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Truth with Love for the Sake of Growth
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I would like you to turn in your Bibles this morning to Ephesians chapter 4 and we are going
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! Ephesians chapter 4 verse 14 and 15. Though we have been in Ephesians for many months,
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and we have taken the time to get the overview of what this book is about, I think it is always
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important for us to reframe context. And so this morning before we actually deal with a small part
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of the text, what I want to do is encourage you to remember that Ephesians is a book written by
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the Spirit of God given to the Apostle Paul to communicate to the church at Ephesus,
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and it is a book that deals first of all in chapters 1 through 3 with what God has done in salvation.
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And it is perhaps the most complete explanation of the part that God plays in bringing us to
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Himself and in saving us. The first three chapters explain what Christ has done. The next three
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chapters, and that's where we are, we're in the second half of our study, the next three chapters
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deal with what we as Christ's body are to do. And as I've explained, the first thing that God brings
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to our attention is really the fact that we who are part of His family by virtue of salvation have this
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overriding responsibility of unity in our faith and our purpose. And actually verses 1 through 16
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is given as a careful explanation of how God works in the church to sustain and nurture and strengthen
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this unity in the body of Christ. I look now, if you will, and turn into your Bible to verse 15,
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or actually 14, it says,
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so that we may no longer be children tossed to and fro by waves and carried about by every wind of
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doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness and deceitful schemes, but rather speaking the truth in love,
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we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head unto Christ. I ask that you join me in prayer as we
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take the text in hand. Our Father God, this morning as we take Your Word in our hands and as we study it,
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we have sung a song that is rich in its scriptural premise, that the handling of Your Word is not
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something that is to be done merely on the basis of our own intellect, but we who are Your children
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can rely upon Your Spirit to help us both in reading and studying it, but then also in understanding and
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being enriched by it. And I'm reminded of what the prophet Zechariah said in its bearing on this moment
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where it said, not by might nor by power, but by spirit, saith the Lord. And this morning,
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we who are Your children are thankful for the ministry of the indwelling Spirit. He who abides in us
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cares greatly for our spiritual growth, and He, we ask, would work today that we would understand the
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Word more and that we would grow to be more like the Lord Jesus Christ. And we ask this, that You might
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be honored here among us and in the community that You have placed us, even as You are honored and revered
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in eternity. And we ask this in Your precious name. Amen. As we look at this passage, I want you to
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remember that Paul is doing something what a very good teacher does, and he's kind of walking us through
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the steps of understanding really what is involved in unity and how that unity is maintained and how it
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was developed and strengthened. And he explains that at the very heart of the unity that we are to have as
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believers is our relationship not only to Christ, but our relationship to the truth, the Word of God. And at the
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heart of this relationship to the Word of God is growing and understanding and applying it. Now, I don't know how
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all of you are at directions, but as we look here in verse 14, Paul begins actually by explaining where we all started
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at and where the new believer starts at. We rely, in fact, many of us today probably rely on MapQuest or Navi to get
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us from point A to point B. Do you remember having punched in the coordinates and, well, I don't know how to get there,
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but I have, and off we go. I remember in an earlier day when neither Navi nor MapQuest was available,
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for me to get from point A to point B was a very arduous process and not always certain that I would
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arrive there. What it meant was actually typing out line by line, go this far, turn here, go this far,
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turn there, etc. And it meant that I would be driving along in the car reading those instructions.
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And getting those instructions was pretty important because if I didn't have them, there was a very,
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very small probability that I would, A, arrive on time or, B, arrive at all. I need directions.
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And the thing I like about MapQuest and Navi is that you get started and Navi makes an assumption
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because it already knows where you are. You understand that, don't you? MapQuest, in order to get directions
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from point A to point B, what do you always have to put in first? Pardon? You have to put in your
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location. And since autofill is what it is, when I'm in the office, I'm trying to figure out a detail.
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I just, you know, I start 4663 and guess what it does? Trebut Road to Columbus, Ohio, blah, blah, blah.
