Sermon
A Husband's Duty of Sacrificial Love
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There are two other men that also serve as deacons, Bill Krull, who is our Sunday School
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! Superintendent, and I believe he is in one of the children's ministries involved, and Tim
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! Smith, he is responsible for the ushers and the greeters, and he is at a retreat this Sunday.
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I want you to turn in your Bibles this morning to Ephesians chapter 5 verse 25, and as I begin,
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I want you to join me asking the Spirit of God to help us as we study this passage together.
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After I read it, we will pray.
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Ephesians chapter 5 verse 25, I encourage you to follow along in your own copy of the Scriptures
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and pay attention to the passage that we are going to study with the help of the Spirit.
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Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
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Let's pray.
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Father God, this morning as we take your Word, we take it with a reverence and a thankfulness
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because we recognize that it is the perfect expression of your character, your wisdom, your love,
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and that the fact that you have given us instruction indicates that we need that.
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We confess as well that our nature tends to not want to listen,
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and we are thankful that, first of all, salvation has opened our heart to the desperate need of our soul and salvation
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and also made us receptors of your truth and willing to hear.
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We're thankful also for the ministry of the Spirit of God that imbides every believer
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that we can rely upon this morning to take your Word and quicken it to our heart
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that having heard, we might be molded and shaped to be more like Christ.
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I think, Father, also this morning of those that are here that need Christ.
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And I recognize, Lord, that as we study this passage that is directed primarily to believers,
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I'm confident that your Spirit can work in a larger frame,
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and we pray that those who do not know Christ will be drawn to the cross.
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We also think, Lord, of the fact that the purpose of preaching is not just to inform us,
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but really to transform us through the power of the Word and through the Spirit.
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And so I pray, Lord, that the men who are here today as husbands would be both humbled and encouraged,
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and that the effect of the preaching of the Word of God would be one that is recognized
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by those in our fellowship that are wives, by children, by unbelievers and neighbors,
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that they would recognize that our men are different.
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And that that difference would not be, by any stretch, a matter of arrogance,
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but one of profound humility.
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Because every one of us who are men and husbands know our own frailty
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and our desperate need for you.
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And so we want to thank you in advance for what you are going to do
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through the work of your Word, the power of your Spirit,
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and the prayers of your people.
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We ask this in Jesus' name.
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Amen.
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Well, I've broken the passage that we're going to study down into three simple statements,
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and having said that, I'm not going to say that the passage is simple,
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but I do want to keep it at the outset, something clear and concise that you can follow with me.
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And so we're going to begin, first of all, looking at what Christ has done.
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And I want you to track with me, if you will, for a moment,
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that Christ has blessed His children incredibly.
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And when you take a passage such as this, in Ephesians 5, verse 25,
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that makes this pointed statement,
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husbands love your wives,
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that statement should not be separated from the larger context of what we've already learned
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in the book of Ephesians.
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And remember, when the letter to the church at Ephesus arrived,
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it was read in one sitting.
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Now, you may ask,
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why don't I just read it and let you go home?
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One of the things that we know from the Bible is that the Scriptures are there also for the sake of exposition.
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And what that means is that here is the text,
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and we want to understand what the text itself says.
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But then we also want to understand how the text applies in our lives today.
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And so we have chosen to break the things down a little more carefully.
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And yet, as we begin, I do want you to mark the broader picture of what Christ has done for us.
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And so think with me just for a moment back to Ephesians chapter 1, verse 3.
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If I were to think of several of the passages that you should be encouraged to memorize,
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Ephesians 1, verse 3 would be one of those that I would want stuck front and center in your thinking.
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Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,
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who has blessed us with all spiritual blessings in the heavenlies.
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There are times in all of our lives, perhaps, I can't speak for everyone,
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but I would say for most of us, there are times where our life is pretty blue and disconsolate,
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and there are difficulties.
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Ecclesiastes comments on the fact that as sparks flow up, so are troubles to a man.
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And all of us have had moments in our life where things are complicated and difficult.
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But when the apostle writes to the church at Ephesus, he says,
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Hey, listen, I want you to understand that you have been blessed to completion in Christ Jesus.
