Sermon
The Center - Summary of Marriage
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Well, I suppose it goes without saying that I'm emotional most of the time.
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! And I guess today I'm emotional for several reasons. One is because I think about the Lord's
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! and I'm thankful for the blessing of corporate worship. I listen to you sing, and I listen to
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you sing, and I take pleasure in the joy you have in the Lord Jesus Christ. By the way,
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good singing is not the result of good voices but a good God. Do you understand that? Do you
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understand that? Good singing is a reflection of our thought of God. It's also the outcome of being
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Spirit-filled. Would you agree with that? I mean, to kind of sit there, stoic, you know what I mean by
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stoic? It's like, I mean, some people have a permanent grump, you know? I mean, it can't help,
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but, you know, and they come to church, and they hear about the glory of Christ, and they still sit
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there like, yeah, okay. But good singing happens when the Spirit of God gets a hold of the life of
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a man or a woman and touches them with the glory of the cross, and then guess what we do? It says,
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He has put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God. I love listening to you sing. I also like
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watching the orchestra when they're not blowing on a horn or whatever. They're actually singing.
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That's a good thing, right? And I enjoy the blessing of our singing together.
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Father, I am also emotional this morning because I have this book, and this book is prized.
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This book informs me. This book transforms me. And this morning, as we take this book in hand,
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the thing that I want to be clearest in your thinking is the supremacy and the glory of Christ.
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Christ. We've spent five weeks. I should say, yes, we have. This will be the fifth. We have spent
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five weeks looking at the subject of Christian marriage. I trust that you have not missed
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that Christian marriage is not the center and the be-all that ends-all in Christian living,
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the center of all that we are and do, and the center of all of our relationships really is the
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Lord Jesus Christ. Put it this way and have it stick in your mind. Christ is the center of the
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Christian life, and when He is at the center, our thinking and our behavior reflects His grace and
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power. Isn't that true? When He is at the center, the way we act, the things we think, the things we do,
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do nothing other than reflect His centrality and His significance in our lives. And the moment that
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we misplace Him or shove Him over to the side, our behavior then begins to devolve.
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I begin this way because as we look at the closing passage in Ephesians chapter 5 that addresses the
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Christian home, we read one of a sequence of statements in which the apostle, as he is teaching
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about Christian marriage, keeps on coming back to the centrality of the Lord Jesus Christ. And let me
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have you look with me, if you will, turn in your Bibles to Ephesians chapter 5 and pick up there,
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if you will, in verse 29, for no one ever hated his own flesh, talking about the relationship that a man
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is to have to his wife, but nourishes and cherishes it just as Christ does the church,
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because we are members of His body. I appreciated Amy's song that reminded us of the relationship
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that Christ has with us. And then it says in verse 31,
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therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become
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one flesh. Now, when the apostle thinks one flesh, his thought is not just about the relationship
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between a man and a woman. And we understand that because immediately after it, he says this,
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this mystery is profound. And I'm saying that it refers to Christ and to the church.
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So I want you to understand this morning that as we deal with the subject of marriage and we think
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in particular about the relationship that God intends for a husband and a wife to have together,
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we see that really underlying the relationship is to be our relationship with Christ. And that's the
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thing that makes the Christian marriage different. It's not that we said a particular set of vows
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or that we stood facing this way or that way. It is that Christ is at the center of our lives and
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the way in which we act and live is nothing other than a reflection of the centrality of Christ.
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And so let me put it this way so it's clear in your mind, union with Christ is the center
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of a Christian marriage. And trouble in a marriage is not rooted in a misunderstanding of
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the respective roles that God has assigned to a husband or a wife. And while Paul has reminded us
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of the responsibilities that a husband has and a wife has, nevertheless, that's not the main problem.
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Marriage that breaks apart is not something that happens simply because someone hasn't read Dennis
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Rainey's book on the five love languages. And I got to tell you, you've never heard me up here doing
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cartwheels over the five love languages because I'm not persuaded that the biggest issue in people's
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marriages is the way in which they communicate their love. I got to tell you this, when a husband and a wife
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do not stand in the shadow of the cross, a Christian marriage is not all that it can be.
