Sermon
Contentment in The Home
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I am going to give you a message kind of in in our series that
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we've been doing and it's not, I don't know if it's a series, I
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will. There's not really any specific
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length or anything like that, but just the topic of the
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family. But there this is this is
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something that applies to everyone, not just those who
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have kids, not just those who are have kids in the home or
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grandkids or whatever this is. This is honestly something that
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all of us can take tonight and use in our lives.
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But I'm going to apply it particularly to those with
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families because it's important for us to understand that we've
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got to teach these things to our kids as well.
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But obviously the the way that we teach it to our kids is by
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modeling it ourselves. And obviously we've got a lot of
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people in our church that that either don't have kids or your
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kids are grown or you're, you know, that your family doesn't
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live here and you are a testimony.
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You're an example to the young people in our church.
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And even even more than just the young people, you're example to
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the younger people, right? There's, there's plenty of
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people who are in that, that, that age where they've got
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younger kids. And you're an example to help
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with those things as well. I, I, I'm sure you've heard of
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this before, but every year on the 4th of July, Nathan's Hot
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Dogs has their, their famous hot dog eating contest.
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Right. And if, if I were to ask you,
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who is the guy that always wins the hot dog contest?
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Yeah. Well, yeah, the guy that eats
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the most. But there's a person, there is a
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specific person that eats the most every time.
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Joey Chestnut. Does that ring a bell?
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All right, so Joey Chestnut has he's he holds the record.
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It's 10 minutes. All right, this hot dog eating
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contest last for 10 minutes. He set the record at Joey's hot
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dog eating contest with 76 hot dogs.
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And it's not just hot dogs, it's 76 hot dogs and buns.
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You have to eat all of them in 10 minutes, 76 hot dogs.
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Now he's that's the record that he said he actually won.
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He won the event for the 17th time.
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OK, He's, he's done it 20 * 20 years in a row.
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He, he was not in it in 2024 because in 2024 there was
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actually a sponsorship dispute. So he didn't, he didn't go into
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the hot dog eating contest in 2024, but he's been, he's
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entered 20 times, he's won 17 out of those 20 times.
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He won. He won in 2025.
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On July 4th, he ate 7070 hot dogs in 10 minutes.
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His actual record, his record, apparently Netflix did some kind
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of hot dog eating contest for some special and he ate 83 hot
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dogs in 10 minutes. Could you imagine that?
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I have no idea how you, how you do all that.
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But they say that in the course of those of, of his years of
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eating and just in that, that, and he's a he's what they call a
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competitive eater. By the way, I looked it up
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because I was interested. He makes 5 to $6 million doing
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this a year because of, because of appearances and because, you
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know, I mean, he's the, the world champion eater.
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And, and by the way, he's not £500.
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He's like my size, you know, he's not a big guy at all.
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I have no idea where you put 80 hot dogs and you know, in 10
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minutes and then get rid of it. But he does.
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And anyway, in those, in just in those competitions that he's
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been involved in the last 20 years, he's eaten 12112 hundred
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hot dogs in what, 200 minutes, 1200 hot dogs.
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That's that's unbelievable to me.
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But anyway, I say all that to say that that hopefully you're
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not, your children are not in danger of eating 73 hot dogs at
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1 sitting and you know, in or even in one day, let alone 7 a
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minute for 10 minutes straight. But they are most certainly in
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danger, as we all are, of falling prey to the
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materialistic values of a consumerist culture, right?
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That's what the world is trying to tell us now.
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You've got to have more. If you're going to get ahead,
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you've got to go out there and make it happen.
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We live in a consumerist culture.
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Everything about it means I've got to have more, right?
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Amazon came along and it changed everything.
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I don't know what life is like without Amazon.
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I mean, you know, it used to be that you would order something
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through a catalog. You'd have to call them up.
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And, you know, hey, I'm looking at order number, such and such,
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and I'd like to place this order, OK?
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It should be there in about 12 to 14 days.
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And we're like, oh, yes, that's going to get here quick.
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You know, now it's like if it's not overnight between 4:00 AM
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and 8:00 AM, what's what's wrong with this?
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You know what's wrong with this picture?
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You know, I just, I ordered something and I didn't even, I
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didn't even need it, but the only option was to get it
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overnight between 4:00 AM and 8:00 AM.
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And I was like, all right, click, I guess I'll get it at
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4:00 AM. And sure enough, the ring goes
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off at like 6:00 and there's the box sitting on my porch, you
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know, and but that's, that's what we live in a world where
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enough is never enough anymore. And a lot of people devote their
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entire lives to acquiring wealth and possessions.
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And like I talked about this morning that the problem with
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all of that is that's going to go away, right?
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You can acquire everything. You leave it behind when you go,
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somebody else is going to be enjoying that beautiful house
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that you built. Somebody else is going to have
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all that money that you stashed away in that bank account for
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all of those years. Somebody else is going to drive
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that car or it's going to be sitting in the junkyard
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somewhere, right? Enough is never enough.
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When is enough enough? When have you when do you have
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enough? That's that's the question for a
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lot of people. But living with a focus on the
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temporal doesn't begin when a person hits a a certain age,
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right? You don't all the sudden switch
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to a mindset of I've got to have more when you turn 23 years old
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or 30 years old. You know, some kid sets his
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sights at 20 years old on a career, on career success or 40
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when you hit a midlife crisis and then all of a sudden you're
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worried about money. No, it starts way, way, way, way
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before that. It begins at a very young age
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when a child believes in his heart that happiness and
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identity are found in possessions.
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When, when happiness and identity are found in things or
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in the acceptance that comes by having those things, you know
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that a lot of marketing is actually done to children.
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A lot of your commercials on TV are actually marketed to kids
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because the kids have such a powerful influence over the
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parents in deciding what the parents buy.
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So they're, they, you know, just children ages 2 to 5.
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And now I hope this is different for you and your house.
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But children ages 2 to 5 watch more than 32 hours of television
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a week and they see more than 40,000 commercials a year.
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40,000 commercials. Turns out the kids watch
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commercials and television programs with attention to the
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point that they they can't even, they don't even know exactly
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what those commercials are about.
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But they are starting to establish brand loyalties at a
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very, very early age. By first grade, most children
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can recognize 200 brand logos. They don't have to see.
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They can't even read. I remember, I remember when
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Jackson was like 3 years old and we're driving by and he said
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there's McDonald's. And I was like, how does he know
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that that's McDonald's? He can't even read, right?
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But you see the big M and they know what it is, right?
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It's just the logo. And by by first grade, they can
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recognize 200 logos, which is why, OK, when I was growing up,
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we got our shoes that payless. But you know what I always
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wanted? I just wanted a shoe that had a
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big swoosh on it. That's all I wanted, right?