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You are rich beyond imagination.
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So we want to start, as we look at what will be a command,
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first of all to remind ourselves, hey, God has done incredible things in our lives.
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He's good.
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Secondly, I do want you to understand that Christ has enabled us for godly living through His Spirit.
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And I think this is a very important point for us to note.
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In fact, as we are looking at Ephesians chapter 5, verse 25,
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where we find a very pointed command to husbands to love their wives,
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it is actually set against the background of being a Spirit-filled believer,
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and this part is a command directly to those who are husbands.
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And so when you sit here this morning as a husband and you hear the teaching of the Word of God,
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I would challenge you to not ever think that you can accomplish the expectation of Christ
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apart from the power of the Spirit of God.
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To go about doing the things that God calls you to do
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without having a humble dependence upon the Spirit of God
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is either profound ignorance or profound arrogance,
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and neither of the eyes are good.
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I do want you to understand that we, every one of us that know Christ,
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desperately need His work in our lives every moment of the day.
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And so as you hear His command, as we are going to find here just in a moment,
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keep in mind that for the believer,
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it's given to us with the expectation that we're going to rely upon the Spirit of God to accomplish it.
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So if you're sitting here this morning as a husband, a believing husband,
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here is one of the logical outcomes that should go through your mind at the end of the service
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or at various points in the journey.
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For one, the power of the preaching of the Word of God ought to lead you to profound thankfulness that you're saved
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and that you have received the instruction of God Himself
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in what it means to live a life that is pleasing to the Creator of the universe
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and that person who is infinitely wise and good.
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And He's given you instruction.
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Secondly, it should lead you to a profound humility and dependence on the Spirit of God.
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Because as you hear what God asks or expects for you as a Christian husband,
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it ought to leave you a little bit like the Apostle when he considered the responsibility of preaching the Gospel.
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He said,
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Who is sufficient for such things?
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And so as we listen to the responsibilities that God has laid upon those who are husbands in particular this morning,
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there should be that,
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Wow, what a blessing that God has given me instruction.
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But on the other hand, there should also be,
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Wow, man, how do I do this?
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I need God's help and I'm thankful for the Spirit.
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Having said that as a background, I want us to look at what Christ commands.
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I read the passage to you, but I want you to look at it again.
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It's profoundly pointed, simple, short.
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Husbands, love your wives.
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I'm not sure how much weight we ought to actually put on the Greek grammar at this point.
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And when I say that, please allow me to finish the sentence so that you don't prejudice what I'm going to say in remainder.
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My point is this, is that actually in the Greek, the wife is not commanded specifically to submit to her husband.
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It's there by implication, and it is correct because in the first part of verse 21 where we says,
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Submitting to one another, it goes on and says,
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And wives.
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It just falls along.
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But the man himself receives an explicit and direct command from God,
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Here is what you are to do.
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Now I want you to understand this morning that the command to love your wife is incredibly challenging.
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This command is not about having warm feelings for her.
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It's not about having warm sexual passion for her or really, really liking to have her around.
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Let me point out several misunderstandings that our culture foists off on us.
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And I want you to think with me just for a moment to a passage in Jeremiah chapter 17, 9, where it says this,
Jeremiah 17 chapter mention
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The heart, does anybody remember the remainder of it?
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How many of you know Jeremiah 17, 9?
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Raise your hands and wave at me.
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Get them up high.
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Elbow above the ear.
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Okay.
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Those who did not raise their hands, learn this.
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Jeremiah chapter 17, 9,
Jeremiah 17 chapter mention
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The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked.
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Do you know what it's saying?
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Your heart is this perverse little engine that spends a lot of its energy fooling you.
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And not only are we fooled by our own heart, but we are fooled by the world that we are in.
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And so when we think about what it says here, that we are to love our wives,
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I want you to understand that it's pretty easy to gloss over this and think,
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Well, yeah, I'm doing that.
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But the idea that the world has is that love is either incredibly sappy or it's incredibly self-serving or it's incredibly sexual.
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I like The Princess Bride.
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It's a great movie.
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It's a cult favorite.