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And it has a high probability of devolving into something very messy and very ugly.
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So let me begin by making this point undeniably clear, and we're going to see it woven through
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the text. And it's going to be a recurring part of our theme today. And it should be a recurring
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part of all of your thinking about what marriage really is. Christ is at the center.
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Christ is at the center. Woven into this extended passage that we have studied over these last five
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weeks is a number of references to Christ and His church. It's as though Paul, in teaching about
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marriage, wants to remind us over and over again that the primary interest of the apostle is not that
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we have good Christian homes, and he is interested in that, but that he helps us understand that Jesus
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is the motive and the enabler and the key to our living the kind of lives that He wants us to live.
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A wife's duty of submission was explained in the Scriptures using the example and relationship
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between Christ and the church. A husband's responsibility of loving his wife is only compared
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to the love that Christ has for the church, and his care for the body, for his wife, is explained
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in the context of, well, this is how Jesus takes care of the church that He loves. And so in verse 30,
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as we are working our way through, it says, we are members of His body. And then in 31, He speaks about
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that passage in Genesis where it talks about a man leaving his father and mother, and He talks about
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one flesh. But as soon as He talks about one flesh, guess what pops back into Paul's mind?
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Ah, one flesh, He talks about the relationship we have with Christ.
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Now, I want you to look at verse 31, 32 in particular. It says, this mystery is profound.
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And I'm saying that it refers to Christ and the church. And when Paul talks about a mystery,
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he's not talking about a mystery such as in our culture where we tend to think about mysteries.
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Mysteries are something that you need to solve with clues. I know several weeks ago,
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our college and career group played clue. And I understand they came dressed in costume and,
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you know, whoever it is that does the murder, blah, blah, costumes and clues and all that kind
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of stuff. Or we've read mystery novels. And I am one of those guys who just reads through it and
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figures at the end, they'll tell me. Other people are kind of obsessive about guessing,
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who is it? I don't care. Just get through the book. It'll come out eventually.
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Yeah, a mystery is just, it'll be there. I'll understand it later. Mysteries in our culture
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are something that's secret that you've got to figure out. Mysteries in the Bible are different.
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A Bible mystery is a truth that we would not know without God telling us. And so when Paul says there
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in verse 32, this mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church,
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I want you to understand that while there are a number of Bible truths that are mysterious,
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I think there are three in particular that stand out and really deserve our exceptional attention.
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For one, it is a mystery that God is a triune God. We would not in any way imagine the Trinity,
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the triunity of God, apart from the Scriptures telling us it's that way. Nobody in their right
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mind would say, oh yeah, I understand that God is a triune person. No, we only understand that because
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the Scriptures inform us and let us understand that. Secondly, no one would imagine the incarnation of
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Christ whereby a mystery exists in that Christ is what? All man and all God. Now try to get your head
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around that one. How can Christ be all man and all God? And that is one of the cardinal doctrines of our
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faith. The very core, the very center is the idea that the Lord Jesus Christ is man and He's also God.
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And then we come to the third mystery, and sometimes people have a tendency of looking at this passage and
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saying, well, the real mystery is how a man and a woman become one flesh. And I got to tell you,
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that is mysterious, but that's not the center of what Paul is interested in. His interest is in the
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mystery of our relationship and our union with Christ. If you were to take the time in your own
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private Bible study in the mornings when you're reading the Scriptures of just doing a little bit of
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searching and reading through the many, many different passages where it talks about our being in
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Christ, in Christ, in Christ, Paul talks about this union and relationship that we have with Him.
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Christ in you, can anybody finish it? The hope of glory. He reminds us over and over again that we are
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in this relationship with Christ, and it is a mystery and something that we would never comprehend apart
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from grace how Christ is in union with His church. The thought's a little overwhelming.
