.
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I could go on and on and on.
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I've been a pastor now for almost 17 years.
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And so I have experienced loss across those years.
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So to keep me from just rambling on,
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I've structured our time around three characteristics of a local church
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that I think will help us think well on this matter.
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So a bit of an outline for you to my rambling.
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And here it is.
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The church is, number one, theological, confessional, and therefore convictional.
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And you'll actually find this in your bulletin this morning.
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Secondly, the church is relational.
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And thirdly, the church is missional.
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Let's pray together.
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Father, as we take some time this morning to think on this topic,
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I pray that you would help us to do so biblically.
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I've got a spattering of texts throughout my notes.
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I pray that you'll help us to take them up and to think about them,
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your word and how it applies to this particular matter.
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Help us to have our affections for you increase as we spend these moments together.
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And help us to have our affections for the thing you are most affectionate for,
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your church also increase.
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We need your help.
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If anything is going to be done this morning that is of any real benefit to any of us,
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we certainly need your spirit to work in us, in my speaking and in our hearing.
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I pray that you'd apply this carefully to our hearts.
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We pray this for your glory in Christ's name.
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Amen.
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So when to leave a church.
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First, the church is theological.
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And I could say it's theological and therefore confessional and therefore convictional.
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A church is a group of people who gather regularly for a specific purpose.
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What is that purpose?
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Church is made up of Christian people and we gather to worship our God for his glory and our good.
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That's why we do this.
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Lots of other great things happen in the life of a church, right?
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Eggs are exchanged.
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And essential oils purchased.
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But that's not why we exist as a church.
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Neat byproducts, right?
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It is altogether possible.
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And we should not miss this.
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It's altogether possible to worship the right God wrongly
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or to have the trappings of worship in order.
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So appearance of right worship.
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But to worship a God of our own making.
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So the church must be.
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It is necessarily theological.
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We have to do theology to be a church.
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The study of God.
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And we study his word so that we can know him by it.
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How do you turn to John chapter 17 and verse 3.
John 17 chapter mention
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Here Jesus says,
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And this is eternal life.
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I want the definition of eternal life for me.
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What is eternal life?
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This is eternal life.
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That they know you.
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That they know you.
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The only true God and Jesus Christ whom you have sent.
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To be a Christian is to be a theologian.
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Not merely to know about God, but to know him.
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That's a serious thing that we do.
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And we ought to do it seriously.
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J.I. Packer in his seminal work, Knowing God, said this.
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Quote,
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What is my ultimate aim and object in occupying my mind with the things of God?
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What do I intend to do with my knowledge about God once I have it?
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For the fact that we have to face is this.
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If we pursue theological knowledge for its own sake,
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it is bound to go bad on us.
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End quote.
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It's going to lead to pride.
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It's going to puff us up.
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We want to know God and therefore live our lives in accordance with his commands.
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And so, the church, it must be theological.
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And it should be no surprise to anybody that it is.
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We read and we pray and we read out loud to one another.
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And we sing and we preach and we hear preached.
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The word of God.
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We are theological.
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And because of that, we have to decide what the Bible says about some things.
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We can't say we're theological, study God's word to know him by it,
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and then shrug our shoulders about what he teaches from it.
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We ought to say it says something.
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And churches do this, of course.
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And so, we're confessional.
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We write down what we believe the Bible says.
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And because of this, we are therefore convictional, or should be at very least.
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Right?
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What we believe the Bible teaches about something,
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we ought to actually live in accordance with that.
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So, should you leave a church, if anyone in the church disagrees with you about anything?
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Certainly not.
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There are people who think in this way.
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If so, each of us would be left to our private study.
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And we would all be worse for it.
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Not a single one of us doesn't need the church to help us to grow in the truth.
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So then, if that's not the case,
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what does constitute a significant enough disagreement to leave a church over?
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How should we think about this?
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And thus, I parade in the idea, once again, to you of theological triage.