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Because those kids had Nikes and I was buying my shoes at
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Payless. And they're probably the same
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shoes. They're probably made in the
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same factory. One of them goes one way and
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gets a swoosh on it. The other one goes the other way
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and gets nothing on it. And that's what I got was the
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nothings, right? There was no difference, right?
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And as I got older and I finally was what, you know, had enough
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money to buy my own pair of Nikes and I wore them and they
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broke down faster than the Payless shoes did, or maybe not
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quite as fast. But you understand, I, I, I
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thought this was pretty funny because I saw this, they did a
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social experiment and in Hollywood or somewhere like
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that, they took Payless shoes and they, and they took all of
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them and put them in this really fancy store and, and set them up
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on the shelf with a light shining on it, mirrors all the
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way around it. And they brought all these
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elites, all these Hollywood elites in there.
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And they were like, Hey, we're starting a new brand.
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We just want you to try these shoes on, wear them and let let
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us know what you think about them from Payless.
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And they're putting these things on and they're asking, what do
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you think about this? Oh, I mean, this feels like, I
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mean, this feels like a $600.00 pair of shoes.
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These are, these are so nice. You like them?
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Yeah, these are great, man. How much are these?
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Well, these are on sale for $400.00.
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Oh, I'd pay $400.00 for those things in a heartbeat.
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Wow, this is really nice. And at the end, they revealed it
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to them and they were like, what?
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Those are from Payless. You know, it's because it's, it
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doesn't have anything to do with the quality.
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It has everything to do with the consumerist mindset.
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If I think that I am buying something that's going to give
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me status, then I want it, right?
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And we've been trained because of commercials and because of
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everything else, that that consumerist mindset is what I
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have to have. I'm not successful unless I have
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a huge house. I'm not successful unless I
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drive. What kind of car?
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Cadillac, Mercedes, you know, Lamborghini, if you drive a
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Lamborghini, well, man, you've hit the top of the line, right?
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I mean, that's, that's what they, that's what they make you
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think. I was just telling my boys the
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other day, I wouldn't even want a Lamborghini, right?
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Because you can't drive it fast. It's, it's from everything I've
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read, one of the most uncomfortable cars in the world,
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right? Because it's, it's made to go
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fast and you can't even use it, right.
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And not only that, but how many times are you tempted to just go
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flying down the road and get a ticket because you're driving
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faster than you should with a Lamborghini, right?
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Doesn't it's a status symbol and that's it.
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But that's what we're training our young people to do, right?
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11 research. They did it, done a ton of
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research on this. But one of them said kids
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represent an important demographic to marketers because
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in addition to their own purchasing power, they influence
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their parents buying decisions and are the adult consumers of
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the future. So according to this marketing
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report, kids have a very heavy influence on their parents
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spending choices in these areas. And I've got some, I've got some
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statistics that I'm going to give you in a second, but that's
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exactly that. They are, they are, they are
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marketing to your kids. Because if they get a kid early
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on to make them feel like at 3rd grade you got to go to Starbucks
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every morning and get a coffee, guess what they're going to be
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doing for the rest of their life.
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If it's not Starbucks, I don't want it, right?
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Early age Nike, if it's not Nike, I don't want it.
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If it's not fill in the blank, I don't want it.
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So not only are they marketing it the kids because the kids are
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like, no, I don't want that store brand.
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I want this one. And the parents are like, OK,
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fine, whatever. You know, that's that's what
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that's what they're, you know, training kids to do, but then
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also their customers for life because they recognize that
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brand and that's what they want, right?
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So when it comes to breakfast choices, they say that 97% of
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the time the kids are the ones who decide or or or convince
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their parents what to get for breakfast. 95% of the time for
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lunch choices where where to go for casual family meals. 98% of
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the time the kids are the ones that influence that.
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My poor kids are in the 2%. But anyway 34% of the kids
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always having a say on the choice of casual restaurant
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clothing purchases. 95% of the time the kids have the have the
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at the very least the influence on the parents.
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Software purchases 76% of the time.
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Computer purchases 60% of the time family entertainment
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choices 98% family trips and excursions 94% of the time.
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I tell you this, a home should not be kid driven, right?
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It's it's not, it's not the kids responsibility to decide what is
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going to happen in the house. But the problem is we've allowed
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our kids to become so consumerist focused that that
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that's why those numbers are so high, right?
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My kids like, hey, I want, you know, Captain Crunch.
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I'm like, whatever the store brand of Captain Crunch is,
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that's what you can have, you know, comes in a big dog food
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bag at Walmart. You ever seen those?
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That's what they get. And we're looking at like, all
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right, how much is that is the cents per oz?
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All right, this one's 15.1 cents per oz.
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You can have that one. I don't know what it is, but you
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can have it, right? And that's what you get because
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it's, you know, it's about, about, I don't care about brands
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and everything else, but that's why that's what marketing is all
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about, right? You ever go into a store, you
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know the, that, that retail or, or certain brands buy shelf
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space, right? Because what are you looking at?
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First you walk up there and you're like, OK, here's all the,
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you know, cereal, whatever is that eye level is usually what
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you're going to buy first. So, so those those companies
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will pay for that shelf space because they know that most
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people are just going to see it, recognize it and grab it, right.
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You want the great value, you got to go dig down in the bottom
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and crawl behind everything and grab it and get that if that's
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what you want. But that's what it is.
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And it's because we live in a consumerist culture, right from
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our children's early ages. We are teaching them when we
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are, when we go along with that thinking, we're teaching them
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that happiness comes from things and that identity is found in
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brand names, current fads, whatever it happens to be.
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And so I guess the question for us tonight is how can we
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cultivate an attitude of contentment in our children's
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hearts, right? Instead of, instead of, instead
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of cultivating this mindset of I've got to have, I've got to
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have, I've got to have, how can we cultivate this attitude of
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contentment? How can we break the, the
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materialistic influence that's grabbing for their attention and
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teach them the joy of having enough?
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And I'll tell you exactly what I said at the very beginning.
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For starters, we have to model that ourselves.
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We have to model that ourselves. I know as you get older and as
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you have a little bit more money available to you, you want to
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buy things that are a little bit nicer brands.
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I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with that there.
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There is a difference sometimes in the brand choice, right?
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There are brands that are more expensive because they are
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better quality, not just because they have a name on it.
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Many times you are paying for the name, right?
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But there are times when my wife will bring something home from
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the grocery store and I'll eat it and I'll say what?
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That's got to be a store brand. What is that?
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She said, yeah, it's a store brand.
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I said don't buy the store brand anymore.
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Does not taste the same, right? There's a difference sometimes
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between those things. But but the whole point is it's
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not. It's not just marketers that
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teach us that consumerist discontent.
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It's the natural tendency of our hearts.
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And it's exactly what we find in First Timothy chapter 6 and
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verse #6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.
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For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can
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carry nothing out. And having food and raiment, let
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us be there with content. Boy, that's it.
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That's a big statement right there, isn't it?
