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2 Corinthians 7:2-16 - Genuine Repentance

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  1. Hi guys, I'm going to do the reading now.

  2. Alright.

  3. This reading is taken from 2 Corinthians 7, verse 2-16.

    2 Corinthians 7:2–16

  4. I have said before that you have such a place in our hearts, that we would live or die with you.

  5. I have spoken to you with great frankness. I take great pride in you.

  6. I am greatly encouraged in all our troubles. My joy knows no bounds.

  7. For when we came into Macedonia, we had no rest, but we were harassed at every turn.

  8. Conflicts on the outside, fears within.

  9. But God, who comforts the downcast, comforted us by the coming of Titus.

  10. And not only by his coming, but also by the comfort you had given him.

  11. He told us about your longing for me, your deep sorrow, your ardent concern for me,

  12. so that my joy was greater than ever.

  13. Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it.

  14. Though I did regret it, I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while.

  15. Yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance.

  16. For you became sorrowful as God intended, and so were not harmed in any way by us.

  17. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret,

  18. but worldly sorrow brings death.

  19. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you.

  20. What earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern,

  21. what readiness to see justice done.

  22. At every point, you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.

  23. So even though I wrote to you, it was neither on account of the one who did the wrong,

  24. nor on account of the injured party,

  25. but rather that before God you could see for yourselves how devoted to us you are.

  26. By all this, we are encouraged.

  27. In addition to our own encouragement, we are especially delighted to see how happy Titus was,

  28. because his spirit has also been refreshed by all of you.

  29. I had boasted to him about you, and you have not embarrassed me.

  30. But just as everything we said to you was true,

  31. so our boasting about you to Titus has proved to be true as well.

  32. And his affection for you is all the greater when he remembers that you were all obedient,

  33. receiving him with fear and trembling.

  34. I am glad that I can have complete confidence in you.

  35. This is the word of the Lord.

  36. Great. Thank you, Jamal.

  37. Let's pray as we come to God's word. Let's pray.

  38. Gracious God, we want to just pause and ask now for your help as we look at your words.

  39. We're hungry. We want you to feed us.

  40. We're thirsty. We want to drink of the truth of your word.

  41. We're empty. We want you to fill us.

  42. We know our neediness, and we want you to meet our needs.

  43. And so we pray now that as we look at your word together,

  44. that you would guard our hearts, speak to us, we pray.

  45. Help us, we ask in Jesus' name.

  46. Amen. Amen.

  47. I think it's true that anything that is good or desirable can be faked, right?

  48. If something is good and you want it, it can be faked.

  49. So if you go to Shepherd's Bush Market, you could get yourself a fake Rolex.

  50. You could probably get yourself a pair of fake Nike trainers or fake perfume.

  51. Sometimes it's true that even things don't try that hard to be fake, do they?

  52. So if you shop at Aldi, like we do, you can get wheat biscuits instead of Weetabix, right?

  53. It's not even trying that hard to cover the fact that it is a fake,

  54. or wheat shreds are shredded wheat.

  55. Even now we're in a world where the fake phones you up on your mobile phone, yeah?

  56. So my phone rings and I am offered a brilliant new contract.

  57. Whatever you're paying, sir, we will halve it.

  58. Oh, I'm only paying five pounds a month.

  59. Two pounds fifty and you'll get a brand new iPhone.

  60. It's a fake, isn't it?

  61. Anything good and desirable can be faked.

  62. And what I hope we've seen over the last few weeks as we've been thinking about repentance

  63. and jumping around the Bible a little bit for that series,

  64. is that you can see that of all the spiritual goods, repentance is good and desirable.

  65. Repentance is right there at the top of the list.

  66. Repentance, we saw, didn't we, Peter says,

  67. opens the door for times of refreshing for the Lord's people.

  68. In Psalm 32, repentance brings joy and wholeness.

  69. If you read your Bible, you will notice that repentance is good and desirable.

  70. It is brilliant.

  71. But, like a Louis Vuitton handbag or a Rolex watch,

  72. because it is so good, it is also often faked.

  73. Faked.

  74. Not everything that calls itself repentance is repentance.

  75. And that, you'll notice, is the idea in our passage this morning.

  76. You'll notice, if you've still got it open and if you've not, get back to it,

  77. that Paul talks about sorrow for sin, but he distinguishes between two kinds of sorrow,

  78. a worldly sorrow and a godly sorrow.

  79. And while both might look the same for a moment,

  80. one godly sorrow leads to a genuine repentance,

  81. and the other, worldly sorrow, is a fake, and it leads to death.

  82. And our sermon this morning, as we finish this mini-series in repentance,

  83. we're going to think about how repentance is not just being sad at things going wrong

  84. or at the things that you have done wrong.

  85. I want to suggest to you that everybody feels sad for the things that they've done wrong.

  86. Everybody feels sad for the things they've done wrong.

  87. It is just a common human experience.

  88. We have a moral conscience.

  89. We feel a sense of sadness when we do things wrong.

  90. Some people are more sensitive than others, right?

  91. So some people feel particularly sensitive about things that they have done wrong,

  92. and other people, it seems to take something wilder for them to feel guilty.