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And I am already settled. I know where I am, and then I can find out where I need to go.
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Well, as we look at this passage, it is dealing with some important details that we need to
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understand about our spiritual life. And it starts out by, first of all, telling us the nature of the
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new believer. Look at what it says there in verse 14, so that we may no longer be children. And when
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Paul makes this statement, he is telling us something about the starting point in the life of the new
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believer. Every new believer starts out as a spiritual infant. And sadly enough, that new
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believer can be counted on to do some of the things that are characteristic of a child or an infant.
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And it shouldn't be a surprise to us. The idea that just because you are 50 years old when you come to
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faith, and along with that age is automatic spiritual maturity, is not the case at all. When you come to
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Christ, you start out as a little baby in terms of your spiritual development and your spiritual
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behavior. It's very interesting to see how often the Scriptures give to us the idea that new believers
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are babies. They need to be reminded of that. And over in Galatians chapter 4, verse 19, the apostle
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writes this regarding the believers there at Galatia. He says,
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My little children. My little children. Now, how many of you have had people, and here you are as an
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adult, and I'm not talking to you who are 10 or 12, but I'm talking to you who are 40 plus. Have you ever
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had anybody talk to you like you're a child? And you probably have bristled a little bit and said,
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hey, hey, don't talk to me that way. I'm an adult. I can walk and chew gum at the same time. In fact,
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I have a driver's license. I don't even get carded anymore. I'm adult. Now, why are you talking to me
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that way? Paul, when he talks to the church, he says, listen, my little children. And when he said
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that, he was not being offensive to them. He was just reminding them of the reality that at the start
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of our spiritual life, we're spiritual infants. Over in 1 Peter chapter 2, verse 2, the apostle says
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this, as newborn infants long for pure spiritual milk. And one of the things that I understand about
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new believers is that new believers start out as a result of their conversion with a newfound interest
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in the Word of God. They're interested in it. They want it. They desire it. They don't have to be pressed
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and persuaded and cajoled into reading the Scriptures. They want to know. I remember one
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young man that after he came to Christ, actually, he was not young when he got saved, probably in his
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40s. I remember I actually several days after I had the privilege of talking to him about his
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relationship with Christ, he got together with me again. And I thought, well, it'd be appropriate to
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explain to him that a new believer should be reading the Scriptures. And when I got started on it,
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he says, oh, yeah, that's what I've been doing. I didn't know where to start. And so I just kind
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of launched in Matthew. And he had, in the last several days, worked his way through Matthew, Mark,
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Luke, John. He said, I guess I should still go on into Acts. And I thought, yeah, that's right. That's
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not a bad way to go. And here, newborn believer, guess what he was doing? He was in the Word.
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Peter says, as newborn infants long for the pure spiritual milk.
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Over in 1 John chapter 2, when the apostle John writes to the believers there, he says,
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my little children, I am writing these things to you so that you do not sin.
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And over and over again, when either the apostles or another individual would make comment and speak
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about the relationship of new believers to this matter of being childish, the statement is not meant
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to be offensive. It is meant to be just an indicator of the reality of where we start as new believers.
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And so when we think about that, we mark the fact in verse 14 that we see at the outset there's a
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reminder. You start out as a little spiritual baby. Then Paul gives us some identifying marks.