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So, in your notes, I've listed this out for you.
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I've listed it in order.
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First, second, third, fourth.
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Although, I'm going to talk about it a little bit out of order.
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If you're entirely new to the concept,
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the idea of triage is assigning importance to something.
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So, my classic example is,
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if a bus of people was in an accident,
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and they all got rushed to the emergency room,
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very quickly, a charge nurse or doctor is going to assign importance to the injuries that are being experienced there.
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Right?
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What needs the most attention?
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And we can give the same concept to theology.
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Those doctrines that we hold.
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So, the last of these, and I like to say them this way because I like to say the word quaternary.
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Quaternary doctrine, or fourth order doctrine.
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I used to say it's unimportant, but I like to say it this way instead.
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It's important for no one.
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Stuff that just doesn't matter.
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My example is always, is there life on other planets?
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Interesting to think about.
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Important for no one.
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We'll see.
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I don't care.
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Then, we can pick up tertiary doctrine, or third order doctrine,
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which is important for you.
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Right?
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Not unimportant, but important for you,
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and perhaps your family,
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and those that you have influence over.
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So, these are things that you ought to have some conviction about,
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but we don't all have to share the exact same conviction.
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So, an example might be,
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what kind of television do we allow in our homes?
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Some allow no television in their home.
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That's a fine conviction to have.
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Some allow for some.
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There are certainly some television no Christian should allow in their home,
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but there's some gray area in between.
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How are we trying to be wise in what we allow into our home?
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Another example I thought about this morning,
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as I got ready for the morning,
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how do we think about our Second Amendment rights?
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Men, do you carry?
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Do you not carry?
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Are there convictions that back the actions that you take?
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We don't have to agree on this
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to be Christians in fellowship together.
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So, turn with me and let me show you an example of this from Romans chapter 14.
Romans 14 chapter mention
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This is the first six verses.
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This lays out this idea for us.
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There Paul writes,
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As for the one who is weak in faith,
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welcome him,
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but not to quarrel over opinions.
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One person believes he may eat anything,
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while the weak person eats only vegetables.
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And the issue at hand here is meat offered to idols.
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You could argue this is an important gospel issue,
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freedom that we have in Christ.
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And Paul is saying,
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it's an opinion that we should not quarrel over.
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Verse 3,
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Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains,
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and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats,
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for God has welcomed him.
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Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another?
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It is before his own master that he stands or falls,
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and he will be upheld,
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for the Lord is able to make him stand.
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Another example,
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although we don't know exactly the nature of it,
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I think this is about the Sabbath.
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One person esteems one day as better than another,
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while another esteems all days alike.
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Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind.
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The one who observes the day observes it in honor of the Lord.
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The one who eats,
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eats in honor of the Lord,
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since he gives thanks to God.
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While the one who abstains,
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abstains in honor of the Lord,
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and gives thanks to God.
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So there are convictions at work here,
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all meant to please God.
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Tertiary,
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third order,
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important for you.
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And I'll tell you, beloved,
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I like conversations in this realm,
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because I want to be wise.
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I want to think about God's commands,
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and how to apply them in the world in which we live.
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No one's having conversations in Paul's day
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about whether or not to put a gun on their back
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before they put on their jacket.
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They're not talking about this.
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So help me think.
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Think with me.
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Let's take up God's word.
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Let's push and pull at each other,
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and let's not divide over things that fall into this category.
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Okay, back to the top.
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Primary doctrine.
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First order doctrine.
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Doctrine that is important for everyone.
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Everyone needs the good news of Jesus Christ.
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These would be doctrines,
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truths that must be believed in order for a person to be saved.
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I said to you all through our study of Romans here recently,
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that that's the hill we want to die on.
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Because people are dying.
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We want to stand firm on those doctrines
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that people must believe
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that they might have the salvation of their souls.
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Primary doctrine.