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Honestly, when we stop and think about it carefully, and I think it's appropriate given the fact that
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Paul speaks here in this passage in verse 32, this mystery is profound. It's appropriate for us to kind
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of dig into that a little bit, and what makes the mystery of His union with us profound? For one,
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stop and think about your absolute anonymity and smallness in reality. Do you understand that?
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That actually about a hundred years from now, nobody will ever know that you ever existed.
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I mean, maybe on a high side, you may be, I'm supposing that Google will still be around,
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but who is going to Google the fact that you existed 100 years from now? Do you think anybody's
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going to care? Probably not. And 200, 300 years from now, you may be some little notation in somebody's
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ancestry list, but other than that, guess what? You're not there. Insignificant. And yet the psalmist,
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when he thinks about it, he recognizes that God thinks about us personally. I want you to think with
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me just for a moment over to Psalm 8, verse 3 and 4, and I want you to turn there, if you will,
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just to kind of get the awe that the psalmist has as he thinks about God thinking about us personally.
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Psalm 8, verse 3 and 4.
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While you're going there, I'm having hot flashes, so we're going to take this off.
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Don't say anything.
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And I'm going to turn the fan on. How's that?
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Okay. I think I'm ready for another 40 minutes.
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Did I say Psalm 8? That's where we're going?
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You're already there.
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Psalm 8.
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Look at verse 3 and 4. It says,
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When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers,
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the moon and the stars which you have set in place.
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I got to tell you, the other day I was walking with my grandchildren,
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and Ivy Grace, we're trundling along, and it's at dusk, and she said,
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I'm walking, I'm paying attention to cars, you know, important things that grandparents do,
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and she's just strolling along, holding onto my hand,
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and suddenly this little voice comes up from around my knee and says,
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Moon.
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Yeah, right.
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She says, moon.
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And then she says, sky.
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She put it all together for me.
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It's like, moon there, sky.
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And here's the psalmist who thinks about this.
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He says,
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Man, look at the moon and the stars which you have set in place.
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What is man?
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That you are mindful of him.
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And the son of man that you care about him.
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I was thinking this morning as we were singing that song that I love, you know,
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his love never quits, never gives up, you know.
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And I was thinking about, I was kind of doing a little bit of a, did I get it wrong again, Tim?
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I didn't call on you this time, though.
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Tim is my stand-in, help me with bad words in songs person.
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You know, I didn't get this one.
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But anyway, I like that song.
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Is that okay?
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I don't have the words.
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They're not on the board right now.
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But when I was singing that song, and we were having a good time doing that,
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I was thinking about a couple different passages.
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I was thinking about Psalm 136.
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Do you know what it says?
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For his steadfast love, can anybody finish it?
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He endures forever.
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As I was singing that, I was reminding myself of Psalm 136.
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And after I'd kind of worked my way through that, and I opened up the Scriptures,
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and I could read the overhead and read the Bible, too, you know, back and forth,
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I then thought about the passage in Ephesians chapter 3,
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where Paul talks about the width and height and the breadth and depth of the love of Christ.
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And I also thought about that passage in Romans, where it says,
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What shall separate us, right?
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What shall separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus?
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The psalmist, he stops and he ponders and he says,
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Man, it's amazing that, God, you would choose to have communion with us.
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And we understand that in the Garden of Eden, what happened is that in the cool of the day,
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God would come and walk with man.
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Isn't that sweet?
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I believe it was a pre-incarnate Christ.
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And he would come and manifest himself to Adam and to Eve and have communion with them.
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And I got to tell you, when I stop and think about the joy and the blessing that that would have been during that time,
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it must have been beyond imagination.
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And yet, sin came into the garden.
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Instead of desiring communion and fellowship, what did man do?
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They hid.
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They hid.
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And in order to reconcile the relationship, God the Father sent his Son, the Lord Jesus Christ,
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to die to pay for my sins and for your sins, that we who were afar off could be brought nigh.
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That we could be reconciled to God.
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And the theme goes on through Scripture as we see that God planned reconciliation through his Son,
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that he sent to be the sacrifice for our sin.
