Sermon
The Exceptional Woman
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Transcript
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Thank you, John.
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I would like you to turn your Bibles this morning to Proverbs chapter 31, verse 30.
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! Proverbs chapter 31, verse 30.
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This is Mother's Day, and I know that all of you are aware of it for a number of different reasons.
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For one, our culture, I think rightfully, makes a great deal of it.
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And if any of you try to go to the restaurant and I hold you over for, let's say, three or four minutes,
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you'll probably find that you are on a waiting list.
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Isn't that right?
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I was talking with one family that actually intend to go have an early,
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you could call it either an early supper or a late lunch.
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They're going to go at around about 2 o'clock, 2.30.
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They're hoping that the restaurants would have cleared out,
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and they'll be able to get in and find a table and have dinner together as a family.
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This is a day when we celebrate and remind ourselves of the blessing that all of us have received
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through the ministry of godly women in our lives.
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It is a day that in some churches they are going to ask questions like,
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all right, we want the mom who has had the most children to stand up.
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How many of you remember doing that at one point or another, being in church?
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The most, the youngest, et cetera, et cetera.
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And there are a lot of different ways to go about that.
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But this morning what we want to do is really focus our attention on the effect
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and the impact of a godly woman.
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And that's the reason that this morning when you're going out,
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there are going to be people at the door handing out flowers to every woman who is 18 years and old
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or older, and there will be no carding, okay?
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So, you know, if you're kind of on the bubble, nobody's going to say to you,
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hey, can I see your driver's license before you get a flower?
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We'll just give it to you.
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And we trust that it's an encouragement to you.
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I want you to look at a passage this morning that we find in the Word of God
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that is just a very practical reminder to us of truth that is undeniably critical and essential in our life.
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And as I look at this passage, I'm reminded at the very outset of just how beneficial it is
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for us to focus on the Word of God and allow the Word of God to affect the way we think.
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As we were singing that last song in particular,
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one of the things that I was doing is as I was working my way through the song, singing it,
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I was also cross-referencing along with the song.
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How many of you are working on that now?
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A little bit more.
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Raise your hand and wave at me so I can feel like I'm making some moderate traction
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on getting you to think biblically.
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Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly.
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Can anybody help me with where that's found?
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Colossians chapter 3.
Colossians 3 chapter mention
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When I run the race before me, where does that come from?
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1 Corinthians chapter 9 would be one passage.
1 Corinthians 9 chapter mention
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Looking unto Jesus, where would that come from?
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Hebrews chapter 12.
Hebrews 12 chapter mention
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We could go on and on and on.
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And the reason I do that is I want you to be a people who, when you think, think scripturally.
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Do you follow that?
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And this morning, we are looking at a passage that is undeniably valuable and precious.
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And I trust influences your thought.
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Now, come back again and make the point that the Word is our life.
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It's valuable to us.
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And as we think about that statement that I made here just for a moment ago,
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that the Word is our life, I trust one of the things that goes through your mind is,
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where did pastor get that idea?
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I was talking with another pastor, and he made the statement, which I thought is entirely true.
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Pastors are ultimately plagiarists.
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You know what we mean by that?
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They're borrowing information that came from somewhere else.
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And I trust you never think that I'm reciting something that I thought about creatively on my own.
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The principal source is the Word of God.
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And so when I make the statement that the Word is our life,
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I think about a couple different passages in relationship to that.
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One is over in Deuteronomy chapter 32.
Deuteronomy 32 chapter mention
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And I want you to follow with me just for a moment.
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Deuteronomy chapter 32, verse 46 and 47.
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This is Moses preaching to the nation of Israel his concluding sermon.
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He knows after this he's dying.
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And there towards the very end of the book, he makes this little statement.
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He says,
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Take to heart all the words which I am warning you today.
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And he goes on a little bit and he says,
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It is no empty word for you, but your very life.
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It is no empty word for you, but your very life.
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And so when we handle the Word of God, when we think about the Word of God,
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we recognize that it is our life.
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We depend upon it for all that we are and all that we do.
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I think about another passage in which we see a very similar concept appear.