  93. But we are all sad.

  94. So if I asked you this morning, you know,

  95. do you feel sad for getting angry or lashing out or lying or cheating?

  96. Do you feel sad that you didn't listen to that good advice,

  97. that you pretended to be better than you really were?

  98. Are you sad at the relational breakdown and the hurt and the mess?

  99. We all are, aren't we?

  100. That is a common universal human experience.

  101. But being sad does not mean we've repented.

  102. Because the question to us,

  103. the question our passage is going to ask us this morning is,

  104. that sadness that you feel,

  105. is it godly sadness or is it worldly sadness?

  106. Which is it?

  107. Is it the real deal from God which leads to genuine repentance and life?

  108. Or is it a fake sadness that leads to death?

  109. Because it's possible even for a Christian to be sad and yet unrepentant.

  110. It's possible, isn't it,

  111. that what we think is repentance is really just a knockoff of the real thing.

  112. Now to see that, we're landing in the middle of this letter

  113. and we're going to have to do a bit of work to kind of understand it.

  114. We're jumping into the middle of something

  115. and that's not always the easiest thing to do

  116. when we want to understand a part of the Bible.

  117. So let me try and explain to you briefly what's going on here in 2 Corinthians

  118. and stay with me if you can

  119. and then we'll come back to some big ideas about repentance.

  120. Okay, what you need to know

  121. is that in Acts 18,

  122. Paul visited Corinth and started the church.

  123. Paul stayed in Corinth then for about 18 months,

  124. establishing the church, teaching the new Christians

  125. and then he moved on.

  126. After moving on,

  127. Paul and the Corinthian church exchanged letters several times.

  128. Now, two of those letters are in our Bibles

  129. as 1 and 2 Corinthians,

  130. the other letters we don't have.

  131. And what's important for us this morning

  132. is to notice that between writing 1 Corinthians and 2 Corinthians,

  133. Paul visits the church in Corinth again.

  134. But he's not there for very long.

  135. He only visits for a short time

  136. because while he is there,

  137. somebody in the church opposes him

  138. and his apostolic authority.

  139. So we don't actually know exactly what they did,

  140. but in some manner they oppose him and his authority.

  141. It was really bad.

  142. And the badness of what he did is magnified

  143. not just because it was one person who opposed him,

  144. but because the Corinthian church as a whole

  145. were largely ambivalent towards it.

  146. And so they just stood by and let it happen.

  147. And so Paul was undefended

  148. against this man's accusations and his rebellion.

  149. So Paul left.

  150. He was only there briefly.

  151. And having left,

  152. he then wrote to them another letter

  153. confronting the way that he'd been treated.

  154. We don't have that letter.

  155. It's not in our Bibles.

  156. It's been lost in history.

  157. But it's mentioned in 2 Corinthians several times.

  158. So in 2 Corinthians 2 verse 4,

    2 Corinthians 2:4

  159. Paul says that he wrote out of much affliction

  160. and anguish of heart, he says.

  161. In other words, Paul was chewed up

  162. about the way he'd been treated

  163. and the seeming ambivalence

  164. of the church in Corinth towards him.

  165. And so he poured over that in his letter

  166. and spilt that out,

  167. explaining in his letter why he was so grieved.

  168. And so it's no surprise that in our passage this morning,

  169. you hear that that letter that they received

  170. made them sorrowful.

  171. They did not like reading this letter from Paul.

  172. In fact, 2 Corinthians 10,

  173. it seems to suggest to you that some people

  174. even accuse Paul of being bold in his letters

  175. but weak face to face.

  176. He writes stern letters,

  177. but when you see him, he's nothing.

  178. Now, having written this letter

  179. calling out their behavior,

  180. Paul is, as you might imagine,

  181. anxious to know how they're doing.

  182. How are they going to respond?

  183. Are they going to change their minds?

  184. Are they going to repent and move towards me again?

  185. So he waits for a guy called Titus,

  186. who is the guy who took his difficult letter

  187. to the church in Corinth.

  188. He waits for him to return

  189. with news of their reaction.

  190. And this waiting is really difficult for Paul.

  191. He's anxious to know how they've responded.

  192. In chapter 2, Paul describes being in Troas

  193. whilst he's waiting for Titus to come back

  194. and says that he's so distracted

  195. by this concern for the Corinthian church

  196. that he was unable,

  197. even though the door was open to ministry,

  198. he was unable to do anything

  199. because he was just so overwhelmed

  200. by his concern for what the Corinthian church

  201. were thinking of him.

  202. But now, in chapter 7,

  203. you find that Titus has returned

  204. and brought good news.

  205. The Corinthian church were sad

  206. at how they'd wronged Paul.

  207. Paul expected that much,

  208. but the good news is that their sorrow

  209. was not worldly sorrow,

  210. but godly sorrow.

  211. And it led them to repentance.

  212. Paul's opponent is temporarily put out

  213. of fellowship with the church,

  214. the record is corrected,

  215. and the relationship is restored.