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And the New Testament revels in the wonder of how God would make a way of salvation and restored relationship,
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not by putting this incredible burden of behavior on us,
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in that, well, if you want to get to heaven, you need to do A, B, C, D, E, and so on.
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And I bump into people all the time when you say,
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and so, when you die, do you know where you're going?
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Well, I don't know.
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I'm not sure.
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I don't know.
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And you ask them, so, why would God let you into heaven?
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Well, I've been a pretty good person.
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I've never met a good person.
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Do you understand that?
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The Scripture tells us what?
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There is none righteous, no, not one.
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There's not a one of us that can claim the right of stepping in to the presence of the Father
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on the basis of our own righteousness.
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And yet God sent His Son to pay the penalty for our sins so that we who believe in Him might have Christ's righteousness placed on our account.
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I think about the passage that we find elsewhere in the book of Ephesians where it says that you who were once far off are brought nigh.
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And you and I, who were once terrified of judgment, are now in intimate union with the Lord Christ.
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We are one with Him.
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And there in Ephesians chapter 5, as Paul has been working his way through this extended passage about marriage,
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in the middle of all of it, when he thinks about oneness, he can't step away from the significance of the union that the believer has with Christ.
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He is our beloved, and we are His.
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And His love for us is unfailing, and it is covenantal, and it will never change.
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And this is the most significant truth in the believer's life.
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I want you to understand this morning, there is no moment in the Christian life that is truly lived apart from the shadow of the cross and our union with Him.
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And we are with Him and part of Him.
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And we may drift, but guess what He does when we drift?
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How many of you by experience can tell you He comes looking?
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How many of you, as you grow older in the Lord and a little more experienced at the consequences of drifting left of center,
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you begin thinking as you just kind of nudge over the line, you think, don't want to do that because I've been there before.
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I am His, and He will search me out because we are in communion and union, and He is my Lord and my Savior.
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The reason that our hearts are overwhelmed when we sing that song, your love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me,
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is because we know that.
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We know that to be true.
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So what does this mystery of the union with the church and Christ have to do with marriage?
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Do you follow that question?
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What does this really have to do with marriage?
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Let me explain to you that Christian marriage really draws its distinct nature from Christ's love for us and His union with us.
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Let me say that again slowly because it is at the very heart of what makes a Christian marriage what it is.
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Christian marriage draws its distinct nature from Christ's love for us and His union with us.
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I want you to understand that Paul could not imagine his life, his service, or marriage, or slavery apart from the glory and the power of being one with Christ.
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And I think that is the thing that colors his counsel and his instructions to us is that woven throughout all of this passage
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is this idea that your marriage really is a reflection of your relationship with Christ.
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And when you have that relationship front and center, it dominates the way you behave.
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Let me tell you something.
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If your relationship with Christ does not grip your life, you will not have a marriage that displays Christ.
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As I was thinking about this earlier in the week, I stopped to recognize that no unfaithful husband ever fell into lust first.
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Let me say that carefully so you don't miss the point I'm making.
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No unfaithful husband ever fell into lust first.
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No dissatisfied wife ever drifted away first.
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What happens in the life of a believer is that, first of all, the heart fails in its affection for Christ,
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and then marriage is affected in proportion to the drifting away from Christ.
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And when you have your heart right with Christ, your heart being right with Christ will influence the behavior of your relationship.
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Is that clear?
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Let's play it out in real time.
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I shared with you that one of the struggles I have had for almost 44 years is moving furniture.
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Do you follow that?
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It's much easier to share from this pulpit than it is to live it.
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And this morning, we're going to have family dinner.
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And lo and behold, I was doing something profoundly spiritual like having devotions in prayer.
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And my bride decided it was time to make the table larger, and it was time to get more chairs.
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And guess what happened?
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My theology had an opportunity to declare the supremacy of Christ.
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And I've got to tell you, by the grace of God and the power of His Spirit this morning,
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when she said, honey, would you help me with the table and we need more chairs,
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I thought to myself, Tim, you're going to live it, and then you're going to preach it.
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Let's get this clear.
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What you believe about Christ shows up in the attitude you have towards your husband and towards your wife.