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So, there's a creator God
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who is holy
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and has a standard by which we are to live.
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He is the creator.
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We are creation.
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He has the right to demand something of us.
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And all of us have failed to live up to that standard.
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All of us have broken His commands.
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We call this failure sin.
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And it creates a great problem for us.
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The greatest of problems.
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We often speak of the world as broken.
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And it is, to be sure.
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When we speak of ourselves,
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apart from God's intervening work,
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we are dead because of sin.
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And eternal death is what belongs to us.
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But Jesus, God incarnate,
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came and lived a perfect life.
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He did not inherit Adam's guilt
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because he was born of a different line.
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He was born of a virgin.
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Mary.
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He kept the law perfectly.
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He fulfilled that demand of God on us
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so that He could give it to us by faith.
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He died a sacrificial death
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so that He could take away the penalty
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that our sin has bought for us.
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And He was raised on the third day.
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Triumphed over death.
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Showed Himself.
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Proved that He was in fact God incarnate.
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The Messiah.
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The One who takes away the sins of the world.
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And so now, we can repent.
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And we can believe.
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We can cling to Him
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and have this beautiful transaction happen between us
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where He takes away our punishment
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and gives to us His righteousness
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so that we can be justified
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and adopted into God's family.
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Justified by grace through faith
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in Christ alone.
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First order doctrines
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important for everyone.
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Jude, verse 3 and 4.
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Jude writes,
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Beloved, although I was very eager
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to write to you about our common salvation,
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I found it necessary to write appealing to you,
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contend for the faith
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that was once for all delivered to the saints.
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I think this is what he's talking about.
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First order types of doctrines.
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The faith once for all delivered to the saints.
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Why do I think this?
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Because in verse 4 he says,
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For certain people have crept in unnoticed
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who long ago were designated for this condemnation,
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ungodly people
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who pervert the grace of our God
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into sensuality
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and deny our only Master and Lord,
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Jesus Christ.
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Undermine the gospel itself.
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And he's writing to them
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to contend for that faith.
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Primary doctrine.
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It matters greatly.
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And then we come to secondary doctrine
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or second order doctrine,
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which is important for us.
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These are the types of doctrines
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that are good for us to generally agree on
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to be in fellowship in a church.
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They're going to define our practice
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and in some cases possibly define sin.
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What will a church determine to be sin or otherwise?
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Some examples.
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Like via view on divorce
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and or remarriage after divorce.
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There are some disparate views out there
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and we should know what we think is allowed
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and not allowed with some boundaries.
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Right?
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The regulative principle.
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Right?
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How do we think we are supposed to gather together?
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What does the Scripture say we should do
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when we come together?
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And then there's always the classic example
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of our view on baptism.
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Right?
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A way that we are theological
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and then confessional
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and then convictional.
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We're going to practice this ordinance
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in a particular way
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because of what we believe
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the Scripture teaches on the matter.
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So our church has two confessional standards.
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Right?
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We ask of every member of our church
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to affirm,
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so fully agree with,
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the Apostles' Creed.
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This is not a big ask.
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It's first order kind of stuff.
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Things we should believe to be true
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in order to be saved.
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And then we have a much denser document
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that we approved this year,
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Providence Baptist Church Confession of Faith.
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It's a lot more.
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There's a lot more going on in this.
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But we don't expect that everybody in the church
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fully comprehends or fully agrees
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with everything found in this document.
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We ask that our elders affirm this document
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and that it's the teaching standard
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for the church.
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So it contains within it
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those things that are first order
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and those things that are second order doctrines.
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Right?
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We have to have some views about some things.
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It's important that we are theological,
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confessional,
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and convictional.
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So,
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Christian people
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need to be thinking
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in this way
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and wrapping up
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their thoughts about
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when to leave a church
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with those things
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that are of
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secondary
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order.
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If you're debating over first order stuff,
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we'd love to talk with you
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and teach you,
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but you just may not be a Christian.