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Verse 8, having food and raiment, let us be there with
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content. You have food and you got
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clothes, that's enough. What are you saying?
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But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and
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into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in
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destruction and perdition. For the love of money is the
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root of all evil, which while some coveted after they have
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erred from the faith and pierced themselves through with many
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sorrows. So if we as parents are going to
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teach our children contentment, we have to have a firm grasp on
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that idea of contentment ourselves.
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And that's why I say, yes, this is for parents who have kids,
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but this is for all of us. Contentment is something that
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all of us need to work on. A lot of Christian adults have
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bought into this subtle and sometimes not so subtle myths
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concerning money and possessions.
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And I think sometimes it's subconscious, but we actually
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then go on and perpetuate these false philosophies to the next
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generation. I want to give you 3 myths
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before we jump into our message tonight.
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And I'm, we're not going to finish this.
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I'm going to, I'm going to do it over the, over a couple weeks
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here. But, but here's a few myths and
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I want you to turn to a couple of passages.
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Go to Job chapter 34. Here's myth #1 prosperity is a
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divine right. Prosperity is a divine right.
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And not only is this being perpetuated by media, right?
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Where you watch commercials on TV and they're telling you, you
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have to buy this. And if you don't, what's wrong
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with you, right? This is this is the, the
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prosperity gospel that's being promoted by all kinds of
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churches. God wants you to be wealthy.
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And if you're a living right, if you're doing what God wants you
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to do, then you'll have all the money in the world right now.
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Most of it is plant this little seed of money in my pocket and
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God will grow you a great wealthy fortune.
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And it never happens except for the person who is getting all
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the seeds, right? That's who I want to be.
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I want to be the one getting all the seeds.
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But call it the American dream, call it the, the, the health and
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wealth gospel, getting what I deserve.
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Whatever you call it, it's a lie.
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Prosperity is not a divine right.
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It's a divine gift. There were godly men in the
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Bible who were wealthy. You think about Abraham, think
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about Job, you think about David, you think about Solomon.
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But they were also godly men who were poor.
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I think the, the probably the prime example is Jesus, right?
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He, the son of man hath not where to lay his head.
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He didn't even have a house. He didn't have anything right.
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You, you think about Paul, Paul was a tent maker and he had to
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he had to work to make ends meet as he traveled on his missionary
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journeys. Obviously they depended on other
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people for their basic sustenance, but they were they
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were godly. I mean, there's nobody more
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godly than Jesus, right? Paul is one of the greatest
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missionaries that ever lived. Neither one of them were wealthy
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and there's others in the Bible that we can point to that they,
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they didn't have a lot of money. So wealth that's gained by
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wisdom and diligence and, and, and God's favor is a blessing to
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enjoy, But it's there to invest in eternal things, right?
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It's, it's not so we can hoard it all to ourselves and say,
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look at everything I have. It's there so we can say God
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gave this to me so I can give it back out and I can use it for
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things that are going to last for eternity.
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Now, I'm not saying, because the Bible does say that, that, you
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know, we ought to be leaving something to the next
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generation. We ought to leave something to
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our family, right? So it's, it's certainly not
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wrong to have money. It's certainly not even wrong to
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have generational wealth, but it's a matter of what are you
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doing with that wealth? The myth is that that prosperity
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is a divine right and it's not, it's not owed to us by God.
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God doesn't owe us money because we're living for him, because
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we're serving him, right? There's millions of Christians
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around the world living godly lives who are barely making it
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by, especially in some of these third world countries, right?
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They have nothing. They don't even know where
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they're literally OK. They say this in America.
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Oh, there's so many people that don't even know where their next
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meal is going to come from. And that may be true, but that's
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that that is not because that's because of a lot of other very,
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very poor choices, right? In America, you have no excuse
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to not know where your next meal is going to come from.
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But literally around the world, there are many, there are
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billions of people who don't know where their next meal is
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going to come from. And many times they have to skip
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it because there is no food for them to eat, right?
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We have to be careful not to assume that wealth is a sign of
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God's pleasure or that lean times are a sign of God's
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displeasure, right? We can have both.
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Doesn't mean that God, God is looking down on the person that
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doesn't have wealth or he's looking looking up to or you
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know the person that does you know that the truth is that God
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doesn't view the rich any differently than he views the
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poor. He's no respecter of persons.
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Job chapter 34 and verse 19. How much less to him that
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accepteth not the persons of Princess, no regardeth the rich
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more than the poor, for they all are the work of his hands.
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Acts chapter 10 and verse 34, Peter opened his mouth and said
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of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons.
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He promises to provide for our needs, not necessarily our
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wants. We honor him, we put Him first,
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He'll take care of our needs, and that's what he says in
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Philippians chapter 4 and verse 19.
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But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in
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Christ Jesus, right? In America, we've been trained
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to have a lot of wants. Most of them are not needs,
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their wants. They're things that I have to
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have. Matthew 633 But seek ye first
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the Kingdom of God in his righteousness.
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And all these things shall be added unto you.
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That's not wealth. What's the all these things?
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Food raiment. Therewith you can be be content,
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right? You seek him first.
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He'll make sure you're taken care of.
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He doesn't promise that he's going to make you wealthy.
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That's a myth. Prosperity is a divine, right?
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No, it's a divine gift #2 myth. It's my money.
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Turn over to James chapter 1. You worked hard for it, so it's
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yours, right? Actually wrong.
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We are stewards. We are managers of our own
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money, not owners. Everything that we have comes
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from the hand of God, right? And God could take that away
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from you in a heartbeat, right? Oh, you got a billion dollars in
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the bank? Go get sick with cancer.
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See how fast that money goes away.
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All right, Have a business deal go the wrong direction and see
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how fast that money goes away. God can take it away in a
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heartbeat because it's not yours.
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He's lending it to you to be a steward of what He has given you
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for the time that you have it. Everything that we have comes
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from the hand of God. Verse James chapter 1 and verse
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#17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above and
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cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no
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variableness either. Shadow of turning.
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It's God who gave us the ability and the opportunity to work and
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earn that money in the 1st place.
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It's it's God that calls us to steward our resources for Him.
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It's not yours. It's not my money.
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It's money that He's let me borrow for the time being.
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And I think the way that we handle it in the way that we use
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it for His service is how He determines whether or not He's
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going to keep giving it to us or not.
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Here's the third myth that a lot of people have.
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And back in First Timothy chapter 6, if you'll turn over
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there, money is evil. Money is evil.
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That's a myth, right? It's a tricky one because it's
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close to the truth. Possessing money is not a sin.
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What is a sin is being possessed by that money, right?
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First Timothy chapter 6 and verse #10 says for the love of
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money is the root of all evil, right?
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Oh, you've heard people say that all the time.
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Well, you know that money is the root of all evil.
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And that's not what the Bible says.
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The love of money is the root of all evil.
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They say that because they want to get at the rich.
