Identity Theft #1 - I Am What I Do (Dr. Kurt Bjorklund)

A while back, I noticed that I received a few emails in the same week that just caught my attention.

And the first email was one that said, We're trying to deliver a package to your home, but your Amazon account is uh like not working entirely right.

Click here and follow the links to resolve this issue.

And I quickly thought, this is phishing, and so I just deleted the email.

And then just a little while later, I got another one, except this time it was a text message, and it said, your Netflix account is frozen, you must respond now, or you'll be locked out of your Netflix account.

And I started to have that moment where I thought, how could I live without Amazon and Netflix?

But again, I realized that was a little fishing expedition, and then I got another email, and this one said that I had a relative that I didn't know about that lived in another country who was worth millions of dollars, who had no other relatives, and if I would send my social security number, that they could deposit money into my account.

Now, you have probably known about these kinds of phishing schemes where people try to tease out your identity.

I had some other people ask me if I had requested that they get me gift cards.

And I just want you to know I'm never gonna ask you for gift cards, especially through mail or anything else, email uh that you don't know about.

And and what you know is that when somebody is fishing, they're trying to take your identity so they can steal from you.

And what I'd like to say today and over the next several weeks is that there's a kind of identity theft that is way more insidious than somebody stealing your financial information.

And what I'm talking about is the identity theft where your identity, your true sense of identity, is misdirected, stolen, and you live from a false sense of identity.

And this is an old game.

If you go back to the beginning of the Bible, Satan, the serpent, came to Adam and Eve, who were created in the image of God and said, You can be even more than God made you to be.

And today we're going to start a series.

We're going to look at how Jesus was tempted in the wilderness.

The story's told in Matthew 4, you heard it read, where Jesus was led into the wilderness.

And here's a picture of what the wilderness probably looks like.

And there's a time when Jesus goes and he spends 40 days here, led by the Spirit, and he's tempted in every way during this time.

But what we often don't think about is what comes before Matthew 4.

I'm full of deep insights today.

Do you know what comes before Matthew 4?

Matthew 3.

And in the last couple verses of Matthew 3, here's what we read.

Verse 16 and 17, it says, As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water.

At that moment, heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on him.

And a voice from heaven said, This is my son with whom I love, whom I love, with him I am well pleased.

And so Jesus, before he's tempted, is affirmed as the Son of God, the love son of God who is well pleased.

And then he's led into the wilderness, and we're told that he's tempted or tested.

And in Matthew chapter 4, verses 1 through 4, we see the first of these temptations.

Matthew 4:1–4

And what we're going to do over these weeks is we're going to talk about uh the temptations that Jesus faced.

I am what I do, I am what other people think, and I am what I have.

And today we're going to look at this: I am what I do.

And the word for tested or tempted is a word that can be translated either way because usually our tests are our trials or our temptations, and our temptations are our tests.

That can be translated both ways.

And then he says, verse one, that the devil and the tempter, verse three, and Satan, verse 10.

So we have all of these different phrases for this enemy, and devil is a word that means the accuser.

One of the ways that our adversary wants to attack us is to accuse us, to say, you're not worth much.

Or how dare you think that you could come to Jesus?

The tempter, it means exactly what it sounds like, one who tempts, and Satan means one who is our adversary, our opponent.

And sometimes in our day and age, people maybe are uncomfortable with this kind of spiritual language, but spiritual warfare is a real thing.

Spiritual warfare is where there is an adversary, a tempter, and an accuser who wants to destroy you.

And sometimes what we tend to do is we tend to think of spiritual warfare on the grand scales, and that kind of thing exists.

But what you'll notice here is Satan's temptation of Jesus was much more mundane than dramatic.

And sometimes just because something's mundane doesn't mean that it's not as destructive.

I heard about a man who set out to walk across the country.

And as he began walking, he ended up quitting.

But he said that what did him in wasn't the mountains, it wasn't the heat, it wasn't the storms.

It was sand in his shoes.

It was something very mundane.

And what you have here is you have Satan showing that his hand is often for the more mundane ways to steal our identity than something grand.