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And if you turn in your Bible to John chapter 6, we're going to look just for a second.
John 6 chapter mention
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We'll come back to Proverbs, but I want you to think with me of John chapter 6.
John 6 chapter mention
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It's a long chapter.
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And it begins with Jesus ministering to a group of people.
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And in that context, he feeds a large crowd.
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And they love the idea that they had free din-din.
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And Jesus did it.
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I mean, it had to be the best bread and fish that anybody ever had.
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I open cans of sardines periodically in the office,
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and I am seldom appreciated by anybody else but me.
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I happen to like them, but I can tell you I'd much rather settle for fresh fish
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that had been produced by Jesus on the spot than those cans of sardines.
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And here was Jesus, did this meal.
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Everybody was excited.
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And as an outcome of that, he went ahead and took advantage of all this interest
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to preach a sermon.
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And guess what the outcome of that sermon was?
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Everybody left.
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They were offended.
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They didn't like what he had to say.
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And at the heart of it, as everybody's going away, he turns to his disciples,
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and he says, are you guys leaving too?
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And that brings us to a little statement that Peter made.
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He said, Lord, to whom should we go?
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You have the words of eternal life.
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Where else?
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And I want you to think with me just for a moment, because I am stunned.
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I am stunned when I find out how often professing believers rely on every other resource for
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information other than the Word of God.
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Here's Peter.
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He says, listen, where can we go?
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You've got the words of life.
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And so if the Word is so essential, it makes sense, and I want to say this slowly so you don't miss it,
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it makes sense that it is our first and most important resource in dealing with the questions
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and challenges that life throws at us.
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Now, we're at a day today where we celebrate Mother's Day.
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And as I said, our focus is not just on mothers, but our focus is on godly womanhood
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and the blessing that godly women are in all of our lives.
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And that's why we're in the book of Proverbs.
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Actually, if you were to ask me the question,
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what book in the Bible has the most to say about women,
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it would be the book of Proverbs.
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Now, you'd have to admit, if you're a student of the book of Proverbs,
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that you know a fair number of the texts in Proverbs do not give a smiley, happy face on women.
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Would you agree with that?
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Now, I'm not going to go overboard on this,
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but you remember that Proverbs has a comment to say that living in a house with a nagging, whining wife
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is like living in a house where there's dripping, dripping, dripping water, right?
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I mean, don't go there, but let's just leave it at that.
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It talks about the fact, I saw some people looking around and going,
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stop, just listen.
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Don't get yourself in trouble, guys, okay?
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And it goes on and says this, and there's a lot that Solomon,
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I'm wondering about this, why did Solomon not practice the wisdom that he wrote about?
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He had a lot to say about ungodly women who would cause heartache in young men's lives.
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Proverbs has a lot to say about the danger of ungodly women.
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It's interesting as well, and by the way, Proverbs was written to give advice to men,
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to young men in particular.
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It's very interesting to recognize that the book of Proverbs closes off essentially with one final chapter,
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and it is all about women.
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Beginning in verse 10 and carrying on to the very end of the chapter,
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Proverbs chapter 31 gives us some very careful instruction about women,
Proverbs 31 chapter mention
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and it is given to us in a very interesting fashion.
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There are 22 verses, and the first verse, if you were reading in your Hebrew Bible,
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does anybody have one here today?
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Hebrew Bible, it's back in my office.
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But if you're reading in your Hebrew Bible, it would begin with the letter Aleph.
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Caleb, you have yours.
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Is that what you're saying?
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Oh, okay.
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It begins with the letter Aleph, and then it goes to the letter Beth,
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and then it goes to the letter Gimel, and then it goes to the letter He,
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Wow, Zion, Heth, Death, etc.
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Do you know why it's done that way?
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Any idea?
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It was written alphabetically with the first part of every verse starting with the letter.
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A is for apple, right?
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B is for boy.
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See, it was there for alphabetical structure for the sake of memory work.
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And the understanding was that little Hebrew boys were going to memorize this passage
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so that eventually, when it came around to kicking tires for a girl,
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they had an idea of what they were looking for.