  216. And that's what we are jumping into the middle of

  217. in chapter 7 here.

  218. And so if you can keep that kind of situation in mind,

  219. let me show you three things

  220. about genuine repentance from 2 Corinthians 7.

  221. Let me show you firstly

  222. the importance of genuine repentance.

  223. I hope you see here

  224. that Paul is really clear, isn't he,

  225. that without genuine repentance,

  226. there is no restoration of relationship.

  227. Paul's anxiety,

  228. I'm not sure whether anxiety is the right word

  229. because that implies that there's a wrongness to it,

  230. but it's not anxiety in that sense.

  231. There's an eagerness from Paul for news.

  232. His inability to concentrate in troas

  233. comes from the relational breakdown

  234. with the Corinthian church,

  235. a relationship that cannot be restored

  236. unless the Corinthian church

  237. are willing to deal with their sin

  238. through genuine repentance.

  239. Of course, we know this, don't we,

  240. from our own experience.

  241. If someone is not genuinely sorry

  242. for what they have done,

  243. for how they've mistreated you,

  244. for what they've said,

  245. or how they've behaved,

  246. you cannot be truly reconciled, can you?

  247. It doesn't matter how willing you are

  248. to be forgiven,

  249. the absence of reconciliation

  250. is there if there's no genuine sorry.

  251. And that lack of reconciliation

  252. is a terrible burden to carry.

  253. But what I want you to notice,

  254. which I think is the surprise of the passage,

  255. is not that it's just a burden for Paul.

  256. You might kind of expect that.

  257. What I want you to see

  258. is that a lack of repentance

  259. would have been a great burden

  260. for the Corinthian church.

  261. Look down at verse 10.

  262. I'm going to read verse 10

  263. a number of times through this sermon

  264. because verse 10 is really the point.

  265. So if you get verse 10 in your minds

  266. and that's what you go away remembering,

  267. you've understood.

  268. Godly sorrow brings repentance

  269. that leads to salvation

  270. and leaves no regret.

  271. But worldly sorrow brings death.

  272. Do you see this?

  273. Worldly sadness, worldly sorrow,

  274. sadness that it just happened,

  275. sadness at sin brings death,

  276. death, while godly sorrow

  277. brings repentance and salvation.

  278. Now, both sorrows, as we mentioned,

  279. might look the same at the start.

  280. I'm sure there's lots of tears

  281. from both kinds of people.

  282. But the truth is that they both

  283. come from different places

  284. and lead to different places,

  285. different destinations.

  286. And what I want you to notice

  287. is that Paul is writing to a church here.

  288. The salvation and death

  289. that he is talking about in chapter 7

  290. are not necessarily the categories

  291. of heaven and hell.

  292. They could be, couldn't they?

  293. Right?

  294. So it is true.

  295. It is the gospel, isn't it?

  296. That if you individually

  297. are only sad at your sin

  298. and do not repent and turn to Christ,

  299. you will not be saved.

  300. You will die in your sin

  301. and for your sin,

  302. not just physically in death,

  303. but spiritually dead,

  304. separated from the mercy of God

  305. who made you for all eternity.

  306. But if you are genuinely godly sorry

  307. for your sin,

  308. then with godly sorry,

  309. you will repent and you'll be saved.

  310. That's what we've been thinking about

  311. for the last few weeks.

  312. That's not what he's talking about

  313. here in chapter 7.

  314. This is talking about

  315. the Christian's repentance.

  316. How Christians should repent.

  317. Repentance is how the Christian life starts,

  318. but it's also how it goes on.

  319. And so for Christians,

  320. to people Paul calls saints,

  321. called, adopted, and rescued,

  322. he says to them, doesn't he,

  323. ongoing godly sorrow and repentance

  324. is important to you.

  325. Because there is,

  326. even for the Christian,

  327. a kind of death

  328. and a kind of health or salvation.

  329. There is a rottenness

  330. in the Christian life

  331. that comes from persistent unrepentance.

  332. and there is a health

  333. and a life

  334. that comes to the Christian

  335. through genuine repentance.

  336. On our willingness

  337. to genuinely turn

  338. from our ongoing battle with sin.

  339. I don't know what you're thinking.

  340. There is,

  341. there's perhaps a chance

  342. that through this series

  343. on repentance,

  344. you've been thinking,

  345. well, you know,

  346. this is all very well, Steve.

  347. Yeah, all this talk about repentance.

  348. I know that's important

  349. for people who don't come

  350. to church very much.

  351. You're probably not Christians.

  352. I've been a Christian for years.

  353. Will you please say something

  354. that's relevant to me?

  355. I repented of my sin long ago.

  356. Please tell me something

  357. that will help me

  358. with the battle

  359. for Christian maturity.

  360. I want to learn

  361. the deep truths

  362. of the Christian faith.

  363. I want to know

  364. how to live as a Christian

  365. in the complicated situation

  366. that I find myself in now.

  367. Well, listen,

  368. if that's you,

  369. here is the deep truth

  370. that leads to maturity.