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Spiritual immaturity is characterized by some of the same behaviors that mark physical or emotional
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immaturity. And Paul identifies instability as a particular trait of spiritual immaturity. He makes
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that statement, and then he notes several things that kind of feed on this instability. So let's mark
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those things. He talks about the reality that we have of being spiritually immature, and then he explains
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the different characteristics that mark our immaturity. Spiritual immaturity, for one, leads
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individuals to be shaken by circumstances. Shaken by circumstances. When Paul, there in verse 14,
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he says this, he says, listen, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of
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doctrine. When he says that they're tossed to and fro by waves, he's not talking about the sea. He's not
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actually saying that new believers are actually moved by the swells and the up and down motion of
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the ocean. He is not referring to that at all. He is speaking in a poetic language. He's saying, listen,
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the new believer is someone who is very easily shaken by circumstances. And you stop and think about the
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characteristic of a new believer, a person who is not well-versed in Scripture and who does not
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understand the certainty of the care and the love of Christ. As a result, when circumstances strike
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that individual, they're easily overwhelmed. And over the years, I've watched those who are young
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in their faith be almost overwhelmed by things such as events that strike them, the loss of a job,
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disappointment at work, the loss of a loved one, certain circumstances and behavior of other
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individuals who are professing believers who in their misbehavior and their own spiritual immaturity
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will cause a younger one to stumble. And that person who is an infant in Christ will look at that
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person who is a little older professing faith and, wow, I can't believe that. And the misbehavior of an
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older believer can be devastating to a child, to an immature believer. And sadly enough,
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individuals can sometimes be completely overwhelmed by the behavior of other individuals. And that being
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overwhelmed is something that characterizes the child or the one who is spiritually immature.
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Spiritual immaturity also, and that's one thing that we find here in this passage,
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leads people to being very vulnerable to doctrinal deceit. Look at what Paul says there in verse 14.
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Not only tossed to and fro by the waves, but carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning,
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by craftiness in deceitful schemes. It would seem that Satan does not invest a great deal of energy in
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the unbeliever. Now, that doesn't mean that the unbeliever does not endure Satan's mistreatment,
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but the fact of the matter is, is that much of the heartache that comes into unbelievers' lives
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is caused simply by the unintended consequences of sin. Do you follow that? When we engage in sin,
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there's consequences that follow. And we recognize that Satan kind of lets it all devolve, play out.
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It is the believer in particular that is being attacked on a regular basis by the enemy,
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because the enemy wants to unseat or unhinge the believer. And so we need to recognize that Satan
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is actively engaged in trying to deceive and mislead. And we recognize that he does that not
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only outside the church, but also inside the church. And he does that in particular through false doctrine
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and challenges that arise as the result of teaching that is contrary to the Scriptures.
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Let me give you a couple examples of doctrinal error that are so prevalent today and readily
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accepted in many circles. I think for one of some of the televangelists that you can listen to,
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all you have to do is stay home from church a couple weeks, not recommending it. But when you are
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deadly sick and can't think of anything better to do, go ahead and turn on some of the channels,
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and guess what you're going to watch? You're going to watch the hucksters of the world try to sell you
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on a variety of doctrinal perversions. One, for example, is Joel Osteen. And more than one occasion,
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individuals who are orthodox and clear in their Bible thinking have challenged Joel to make himself
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clear on the issues of sin and hell and the reality of salvation through Jesus Christ alone. And he will
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dodge the question with his wonderful, smooth behavior, but he won't answer it clearly as to what
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the Scriptures teach. And the thing that is troubling to me is how often I bump into professing believers
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that have been believers for years, and they will tell me, oh, I just love listening to Joel Osteen.
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There is a distinct lack of Scriptural clarity in his teaching, and individuals involved in listening
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to that have got to recognize that or there's something wrong, childish. Another illustration
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would be the false teaching of Rob Bell. I don't know if any of you are familiar, perhaps you are,
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but he is a pastor up in Michigan somewhere. I think it's Grand Rapids. Am I right, Pastor Saul?
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Up in the Grand Rapids area, and he has become well-known for denying the reality of hell.
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Now, wrote a very popular book called Love Wins. Now, that's a nice title, isn't it? Love Wins.
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Actually, the underlying premise of that book is that, listen, God really loves all of us,
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and in the end, hell's here on earth, and it's a lot of the difficulties we cause ourselves,
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that's what's being referred to, and at the end, we all go to heaven, kind of a universalism.
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And let me tell you something, if hell is not real, then Jesus was lying when he spoke about it.
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The one who talks about hell the most in the New Testament is Christ himself.