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My family has watched it so many times that many of our family members can recite little clips, you know,
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like never start a land war in Asia or whatever.
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You know, there are many little things that...
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And I have, for extra credit, I have watched things like Return to Me,
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Sleepless in Seattle, and While You Were Sleeping.
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You know, I've done all those.
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In fact, I've done them more than once.
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But I want you to understand that Hollywood's picture of what love is like,
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of kind of coming along serendipitously and catching a person at the spur of the moment
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and filling them with all these warm fuzzies and then having them drift off into the sunset
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where everything works perfectly, that's not what real marriage and love is like.
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I want you to recognize others view love as more of what you get or at least trade out
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in kind of a proportionate relationship with someone else.
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I can't tell you how many times I've had individuals in my office where I ask them,
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so what's their perception of marriage?
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And the more enlightened individuals will let me know that, well, marriage is kind of a trading situation
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where, you know, it's 50-50.
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And when they say that to me, it's like, duh, 1 plus 1 equals 2, right?
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I mean, 50-50 is the golden rule of marriage.
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I've had people tell me when I've said, so why did you divorce her or why did you divorce him?
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Well, they weren't keeping up.
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I've had them tell me this.
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They weren't keeping up their part of the bargain.
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You know, the idea that love is kind of this partnering business and, you know,
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you ought to be getting something out of it if you're going to be putting in.
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And believe me, there are more people that think that way than you would care to recognize.
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In fact, I would venture to say, while we'd not raise our hands on this one,
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there's not a one of us in here that at one point or another in our thinking
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has not been a little frustrated with the fact that our return has not matched the investment.
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Do you follow what I'm saying?
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We've been putting a whole lot into it, and it ain't paying out like we'd like.
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And now, we don't say that up front to our wife.
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We have enough intelligence.
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But inside, there's that little frustration of, you know, I brought her flowers,
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and what do I get for that?
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Or, you know, hey, I go off to work, and I put in 50, 60 hours,
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and what do I get in return?
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Now, there are other men who've looked me in the eye
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and tried to explain that while they really love their wife,
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they just can't help loving other women too.
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Do you follow that?
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It's no big deal.
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I really do.
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I've had them look at me face to face and say,
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I really do love my wife.
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And she ought to know it.
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But she shouldn't be surprised that I love someone else as well.
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I mean, you know, so many people, so little time.
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And so, the attitude is, it's all right.
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And don't think.
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That kind of thinking is only restricted to those who are crass, broken pagans.
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The husband is to love his wife because Christ loves him.
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And I think that it is very important for us to get that grasp in our minds.
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Christ loves me.
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You know, if I were to zero in on the most important thing for a believer,
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well, that's a pretty mouthful, so I'll guard it a little bit.
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But one of the most important things, how's that?
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One of the most important things for the believer to be persuaded of and to grow in appreciating
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is the abounding love of Christ.
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We sang a song that talked about how wide, how deep is his love.
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Question.
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How many of you sitting out there as you were singing,
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and we were doing well this morning singing,
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but as you were singing,
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how many of you had scriptures going through your mind about that song?
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Raise your hands.
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Above the ear.
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I'm looking above the ear.
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Okay.
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Stop.
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Listen.
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You ought to do that.
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You ought to do that.
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Here's why.
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Something that is noble,
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or let me start at the beginning and work forward.
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Every thought should be framed against scriptures.
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We all would say, what, what?
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Yes, yes.
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Right?
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Yes.
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Of course.
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Unto the law and the testimonies,
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that they speak not according to this,
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because there's no light in them.
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Isaiah chapter 8, verse 20.
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The scriptures are the premise on which we judge all things.
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And so as we're singing, first of all,
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we want to be sure that what we're singing matches up with what God has said.
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By the way, what God has said is 100% accurate, 100% profitable,
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and it's just unbelievably blessed.
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Correct?
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Agreed?
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Every Christian, nod their head.
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Go ahead, just entertain me.
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Yep.
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Nod their head.
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Yeah, we're good.
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Some of you just said, I'm not.
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Pastor wants my head nod.
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You can come back here and help me.