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Money is the root of all evil. And, and, and, and it, and it's,
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I mean there's, there's a lot of truth to that when it comes to
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some of those things, especially, I mean, especially
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now you look at everything that's coming out in the Epstein
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files and all of those kind of things that money is money
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corrupts, right? Money really corrupts, and the
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people who have a lot of it have used it in a lot of wrong ways
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for a lot of wrong things. But money is not evil.
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We can use money for the glory of God.
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We can use money to accomplish a lot of things that God wants us
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to accomplish, right? It's not money that's the root
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of all evil. It's the love of money.
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And that could go from the person who has the most money in
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the entire world to the person who has the least money in the
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entire world, right? The love of money can be from
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can somebody who's poor can love money.
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You don't have a lot of it, but you love it and everything in
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your life is about how can I get more?
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Same way that people who are rich can have a love of money
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and everything in their life is about how can I get more, right?
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It's the love of money that's the root of all evil.
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So learning contentment isn't about hating money.
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It's about learning what matters most.
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It's about putting those things in the right place and having
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the right priority. So how do we teach that to our
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children? How do we help them to have a
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proper perspective on money and a material things?
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I want to, I want to give you probably just two points tonight
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and I'll probably give you 2 points next week.
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Well, next week we have our young men's service.
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But after that, I want to look at some of God's instructions to
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parents for teaching our children to be content.
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And as I said before, a lot of it hinges on us making sure that
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we are content so we can model those things to our children if
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we want to be, if we want our children to be content with what
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they have. I think there's there's some
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scriptural practices that we have to follow in our homes.
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Let's pray and then we'll jump into this.
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Father, again, we thank you for an opportunity tonight to go
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through some of these things. I pray that it will be a help to
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not only our families, but to us as individuals and to our
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church. God, I pray that you bless our
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time together in Jesus name, Amen.
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Number one, I want you to see this, and I've already kind of
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alluded to this, but model contentment in the home.
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How do we teach our children? How do we cultivate contentment
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in a consumerist culture? Number one, we have to model
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that contentment in the home. Well, what is contentment?
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Contentment is having enough, right?
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That's that's what contentment is having enough.
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It's the opposite of covetousness, always calling for
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more. I've got to have more.
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Just just one more dollar, just one more thing, just a little
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bit bigger house, just a little bit nicer car, just just a
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little bit higher up that rung, just a little bit higher up that
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ladder of success. And then I'll be OK.
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But contentment is where we recognize that what I have is
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enough, right? First Timothy chapter 6 and
1 Timothy 6 chapter mention
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verse 6. But godliness with contentment
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is great gain. That's what everybody wants.
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I want to gain. I want things.
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Godliness with contentment is great gain.
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Charles Spurgeon wrote this. You say if I had a little more I
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should be very satisfied. But you make a mistake.
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If you're not content with what you have, you would not be
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satisfied if it were doubled. And that's exactly the truth.
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How many people have fit into that exact category?
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Millionaires, billionaires. How much is enough?
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One is enough. Enough.
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Just one more dollar, just one more deal and I'm done.
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All right? I just got to have a little bit
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more. And could you imagine what I
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don't want to get off track, but you think about how much money a
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billion dollars is. A billion dollars is $999
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million plus another millionaire on top of it.
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That's a lot of money. And yet these billionaires I've
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got to have, you know, I got to be the first trillionaire in the
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world, you know, I mean, and, and it's just, it's just not
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enough. It's not enough.
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I got to have more. That's amazing to me.
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But Charles Spurgeon has a good point.
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How many people do you know who have more money than they need,
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but they never feel like they have enough.
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And I'll be honest with you, you go around to the different we,
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we knock doors in the in the neighborhoods around here and
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some of these houses are massive.
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And you know how many people we get home?
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Almost none because they don't even live there because they're
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out there working to pay for the house that they don't even live
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in, right? And they're, they're sitting in
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the office because they, you know, they're not, they're not
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in the fancy car that they're driving because they're sitting
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in the office trying to pay for the car that they're driving to
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get to the house that they don't live in, that they, that they're
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trying to pay for, right? And, and you knock on their
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doors and you try to give them the gospel and they're not home.
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They leave at 6:00 in the morning.
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They get home at 8:00 at night because they're making that
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money. Got to have it.
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And they get one day a week just to to spend their money and to
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enjoy it, right? And they have nice things, but
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you can't even enjoy it, let alone to have your family,
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right? Most of these people put their
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kids in a daycare for 60 hours a week.
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They're not. They don't even know who their
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kids are. Kids don't even know who their
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parents are. That's not teaching contentment
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to our kids. And I'm not saying that we have
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that in here. I know that nobody, nobody keeps
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their kids in daycare for 60 hours a week here, right?
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But but that's the that's the danger that if we pass that off
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to somebody else and let them raise our kids because we're
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trying to make money, it's going to be hollow.
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It's going to be empty. And you're going to wish that
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you hadn't done that right. You are what you're cultivating
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in the home. You you are raising your
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teenage. Your teenagers are almost
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completely raised by the time they're five years old.
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Let that sink in. Your teenagers are who they are
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going to be by the time they're 3456 years old.
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Who they are when they're little and what you teach them when
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they're little is what's ingrained in them for most of
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the rest of their life. All right.
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And not that God can't get a hold of their heart and not that
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you know, they can't go to a youth conference and God can get
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a hold of them. God got a hold of my heart when
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I was in when I was a teenager. But barring that, your kids are
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who they're going to be by the time they're 567 years old.
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It is so important. It is so important that you be
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involved in their life when they're young.
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Don't give that to a daycare person who does not care about
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your kids. Don't give it to a babysitter
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who doesn't have the same desires for your kids that you
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have for your kids, right. You give that to somebody else,
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they are going to turn. They are going to be raising
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your teenagers. What you, what you want them to
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be when they're teenagers is who you train them to be by the time
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they're young. And that's what I'm saying, it's
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so important. You know, most parents, even if
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even if they're home with them, what do they stick them front of
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ATV, Let the kid, let the let the TV be the babysitter, shove
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an iPad in their face and let them just play games all day
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long and watch all those commercials that come across in
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the games and all the advertisements and all of those
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things. That is what's raising your
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children and that is what is training your kids to be a
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teenager because that's who they're going to be.
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It's very hard to turn. You get a big ship moving in One
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Direction. It's very hard to turn it.
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And that's exactly what's happening.
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You are training your young people from the time that
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they're very, very little to who they're going to be when they're
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teenagers. And that's not exactly what my
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point is tonight. But my point is that if we're
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trained, if we're going to train our kids to be content, it
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starts when they're little kids, it starts when they're little.
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And it's going to it's, it's going to continue on.
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But what does enough look like in plain terms?
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It's, it's many times it's living below your means, right?
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What, what caused that huge bubble to break in 2008 when all
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these people lost their houses and their house went into
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foreclosure and everything else? How did that happen?