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Okay?
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If you're all a Christian,
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you believe those first order,
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important gospel doctrines,
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there's a lot of things
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that can be considered
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in that second category.
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Again,
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baptism,
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a very classic example of this.
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There are reasons
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that there are
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paedo-baptist churches
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in our community
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that baptize infants
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and churches that don't
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only baptize
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professing Christians.
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But as we do this,
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the very best
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Christian thinking
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is,
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number one,
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deferential.
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Deferential.
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That is,
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respectful
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and
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humble.
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You and I
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only know
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anything
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that we know
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because of the grace of God.
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I have not arrived
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at any grand truth
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on my own.
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I would be
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cut off from,
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I would not know,
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would not behold
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any of the majesty,
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could not take up the Bible
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and read
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if it wasn't for
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the grace of God
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in my life.
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So we ought to think together
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and we ought to do so
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deferentially
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in this way.
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Now you may know
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that I love church history.
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This is the primary reason
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that I love it,
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right?
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Among some other things.
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And that is because
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church history has taught me
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that I am
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currently wrong
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about something.
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There's
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no character
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in church history
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as much as we
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appreciate them
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that was right
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about everything.
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You can identify it.
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Oop,
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can't agree with them
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on that matter.
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That has to mean
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that I am currently
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wrong
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about something.
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If I knew what it was,
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I would fix it
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immediately,
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but I don't
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know
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what it is.
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And so I want to be
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humble.
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You're in the same boat
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as I am.
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All learning,
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sorting,
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right?
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Approaching God's Word
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with humility.
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To me,
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just the second point,
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the very best Christian
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thinking is
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biblical.
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Of course,
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right?
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Of course.
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This goes
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without saying
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Christians should
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think biblically
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and I do mean that.
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They should think
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biblically.
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They should take up
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the Bible.
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But beyond that,
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I mean
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that we should spend
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way more time
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in our Bibles
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than we do
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in other formats.
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Hear this
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way more time
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than we do
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listening to podcasts
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or watching
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our favorite guy
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on YouTube
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or
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in books.
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You know how I love
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books.
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Or even
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from
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sermons.
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books.
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You should spend
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lots of time
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in your Bible.
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If I could
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snap my fingers
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if it was granted
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to me to snap
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my fingers
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and do something
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for the health
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of our church,
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this is what I would
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ask of our church.
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That everybody
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read their Bible
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every day.
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Meditate on
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its truths
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and pray it.
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I would ask
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God
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that they would
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believe what the
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Bible teaches
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and that he would
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do what he said
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he's going
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to do
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and we wouldn't
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be on social media.
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Social media
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is not necessarily
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evil,
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but we're getting
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far too much
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from it
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than we
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should.
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Meet with God
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in the Bible.
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Something happens
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in our culture.
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A hot moment
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happens.
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Let God's
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word be the
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thing that
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springs into
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your mind.
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Not some
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guy you think
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is going to
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have an opinion
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about the
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matter.
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Rush off to
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see what he
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or she
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might have
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to say.
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Let God
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speak to you
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about the
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issue at
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hand.
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It is far
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too easy
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to be convinced.
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I'm in the
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same boat
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with you on
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this.
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It's far
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too easy
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to be convinced
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of something
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by someone
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articulate
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who references
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the Bible
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rather than
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thinking
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biblically.
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So the very
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best Christian
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thinking is
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deferential,
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it is
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biblical,
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and thirdly,
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it is
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relational.
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It's
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relational.
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Think with
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others
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who know
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you
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and who
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can keep
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an eye
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on you.
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And beloved,
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this means
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that we
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have to
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slow our
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thinking
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down
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sometimes.
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Did you
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know that
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you don't
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have to
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form a
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strong
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opinion
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about
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stuff
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in a
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week?
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Social
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media
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would have
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you think
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otherwise.