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Huh.
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And it was also memorized by little girls so that they knew what they should be.
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Now, in our culture, I was thinking about this, we go out of our way to kind of give to,
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am I going to cause a problem, John?
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We move this way over here.
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Are you?
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Okay.
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We go out of our way to kind of equip our girls to have an idea of what they should look like when they're adults.
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Now, what do I mean by that?
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How many of you have ever seen a Barbie doll?
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A Barbie doll, you know?
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Now, what is it about, I'm not going to ask you to explain out loud,
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but have you noticed that a Barbie doll is not the way that most everybody we've ever known looks like?
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But it communicates to little girls, this is what is really attractive,
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and it says to little boys, that's what you're looking for.
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Hmm.
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We've got a problem, don't we?
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The truth of the matter is, is that is not what the Scriptures want us to think about,
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and we are looking here, and we have an understanding that as this passage is laid out by the Spirit of God
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in the book of Proverbs, chapter 31,
Proverbs 31 chapter mention
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it is given so that God's people will know what to look for in a godly woman,
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and so a godly woman knows what to be.
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In the larger context,
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if you want to recognize the overflow of what we find in the book of Proverbs,
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we'd put it this way,
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a godly woman is a great help,
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and an ungodly woman is a great harm.
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So, in that we are looking at the very last words in the book of Proverbs,
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and it's a summary.
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By the way, chapter 31, 22 verses about women,
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but we come towards the very end,
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and one of the characteristics of a good teacher is that they give you a summary.
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They give you a closing statement, something to remember.
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Am I right?
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Generally, one of the principles of good teaching is you tell people what you're going to teach them about,
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you teach them what you're going to teach them about,
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and then you remind them what you're going to teach them about,
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and we're dealing with the little summary, the little reminder at the very end,
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and here's what it says.
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Look at it with me.
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It says,
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First, I want to recognize the clear cautions that Solomon gives to us.
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The Holy Spirit takes the two most commonly valued feminine features and turns them upside down.
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It's interesting, isn't it?
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Charm is deceitful.
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The Hebrew word for charm is actually referring to that external elegance of the feminine form
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as well as the charm and the allure of feminine grace.
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I do remember that Proverbs was aimed primarily at a son, the male of the species,
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and ever since the day that God brought Adam, his wife,
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men have been profoundly affected by what they see with their eyes.
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Do you know what Adam said when he saw the woman that God had created?
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What did he say?
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In practical terms, he said,
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Wow!
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You got it?
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And here's the truth.
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Every man born of woman is deeply affected by what they see with their eyes.
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It's the way it is.
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And it's the reason that advertising is the way it is, right?
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You don't sell toilet paper without using the beauty of women to do so.
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Now, everything associated that goes along with sales, we're always kind of floating the eye.
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If you want to get the man to look, guess what we use?
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We use the feminine form.
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We use the female to draw and allure.
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And here is Solomon saying,
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Let me tell you something.
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Charm is deceitful.
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And so here's what we have.
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We have the Spirit of God reminding us that what we see on the surface is actually deceitful.
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Does that mean that every beautiful woman is a snake and a liar?
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And the answer is no.
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That's not what it's saying.
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But it does mean that what we see on the surface is undeniably deceptive
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and trusting in what we can see with the eye is profoundly dangerous.
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Often, the more beguiling and attractive the external features are,
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the less well-developed the internal features and spirit are.
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Do you understand that statement?
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Can I say it slowly so you don't miss it?
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Often, the more attractive and well-developed the external features are,
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the more deficient what is inside is.
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It's just the way it is.
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Nobody, say this slowly so everybody unfollows me,
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nobody gets to be the complete package.
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And so if all the attention is put on the exterior, guess what?
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You're putting all that attention on the exterior
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because you think that's what you have fundamentally.
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And at the end of the day, it is not what lasts.
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I was thinking about this issue of charm as deceitful.
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I was thinking about Judith and I being in a restaurant some time ago,
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and the waitress was just, well, she was charming.
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And Judith made her choice of the menu first.