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Furthermore, there is no reason for Christ to have died on the cross as he did, and to present himself
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as the Savior of the world, and to have his apostles teach that there is no other name wherein
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men may be saved, if the fact of the matter is, is that we're all going there anyway.
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And false teaching is something that infants in Christ are very vulnerable to.
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False teaching also presupposes or suggests that salvation is something that is earned by
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our own efforts and good works.
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And I got to tell you, that is a very, very popular thought process in the minds of many.
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All you have to do is go down on Wilson Road, and on the left-hand side, when you're going north,
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there is a wonderful place made out of marble.
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How many of you know that wonderful edifice out there?
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I remember when my mom and dad first moved to Columbus, and we would be driving and go past,
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and my dad would say, what is that place?
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I'd say, that's the Mormon temple.
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A couple weeks later, what is that place?
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It's the Mormon temple.
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It's the place where Mormons gather, and at the heart of Mormon religion is this idea that
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our good works get us to heaven.
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Not only that, but our good works help us to grow to the point that we eventually don't
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become just like Jesus, we become Jesus.
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And the progression of deity is woven into Mormon theology.
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Do you know what?
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The majority of people who are snared by the Mormon religion are not rank and crass unbelievers.
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They are new believers who have not been established in doctrine, and they're very vulnerable during
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that time of childhood and infancy.
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Well, that brings us to the fact of how immaturity is to be handled.
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And what we find there in verse 15 is the apostle giving to us a picture of how we go about developing
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spiritual maturity and durability in the lives of those who, once they come to faith,
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actually start out as new believers and as spiritually immature.
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So let's look first and secondly at the means and goal of growth.
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Look at what it says there in verse 15, rather, on the other hand, instead of being children who are
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easily swayed back and forth, rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him
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who is the head into Christ.
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Let me begin by explaining what is involved in speaking the truth in love.
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And then consider what comes from this work within the body of Christ.
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Now, that little phrase there, speaking the truth in love, is one that is difficult to actually
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translate into the Greek or into English from the Greek.
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And the reason for that is because Greek has a tendency of putting words together.
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When you want to make a statement or you want to make a point, one of the things that Greek
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authors would do is put two words together that maybe wouldn't seem to go together, but they have
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to be worked to be understood.
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And this idea that this word communicates is not just speaking, it is living the truth and then
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in that context, speaking.
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A more accurate translation would be truthing in love.
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And the idea that the Greek communicates is that of living the truth and then on that basis,
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acting it out and speaking it out.
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I think a perfect illustration of that can be found in two different passages that I want you to look at
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for a moment.
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One would be over in Hebrews chapter 13, talking about pastoral responsibility in verse 7.
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He says,
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Do you know what it's saying?
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It's saying,
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You need to think about those who have taught you the word and give particular attention to
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the way they live their lives.
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In the Scripture, both the teaching and the living of the word cannot be separated into two
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separate entities.
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Well, he is a great preacher, but he's a lousy liver.
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I'm not talking about liver, the body part, lest some of you are thinking liver and onions.
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I'm talking about, see, there we go, dietary issues.
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Liver being one talking about the way you act and live.
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Another illustration would be back in Deuteronomy chapter 6, and I want you to turn back there
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just for a moment and put your eyes on the classic passage about Christian parenting.
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Beginning there in verse 4, Moses instructs the nation of Israel in speaking particularly
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to fathers.
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He says,
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Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one, and you shall love the Lord your God
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with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.
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And these words that I command you today shall be in your heart.
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You know what it's saying?
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First thing, first thing it is said is, listen, God's got something to say to you, and is you
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are to love Him, and then you are to hold on to His word.
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The second thing that we find there in verse 7 is, and you shall teach them diligently to
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your children.
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Now listen to me carefully.
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There's a lot of hand-wringing that goes on today in some evangelical circles about the
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high percentage of young people who grow up in the church and then wander away.
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Now there are those that do that.
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I know in my own heart and my life the sorrow that comes with a daughter that has not walked
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with Christ for some time.