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So you
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can take
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a little
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time,
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slow down,
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take a
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beat,
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think
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carefully,
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and think
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with
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others,
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right?
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You can
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have the
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right
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doctrine,
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but you
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can hold
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it wrongly,
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create pride
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in you,
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misapply it
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in some
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way.
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Allow
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your
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pastors
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the
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privilege
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of
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thinking
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with
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you.
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We
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want to
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walk
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through
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complicated
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things.
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We're
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trying to
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think
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too
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and
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think
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biblically.
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And I
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will tell
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you,
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speaking on
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behalf of
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your
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elders,
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we often
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feel like
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a quiet
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whisper in
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the corner
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of a very
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loud room.
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And I
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just don't
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think this
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should be
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the case.
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I don't
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think that
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I should
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have to
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compete
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with
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whatever
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talking
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head
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is out
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there
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on
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the
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internet.
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I can
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tell you
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this,
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I'm not
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going to
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compete
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in the
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same
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medium.
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I'm
-
not
-
gifted
-
enough
-
to do
-
that.
-
If I
-
spent all
-
my time
-
trying to
-
produce
-
videos,
-
I
-
wouldn't
-
have
-
time
-
for
-
anything
-
else.
-
And
-
they
-
would
-
be
-
bad.
-
They
-
just
-
wouldn't
-
be
-
good.
-
I
-
tried
-
to
-
shoot
-
a
-
couple
-
videos
-
across
-
the
-
COVID
-
era,
-
and it
-
took me
-
forever
-
to do
-
it.
-
Boy,
-
I was
-
pitiful
-
at the
-
whole
-
process.
-
Perhaps
-
because we
-
know each
-
other.
-
There's
-
some
-
relational
-
equity
-
here.
-
There's
-
some
-
God-given
-
authority
-
for the
-
way a
-
church
-
ought to
-
function.
-
We
-
could
-
talk a
-
little
-
more
-
and
-
arrive
-
at
-
truth
-
together.
-
We
-
want
-
to
-
think
-
with
-
you.
-
And
-
if we
-
don't
-
do
-
this
-
together,
-
you
-
may
-
miss
-
out
-
on
-
some
-
correction
-
of your
-
beliefs
-
or
-
attitudes,
-
maybe
-
some
-
warning
-
for
-
believing
-
something
-
that could
-
be totally
-
true,
-
but where
-
it could
-
lead.
-
And then
-
hear this
-
really
-
carefully,
-
we may
-
miss out
-
on the
-
same.
-
Love me
-
enough
-
to think
-
with me
-
because I'm
-
not going
-
to be
-
perfect
-
all the
-
time,
-
and I
-
need
-
you
-
to also
-
help
-
me
-
to
-
think.
-
So the
-
very best
-
Christian
-
thinking is
-
going to
-
happen
-
in this
-
way.
-
And it
-
means at
-
times we're
-
going to
-
arrive at
-
different
-
conclusions.
-
Faithful
-
Christians
-
throughout
-
history
-
have
-
arrived
-
at
-
different
-
conclusions.
-
Again,
-
the matter
-
of
-
baptism.
-
Pado-baptists
-
and
-
credo-baptists.
-
One of us
-
are right
-
or we're
-
both very
-
wrong.
-
I don't
-
know,
-
but we've
-
arrived at
-
different
-
conclusions
-
for centuries
-
and that's
-
probably going
-
to continue
-
to happen,
-
but let's
-
do it
-
together.
-
Let's
-
walk that
-
process
-
out
-
in
-
relationship
-
with one
-
another.
-
So that
-
was the
-
first
-
point.
-
First
-
big
-
point.
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The church
-
is
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theological,
-
confessional,
-
and therefore
-
convictional.
-
Secondly,
-
the church
-
is relational.
-
The church
-
is relational.
-
This is
-
Ephesians
Ephesians 4 chapter mention
-
chapter 4.