  371. Here's the deep truth

  372. that will help you

  373. live a Christian life

  374. in the complex world

  375. that you're in.

  376. Here it is, right?

  377. You ready?

  378. Repent.

  379. Turn back to the Lord.

  380. That's it.

  381. Repent and believe.

  382. Repent and believe.

  383. That's maturity.

  384. And it's maturity

  385. not just for us

  386. as individuals,

  387. it's maturity for us

  388. as a church,

  389. corporately as well,

  390. dealing with our sins

  391. and our failings

  392. by taking them to the Lord,

  393. yet full of sorrow,

  394. but joyfully receiving salvation.

  395. So that as a church,

  396. we don't rot

  397. from the inside out

  398. with a kind of death

  399. of worldly sorrow

  400. that doesn't lead

  401. to repentance.

  402. A friend of mine

  403. works in cancer research.

  404. He's a professor.

  405. He's one of those

  406. really bright people, right?

  407. So it's very gracious

  408. of him to be my friend.

  409. But anyway,

  410. he works in something,

  411. it's not chemotherapy,

  412. but it's more training

  413. your own body

  414. to defeat cancer cells.

  415. He does explain it to me,

  416. I don't understand it, right?

  417. He's had quite a lot of success,

  418. he's been on the television

  419. with it and that kind of thing.

  420. It's not quite there yet.

  421. But I want you to imagine

  422. that it works, okay?

  423. And he has in this treatment

  424. an infallible cure for cancer.

  425. And imagine then

  426. that you receive a diagnosis,

  427. a terminal diagnosis

  428. for cancer.

  429. There's no hope,

  430. the cancer will kill you.

  431. And so you come to my friend

  432. and he offers you

  433. the wonder drug, right?

  434. And you take it.

  435. Cancer is defeated,

  436. there's great joy,

  437. you were dead,

  438. you're now alive.

  439. Imagine though,

  440. that as you go on,

  441. you discover

  442. that the cancer

  443. is still there

  444. and it's coming back

  445. a little bit.

  446. You see the marks

  447. on your skin

  448. and the lumps in your body.

  449. What do you do?

  450. I guarantee

  451. that you don't say,

  452. do you know what?

  453. Well, I took the cure

  454. about 10 years ago

  455. so I'm not going to bother

  456. with it anymore.

  457. I'm not really interested anymore.

  458. Of course you wouldn't.

  459. Would you go back?

  460. Give me some more of that.

  461. I need more of that.

  462. I thought then

  463. that's what I need

  464. but I realize now

  465. I need more of it.

  466. Please, give me some more.

  467. And that's what's going on here.

  468. Sin, wickedness and rebellion

  469. is the disease

  470. of the human race.

  471. We all have it.

  472. It will kill us.

  473. It will eternally kill us.

  474. Christ is the solution.

  475. God the Father

  476. in his love and mercy

  477. sent his son

  478. to die in our place

  479. so that we can be forgiven

  480. and shown mercy

  481. and restored as human beings.

  482. Great joy

  483. that you don't receive him

  484. just once.

  485. You need to keep

  486. coming back to him

  487. and receiving him

  488. because we're not perfect yet.

  489. And so when we sin

  490. what do we do?

  491. We return to the cross.

  492. We own our sin

  493. and with godly sorrow

  494. we repent

  495. so that that joy

  496. is ours again.

  497. And here's the thing.

  498. It's as we are humbled

  499. by this process

  500. of realizing our ongoing sin

  501. and turning to God

  502. we become less

  503. and he becomes more.

  504. We are humbled

  505. and he is glorified.

  506. And God in his wisdom

  507. thinks

  508. that you as a Christian

  509. this morning

  510. are best perfected

  511. through a lifetime

  512. of being humbled

  513. and him being glorified.

  514. That's what he thinks.

  515. And so for us as a church

  516. we are to be a community

  517. of repentance.

  518. Why?

  519. Well because the alternative

  520. is to be a community

  521. of death

  522. where sin is just kind of

  523. brushed under the carpet

  524. and not dealt with

  525. and rots away

  526. our life together.

  527. That's the importance

  528. of repentance, right?

  529. The importance of repentance.

  530. Let's think about

  531. the source

  532. of genuine repentance.

  533. Come back to verse 10.

  534. Godly sorrow

  535. brings repentance

  536. that leaves the salvation

  537. and leaves no regret

  538. but worldly sorrow

  539. brings death.

  540. Now notice with me

  541. that godly sorrow

  542. brings repentance.

  543. It's similar.

  544. Verse 11 if you look at it.

  545. See what godly sorrow

  546. has produced in you.

  547. Verse 9 carries a similar idea.

  548. It says that they became

  549. sorrowful as God intended.

  550. Now we're going to think

  551. in a moment about the marks

  552. of genuine repentance

  553. but let's just think

  554. more specifically

  555. about what this godly sorrow

  556. actually is.

  557. What does it mean

  558. to be godly sorrowful

  559. for our sin?