And you may think, again, I'm making too much of this, but again, notice the devil, tempter, Satan used all three titles right here.

There's an old song that a Christian writer wrote years ago from Satan's Perspective, talking about how he used to be shunned in a sense or shut out, but now people just open their door and let him in because no one believes in him anymore.

Andrew DeBlanco writes about this in his book, The Death of Satan.

Here's what he says: we live in the most brutal century in human history.

But instead of stepping forward to take the credit, the devil has rendered himself invisible.

The very notion of evil seems incompatible with modern life, from which the ideas of transgression and the accountable self are fast receding.

Yet despite this loss of old words and moral concepts like Satan and sin and evil, we cannot do without some conceptual means of thinking about the universal human experience of cruelty and pain.

My driving motive in writing this book has been the conviction that if evil, with all of its insidious complexity, escapes the reach of our imagination, it will have established dominion over us all.

And what he's saying is this, and that is, when you and I don't conceptualize that there's a real adversary that is attempting to wreak havoc in our world, we won't have categories or words or vocabulary for things like evil or sin or destruction.

And when we come across things that are actually destructive, we'll instead of responding to them, try to explain them away.

And as he says, they'll have dominion over us.

So today we're going to just talk about I am what I do.

And the way that this temptation comes about, if it's the first of these three temptations, is Satan comes, and when Jesus had been fasting for 40 days and 40 nights, he says this, verse three if you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread.

So you could basically say what he's doing is he's saying, Really, if you're God, if you're the Son of God, if you're this beloved son, do something relevant, something productive, something that has meaning.

Do something that matters.

Don't just tell us you're the son of God.

Make bread.

Notice how Jesus responds.

Verse 4, he says, It is written, man shall not live by bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.

And he quotes Deuteronomy 8 here.

And in each time that Jesus is tempted, he responds with the phrase, It is written and Scripture.

And what this means, at least in part, is that knowing Scripture and understanding Scripture and applying it to our lives and being able to even recall it is one of the best defense against the schemes of the adversary.

And here Jesus says that we don't live by bread alone, but by the words of God.

And I believe that what we can see in this is that he was pushing back on this idea that he had to produce in order to have a significant identity.

Now, some of us understand this intuitively.

We're driven.

We have jobs, we have careers, and we've allowed our career to define us.

Some of us will say, Well, I've never let my career define me, I've always been about something else.

But sometimes our productive addictions can show up in places that aren't our careers.

We can do it in our homes.

We can do it with being a parent and being a good parent or being a husband or a wife or a productive member of society, and we can say, This is where I gain my sense of value, my sense of worth, because I produce.

And certainly there's a calling in Scripture to value work and to see being productive as being a good steward of our gifts and our talents.

But what can happen is when we take a good thing and we make it an ultimate thing and we let it define us as it becomes an idol, it becomes a god for us in a sense, where we start to say, my sense of well-being, my sense of definition is because I'm productive.

And what I'd like to do is just point out three characters in the Old Testament who at different points of their lives allowed their definition to come from what they did.

And in doing that, I think what we can see is that an identity based on what we do can lead to three problematic tendencies in our lives.

It can lead to a compulsive tendency, a narcissistic tendency, and to a paranoid tendency.

So, first, this idea of a compulsive tendency.

In Exodus, we learn about Moses.

Moses led the people of Egypt out of Egypt.

And there were probably about two million Egyptians wandering through the wilderness, and we're told that Moses was trying to adjudicate all of their differences, act as a judge.

In other words, there were almost two million people trying to get on his docket.

And his father-in-law comes to him, Jethro, and Jethro says this don't you hate when your father-in-law comes to you and says something, and he's right?

All right, maybe he didn't, but here's what he says.

He says, What are you, what you are doing is not good.

This is verse 17 of Exodus 18 and 18.

He says, You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out.

The work's too heavy for you.

You cannot handle it alone.

Verse 22, have them serve as judges for the people at all times, but have them bring the difficult cases for you to handle.

This will make your load lighter because they will share it with you.

And so Jethro comes to Moses and he says, basically, you're trying to do too much.

