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How to Support Our Deacons

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  1. Let's begin with a word of prayer.

  2. Heavenly Father, this morning for us, prayer is not a habit, but is a recognition of our need.

  3. It is a recognition of your sufficiency.

  4. It is a recognition of the fact that you who abide in heaven have your ear bent to hear the frail call of your children,

  5. that you delight in us because of the Lord Jesus Christ,

  6. and that as it says in Ephesians, you have blessed us with all spiritual blessings in the heavenlies in Jesus Christ.

  7. And this morning it is our prayer that you would work to take the word that you have blessed us with

  8. and strengthen our hearts that we would be a people that walk in humility and obedience and joy,

  9. trusting in your wisdom and your plan,

  10. and understanding that often the pleasure and satisfaction of obedience comes after we have acted by faith and obeyed.

  11. And I ask for your Holy Spirit's help in my life and in those who hear the word this morning,

  12. that Christ, our Savior, would be magnified among us.

  13. Amen.

  14. Last week we looked at the passages of Scripture in particular that relate to the men who God calls in our fellowship to serve as deacons,

  15. and we recognize that God in His plan over time works to prepare men to be servants in the bride of Christ.

  16. And one of the things that I want us to do this week, having looked last week at some of the qualifications,

  17. is I want to switch around, and this week I want us to think about the part that God's people play together

  18. in enabling and encouraging and strengthening those who serve the body of Christ as leadership.

  19. I stop and recognize, as I think back over my own life,

  20. that so much of what I have received has come through, first of all,

  21. the Word of God and the Spirit of God in blessing me with salvation,

  22. but also the same is true for you who are here.

  23. Most of you know Christ as your personal Savior,

  24. and much of the blessing that you have received has come because of that.

  25. At the same time, you have to recognize that much also that we enjoy comes through relationships

  26. with other people that are godly instruments and end up being encouragers and nurturers of godliness in our life,

  27. and we have been blessed richly by those that God has put into our lives for the sake of the gospel

  28. and for our progressive sanctification.

  29. And so last week, thinking about the matter of the work of God in raising up godly leadership

  30. and the importance that we have in praying and thinking carefully about the role those men would serve in,

  31. I want us to think this morning in particular, how do we go about, as God's people,

  32. in helping and encouraging those that He raises up to be,

  33. servants of the bride of Christ and leaders in this fellowship.

  34. And if I were to summarize the sermon in three words,

  35. and so you can write this down on your paper,

  36. and don't check out because there's some things to be said at this point,

  37. but in essence, I'm interested in encouraging you to help your deacon.

  38. Deacon. Help your deacon. Help your deacon.

  39. Help those that God puts in leadership.

  40. And so as we talk about the matter of how we go about doing that,

  41. I want you to recognize that you help by participation.

  42. You help by participating in the work that God calls deacons and pastors

  43. to be engaged in directing the bride of Christ to act on.

  44. I want you to turn in your Bibles, if you would, at this point,

  45. to Acts chapter 6, verse 1.

    Acts 6:1

  46. Acts chapter 6, verse 1.

    Acts 6:1

  47. We're going to look eventually at verse 3, but mark what it says.

  48. Now in these days, when the disciples were increasing in number,

  49. a complaint by the Hellenists arose against the Hebrews

  50. because their widows were being neglected in the daily distribution.

  51. And the 12 summoned the full members of the disciples and said,

  52. It is not right that we should give up preaching and the Word of God to serve tables.

  53. Therefore, brothers, pick out from among you seven men of good repute,

  54. full of the Spirit and of wisdom, who we may appoint to this duty.

  55. As you look at the passage, one of the things that you understand

  56. is that what the apostles recognized is that the need of the church had to be met

  57. and there was a way to do it.

  58. The statement that we find there in the text that we may appoint

  59. or we may put in charge of this task indicates

  60. that the men who were chosen to engage in this responsibility

  61. were not appointed exclusively to be the only ones

  62. who did the work that was needed in the ministry.

  63. Now recognize, if you will, stop and kind of get your hands around this for a second,

  64. that by this point the early church probably numbered in excess of 4,000.

  65. And when you do a little bit of extrapolation from that,

  66. you can imagine that there were a number of widows in that fellowship

  67. that actually needed attention and care,

  68. and as a result there was a significant concern

  69. that the church had for that responsibility and it wasn't being met.

  70. And we find that the apostles said,

  71. hey listen, it's appropriate for us to stay focused on that

  72. which God has called us to be engaged in,

  73. namely in prayer and the teaching of the Word of God,

  74. and we need individuals to meet this need as well.

  75. And they gave the responsibility of doing this work

  76. to seven individuals who met the biblical standards

  77. that we find here in the passage.