  560. Paul in writing his letter

  561. to the church in Corinth

  562. calling out not just

  563. the man who opposed him

  564. but the whole church

  565. who just stood by

  566. and watched.

  567. He knew that that letter

  568. would make them sad.

  569. That was a given.

  570. No one likes to have

  571. that conversation.

  572. But his hope and prayer

  573. was that God

  574. would be at work in it.

  575. That God would use

  576. his letter to convict

  577. them of their sin.

  578. That God would show them

  579. what they've done wrong

  580. so that they might repent

  581. and make things right.

  582. Now listen let me show you

  583. two things here.

  584. His first assumption

  585. is that godly sorrow

  586. is essentially

  587. it's a work of the spirit.

  588. You can be sad

  589. at your sin

  590. in your own strength

  591. but godly sorrow

  592. requires a work

  593. of the spirit.

  594. And so Paul's hope

  595. was not so much

  596. in the church

  597. but his hope

  598. was in God

  599. as he wrote.

  600. Paul's hope

  601. was that God

  602. would use his letter

  603. to bring about

  604. what only God

  605. is able to do

  606. which is a godly sorrow

  607. that leads to repentance.

  608. That's the first thing

  609. it's a work of the spirit.

  610. The second thing

  611. to notice

  612. is that you cannot

  613. then mature

  614. as a Christian

  615. without an ongoing

  616. Holy Spirit

  617. awareness

  618. of your sin.

  619. We're going to do this

  620. a number of times

  621. this morning right?

  622. So we're distinguishing

  623. between becoming

  624. a Christian

  625. for the first time

  626. and our ongoing

  627. growth as a Christian.

  628. So when you become

  629. a Christian

  630. for the first time

  631. God by his spirit

  632. opens your eyes

  633. to see your sin

  634. and your need of Christ

  635. and you run to him

  636. and flee to him.

  637. And the process

  638. of growing

  639. and going on

  640. as a Christian

  641. is that you become

  642. increasingly aware

  643. of your sinfulness

  644. and run to Christ

  645. for salvation.

  646. And so you might hope

  647. might you

  648. that the Christian life

  649. might be different

  650. to this.

  651. You might hope

  652. that the Christian life

  653. was growing

  654. in a sense

  655. of awesomeness.

  656. Right?

  657. That might have been

  658. your preferred

  659. version of the Christian life

  660. that day by day

  661. you'd wake up

  662. and think

  663. I am more brilliant

  664. than I thought

  665. I was yesterday.

  666. That is not

  667. the Christian life.

  668. It turns out

  669. that in God's wisdom

  670. the road to maturity

  671. is marked by sorrow

  672. at our ongoing sin.

  673. We need to be careful.

  674. Right?

  675. Godly sorrow

  676. is not hopelessness.

  677. It is possible

  678. to overdo this

  679. isn't it?

  680. It is possible

  681. to beat ourselves up

  682. as if sadness

  683. for sin

  684. atones for sin.

  685. Christians behave

  686. like that sometimes

  687. don't they?

  688. Christian churches

  689. can be like that.

  690. You know

  691. Christian churches

  692. love to make

  693. their congregations

  694. feel perpetually guilty

  695. because you can make

  696. them do whatever

  697. you want

  698. if you can make

  699. them feel guilty.

  700. But that's not it here.

  701. Rather the point

  702. is that you cannot

  703. grow in your love

  704. for Jesus

  705. without at the same time

  706. also growing

  707. in your knowledge

  708. of your need

  709. for Jesus.

  710. and so

  711. as you see

  712. your sin

  713. you delight

  714. that Jesus

  715. is the solution

  716. and God

  717. by the spirit

  718. makes you love

  719. Christ

  720. and hate sin

  721. and be sorrowful

  722. at it.

  723. I think this is

  724. the nub of this

  725. for us this morning

  726. that the Lord

  727. does this work

  728. matures you

  729. and me as Christians

  730. by

  731. this is in part

  732. by showing us

  733. our sin

  734. and our ugliness

  735. and showing us

  736. Christ.

  737. perhaps a

  738. wounded friend

  739. tells you a difficult

  740. truth that you

  741. didn't want to hear

  742. and so you realise

  743. just a little bit more

  744. that you are more

  745. sinful than you

  746. perhaps thought.

  747. Now of course

  748. that means doesn't it

  749. that if you pray

  750. to grow as a Christian

  751. what you are praying

  752. in part at least

  753. is that you would

  754. be grieved at your sin

  755. that you might keep

  756. turning to Christ

  757. the doctor

  758. for our sin.

  759. Let me try and be

  760. a bit more concrete

  761. about this.

  762. How does this work?

  763. Let me give you a couple

  764. of personal examples.

  765. It was pointed out

  766. to me a couple

  767. of weeks ago

  768. I was in a phone

  769. conversation with

  770. a church member

  771. and they said to me

  772. listen you were

  773. dismissive and defensive

  774. over the concerns

  775. that I raised with you.

  776. It wasn't particularly

  777. easy to hear

  778. and actually

  779. ironically

  780. my instinctive reaction

  781. was to be dismissive

  782. and defensive

  783. of the person

  784. on the phone.