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And the young lady, sweet, spirit, and so effervescent, bubbly, you know,
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and she said, excellent choice.
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Wow, Judith, that's a good choice.
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And I didn't do it, but I was thinking, you know,
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what if I said I would like fried chitlins?
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Do you know what chitlins are?
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Does anybody know what?
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Raise your hand if you know what chitlins are.
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What part of the hog are they?
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They're the intestines.
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Anybody here besides me ever eaten tripe?
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Do you know what tripe is?
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It's not from the loin of the cow.
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Okay.
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So if I had said, you know, I'd like fried chitlins,
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and I would like pickled pig's feet,
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and I would like sardines on the side,
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and she says, excellent choice.
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Here, charm is deceitful.
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Do you follow what I'm saying?
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I thought to myself, actually, when this girl went to another table
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and we're eating our meal,
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and I heard that little saying at the end of,
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and I'll have blah, blah, blah,
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and I heard her say, and the enthusiasm was just kind of,
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excellent choice.
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I thought, gag.
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You know?
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Yeah, perfect example.
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Excellent choice.
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So here's the deal.
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If as a man,
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you think the value and the sum of a woman
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is what you see on the surface,
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or if as a woman,
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you are consumed with your outward appearance,
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you are deceived,
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and you're a deceiver.
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There's a second thing that we find in the passage in Proverbs,
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and look at it here.
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It says, charm is deceitful,
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and it says, beauty is vain.
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The Hebrew word for beauty here
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refers more to the physical beauty,
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while charm has to do with the,
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with more of that abstract business
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that goes with being feminine and alluring.
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It's just talking about that physical beauty
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that when Adam was brought his wife,
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he says, wow.
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And I've got to tell you something.
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If you kind of work your way
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through the various days of creation
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at the end of every day,
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what does God say about what he'd made?
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Good.
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Good.
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Good.
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Good.
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We're getting to five, I think.
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Good.
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And then he comes to the last day,
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and he makes woman,
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and what does he say?
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He says, here's the go,
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very good.
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Solomon says, let me tell you something, guys.
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That beauty is vain.
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The word vain is a word
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that is really talking about something
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that is not lasting.
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And you have to understand,
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I have to understand that what Solomon is saying
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is that that physical beauty
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of the 21-year-old that is marked
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by beautiful shining hair
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and smooth skin
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and no wrinkles,
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and there's that wonderful feminine features
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that are just undeniably attractive to a man.
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I want you to know
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that surgery and Botox
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can kind of keep it there temporarily,
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but at the end of the day,
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it all runs downhill.
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Still.
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I think I can tell this story
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and not get in trouble.
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Not too long ago,
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we were in a small group,
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and we were talking about things
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you have to give up for Jesus' sake.
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And I was asking questions,
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and one of these little girls says,
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we have to give up bikinis for Jesus' sake.
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And I thought that was interesting.
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I'll say it loud
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so some of you in the back can hear me.
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We have to give up bikinis for Jesus' sake.
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And I decided that I would
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step into the pool a little bit
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and kind of add to that statement.
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And I said,
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honey, let me tell you something
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about using bikinis
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to draw attention to yourself.
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When you're 80,
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I don't have to say anything else, do I?
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I did ask the little girl.
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I said, honey,
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have you ever seen an 80-year-old woman
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that is gorgeous on the outside?
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And she shook her head no.
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That's true.
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You see,
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what Solomon's saying
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is that outward beauty fades.
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If you are uncertain about that,
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here's what I want you to do.
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The next time you go to the grocery store,
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don't open the covers or anything,
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but just look on the outward side
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of People magazine
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or all the tabloids.
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How many of you see,
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just, I mean,
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can't look at it long,
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but I mean, there it is.
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There are 80-year-old women,
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just one picture after another
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of elderly people, you know?
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At the beach,
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you know,
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exercised.
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And by the way,
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if you're 80
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and you've been sunbathing too long,
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do you know what your skin looks like?
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Huh?
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What's it look like?
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It looks like some kind of extrusion.
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Worse than leather.
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So here's the point.