  78. I want you to recognize as you think with me through this passage

  79. that the fact that the text speaks about these seven men

  80. being charged with the responsibility or the task of overseeing it

  81. indicates that they were expected to involve other people to do the job.

  82. And so when we pay attention to this this morning,

  83. I want us to understand that the underlying assumption

  84. was that deacons in the early church relied on others

  85. to help them do the work.

  86. They didn't do it all by themselves.

  87. They involved other people in doing it.

  88. And an underlying supposition behind that

  89. is that people were willing to do the things

  90. that those who had been appointed

  91. to have oversight of those responsibilities

  92. saw that needed to be done.

  93. Did the seven deacons that were appointed

  94. end up being the only ones who visited the widows

  95. or took food to them or cared for their needs?

  96. Not by any stretch of the imagination,

  97. but they were the ones who had the responsibility

  98. of overseeing that that task was cared for.

  99. And that's the way it is today.

  100. I want you to understand that when you stop and think about

  101. what a body of believers do,

  102. I want you to pay attention to the fact

  103. that God has appointed godly leadership

  104. in this congregation and over the years.

  105. That godly leadership has been, first of all,

  106. a testimony of the character and heart of Christ

  107. in their ministry and attitudes,

  108. and you have the opportunity of watching them.

  109. I know yesterday was a moving day

  110. for a number of families.

  111. We had actually two families move yesterday.

  112. And I don't know, how many of you were there

  113. to help with a move?

  114. Raise your hands.

  115. Look around.

  116. Look around.

  117. Mark the fact that a number of you

  118. were involved in those moves.

  119. And I can venture to say that you had deacons on site,

  120. you had some pastors on site,

  121. you had individuals who were willing to serve

  122. and invest their energy in the sake of the body.

  123. And as you think about that,

  124. you recognize that the deacons

  125. didn't do the only heavy lifting.

  126. They were involved in organizing

  127. and seeing that it got done

  128. and encouraging the bride of Christ

  129. in caring for that.

  130. The greater part of work that is done

  131. in any healthy body

  132. is actually done by people

  133. who serve willingly and freely

  134. without coercion and pressure.

  135. There never has been,

  136. nor will there ever be,

  137. any manipulative fashion

  138. in which people are called to the task.

  139. By the way, since you're a member,

  140. you are responsible to show up

  141. for four moves

  142. and to provide seven meals this next year.

  143. I'm getting hot.

  144. I don't know what that means,

  145. but anyway.

  146. Membership,

  147. membership doesn't work that way.

  148. We look for people

  149. that are willing to serve

  150. and we put the announcement out there

  151. and people rise to the occasion

  152. and get involved there.

  153. So let's think a little bit

  154. about the different ways

  155. in which actually

  156. you help your deacon

  157. by participating.

  158. For one,

  159. many of the body of Christ

  160. help with the spiritual needs

  161. and attitudes

  162. that often you are aware of first

  163. before,

  164. people sometimes think

  165. pastors know everything.

  166. They really don't.

  167. How many of you as parents

  168. remember that you were usually

  169. the last one to know

  170. what was happening

  171. in the basement?

  172. The same thing is true for pastors.

  173. We often don't find out

  174. and deacons also don't find out.

  175. But eventually,

  176. it works up the food chain, correct?

  177. Early on, however,

  178. most of the things

  179. that are happening

  180. in the body of Christ

  181. are cared for

  182. by people who minister

  183. to one another

  184. in the flow of life.

  185. I've said over and over again

  186. that a healthy body

  187. has a tendency

  188. of healing itself.

  189. Can I say that slowly

  190. so you understand my point?

  191. A healthy body

  192. has a tendency

  193. of healing itself.

  194. Being a man now

  195. who is many years

  196. into ministry

  197. and having gray hair,

  198. I have a number of pastors

  199. who call me periodically

  200. and ask me for advice.

  201. And I cannot tell you

  202. how many times

  203. I've answered a call

  204. where a pastor,

  205. a younger pastor,

  206. has been particularly alarmed

  207. by one problem or another

  208. and I've said to him,

  209. hey, listen,

  210. as a rule,

  211. a healthy body

  212. will do a lot of the work

  213. of taking care

  214. of some of the issues within.

  215. You know,

  216. when one person

  217. says something

  218. that is inappropriate

  219. or off color,

  220. you don't send

  221. a note to the pastor

  222. and say,

  223. by the way,

  224. I heard this said

  225. in the lobby

  226. and I think

  227. you ought to take care of it.

  228. How is that cared for?

  229. What you do

  230. is you wait

  231. for a private moment

  232. and you say to your brother,

  233. you know,

  234. I heard what you said

  235. and I just wanted

  236. to be sure I understood.

  237. What was the frame?

  238. By the way,

  239. how many of you

  240. would know a passage

  241. of scripture

  242. that would kind of

  243. reference that plan

  244. of attack?