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That's what it's all about.
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And when Paul, in this passage, says, listen, I'm talking to you about this mystery,
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this wonderful, marvelous, unbelievable truth that you and Christ are one.
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He's saying, if you get it, it's okay.
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All the other pieces are all right.
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And it'll work out.
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So as you sit here this morning and you think about marriage,
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can I tell you marriage is not the most important thing?
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Christ is.
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And if you are sitting here and you're finding that your marriage is floundering
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and you're kind of sitting there thinking, it's the woman who God gave me.
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I mean, what a stupid thing to think.
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You know, the problem is not the woman God gave you, but the problem is your attitude towards God.
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And when you get that squared away, guess what's going to happen in the relationship?
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It's going to be transformed.
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It's going to be transformed by the reality, the fact, the truth,
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that you are in this wonderful, undeserved, incredible relationship with the Lord Jesus.
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And as a result of that never-failing, covenantal relationship,
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your marriage is no more than a reflection of your relationship with Christ.
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So with that understood, that my relationship with Christ controls my relationship with my bride,
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let's come to the closing little summary that the apostle gives us in Ephesians 5, verse 32.
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Now, before we actually take the passage, let me explain that this is an ancient sandwich.
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You're thinking, what is this?
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If you can remember a little bit, a fair part of the passage that we have studied
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deals with two different people, husband and wife.
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Do you follow that?
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You have husband and wife at the beginning.
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You have husband and wife at the end.
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Guess what the real meat is in the middle?
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Can anybody tell me?
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This is where the Sunday school answer is appropriate.
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Remember the story of the little boy, and he says,
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I know it looks like a squirrel, but it must be Jesus.
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This is where you can say it's Jesus.
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The center of this whole lesson is not husband and wife.
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It is Jesus.
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Now we're at the end.
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We're dealing with the other side of the bun, right?
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This side, this side, the other piece of the bun.
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And here we are.
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He says, I want you to understand, let each one of you love his wife as himself.
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He's closing it off.
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He says, by the way, I have one last point.
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If you get this relationship with Christ, you who are husbands, it's real simple.
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All you got to do is what?
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What?
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What does a husband have to do?
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Love her.
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Love her.
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By the way, does she want to be loved?
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What's the answer?
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You bet.
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You bet.
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And the apostle here, he puts it so simply, let each one of you love his wife as himself.
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Now, when he says as himself, don't get caught up in that absolutely inane, ignorant thinking
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that until you love yourself, you can't love your wife.
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Let me put it this way.
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Until you love Christ, you won't do a good job.
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We are all hardwired to love who?
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To love ourselves.
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The other day, I was doing a little remodeling.
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And by the way, you know that remodeling is a blood sport, do you not?
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You know, hammers and nails and sheet metal and wire and, you know.
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Anyway, I got a splinter in my finger.
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Not real big.
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I mean, it wasn't anything to stop a train or anything.
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But the minute I got a splinter in my finger, guess what my body started saying to me?
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Hey, it was saying, Tim, you love yourself.
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Do something about that splinter.
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That would be all right.
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I'll take care.
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Now, I immediately stopped, went in and got a pair of tweezers, and guess what I did?
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I extracted.
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You know what extraction means?
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You got to kind of dig the flesh around away from where the splinter has buried itself in,
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and you pick, pick, pick, pick, pick.
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And does it feel good?
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Well, not really, in case you're wondering.
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I'll work on your finger next.
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But why was I doing it?
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I love my finger.
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I don't want that piece of wood stuck in my finger for much longer than I can bear.
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And so here I am, tweezers in hand, and when I pulled it out, guess what I immediately had?
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I had relief.
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I mean, it's like, yes, splinter gone, Tim happy, finger good.
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You know, it's like, it's all about taking care of what belongs to me.
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And Paul says, hey, listen, husband, love your wife.
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I like you to take care of yourself.
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Now, let me not miss this, because you need to get this.
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The fact that the Bible tells us, men, that we need to love our wives is that we have a profound ability
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to forget that we've been given that task and that responsibility.