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Because they were living way above their means.
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They were living on that edge of disaster and the bubble popped
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and they lost everything, right? And, and, and people who had
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really good jobs lost their house, went into foreclosure
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because they were living way above their means.
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Everything was on credit, all of those other things.
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But spending less than you bring in too many parents are modeling
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discontentment. In fact, turn over to Proverbs
Proverbs 22 chapter mention
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chapter 22. I think too many parents and,
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and, and the and The thing is, maybe not all of your kids know
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everything about your finances and everything else.
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Not like I sit down and talk to my kids about my financial
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situation and ask them what I should do about it, right?
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They don't know, you know what, what credit cards we have and
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what our bank accounts look like and everything else.
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But they hear the discussions and they know the things that
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are going on in your family. And too many parents are
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modeling discontentment for their children by accumulating
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debt over non necessities and then having to take on extra
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hours at work to to, you know, or extra jobs to pay for their
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undisciplined spending. And in our culture of plenty, we
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live by the assumption that if we want it, we should have it.
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By the way, by the way, that's a mistake that a lot of young
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people make too. They they get out of high
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school, they get out of college, they get married, and they think
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they should have everything that their parents had when they were
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growing up. It took your parents 30 years to
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get that. OK, you're not going to drive a
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fancy car. OK, you, you should drive a
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beater around for a while and learn what it's like, right?
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It'll teach you how to fix a car.
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I can tell you that much, right? Drive a beater, right?
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Live in a tiny little cracker box of a house.
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Everybody expects that the day they graduate, they should be
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able to go buy a $500,000 house. And both the husband and the
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wife have a, a fancy car that they're driving and, and it, you
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know, if it's not brand new, it should only be a year or two
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old, right? It took your parents years to
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get that. The problem is parents are
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teaching their kids that it's OK to have that mindset, right?
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Jackson just got his license a couple weeks ago.
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You know what he's driving? Well, he's not even driving it
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yet because it doesn't run. We're trying to get it running.
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A 2007 Toyota 4 Runner with 325,000 miles on it.
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Guess what he's going to learn how to do?
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He ain't going to be squealing the tires in that thing.
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I can promise you that because #1 the tires probably aren't
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even going to squeal. But #2 if he does, he's not
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going to have a car to drive, right?
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It teaches you how to learn those things.
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It, it, it forces you to be content.
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He can go buy a car if he wants to, but he doesn't have the
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money to buy a car. So he's going to drive what's
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there, right? And, and, and honestly, I don't
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even think it's a wise thing for parents to allow your kids to go
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buy a Mustang, even if they're working and they have the money
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to buy it, right? Save it and use it for something
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else. Learn how to get by on living
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below your means, right. Well, this, this kid is working
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a job and he saved up his money over the summer.
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And so he wants to spend every last dime that he has on a brand
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new Mustang. It's his money.
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Let him go spend it. No, man, I, I was riding with
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the police officer just three or four months ago and we pulled
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this kid over. He was 17 years old and he had
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15 points on his driving record. He was driving a, a Mustang,
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driving a Mustang and he was going 60 miles an hour in a 35
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when we pulled him over with 15 points on his driving record.
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Do you think he'd be doing that if he was driving a little
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beater that barely got to 35 miles an hour, let alone be able
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to go 60 in a Mustang? Right.
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And, and, and it turned out that his, his dad was on the title
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with him and everything else. So it's the worst thing you
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could do for your kid. Doesn't matter if you have
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money, let him start at the bottom.
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Some of the some of the guys who were the most successful have
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taught that lesson to their kids by making them start at the
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bottom and work their way up, right.
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Some of the worst things that could happen is I'm the CEO or
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I'm the president or I'm the owner of this big company.
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And so your kid graduates from college and now he's the vice
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president and he's going to be the president next day.
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Soon as I decide to retire, he's going to be the president of
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this company. No, he should start off as a day
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laborer and work his way up and prove that he can do it.
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And all I'm saying is that's that's the mindset that we
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should be teaching to our children, right?
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It doesn't matter if you can afford it.
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Live below your means. Show them what contentment is,
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right? It doesn't mean that you can't
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enjoy things. But all I'm saying is in this,
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in this culture of of plenty, we shouldn't just have this mindset
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that I want it, so I should be able to have it right?
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Sometimes it's good for us not to have.
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And that's that's especially true if it's going to put us
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into debt. This guy was a journalist, Earl
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Wilson. He lived from 19 O 7 to 1987.
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He died a long time ago. He said this nowadays people can
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be divided into three classes. And that was nowadays a long
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time ago, the haves, the have nots and the have not paid for
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what they haves. And he said in his article, it's
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better to be in the second group than the third, right?
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It's better to be in the have nots than to be in the have not
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paid for what you have, right? Proverbs 22 seven, the Bible
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says this, the rich ruleth over the poor and the borrower is
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servant to the lender. One of the most important
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lessons that a kid can learn and one of the most important things
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that a parent can teach to their children when it comes to this
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idea is to learn to differentiate between needs,
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wants and desires, right? There are, there are some things
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as a parent, you should provide for your children's needs,
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right? Well, son, you're in 7th grade
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now. So if you want a place to live,
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you're going to have to pay me $500 a month for that bedroom,
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right? And if you can't afford it, I
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guess you can go find a place in the woods to stay, right?
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No, you should provide a place for them to, to, to, to sleep.
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You should provide food and, and, and the basic necessities
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when it comes to clothes and those kind of things, OK.
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But when it comes to wants and desires, there are times when
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that restraint is good for us, right?
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OK, I'll, I'll buy you a pair of basketball shoes from Payless.
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But if you want a pair of of shoes that says Nike on it, I'm
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not paying $150.00 for those shoes.
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You go buy it if you want it, right?
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I remember growing up with those same thing.
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I had a pair of shoes. Kmart doesn't even exist
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anymore. Actually it does, it's in
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Australia. We saw Kmart in Australia, same
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logo and everything, but here in the US it doesn't exist anymore.
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When I was in 7th grade, when I got into 7th grade, my dad said,
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I'll give you a place to sleep and I'll put food on the table.
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You want anything else, you're paying for it.
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And then he paid me $2.00 an hour to go work for him.
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There's a lot of, you know what I learned how to do?
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I shopped at Goodwill. I took care of my stuff.
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I didn't, I didn't leave it laying all over the place.
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I, you know, no, no longer did I run around and slide on my knees
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and put holes in my pants. Of course, now you could sell it
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for a lot more if you did that, but that wasn't cool.
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Back then you had holes in your jeans.
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There was something wrong with you.
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Now it wasn't cool. You know, it'll RIP them up on
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purpose and sell them for twice as much.
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But I went to Kmart when I got into 7th grade.
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I went to Kmart because I needed a pair of shoes for basketball.