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Let's just go to the end of the story.
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Outward beauty will not last.
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And it's well worth remembering.
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Outward beauty will not last.
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And those who rely on it,
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those who are seduced by it,
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those who buy things
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because of the packaging
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rather than the product,
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are not wise.
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So what really counts?
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Look at the passage.
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A woman who fears the Lord
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is to be praised.
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Proverbs compares charm and beauty
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with a distinctly different mindset.
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And so before we actually go on to that,
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here's a question I have.
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I raised two daughters.
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I've been here long enough
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to have watched many of you raising daughters.
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And I got to tell you,
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you don't have to work hard
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at teaching them
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how to put on makeup
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when they're little girls.
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Do you realize that?
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They begin to experiment
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without you coaching them.
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They understand
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that's part of what's important.
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And they usually come out
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their first couple tries,
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you know what they look like?
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Lipstick all over the face,
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rouge and big blotches.
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And you have to tell them,
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if you're going to be beguiling,
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you need to do
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a little better job.
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Unfortunately,
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we seldom put as much energy
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into teaching young ladies
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how to have beautiful hearts.
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Look at what Solomon says.
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He says,
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a woman who fears the Lord.
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So what does fearing the Lord mean?
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Let me have you work through this with me
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by helping you understand.
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First of all,
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fearing the Lord is the fruit of His grace.
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I want to say that carefully.
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Fearing the Lord is the fruit of His grace.
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I'm not going to have you look at the passage
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this morning,
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but let me make a reference
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to what it says in Jeremiah 32,
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verse 39 and 40.
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It makes the statement
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that really it is the work of God
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to help us fear Him.
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Now,
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it's interesting that
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the unbeliever
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is terrified of God
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at the end.
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But for most of their life,
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guess what they're thinking?
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Where's God?
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I don't care.
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He's not going to mess with me.
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I'm on my own.
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One of the things it says
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over and over again in Psalms
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and also appears,
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I believe,
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in Proverbs
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is that one of the characteristics
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of the unbeliever
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is they have no fear of God.
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That's the way they are.
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And so if you're sitting here this morning
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and in your heart
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there is a wholesome,
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honorable fear of God,
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that fear is there
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because the Spirit of God
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has worked to give it to you.
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And so when we think about
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the fear of God,
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we need to recognize,
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first of all,
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that it's something
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He has to do in us.
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Secondly,
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fearing the Lord
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means getting the first things right.
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Turn in your Bible,
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if you're there
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in Proverbs chapter 31,
Proverbs 31 chapter mention
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I want you to turn in your Bible
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back to Proverbs chapter 1,
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verse 7.
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The book of Proverbs
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actually has a lot to say
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about the fear of the Lord.
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In Proverbs chapter 1,
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verse 7,
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at the very beginning
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of this book,
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it says this,
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the fear of the Lord
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is the beginning of knowledge
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fools despise wisdom
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and instruction.
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You will not fear
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what you do not know.
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I want you to recognize that.
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You will not fear
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what you do not know,
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but if you know God
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and you seek His face,
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you will grow in your fear of Him
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and at the same time,
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very interestingly,
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you grow in your love of Him.
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You'll grow in your fear of God
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and you'll grow in your love of God.
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And if you're sitting here
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this morning
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and the truth of the matter is
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is that you have no fear,
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the fact of the matter is
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you also have no love.
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The two are linked
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and cannot be pulled apart.
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Curiously,
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but that's the way it is.
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And so we find here
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that the fear of the Lord
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is getting the first things right.
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The fear of the Lord
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also means being profoundly affected
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by His person.
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I want you to look at
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Matthew chapter 10, verse 28.
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Matthew chapter 10, verse 28.
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There has been some effort
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by some to kind of water down
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the theology underlying this issue
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of the fear of God.
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And there's some people that say,
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well, this business of fearing God,
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it's overplayed
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and it really isn't to be taken
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the way that some have taken it.
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The word fear of God
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is just talking about
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having a reverential trust.