Now we don't know what was going on in the psychology of Moses, but what it tends to be, if he was compulsive, in the sense that he said, I have to keep performing.

I'm the one who got these people out of Israel, came out here, now I need to take care of it all.

And if you ever find yourself in a place where you're trying to take care of everything and it becomes too heavy, chances are that you have taken on more responsibility than perhaps God intended you to have.

And this manifests itself with the simple phrase, we're working too much.

We simply just find ourselves working too much.

There's a pastor who's well known, whose dad was also a pastor who's well known, and he has famously said that he watched his dad work at the things of the church way too much in his childhood.

And he said, as I decided to enter into pastoral work as well, he said, I decided to cap my work at 45 hours because I figured God could build a church on my 45 hours just as well as he could on my 60 hours.

Now, I'm not suggesting that everyone cap their work at 45 hours, but the mindset says, I'm not going to be defined by everything that I do.

I'm defined by something else.

Therefore, if it doesn't happen, it's okay.

But what happens when we become compulsive is we say, I have to have certain things be true.

And if they're not true, then my life doesn't have a lot of relevance.

And so we start to define ourselves and we start to work all the time in order to say, this is how I have value.

We've just had this week of kids' fests, and sometimes we do this with our kids.

We project onto our kids this need to achieve, and we say, unless you get into the travel lacrosse team at age three, you're never gonna be a killer lacrosse player.

You know, unless you get into the to the great school, your life is doomed, and that's their preschool that we're targeting.

And so what we'll sometimes do is we'll is we'll create this sense of I must, and you must do whatever it takes.

Instead of saying, I'm defined by something more.

So that's one example, one uh uh compulsion, uh the compulsive tendency.

Here's a second, and I'm just going to say this is a narcissistic tendency.

And I think we see this in the Old Testament character of Solomon.

Solomon was the king of Israel, and he built a lot of stuff, and he became wealthy, and he didn't deny himself any pleasure.

Ecclesiastes chapter 2, verse 9 and following says this I became greater by far than anyone in Jerusalem before me.

Ecclesiastes 2:9

In all this, my wisdom stayed with me.

So he says, Compared to everybody before me, I'm the best, and I still have all my wisdom.

Then he says, This I denied myself nothing that my eyes desired.

I refused my heart no pleasure, my heart took delight in all my labor.

And there's this was the reward for all of my toils.

So here's what he's saying, in essence.

He's saying, I have all this stuff, I'm greater than anyone before me, and I do whatever I want.

Now, sometimes we tend to define narcissism as somebody who's who's overly self-focused, and that's true, and there's a clinical kind of narcissism that can be very destructive in homes and in communities.

What I'm talking about here is not the clinical narcissism, I'm talking about somebody who projects too much.

And when I say projects too much, what I mean is that we project our image and our sense of significance into the things that we do.

For Solomon, it was, I've built everything, I'm greater than anybody else.

I have more wealth than anybody, I have more pleasure than anybody.

And Solomon was actually not just amassing stuff.

In Deuteronomy 17, there's some instructions for the king of Israel.

Here's what we read.

This is Deuteronomy 17, verse 16.

Deuteronomy 17:16

Says, the king, moreover, must not acquire great numbers of horses for himself, or make the people return to Egypt to get more of them.

For the Lord God has told you, you are not to go back that way again.

Verse 17.

He must not take many wives, or his heart will be led astray.

He must not accumulate large amounts of silver and gold.

And what Solomon did is he said, acquiring helps me feel good, at least in part about me.

I'm greater than everybody else.

And if we're defined by what we do, it's hard not to compare.

And it's hard not to say, I have value because of this.

C.S.

Lewis wrote about this one time.

And here's what he said.

He said, Now what I want you to get clear is that pride is essentially competitive.

It's competitive by its very nature.

Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man.

We say we're proud of being rich or clever or good looking, but we are not.

We are proud of being richer or cleverer or better looking than others.

You see, a narcissistic tendency will cause you to look sideways in every instance and say, I have value because of how I compare.

And people do this in all kinds of arenas, not just in their careers, but in terms of saying, well, you know, compared to other people my age, I produce more, I'm more fit, or I have gotten farther, or my kids are, and then we fill in our blank with whatever it is, and as if to say, somehow this gives me value.