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And by the way, wives who are sitting here, please don't go home and make little three-by-five cards
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to put around the house for your husband to remember this.
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Oh, you're thinking about that, I know.
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My suggestion is that you pray and that you do your part in this equation
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and trust the Holy Spirit to put the smack down if he misses the lesson.
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Husbands, love your wives.
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And I want you to understand, husbands, that your love for your wife is simply a reflection
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of what you understand about Christ's love for you.
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Let me say it again slowly.
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Your love for your wife is simply a reflection of what you understand about Christ's love for you.
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So, when you are failing in loving your wife the way Christ loves you,
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you are failing in appreciating the depth and the marvel and the richness of his love for you.
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A godly husband who cares for his wife will be fundamental in his care for his wife,
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even as he is for his own body.
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And I want you to understand that, again, the way in which a Christian husband loves his bride
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is nothing other than an admission, an acceptance,
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that he basks in the central relationship of all eternity, namely with Christ,
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and the way in which he treats his wife says,
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I get it from Jesus.
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I want you to understand also that as we look at this passage,
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we recognize that it's not just about a husband loving his wife,
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but it's also about a wife loving or respecting her husband.
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Look at what it says there.
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See, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
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And if you're a wife, I want you to understand this,
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that if you are gripped with the awe of his love and his grace,
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your husband will know it.
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Not because you learn a particular manipulative way in which you can get your way in a relationship.
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No.
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If you are affected by the glory of Christ and the significance that he has because of who he is,
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your marriage and your relationship with your husband will reflect that.
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Because Christ is your Lord, you will respect his appointed gift.
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You will respect the man that he has given you.
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You will pray for his progress and his development.
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You'll be interested in him growing to be the man that God wants him to be.
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And you will be all about helping him make that progress and that development.
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Let me help you think with me just for a moment about the fact that what Paul is saying in this extended passage
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is just merely a practical outworking of our being affected by our personal relationship with Christ.
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Put it simply, if you are a believer and you are overwhelmed with the significance you have because of Christ,
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it will show up in every area of your life.
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So let me ask you, where did you start out?
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Where did you start out?
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What I mean by that is, how did your story begin?
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Well, I grew up in a pretty good Christian home and I was a pretty good boy.
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And, you know, I did well in school.
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These are all lies.
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Christian home was true.
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But, you know, and I just was a pretty good guy.
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Although, no, no, no, no, no.
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How did it start out?
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The Scriptures tell us,
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all have sinned, and what?
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And fallen short of the glory of God.
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He found us, it tells us in Scriptures,
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as abandoned outcasts,
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and He has put His love over us,
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and He has drawn us to the cross,
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and He has gifted us with salvation.
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And you know what?
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As a result of what we have received by His grace,
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we have the opportunity of living a life that says thank you every moment.
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Judith and I are in our third iteration of Bichon Frisees.
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Okay, they're little white dogs.
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Last, was it last week we went to the men's conference,
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and Byron Yawn said that men should never admit that they have dogs that are throw pillows?
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I have one.
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Truth of the matter is,
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is that when I was in my first pastorate up in northeastern Ohio,
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we had beagles.
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Beagles.
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All men have beagles.
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And I love to hunt rabbits,
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and we brought that beagle down here,
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and it hunted rabbits until it met somebody on the road.
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And then I got another beagle,
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and it met somebody on the road.
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And I got another beagle,
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and it met somebody on the road.
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And I said,
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that's it.
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My wife,
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we had this discussion at home,
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and I said,
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go find a dog that doesn't meet people on the road.
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So she went to a pet store.
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People shouldn't buy dogs from pet stores.
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I've got to tell you that.
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We didn't know any better.
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We just went and bought a dog from a pet store.
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Judith,
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very matter of fact,
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she walks into the pet store and says,
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all right,
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I want a dog that stays inside the house and wants to stay around us.
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Not a beagle.
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You got that?
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And they happened to have had a leftover little Bichon Frise that had been kind of stuck in this cage.