  785. That was what was

  786. going on in my heart.

  787. But I realised

  788. they were right.

  789. They were right.

  790. I was sad.

  791. Oh Steve

  792. why did you do that?

  793. Why did you speak

  794. like that?

  795. And I had to say

  796. to them

  797. listen I'm really sorry.

  798. Shouldn't have done that.

  799. It was me.

  800. I was defensive.

  801. I was dismissive

  802. of your concerns

  803. and I shouldn't have been.

  804. I was reading

  805. this week

  806. that this blew my mind.

  807. I was reading this week

  808. that God doesn't

  809. love efficiency.

  810. Right?

  811. See

  812. I love efficiency.

  813. I think that the best

  814. way to do anything

  815. is the fastest way

  816. to do anything.

  817. But have you thought

  818. about the fact

  819. that God doesn't

  820. love that?

  821. God could have

  822. created this world

  823. in an instant

  824. like that

  825. but he didn't.

  826. He took time.

  827. There was a process.

  828. God could make

  829. you and me

  830. perfect in an instant.

  831. Take us straight

  832. to glory

  833. the moment we come

  834. to faith.

  835. We might wish he did

  836. but he has a process

  837. that takes time.

  838. And so I've realised

  839. this this week

  840. thinking oh

  841. your love of efficiency

  842. Steve

  843. might actually

  844. at times be sinful.

  845. You need to be sorry

  846. for that

  847. and repent of that.

  848. See God is very patient

  849. isn't he?

  850. Isn't he?

  851. He's not in a rush.

  852. And so in our

  853. Christian maturity

  854. this is how it goes

  855. isn't it?

  856. We see our sin

  857. we have sorrow

  858. for our sin

  859. we say sorry

  860. for our sin

  861. and we receive

  862. salvation for our sin.

  863. So let me ask you

  864. if you're a Christian

  865. this morning

  866. let me ask you

  867. where is God

  868. grieving you

  869. at the moment?

  870. What is it

  871. that the Holy Spirit

  872. has his finger on

  873. in your life?

  874. It's painful

  875. you know it

  876. don't you?

  877. It's probably

  878. very sad

  879. but let me encourage

  880. you not to resist

  881. his work

  882. his grief

  883. is not his final goal

  884. salvation

  885. is his goal

  886. but he takes you

  887. through grief

  888. that you might be

  889. godly sorrowful

  890. at your sin

  891. that you might

  892. repent

  893. and receive salvation.