But what we need to see is that if we're defined by what we do, we will have some of these narcissistic tendencies.

So there's compulsive tendencies, there's narcissistic tendencies, and then I'm going to say there's paranoid tendencies.

And I see this in King Saul again in the Old Testament.

Saul was the king before Solomon, and he had a son, David, who had a son Solomon, and that was the succession of kings.

But Saul, or he didn't have a son, David, but David came.

Saul had David coming to be king because he was anointed.

And here's what he says at one point: verse 7 of 1 Samuel 18.

Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands.

Saul was very angry.

This refrain displeased him.

They have credited David with his tens of thousands, he thought, but me with only thousands.

What more can he get but the kingdom?

And what he was re revealing here was his paranoia and the tendency when we're paranoid because we're defining our success or ourselves on what we do, is to worry too much.

Because we start to say, well, if this doesn't work out, or if this doesn't happen, if this doesn't come true, then I'm not fill in your blank again.

I'm not valuable, I'm not significant.

There's a scene in the old movie, Chariots of Fire, where the story's told about the two Olympic runners.

And Eric Lydell is usually the one that we think about if you've seen the movie, who chose not to run on Sundays because he wanted to honor the idea of Sabbath.

But the other runner in the account, at one point, says to Eric Lydell about his running.

He says, When I run, I have 10 seconds to justify my existence.

And in a sense, if you're an Olympic athlete, that's kind of true.

Because you spent four years working for this moment, this race, and you're saying everything I've spent four years or longer, and people have poured into me is has to be justified by my performance in this moment.

But think about how often we project that into other areas of our lives.

I have to justify my existence with my production, with my achievement, with what it is that I do, with how I live my life.

And so the paranoid tendency tends to worry about what happens if we don't perform, if we can't continue, if we don't do enough.

Now, as I said, Jesus was defined, not by what he did, but with this phrase in verse 17 of Matthew 3.

This is my son whom I love.

With him I am well pleased.

In the Bible, Jesus is presented not just as a savior, but also as an older brother.

In Hebrews chapter 2, verse 9, we get this idea.

Hebrews 2:9

It says this, actually, Hebrews 2, 11, it says this, but the one who makes people holy and those who are made holy are of the same family.

Jesus is not ashamed to call them brothers and sisters.

And then in Romans chapter 8, we also have this idea.

Romans 8 · chapter mention

This is in verse 29.

It says this.

In the same way, the Spirit, actually verse 29, says, for those whom God foreknew, he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.

So why does the Bible call Jesus an older brother?

Because, in a sense, some of us have had older siblings who weren't very helpful in our lives, but I think the idea is that as an older brother, he went before us, and by going before us, we get the same privileges that he gets.

So when he's called the beloved son of God, in whom God is well pleased, by relationship to him, we are also those children of God.

Meaning, if you've come to a point where you've said, I trust Jesus Christ as my Savior, I acknowledge my sin, my need for Jesus to be my Savior, then you have also come to a point where you can say, I am loved by God, I am God's beloved son.

Now, what's true about a child?

And I'm not thinking like an adult child, even a teenage child, I'm thinking a little child.

If you have a little child, a baby in your house, what you don't do is you don't say, Oh, you know, I've been taking care of you, getting up at night, feeding you, providing for you, I've been doing all this stuff.

When are you gonna pull your own weight?

I mean, you just don't do that with a with a little child.

Now, you might with a teenager at some point, or an adult child, but but with a with a with a little child, you don't do that.

You take delight in the child.

You love the child.

You're you're enamored with the child being in your house.

And yet what we often tend to do, want to do, is say, but I have to earn, I have to perform.

And what we even do spiritually sometimes is we say, maybe the world's definition of my performance doesn't matter, but I still need to perform for God rather than living from this identity as a loved child with whom God is well pleased.

How do you think it would change how you lived if you knew that you were seen by the God of the universe as his beloved son, his beloved daughter, and he was well pleased with you?

Brennan Manning writes about this, and here's what he says: He says, God loves you unconditionally, as you are, not as you should be.