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It was one of those puppy mill jobs.
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You follow that?
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Yeah.
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And Judith,
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in strange,
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she says,
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I want one of those right there,
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and they're a little white fuzzball.
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I've got to tell you,
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when Judith brought her home,
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I said,
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that's not a dog.
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That's not a dog.
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We're very creative with names.
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We had Casey,
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we had Sophie,
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and now we have Phoebe.
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You got that?
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I don't think we'll ever have another one,
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but I'll tell you something about Casey.
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She started life in a cage and nobody loved her.
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And when we came into her life,
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we just loved on her,
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and she never got over being loved.
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I'm wondering whether your marriage says,
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I've never gotten over being loved.
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Do you follow that?
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That's where it's at.
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The way in which your marriage plays out
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is a reflection of how significant
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Christ's love is in your life.
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There's a reason
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why the Psalms in particular
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say it over and over and over again.
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What am I talking about?
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I'm talking about the fact
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that in the Psalms,
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I forget how many times it is,
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over a hundred,
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it talks about His covenant love,
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His steadfast love,
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His never failing love,
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His love that never quits.
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There's a reason why Paul,
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when he is coming to the conclusion
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of that great doctrinal argument
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for the significance of God's work in salvation
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and the certainty that His salvation is secure,
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he ends it up by saying,
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listen, what you need to get your hands around
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is the love of Christ.
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There's a reason why the apostle
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in Ephesians chapter 3
Ephesians 3 chapter mention
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says that,
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here's what I'm praying for,
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that you
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would be able to comprehend
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with all the saints
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what is the breadth and height
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and the width and depth
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of the love
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of God in Christ Jesus.
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Is there one thing you need?
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Yeah.
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It is the love of Christ.
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And if you're sitting here today
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and you do not know Christ
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as your Savior,
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let me tell you
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that the certainty that I know is this,
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is that you live in a very tenuous
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and a very insecure place
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because Christ,
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who came into the world,
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will be the judge of your life.
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And that's a terrifying place to be
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because Scripture says
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there is none righteous,
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no, not one.
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You will not be able
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to stand before Christ
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and say,
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hey, I've earned my right,
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I've earned my way,
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I have a right to eternity.
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And you know what?
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If there's anything we know today,
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we live a moment from death.
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I remember joking with Tom Parsons
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on Tuesday
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and the phone ringing
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at 540 on Wednesday
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and Kathy said to me,
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my dad's gone.
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I lived for days
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in the shadow of that impact.
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I have no doubt
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that Linda, you will
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for a long, long time.
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Kathy,
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Mandy,
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Jenny.
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Jenny.
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But my appeal to you
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is that you who sit here
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and do not know Jesus Christ,
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let me make this clear.
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What it says in the Scriptures
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is that he will be the one
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who judges you.
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God the Father
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has handed judgment
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over to Christ
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and the one
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who was willing
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to die for your sins
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is the one
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that you have to say no to.
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And I can tell you
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if you say no to him,
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it will be a terrifying prospect
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for all eternity
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to face the judgment of God.
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And you who have come to Christ
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and have received
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the gift of salvation
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because you've come unbroken
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and said,
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man, I'm a mess.
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I don't need any more evidence.
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I need Jesus.
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Do you know what it says?
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It says,
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whosoever calls upon
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the name of the Lord.
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What?
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Can you say it with me?
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Shall be saved.
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Isn't that amazing?
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I'm into mysteries right now
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because we're talking,
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mystery is how can he
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save a person like me?
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He died for you.
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He died for me.
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And the Bible says this,
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whosoever calls upon
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the name of the Lord
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shall be saved.
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And if you're here today
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and you need Christ,
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this is the time
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to trust him.
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Let's close in prayer.
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Our Father God,
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Jesus will be the center
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of our worship in eternity.
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Jesus is the center
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of the life of the believer.
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Jesus is the center
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of a Christian marriage.
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And help us
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who know Jesus
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to never get over his love.
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And we ask this
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in Jesus' name.
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Amen.
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Amen.