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But let me tell you something.
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The majority of children who walk away from the faith, if you unpeel the onion, what you
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will find is behind the majority.
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Our family constructs in which neither dad nor mom knew Christ, really, nor were they living
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a life that was governed by the word of God.
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So when they were speaking, they weren't truthing.
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And do you know what?
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When kids hear speaking that is not being truthed out in the way people live, guess what kids
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figure out?
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That's phony.
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That's hypocritical.
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And I don't want to have anything to do with that kind of hypocrisy.
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So when a parent is saying one thing and doing another, the child says, I'm out of here just
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as soon as I legitimately can be.
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Paul, speaking to the church, to the body of Christ, he's saying, listen, you've got to
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be living the truth and in that construct, you have to be teaching the truth as well.
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So the point that the Spirit of God drives home here is that those who teach must be living
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out the truth as they speak it.
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Those who teach must be living out the truth as they speak it.
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Paul, the apostle, when he was speaking of his ministry, one of the points he made, he
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says, you have watched my manner of life and the doctrine that I've taught to you.
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Not a mistake then that he makes the statement here in the passage in Ephesians chapter 4
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where he says, speaking or living out the truth and speaking it into the lives of those that
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you are involved in ministering to.
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Now there's another little piece in this passage that we have a tendency to skip over and I want
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us to recognize because it is very, very important piece.
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When Paul says in Ephesians chapter 4 that we are to speak the truth in love,
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he is speaking to us as a body of believers and he's speaking to those who are part of the bride
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of Christ and are connected to one another.
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This business of speaking the truth in love is a community activity and is not a drive-by shooting.
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I want to make that carefully clear.
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This business of speaking the truth in love is a community activity.
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It is not a drive-by shooting.
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I do love watching the body at work.
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And what I mean by that is how the body works together to bring truth into the lives of those
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who are members of the bride of Christ.
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Because we rely on the same book, because we love the same Lord, because we care about the same Savior,
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we have a tendency to say the same things.
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Do you realize that?
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I like watching that happen.
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In one illustration I'll give you, sometimes individuals will come and talk to me and perhaps
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they don't like either my temperament or my behavior or the way I comb my hair on that given day.
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And they think to themselves, I'll go to Pastor Saul.
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He is much nicer than Pastor Kenoyer.
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He is more gentle.
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He is a more reasonable man.
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And they walk out of Pastor Saul's office and more often than not, here is what they say.
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You said the same thing Pastor Kenoyer did.
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It is a real mystery.
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How does that happen?
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Well, we love the same Lord.
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We read the same book.
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We care about the same outcomes.
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And I have watched individuals who have made their way from Pastor Kenoyer to Pastor Saul,
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and they think that they're going to have a little conversation in the lobby with one of the more mature saints.
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And they come up there and they want to commiserate and fuss and fret.
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And guess what happens?
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They hear same, same.
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And it actually gets pretty frustrating because what happens is people, as they bump recurringly into the truth,
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they make a decision either to listen to the truth that comes from the Word of God or to vacate the premises.
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They will grow or they will go if we are consistent in speaking the truth in love.
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Does that make sense?
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Oh, you said the same thing that Pastor Saul did.
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That's a real conundrum to me.
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I don't know how that happened.
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But Pastor Saul and I read the same book, love the same Lord, and guess what?
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When we come face to face with an issue, at the end of the day, we're going to reconcile that issue with the same counsel
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because it comes from the Word of God.
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I want you to recognize, in practical terms, speaking the truth in love seldom takes place in nomadic relationships.
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Now, what do I mean by nomadic relationships?
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While I know that there certainly is more than one reason for the pervasive, shallow, and unstable faith of many today,
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I am persuaded that one of the elements is a lack of commitment to lasting relationships in the body of Christ.
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Lobby loving isn't the same as getting in another person's faith and staying with it
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as you work through the challenges of what's going on in a person's life.