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Actually, this was ninth grade. We wrestled all the way up until
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9th grade, and then our school switched from wrestling to
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basketball and so we'd I'd never bought a pair of basketball
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shoes before. I went to Kmart and I found a
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pair of Warner Brothers basketball shoes.
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Never even heard of it before, and I've never seen them since.
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But they were on clearance at Kmart for $16 and I took such
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good care of those things that, you know, by the time I was in
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9th grade at my feet had grown to kind of the size that they
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were going to be. I think I grew a little bit
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after that. But I kept those things from 9th
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grade all the way until the end of my 11th grade basketball
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season. I had to buy a new pair when I
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got it into my senior year. I didn't wear them outside.
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I didn't wear them anywhere except on the basketball court.
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I took care of those things like they were a baby because I spent
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$16.00 on those basketball shoes and I was not going to spend
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more money on that than I needed to.
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It taught me responsibility because I was paying for it,
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right? I had to pay for those things.
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Now it's not just oh, well that broke, buy me another one,
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right? Most parents are like, oh, OK,
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well here here's some money, go buy another one, right?
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No, we'll, we'll provide for your needs, but your wants, you
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go pay for it, your desires, save up the money and go buy it,
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right. Teach your kids and we'll talk
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about this later. Teach them how to have a budget,
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right? You want to, you want to buy
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something, save up for it, put it in that envelope and and
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keep, keep saving up until you can actually afford to buy it.
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And, and here's what happens. They see something in a magazine
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or what not magazine, I don't know, wherever you see it.
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Oh, I really want that. All right, save up your money
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and go buy it. Guess what happens?
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They start saving up their money and eventually they're like,
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that's a lot of money. I don't think I need that
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anymore, right? That's what happens.
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You teach them that responsibility and it's teaching
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them that contentment at the same time.
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Turn over to Hebrews chapter 13. So you'll many you'll often be
Hebrews 13 chapter mention
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able to provide for your beyond your children's needs.
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But there should be a time when you just say no, as well as
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times you allow them to earn and save and understand the value of
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what they have, right? I I'm not.
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I mean I'm not. Dirt poor where I have nothing
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in a bank account, I could probably afford to buy my kids a
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pair of basketball shoes once every other year, right?
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But it's the it's the importance of teaching them the value of
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it's not a need, it's a one, right?
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You got to have Under Armour basketball shoes then guess
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what? Go find them on sale at the
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outlet, right? Alex just learned that lesson
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the other day. We were at the outlets and we
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found the they had the basketball shoes.
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We were, we were down in well, oh, and it was up in Lancaster
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when we went up there for the marriage conference.
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And so Saturday afternoon after everything was finished, we
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decided to swing by the outlets and just see we were looking for
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a couple different things. And we went into, we went into
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the Under Armour store and they had their basketball shoes on
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clearance for 30 bucks. So my wife called Alex.
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Alex, I know you got a pair of shoes for basketball season
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right now, but do you want to spend money to buy a pair of
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shoes right now that you can have for next year if we buy the
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bigger size and you're only spending 30 bucks, He said buy
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them, I'll get them $30.00, right?
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I mean, it's, it's teaching them the value of those things.
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And when you have to pay for your needs, I mean, sorry, your
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wants, then you're they're going to be they're going to be a lot
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more pay a lot more careful attention to those things.
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And so as you as a parent live below your means, you're going
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to model to your children the the essence of contentment.
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And you need to teach them that you don't need more stuff to be
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happy. You only need what God provides.
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All right, even more accurately, you only need God himself.
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Hebrews chapter 13 and verse 5. Let your conversation be without
Hebrews 13 chapter mention
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covetousness. What does conversation mean?
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Your lifestyle. Let your lifestyle be without
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covetousness and be content with such things as you have.
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For he has said I will never leave you.
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I will never leave thee nor forsake thee.
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You have God. That's enough, right?
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We talked about that a couple weeks ago and the message that I
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preached stay at the top of the righteous list.
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I've never seen the righteous forsaken nor seed begging bread
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and say I've never seen the righteous forsaken, nor not in a
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name brand pair of basketball shoes, right?
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It says your needs are going to be taken care of.
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And I'm here to provide those those for you because I'm your
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father. But how do we teach that
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contentment? How do we model contentment in
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the home? Well, first of all, by living
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below your means, but secondly, by providing for basic
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necessities. And we kind of touched on this
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already, but First Timothy chapter 6, the Bible says this
1 Timothy 6 chapter mention
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in verse #7 For we brought nothing into this world, and it
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is certain we can carry nothing out.
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And having food and raiment, let us be there with content.
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Turn over to Proverbs 23. What exactly do we need to be
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content according to this verse? We already kind of highlighted
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it a little bit. But the point here is not so
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much that we need only food and clothing as much as it is
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contrasting contentment with covetousness.
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Right. The goal of life and work is not
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to just amass things, but to be able to meet our family's needs
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and then to give to others. Proverbs chapter 23 and verse #4
Proverbs 23 chapter mention
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Labor not to be rich. Cease from thine own wisdom.
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Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not?
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For riches certainly make themselves wings.
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They fly away as an eagle toward heaven.
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One of the ways that you can help cultivate contentment in
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the heart of your children is by assuring them that you're going
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to provide for their basic necessities.
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First Timothy 5 and verse #8 But if any provide not for his for
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his own and especially for those of his own house hath denied the
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faith and is worse than an infidel.
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Well, unfortunately, children, we're we're learning
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contentment. So I'm just quitting my job and
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we're not going to have anything right.
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That's not what he's saying. Which means then you can work,
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you can, you can make money, you can provide for your house.
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And not only that you can, but you should.
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Your job as a parent, especially as a father, is to provide for
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your children's basic needs, right?
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First Timothy 5 says that very plainly.
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What are those basic needs? Well, let's turn over to
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Proverbs 31. Shelter, obviously, that's one
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of them. Your children need a roof over
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their heads, right? A place to sleep.
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It doesn't have to be a palace, but it should be a place to call
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home. We didn't, we didn't, we didn't
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grow up in a mansion. In fact, you know, the older you
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get, you go back there and you see it again and you're like,
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wow, that was that's way smaller than I remember it, right.
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It's the way it always goes, it seems like.
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But shelter, food. Consider what Proverbs 31 says
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about the virtuous woman, verse 16.
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She considereth a field and buyeth it with the fruit of her
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hands. She planted the vineyard.
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So you should provide for them shelter, food, clothing, OK,
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having, having name brand clothing is not a a need, right?
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But having clothing is you should provide for your kids
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when it comes to wearing clothes.
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Obviously education, your child's education is a necessity
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in the day that we live in. You know, think beyond high
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school and doing what you can to help them through college.
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But at the same time, look, my, my parents didn't spend a dime
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for my college. I had to work my way through.
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And you know what, by the time I graduated, the the day that I
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graduated, I paid the final amount that I owed on my bill.