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Now, I wouldn't diminish the fact
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that having a reverential trust
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of God is important,
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but that is not the first
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and primary thought
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behind the concept
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of fearing God,
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scripturally at least.
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Matthew chapter 10, verse 28.
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Jesus makes this statement,
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do not fear those who kill the body,
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but cannot kill the soul.
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It says,
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rather fear Him who can destroy
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both soul and body in hell.
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Now, what we have in this passage
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is a perfect comparison.
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How many of you have been terrified
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on certain occasions
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at the prospect of something bad
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happening to you physically?
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Yeah, you probably have.
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I remember some time ago
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actually being on top of a ladder
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that was stretched out
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about 25 feet in the air
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and having been a paint contractor,
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having an inordinate amount of confidence
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in my ladder placement,
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I scampered right up there
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and didn't anchor it off.
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Painters are always moving the ladders.
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And even at 60-something,
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I thought,
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I've got this down.
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And I got up there
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way up high in the air.
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And after I got up there,
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guess what happened to my ladder?
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It shifted.
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And in that little shift,
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it must not have been more than
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probably six inches up there,
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about 24 feet.
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I've got to tell you
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that for a moment,
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I thought my life was passing
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in front of me.
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And I got that,
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you know,
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what is known as the death grip
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on the ladder.
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You ever been there?
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It's like...
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Okay.
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Here's Jesus.
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He's saying,
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hey,
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don't be afraid of those
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who can kill the body.
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Don't be afraid of that.
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You need to be afraid
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of the one who can do you in
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in this life
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and deal with you
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in the one to come.
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Now,
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what we see in that passage
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is that this business
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of fearing God
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means fearing Him,
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being afraid of Him,
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being terrified
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at the reality
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and the prospect
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of who God is.
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It's very interesting
-
as you read the Scriptures,
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you find a very consistent picture
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that those who became
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intimately aware
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of God's presence
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and glory
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were always in every case
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marked by an abject fear
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and trembling.
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They're just overwhelmed by it.
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This idea of floating around
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through Christianity
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that God's some kind of
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good old dude in the sky
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that we can kind of be flippant with
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has no scriptural structure to it.
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The fear of God
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means to be terrified
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at the reality of who He is,
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awed, inspired, but afraid.
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It means being more afraid of Him
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as you look at this passage here
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than you would be of a thug
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or a tyrant
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who wants to kill you.
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Fearing the Lord
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means also caring a great deal
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about what He thinks.
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What He thinks.
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Proverbs 16, verse 6,
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and I'll have you
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just track this passage with me.
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It says,
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By the fear of the Lord
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one turns away from evil.
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Fearing the Lord
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means caring a great deal
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about what He thinks.
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And the one who fears the Lord
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turns away from evil.
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How many of you realize
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that evil oftentimes
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ends up being something
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we begin to think about
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and we move from
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kind of thinking about it
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to eventually doing it?
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Isn't that a shame?
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One of the things
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that always kind of,
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you know,
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I think,
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Man,
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I can't believe I did that.
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I have to tell you,
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when I think back over my life,
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I recognize that in every case,
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the things that I did
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that were wrong,
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I move from thinking
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that that might not be
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a good idea
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to thinking that it would be
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a good idea.
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But it says this,
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The one who fears the Lord
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turns away from evil.
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That's not right.
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I know what God thinks.
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I don't want to go there.
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I don't want to be involved in that.
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I want to avoid that
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because I fear God.
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You know,
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one of the things that
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I have to tell you
-
goes with years of ministry
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is I've lived long enough
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and I've watched enough
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people's lives
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that I've watched
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a lot of people
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over the years
-
eventually
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kind of drift away
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from the Lord
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and drift away
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from the church
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and drift away
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into their own little
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experience and whatever.
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And here's one of the things
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I've said over and over again
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to them.
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One point or another,
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I'll have a conversation
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with them
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and I'll say,
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I don't know
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if you're a believer or not.
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Now, why is that true?
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Yeah, I can't read
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anybody's birth certificate.
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Do you follow that?
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Tim Kenoyer's not
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in birth certificate business.
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I'm in the business
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of sharing the truth.