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Stop.
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Okay.
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Here's the deal.
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We accept the fact that God has said good things.
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So when you're singing, you ought to be thinking,
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well, does God think that really?
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And then after you say, well, yeah, I'd like to know what God thinks.
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Here's the benefit of tracking and putting scripture along with what you're singing.
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Follow.
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Follow.
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The Spirit of God is not obligated to take your warm, fuzzy thinking and do a whole lot with it.
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But He is obligated to take the scripture and drive it home and have it make a difference in your life.
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And all of God's people said, I got that one.
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So, in the future, what are we always doing?
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We're working.
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We're working.
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We're working.
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We're hoping to grow to be a people who think according to the scriptures.
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I come back to say, it is so important for the believer to be persuaded of the abounding love of Christ for us.
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And here in this passage, it says,
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Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church.
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The word that Paul chose to use here is one that is very interesting in the Greek.
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And the Greek actually was very…it was a very clear and explicit language that made distinctions.
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There was love that was largely sexual and passionate.
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There was love that was the familial kind of love.
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There was love that was kind of brotherly companionship.
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And, you know, that's where we get the name Philadelphia, right?
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The most loving city in America gets its name from Phila Delphos, you know, city of love, brotherly love.
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And so, the Greek made some distinctions.
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And the one that Paul uses here is the word agape.
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And I don't want to overplay it at this point.
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But it is a word that talks about a kind of love that is deliberate and unconditional.
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It's an act of the will that seeks the best for the beloved.
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It's deliberate and unconditional.
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And it's an act of the will that seeks the best for the beloved.
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So, when somebody walks into me and says,
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Hey, and I've had this happen, I just don't love her anymore.
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My response to that is,
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Oh, well, that's not a problem because Jesus can fix your attitude.
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And I don't mean that in a crass way.
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But, hey, every one of us in here have not loved for a couple minutes or days.
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Do you agree?
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Huh?
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I mean, thankfully, we've not said it as often as we thought it.
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But it's been there.
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It's been there.
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Paul uses this little phrase.
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He says,
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Husbands, love your wives agape like Christ loves the church.
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Do you know how easy it is to deceive yourself on how you're doing at loving?
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Huh?
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Do you really know?
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It's easy.
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In fact, if I were to ask all of you, and I'm not going to.
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I'm not going to say,
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So, how many think you're really doing well?
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Nobody here.
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No, it's me.
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But as you walk out the door, most of you are thinking,
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I'm doing okay.
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I mean, you know, I'm not as bad as Bubba.
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You know what I mean?
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I know guys that are a lot worse than I am.
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I've got to tell you something.
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I debated about this.
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But here's the truth.
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There was a time in my life where I really didn't love my wife.
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I was in seminary.
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What should a seminarian be studying?
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Oh, how to handle the Word.
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And I remember I was a senior in seminary,
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and I had another seminarian in my home,
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and we were talking about,
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Well, eventually we're going to graduate.
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And then we're going to have to get a job in a church.
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And I was thinking,
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And here's what I was thinking.
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As I was listening to that young man,
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he was just all fired up about,
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I'm going to get out there.
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And I was thinking,
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I don't like people.
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That's what I thought.
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That's what I thought.
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Oh, I tell you,
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someone asked me,
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So what's changed about you in the last 35 years
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of whatever ministry?
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I said,
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Well, for one thing,
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I've grown to love people.
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But it wasn't the bad thing,
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the worst thing.
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I remember sitting there and thinking to myself,
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I don't love my wife.
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How can a man be a shepherd of the congregation,
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the bride of Christ,
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if he doesn't love his wife?
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I had to learn the hard way how to do that.
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I sat on the other side of a counseling table.
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I had Bill Good say to me,
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Tim, you don't love your wife.
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And truth of the matter is,
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I was thinking,
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What are you low life?
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I haven't shot her.
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I mean, you know,
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I'm just telling you what I thought.
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Despicable me.
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Not the movie, but the person.
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God put me on a two-year remedy.
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Listen to me.
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Husbands, love your wives.
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As Christ loved the church.
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So what does it mean for a husband to love his wife like Christ?