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And I tell you one thing, I didn't, I didn't Slough off
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through college. I did not care what grades I
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got. I was paying for it.
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I certainly wasn't going to pay for a second time through that
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class, right? But I was in college with people
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whose parents were paying for it and they didn't care.
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They never studied. They laid around and slept all
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day and did nothing and then failed the class.
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And they're like, oh, well, I failed again.
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Well, my parents will pay for it, right?
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It's, you know, there ought to be some incentives and things
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like that's not the point tonight.
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But but I think the other thing that that would kind of be a
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basic need for our children is recreation.
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You can have family time very inexpensively, right?
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Use the use the opportunities for Christmas and birthdays and
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things like that to buy them things that they can use for
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recreation. And my kids got a pickleball set
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for Christmas and we went down to Florida with my parents over,
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over the Christmas, after Christmas.
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And we played pickleball a lot, right.
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I think the other thing is too, your kids don't need more stuff.
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I did this with my kids and I, they're, they're getting picked
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on tonight a lot. But I asked them, what did you,
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what did you get for Christmas last year?
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And they couldn't remember. I said, what did we do for
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Christmas last year? What was the gift that we bought
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you to do for Christmas? And they remembered everything,
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all about it last, I don't know, 3-4, five years.
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Instead of buying them stuff, we've been buying them.
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A trip or an experience doesn't have to be that expensive.
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Hey, last year we went and stayed at the Drury Hotel and
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went to the trampoline park. But they loved it and they
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remembered everything about it, right?
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The Drury Plaza right here has a pool that's inside and outside,
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and they have free popcorn 24 hours a day and free soda 24
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hours a day. They would rather have that than
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a $500 something, you know, because you can, you can eat all
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the popcorn you want. You can drink all the, the, the
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Mountain Dew you want anytime you want it, right?
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This one actually has dinner too, which is even a, a bigger
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bonus, right? We went down and ate dinner
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twice that night because they had hot dogs and everything
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else. And they went back down and got
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nachos and cheese and everything else later, right?
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It doesn't have to be anything crazy expensive, but it's, it's
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the things that are making memories and it's, it's, it's,
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you know, especially when your children are young, especially
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if you're enthusiastic about what you're doing.
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But it's a great idea to plan a family budget that has some
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extra savings in it to be able to do things with your family.
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Right? Doesn't cost, it doesn't cost
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anything to go out and hike in the woods.
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Right? Doesn't, doesn't cost anything
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to, to, to go out and and play tennis or go play a pickleball
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chord, other than the cost of some of the materials.
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And if you had to, you can probably borrow it from
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somebody, right? Investing in recreation as a
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family tells your children that family time is more important
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than anything else, right? And, and so many people think
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that family time is sitting around the TV watching a movie
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or something like that. That's, I mean, yes, you're,
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you're, you're together, but that's, that's really not family
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time, right? Go spend some time outside, get
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them away from all the consumerist mindset and all the
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all the things that are trying to tell your kids not to be
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content with what they have and just go out and do do some
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things together as a family. When it comes to providing for
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your family's needs. You have to remember that your
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children want you more than they want stuff.
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And they may not think of it that way right now.
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I mean, my parents are going to be there no matter what.
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Give me give me the thing that I want, right?
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I've got a whole list of all the things that I want.
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I'd rather have that. And you're going to be here
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anyway, right? But you look back and, and, and
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the thing, I'll be honest with you, I remember some of the
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gifts that my parents gave us growing up.
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We got a lot of books. We got a lot of things, you
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know, that were kind of necessities.
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They gave those things to us for gifts for Christmas and
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everything else. But you know what I remember the
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most when I was growing up and it and it, and it almost makes
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me a little bit emotional thinking about it because it,
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it's, it's one of those things. My dad owned his own business
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and he was so nice that he didn't charge anybody anything
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for it. So he didn't, he, he wasn't
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wealthy, but we had a soccer game, had soccer games and, and
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some of the things that have burned into my mind the most is
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seeing my dad walking up the track.
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The game's getting ready to start.
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I don't see my dad in the in the crowd, but there he comes.
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The game starts at 3:00. There he is at 3:00, walking
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over there and standing along the sideline watching the game,
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being there for the basketball games, being there at the
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wrestling tournaments, right? We go way in early in the
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morning and my dad can't be there because he's got to go to
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work and everything else. And I'm not expecting to be, He
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comes walking in the door, right that I remember that he was
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there for almost all of the, the sports events that we had.
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And, and that has burned into my mind far more than any of the
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things that they ever gave us. I, I couldn't, I mean, I could
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probably, if I sat here and thought about, I could tell you
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a few of the gifts that I got over all of those years.
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But I remember it like it was yesterday, seeing him walk into
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that gym, seeing him walk up up to the soccer field to watch us
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play the games. And man, we used to do stuff
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growing up. I mean the run across game, I'm
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just my brother. Remember we had a, we had a Tri
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level house and we, we had a, we had an upstairs that went into a
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downstairs living room kitchen and then it went down into the
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basement. And so the, there was two
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stories, but one of them was half buried because it was the
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basement, right? We, we played this game
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non-stop. It was a little soft that like
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stuffed soccer ball and at the top of the steps you had to run
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across and if and if he threw the ball and you got hit, you
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were out. And we played that game for
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hours. We used to love it.
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I mean, we had we had foosball and we played foosball every
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night for I don't know how many years.
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My mom's like, all right, everybody get up.
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It's time to clear the table. My dad was like foosball.
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We're like, yes, we went over there and played.
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So he was done playing. And then we had to clean
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everything up. We had a dartboard that was on
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the back of the door that led out to the garage.
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It was a wooden door and there was a giant hole with nothing in
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it. And then all the way around it,
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holes on that dart board, right? I'm sure it drove my mom crazy,
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but but we, we played darts just standing there next to the
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kitchen table throwing darts after dinner.
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I mean, those are the things we wrestled in the living room.
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My dad would get down on the floor with us and wrestle.
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I mean, all kinds of those things.
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We had, we had a football game that we played outside.
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Of course there was, there was enough for three football teams
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in our family. So it was, it was a lot of fun,
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but we played the interception game.
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It was somebody's turn to catch the ball and my dad would throw
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it and you had to get 10 first one to get ten wins, but you had
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to try to intercept it. If you intercepted, it was your
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turn. I think it was a game that he
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made-up, but we loved it and we still do it.
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We do it. We play it now.
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I mean all of those things are things that that I remember
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because we most of those things didn't cost anything, right?
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I mean, how much is a dart board?
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It wasn't very much, right. How much does it cost for a
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foosball table? We got it.
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We got it used somewhere. How much does it cost for a
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little nerf ball that you're throwing up against the wall?
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But those are the things that that that I remember and those
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are the things that mattered, right?