  245. How many of you know

  246. Matthew chapter 18

    Matthew 18 chapter mention

  247. which says,

  248. when you have a problem,

  249. what do you do?

  250. Do you call somebody else

  251. to the task?

  252. No.

  253. If God providentially

  254. intended for you

  255. to hear it,

  256. he intends for you

  257. to solve it.

  258. And I want you

  259. to understand,

  260. as a general rule,

  261. a healthy body

  262. helps one another

  263. and brings a lot

  264. of healing

  265. to the family of God.

  266. I think,

  267. back for a moment

  268. in reference

  269. and illustration

  270. to something

  271. that happened,

  272. it's over 10 years ago.

  273. Our fellowship

  274. used to have

  275. a Christian school here

  276. and when it came time,

  277. the school board

  278. and the church board

  279. voted unanimously

  280. to close the school.

  281. I remember

  282. that there was

  283. understandable turmoil

  284. and difficulty

  285. in the congregation

  286. over that fact.

  287. Very interestingly enough,

  288. there was a small group

  289. of individuals

  290. who decided

  291. that what they would do

  292. is try to foment

  293. a rejection

  294. of that idea

  295. and cause

  296. some turmoil

  297. over it.

  298. And I think

  299. there were about

  300. three or four

  301. different families

  302. in our fellowship

  303. who immediately

  304. after getting a call

  305. from this group

  306. of people,

  307. they immediately

  308. called their deacon.

  309. I like that.

  310. They trusted

  311. their deacon

  312. to be one

  313. helping them

  314. work through problems.

  315. And I remember

  316. I had calls

  317. from three or four deacons

  318. who had had these calls

  319. from other families

  320. and I said,

  321. hey listen,

  322. I appreciate the fact

  323. that our people

  324. called their deacon first.

  325. And our deacons,

  326. wonderful,

  327. godly men,

  328. ended up helping

  329. work through

  330. that situation

  331. and never became

  332. an issue

  333. in our fellowship.

  334. Did it prove

  335. to be a time

  336. of testing

  337. and hardship?

  338. Yes,

  339. but it was something

  340. that the body

  341. helped work out.

  342. And that's how

  343. the body helps

  344. those who are leaders.

  345. We help each other move.

  346. I saw that on Saturday

  347. and I've seen that

  348. over and over again

  349. over the years.

  350. Men,

  351. women,

  352. families,

  353. I was talking

  354. with a neighbor of mine

  355. who actually was asking,

  356. so what is going on?

  357. And I said,

  358. well,

  359. we've got two different moves

  360. in our church.

  361. Really?

  362. We tend to not call

  363. two men in a truck.

  364. What we do is we

  365. invite each other

  366. to moving parties,

  367. okay,

  368. and we end up

  369. helping with those things.

  370. And one of the things

  371. that usually happens

  372. is that we have

  373. enough people there

  374. to help with it

  375. that we end up

  376. standing around

  377. waiting at the truck

  378. for somebody

  379. to hand something off

  380. and we have

  381. the neighborhood crowd

  382. kind of watching this

  383. from a distance

  384. and we get one comment

  385. after another,

  386. wow,

  387. are these all family members?

  388. No,

  389. no,

  390. but they are.

  391. And we work together

  392. for the glory of Christ.

  393. Furthermore,

  394. we help each other

  395. with meals.

  396. When someone has a surgery,

  397. when there's some hardship

  398. that really challenges

  399. a family construct,

  400. one of the things

  401. that you'll have happen

  402. is that a deacon,

  403. one of our small group leaders,

  404. will step in

  405. and provide for that.

  406. And I look out

  407. over this congregation

  408. and I cannot think

  409. of an individual

  410. that has not been involved

  411. either in having meals

  412. or in bringing meals

  413. to someone else

  414. when those hardship

  415. and difficulties happen.

  416. Most of the counseling

  417. and comfort,

  418. correction,

  419. and care

  420. actually comes

  421. through the body

  422. of Christ

  423. and is encouraged

  424. and nurtured

  425. by our deacons

  426. and their ministry

  427. to you.

  428. So when you think about

  429. how do you help a deacon,

  430. you help with participation.

  431. Be involved

  432. in what the body

  433. is doing

  434. because your deacons

  435. are dependent

  436. upon your participation.

  437. Secondly,

  438. be involved,

  439. help with affection

  440. and protection.

  441. I want you to look

  442. in your Bibles

  443. at a passage

  444. in 1 Thessalonians 5.

  445. 1 Thessalonians 5,

    1 Thessalonians 5:12

  446. verse 12 and 13.

  447. We ask you,

  448. brothers,

  449. to respect those

  450. who labor among you

  451. and are over you

  452. and the Lord

  453. and admonish you.