-
Paul says,
-
I urge you
-
to walk
-
in a manner
-
worthy of
-
the calling
-
to which
-
you have
-
been
-
called.
-
Like,
-
to the
-
gospel,
-
to pursuing
-
Christ,
-
walk in
-
a manner
-
worthy of
-
that,
-
with all
-
humility
-
and gentleness,
-
with patience,
-
bearing with
-
one another
-
in love,
-
eager to
-
maintain the
-
unity of
-
the Spirit
-
in the
-
bond of
-
peace.
-
There is
-
a divine
-
reality that
-
if we are
-
in Christ,
-
there is a
-
unity of
-
the Spirit.
-
And Paul
-
is exhorting
-
us here
-
to do
-
the work
-
of maintaining
-
that unity.
-
There is a
-
way,
-
I have made
-
the case
-
to you
-
before,
-
for us
-
to disagree
-
agreeably,
-
to be
-
humble
-
and gentle
-
and patient
-
and to
-
bear with
-
one another.
-
People are
-
a mess.
-
the church
-
is messy
-
because it
-
is made
-
up of
-
imperfect
-
people on
-
a journey
-
toward
-
glory.
-
If me
-
being here,
-
a member
-
of this
-
church
-
first,
-
a pastor
-
of this
-
church
-
second,
-
was contingent
-
on me
-
always enjoying
-
all of you,
-
I would have
-
left a long
-
time ago.
-
I don't
-
always like
-
you.
-
I love you
-
a ton.
-
There's a
-
huge difference.
-
Willing to
-
walk with
-
people through
-
all the
-
messiness
-
that we
-
are,
-
to not be
-
so easily
-
offended all
-
the time,
-
to set aside
-
our own
-
preferences for
-
the sake
-
of others'
-
preferences,
-
to have
-
hard conversations
-
when you feel
-
offended by
-
something that
-
somebody says.
-
It's
-
difficult work
-
to walk with
-
people throughout
-
the entirety
-
of your
-
life.
-
life.
-
And we
-
shouldn't
-
cut and
-
run on
-
one another
-
when things
-
get
-
uncomfortable.
-
Charles
-
Spurgeon
-
once said,
-
this is in
-
your bulletin,
-
quote,
-
the day we
-
find the
-
perfect church,
-
it becomes
-
imperfect the
-
moment we
-
join it.
-
End quote.
-
The people
-
of a church
-
are not a
-
commodity
-
for your
-
consumption.
-
You shouldn't
-
show up,
-
prospective
-
church,
-
join the
-
church,
-
expecting this
-
group of
-
people is
-
there in
-
order for
-
you to
-
be served
-
with all
-
of your
-
stuff.
-
The
-
leadership of
-
a church
-
is not a
-
commodity
-
for consumption.
-
If you
-
are here,
-
even if you
-
have yet to
-
join the
-
church,
-
if you
-
are here,
-
if you
-
come to
-
this spot
-
and join
-
us on
-
Sunday
-
morning for
-
any period
-
of time,
-
I want you
-
to hear this
-
with such
-
clarity.
-
I love
-
you.
-
I'm not
-
particularly
-
a people
-
person.
-
I have
-
a very
-
limited
-
capacity
-
and energy
-
to really
-
know people.
-
The Lord
-
has put me
-
in a position
-
where I
-
am desperate
-
for him
-
to work
-
beyond my
-
natural
-
gifting.
-
I will
-
tell you
-
that he
-
puts a
-
love in
-
me for
-
you.
-
You just
-
show up.
-
Show up a
-
couple Sundays
-
in a row
-
and I want
-
to serve
-
you.
-
And I
-
want to
-
serve your
-
family.
-
I want
-
to lead
-
you in
-
the truth.
-
I want
-
to see
-
you grow
-
in your
-
affections
-
for our
-
God,
-
grow in
-
holiness,
-
serve
-
sacrificially
-
for your
-
eternal
-
joy.