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And I've got to tell you, when I think about this nomadic issue of relationship,
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one of the things that I can confess, and I trust that you are praying often,
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that God will provide us a man to serve as a pastor teacher and a pastor over our family youth ministry.
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One of the things that has alarmed me is as we have talked and interviewed a number of different candidates,
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I am struck by how many are moving from church to church over a period.
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In some cases, I've talked to several who have been less than eight months in one church
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and are being led by God to think about another one.
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Now, that doesn't cut it for me.
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I'm in favor of sticking it out and making it work.
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If we're going to speak the truth in love, we have to stay and make it happen.
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I think about the words of Mark Dever as he summarized,
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what does pastoral ministry boil down to?
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He said, preach and pray, love and stay.
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That brings us to the critical issue of having genuine love as the nature and motive
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of what we do when we help each other.
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Love cannot be divorced from truth, but genuine love tells the truth.
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And genuine love tells the truth lovingly.
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Now, does that mean that in every case, people will always understand at that moment
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that you were telling them the truth lovingly?
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And the answer is, not always.
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Not always.
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But what this passage is identifying is those who are speaking the truth
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are responsible for handling it with love.
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I want you to turn your Bible to a passage that really clarifies this issue very clearly.
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Turn back, if you will.
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You're in Ephesians, but go back to 1 Corinthians chapter 13.
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1 Corinthians chapter 13.
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By the way, context is king.
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Context always amplifies and helps us understand the passage.
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In chapter 12, Paul is talking about spiritual gifts.
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And the reason he was talking about spiritual gifts in the church at Corinth
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is because people were having spitting matches about who was most important.
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Oh, yeah?
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Watch me.
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You know, and spiritual gifts had become kind of a source of arrogance and dispute
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and argumentation in the body of Christ.
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So in chapter 12, he explains spiritual gifts.
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And in chapter 13, he talks about how spiritual gifts are to be used.
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And he says there in verse 1,
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If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love,
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I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
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How many of you have ever listened to someone who's just beating on a cymbal or gong endlessly,
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repetitiously, and seemingly without any objective other than annoying you?
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Do you follow that?
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It gets pretty tiring.
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Hey, when your car alarm goes off in the neighborhood,
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how many of you just sleep through it or say,
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Get out there and solve the problem?
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Paul says this.
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He says, Listen, if I speak in the tongues of men and of angels and do not have love,
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I am an irritation.
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If I have prophetic powers and understand all mysteries and have all knowledge,
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and if I have all faith so as to remove mountains but have not love,
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I am nothing.
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If I give away all that I have and if I deliver, my body be burned,
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but have not love, I gain nothing.
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You know, we're obligated to stay together.
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We really are.
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And we're obligated to be loving with each other and truthful with each other.
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And Paul says that's the characteristic of the body of Christ as it ministers to one another.
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So let's ask ourselves the question, where does this kind of love come from?
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Does it come from the fact that we just kind of learn to associate with people who are really a lot like us
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and like the same things?
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Are you listening?
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No.
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The probability of everybody liking the same things and getting along because of that is zero.
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This kind of love really comes from God being at work in us.
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Turn over in your Bible, if you would, to 1 John 4, verse 7.
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1 John 4, verse 7.
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Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God,
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and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.
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How do I know someone is a genuine believer?
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How do I know?
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Well, they know John 3, 16.
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Duh.
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They show up in church.
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No.
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Here's what it says.
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It says, Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God,
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and whoever loves has been born of God and God and knows God.
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So, well, I'm doing pretty good at that because there are about four or five people
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that I really do love in this church.
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Is that what's being talked about?
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What's the answer?
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Shake your head back and forth like this.
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Don't go up and down.
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No, that's not what I'm talking about.
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It's not talking about the fact that there are some people here that you can tolerate.
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In fact, actually, there are some that you actually love.
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It's talking about loving those who are part of the bride of Christ
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because they're part of your family.
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A little thing I've learned long ago is that when I was having problems loving certain individuals,
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in my youthfulness, I used to think,
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Well, if God would take them out of my life, it'd be better.