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Well, it would be fitting for the lesson,
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being that it is in Ephesians,
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to rely to a large degree upon the context of the book.
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Does that make sense?
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So are there many,
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many different passages where I could take you and help you see how Christ loves the church from other books?
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I could,
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but we're going to try to stay within Ephesians for the most part.
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And I want you to understand that,
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first of all,
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the kind of love that Christ has for the church
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and the kind of love that a husband is to have for his wife
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is love that is ambitious for the future good.
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Love that is ambitious for the future good.
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You look at Ephesians chapter 1 verse 4 just for a moment.
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I just touch on it in passing.
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It says,
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Even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world,
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that we should be holy and blameless before him in love.
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By the way,
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who was he thinking about when he decided on you?
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He was thinking about some scumbag
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that really wasn't worth a passing thought.
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And before you ever were created,
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he decided that he would love you
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and he would draw you out of your rebellious state
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and he would bring you to himself
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and wrap you in his loving arms
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and he would care for you
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by purchasing your redemption with his own blood.
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Amen.
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So,
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a godly husband
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is ambitious
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for his wife's
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future good.
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Now,
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I'll tell you what,
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Lord willing,
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and we don't have snow
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and I'm around,
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I hope to preach on that a little more next week.
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There's a lot there.
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But,
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future good.
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Secondly,
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love that is unconditional.
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Ephesians chapter 2 verse 5.
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Love that is unconditional.
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It says there in Ephesians chapter 2 verse 5,
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it says,
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even when we were dead in our trespasses,
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made us alive together in Christ,
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by grace you've been saved.
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Now,
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dead doesn't tell all the story.
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It is part of the picture.
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One of the things that God
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did over and over again
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in the Old Testament
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with the nation of Israel
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is he reminded them
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where they came from.
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And,
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and as he was giving them
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his expectations,
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he kept on framing
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those expectations
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against the backdrop
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of his unconditional love
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and his interest in them.
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Let's just try this,
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the Ten Commandments.
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He starts out by saying,
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I am the Lord your God
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who brought you out of
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Egypt,
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land of slavery.
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Elsewhere in the book of Jeremiah,
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I believe it is,
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or Isaiah,
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he says,
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listen,
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I found you
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as a,
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as an outcast.
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I found you
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lying in your blood.
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One of the things
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that happened
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in the ancient world
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is when you had a baby
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and you didn't want a baby,
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what you did
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was you just
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abandoned the baby
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on the side of the road
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and the baby died of exposure.
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Very common.
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Very common.
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And he says,
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I came along
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and I saw you there
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lying in your blood.
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Your mother had walked away from you,
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left you there.
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I picked you up.
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I bathed you.
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I took care of you.
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I clothed you.
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The love of God for us
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is unconditional.
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And so a godly husband
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loves his wife
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and lets her know
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that she is beautiful
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and beloved
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when she has morning breath,
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when she has bed head,
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when she doesn't have her paint on.
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Some of you little girls
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are wondering,
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what's that all about?
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Well, you'll understand.
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Don't look at me yet.
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What?
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You're the only one
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I'm allowed to look at
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and keep looking at.
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Do you follow that?
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What?
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No,
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is it?
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That's it?
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One, one person.
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By the way,
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she's sitting right over there.
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I know where she is.
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A godly husband
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loves his wife
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with her weaknesses
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and her repeated frailties.
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And he lets her know
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that his love for her
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only grows stronger
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by the day.
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Christ's love for us
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is also fully relational.
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Look at Ephesians 2,
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verse 6,
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and then verse 13.
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It says this.
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It says there
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in Ephesians 2,
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verse 6,
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it says,
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and raised us up with him
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and seated us with him
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in the heavenly places
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in Christ Jesus.
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A couple weeks ago,
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our kids went
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to the winter jam.
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And that was just
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an incredibly cold day.
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I was obsessing about
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whether my grandchildren
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were going to survive.
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Do you have hand warmers?
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Are you wearing wool socks?
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Do you have,
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you know,
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yeah, yeah, yeah,
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I'm going to be good.