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But what I will tell you this
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is if you're a child of God,
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you will not get away with sin.
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You can't
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because the Father loves you.
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And those who are his children
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grow in appreciating the fact
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that they can't get away with it.
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You ever compare yourself
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with other people
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in your neighborhood
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or other people
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that you work with
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and you're thinking,
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why are they getting away with that?
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Don't do that.
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The fear of the Lord
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gives to you
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a sensibility
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to the seriousness of sin
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and a desire in your heart
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to get away from those things
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that would harm you
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and cause you pain.
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I want you to come
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to one other thought with me
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in relationship to this.
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Fearing the Lord
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means being dominated
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by his supremacy
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and his glory.
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Dominated
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by his supremacy
-
and his glory.
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Fearing the Lord
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means being dominated
-
by his supremacy
-
and his glory.
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We live in a day
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and age
-
where
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a disproportionate
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percentage
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of our population
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is absolutely
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consumed
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with self.
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Would you agree with that?
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Here's the sad thing.
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I see people
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who are professing believers
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that are only about
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a half step
-
behind the unbelieving world
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in their same affections
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and interests.
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Doing the same things.
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Buying into the same logic.
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Taking the same medicines.
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Listening to the same
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theoretical propositions
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on how to deal with life
-
and having no connection
-
whatever
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with the word of God
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and the sufficiency
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of his grace.
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I want to tell you something.
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Fearing the Lord
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means being dominated.
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The thing I want
-
is the glory of God.
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The thing I care about
-
is that he would be first.
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Fearing God
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means being dominated
-
by his supremacy
-
and his glory.
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It's very interesting
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actually
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that the Bible
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gives to us
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two great responses
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that we owe to God.
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One is to fear him
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and the other
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is to love him.
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And remember I said
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earlier
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the two go together?
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They're linked.
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You fear God.
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You grow to understand
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who he is
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and you have this
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respect
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and terror
-
of his awe
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and majesty
-
his glory
-
and his power
-
and at the same time
-
you are
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drawn towards
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that power
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and as you grow
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in knowing
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that power
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you grow in loving
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who he is.
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Do you follow that?
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You can't love someone
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you don't know
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and when you know him
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you will be terrified
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at the reality
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of who he is
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and yet we grow
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to love him.
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So let me come back
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to the passage
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in Proverbs
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and have you think
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with me.
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Go back
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if you've turned away
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from it
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to Proverbs chapter 31
Proverbs 31 chapter mention
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and as we look
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at this passage
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let me remind you
-
again that
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what this passage
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was written for
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is so that
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little girls
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would know
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what they should
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grow up
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and look like.
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You got that?
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Not Barbies.
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And little boys
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would when they
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eventually reach
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the age
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that their dad
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would look to them
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and say
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well I think
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you're at the age
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you probably
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can begin thinking
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about maybe
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who you might
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ought to marry
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someday.
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Do you know
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what you're looking
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for?
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Yes I do.
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I have 22 verses
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beginning with Aleph
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going to Beth
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and carrying on
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that tell me
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what I'm looking
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for.
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And dad
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by the way
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the end of this
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string says this
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charm
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is deceitful
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and beauty
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won't last
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but a woman
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who fears
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the Lord
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she's a keeper.
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That's what it says.
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So let me put it
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this way.
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The most valuable
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thing
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to look for
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in a woman
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is the depth
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and heart
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that she has
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for the Lord.
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The most valuable
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thing to look
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for in a woman
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is the depth
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and the heart
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that she has
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for the Lord.
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Is the Bible
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practical?
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What's the answer?
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Oh yes.
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Is the Bible
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life?
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Oh yes.
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And this morning
-
as we think
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about this
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small segment
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of God's
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wisdom for us
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where it relates
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to the matter
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of what a
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godly woman
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is.
-
I want to
-
broaden the scope
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just for a moment
-
and ask you
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if you're here
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today
-
and you don't
-
know Christ
-
let me tell you
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the Bible
-
has more
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to say
-
that's valuable
-
than just
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what kind
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of woman
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to be.