  454. Hey, by the way,

  455. how many of you

  456. really do well

  457. at receiving correction?

  458. Wave at me

  459. so I know who you are.

  460. I don't see anybody.

  461. Okay.

  462. The reason I ask this

  463. is that

  464. my bride is in here

  465. this morning

  466. so I can tell on myself

  467. and you don't have

  468. to tell her what I said.

  469. When Judith

  470. is hired by God

  471. to provide

  472. occasional admonition

  473. and it's needed

  474. regularly,

  475. my first reaction

  476. generally is,

  477. how many,

  478. can you identify

  479. with where I'm going now?

  480. It's like tone of voice.

  481. How many of you

  482. play the tone of voice card?

  483. Ah, I'm glad.

  484. Tim, I feel your pain, right?

  485. I have learned this,

  486. that when my attitude

  487. is wrong,

  488. Judith never has

  489. the right tone of voice.

  490. One of the advantages

  491. of having the Holy Spirit

  492. in my life

  493. is that I can't get away

  494. with it.

  495. Amen?

  496. I like when men

  497. say that's right

  498. because God's working

  499. and he often

  500. uses the bride

  501. that he hired

  502. for a lifetime

  503. to help us

  504. with those things.

  505. Well, in 1 Thessalonians,

  506. we're looking at

  507. this issue

  508. and it says,

  509. we ask you brothers

  510. to respect those

  511. who labor among you

  512. and are over you

  513. in the Lord

  514. and admonish you.

  515. Do people need

  516. to be admonished?

  517. Do they need

  518. to be encouraged?

  519. Do they need

  520. to be corrected?

  521. You know,

  522. when that happens,

  523. I think it's important

  524. for us to have

  525. a respect

  526. for the individual

  527. that God has placed

  528. in office over you.

  529. It's not an accident.

  530. He put them there.

  531. And by the way,

  532. so that you understand,

  533. when you say no

  534. to the hired instruments

  535. that God has appointed,

  536. guess what he will do?

  537. He'll go get another one.

  538. And someone

  539. who is a little rougher

  540. around the edges

  541. than the first one

  542. you objected to.

  543. How many of you

  544. can bear testimony

  545. that that happens?

  546. And as we grow in grace,

  547. we begin to say,

  548. Lord, I don't want

  549. to tempt you

  550. to reach for a bigger stick.

  551. I'll settle

  552. for the one

  553. you're using now.

  554. Look at verse 13.

  555. And esteem them

  556. very highly in love

  557. because of their work.

  558. Value them in love.

  559. So those who serve you

  560. are to be appreciated.

  561. They're to be valued,

  562. respected.

  563. And so when you hear

  564. someone saying something

  565. that's kind of sarcastic

  566. and surly,

  567. something that is unkind

  568. and disrespectful

  569. to those who have been

  570. put into office

  571. and appointed by the Holy Spirit

  572. to serve the bride of Christ,

  573. you ought not be one

  574. who becomes partner

  575. with that attitude.

  576. Am I right?

  577. If you do,

  578. you're being disobedient

  579. to the Lord Jesus

  580. who gave explicit command

  581. that we're looking at here.

  582. Furthermore,

  583. it says that those

  584. who serve you

  585. are to be deliberately loved.

  586. Look at the passage.

  587. And esteem them

  588. very highly in love.

  589. What does love do

  590. in relationship

  591. to when there are

  592. misunderstandings?

  593. What does love do?

  594. Everybody smile,

  595. look at me.

  596. I want to wave at you

  597. so you know

  598. I'm talking to you.

  599. Love thinks the best

  600. and hopes the best

  601. and believes the best

  602. and endures all things

  603. and works through problems.

  604. Right?

  605. Beloved,

  606. I want you to think about it with this.

  607. This is God's word

  608. spoken explicitly

  609. to the family of God

  610. and says,

  611. follow these instructions.

  612. I want you to go

  613. to another passage.

  614. We're in 1 Thessalonians

  615. so just go over

  616. to 1 Timothy 5,

    1 Timothy 5:19

  617. verse 19.

  618. 1 Timothy 5,

    1 Timothy 5:19

  619. verse 19.

  620. Do not admit

  621. a charge

  622. against an elder

  623. except on the evidence

  624. of two or three witnesses.

  625. As we read this text,

  626. it's important for us

  627. to stop and realize

  628. that it was written

  629. to be applied

  630. in the church.

  631. And while the church

  632. is an incredible group

  633. of people

  634. that have been saved

  635. by the grace of God,

  636. it's always also

  637. an environment

  638. in which people

  639. are still in the process

  640. of growing in grace

  641. and they end up

  642. having bumps and warts.