  894. That's the source

  895. of genuine repentance

  896. godly sorrow

  897. finally then

  898. let's think about

  899. the marks

  900. of genuine repentance

  901. if you look again

  902. at verse 11

  903. you'll notice

  904. that instead of

  905. repeating

  906. godly sorrow

  907. produces repentance

  908. he swaps out

  909. the word repentance

  910. for a list

  911. of different

  912. characteristics

  913. so look down

  914. at verse 11

  915. see what this

  916. godly sorrow

  917. has produced in you

  918. you expect the word

  919. repentance

  920. but instead

  921. you get a list

  922. of seven

  923. different characteristics

  924. take a look at them

  925. earnestness

  926. that is a

  927. seriousness

  928. to not stop

  929. until the right

  930. thing is being done

  931. it's a recognition

  932. that this business

  933. is important business

  934. eagerness to clear

  935. yourself

  936. not as in a right

  937. to sort of argue

  938. that it wasn't really

  939. you who did it

  940. but to put right

  941. what was wrong

  942. to straighten things out

  943. indignation

  944. crossness

  945. I think here

  946. in the context

  947. that the offense

  948. to Paul

  949. anger at its wickedness

  950. this was wrong

  951. this shouldn't have happened

  952. Paul should not

  953. have been treated

  954. like that

  955. alarm

  956. wow

  957. I can't believe

  958. that Paul was treated

  959. like that

  960. this is shocking

  961. it's almost as if

  962. they've woken up

  963. to what they did

  964. longing

  965. again in the context

  966. it's longing

  967. for relational

  968. reconciliation

  969. with Paul

  970. who left

  971. so quickly

  972. concern

  973. again a concern

  974. for Paul

  975. readiness

  976. to see justice

  977. done

  978. again a desire

  979. to put things

  980. right

  981. to hold

  982. Paul's opponent

  983. to account

  984. and so Paul

  985. concludes

  986. that

  987. they have

  988. proved

  989. themselves

  990. innocent

  991. in this matter

  992. not because

  993. they proved

  994. that they didn't

  995. actually do it

  996. not at all

  997. rather that

  998. they have dealt

  999. with their guilt

  1000. in the right way

  1001. their repentance

  1002. is visible

  1003. and real

  1004. and so they are

  1005. therefore innocent

  1006. now in a way

  1007. those marks

  1008. are context specific

  1009. aren't they

  1010. we're not Paul

  1011. we're not the

  1012. Corinthian church

  1013. but just notice

  1014. a couple of things

  1015. notice first

  1016. how earnest

  1017. action

  1018. marks real

  1019. repentance

  1020. earnest action

  1021. marks real

  1022. repentance

  1023. if you are

  1024. really

  1025. godly

  1026. sorrowful

  1027. for your sin

  1028. you will seek

  1029. to do something

  1030. about it

  1031. not atoned

  1032. for your sin

  1033. because Christ

  1034. alone can do

  1035. that

  1036. but seeking

  1037. to put things

  1038. right

  1039. receiving forgiveness

  1040. and making

  1041. recompense

  1042. genuine repentance

  1043. does not try

  1044. and cover it up

  1045. does not try

  1046. to pretend

  1047. it didn't happen

  1048. or pretend

  1049. it didn't matter

  1050. you know

  1051. if we're serious

  1052. of repenting

  1053. of anger

  1054. or pride

  1055. or lust

  1056. or cold heartedness

  1057. towards the Lord

  1058. if you are genuinely

  1059. repentant for those

  1060. things

  1061. you will seriously

  1062. go about action

  1063. to do something

  1064. about it

  1065. and stop

  1066. you will be

  1067. earnest about it

  1068. it will be the most

  1069. serious thing

  1070. you are doing

  1071. if you are serious

  1072. of repenting

  1073. about relationship

  1074. fallout

  1075. of slander

  1076. or gossip

  1077. or tearing others

  1078. down

  1079. you will earnestly

  1080. seek to do something

  1081. about it

  1082. to put it right

  1083. to set the record

  1084. straight as far

  1085. as you are able

  1086. perhaps you can put it

  1087. the other way around

  1088. to make it clearer

  1089. if your sadness

  1090. at your sin

  1091. if my sadness

  1092. at my sin

  1093. causes me

  1094. to do nothing

  1095. other than try

  1096. and pretend

  1097. it's not there

  1098. I have not been

  1099. godly sorrowful

  1100. for my sin

  1101. I am worldly sorrowful

  1102. for my sin

  1103. and that leads

  1104. to rottenness

  1105. earnest action

  1106. means that

  1107. genuine repentance

  1108. is more

  1109. doesn't it

  1110. than just saying

  1111. sorry to God

  1112. oh how I would

  1113. love that

  1114. right

  1115. oh Steve

  1116. you were dismissive

  1117. and defensive

  1118. when I spoke to you

  1119. about my concerns

  1120. oh it's okay

  1121. I prayed to God

  1122. about that

  1123. it doesn't matter

  1124. anymore

  1125. it's not that

  1126. is it

  1127. we need

  1128. don't we

  1129. to be able

  1130. to say sorry

  1131. to one another

  1132. as well as the Lord

  1133. because it is

  1134. living out

  1135. sorry towards

  1136. the offended person

  1137. repentance

  1138. towards God

  1139. involves recompense

  1140. towards others

  1141. it wasn't possible

  1142. was it

  1143. for the Corinthian church

  1144. to say a private

  1145. sorry for a public

  1146. wrong

  1147. to Paul

  1148. they had to take

  1149. public action

  1150. they had to

  1151. remove the man

  1152. from the church

  1153. and in chapter 2

  1154. it seems as though

  1155. Paul is urging them

  1156. to bring him back

  1157. so they don't squash him

  1158. with unbearable sorrow

  1159. and then notice

  1160. so not only does it

  1161. require earnest action

  1162. really also

  1163. genuine repentance

  1164. is really only visible

  1165. over time

  1166. repentance here

  1167. is not just a quick

  1168. conversation with Paul

  1169. it took time

  1170. and so for us

  1171. the more serious

  1172. the sin

  1173. the more time

  1174. genuine repentance

  1175. takes

  1176. let me try and be

  1177. clear on this

  1178. if you

  1179. if you've been

  1180. unfaithful to your

  1181. husband or your wife

  1182. repentance is not

  1183. just saying sorry

  1184. once in a moment