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Here's what
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the Bible
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tells us.
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The Bible
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which is our
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life
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tells us
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that all
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have sinned
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and come
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short
-
of the glory
-
of God.
-
Do you know
-
what that means?
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It means that
-
every one of us
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apart from
-
the grace
-
of Christ
-
will stand
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condemned
-
before God
-
and spend
-
all of eternity
-
in hell.
-
Last week
-
as I was walking
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my dog
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I bumped
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into a
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neighbor
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and in the
-
course of
-
conversation
-
we were
-
kind of
-
sharing
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information
-
and eventually
-
came out
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where they
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were going
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to church
-
and then I
-
said where
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I was going
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and they
-
said well
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that's one
-
of those
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fundamentalist
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churches
-
and we
-
got beyond
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that just
-
for a moment
-
and I
-
began to
-
share well
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you know
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fundamentalism
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is really
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I wouldn't
-
call myself
-
a fundamentalist
-
but I said
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you know
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a fundamental
-
believes in
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the fundamentals
-
of the faith
-
and at the
-
heart of our
-
faith
-
is a belief
-
that Jesus
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is real
-
and that
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hell's real
-
she immediately
-
stopped me
-
and said
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I don't
-
believe in
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that
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really
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you will
-
someday
-
the scripture
-
says
-
there's none
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righteous
-
no not
-
one
-
and we
-
all stand
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condemned
-
before a
-
holy God
-
but here's
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the sweet
-
truth
-
knowing
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our
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inability
-
to save
-
ourselves
-
God sent
-
his son
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to die
-
in my
-
place
-
and to die
-
in your
-
place
-
that what
-
the scriptures
-
say might
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be true
-
whosoever
-
believes in
-
him
-
do you know
-
what it
-
says
-
shall not
-
perish
-
but have
-
everlasting
-
life
-
I gotta tell
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you something
-
you can't
-
figure out
-
how to
-
fear the
-
Lord
-
if you
-
haven't
-
come to
-
faith
-
and believed
-
in Christ
-
and so
-
if you
-
want to
-
grow
-
to be
-
a godly
-
woman
-
and you're
-
sitting here
-
today
-
and you
-
don't know
-
Christ
-
my appeal
-
to you
-
my plea
-
would be
-
that you
-
confess your
-
sins
-
and believe
-
on the
-
Lord
-
Jesus
-
Christ
-
who came
-
to pay
-
the penalty
-
for you
-
in your
-
place
-
and he
-
offers you
-
everlasting
-
life
-
if you'll
-
trust him
-
and if
-
you're here
-
this morning
-
and you're
-
a young
-
man who
-
who does
-
not know
-
Christ
-
or you're
-
a father
-
or a man
-
who needs
-
Christ
-
and the burden
-
is on you
-
this morning
-
let me
-
encourage you
-
to know
-
this
-
here's what
-
it says
-
in the
-
scriptures
-
whosoever
-
calls upon
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the name
-
of the
-
Lord
-
that person
-
will be
-
saved
-
it is
-
profoundly
-
simple
-
but it is
-
profoundly
-
humbling
-
because what
-
a person
-
has to do
-
is say
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I know
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I stand
-
condemned
-
before God
-
and I
-
need
-
Jesus
-
to forgive
-
me
-
and save
-
me
-
and so
-
what I'm
-
going to ask
-
what we do
-
is we just
-
bow our heads
-
right now
-
just quietly
-
where we are
-
I want you to
-
think for a moment
-
to yourself
-
do I know
-
Christ as my
-
savior
-
and if you're
-
here today
-
and you know
-
Christ as your
-
savior
-
but you recognize
-
that your heart
-
has grown cold
-
and you're here
-
today
-
and there is
-
not an interest
-
in the things
-
of God
-
whether you're
-
a man or a woman
-
or a boy or a girl
-
I would ask
-
that you would
-
quietly
-
respond
-
if the spirit
-
of God
-
is prompting
-
you
-
and you just
-
raise your
-
hands
-
and you're
-
asking for
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those
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any
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any
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any
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any
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any
-
!