  643. I had an interesting

  644. conversation last week

  645. with a man

  646. talking about his marriage

  647. and he said,

  648. well,

  649. I suppose the problems

  650. in our marriage

  651. are because

  652. of our backgrounds.

  653. And I said,

  654. well,

  655. there is a sense

  656. in which that is

  657. entirely true

  658. and there is a sense

  659. in which it is not

  660. true at all.

  661. And he was talking

  662. about the fact

  663. that he'd grown up

  664. in this one kind of home

  665. and she'd grown up

  666. in this kind of home

  667. and as a result,

  668. they were at the point

  669. of coming apart.

  670. And I said,

  671. the truth of the matter

  672. is that marriage

  673. at its best

  674. is two sinners

  675. in a canoe.

  676. And it takes

  677. the work of the Holy Spirit

  678. to help them learn

  679. what it is

  680. to have a happy marriage

  681. so that you don't

  682. go sideways on this.

  683. I want you to look

  684. in your Bible

  685. just for a moment

  686. to Malachi.

  687. Malachi.

  688. We're talking about

  689. marriage just for a moment

  690. and I want you

  691. to step over

  692. to Malachi chapter 2.

    Malachi 2 chapter mention

  693. I'm sorry,

  694. is chapter 2,

    Isaiah 2:15

  695. verse 15.

  696. Hey,

  697. is marriage easy?

  698. And the answer is

  699. not on your life

  700. because it takes

  701. two sinners

  702. and brings them

  703. into inseparable

  704. proximity

  705. with one another.

  706. How many of you

  707. on occasion

  708. have wanted to have

  709. a little distance

  710. between you

  711. and other sinners?

  712. How many of you

  713. have had people

  714. who've wanted to have

  715. a little distance

  716. between you

  717. and them?

  718. Marriage at its best

  719. is a challenge

  720. and in the scripture

  721. we understand

  722. that marriage

  723. is supremely

  724. important to God.

  725. He cares a great deal

  726. about it

  727. and in order

  728. to help people

  729. in their marriages

  730. surprise,

  731. in the Old Testament

  732. he gave

  733. to the Old Testament

  734. saints

  735. a portion

  736. of the Holy Spirit.

  737. Now I want you

  738. to think with me

  739. just for a moment.

  740. How did Samson

  741. do all the miraculous

  742. powerful things

  743. that he did?

  744. How did he do it?

  745. Does anybody know?

  746. Through the Holy Spirit.

  747. How did the

  748. individuals

  749. who were involved

  750. in the exceptional work

  751. in building

  752. the tabernacle

  753. etc.,

  754. how did they do it?

  755. Through the Holy Spirit.

  756. And we understand

  757. that the Lord Jesus

  758. particularly in his ministry

  759. the thing that

  760. that set him apart

  761. above all others

  762. was the fullness

  763. of the Holy Spirit

  764. and the fact

  765. that it stayed on him.

  766. We understand

  767. how important

  768. marriage is

  769. to God

  770. because in the Old Testament

  771. it says there

  772. read it

  773. did he not make them

  774. one

  775. with a portion

  776. of the Spirit

  777. in their union?

  778. God cared enough

  779. in the Old Testament

  780. for marriage

  781. that he gave

  782. a portion

  783. of the Spirit

  784. for people

  785. in relationship

  786. to him.

  787. And by the way

  788. in the New Testament

  789. does every believer

  790. have the Holy Spirit

  791. abiding in him

  792. to help us

  793. with this business

  794. of growing in grace

  795. and in our marriage

  796. right?

  797. So coming back

  798. around to the subject

  799. of 1 Timothy

  800. here it is saying

  801. listen

  802. you're together

  803. and the church

  804. is a environment

  805. in which

  806. people who are

  807. still in the process

  808. of working

  809. through challenges

  810. are in close proximity

  811. with one another

  812. and we are dependent

  813. upon the Word of God

  814. and the Spirit of God

  815. to help us

  816. as we live

  817. and grow

  818. and work

  819. through the issues

  820. and he gives us

  821. explicit instructions

  822. how to solve

  823. problems.

  824. When you have

  825. a problem

  826. what it says

  827. there in 1 Timothy

    1 Timothy 5:19

  828. chapter 5

  829. verse 19

  830. is that you

  831. don't bring

  832. a charge

  833. in a formal way

  834. what is being said

  835. is to the church

  836. leadership

  837. hey

  838. don't entertain

  839. or accept

  840. one of these

  841. little

  842. scurrilous comments

  843. that's made

  844. in the lobby

  845. about one of the

  846. leadership

  847. of the fellowship

  848. without substantial

  849. evidence

  850. and people

  851. are willing

  852. to bear testimony.

  853. We see here

  854. that God

  855. instructs the body

  856. that they are

  857. to protect

  858. their leadership

  859. by following

  860. God's

  861. problem solving

  862. plan.