-
I want
-
to do
-
all of
-
that.
-
Every
-
man that
-
serves as
-
a pastor
-
here feels
-
the exact
-
same way.
-
We
-
lament
-
together
-
over
-
departures.
-
It is
-
hard for
-
all of
-
us when
-
someone
-
leaves the
-
church.
-
Don't be
-
a consumer.
-
The
-
congregation
-
as a
-
whole,
-
us as
-
individuals,
-
it's not
-
good for
-
you.
-
It's not
-
good for
-
us.
-
If I
-
have held
-
your babies
-
and made
-
them laugh,
-
don't ghost
-
me.
-
I love
-
you.
-
So,
-
for what
-
relational
-
reason might
-
you leave
-
a church?
-
So,
-
I have not
-
given you
-
any reason.
-
I have
-
said,
-
I have
-
given you
-
any
-
reasons
-
to do,
-
I think,
-
I think
-
this,
-
when it
-
makes a
-
lot of
-
sense,
-
when your
-
connections
-
throughout the
-
week with
-
other
-
Christians,
-
those you
-
are serving
-
and those
-
that serve
-
you,
-
those
-
Christians
-
just all
-
happen to
-
be part
-
of another
-
healthy
-
church.
-
It just
-
starts to
-
make sense
-
that all
-
of the
-
relational
-
connections
-
that you
-
have are
-
happening
-
someplace else
-
on Sunday
-
mornings,
-
that it
-
really might
-
make a
-
lot of
-
sense for
-
you to
-
walk more
-
closely with
-
those people
-
than those
-
that you
-
covenanted
-
with.
-
I intended
-
to read it
-
all,
-
but for the
-
sake of
-
time,
-
I'm going
-
to skip
-
over reading
-
our covenant
-
to you.
-
It's there
-
in the
-
bulletin.
-
Church members,
-
these are the
-
commitments that
-
we've made
-
to one another,
-
each of us,
-
to everyone.
-
Perspective
-
members,
-
these are the
-
commitments that
-
we make to
-
each other,
-
and we
-
would make
-
to you,
-
should you
-
join our
-
church.
-
Thirdly,
-
briefly,
-
the church
-
is missional.
-
The church
-
is missional.
-
Matthew 28,
-
verse 18-20,
-
Jesus came
-
and said to
-
them,
-
all authority
-
in heaven
-
and on earth
-
has been
-
given to
-
me.
-
I have
-
all the
-
authority,
-
so go.
-
Go,
-
therefore,
-
and make
-
disciples of
-
all nations,
-
baptizing them
-
in the name
-
of the Father
-
and the Son
-
and the Holy
-
Spirit,
-
teaching them
-
to observe
-
all that I
-
have commanded
-
you,
-
and behold,
-
I am with
-
you always
-
to the end
-
of the age.
-
The church
-
is at the
-
center of
-
the Great
-
Commission.
-
Baptizing,
-
it's an
-
ordinance of
-
the church,
-
teaching the
-
observation
-
of all
-
things.
-
This is
-
discipleship
-
happening in
-
the life
-
of a church.
-
And it is
-
empowered
-
by Christ.
-
He has
-
all the
-
authority
-
and he is
-
with us
-
to the
-
very end
-
of the
-
age.
-
The mission
-
of the
-
church
-
necessitates
-
going.
-
All of us
-
are going.
-
We're here
-
right now,
-
but after this
-
we're going
-
to go.
-
In our
-
going,
-
we're to
-
make
-
disciples
-
of all
-
nations.
-
we're
-
to be
-
about this
-
as Christian
-
people
-
and as
-
a local
-
church
-
gathered.
-
And praise
-
God that
-
he sends
-
people from
-
this local
-
church to
-
other
-
places
-
in order to
-
expand his
-
kingdom.
-
So God may
-
send you
-
elsewhere
-
because of
-
work.