  1185. it's not just one

  1186. tearful conversation

  1187. it might begin there

  1188. but it will involve

  1189. more than that

  1190. it will involve

  1191. a willingness

  1192. to be transparent

  1193. in the years to come

  1194. to share your messages

  1195. and show your phone

  1196. to receive the help

  1197. that you need from others

  1198. to work through the struggles

  1199. that's what genuine

  1200. repentance will involve

  1201. it takes time

  1202. but there's one more

  1203. mark of genuine repentance

  1204. I wonder whether you

  1205. noticed it

  1206. it's there in verse 10

  1207. which I'm going to read

  1208. to you again as we finish

  1209. godly sorrow brings

  1210. repentance

  1211. that leads to salvation

  1212. and leaves no regret

  1213. but worldly sorrow

  1214. brings death

  1215. here's the final mark

  1216. of genuine repentance

  1217. repentance

  1218. no regret

  1219. no regret

  1220. now it doesn't mean

  1221. I don't think

  1222. that we don't regret

  1223. the sin

  1224. that's not I think

  1225. the point here

  1226. it would genuinely

  1227. have been better

  1228. had the Corinthian church

  1229. not treated Paul

  1230. as it did

  1231. the regret here

  1232. modifies the repentance

  1233. so it's that genuine

  1234. repentance

  1235. never regrets

  1236. that it repented

  1237. you know

  1238. it never regrets

  1239. that it saw its sin

  1240. and was grieved by it

  1241. and then repented

  1242. in a way that's surprising

  1243. isn't it

  1244. surely you

  1245. you regret being sad

  1246. but why doesn't

  1247. genuine repentance

  1248. include regret

  1249. well because it receives

  1250. the blessing of forgiveness

  1251. which is more than

  1252. compensation for the sadness

  1253. you know

  1254. you wouldn't regret

  1255. taking the cure

  1256. for cancer

  1257. would you

  1258. if you had cancer

  1259. you would

  1260. delight in it

  1261. you would be grateful

  1262. for it

  1263. and so real repentance

  1264. walks through grief

  1265. and sadness

  1266. but arrives at joy

  1267. a joy that in verse 4

  1268. knows no bounds

  1269. as it brings salvation

  1270. that is better than sin

  1271. the reconciliation

  1272. was even better

  1273. let me try and finish

  1274. with a story

  1275. that will hopefully land

  1276. some of these thoughts

  1277. for us this morning

  1278. it's a true story

  1279. I share it because

  1280. it's been shared publicly

  1281. I don't know the person

  1282. involved

  1283. his name was Dave

  1284. and he was the pastor

  1285. of a church

  1286. until the point

  1287. at which his adultery

  1288. was uncovered

  1289. and he had to stand down

  1290. shortly after

  1291. standing down

  1292. as a pastor

  1293. Dave suffered a heart attack

  1294. and very nearly died

  1295. and he wrote this

  1296. a few weeks ago

  1297. on his substack

  1298. he wrote this

  1299. during my rebellious years

  1300. I both wanted to die

  1301. and was terrified

  1302. of dying in equal measure

  1303. I wanted a way of escape

  1304. a way out of the web

  1305. of deceit

  1306. that I had woven

  1307. and yet the thought

  1308. of standing before Jesus

  1309. without having come in clean

  1310. was terrifying

  1311. though I know

  1312. I would have been

  1313. welcomed home

  1314. at that time

  1315. because my salvation

  1316. doesn't depend

  1317. on the extensiveness

  1318. of my repentance

  1319. but on the sufficiency

  1320. of Jesus' life

  1321. death and resurrection

  1322. and reign to save me

  1323. however living

  1324. with a clean conscience

  1325. is nonetheless

  1326. liberating

  1327. as the ambulance

  1328. careered towards

  1329. the hospital

  1330. scattering cars

  1331. in all directions

  1332. my heart

  1333. was at peace

  1334. I did not feel

  1335. panicked

  1336. or frightened

  1337. I felt safe

  1338. because I was safe

  1339. my day could have

  1340. ended in heaven

  1341. in the ultimate sense

  1342. for me

  1343. that would have been

  1344. perfect

  1345. literally

  1346. that my friends

  1347. is the power

  1348. of godly grief

  1349. genuine repentance

  1350. that leads to clear

  1351. conscience living

  1352. before the Lord

  1353. before whom one day

  1354. we will stand

  1355. who alone

  1356. has a solution

  1357. for our sin

  1358. in Christ alone

  1359. so let's pray

  1360. that he would give us

  1361. that godly grief

  1362. let's just take a moment

  1363. of quiet

  1364. maybe

  1365. the spirit

  1366. in your own heart

  1367. is putting his finger

  1368. on something

  1369. maybe you want to talk

  1370. to the Lord

  1371. about that now

  1372. may may may

  1373. may

  1374. may

  1375. Thank you.

  1376. Heavenly Father, we are so, so prone to try and deal with our ongoing battle with sin, with anything other than repentance and faith in Jesus.

  1377. Even as Christians, we do that really stupid and dumb thing of just pretending that we're better than we really are because we're afraid you might not love us if you know what we're really like.

  1378. And it's stupid, Lord, because you know exactly what we're like.

  1379. And knowing what we're like, you love us and sent your son to die for us.

  1380. And so, Lord, we pray individually and corporately.

  1381. We want to have less of our sin and more of Jesus.

  1382. Please, we pray.

  1383. May you grow in us this godly grief at the ways in which we offend others and offend you.

  1384. That we might, through godly grief, repent and have more of Christ.

  1385. We pray, please, that you might grow us as Christians.

  1386. That we might be increasingly humble and willing to serve one another.

  1387. And increasingly persuaded of your glory and your goodness.

  1388. And so, Lord, we want to pray this morning for anybody who maybe hasn't even experienced the forgiveness of the Lord Jesus for the very first time.

  1389. How important that is, Lord.

  1390. And so, we pray that they might turn to you.

  1391. And we pray also maybe for an individual Christian who is holding on to something they shouldn't be.

  1392. Please, Lord, we pray this morning.

  1393. May you give them godly grief that they might turn in repentance and receive salvation and wholeness from the Lord Jesus.

  1394. In whose name we pray.

  1395. Amen.