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And, and, and honestly, I would say that those things are
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necessities, right? Your kids need those things far
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more than they need you to go buy them a brand new car and let
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them squeal the tires and get tickets, all right?
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They need those things. They need food, they need
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clothing, they need shelter, but they need you to be there for
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them. And that those are the things
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they're going to teach them that contentment.
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We're out of time, so I'm going to stop there.
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I didn't even get to the second point tonight, but if they're
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going to learn contentment, they need to understand the
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importance of working for something rather than just
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having it simply given to them, right?
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The easiest thing for you to do is to just give it to your kids,
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right? Because you want to you, you
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want to give to your kids. You love them and you and you
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care for them and you want to take care of them.
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I guess you're done listening. I shouldn't have said I'm done
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because I'm really not, but I'm, I'm close.
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I'm close. But The thing is, you want your
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kids to have more than what you had, right?
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I think that's a desire for all of us.
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I want to give my kids more. I want to do better for them
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than, than what I had growing up because we we missed out.
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I mean, we didn't have the name brand stuff, right?
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We didn't have everything given to us.
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But I look back and I realized, you know what, that was one of
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the best things for me, me having to go find work in 7th
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grade. You know what happened?
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My dad paid me $2.00 an hour to work with him.
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We went to a we, we put it, he did invisible fence.
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It's, it's bearing the line for the dogs, you know, and that dog
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wears the collar and everything else.
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That's what he did and he owned his own business doing.
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They paid me $2.00 an hour to help him.
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It was like pulling teeth to try to get my $2.00 an hour from
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him. But I mean, once a summer we got
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paid, you know, and he's like, you know, I said, Dad, I got, I
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got 300 hours that I worked for with you this summer, 300 hours.
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No, I was like all day, every day for the entire summer, you
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know, I mean, it's, that is $2.00 an hour, you know.
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But all that to say that I, I was working at somebody's house
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and they were like, hey, do you know of anybody that could do
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landscaping? I was like, yeah, me, we'll pay
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you $8 an hour. I was like $8 an hour.
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When do you want me to start? I started doing landscaping for
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them and they told somebody else and they told somebody else.
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The next thing you know, I was doing all this landscaping and,
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and my dad was like, Hey, I'm paying you $2 an hour.
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How come, you know, I said, I'm making $8 an hour over here,
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right? But I learned how to do it
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right. And, and, and I learned how to
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work. That's what it, that's what it
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taught me. If I just got to sit at home and
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play video games all day every day, guess what I would not be
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doing. Why should I work?
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I don't have any motivation to do it.
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All right, So I know you want to give, give, give, give, give to
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your kids, but many times the best thing is to say no.
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If you want that, go work for it, right?
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You don't have to go get a job, you know, working 9:00 to 5:00
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to be able to pay for some of the things you want.
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Go out and you know, you know what we did during the winter,
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man, we loved it when it snowed. We'd go out and shovel driveways
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for 20 bucks a driveway and everybody is like take my money,
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right? Cost.
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It took took us an hour, 20 dollars, $20 was pretty good for
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an hour back back in the 90s, right or the early to the well,
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yeah, it was the nineties, $20.00 for a driveway was pretty
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good, especially if you if you had two guys and you're just
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going from house to house with a couple of shovels.
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I mean, that was we were entrepreneurs because my parents
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didn't just give me everything. If I wanted it, I had to work
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for it. And they were teaching me
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contentment. They never sat down and said I'm
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going to teach you contentment. So if you want to learn how to
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be content, then you got to go do this.
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But they taught, they modeled that, right?
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My parents probably could have, could have lived very well.
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I don't know what kind of money they made, but I know how many,
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how much a job cost and I know how many fences they put in and
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I know how much course they had 10 kids.
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So they probably all went pretty quick, but at the same time,
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they could have lived really, really well if they wanted to.
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They lived below their means. They were modeling contentment
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to us. And I learned how to be content
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with way less than probably I could have had, right.
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My dad didn't buy my first car for me.
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I bought it was a 1991 Ford Crown Victoria.
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I paid $500 in a case of Mountain Dew for that thing.
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I had a friend of mine who knew there was a used car dealership
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and he was like, hey, 500 bucks and I was like, man 5, he can't
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come down any lower. He said, I'll, I'll talk to him
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for you. He comes back and he said I told
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him you'd throw in a case of Mountain Dew and he, he had
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agreed to it. I was like, all right, paid $500
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in a case of Mountain Dew for my first car, Man, I took care of
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that thing, right? I, I, it had a 5 point O is AV8
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had a 5 point O. And it was like one of those old
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police cars. I could squeal the tires in
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there, but I didn't because I knew I was going to have to pay
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for them if I squealed the tires in those things.
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Did it once just to see if I could, but I took care of it,
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right? And, and my parents modeled that
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contentment. They taught me what contentment
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was by not just giving me everything right.
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And, and so that, that's the point that we're going to spend
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the most time on. It's it's the importance of it
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is that we have to model contentment in the home, right?
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You might be able to afford more than what you have, but it's
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good, right? You don't need it just because
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you want it. You don't need it just because
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you can have it. Sometimes it's good to tell
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yourself no. All right, I want that piece of
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cake. No, it's good to tell yourself
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no, right? I want to go buy that.
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Man, look at that. Oh, could you imagine if I had
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that? You know what?
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I know I could afford it, but no, I'm content with what I
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have. I don't have to have that,
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right? Let's, let's give it to missions
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or let's give it to whatever, right?
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There's a lot of things that we can do it.
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We'll talk some more about that. But the important thing tonight
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for us to understand is that if we want our kids to grow up and
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be content, if we want our kids to grow up and not then not be
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so consumed with things, then we can't, we have to be content and
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we cannot be consumed with things.
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How do you think you're going to pass that on to your kids if
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that's the only mindset that you have?
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This is not just, this is not just some abstract that we find
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this all the way throughout the Bible, right?
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Be content, be content. What do you think Be content
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means I've got enough. I don't need more.
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And we should be modeling that for our kids if we expect them
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to grow up and be content the way the Bible commands them to
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do as well. The love of money is the root of
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all evil, which while some coveted after, they have erred
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from the faith and pierced themselves through with many
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sorrows. You got what you wanted, but you
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lost what you had. I'd rather have what I have than
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get what I want sometimes. Let's pray.
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Father, again, we thank you so much for Your goodness to us.
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I thank You for the opportunity to dig into God's word about
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this idea of contentment. God, may we, may we be content
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in our own lives. May we model that and teach that
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to our kids as well. And may they grow up with the
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mindset of doing everything they can, not to hoard and to be
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wealthy, to have all the money that they want to at their
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disposal, but that we'd be able to teach them to give and we'd
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be able to teach them to. Serve you with the money that
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you allow them to have, that you allow us to have God.
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May we use that money for your service and may you use us in a
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great way because of it. We thank you again for all that
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you do for us in Jesus name, Amen.