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Here's what I've learned.
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That kind of immature behavior or attitude has always meant that God has not only kept that person in my life,
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but He's brought others in to companion with that person.
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And when God has taken an occasional irritant away, guess what He's done?
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He's immediately replaced it with someone more like the other one.
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Remember?
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Yeah, I will use this illustration.
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Remember Jesus talks about the man cleaning out his house, getting rid of a demon?
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And the demon leaves, but what happens?
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He goes back and brings seven friends.
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I've had that happen.
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You know, it's like, Lord, I really don't like this guy.
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And then he leaves.
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Oh, praise the Lord.
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I can love everybody now.
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And then seven like him arrive.
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You know, it's like, ah!
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Okay, let's go to work on the love part.
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Look at verse 11.
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1 John 4, verse 11.
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Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
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I have recognized that there are individuals that tweak my love quotient.
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Do you follow?
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Well, they are challenges that God uses to help me see whether or not my love is authentic.
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And avoiding those challenges is not the path of spiritual growth.
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Dealing with those challenges is the test.
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So let me ask you a question.
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How can you say you love Christ and not be engaged in his bride and caring for his sheep?
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Do you understand that question?
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Oh, yes, I love Jesus.
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But I am distantly removed from being actively involved in the bride of Christ and nurturing the well-being of people that Jesus loves.
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And I really do love when I don't have anything at all to do with them.
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So what does the activity of living and speaking the truth in love really aim to produce in the life of the believer?
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Let's look at this passage as we close.
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Ephesians chapter 4, verse 15.
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It says,
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Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.
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The aim of speaking the truth in love in the church is so that the body of Christ will be like Christ.
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Do you follow that?
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So that those who start out immature will grow in grace and be more like him.
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And by the way, who is to be involved in speaking the truth in love?
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Well, for one thing, pastors ought to do that.
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Isn't that right?
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But pastors in doing that should really be involved in what else?
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Thinking about the passage of the context here, it says that a pastor, a shepherd teacher,
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is involved in the ministry of equipping the saints to do the work of the ministry.
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Who should do most of the truthing in love in this congregation?
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The body should.
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And I'll tell you, one of the things that I have been blessed to watch over and over again
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is how this body generally takes care of one another in speaking the truth in love.
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Over and over again, I've watched as I'll hear a little drifting of things going on or comments being made
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that I know, and I've not been directly party.
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Sometimes I'm walking by and I hear blah, blah, blah, and I think, hmm, maybe I should stop and step in.
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And I think, no, no, no.
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A healthy body generally heals itself.
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Do you follow that?
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A healthy body generally heals itself.
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And I have watched over and over again where other members in the body have come alongside and said,
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you know what, I heard what you said.
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Where did that come from?
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I remember thinking that way.
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But God's Word has been helping me to deal with that attitude and that problem,
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and I watch a healthy body take care of its internal problems.
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Why?
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That's the way God plans it.
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He plans for the Word of God to be used by the people of God to help immature saints grow more like Christ.
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Why like Christ?
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Two reasons.
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And I want you to sit right where you are and ask yourself the question,
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so where am I at on the journey of being like Jesus?
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Is that a fair question?
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How am I doing?
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Why is being like Christ so important?
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Think with me.
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God so loved the world that He sent, who?
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His only begotten Son into the world that the world through Him might be saved.
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Where is Jesus now?
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He's here with us, and He is in us.
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And you who are His children are appointed by His grace to be His left-behind representative.
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Agreed?
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And do I want to do His work?
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Yes.
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Am I willing to grow in that area?
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Yes.
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And so get in my space.
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Help me.
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Tell me the truth.
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Do it lovingly.
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And as a result of that, the body of Christ grows up into the fullness of Jesus,
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who is the one who is supremely worthy of all glory and grace,
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because He alone is the Savior of the world.
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And you and I have been called by Him to be His left-behind examples.
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Let's close in prayer.