Because none of us are as we should be.

Brennan Manning says in another place, he says, define yourself radically as one beloved by God.

This is the true self.

Every other identity is an illusion.

God's love for you and his choice of you constitutes your worth.

And what that means is that if you and I understand that our true sense of self comes from how God sees us, then when we perform, we don't perform with the compulsive, narcissistic and paranoid tendencies that can be destructive.

You see, defining ourselves by what we do is like sand in the shoes.

It may not seem like that big of a deal, but at some point it will become destructive to our very being because we won't be able to continue to perform all the days of our lives.

You may think, well, that's somebody else's issue.

I can.

But the truth is, all of us age, all of us hit a point where we can't perform anymore.

And we may be able to say, well, I looked back and I did enough.

But that is still an insecure identity compared to saying, I'm loved by God.

Yeah, I mentioned earlier the movie Chariots of Fire and the concept of Sabbath.

Sometimes what people in church have done with Sabbath is they've turned it into this idea that says, you take one hour and go to church on Sunday, and that's the idea of Sabbath, and then you use Sunday to do what you do the rest of the week.

But what if the idea of Sabbath, this is one of the Ten Commandments, by the way.

What if the idea of Sabbath was a gift from God to say, I want you to stop working for a day a week so that you don't use that day to accomplish what you use all the other days to remind yourself that you are more than what you produce?

Again, remember, it isn't just your job.

You may take off your work, but then still use a day to say I'm producing everything I couldn't do during the week because I had too much to do.

But what if you just said, this is a gift from God to say, I'm stopping the idea of production for a day?

What if you lived with a daily end line, with a weekly finish line where you could say, at the end of a day, here's where I stop, at the end of a week, here's where I stop because I want to remind myself that it isn't about what I produce?

What if you had an annual finish line where you said, at this point of the year, I know I've done enough?

But when we live with the compulsive, narcissistic and paranoid tendencies of an identity that's formed by what we do, we don't feel like it's ever enough, like we can ever stop.

And it's almost like Jesus is saying, Here's an invitation.

Now, I wish I could tell you today that I had three simple steps to live as a loved child, because my guess is there's many of us who say, I kind of know this, but I can't help myself.

Okay.

I like to produce.

I like to produce in whatever area of my life.

And so I wish I could just say, here's the simple three steps to do this.

But I think if you come back to the text, we see the real answer.

Jesus said it is written, and then he quotes Deuteronomy 8, and what does he say?

Man shall not live by bread alone, but by what?

Every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.

Where do I get my identity?

Where can you get your identity?

Only by letting the scripture so permeate our psyche that we say, my truest sense of self is as a loved child of God, not with what I do.

And without that, what will happen, without that reminder, without that sense of letting God's word work in you or me, we will find ourselves being compulsive, narcissistic, and paranoid all the time.

But the invitation of God is to say, you can live as a loved child.

Which way would you rather live?

Yeah, I don't know how big of a temptation this is for you.

But I would guess just from conversations I have with people all the time, and living in the society in which we live, that it's really hard not to want to be defined by what we produce, by what we achieve, and by what we accomplish.

But there's a better way, and it's the way of Jesus.

You pray with me.

Just before we pray, I just want to say this.

If you're here today and you've always thought that Christianity was about performing for God.

But the story of Christianity, the message of Christianity is really that Jesus has performed for you, and that he invites you to be a loved child.

And you can enter that by just simply acknowledging your sin before God and your need for a savior.

And if today you're here and you're saying, well, I've believed that, but I still find myself being drawn to define myself by what I do, maybe today is just your day to say, God, I'm going to sit in your word enough to be defined by what you say about me.

I'm going to have an end line, a finish line, and intentionally be non-productive for a while each week.

So that I can remind myself that it isn't about what I do, but about how you love me.

God, I pray that we wouldn't be drawn into our adversary's fishing scheme and find ourselves wanting to define who we are by what we do, but we would be able to define ourselves by what you've said about who we are and what our real worth and value is.

And we pray this in Jesus' name.

Amen.

Thanks for being here.

Have a great week.