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You know,
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and it's like,
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so after it's all over,
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they had to go,
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oh,
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skinny jeans
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are not for cold weather.
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You know,
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yes,
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I understand.
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You know,
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and it wasn't
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just my grandchildren.
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I know there were
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a bunch of them out there
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that were testing
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the elements.
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How's that?
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You want to look
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like a Michelin man?
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There's a reason for it.
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Okay.
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Well,
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back we go.
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We're staying with the text.
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That's what we're working on.
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There in verse 6,
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it says,
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he seated us with him
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in the heavenly places.
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You know what it's saying?
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It says,
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he called us,
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come on inside.
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Let me put my arms around you
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and love you.
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We were outside.
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He brought us inside.
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He loved us.
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Then in verse 11,
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here's what it says,
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therefore,
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remember that at one time
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you Gentiles in the flesh
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called the uncircumcision
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by what was called
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the circumcision,
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which is in the flesh
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by hands.
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It says,
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we were alienated.
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And then in verse 13,
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it says here,
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and we who were once
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far off
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have been brought
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nigh.
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Do you understand that?
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You were out
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and now you're in.
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There's a relationship
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there
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that the apostle
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is referencing
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that's important
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for us to recognize.
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And so,
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let me tell you,
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to love your wife
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like Christ loved the church
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means that you're willing
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to spend time
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listening to your wife's interests.
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You should know
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when she's happy
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or when she's sad.
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You should know
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what she's concerned about
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or what's on her mind.
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You should know
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what her favorite restaurant is
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and what food she likes.
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And by the way,
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let me tell you something,
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there's no substitute
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for actually being
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a good listener.
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And I can tell you this
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from experience,
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it takes lots of time.
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be interested in the things
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that are important to her.
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I've got to tell this.
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Sorry Carrie's here,
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but I'll tell it anyway.
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I've been tracking
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on Facebook.
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Yeah,
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pastor goes on Facebook.
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Some of you ought to watch
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what you post.
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But anyway,
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I've been tracking
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on Facebook
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where there's one young couple
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in our church
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and I'm watching this guy
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go in and look at dishes.
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You know,
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I mean,
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why does the bride-to-be
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have to take pictures
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of all these things?
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I don't know.
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But she does
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and she posts them
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and so here's the young man,
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you know,
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yeah,
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yeah,
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those towels
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will really go good
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with the paint
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in our bathroom.
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You know,
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I've got to tell you guys,
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hey,
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you're just warming up
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for the main event.
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You're not even halfway home.
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I want you to recognize
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another thing about this love.
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It's sacrificial.
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There in the passage
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in Ephesians,
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it says that,
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look at the passage
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because it is so profound.
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As Christ loved,
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that's past tense.
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Do you understand that?
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Past tense.
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He loved the church
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and gave himself up for her.
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when you love your wife,
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it means that
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when you don't get your way,
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you don't pout
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and let her know about it.
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Everybody look up,
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men in particular,
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that smile at me,
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say,
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I know you're talking to me
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because I am.
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when you don't get your way.
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You know,
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some of us are
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kind of surly boors.
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And so,
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yeah,
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we didn't get our way,
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but buddy,
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there's payback.
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That means,
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and here I'm telling
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to myself,
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and it's hard,
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but it means moving furniture
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just because.
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You know,
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I've got to confess this.
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There was a time
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where I thought
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that I really needed
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to change my wife
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and God thought
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she needed to change me.
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But I thought
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that it would be a good idea
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if what I did
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was I took out a magic marker
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and on the bottom of the couch
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every time I moved it,
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I put a date.
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I don't do that anymore.
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But there is an advantage.
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I'm getting older
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and one of the things
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that goes with getting older
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is I,
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guess what?
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I have grandkids.
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Woo-hoo-hoo!
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And I have a son-in-law
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that is just a worker man.
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Yes, sir.
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So Judith now said,
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honey,
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would you ask?
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Okay.
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But things we've got
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to work on.
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We're in the process
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of remodeling again.
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Yeah,
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I know,
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don't laugh,
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but we're kind of
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preparing,
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so if my parents
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move in with us,
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we're able to take care
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of them.