  863. I want you

  864. to think

  865. just for a moment

  866. what was happening

  867. in this case

  868. evidently

  869. is that the church

  870. that Timothy

  871. was responsible

  872. for

  873. would have

  874. periodic

  875. incidences

  876. in which

  877. people in the

  878. congregation

  879. would carry on

  880. a little bit

  881. of a whispering

  882. campaign

  883. about someone

  884. who was in

  885. leadership

  886. not happy

  887. with someone

  888. who was involved

  889. in Sunday school

  890. or not happy

  891. with something

  892. that had happened

  893. in youth group

  894. or not happy

  895. with one of the

  896. decisions

  897. that the pastor

  898. and deacons

  899. had made together

  900. instead of

  901. coming and

  902. handling the thing

  903. in a proper

  904. fashion

  905. little whispers

  906. would go along

  907. and people

  908. would kind of

  909. get involved

  910. I can't believe

  911. that.

  912. So let's figure

  913. out what God's

  914. plan is for

  915. solving problems

  916. in the congregation.

  917. Turn in your

  918. Bible to Matthew

    Matthew 18 chapter mention

  919. chapter 18.

  920. Would you like

  921. to reduce

  922. seriously

  923. would you like

  924. to reduce

  925. the workload

  926. of your pastors

  927. and deacons

  928. be unrelenting

  929. in your

  930. application

  931. of Matthew

    Matthew 18:15–18

  932. chapter 18

  933. verse 15

  934. through 18.

  935. You will make

  936. all of our

  937. jobs

  938. profoundly

  939. simpler.

  940. How do you

  941. handle problems

  942. when there are

  943. differences?

  944. Can anybody

  945. tell me?

  946. How many of you

  947. know?

  948. Raise your hand.

  949. You got this

  950. down cold.

  951. When there is

  952. a problem

  953. and there is

  954. a misunderstanding

  955. that is causing

  956. tension between

  957. you and another

  958. person,

  959. you are to go

  960. to that person

  961. explicitly

  962. alone.

  963. Now you're

  964. not to gather

  965. a little group

  966. of people

  967. who support you

  968. and yeah,

  969. I've had the

  970. same problem.

  971. They're the most

  972. unreasonable person

  973. I've ever met

  974. so I hope

  975. I'm going to

  976. support you

  977. when you go

  978. to bell the cat.

  979. That was a bad

  980. one.

  981. I'm going to

  982. support you

  983. when you go

  984. to let them

  985. know that

  986. they're a bad

  987. person.

  988. Off you go.

  989. What you do

  990. is you go

  991. privately.

  992. Look at what

  993. it says.

  994. It says that

  995. you're to go

  996. alone.

  997. If that

  998. doesn't work,

  999. then you bring

  1000. somebody else

  1001. with you that

  1002. they may be a

  1003. partner in the

  1004. process.

  1005. What is the

  1006. end goal of

  1007. every confrontation

  1008. that believers

  1009. have in the

  1010. body of Christ?

  1011. Does anybody

  1012. know what it

  1013. is?

  1014. It is

  1015. reconciliation

  1016. and restoration.

  1017. I have

  1018. occasional

  1019. incidences where

  1020. something happens

  1021. to a finger or a

  1022. foot or something

  1023. like that and

  1024. it gets hurt.

  1025. Bob,

  1026. sheet metal

  1027. cut,

  1028. there they are.

  1029. And you know

  1030. what?

  1031. Bob Consul

  1032. works on heating

  1033. and air

  1034. conditioning and

  1035. so he understands

  1036. sheet metal cuts.

  1037. It happens all

  1038. the time.

  1039. And so when you

  1040. get those little

  1041. cuts, the body

  1042. puts all its

  1043. energy into

  1044. healing that

  1045. part, right?

  1046. And the rest

  1047. of my body

  1048. doesn't say,

  1049. well that stupid

  1050. hand, that's the

  1051. last time I'm

  1052. sending blood to

  1053. that one.

  1054. You know, I

  1055. have been at

  1056. this forever.

  1057. Same, same.

  1058. Cut, cut,

  1059. cut.

  1060. Yeah.

  1061. I'm done.

  1062. So the next

  1063. thing that happens

  1064. is I'm walking

  1065. around without a

  1066. hand and it's

  1067. like, hello,

  1068. you're one-handed

  1069. Tim, I hope

  1070. not.

  1071. You know, the

  1072. attitude that we

  1073. have towards one

  1074. another is we're

  1075. aiming for

  1076. reconciliation.

  1077. You know

  1078. what?