-
It could be
-
that you're
-
being led to
-
another place
-
because of a
-
job,
-
an opportunity
-
that you
-
would consider
-
taking up
-
and joining
-
another church
-
in that
-
place.
-
God may
-
send you
-
elsewhere for
-
particular
-
ministry work.
-
We've got
-
Matthew
-
Carnegie, a member
-
of our church
-
in Texas right
-
now at
-
language school
-
preparing himself
-
to go and do
-
translation work.
-
And Ms.
-
Wimke, who's
-
back from
-
the same
-
school and is
-
getting ready
-
to go do
-
Bible translation
-
work.
-
Chandler and
-
Hannah
-
Girton,
-
preparing now.
-
These are
-
people we're
-
going to say
-
goodbye to,
-
who are going
-
to depart
-
from our
-
congregation
-
to go and
-
do important
-
gospel work.
-
Lots of
-
kinds of
-
going.
-
We leave
-
this place
-
to gather
-
again,
-
and then we
-
go back out
-
again to
-
gather, I
-
hope, more
-
people who
-
need to hear
-
the gospel
-
of Jesus
-
Christ.
-
It doesn't
-
have to happen
-
in a foreign
-
context.
-
Not just
-
that way,
-
there may
-
be a
-
local church
-
that needs
-
your
-
service.
-
Just a
-
couple of
-
years ago,
-
a handful
-
of families,
-
I think it
-
was five,
-
to a church
-
in Gillsville
-
that needed
-
some help.
-
They needed
-
some people
-
to come
-
along and
-
walk with
-
them.
-
They're doing
-
well, a
-
good service
-
in that
-
place.
-
We are
-
kingdom
-
people.
-
We're not
-
just trying
-
to build
-
our
-
kingdom.
-
We want
-
to see
-
God work
-
through us
-
to build
-
His
-
kingdom.
-
So there's
-
a chance
-
that God
-
may lead
-
you some
-
other place,
-
but go
-
to serve,
-
not to be
-
served.
-
I hear too
-
many of
-
those.
-
I'm looking
-
for something.
-
You guys
-
don't have
-
it.
-
I think
-
they do.
-
And what I
-
can tell you
-
with confidence,
-
confidence,
-
if you
-
function the
-
life of a
-
church with
-
a fear of
-
missing out
-
mantra,
-
you will
-
definitely
-
miss out
-
on what
-
the church
-
can offer
-
you.
-
If you're
-
always bouncing
-
to the next
-
thing because
-
you think
-
it's going
-
to be the
-
thing that's
-
going to give
-
you the
-
feels that
-
you hope
-
to have,
-
you will
-
never have
-
deep
-
relationship
-
on mission
-
with God's
-
people.
-
So,
-
I hope that
-
frames it up
-
for you just
-
a bit.
-
When?
-
Now,
-
how?
-
I've
-
mentioned a
-
few things,
-
but let me
-
flip the
-
entire
-
definition,
-
words,
-
on its
-
head.
-
How to
-
leave a
-
church?
-
Let me
-
say this.
-
Don't.
-
Instead,
-
be sent
-
by your
-
church
-
to another
-
church.
-
If you
-
are a
-
part of
-
a healthy
-
church,
-
and we
-
pray and
-
we labor
-
for this
-
to be
-
such a
-
church,
-
to work
-
with and
-
walk with
-
people in
-
this kind
-
of way,
-
if you're
-
part of a
-
healthy
-
church,
-
then that
-
church will
-
gladly send
-
you for
-
good reasons,
-
to help you
-
think and
-
discern,
-
is God
-
leading you
-
to another
-
place?
-
And if he
-
is,
-
then we
-
will gladly
-
send you
-
to that
-
place.
-
don't
-
leave,
-
be sent.
-
Walk that
-
process out
-
with a
-
group of
-
people who
-
love you
-
dearly for
-
your good
-
and for the
-
glory of
-
our great
-
God.
-
Let's pray
-
together.