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And I've moved
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the toilet in
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where we're going
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to have our bedroom
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three times.
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Now,
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understand that it
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hasn't been plumbed yet,
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but the reason
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it hasn't been plumbed
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is because I knew
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what was going to happen.
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Do you follow that?
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I want it here.
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Yes, ma'am.
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And a couple days later,
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I want it here.
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Okay.
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I want it here.
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You know,
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our toilet is in a circular
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kind of,
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we're not talking about
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the bowl,
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we're talking about
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the toilet itself
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is just moving around
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and it's a,
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okay,
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hey,
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it's sacrificial.
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That means
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that you as a godly husband
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are willing to get down
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your knees
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and wash your feet
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like Jesus did.
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Sitting around
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like some little
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North Korean dictator,
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you know,
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Kim Il-jong,
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you know,
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and stomping your feet
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and expecting her
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to grab you a glass
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of ice water
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while she does
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everything else,
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it's just not
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the Bible picture.
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So what goes
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through the mind
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of a Christian husband
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this morning
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as they sit here
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and listen to the teaching
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of the Word of God
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and the preaching
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of the Word of God?
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One of the things
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that ought to be happening
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is that you sit here
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and think,
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oh, Lord,
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help me.
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Right?
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Is that logical?
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I'm not up to that.
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Well,
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who is?
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But you know
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what it ought to do?
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It ought to drive
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the Christian husband
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to prayer.
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It ought to drive
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the Christian husband
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with humility
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to recognize
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his desperate need
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for the Spirit of God
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and it ought to make
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a difference
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in your home.
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I have no doubt
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that there are some
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here today
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that do not know Christ.
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And I would confess
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at the outset
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that preaching
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about Christian husbands
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loving your wife
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like Christ loved the church
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is so far
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off the screen
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that it's hardly
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anywhere
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in the room.
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But here's what
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is always in the room.
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As you consider
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the difference
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between Christ
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and his love
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for the church
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and the natural heart
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of the unsaved man
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or woman
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who's here today,
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there has to be
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a sense of shame
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and guilt
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for the sinfulness
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of the heart
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of every man
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and woman.
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Do you follow that?
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And the gospel
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is sweet.
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Do you know
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what the gospel is?
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It says that you
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are a sinner
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condemned
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before a holy God
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and you cannot
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save yourself
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or change
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your way.
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But God
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knowing the
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desperate condition
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of your heart
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sent Jesus Christ
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to be the Savior
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of the world
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and he
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died in
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your place.
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And the Bible
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offers as a free gift
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it says
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so that
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whosoever
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believes on him
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should have
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everlasting life.
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So
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Christian women
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who are sitting here
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may be thinking
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to themselves
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I really wish
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my husband
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loved me
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that way.
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That's fair.
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But here's your deal
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you just work
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on your part
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let God work
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on his part
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do you follow that?
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There are Christian
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husbands who are
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thinking
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I'm not there.
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Good.
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I'm glad
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you got that message
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because the purpose
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of the preaching
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of the word of God
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is putting us
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on the spot
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of saying
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hey
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I got to work
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at this
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how do I do it?
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I rely upon
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the word
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and I rely upon
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the spirit
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and I rely upon
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God's people
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to help me.
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To walk
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out of here
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indifferent
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to the authority
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of the word of God
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is to kind of
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invite him
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to get your attention
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another way.
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Make sense?
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So let's close
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in prayer
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and ask God
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to help you deal
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with the teaching
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of his word
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in practical
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personal way.
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Our Father God
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this morning
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your word is clear
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it's called to us
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as Christian men
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and husbands
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in particular
-
is profoundly
-
humbling
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that we
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who are frail
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as we are
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should be
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examples
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of Christ.
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And so like
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the Apostle Paul
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we say
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who is sufficient
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for these things
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and then we
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recognize
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with the very
-
same breath
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our sufficiency
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is from God.
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Convict us
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of your expectation.
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Convict us
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of our need.
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and encourage us
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to be faithful
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in our divine duty.
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We ask this
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in your precious name.
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Amen.