  1079. One of the

  1080. things that goes

  1081. with being a

  1082. shepherd for as

  1083. many years as I

  1084. have been here

  1085. is I know that

  1086. in the family of

  1087. God there are

  1088. times where you

  1089. end up with

  1090. little attitudes

  1091. and disputes

  1092. among one

  1093. another and my

  1094. plea before God

  1095. is that the

  1096. Holy Spirit

  1097. would drive you

  1098. to obedience

  1099. in Matthew

    Matthew 18 chapter mention

  1100. chapter 18.

  1101. I assure you

  1102. if God's

  1103. people would be

  1104. faithful in

  1105. Matthew 18

  1106. it would be so

  1107. seldom that you

  1108. end up having

  1109. problems that get

  1110. larger than that

  1111. and the body of

  1112. Christ would be

  1113. effective and

  1114. efficient in its

  1115. ministry.

  1116. ministry.

  1117. I for the most

  1118. part want to

  1119. challenge you to

  1120. take that passage

  1121. and say hey

  1122. listen we're not

  1123. going to bring

  1124. charges without the

  1125. premise and the

  1126. effort that goes

  1127. into doing this

  1128. and all God's

  1129. people said

  1130. consciously and

  1131. deliberately say

  1132. it with me amen.

  1133. That's what God

  1134. wants.

  1135. Finally let's talk

  1136. about one other

  1137. thing you may help

  1138. in prayer.

  1139. You may help in

  1140. prayer.

  1141. Turn in your

  1142. Bible to Hebrews

    Hebrews 13:18

  1143. chapter 13 verse

  1144. 18.

  1145. Hebrews chapter

    Hebrews 13:18

  1146. 13 verse 18.

  1147. Obey pray for

  1148. us I'm sorry

  1149. pray for us for

  1150. we are sure that

  1151. we have a clear

  1152. conscience desiring

  1153. to act honorably

  1154. in all things.

  1155. We are about a

  1156. month away from

  1157. our annual election

  1158. and by extension

  1159. we are about two

  1160. months away from

  1161. the first deacons

  1162. meeting.

  1163. and following

  1164. the first deacons

  1165. meeting one of the

  1166. things that will

  1167. happen is that our

  1168. secretary will put

  1169. together a prayer

  1170. bulletin that is

  1171. reflective of the

  1172. requests the personal

  1173. requests that all of

  1174. your deacons are going

  1175. to make.

  1176. Can I tell you ahead

  1177. of time some of the

  1178. things that our deacons

  1179. are going to ask you

  1180. to pray for?

  1181. They're going to ask

  1182. you to pray that God

  1183. would help them in

  1184. their own personal

  1185. lives and personal

  1186. walk.

  1187. They're going to

  1188. plead with you that

  1189. you would remember to

  1190. pray for them.

  1191. There is not a man that

  1192. does not come into that

  1193. board with a humility

  1194. and a certain amount of

  1195. fearfulness knowing the

  1196. responsibility of being a

  1197. helper of the bride of

  1198. Christ and they will come

  1199. with humility saying

  1200. Lord help me in my own

  1201. devotional walk that I

  1202. may be able to minister to

  1203. other people.

  1204. Second thing that those men

  1205. are going to say and I

  1206. know that they're going to

  1207. say it ahead of time.

  1208. Now watch the deacons.

  1209. We have a group that's

  1210. going to say well if

  1211. pastor said it I'm not

  1212. going to do it so I'm

  1213. going to throw them off

  1214. but here's the deal.

  1215. They're going to say it

  1216. anyway.

  1217. They're going to say and

  1218. help me in my ministry to

  1219. my family.

  1220. Help me in my ministry to

  1221. my family.

  1222. Help me be wise in my

  1223. care for my wife and help

  1224. me to be a genuine

  1225. encourager of righteousness

  1226. in my children.

  1227. They're going to ask that

  1228. they would also have the

  1229. enabling of the spirit of

  1230. God because they have to

  1231. multitask and spend one

  1232. more plate than you do.

  1233. They have their personal

  1234. walk.

  1235. They have their family

  1236. needs.

  1237. They have their

  1238. responsibilities by which

  1239. they pay their bills and

  1240. then they have what?

  1241. They have you.

  1242. Do they take that

  1243. willingly?

  1244. Yes they do.

  1245. But how many of you

  1246. understand what I mean by

  1247. spending plates?

  1248. Our deacons have to

  1249. spend plates.

  1250. They have to keep things

  1251. in balance.

  1252. And so they will

  1253. desperately ask that you

  1254. join them praying that

  1255. they would have the

  1256. ability to minister

  1257. effectively with the

  1258. things that are going

  1259. on.

  1260. So think with me as we

  1261. look at this passage.

  1262. First of all pray that

  1263. their lives will be marked

  1264. by a clear conscience.

  1265. By a growing desire to

  1266. walk uprightly before the

  1267. Lord in an unbelieving

  1268. world.

  1269. Pray for them because they

  1270. carry the burden and

  1271. heartache of other

  1272. people.

  1273. There is no doubt that

  1274. one of the things that

  1275. characterizes our

  1276. fellowship is that often

  1277. you will talk in a more

  1278. personal way with your

  1279. deacons, with your small

  1280. group leaders than you

  1281. will with your pastors.

  1282. And that's not because

  1283. we're alienated and

  1284. isolated from you but

  1285. your deacons and small

  1286. group leaders are closer

  1287. to you in your watch

  1288. care groups and in your

  1289. small groups and as a

  1290. result they're going to

  1291. hear those things and

  1292. they can't hear them and

  1293. not be affected.

  1294. Pray for them because

  1295. people tend to judge

  1296. motives and actions

  1297. without adequate prayer

  1298. and information.

  1299. How many of you have

  1300. been pretty persuaded you

  1301. know exactly what's going

  1302. on when you don't know

  1303. anything?

  1304. You pray for your

  1305. deacons.

  1306. I think of the number of

  1307. different times as a

  1308. pastor I have had people

  1309. say some rather surprising

  1310. things about the decisions

  1311. that your leadership have

  1312. made.

  1313. And one of the things

  1314. that I always chuckle at

  1315. is when people say well

  1316. pastor always gets his

  1317. way.

  1318. I told you last week that's

  1319. the furthest from the

  1320. truth.

  1321. But the other thing I have

  1322. heard people say is that

  1323. you guys made a rather

  1324. hasty decision.

  1325. If you have ever served as

  1326. a deacon at Maranatha you

  1327. know hasty decisions are not

  1328. on the menu.

  1329. I had one deacon's wife say

  1330. you guys are so deliberate

  1331. that you are like watching

  1332. paint dry.

  1333. You know.

  1334. So.

  1335. Be careful.

  1336. And pray for them.

  1337. Finally pray for them because

  1338. they desperately need his

  1339. power to serve and bless and

  1340. be a testimony of Christ.

  1341. So let me bring this all

  1342. together and have you think

  1343. about it in practical terms.

  1344. What we have looked at this

  1345. morning is kind of the other

  1346. side of the responsibility that

  1347. scripture lays out.

  1348. For one it told us we saw

  1349. last week that deacons are

  1350. to be men who are qualified

  1351. tested men who are full of

  1352. the Holy Spirit and are ready

  1353. to serve.

  1354. We saw that last week.

  1355. So what's our part.

  1356. What's your part.

  1357. God calls you to support

  1358. them by being involved in

  1359. the work.

  1360. So when your deacon or your

  1361. small group leader calls you

  1362. and said hey will you provide

  1363. a meal and you have happened

  1364. to have had three or four

  1365. times that different people

  1366. have stepped in and helped

  1367. you.

  1368. Don't say not on your life.

  1369. I'm in.

  1370. I'll help.

  1371. And when someone calls and

  1372. says hey my the way so and so

  1373. is going to be moving and

  1374. they would appreciate if you

  1375. I'll be there.

  1376. I'll help.

  1377. When you hear someone is

  1378. struggling with a problem and

  1379. a burden you join in helping

  1380. with that and you be a helper

  1381. to your deacon those that God

  1382. has put in a position of

  1383. responsibility and leadership.

  1384. So what's the outcome.

  1385. What's the outcome when a body

  1386. of believers works effectively

  1387. for the testimony of Christ

  1388. inside the family and really

  1389. works at loving each other.

  1390. What happens.

  1391. Here.

  1392. Follow me.

  1393. Here's what Jesus said.

  1394. By this shall all those other

  1395. people that don't know Jesus

  1396. pay attention and kind of wonder

  1397. what's the real deal.

  1398. because you will what.

  1399. You'll love each other.

  1400. Is love natural to us.

  1401. What's the answer.

  1402. No.

  1403. It's the work of the Holy

  1404. Spirit.

  1405. It's the work of people who are

  1406. dependent upon the word of God.

  1407. It's the work of people that are

  1408. willing to engage in what God

  1409. does in drawing us together.

  1410. And so I would plead with you

  1411. this morning.

  1412. Beloved there is an unbelieving

  1413. world out there that is desperate

  1414. for the Lord Jesus Christ.

  1415. And the way in which we care

  1416. and bless and love one another

  1417. is a principal testimony

  1418. of the power of grace

  1419. in our fellowship

  1420. and in our neighborhoods.

  1421. And God's people

  1422. hearing the word of God

  1423. convicted by the spirit of God

  1424. say in their hearts privately

  1425. privately I hear what God wants

  1426. and I am saying yes

  1427. to the Holy Spirit.

  1428. Let's close in prayer.

  1429. Amen.